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Episode #155 "Don't Waste A Heartbeat" w/Rachel McCord · Kickin’ It With KeKe: Life, Love, & MINDSET

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Kicking In with Kiki. Kicking it be Ki Ki,
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  Speaker 1: kicking it the ki Ki for a little personality, switching
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  Speaker 1: up the storyline on God we making in story and
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  Speaker 1: hooks changing fas one day at the time. How much
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  Speaker 1: problems to the side, enjoy yourself, free your mind, chickin
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  Speaker 1: it we Ki Ki.
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  Speaker 2: Hello and welcome to another episode of Kicking It with
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  Speaker 2: Kiki and life, love and all that other ship. I
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  Speaker 2: am your host, Kiki Chanel. Today we are with a
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  Speaker 2: special guest. But you guys know how I like to do.
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  Speaker 2: I like to give my guests the opportunity to introduce themselves.
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  Speaker 2: So I am going to turn it over to Rachel. Rachel,
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  Speaker 2: thank you for coming to kick it with me.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Kiki. I'm so honored to be on your show. And
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  Speaker 4: Hi everybody out there in the world. I'll I'll do
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  Speaker 4: a little intro. Let me try, Let me try to
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  Speaker 4: do as good as I know you would do. Girl, Okay,
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  Speaker 4: I know you on this.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm a girl.
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  Speaker 4: I'm a I'm a girl from trailer parks in Georgia
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  Speaker 4: who moved to the Big LA and started working in entertainment,
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  Speaker 4: started a company, did all the things and was kind
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  Speaker 4: of climbing the accolade ladder trying to prove that I
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  Speaker 4: was worthy of love.
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  Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure. And then one day found out I
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  Speaker 3: needed to.
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  Speaker 4: Undergo open heart surgery and everything in my life changed.
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  Speaker 4: And now I've kind of looked at this past life
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  Speaker 4: and this also sort of current life, where I do
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  Speaker 4: a lot of media.
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  Speaker 3: I produce twenty different shows.
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  Speaker 4: I have my own media network, and you know, we
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  Speaker 4: put shows out into the world and really cool platforms.
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  Speaker 4: But you know, it's really for me. Life is about
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  Speaker 4: doing what you're here for and not backing down, not
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  Speaker 4: letting fear scare you off.
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  Speaker 3: And so that's just.
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  Speaker 4: Me a mama and a hard work in mama.
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  Speaker 2: There you go, Well, I'm grateful for you to be
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  Speaker 2: here because we just talked about your little one a
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  Speaker 2: little bit and you have a lot age five. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you moving around a lot.
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  Speaker 4: I am moving around a lot. But it's so fun.
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  Speaker 4: You know, life is so special and it's such a gift.
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  Speaker 4: And I think when you kind of face the challenge
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  Speaker 4: of am I going to get through this?
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  Speaker 3: Am I going to make it?
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  Speaker 4: You can find yourself in a totally different shift. And
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  Speaker 4: so I think that that shift of my open heart
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  Speaker 4: surgery was really necessary, but it wasn't easy.
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  Speaker 2: Right, absolutely, So that brings us to our topic, starving
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  Speaker 2: fear feeding Faith. That's what we're going to talk about today.
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  Speaker 2: So when you hear the topic starving fear feeding faith,
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  Speaker 2: what's the first thing that comes to mind?
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  Speaker 3: Well, to be honest, that is part two of my book.
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  Speaker 4: That is really I just wrote a book called You
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  Speaker 4: Can't Heal Your Life, But I know a guy and
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  Speaker 4: we broke it down into three parts.
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  Speaker 3: And part one is getting.
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  Speaker 4: Real and raw about your life, just really looking within
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  Speaker 4: and asking yourself like what's working, what's not working, and why.
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  Speaker 3: It's that conversation to be.
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  Speaker 4: Aware of where we're contributing to problems, where maybe our
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  Speaker 4: environment or the people around us are contributing what we
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  Speaker 4: can do about it. And my second part is literally
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  Speaker 4: star fear, feed faith. And then yeah, that's literally the vie.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And then the third part is do what you're here for.
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  Speaker 4: And I think that things have to go in that
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  Speaker 4: direction to really get to that place of finding what
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  Speaker 4: you're actually here on this planet for.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I got goosebumps now because I did not know
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  Speaker 2: that we didn't talk about that guys before the show.
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  Speaker 2: This is we were meeting each other for the first time.
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  Speaker 2: Right now in the space, let's just get into it.
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  Speaker 2: You often say get real. What does that truly mean
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  Speaker 2: in the world that awards performance over uthenticity, especially in media.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I think that's such a great question, a great
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  Speaker 4: way to start. I think, you know, there's so many
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  Speaker 4: different layers of get real, right. The first one is
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  Speaker 4: get real in your personal life, because I think that
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  Speaker 4: so many of us try to go out and achieve
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  Speaker 4: and achieve and achieve, but we forget about all the
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  Speaker 4: bullet points that happen right before that achievement.
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  Speaker 3: And what I mean by that is, let's say that.
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  Speaker 4: You're rushing out because you have a big presentation to
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  Speaker 4: do at work, but you don't feel like you have
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  Speaker 4: the time to sit for five minutes and cuddle with
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  Speaker 4: the little people in your life or maybe the spouse
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  Speaker 4: or partner or friend. And then you find yourself, you know,
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  Speaker 4: getting oh, I didn't eat healthy, I didn't get going.
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  Speaker 4: You just kind of keep going every day all the ways, right,
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  Speaker 4: So you're going through those bullet points and maybe you're
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  Speaker 4: ignoring along the way your spiritual journey because I think
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  Speaker 4: a lot of us demand a lot of ourselves and
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  Speaker 4: our bodies in a physical world. I need you to
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  Speaker 4: show up, brain, I need you to rock this presentation. Body,
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  Speaker 4: don't you fail me. Now we're on the last five
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  Speaker 4: k We're doing we got this right. You're doing all
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  Speaker 4: these things, and we forget of the spiritual experience, the stuff.
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  Speaker 3: That a lot of times we have.
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  Speaker 4: To heal from, our kids have to heal from as
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  Speaker 4: they grow up. Like all that stuff is actually, in
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  Speaker 4: my opinion, really rooted in your spiritual experience. And so
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  Speaker 4: I think that the bullet points, the little heart beats
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  Speaker 4: in between finding your way to that big presentation that
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  Speaker 4: you feel like everything is hanging on, are the things
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  Speaker 4: that matter the most?
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely so, before the platform and before all its titles.
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  Speaker 2: Who is just Rachel?
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  Speaker 3: That's so sweet?
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 4: I took a long time trying to figure that out. Honestly,
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  Speaker 4: it took me a long time to find her. She
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  Speaker 4: was very buried. She was buried under trauma, under major depressions,
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  Speaker 4: suicidal ideations, fear, crippling fear, and panic attacks. I was
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  Speaker 4: always the girl who pushes through no matter what, and
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  Speaker 4: what I have been learning in these last few months
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  Speaker 4: and few years is how to put my hand up
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  Speaker 4: when something's too big for me. Because I'm the first
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  Speaker 4: girl who's going to volunteer, the last one who's going
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  Speaker 4: to think about her experiences and whether or not she
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  Speaker 4: has what it takes.
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  Speaker 3: And I think it's.
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  Speaker 4: Very important for all of us to take a beat
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  Speaker 4: and just be real about what our limitations are and
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  Speaker 4: to accept the fact that we don't need to be perfect.
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  Speaker 4: You know. My joke is that I'm I started a
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  Speaker 4: faith based apparel brand called Holy Spirit Vibe after my
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  Speaker 4: heart surgery, and I literally tell people, I'm like, you
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  Speaker 4: either see me where I'm on this talk show and
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  Speaker 4: I'm producing all these shows. You see me like all
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  Speaker 4: done up, or I'm in total sweats and you're like that,
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  Speaker 4: there's no way that's Rachel, because she's like, you know,
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  Speaker 4: it's so fun. I think in this season of my life,
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  Speaker 4: I'm learning to just embrace all of those sides on
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  Speaker 4: those platforms.
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  Speaker 3: Right you ask who I am.
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  Speaker 4: Underneath, I started leading a group of people and I
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  Speaker 4: post all the videos on social to read the entire
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  Speaker 4: Bible in ninety days.
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  Speaker 3: And it has been just so much fun.
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  Speaker 4: But the process for me has been Rachel like, you
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  Speaker 4: were not gonna do makeup ninety.
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  Speaker 3: Days in a row. Let's be honest, girl, you were
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  Speaker 3: not gonna have it.
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  Speaker 4: Like most times I post a video, I'm like, I
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  Speaker 4: did not even brush my hair, like you know. But honestly,
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  Speaker 4: I think my mom is still proud, and that's really
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  Speaker 4: the biggest concern I think any of.
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  Speaker 3: Us would have, right.
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  Speaker 4: But I think I've gotten to this place where I'm
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  Speaker 4: just like, you know, this is me like twenty four
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  Speaker 4: to seven, like you know, and when I'm falling apart,
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  Speaker 4: when I'm feeling insecure and scared, I'm in that place
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  Speaker 4: where I'm like.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, well, I'm gonna go back to the basics.
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  Speaker 4: I'm gonna get low, I'm gonna pray, I'm gonna put
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  Speaker 4: on my favorite Brandon Lake song. I'm going to belt
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  Speaker 4: it from the bottom of my belly and just realize
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  Speaker 4: that no matter what we face in this life actually
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  Speaker 4: called to so much more. And I think that not
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  Speaker 4: knowing that keeps us stuck, and then we stay stuck,
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  Speaker 4: and then we get discouraged because we're stuck, and then
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  Speaker 4: we start to feel the imposter syndrome, the self doubt
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  Speaker 4: the insecurity and then we're like, Okay, I don't even
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  Speaker 4: want to move, and I'm the girl who's like, honey,
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  Speaker 4: you are going to move, and I'm going to hold
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  Speaker 4: you every step of the way.
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  Speaker 2: I love it. I love it. I love it. What
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  Speaker 2: fears have you personally had to starve in order to
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  Speaker 2: step fully into your purpose?
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  Speaker 4: Well, that's a good question. So many it is. The
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  Speaker 4: short answer. I would say number one has been the
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  Speaker 4: perfectionism really held me back.
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  Speaker 3: And in my do what.
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  Speaker 4: You're here for and star fear feed faith parts of
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  Speaker 4: my book, I talk a lot about how done is
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  Speaker 4: better than perfect, like we just need to commit to
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  Speaker 4: done right. It's more important for me think about these
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  Speaker 4: videos I just share with you, to post that video
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  Speaker 4: that one person might hear and get impacted for him,
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  Speaker 4: ninety nine thousand other people can laugh at me and
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  Speaker 4: say I look ugly and oh my goodness, what is
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  Speaker 4: she doing. But if there's one human being out there
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  Speaker 4: who hears that message and whose life is impacted, let's
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  Speaker 4: really double click on that. Let's think about that person's children,
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  Speaker 4: Let's think about the relationship with their spouse. Let's think
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  Speaker 4: about how things could change if something that's said something
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  Speaker 4: that you have to say with your platform actually save
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  Speaker 4: someone's marriage. How that can impact the children to grow
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  Speaker 4: up in a home where they have both parents there.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, in today's world, that is more than a luxury.
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  Speaker 4: That is like, you know, you're clinging with broken nails
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  Speaker 4: and a broken heart and bloody fingers right, like you
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  Speaker 4: gotta keep it together, right, that's really and many people
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  Speaker 4: don't have that unbelievable luxury. Many My mom was a
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  Speaker 4: single mom working so hard, like at a sweet little barbershop,
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  Speaker 4: trying to provide for me and her. Once my dad
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  Speaker 4: and my sisters moved away and we were living in
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  Speaker 4: a trailer park, and then another one and another one.
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  Speaker 4: You know, it's like the things that you go through
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  Speaker 4: in this life, the loss, the heartbreak, the devastation, the rejection,
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  Speaker 4: the depression, like they are not tiny things. And if
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  Speaker 4: you look at statistics on mental health and schools and
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  Speaker 4: bullying and all these things, you have to really ask yourself,
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  Speaker 4: are we a society a little sick? And if we're sick,
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  Speaker 4: then what do we need? And personally, I believe we
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  Speaker 4: need a savior. That's why I wrote a book that
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  Speaker 4: said you can't heal your life. But I know a
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  Speaker 4: guy because I don't think.
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  Speaker 2: I mean.
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  Speaker 4: I've spent hundreds of thousands of dollars in therapy, I've
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  Speaker 4: read over a thousand self help books. I've checked myself
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  Speaker 4: in a treatment my first year of marriage to my
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  Speaker 4: husband for thirty days, trying to get better, trying to
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  Speaker 4: heal all these things right, a million things.
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  Speaker 3: But the truth of all of it is that.
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  Speaker 4: I'm actually on a journey right now where I'm realizing
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  Speaker 4: I couldn't heal myself. I couldn't heal my literal broken heart.
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  Speaker 4: I couldn't operate on myself. My heartbeat stopped for five
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  Speaker 4: hours for a surgery that one in five people do
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  Speaker 4: not survive.
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  Speaker 3: I couldn't do that for myself. But I do know.
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  Speaker 4: I do know a guy who loves you more than
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  Speaker 4: you could possibly imagine, and who thought of you before
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  Speaker 4: he laid the foundation of the world, and who fearfully
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  Speaker 4: and wonderfully made you, and who has a call and
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  Speaker 4: purpose on your life.
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  Speaker 3: And does not make mistakes.
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  Speaker 4: And he did not start with you, and he's not
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  Speaker 4: gonna start with your little you or your littles. He
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  Speaker 4: is in your story, and he wants to be more
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  Speaker 4: in it. No matter how your story, he is guaranteed
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  Speaker 4: he wants more.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely listen. And I love the fact that you are
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  Speaker 2: a woman of faith because so many people turn away
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  Speaker 2: from it because of their being afraid of what social
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  Speaker 2: media are not getting the likes, the clicks or whatever.
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  Speaker 2: And I tell people all the time, I love God.
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  Speaker 2: He loves me. I talk about God on my podcast
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  Speaker 2: and every platform that I have because He has been
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  Speaker 2: too good, not too Yes. Yeah. And I think that
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  Speaker 2: it's very important to have a spiritual relationship because that
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  Speaker 2: right there helps when the adversity comes, or when you
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  Speaker 2: feel like you're not enough, or that imposter syndrome that
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  Speaker 2: you talked about come into play, or even when you're
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  Speaker 2: going through a season. In relationships, that's hard if you
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  Speaker 2: don't have a spiritual relationship. I have a relationship with God.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all can have whatever type of relationship with whoever you
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  Speaker 2: decide to do, but it is important to have something
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  Speaker 2: to lean on, to stand on to get you through it.
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  Speaker 2: And prayer is my go to girl.
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  Speaker 3: Literally. You know, it's so interesting.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like you can find so much peace in
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  Speaker 4: your life when you just open up your heart, close
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  Speaker 4: your eyes, put your hands together and just say God,
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  Speaker 4: please help, Like you know, it's I think that the
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  Speaker 4: problem when we don't pray is that we feel like
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  Speaker 4: it's all up to us. And I'm going to tell
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  Speaker 4: you it is way too much pressure. It's way too
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  Speaker 4: much pressure for me to parent without prayer. It's way
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  Speaker 4: too much pressure for me to produce twenty different TV
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  Speaker 4: shows my own included, without prayer. I mean, I find
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  Speaker 4: my life and shambles all the time, and I got
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  Speaker 4: to pray myself through it, right, Like, I think that
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  Speaker 4: when you're constantly in this zone of your life where
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  Speaker 4: you're wanting to do more and achieve more, but you're
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  Speaker 4: not remembering that the most important thing that any of
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  Speaker 4: us can ever do is to really do what we're
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  Speaker 4: here for, what we're called to. There's a really sweet
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  Speaker 4: verse in the Bible where Yeshuah Jesus says, I like
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  Speaker 4: calling him in Yeshua because that it's like his Hebrew name.
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  Speaker 3: You know, his mama would have caught him. He says,
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  Speaker 3: I only do what the Father says. And I think
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  Speaker 3: that that's really the liberating thing.
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  Speaker 4: There are so many devastating things that are happening in
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  Speaker 4: the world, but what is the father telling you to
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  Speaker 4: do There are so many dreams, there are so many opportunities.
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  Speaker 4: Your best friend down the hall who just started that company,
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  Speaker 4: and you're like, I could have done that.
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  Speaker 3: But is it what the father is saying to do?
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  Speaker 3: Is the father inviting.
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  Speaker 4: You to be happy and be content and feel the
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  Speaker 4: peace that passes understanding wherever you are, No matter what,
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  Speaker 4: I believe he absolutely is.
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  Speaker 3: And I think that we have put so.
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  Speaker 4: Much pressure on ourselves, on our families, on having all
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  Speaker 4: these things that honestly don't matter at all. Like I
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  Speaker 4: am so done with collecting things that collect us. I'm
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  Speaker 4: done with it, girl, I am storing up in my eternity.
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  Speaker 4: I was banging on that door on March fourteenth when
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  Speaker 4: I was having my surgery. I was like, I don't know,
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  Speaker 4: I might be coming for you real quick, Lord, I
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  Speaker 4: might be get there, you know.
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  Speaker 3: But he had another plan.
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  Speaker 4: And I opened my eyes from that surgery and I
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  Speaker 4: thought I survived, Thank you Jesus, and get this thing
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  Speaker 4: out of my throat.
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  Speaker 3: And then when I got back into life, I literally.
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  Speaker 4: Was like, you know what, I don't want to be
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  Speaker 4: the same Rachel. I don't want to be the same girl.
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  Speaker 3: Poll who struggles to please everybody and.
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  Speaker 4: Their mama, and it's like it's too much, it's too much.
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  Speaker 4: If I just keep my eyes above, my elevation is higher,
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  Speaker 4: my thinking is higher, His ways are higher than mine.
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  Speaker 3: I'm literally able to be like, Okay, why am I afraid?
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  Speaker 3: Why am I worried about what could be? When I
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  Speaker 3: know who he is.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know what tomorrow holds, but I know who
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  Speaker 4: holds tomorrow, and I'm willing to take that to the bank.
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  Speaker 4: I'm willing to give my everything for that belief that
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  Speaker 4: I'm good no matter what comes at me.
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  Speaker 3: And a lot comes at me.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, Yeah, yeah, And that's called life. Life. We always
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  Speaker 2: get curveballs, and when you know whose you are and
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  Speaker 2: where your help comes from, it does make things so
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  Speaker 2: much easier. The things that used to get onto your
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  Speaker 2: skin don't matter anymore, you know, the things that used
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  Speaker 2: to get you out of character don't matter anymore. I
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  Speaker 2: know for me going through a healing journey, and I
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  Speaker 2: know it's nothing compared to have an open heart surgery,
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  Speaker 2: But when you are wanting better for yourself, that faith
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  Speaker 2: takes the forefront and it helps you get through the
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  Speaker 2: times that adversity comes because we all go have adversity.
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  Speaker 2: It's a part of life, that's it.
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  Speaker 4: But I want to tell you your journey is just
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  Speaker 4: as huge because the thing that we feel I think
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  Speaker 4: sometimes and this I don't think is for us. I
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  Speaker 4: don't think that it's for us to feel like, oh
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  Speaker 4: I shouldn't be upset, I shouldn't be this because this
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  Speaker 4: or it's not because the beautiful thing.
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  Speaker 3: Is that you are a survivor, you are a warrior.
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  Speaker 4: You've been going after it, you've faced it, and the
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  Speaker 4: storm of your storm doesn't matter. I mean, who's measuring
• 16:49
  Speaker 4: ways when their ship is over taken? Right?
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: Like I'm not measuring my way versus your way.
• 16:54
  Speaker 4: The truth is is that we have both faced unbelievable
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: things and just like.
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: You said, that is life.
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: As jayhad, my sweet love I love her so much,
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: would say, life will life right, that is the reality.
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: We know lifefull life. But we also know that God
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: is greater than all of it. And so I say
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: this to people because you know my brand, My world
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: is very mainstream. I worked in entertainment for a long time.
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: You know I have a very like public brand. I
• 17:19
  Speaker 4: was a swimsuit model.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: It doesn't make a lot.
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: Of sense when I start quoting verses, But you know,
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: I my journey doesn't always make sense either, But God,
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: but you know what I realize, honestly, is that when
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: you have conversations like this where you're just willing to
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: explore a do I like where I'm at? That's that
• 17:39
  Speaker 4: whole get real thing, right, Like you got to know
• 17:41
  Speaker 4: where you're at. You got to be real about where
• 17:42
  Speaker 4: you're at, because the likelihood that you're gonna have the
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: same fourteen thousand thoughts today that you had yesterday is
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: very high scientifically.
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: So if I want to change.
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: Those fourteen thousand thoughts for today and then tomorrow, if
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: I want to respond differently when life hits me, and
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: especially while life is hitting you. I talk about that
• 18:01
  Speaker 4: too in my book, that there will be seasons of
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: your life where things are just impossibly difficult.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: You have to understand.
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: I have a little process of like how to stop it, Like,
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: like what do you do to take a moment and
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: just say, hey, hold up, Like this is not working
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: for me. But we have to have grace for ourselves,
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: especially when we look at the past, which we cannot change.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: But that's what fuels us to do something different potentially
• 18:28
  Speaker 4: in the future, because we always enter where we are
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: with the understanding that we have At this moment, people,
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: most people are doing the best they can with what
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: they have. The only invitation I'm giving people is, let's
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: have a little bit more. Let's have faith. Let's have
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: faith that we can build a life on that. When
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: the waves come, because they're going to come, And when
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: our boat starts letting in water because it's going to happen,
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: and you feel like you're sinking, how can.
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: You say, you know what?
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: I might feel like that, But I'm gonna believe that
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: God is in the middle of this and He's to
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: do something out of this, so that would not have
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: happened otherwise.
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: I'm a firm believer.
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: I've given full like I am yours and my love.
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: Thank you for taking me by the way. That's awesome
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: because I'm puite messy.
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: But you know, I believe that everything I sit in
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: God's hand and nothing can happen to me that doesn't
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: pass over his hand. I stood firm and fell apart
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: and crumbled and cried all over Romans eight twenty eight
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: when I was going through my surgery, that God works
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: all things together for good for those who love him
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: and are called according to His purpose. I fell apart
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: on that verse. Not for me, my whole life before that,
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: I would have done it for me. Oh, It's gonna
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: work out because God's no no, no, no A. Let's not
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: put that in a capitalism world. God's gonna work it
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: together for good for you, for the world, for your kids,
• 19:44
  Speaker 4: for your community, your family, for his purpose. That is
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: actually for everybody's greatest good, for the greatness of the world,
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: for everything that can happen. Because the greatest good for
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: anybody is that when they leave this planet, they go
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: somewhere real, beautiful that He's been preparing for us. That
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: is the greatest good. So when I was at the
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: end of my first round of heart beats, I really thought,
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: you know what, God's gonna work it together for good.
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: For my three year old son, whose sweet little face
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: I crawled down on his little bed and I kissed
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: before I went to the hospital, knowing they were about
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: to stop my heart.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: I looked at that little face and I thought, God's
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: gonna work it for good.
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: If he grows up without a mama, it's gonna actually
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: be for good.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: That's a really scary prayer.
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: But another scary prayer that I pray about five times
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: a day is God is not your will, please block it.
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: I say that about everything from a parking space to
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: a new project I'm activating, to a new piece of
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: equipment I'm bringing into my studio. I don't want it
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: if it's not from Him, because I know that life
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: can be so much more beautiful when you were having
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: a spiritually led life that God's like, go here, do this.
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: I mean the amount of times God tells me go
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: pick up your mouth, like I really don't want to know.
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: It's really far all the way. What time is that? Okay?
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: And then I go and guess what.
• 21:05
  Speaker 4: There was a letter in there I really needed to address,
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: Like God does that.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: He did that for me this morning, like it happens
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: all the time.
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: We just really want to open up our hearts to
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: hear the prompting and to be willing to move in
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: the spirit, because that's where the greatest, greatest connections really are.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: Absolutely I love that, and I love that, and I
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: love that you talk so candidly about your open heart surgery,
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: the things that you were feeling, the prayers that you prayed,
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: thank you for being vulnerable enough to be transparent. The
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: listeners need to see that and hear that. But after
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: your open heart surgery, what shifted most for you? The
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: definition of success, your pace, are your priorities?
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, do I have to choose one? All
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: three of those shifted so dramatically, girl. I would say
• 21:57
  Speaker 4: for me, it was probably the first one.
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: Like I really.
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: I just realized that, like what I had been hanging
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: my hat on for success, accolades, the JumboTron and Tims Square,
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: the show on Bloomberg Television, the press, all the things.
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: You know what, none of that matters, dude, when you're
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: in an ugly, scratchy hospital gown and.
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: You're just like, I'm in a room and I see you,
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: and I'm just trying to.
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: Remember how to walk, and I'm praying that I could
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: get the strength to walk across the room, and I'm
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: asking them, you know, not to take the catheter out
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: because I'm not ready to walk yet to the restauran.
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: I mean, like that's real talk.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: Success to me looks like the father being proud.
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: That's why I get interviews, and from a work perspective,
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: I probably.
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: Blow them because I don't even talk about my work.
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: I talk about what I think actually matters, because I'm
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: not storing up things that just store up.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: I don't need any more junk. I don't need any
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: more space.
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: What I really need is to make Heaven super crowded
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: with people who, like me, have set in the floor
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: of a bathroom or closet, ready to give up, begging
• 23:19
  Speaker 4: God to do it, or about to do it themselves.
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: Those are the people I want to fill up.
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: Those are the people want to I want to grab them,
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: and I want to say, listen, I'm going to tell
• 23:29
  Speaker 4: you what I think God's been trying to tell you
• 23:31
  Speaker 4: for a.
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: Long time in all these signs. I'm going to tell
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: you right now.
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: Because when life puts you on your knees, I think it's.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: Exactly where we should stay. I think that's exactly where
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: we should be.
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: I think life puts us on our knees because that
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: might be the only thing that gets our attention from
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: the busyness of the world that I believe are all
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: designated distractions. I think it's all a distraction from the
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: one thing that all of us are called to. I
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: don't worry about what I'm going to eat because God's
• 23:57
  Speaker 4: already got that, so he can.
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: Figure out what I'm gonna eat.
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: Honestly, Like I get by pretty quickly throughout the day
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: with a couple of granola bars and a protein.
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: Shake, you know what I mean.
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: Like I don't need the filet mignon, and I'm blessed
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: I get to have that, Thank you Jesus all the things.
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: My point is that we spend a lot of time.
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: Worried about what we're gonna eat, and what we're gonna drive,
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: and what brand is on it, and and how big
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: our house is. And then we gotta clean that big house, okay,
• 24:22
  Speaker 4: and then we gotta we gotta pay people to manage
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: that beautiful yard we had to have, And then we
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: work so hard we don't even look up because we're
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: so busy trying to pay that bill on the first
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: we don't even look up at all these things, and
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: we're we're all being sold a bad deal. I think
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: it's a bad deal. That's why my shift from success changed,
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: because I don't think that it actually makes me feel
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: that great when I've got too much. I've got more
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: than what the father told me to have or gave
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: me or wanted for me. I don't need all that.
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: I don't need that stress on my heart. I don't
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: need it for my family. What I do need is
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: I need to show up every day and do the
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: best I can excellence, to bless God, to bless the
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: people around me, all the people who shows they're entrusting
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: with me, that I get to put on these cool
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: platforms and do these cool things, Like that's exciting. It's
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: exciting to go on Roku and see people on there
• 25:13
  Speaker 4: who told me that they didn't know if the message mattered,
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: or they were scared, or they wrote a book and
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: now they don't know what to do.
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, well, let's make a show and let's
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: do this. Like that's exciting. That's what we're here for.
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: We're here to get messages of hope into the world
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: to help people find purpose. And wherever you are from
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: a faith or non faith perspective, the beautiful thing is
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: that if you're bringing love and light in the world,
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: we're on the exact same page.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: Absolutely, that's perfectly said, perfectly said. I love that, and
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: I love how passionate you are when you talk about God.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: It just it warms my heart because when you have
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: someone that loves God like you love God, it's just
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: an amazing experience to have. So I didn't know how
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: this was going with today.
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: I didn't know that I was gonna be all Tereia at.
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: It stuff today. I know you have no conversation, but
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: I didn't know that I was gonna get so emotional
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: because when you love God and God has brought you
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: through so many things, so many yeah. Yeah, So how
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: did your health journey deepen your message or expand your assignment?
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: Hmm, that's good.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: My motto now is don't waste a heartbeat.
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: And that's how because I have always been the girl
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: who on my coaching calls, on my on my events,
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: when I speak, when I do interviews, I'm always that
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: girl who's like, we're gonna get you unstuck. I don't
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: know what it's got you stuck right now, but I'm
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: gonna find it and we're gonna get unstuck. I like
• 26:44
  Speaker 4: to break bondage, and now I get to do it
• 26:46
  Speaker 4: in a way that actually lasts, because it's with the
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: one who actually breaks bondage. But I think that what's
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: really changed for me is that I don't waste time.
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: I don't want my people wasting time.
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: If you've got a message of hope or faith, or
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: light or love that you want to put in the world,
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: and I have many shows that are not faith based, but.
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: I want to help that happen. I want to sit
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: in the studio with you.
• 27:07
  Speaker 4: I want to sit behind the camera when you feel
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: like Rachel, I cannot post this on social I cannot
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: do this on the show. I want to be the
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: girl behind the camera saying, Okay, well, let's go back
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: to twenty eighteen.
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: You who was.
• 27:19
  Speaker 4: Suddenly single with no savings, four little babies looking up
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: at your face, wondering what are we doing, Mama?
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: Where are we gonna eat? Where are we gonna live?
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: That person?
• 27:29
  Speaker 4: We're gonna talk to that person, because that is the
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: person that you're called to. Your pain brings your purpose.
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: But if you don't move into your purpose, you stay
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: stuck in the pain. I'm gonna say that again for
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: people in the back. When we don't move with our purpose,
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: we get stuck in the pain because all we know
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: how to do is keep living. That the only thing
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: that kept me going as I'm investing everything I had
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: into my healing journey, and all the things because I
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: wanted to heal for a future kid.
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: I knew I was.
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: Gonna have the only thing that kept me going. I
• 28:00
  Speaker 4: didn't feel worthy of the help. I didn't feel worthy
• 28:03
  Speaker 4: of the thirty thousand dollars it costs for people to
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: just get into treatment when they're highly suicidal and need
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: to like like take care of themselves.
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: Like.
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: I didn't feel worthy of that.
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: But the people that I felt called to help did,
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: and I borrowed that. I said, I will get better
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: for the people to come, I will get better for
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: future children. I will get better for the future generations.
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: So I say that because we all need that reminder.
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: God doesn't allow calamity for no reason. Ever, There's always
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: something now, there is wickedness in the world that He
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: adamantly pushes against and adamantly tries this in warnings and
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: signs and help.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: I mean, he is.
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: Active in the scariest of worlds, and we are facing
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: scary situations in the world right. But my life is
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: not built on the economy. My life is not built
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: on politics. My life is not built on what's happening
• 28:56
  Speaker 4: in the world. My life is built on the firm
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: foundation of faith. So with that, I tell people, I
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: get it that you're scared. We're gonna do it anyway,
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: because we're gonna start with part one. We're gonna get real.
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: We're gonna get real about what the mess is. You're
• 29:10
  Speaker 4: gonna tell me all the things that you don't want
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: to tell anybody, because guess what, when you do that,
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: you start to see things, you start to understand things,
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: and you can be you know what, Actually there's something
• 29:21
  Speaker 4: here for me to heal. I'm in a pattern right here,
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: I'm in a loop right here. All right, Well, then
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: that's gone. Right now, we're gonna stop speaking that over you.
• 29:27
  Speaker 4: In the name of.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: Jesus, we're gonna stop that.
• 29:29
  Speaker 4: Right So I'm passionate about helping people do that because
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: their purpose usually comes out of their pain, and it
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: unlocks pain from other people, and it changes the world
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: because with one person changed, even just you.
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: You change, I change a million people.
• 29:47
  Speaker 4: The ripple effect, the people we encounter at Trader Joe's
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: or Ralph's, the people that we go and see when
• 29:52
  Speaker 4: we go down the street, the way we show up
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: for our kids, the way that kid then goes to
• 29:56
  Speaker 4: school and shows up for his friends, and every there
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: is such a repel effect that we just don't even understand.
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: So I'm on a mission to get the one. And
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: once I have the one, I'm like, Okay, you're a multiplier.
• 30:08
  Speaker 4: There are people in life who are dividers. They create
• 30:11
  Speaker 4: division and conflict. No, honey, not about that. It's been
• 30:14
  Speaker 4: less than five percent of your life with those people.
• 30:15
  Speaker 4: There are people who are subtractors. Those are people just
• 30:18
  Speaker 4: kind of take give ten percent. That's your tithe right.
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: There are people who add give your seventy percent. There
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: of people who are adders, who are giving to your life.
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: Then you've got multipliers.
• 30:28
  Speaker 4: You can usually only get to about fifteen percent of
• 30:30
  Speaker 4: your life with them because there just aren't as many
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: of them. But I go on the lookout for multipliers.
• 30:35
  Speaker 4: I want to find people who are multiplying with messages
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: of hope. And what it means is you multiply people's lives.
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: You help it be better, You help them show up
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: better in their families, their marriages, their relationships, and I
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: want to build shows with them and around them that
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: help them get that message into the world. So for me,
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: success looks like me activating a bunch of people with However,
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: many heartbeats, I have yet left, because one day I'm
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: al this planet and I'm going to be like, bless
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: you guys. I'm in my glory days, right, But I
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: want to make sure that in the time that I've
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: spent in this in this season, that I have equipped
• 31:09
  Speaker 4: and gotten people unstuck who need to get those messages
• 31:13
  Speaker 4: in the world, because they're usually the sweet, sensitive ones
• 31:15
  Speaker 4: who are like, I don't know, Rachel, I don't know.
• 31:17
  Speaker 4: If I'm like, yeah, look, my family's in entertainment, my
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: friends are all in entertainment. I'm like, I'm trying to
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: help the girl in the back who's like, like trying
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: to take the videos, I'm like, no, I want you
• 31:26
  Speaker 4: on the stage.
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: You're right, I love it. I love it, and you
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: encourage people to do what you're here for. How does
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: someone discover what they're truly here for beyond the titles
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: and income and their definition of success.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: Oh, what a good question.
• 31:46
  Speaker 4: Well, I am not very tech savvy. For a girl
• 31:48
  Speaker 4: who has a studio, I'm not very good at that.
• 31:51
  Speaker 4: I help I get people to help me set things up.
• 31:54
  Speaker 4: I don't try to understand an invention without knowing the inventor,
• 31:58
  Speaker 4: so I don't recommen and trying to understand creation without
• 32:02
  Speaker 4: understanding the Creator.
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  Speaker 3: If I want to know.
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  Speaker 4: What I'm here for, I'm going to pick up Rick
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  Speaker 4: Warren's book, A Purpose Driven Life, and I'm going to
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  Speaker 4: go through the forty day exercises to really understand why
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  Speaker 4: did God make me? Because I believe without a shadow
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  Speaker 4: of doubt that He did make you. If you're hearing this,
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  Speaker 4: I believe that unless you're AI and you're listening to
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  Speaker 4: a transcript or reading, and in that case, I don't
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  Speaker 4: necessarily I think that God made an amazing person or
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  Speaker 4: people who were smart enough to make you right. But
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  Speaker 4: I'm just making a little joke, obviously, But my point
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  Speaker 4: is that if you are on this journey, you've got
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  Speaker 4: to go to the one who made you. A lot
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  Speaker 4: of people have had bad experiences with church hurt. I'm
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  Speaker 4: one of these people. I talk about that a little
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  Speaker 4: bit in my book. Actually, I don't like to bleed
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  Speaker 4: on people. I don't like to, like, say, trauma for
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  Speaker 4: no reason. I only like to utilize it as a
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  Speaker 4: means to help people say I see them and get it,
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  Speaker 4: and I feel that. So, you know, one of the
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  Speaker 4: most abusive people in my life was a pastor, so
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  Speaker 4: I definitely understand church hurt.
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  Speaker 3: Church hurt is not God.
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  Speaker 4: God was hurt Jesus, yeshoe of Jesus, who died on
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  Speaker 4: a cross for our sins.
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  Speaker 3: It faced the biggest church hurt of all.
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  Speaker 4: He was put on a cross by his own choice
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  Speaker 4: by a bunch of religious leaders who thought they were
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  Speaker 4: acting on behalf of God, which Jesus is. So we
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  Speaker 4: really have to take a moment. I think sometimes when
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  Speaker 4: we allow old words and thoughts and belief systems to
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  Speaker 4: keep us stuck, we need to challenge them.
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  Speaker 3: I say.
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  Speaker 4: The easiest way to challenge them is I drive a
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  Speaker 4: lot with my family between La and Vegas, and on
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  Speaker 4: the way there's a place called Eddie's World, and it's
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  Speaker 4: my five year old son's favorite place.
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  Speaker 3: You know, It's like I'm.
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  Speaker 4: Dodging the candy lanes, trying to sell him a toy
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  Speaker 4: that he doesn't need or want so that he can
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  Speaker 4: just avoid the sugar and the red dyes and all
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  Speaker 4: the things that my husband's.
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  Speaker 3: Like, look, I got a whole bag of treats.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, boy, I've been working and trying to black No,
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  Speaker 4: look over here, look over there, look at you know,
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  Speaker 4: inside the store they had this little aerial with all
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  Speaker 4: these toys. And there's a game that many of us
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  Speaker 4: probably know from growing up called Hangman. Every time you
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  Speaker 4: get a name wrong, you draw a body member. Have
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  Speaker 4: any of us thought that maybe we should challenge that game?
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  Speaker 4: It's still being sold today. Has anyone really thought like,
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  Speaker 4: is that the best visual that I want my child?
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  Speaker 4: Who a picture is worth a thousand words? Getting a
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  Speaker 4: picture and seeing and learning about this, is that what
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  Speaker 4: I want?
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  Speaker 3: I kidn't know.
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  Speaker 4: It's not no offense to ever created that game, but
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  Speaker 4: I would love to understand where we thought that was
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  Speaker 4: a good idea.
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  Speaker 3: This is my point.
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  Speaker 4: People stay stuck in bad beliefs for a long time
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  Speaker 4: because someone handed it to them. Someone told you, oh,
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  Speaker 4: don't cry, so now you're saying it, and then said
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  Speaker 4: to you and I'm sorry, Crying is actually good for
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  Speaker 4: your body and for the release of emotions. So why
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  Speaker 4: are we perpetuating things that don't work? I say that
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  Speaker 4: because I believe there are a lot of old, dusty,
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  Speaker 4: outdated beliefs around faith that get convoluted. Religion that has
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  Speaker 4: definitely caused tremendous hurt in the world tremendous pain. But
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  Speaker 4: I'm the girl who is not trying to get anybody
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  Speaker 4: to get stuck in the law. I want you to
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  Speaker 4: know the law and strive to live a holy, righteous,
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  Speaker 4: beautiful life, because it goes well for you when you do.
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  Speaker 4: But I'm the girl of grace. I'm like, let's find
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  Speaker 4: the one who gave it all for you. And I
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  Speaker 4: think that's really important because when we actually shift that
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  Speaker 4: around and we're like, oh my goodness, there's actually something
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  Speaker 4: holding me back from faith and it's not even my
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  Speaker 4: own thought.
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  Speaker 2: I love that. I love that. This has been amazing.
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  Speaker 2: Guy too, Oh my goodness, Oh my goodness. Okay, so
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  Speaker 2: last question of the day. When your story is finally written,
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  Speaker 2: what do you hope people have to say about you
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  Speaker 2: on how you lived, lived and loved.
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  Speaker 3: Well.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, the easiest one for me to say is
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  Speaker 4: I just hope that I point people to the one
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  Speaker 4: who loves them more than anything I really do, and
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  Speaker 4: I hope that my imperfections don't hold them back from
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  Speaker 4: knowing who He is. Because God loves to use really
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  Speaker 4: broken vessels to share really beautiful, perfect stories, and He
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  Speaker 4: is the perfector of our faith, of our lives.
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  Speaker 3: Of our future. I want to lead with love and grace.
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  Speaker 4: I want to be the girl who gets you unstuck
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  Speaker 4: and helps you feel empowered and activated to be all
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  Speaker 4: that you can be in this world. But I really
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  Speaker 4: don't want when my time is up at this planet.
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  Speaker 4: I don't want people to look at me and think, Wow,
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  Speaker 4: she was so strong. I want them to say the
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  Speaker 4: source of her joy, the source of her peace, the
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  Speaker 4: reason that girl survived, the reason that girl kept kicking
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  Speaker 4: against all odds, was because she was always hailed that.
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  Speaker 3: I have had the goodness of God over my life.
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  Speaker 4: All my life, through all the ups, all the downs,
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  Speaker 4: all the trauma, drama and heartbreak, like he has healed
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  Speaker 4: my heart because I asked him to. And I want
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  Speaker 4: something from my story to help somebody have hope at least,
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  Speaker 4: to just pray the most unbelievable prayer, which is God,
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  Speaker 4: if you're real, please make it clear, because you don't
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  Speaker 4: need to take my word for it. You need to
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  Speaker 4: take your grandma's word for it. There's a reason why
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  Speaker 4: people adamantly believe in God. Because we've seen something, we
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  Speaker 4: know something, we feel something we cannot deny, and we
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  Speaker 4: want that for as many people as we can. I
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  Speaker 4: want that for the people who have abused me the most,
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  Speaker 4: I genuinely do. I genuinely love them, pray for them,
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  Speaker 4: forgive them, and want them to come to know the
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  Speaker 4: love and grace of a father.
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  Speaker 3: I want it for my best friend, I want it
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  Speaker 3: for my family.
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  Speaker 4: I just want people who are hurting to know that
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  Speaker 4: you don't have to. You don't have to, and as
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  Speaker 4: long as I have a mouth and heartbeats in my chest,
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  Speaker 4: I will share that against all odds.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, that was beautiful, Rachel. Thank you again for being here.
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  Speaker 2: You guys have been listening to another episode of Kicking, Wikiki, Life,
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  Speaker 2: Love and all that other stuff. I am back every
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  Speaker 2: Thursday at noon with a new episode. You can find
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  Speaker 2: me on all major podcast stream and platforms as well
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  Speaker 2: as YouTube. You guys, make sure that you don't hesitate
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  Speaker 2: to starve the fear and feed your faith, all right,
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  Speaker 2: purple hug.
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  Speaker 1: Later, beekended with
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  Speaker 4: I told him a moment