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When Rejection Feels Personal: The Brain Pattern Behind Love Blocks (and How to Change It) · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: If you've clicked on this video, you may be wondering
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  Speaker 1: if there's something deeper going on, something you're missing, something
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  Speaker 1: that's stopping you from finding or keeping a relationship. One
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  Speaker 1: reason you may be struggling, there actually might be something
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  Speaker 1: going on in your brain that's inhibiting you from finding
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  Speaker 1: the connection you've been searching for, specifically how your brain
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  Speaker 1: handles rejection. To learn how your brain may be stopping
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  Speaker 1: you from experiencing the connection you desire and what you
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  Speaker 1: can do to change this, keep watching. The facts. A
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  Speaker 1: person can only handle so many rejections before they feel
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  Speaker 1: like giving up dating for good. When you feel rejected,
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  Speaker 1: it's easy to only see happy couples around you, whether
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  Speaker 1: it be the happy old couple in the street holding hands,
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  Speaker 1: or your best friend who isn't shy of some PDA
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  Speaker 1: with their newest relationship. It's easy to feel down on yourself,
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  Speaker 1: Like you've somehow failed. But the truth is, you're definitely
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  Speaker 1: not a failure because no one is immune to rejection.
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  Speaker 1: It happens to everyone. But just how many failed relationships
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  Speaker 1: and dates do you have to go on before you
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  Speaker 1: find your person? Digital Magazine addressed this question by highlighting
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  Speaker 1: a dating study aimed at unraveling the secrets to finding
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  Speaker 1: true love. Among many things, the study found that statistically
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  Speaker 1: you would have four disaster dates, be stood up by
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  Speaker 1: someone one to two times, have seven to eight relationships
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  Speaker 1: and be cheated on at least once. Sadly, it looks
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  Speaker 1: like the science tells us that rejection is to be expected.
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  Speaker 1: But that's not to say rejection can't be devastating. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: rejection can be more intense for some people and be
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  Speaker 1: the cause for why they struggle with relationships. High rejection sensitivity.
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  Speaker 1: Ever feel like you've been punched in the gut after
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  Speaker 1: someone rejects you? There's an explanation for this. A 2011
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  Speaker 1: brain imaging study showed that rejection activates the same part
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  Speaker 1: of the brain as physical pain. No wonder you felt
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  Speaker 1: like someone kicked you in the gut with a soccer ball.
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  Speaker 1: And experts are finding out that some people are more
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  Speaker 1: prone to feeling this than others. This is known as
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  Speaker 1: having high rejection sensitivity. And it doesn't have to be
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  Speaker 1: rejections like cheating or the end of a relationship. Rejection
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  Speaker 1: can come in many forms. According to the Journal of
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  Speaker 1: Social Psychology, someone with rejection sensitivity may interpret harmless social
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  Speaker 1: cues as blatant rejection or ignore other explanations or reasons
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  Speaker 1: for the rejection. among other signs. Have your friends or
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  Speaker 1: family ever told you that you read too much into
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  Speaker 1: text messages? Jamie Herndon, a public health professional in the
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  Speaker 1: mental health space, shares that misinterpreting texts as a sign
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  Speaker 1: that someone doesn't like you can be a common example
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  Speaker 1: of rejection sensitivity. Even though rejection is a common experience,
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  Speaker 1: someone with rejection sensitivity has a brain that's on high alert.
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  Speaker 1: which can provide maladaptive coping strategies. Jamie Herndon goes on
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  Speaker 1: to say that for some people, rejection sensitivity can be
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  Speaker 1: a response to trauma and is often, but not always,
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  Speaker 1: associated with other mental health conditions such as ADHD, autism,
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  Speaker 1: and depression. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria Rejection sensitivity can lead to
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  Speaker 1: something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, or RSD. The Cleveland Clinic,
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  Speaker 1: a multi-speciality academic medical center, explains that RSD is when
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  Speaker 1: you experience severe emotional pain when rejected. And there can
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  Speaker 1: be a link between ADHD and RSD based on brain
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  Speaker 1: structure findings. The thing is, with RSD and ADHD, your
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  Speaker 1: brain can't regulate rejection-related emotions and behaviors, making them much
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  Speaker 1: more intense, explains the Cleveland Clinic. It's important to note
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  Speaker 1: that while RSD hasn't been officially recognized as a diagnosis
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  Speaker 1: and is not always associated with ADHD, understanding these dynamics
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  Speaker 1: can shed light on certain emotional responses. When you're in
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  Speaker 1: a relationship, do you constantly feel like your partner is
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  Speaker 1: unhappy with you? Do you feel like you need extra
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  Speaker 1: validation from them? These can be signs of RSD. Couples
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  Speaker 1: therapist Gal Sekaly says a person with RSD often jumps
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  Speaker 1: to conclusions and assumes that they're being attacked or slighted
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  Speaker 1: in some way, leaving the other person forever having to
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  Speaker 1: comfort and support them. But there's hope. Gull goes on
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  Speaker 1: to explain that RSD is the result of unhelpful thoughts
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  Speaker 1: overriding your brain. But you can learn how to take
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  Speaker 1: charge of your thoughts through different practices like taking risks,
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  Speaker 1: focusing on facts, and of course, seeking professional help. We
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  Speaker 1: want to acknowledge that RSD hasn't been officially recognized as
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  Speaker 1: a diagnosis and isn't always associated with ADHD. Can you
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  Speaker 1: relate to the signs of RSD or rejection sensitivity? If so,
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  Speaker 1: what helps you? If you feel comfortable, please share your
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  Speaker 1: advice below to help remind someone that they're not alone.
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  Speaker 1: next time, remember, you matter.