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- Lucas: So you know how we've talked a lot about auditing your own skills, building a portfolio, negotiating training at work. Luna: Yeah, the self-directed stuff. Lucas: Right. But there's another lever that a lot of people overlook, and it's probably the most efficient one if you do it right: finding a skills mentor. Luna: Not just any mentor — a skills mentor. What's the difference? Lucas: Good question. A traditional mentor is usually someone senior in your field who gives you career advice — how to navigate politics, when to ask for a promotion, that kind of thing. A skills mentor is more focused. They help you build a specific competence, often outside your immediate role. Luna: So it's less about 'how do I get to VP' and more about 'how do I actually get good at SQL or negotiation'. Lucas: Exactly. And the beauty is, a skills mentor doesn't have to be your boss or even someone in your department. They can be a peer, someone from another team, even someone outside your company. The key is they have the skill you want to build, and they're willing to show you how they think about it. Luna: I love that. It makes mentorship way more accessible. You don't need a formal program or a C-suite connection. Lucas: Right. Let me give you a concrete example. A friend of mine — let's call her Priya — was a junior marketing manager at a mid-sized tech company. She wanted to get better at SEO, but her team didn't have a dedicated SEO specialist. So she looked around, found a senior data analyst named Tom who ran all the A/B tests for the website. She asked him if he'd be willing to meet once every two weeks to walk through how he sets up experiments and interprets the data. Luna: So she went outside her function entirely. Lucas: Exactly. Tom wasn't a marketer, but he understood user behavior through data. Over six months, Priya learned how to design experiments, read statistical significance, and tie SEO changes to actual metrics. She built a skill that made her invaluable. She eventually led the SEO strategy for a product launch that drove a 30 percent increase in organic traffic. Luna: And Tom probably got something out of it too — like teaching someone else clarified his own thinking. Lucas: That's a great point. Good skills mentors often say they learn just as much from the process. So it's not a one-way street. But here's the thing — you have to be deliberate about how you ask. You can't just say 'will you be my mentor?' That's vague and puts pressure on the other person. Luna: So what's the right ask? Lucas: I'd frame it around a specific project or problem. Something like, 'I'm working on improving our onboarding email sequence, and I know you've run a lot of A/B tests. Could I buy you coffee and get your thoughts on how to structure a test?' That's low-commitment, focused, and respectful of their time. Luna: And if that goes well, you can maybe ask for a recurring check-in. Lucas: Exactly. Start with a single conversation. If the chemistry is there, propose a monthly 30-minute chat. And come prepared every time. Send an agenda ahead of time, show what you've tried since the last meeting, and ask for specific feedback. Luna: That makes a huge difference. I've had mentees who show up with nothing and expect me to generate ideas. Versus the ones who say 'I tried X, it didn't work, here's what I think went wrong, what am I missing?' That's gold. Lucas: Right. You're basically making it easy for them to help you. And you should also be generous in return — share what you're learning, credit them when you use their advice, maybe offer to help them with something you're good at. Luna: Let's talk about finding the right person. How do you identify a good skills mentor? Lucas: First, be clear on exactly which skill you want to build. Not 'I want to be a better leader' — that's too broad. Something like 'I want to get better at facilitating cross-functional meetings.' Then look for someone who does that well, even if their title is different. Maybe it's a project manager who runs great kickoffs. Luna: So the skill itself, not the job title, is your guide. Lucas: Exactly. Second, look for someone whose style you admire but who's also approachable. The best mentors are often just a few years ahead of you — they still remember what it's like to learn. Third, don't limit yourself to your company. You can find skills mentors through professional communities, online courses, even LinkedIn if you engage thoughtfully. Luna: What about someone who's really senior — like a VP? Could they be a skills mentor? Lucas: They can, but it's harder. Senior leaders often think in more strategic terms and may not be hands-on with the nitty-gritty of a specific skill. If you want to learn executive presence or strategic thinking, a VP could be great. But if you want to learn Python or data visualization, you're better off with someone who codes every day. Luna: That's a good distinction. Match the level of the skill to the level of the mentor. Lucas: Right. Now, once you have a mentor, there's a framework I like for structuring the conversations. It's called the 'Skill Loop' — it has three steps: Observe, Practice, Reflect. Luna: Walk me through it. Lucas: Observe means watching your mentor in action. If they're good at negotiation, ask if you can sit in on a client call. If they're good at data analysis, ask them to walk you through how they approach a new dataset. Then Practice means you try it yourself — with real work if possible, or with a simulated exercise. Then Reflect means you come back and discuss what happened, what worked, what didn't. Luna: So the mentor isn't just telling you what to do — they're showing you, then you do it, then you debrief together. Lucas: Exactly. That loop accelerates learning way faster than just reading a book or taking a course. Because you get real-time feedback tailored to your specific context. Luna: I want to mention something that's often overlooked: being a good mentee also means knowing when to end the relationship. Some mentorships naturally run their course after a few months. Lucas: Great point. If you've built the skill you were after, or if the conversations start feeling stale, it's okay to gracefully step back. You can say, 'I've learned so much from you, and I think I'm ready to apply this on my own now. Thank you.' That leaves the door open for future check-ins. Luna: And they'll appreciate your honesty. It also frees them up to mentor someone else. Lucas: Exactly. So to sum up: identify a specific skill, find someone who does it well and is approachable, make a focused ask, structure your time together using the Skill Loop, and be a great partner by coming prepared and showing gratitude. Luna: One thing I'd add: don't underestimate the power of being curious. The best mentors love teaching people who ask good questions. So be genuinely interested, and you'll get way more out of it. Lucas: Absolutely. And if you're listening and thinking 'I don't have anyone in my network who fits,' start small. Reach out to someone you admire online. Offer to share what you're working on. Most people are flattered to be asked. Luna: Yeah, it's surprising how willing people are to help if you make it easy and respectful. Lucas: Speaking of making things easy — if you've found value in these episodes, and if we've helped you think through a career move or learning strategy, there's a simple way to support the show and keep it ad-free. You can buy us a coffee at buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. That's buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. It truly helps us keep doing this. Luna: And we really appreciate it. Every bit of support goes straight into making better episodes for you. Lucas: So, back to the topic — I think the key takeaway is that a skills mentor can be your secret weapon for rapid growth. It's not about finding a career guru; it's about finding someone who can teach you one thing really well, and then paying it forward when you can. Luna: And that's something anyone can do, regardless of where they are in their career.