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Season 2 - Episode 196 - Offering help to others · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So I'm going to ask you how often you ask somebody if they
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  need your help and why is this an important question?
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  Because sometimes we just try to ram into things and we don't
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  actually ask permission 1st. And without question.
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  Sometimes people do not want help, sometimes people want to
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  do something on their own. And it's different when you say
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  to somebody, you know, oh, I have an idea and you haven't
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  asked permission. It's just not OK.
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  Sometimes people don't want your ideas.
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  As great as your ideas might be, they just don't want them.
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  They they need to go through their process.
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  And it's hard for us to watch because we're like, you don't
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  need to run into the wall. I'm telling you, there's a wall
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  right there. I've run into that wall.
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  Let me tell you, I can help you. But the truth is.
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  It's about us feeling like we're filling ourselves up by doing
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  that, wanting to show that we have value, we matter.
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  So we run it Russian and we run him up to it and it's like, oh,
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  you know, I let me just tell you this and blah blah blah, but it
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  doesn't help them and ultimately if you are.
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  On this podcast and you listen regularly, you know there are
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  certain ways of thinking. There's a specific mindset to
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  what I come here and I teach you guys and I participate in.
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  And that mindset has the tendency of for the greater good
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  of yourself and for others. Being the best version of
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  yourself has a very deep spiritual connotation to it.
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  And one of the most important things that we can come to to
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  conclusion with with this is that.
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  You know, in the process of that, we know we we hit those
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  altitudes that we want to go to with ourselves because we're
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  operating in the greater good. But sometimes we do it like
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  bowls in a China shop. Sometimes we have to stop and
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  pause and say, you know what? I can offer my help.
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  And if the person wants it, they may take it.
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  And if they don't, that's OK. And you don't have to feel hurt,
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  which is a big piece of it if you offer someone help and they
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  don't take you up on it. It's OK you know that little
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  phrase My grandpa used to use it all the time.
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  You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink.
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  And it's so true and especially when offering help.
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  So a few times this week I've been put in situations where I
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  have offered help. I've said, hey, I'm absolutely
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  happy to help. You just have to let me know and
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  the whether or not they take you up on it is not going to affect
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  my mood. I like I don't let it affect my
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  mood. I.
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  The offer, if they take me up, great.
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  If they don't, I'm still great because my identity is not tied
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  to that outcome. My identity is tied to the
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  offering of the outcome. And actually, if they do it,
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  then I'm, I'm excited to help. I'm thrilled to help, but I'm
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  not going to allow that to make me feel less than if they don't
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  take me up on it. So this is an exercise in
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  awareness. This is an exercise in being
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  very present with yourself and realizing that they're.
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  Direction of your help is not about you.
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  It's about them. It says more about them than it
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  does about you. You offering your help says more
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  about you than it does about them because it comes from the
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  core of your identity. So be very careful about where
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  you're making your offerings, be very careful about how you're
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  making your offerings, and be very mindful of the fact that
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  it's not about you. If you want to participate and
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  you want to do that, it is amazing to do those things and
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  to offer help to people. But you can't allow the offense
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  to take over and find yourself feeling less than or hurt or
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  weakened by Oh well, I'm just not going to offer to anybody
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  anymore. I I heard that once this week
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  from somebody and you know, I'm just not going to offer anymore.
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  I'm like, well, doesn't offering make you feel good?
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  Well, yes. Then why would you rob yourself
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  of that experience? Well, because I my feelings are
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  hurt that they don't let me help.
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  OK, but that's not about you, that's about them.
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  So please consider these points. Please think about your offers
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  and please be very thoughtful with them and do it in a way
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  that is not meant to offend yourself, not meant to offend
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  anybody else, just an offer and it makes you feel good knowing
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  you threw it out there. I hope you guys have an
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  incredibly blessed day and I hope wherever you are, it's not
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  as hot as it is where I am. So have a blessed day you guys,
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  and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.