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What Are Healthier Ways to Reward Yourself After a Hard Day? · Becoming Financially Confident

• 0:37
  Have
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  you
• 0:37
  ever
• 0:38
  thought
• 0:38
  to
• 0:38
  yourself,
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  I
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  deserve
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  this?
• 0:41
  You
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  know,
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  you've
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  had
• 0:41
  that
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  long,
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  exhausting
• 0:43
  day.
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  You
• 0:44
  worked
• 0:44
  hard,
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  you
• 0:45
  held
• 0:45
  it
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  together.
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  Maybe
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  you
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  just
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  survived
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  the
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  day.
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  So
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  you
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  click
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  purchase.
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  Or
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  maybe
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  you
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  order
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  takeout
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  or
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  add
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  one
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  more
• 0:55
  thing
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  to
• 0:55
  that
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  cart
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  you've
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  been
• 0:56
  shopping
• 0:57
  for.
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  And
• 0:58
  for
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  a
• 0:59
  moment
• 0:59
  it
• 0:59
  feels
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  like
• 1:00
  relief.
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  Well,
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  until
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  the
• 1:03
  guilt
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  shows
• 1:03
  back
• 1:03
  up
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  again,
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  friend,
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  you
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  deserve
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  rest.
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  But
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  rest
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  and
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  spending
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  are
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  not
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  the
• 1:10
  same
• 1:10
  thing.
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  And
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  today
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  build
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  a
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  better
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  reward
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  system.
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  One
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  that
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  restores
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  you
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  without
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  draining
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  you.
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  Hey,
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  friend.
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  Ralph
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  Estep
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  Jr.
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  Here.
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  This
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  is
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  financially
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  confident
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  Christian,
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  where
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  every
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  day
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  my
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  big
• 1:46
  goal
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  is
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  to
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  break
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  that
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  cycle
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  of
• 1:47
  financial
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  shame
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  and
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  help
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  you
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  live
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  in
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  confidence.
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  I
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  truly
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  believe
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  so
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  many
• 1:52
  of
• 1:52
  us
• 1:53
  live
• 1:53
  in
• 1:53
  this
• 1:53
  constant
• 1:54
  state
• 1:54
  of
• 1:54
  shame
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  where
• 1:55
  we've
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  made
• 1:55
  bad
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  decisions
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  or
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  we've
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  done
• 1:57
  things
• 1:57
  we
• 1:57
  wish
• 1:58
  we
• 1:58
  hadn't
• 1:58
  done.
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  But
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  we
• 1:58
  can
• 1:59
  break
• 1:59
  that.
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  We're
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  going
• 1:59
  to
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  break
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  it
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  together
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  today.
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  We're
• 2:02
  going
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  to
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  talk
• 2:02
  about
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  how
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  to
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  reward
• 2:03
  yourself
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  after
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  a
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  hard
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  day.
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  Listen,
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  it's
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  tax
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  season
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  for
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  me.
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  I
• 2:08
  got
• 2:08
  a
• 2:08
  lot
• 2:08
  of
• 2:08
  hard
• 2:08
  days
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  that
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  are
• 2:09
  happening.
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  But
• 2:10
  I
• 2:10
  got
• 2:10
  this
• 2:10
  listener
• 2:11
  question.
• 2:11
  We're
• 2:11
  going
• 2:11
  to
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  jump
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  right
• 2:12
  to
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  it.
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  And
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  this
• 2:13
  listener
• 2:14
  question
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  is
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  this.
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  It
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  says,
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  Ralph,
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  when
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  I'm
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  exhausted,
• 2:18
  I
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  spend
• 2:19
  to
• 2:19
  take
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  the
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  edge
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  off.
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  Man,
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  I
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  can
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  tell
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  you
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  what,
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  I
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  can
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  rely
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  that
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  one.
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  For
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  a
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  moment
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  it
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  feels
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  soothing,
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  like
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  I've
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  given
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  myself
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  a
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  small
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  reward
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  for
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  surviving
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  the
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  day.
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  But
• 2:30
  then
• 2:30
  the
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  guilt
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  creeps
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  in
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  and
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  I'm
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  left
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  feeling
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  worse
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  than
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  before.
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  I
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  know
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  it's
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  really
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  not
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  helping
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  me.
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  How
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  do
• 2:38
  I
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  create
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  a
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  pause
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  in
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  that
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  moment
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  so
• 2:41
  I
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  can
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  choose
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  something
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  different
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  instead?
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  Like
• 2:45
  I
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  said,
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  I
• 2:46
  could
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  have
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  wrote
• 2:46
  that
• 2:46
  question
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  myself.
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  Been
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  there
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  many
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  times.
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  Because
• 2:51
  I
• 2:51
  think
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  the
• 2:51
  problem
• 2:51
  is
• 2:51
  we've
• 2:52
  got
• 2:52
  a
• 2:52
  broken
• 2:53
  idea
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  here.
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  You
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  don't
• 2:55
  need
• 2:55
  a
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  purchase.
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  What
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  you
• 2:57
  need
• 2:57
  is
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  restoration.
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  And
• 2:59
  I
• 2:59
  think
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  so
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  many
• 3:00
  times
• 3:00
  our
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  world
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  thinks,
• 3:01
  well,
• 3:01
  if
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  you
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  make
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  this
• 3:02
  purchase,
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  you're
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  going
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  to
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  restore
• 3:03
  yourself.
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  But
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  it
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  doesn't
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  work,
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  does
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  it?
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  So
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  how
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  to
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  make
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  it
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  work.
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  The
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  first
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  thing
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  I
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  think
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  you've
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  absolutely
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  got
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  to
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  do
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  is
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  build
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  a
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  10
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  minute
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  pause
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  ritual.
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  You
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  got
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  to
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  know
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  what
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  to
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  do
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  when
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  this
• 3:17
  feeling
• 3:17
  comes.
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  Because
• 3:19
  when
• 3:19
  you're
• 3:19
  exhausted,
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  it
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  lowers
• 3:22
  your
• 3:22
  discipline.
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  It
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  just
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  does.
• 3:24
  I
• 3:25
  know
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  when
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  I'm
• 3:25
  exhausted,
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  don't
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  get
• 3:26
  around
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  me.
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  Sometimes
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  when
• 3:27
  I
• 3:27
  get
• 3:27
  exhausted,
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  I
• 3:28
  say
• 3:28
  things
• 3:28
  I
• 3:28
  shouldn't
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  say.
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  I'm
• 3:29
  kind
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  of
• 3:29
  like
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  a
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  bare
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  not
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  a
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  good
• 3:31
  place
• 3:31
  to
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  be.
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  So
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  you
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  can't
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  rely
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  on
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  your
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  willpower.
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  It's
• 3:36
  not
• 3:36
  going
• 3:36
  to
• 3:36
  work
• 3:36
  when
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  you're
• 3:37
  exhausted.
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  But
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  what
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  will
• 3:39
  work
• 3:39
  is
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  if
• 3:40
  you
• 3:40
  create
• 3:40
  a
• 3:40
  simple
• 3:41
  ritual.
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  So
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  when
• 3:43
  the
• 3:43
  day
• 3:43
  ends,
• 3:45
  before
• 3:45
  you
• 3:45
  open
• 3:46
  any
• 3:46
  shopping
• 3:47
  app,
• 3:48
  sit
• 3:49
  down,
• 3:50
  maybe
• 3:51
  you've
• 3:51
  got
• 3:51
  a
• 3:51
  comfortable
• 3:52
  chair
• 3:52
  or
• 3:52
  a
• 3:52
  bench,
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  and
• 3:54
  just
• 3:54
  breathe.
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  You
• 3:56
  know,
• 3:56
  one
• 3:56
  thing
• 3:57
  I
• 3:57
  think
• 3:57
  in
• 3:57
  our
• 3:57
  culture,
• 3:58
  we
• 3:58
  don't
• 3:58
  do
• 3:58
  enough
• 3:58
  of
• 3:58
  is
• 3:59
  just
• 3:59
  concentrated
• 4:00
  breathing.
• 4:02
  I
• 4:02
  don't
• 4:02
  know
• 4:02
  about
• 4:02
  you,
• 4:02
  but
• 4:03
  I
• 4:03
  just
• 4:03
  take
• 4:03
  a
• 4:06
  deep
• 4:06
  breath.
• 4:06
  I
• 4:06
  can
• 4:07
  already
• 4:07
  feel
• 4:07
  it
• 4:07
  myself.
• 4:09
  And
• 4:09
  while
• 4:10
  you're
• 4:10
  breathing,
• 4:10
  pray
• 4:10
  a
• 4:11
  little
• 4:11
  bit.
• 4:12
  Go
• 4:12
  to
• 4:13
  God
• 4:13
  and
• 4:13
  say,
• 4:13
  God,
• 4:13
  you
• 4:13
  know,
• 4:14
  I've
• 4:14
  had
• 4:14
  a
• 4:14
  rough
• 4:14
  day.
• 4:15
  God
• 4:16
  wants
• 4:16
  to
• 4:16
  hear
• 4:16
  from
• 4:16
  you.
• 4:18
  Drink
• 4:18
  some
• 4:18
  water.
• 4:19
  As
• 4:20
  a
• 4:20
  culture,
• 4:20
  I
• 4:20
  don't
• 4:21
  know
• 4:21
  where
• 4:21
  you
• 4:21
  listen
• 4:21
  to
• 4:21
  this
• 4:21
  from,
• 4:22
  but
• 4:22
  I
• 4:22
  think
• 4:22
  everybody,
• 4:23
  we
• 4:23
  live
• 4:23
  in
• 4:23
  this
• 4:23
  constant
• 4:24
  state
• 4:24
  of
• 4:24
  dehydration.
• 4:27
  Maybe
• 4:27
  just
• 4:27
  close
• 4:28
  your
• 4:28
  eyes
• 4:28
  for
• 4:28
  two
• 4:29
  minutes,
• 4:30
  because
• 4:31
  when
• 4:31
  you
• 4:31
  do
• 4:31
  any
• 4:32
  of
• 4:32
  those
• 4:32
  things,
• 4:32
  you're
• 4:33
  signaling
• 4:33
  to
• 4:34
  your
• 4:34
  nervous
• 4:35
  system.
• 4:36
  I'm
• 4:37
  safe.
• 4:39
  I
• 4:39
  can
• 4:39
  slow
• 4:39
  down.
• 4:41
  So
• 4:42
  it
• 4:42
  starts
• 4:42
  there.
• 4:42
  Second
• 4:42
  thing
• 4:43
  I
• 4:43
  want
• 4:43
  you
• 4:43
  to
• 4:43
  do
• 4:44
  is
• 4:44
  to
• 4:44
  separate
• 4:45
  the
• 4:45
  reward
• 4:46
  from
• 4:46
  relief.
• 4:48
  Because
• 4:48
  what's
• 4:49
  interesting
• 4:49
  is
• 4:50
  spending
• 4:50
  gives
• 4:51
  stimulation,
• 4:53
  but
• 4:53
  what
• 4:53
  you
• 4:54
  actually
• 4:54
  need
• 4:54
  is
• 4:54
  regulation.
• 4:56
  I
• 4:56
  know
• 4:56
  that
• 4:57
  sounds
• 4:57
  contradictory,
• 4:58
  right?
• 4:59
  So
• 4:59
  ask
• 5:00
  yourself,
• 5:00
  am
• 5:01
  I
• 5:01
  tired?
• 5:02
  Am
• 5:03
  I
• 5:03
  overstimulated?
• 5:05
  Maybe
• 5:05
  like
• 5:05
  so
• 5:06
  many
• 5:06
  of
• 5:06
  us,
• 5:06
  you're
• 5:06
  just
• 5:06
  emotionally
• 5:07
  drained,
• 5:10
  and
• 5:10
  that
• 5:10
  relief
• 5:11
  doesn't
• 5:12
  need
• 5:12
  to
• 5:12
  be
• 5:12
  spending.
• 5:14
  Sometimes
• 5:14
  it
• 5:14
  really
• 5:15
  feels
• 5:15
  like
• 5:15
  silence.
• 5:17
  Maybe
• 5:17
  you've
• 5:17
  had
• 5:18
  a
• 5:18
  hectic
• 5:18
  day.
• 5:18
  There's
• 5:19
  noise
• 5:19
  all
• 5:19
  around
• 5:19
  you.
• 5:20
  You're
• 5:20
  going
• 5:21
  here
• 5:21
  and
• 5:21
  going
• 5:21
  there.
• 5:22
  Sometimes
• 5:22
  it's
• 5:22
  good
• 5:22
  to
• 5:23
  just
• 5:23
  walk
• 5:24
  and
• 5:24
  just
• 5:24
  sit
• 5:24
  somewhere
• 5:25
  and
• 5:25
  just
• 5:25
  listen
• 5:25
  to
• 5:26
  the
• 5:26
  birds
• 5:26
  or
• 5:26
  just
• 5:27
  listen
• 5:27
  to
• 5:27
  the
• 5:27
  quietness.
• 5:29
  It's
• 5:30
  a
• 5:30
  great
• 5:30
  time
• 5:30
  to
• 5:30
  do
• 5:31
  music.
• 5:31
  Listen.
• 5:31
  One
• 5:32
  of
• 5:32
  the
• 5:32
  things
• 5:32
  that
• 5:32
  we
• 5:32
  do,
• 5:33
  we
• 5:33
  have
• 5:33
  another
• 5:34
  channel
• 5:34
  called
• 5:34
  Truth
• 5:34
  Unveiled
• 5:35
  with
• 5:35
  Ralph.
• 5:35
  I
• 5:35
  encourage
• 5:36
  you
• 5:36
  to
• 5:36
  check
• 5:36
  it
• 5:36
  out.
• 5:36
  But
• 5:36
  we
• 5:37
  release
• 5:37
  a
• 5:37
  show,
• 5:38
  a
• 5:38
  song
• 5:39
  every
• 5:39
  week.
• 5:40
  And
• 5:40
  we've
• 5:41
  done
• 5:41
  country
• 5:41
  music,
• 5:42
  we've
• 5:42
  done
• 5:42
  hard
• 5:43
  rock,
• 5:43
  we've
• 5:43
  done
• 5:44
  spiritual
• 5:44
  gospel.
• 5:45
  We've
• 5:45
  done
• 5:45
  all
• 5:45
  kinds
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  things.
• 5:46
  And
• 5:47
  what
• 5:47
  people
• 5:47
  tell
• 5:47
  me
• 5:48
  every
• 5:48
  day
• 5:48
  is,
• 5:48
  Ralph,
• 5:49
  it's
• 5:49
  really
• 5:49
  helping
• 5:49
  me
• 5:50
  reconnect
• 5:51
  and
• 5:51
  revitalize.
• 5:52
  And
• 5:52
  we
• 5:52
  find
• 5:53
  what's
• 5:53
  important.
• 5:53
  We'll
• 5:53
  put
• 5:53
  a
• 5:53
  link
• 5:54
  to
• 5:54
  that
• 5:54
  in
• 5:54
  the
• 5:54
  show
• 5:54
  notes,
• 5:54
  but
• 5:54
  I
• 5:55
  encourage
• 5:55
  you
• 5:55
  to
• 5:55
  check
• 5:55
  that
• 5:55
  out.
• 5:56
  It's
• 5:56
  on
• 5:56
  YouTube.
• 5:57
  It's
• 5:57
  on
• 5:57
  iTunes.
• 5:58
  You
• 5:58
  can
• 5:58
  get
• 5:58
  it
• 5:58
  on
• 5:59
  Spotify,
• 5:59
  all
• 6:00
  those
• 6:00
  normal
• 6:00
  places.
• 6:02
  Sometimes
• 6:03
  it's
• 6:03
  just
• 6:03
  you
• 6:03
  need
• 6:04
  to
• 6:04
  do
• 6:04
  some
• 6:04
  movement.
• 6:05
  A
• 6:05
  lot
• 6:05
  of
• 6:06
  people
• 6:06
  tell
• 6:06
  me
• 6:06
  after
• 6:06
  a
• 6:07
  hard
• 6:07
  day,
• 6:07
  they
• 6:07
  go
• 6:07
  to
• 6:07
  the
• 6:08
  gym,
• 6:08
  they
• 6:08
  hit
• 6:08
  the
• 6:08
  treadmill,
• 6:09
  or
• 6:09
  they
• 6:09
  hit
• 6:09
  the
• 6:09
  elliptical.
• 6:10
  I'm
• 6:10
  a
• 6:10
  morning
• 6:11
  exercise
• 6:11
  guy.
• 6:12
  If
• 6:12
  I
• 6:12
  don't
• 6:12
  do
• 6:12
  it
• 6:12
  in
• 6:12
  the
• 6:12
  morning,
• 6:12
  I'm
• 6:13
  not
• 6:13
  going
• 6:13
  to
• 6:13
  do
• 6:13
  it.
• 6:14
  Maybe
• 6:15
  this
• 6:15
  is
• 6:15
  a
• 6:15
  great
• 6:15
  time
• 6:15
  to
• 6:15
  have
• 6:16
  some
• 6:16
  conversation
• 6:16
  with
• 6:17
  somebody,
• 6:17
  a
• 6:17
  trusted
• 6:18
  friend,
• 6:18
  a
• 6:18
  spouse
• 6:19
  or
• 6:19
  a
• 6:19
  partner.
• 6:21
  Or
• 6:21
  maybe
• 6:21
  you
• 6:22
  just
• 6:22
  need
• 6:22
  some
• 6:22
  rest.
• 6:24
  You
• 6:24
  don't
• 6:24
  necessarily
• 6:25
  need
• 6:25
  a
• 6:25
  receipt
• 6:26
  for
• 6:26
  that.
• 6:27
  It
• 6:27
  doesn't
• 6:27
  have
• 6:27
  to
• 6:27
  be
• 6:28
  spending.
• 6:29
  Which
• 6:29
  leads
• 6:30
  me
• 6:30
  to
• 6:30
  this
• 6:31
  create
• 6:31
  a
• 6:32
  healthy
• 6:32
  rewards
• 6:33
  list.
• 6:34
  We
• 6:34
  talked
• 6:35
  about
• 6:35
  that.
• 6:35
  Willpower
• 6:36
  isn't
• 6:36
  enough.
• 6:38
  So
• 6:38
  maybe
• 6:38
  for
• 6:38
  you,
• 6:39
  you
• 6:39
  write
• 6:39
  down
• 6:39
  five
• 6:40
  or
• 6:40
  ten
• 6:40
  options.
• 6:41
  I'll
• 6:42
  give
• 6:42
  you
• 6:42
  some
• 6:42
  examples
• 6:43
  right
• 6:43
  now.
• 6:43
  Maybe
• 6:44
  get
• 6:44
  a
• 6:44
  hot
• 6:44
  shower
• 6:45
  and
• 6:45
  listen
• 6:45
  to
• 6:45
  some
• 6:45
  of
• 6:46
  my
• 6:46
  worship
• 6:46
  music.
• 6:48
  Or
• 6:48
  maybe
• 6:48
  take
• 6:49
  a
• 6:49
  10
• 6:49
  minute
• 6:49
  walk
• 6:49
  outside.
• 6:50
  I
• 6:50
  was
• 6:50
  having
• 6:51
  a
• 6:51
  tough
• 6:51
  day
• 6:51
  yesterday.
• 6:52
  The
• 6:52
  end
• 6:52
  of
• 6:53
  tax
• 6:53
  season
• 6:53
  is
• 6:53
  coming
• 6:53
  for
• 6:54
  me
• 6:54
  and
• 6:54
  I'm
• 6:54
  really
• 6:54
  trying
• 6:54
  to
• 6:55
  get
• 6:55
  stuff
• 6:55
  done.
• 6:56
  I
• 6:56
  went
• 6:57
  for
• 6:57
  a
• 6:57
  walk
• 6:57
  outside.
• 6:58
  I
• 6:58
  live
• 6:58
  on
• 6:58
  a
• 6:59
  cow
• 6:59
  farm.
• 6:59
  I
• 7:00
  listened
• 7:00
  to
• 7:00
  the
• 7:00
  cows
• 7:00
  and
• 7:01
  watched
• 7:01
  them
• 7:01
  eating
• 7:01
  grass.
• 7:02
  And
• 7:02
  it
• 7:02
  just
• 7:02
  helped
• 7:03
  me
• 7:03
  focus
• 7:03
  a
• 7:03
  little
• 7:04
  bit.
• 7:05
  Maybe
• 7:05
  call
• 7:05
  somebody
• 7:06
  who
• 7:06
  encourages
• 7:07
  you.
• 7:07
  Or
• 7:07
  text
• 7:07
  with
• 7:07
  somebody
• 7:08
  that
• 7:08
  encourages
• 7:08
  you.
• 7:10
  Maybe
• 7:10
  read
• 7:10
  one
• 7:11
  chapter
• 7:11
  of
• 7:11
  something
• 7:12
  uplifting.
• 7:12
  The
• 7:12
  Bible
• 7:13
  is
• 7:13
  a
• 7:13
  great
• 7:13
  place
• 7:13
  to
• 7:13
  do
• 7:14
  that.
• 7:15
  Maybe
• 7:15
  light
• 7:16
  a
• 7:16
  candle
• 7:16
  and
• 7:16
  write
• 7:17
  down
• 7:17
  your
• 7:17
  thoughts.
• 7:18
  Do
• 7:19
  some
• 7:19
  stretching
• 7:20
  for
• 7:20
  five
• 7:20
  minutes.
• 7:20
  My
• 7:20
  massage
• 7:21
  therapist,
• 7:21
  she
• 7:22
  says,
• 7:22
  Ralph,
• 7:22
  one
• 7:22
  of
• 7:23
  the
• 7:23
  best
• 7:23
  things
• 7:23
  you
• 7:23
  could
• 7:23
  do
• 7:23
  is
• 7:23
  stretch
• 7:24
  your
• 7:24
  body.
• 7:25
  You
• 7:25
  get
• 7:25
  tightened
• 7:26
  up
• 7:26
  during
• 7:26
  the
• 7:26
  day.
• 7:27
  And
• 7:27
  if
• 7:27
  you
• 7:27
  just
• 7:27
  take
• 7:28
  some
• 7:28
  time
• 7:28
  and
• 7:28
  just
• 7:28
  stretch
• 7:29
  it
• 7:29
  out.
• 7:31
  So
• 7:31
  when
• 7:31
  that
• 7:31
  urge
• 7:32
  hits,
• 7:33
  you
• 7:33
  go
• 7:34
  to
• 7:34
  your
• 7:34
  list.
• 7:35
  You're
• 7:35
  not
• 7:35
  improvising
• 7:36
  in
• 7:37
  that
• 7:37
  stressful
• 7:37
  moment.
• 7:39
  But
• 7:39
  of
• 7:40
  course,
• 7:40
  the
• 7:40
  other
• 7:40
  thing
• 7:40
  you've
• 7:40
  got
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  do
• 7:41
  is
• 7:41
  you
• 7:41
  got
• 7:41
  to
• 7:41
  budget
• 7:41
  for
• 7:42
  this
• 7:42
  stuff.
• 7:43
  So
• 7:43
  budget
• 7:43
  for
• 7:44
  intentional
• 7:44
  joy
• 7:44
  in
• 7:45
  your
• 7:45
  life.
• 7:45
  You're
• 7:45
  allowed
• 7:46
  to
• 7:46
  celebrate.
• 7:48
  It's
• 7:48
  okay
• 7:48
  to
• 7:48
  celebrate,
• 7:50
  but
• 7:50
  plan
• 7:51
  it.
• 7:52
  Put
• 7:52
  it
• 7:52
  into
• 7:53
  your
• 7:53
  budget,
• 7:53
  a
• 7:53
  small
• 7:54
  monthly
• 7:54
  category
• 7:55
  for
• 7:55
  guilt
• 7:55
  free
• 7:55
  rewards.
• 7:58
  And
• 7:58
  when
• 7:58
  it's
• 7:59
  planned,
• 8:00
  it's
• 8:00
  peaceful.
• 8:02
  You
• 8:02
  don't
• 8:02
  want
• 8:02
  it
• 8:03
  to
• 8:03
  be
• 8:03
  reactive
• 8:03
  because
• 8:04
  reactivity
• 8:04
  leads
• 8:05
  to
• 8:05
  regret.
• 8:08
  But
• 8:08
  then
• 8:08
  I
• 8:08
  want
• 8:08
  to
• 8:08
  end
• 8:08
  with
• 8:09
  this.
• 8:11
  Re
• 8:11
  anchor
• 8:11
  your
• 8:12
  definition
• 8:12
  of
• 8:12
  rest.
• 8:14
  Think
• 8:15
  about
• 8:15
  what
• 8:15
  Jesus
• 8:16
  said.
• 8:16
  Jesus
• 8:16
  didn't
• 8:17
  say,
• 8:17
  come
• 8:17
  to
• 8:17
  me
• 8:18
  and
• 8:18
  I'll
• 8:18
  give
• 8:18
  you
• 8:18
  distraction.
• 8:19
  He
• 8:20
  never
• 8:20
  said
• 8:20
  that.
• 8:21
  Oh,
• 8:21
  come
• 8:21
  to
• 8:21
  me
• 8:21
  and
• 8:21
  I'll
• 8:22
  give
• 8:22
  you
• 8:22
  distraction.
• 8:22
  No,
• 8:22
  what
• 8:23
  did
• 8:23
  he
• 8:23
  say?
• 8:24
  He
• 8:24
  said,
• 8:24
  come
• 8:24
  to
• 8:25
  me
• 8:25
  and
• 8:25
  I
• 8:25
  will
• 8:26
  give
• 8:26
  you
• 8:27
  rest.
• 8:29
  Real
• 8:30
  rest
• 8:30
  restores
• 8:31
  your
• 8:31
  soul.
• 8:33
  The
• 8:33
  problem
• 8:33
  is
• 8:34
  shopping
• 8:34
  stimulates
• 8:35
  your
• 8:35
  mind.
• 8:37
  And
• 8:37
  there's
• 8:38
  a
• 8:38
  difference.
• 8:38
  There,
• 8:38
  isn't
• 8:38
  there?
• 8:40
  So
• 8:40
  remember
• 8:41
  this.
• 8:41
  Rest
• 8:42
  restores,
• 8:43
  spending
• 8:44
  stimulates.
• 8:45
  And
• 8:45
  what
• 8:45
  do
• 8:45
  you
• 8:46
  really
• 8:46
  want?
• 8:46
  When
• 8:46
  you're
• 8:46
  tired,
• 8:47
  you
• 8:47
  don't
• 8:47
  want
• 8:47
  more
• 8:48
  stimulation.
• 8:49
  You
• 8:49
  want
• 8:49
  rest.
• 8:51
  So
• 8:51
  here's
• 8:51
  your
• 8:52
  win
• 8:52
  for
• 8:52
  today.
• 8:53
  I
• 8:53
  want
• 8:53
  you
• 8:54
  to
• 8:54
  really
• 8:54
  do
• 8:54
  this
• 8:54
  today.
• 8:55
  Write
• 8:55
  your
• 8:55
  10
• 8:55
  minute
• 8:56
  pause
• 8:56
  ritual
• 8:57
  and
• 8:57
  your
• 8:57
  healthy
• 8:58
  reward
• 8:58
  list.
• 9:00
  Put
• 9:00
  pen
• 9:01
  to
• 9:01
  paper,
• 9:01
  put
• 9:01
  it
• 9:01
  on
• 9:01
  your
• 9:02
  phone,
• 9:02
  wherever
• 9:02
  you're
• 9:02
  gonna
• 9:02
  look
• 9:02
  at
• 9:03
  it.
• 9:04
  And
• 9:04
  when
• 9:04
  that
• 9:05
  hard
• 9:05
  Day
• 9:05
  hits,
• 9:07
  you're
• 9:07
  not
• 9:07
  going
• 9:07
  to
• 9:08
  react
• 9:08
  anymore
• 9:08
  because
• 9:09
  you've
• 9:09
  got
• 9:09
  a
• 9:10
  plan.
• 9:11
  Which
• 9:11
  leads
• 9:11
  me
• 9:11
  to
• 9:12
  today's
• 9:12
  Bible
• 9:12
  verse,
• 9:12
  and
• 9:13
  I
• 9:13
  already
• 9:13
  kind
• 9:13
  of
• 9:13
  told
• 9:13
  you
• 9:13
  what
• 9:14
  it
• 9:14
  was
• 9:14
  today.
• 9:15
  It's
• 9:15
  from
• 9:15
  the
• 9:15
  Book
• 9:15
  of
• 9:15
  Matthew,
• 9:16
  chapter
• 9:16
  11,
• 9:17
  verses
• 9:18
  28
• 9:18
  to
• 9:18
  30.
• 9:19
  This
• 9:20
  is
• 9:20
  one
• 9:20
  you
• 9:20
  need
• 9:20
  to
• 9:21
  put
• 9:21
  everywhere.
• 9:22
  Again,
• 9:22
  this
• 9:23
  is
• 9:23
  Jesus
• 9:23
  talking.
• 9:24
  Matthew
• 9:24
  11:28
• 9:25
  30
• 9:25
  says,
• 9:26
  Come
• 9:26
  to
• 9:26
  me,
• 9:27
  all
• 9:27
  of
• 9:27
  you
• 9:27
  who
• 9:28
  are
• 9:28
  weary
• 9:28
  and
• 9:29
  burdened,
• 9:30
  and
• 9:30
  I
• 9:31
  will
• 9:31
  give
• 9:31
  you
• 9:31
  rest.
• 9:33
  Take
• 9:33
  my
• 9:34
  yoke
• 9:34
  upon
• 9:34
  you
• 9:34
  and
• 9:35
  learn
• 9:35
  from
• 9:35
  me,
• 9:36
  for
• 9:37
  I
• 9:37
  am
• 9:37
  gentle
• 9:38
  and
• 9:38
  humble
• 9:38
  in
• 9:38
  heart,
• 9:39
  and
• 9:40
  you
• 9:40
  will
• 9:40
  find
• 9:40
  rest
• 9:41
  for
• 9:41
  your
• 9:41
  souls,
• 9:43
  for
• 9:43
  my
• 9:43
  yoke
• 9:44
  is
• 9:44
  easy
• 9:45
  and
• 9:46
  my
• 9:46
  burden
• 9:46
  is
• 9:47
  light.
• 9:49
  What
• 9:50
  is
• 9:50
  Christ
• 9:50
  telling
• 9:50
  us?
• 9:52
  It's
• 9:53
  a
• 9:53
  beautiful
• 9:53
  thing
• 9:53
  when
• 9:54
  you
• 9:54
  see
• 9:54
  it.
• 9:55
  He's
• 9:55
  telling
• 9:56
  us
• 9:56
  that
• 9:56
  true
• 9:56
  rest
• 9:57
  comes
• 9:57
  from
• 9:58
  him.
• 10:00
  Not
• 10:00
  consumption,
• 10:01
  not
• 10:01
  buying,
• 10:01
  not
• 10:02
  spending.
• 10:03
  True
• 10:04
  rest
• 10:04
  comes
• 10:04
  from
• 10:05
  him.
• 10:06
  So
• 10:07
  lay
• 10:07
  it
• 10:07
  at
• 10:07
  his
• 10:07
  feet.
• 10:08
  Let's
• 10:08
  do
• 10:08
  that
• 10:08
  right
• 10:09
  now,
• 10:09
  together.
• 10:09
  Lord,
• 10:10
  you
• 10:11
  see
• 10:11
  how
• 10:11
  tired
• 10:11
  my
• 10:12
  friend
• 10:12
  is?
• 10:13
  You
• 10:14
  see
• 10:14
  the
• 10:14
  weight
• 10:14
  they're
• 10:14
  carrying?
• 10:15
  You
• 10:15
  see
• 10:15
  the
• 10:15
  temptation
• 10:16
  to
• 10:16
  soothe
• 10:17
  it
• 10:17
  quickly
• 10:17
  with
• 10:17
  spending.
• 10:20
  So,
• 10:20
  Lord,
• 10:20
  right
• 10:20
  now
• 10:20
  we
• 10:21
  just
• 10:21
  ask
• 10:21
  that
• 10:21
  you
• 10:21
  would
• 10:22
  help
• 10:22
  us
• 10:22
  to
• 10:22
  slow
• 10:22
  down,
• 10:24
  help
• 10:24
  us
• 10:24
  to
• 10:25
  find
• 10:25
  real
• 10:25
  rest
• 10:25
  in
• 10:26
  you
• 10:27
  and
• 10:27
  help
• 10:28
  us
• 10:28
  to
• 10:28
  build
• 10:28
  healthier
• 10:29
  rhythms
• 10:29
  that
• 10:29
  restore
• 10:31
  instead
• 10:32
  of
• 10:32
  regret.
• 10:34
  Lord,
• 10:34
  calm
• 10:35
  our
• 10:35
  minds,
• 10:36
  strengthen
• 10:37
  our
• 10:37
  discipline,
• 10:39
  and
• 10:39
  give
• 10:40
  us
• 10:40
  true
• 10:40
  peace
• 10:41
  at
• 10:41
  the
• 10:42
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• 10:42
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• 10:42
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• 10:42
  long
• 10:43
  hard
• 10:43
  days.
• 10:45
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• 10:45
  we
• 10:45
  ask
• 10:45
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• 10:46
  in
• 10:46
  Jesus
• 10:46
  name.
• 10:48
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• 10:51
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• 10:51
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• 10:51
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• 10:52
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• 10:52
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• 10:52
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• 10:53
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• 10:54
  not
• 10:55
  relief
• 10:55
  that
• 10:55
  leads
• 10:56
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• 10:56
  more
• 10:56
  regrets.
• 10:58
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• 10:58
  focus
• 10:58
  on
• 10:59
  that
• 10:59
  today.
• 11:00
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• 11:00
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• 11:01
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• 11:01
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• 11:05
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• 11:05
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• 11:05
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• 11:06
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• 11:09
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• 11:17
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• 11:17
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• 11:28
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• 11:28
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• 11:29
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• 11:29
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• 11:29
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• 11:30
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• 11:30
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• 11:30
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• 11:31
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• 11:31
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• 11:32
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• 11:32
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• 11:33
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• 11:33
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• 11:34
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• 11:34
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