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Blame the Patriarchy Not Me Feat @ShyThugg (Part Two) · So Shameless

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  Speaker 1: If you know what I'm saying, so so shameless, if
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  Speaker 1: you know what I'm sitting, so shameless, if you know
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  Speaker 1: what I'm saying, somous, so shameless, so so so sumous.
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  Speaker 2: If you know what I'm saying, so.
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  Speaker 1: Shameless, if you know what I'm saying, so shameless, if
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  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: So shameless, if you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: So it is, you gotta pay for that stuff. You
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  Speaker 3: gotta pay.
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  Speaker 2: I love that. I love every time I ask my
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  Speaker 2: dad for money, he always sent me five hundred no
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  Speaker 2: matter what I asked for.
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  Speaker 4: I love that.
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  Speaker 2: I'd be like that, can I have two hundred dollars?
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  Speaker 2: He always want them five five thousands.
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  Speaker 5: I hate my daughter, hate my dad even more.
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  Speaker 3: Damn.
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  Speaker 6: I asked that nigga for money back in the days,
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  Speaker 6: and that nigga was asking me to pay him back
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  Speaker 6: for years.
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  Speaker 3: My dad, I need that bag. Actually, when you can pay.
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  Speaker 5: He's like, yo, bro, you dead.
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  Speaker 6: To this day, the nigga will not pick up the
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  Speaker 6: phone and call I have to call him. But since
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  Speaker 6: we've got out of the years of not talking stage,
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  Speaker 6: I do it.
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  Speaker 7: Bucket.
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  Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 7: Anyway, we are back.
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  Speaker 6: We're so shameless here with shy Thug of the Yappy
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  Speaker 6: Hour Show. I blocked ass back in the day.
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  Speaker 5: She had to beg. She had to beg for access.
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  Speaker 3: She begged like temptations bag being.
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  Speaker 7: Spinning in the rain, like tell him, tell him? Unblocked me, Yo,
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  Speaker 7: we cool to do. What did you delete the tweet?
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  Speaker 7: Because they're right there I.
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  Speaker 5: Can find him.
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  Speaker 3: Though. Was there a please?
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  Speaker 7: It was maybe probably made you say.
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  Speaker 3: Please, don't it's been on the sudden.
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  Speaker 7: I please, But I was.
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  Speaker 5: I was being petty and I like her energy. I
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  Speaker 5: was about to say, what since then we have.
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  Speaker 7: Become really close, yoke.
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  Speaker 5: I was just being petty and pisy.
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  Speaker 7: Simple.
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  Speaker 5: At some point when people that.
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  Speaker 3: Crime is nuts, why would you act like that with me?
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  Speaker 2: She just said her birthday was yesterday.
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  Speaker 5: I didn't know at the time years ago.
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  Speaker 3: Jesus, getting blocked is nuts. I didn't even do nothing.
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  Speaker 7: Mind you, you never been blocked by people that you
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  Speaker 7: actually like?
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  Speaker 3: Oh man, she blocked me to.
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  Speaker 7: My nigga.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah well, I asked, which one do y'all think have
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  Speaker 5: better head or better pussy?
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  Speaker 7: Oh wow, can we have that comment?
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  Speaker 5: What do you think?
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  Speaker 8: All right?
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  Speaker 5: I blocked already, like, what are you gonna do?
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  Speaker 3: Jesus Christ, don't get me caught up block me doing.
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  Speaker 6: When we ended the last episode, I said I had
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  Speaker 6: a post talking about safety. We were talking about the
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  Speaker 6: way men can be reckless or whatever, right and Dodge
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  Speaker 6: bought up. We just moved in this way that isn't
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  Speaker 6: very safe. A young lady that I follow did have
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  Speaker 6: something to say about that.
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  Speaker 5: Let's see.
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  Speaker 2: More for the man.
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  Speaker 9: Did your parents got to teach you about stranger danger?
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  Speaker 9: Because if you just met me and you don't know
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  Speaker 9: me from a whole in a will, is.
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  Speaker 10: You constantly trying to give me back to your crib?
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  Speaker 9: The light bulb goes off in my head and that
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  Speaker 9: thought is to fucking rob you.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like, yes, they gotta.
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  Speaker 9: You don't know if what kind of ship I'm wanting?
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  Speaker 9: And you want to invite me into your your.
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  Speaker 10: Space of peace where what is supposed to.
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  Speaker 2: Be your space of peace?
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  Speaker 9: You just want to invite me, and like you don't
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  Speaker 9: know if I'm a psychoaspic?
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  Speaker 3: Hey hard, Okay, what you gonna say? Dramatic pause. I
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  Speaker 3: talked about yesterday, why you are?
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  Speaker 5: Why you yesterday? Why are you bouncing in your s
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  Speaker 5: you got something I didn't know.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't know that's what we was doing. What you
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  Speaker 4: and I know, I didn't know what that's what we
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  Speaker 4: were taking a gold today.
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  Speaker 7: But I see what.
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  Speaker 8: I see what we got going on?
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  Speaker 7: Wait, did you did you invite her into your house? No?
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  Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, no she invites no no, no. I
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  Speaker 4: know who that is though.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, we could tell. Should I read the text
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  Speaker 5: that you just.
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  Speaker 3: Yo?
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  Speaker 2: Why are you like this?
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  Speaker 8: If I'm like, your is not doing this right now?
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  Speaker 2: I know this person with you?
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  Speaker 8: You know, I don't know. I don't know what you know.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know what type of stuff you be on,
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  Speaker 4: So I don't never know what you.
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  Speaker 3: Hell, I know what great?
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  Speaker 7: But I know, now.
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  Speaker 2: What's the point that you're trying to make.
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  Speaker 11: Yes, niggas don't know stranger danger.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all be walking around like everything is cool, and y'all
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  Speaker 2: get lined all the time because y'all stay having strangers
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  Speaker 2: come to your house. Everybody want to link up at
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  Speaker 2: the house. And you know what I hate. I hate
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  Speaker 2: with a nigga invite a bitch to house that they
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  Speaker 2: know they mama live at too, Like, that's not safe
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  Speaker 2: for nobody.
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  Speaker 3: Miss Brimdon.
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  Speaker 7: We talked about this. We talked about this in the
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  Speaker 7: last episode about how Horney niggas are not thinking. Wait,
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  Speaker 7: you don't order, you don't bring cheese back to your crib? Yeah,
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  Speaker 7: of course, So why you said day? I mean, like
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  Speaker 7: past tense, like I'm not in the day right now?
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  Speaker 6: Was a time you dated a chick and thought, let
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  Speaker 6: me not bring it back to the crib because she
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  Speaker 6: might rob me?
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  Speaker 7: Never thought about that because I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Not thinking going on dates no more. You meet no
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  Speaker 3: Instagram and like pull up, I don't even know. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know your last night.
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  Speaker 7: I was never worried about that yesterday.
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  Speaker 2: Is that's something you worry about?
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  Speaker 8: I'm sorry?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, is that something that you worry about?
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  Speaker 5: Now? You're dating, you're single, you're dating.
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  Speaker 6: Do you worry, yo, let me not bring you chick
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  Speaker 6: back to the crib because she might rob me.
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  Speaker 8: I won't even communicate with somebody if I feel like
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  Speaker 8: that's even upon.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, looking, but the thing you don't even know. You
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  Speaker 2: can't decipher what somebody is capable of just by what
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  Speaker 2: they look like, Like, that's.
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  Speaker 11: Not even y'all.
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  Speaker 7: All right, So do you know back to your crib?
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  Speaker 2: It's honestly, never safe. It's not safe until it happened.
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  Speaker 2: Where's the real.
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  Speaker 3: It's a big separation between men and women. Like I
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  Speaker 3: noticed this when men would look and me crazy when
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  Speaker 3: you get if a man get out the car and
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  Speaker 3: go in the corner store, and I locked the door
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  Speaker 3: the car door, of.
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  Speaker 2: Course, because I roll up in this hole and I'm
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  Speaker 2: sitting duck.
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  Speaker 5: I just started taking my keys out of the car.
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  Speaker 3: I'm home. Like, No, it's a big difference in safety
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  Speaker 3: and how women are taught it versus men.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just I don't I don't like putting myself
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  Speaker 2: in a position to ever feel unsafe. You never know
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  Speaker 2: what somebody is capable of. And then that's why y'all
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  Speaker 2: be having a lot of situations and ship would bitches
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  Speaker 2: be fucking up your vehicles, they'd be egging your house.
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  Speaker 11: They be stalking you in all types of shit because.
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  Speaker 5: Everybody hypocrisy is fucking with me.
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  Speaker 11: How is that hypocrisy? You count how many niggas?
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  Speaker 6: I want a man to pick y'all up from your house?
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  Speaker 6: YA want man to send you y'all are giving because
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  Speaker 6: one way to the other, I'm gonna have your address
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  Speaker 6: one way or another unless we're just meeting every time,
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  Speaker 6: you're just meeting me at a bar and disappearing into
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  Speaker 6: the into the mist.
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  Speaker 3: No spot.
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  Speaker 6: But if I'm a grimy nigga like you said, I'm
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  Speaker 6: a grimy nigga, who do you think is more grimy
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  Speaker 6: niggas a woman?
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  Speaker 5: I used to snatch purses to.
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  Speaker 7: Pay for women's for chicks fucking meals.
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  Speaker 3: Chivalry and try to give it a purse.
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  Speaker 2: I can't carry a purse.
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  Speaker 3: Woman chivalrous.
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  Speaker 6: I left her in the bed, went outside, snatched the
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  Speaker 6: purse because you're hungry.
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  Speaker 3: I wasn't we awful thoughtfully. You didn't want to rob
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  Speaker 3: a nigga. She was like you to snatch a purse.
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  Speaker 2: You didn't want to rob a niggas, no question.
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  Speaker 3: Women are This is what I'm talking you, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all are y'all are like really crazy? People answer like
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  Speaker 2: y'all are fucked up in the head.
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  Speaker 7: That is crazy.
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  Speaker 2: It's crazy that you did it. It's crazy that this
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  Speaker 2: nigga said I need an easy victory. It's crazy that
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  Speaker 2: you robbed the woman and gave another woman to try
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  Speaker 2: to give another woman a purse. And then you're talking
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  Speaker 2: y'all niggas are not okay.
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  Speaker 7: By the way, but I can understand thirty some years
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  Speaker 7: ago what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: Does that make the crime?
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  Speaker 7: Listen, when you're.
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  Speaker 6: Young, I was a wan and everybody was a Wyan
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  Speaker 6: at one point. But at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 6: who's everybody?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 7: I'm trying to Yes, you did of his peace.
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  Speaker 2: But.
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  Speaker 3: There nigga ain't got no peace. They can't even stay peaceful.
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  Speaker 2: Niggas don't even know the difference a piece and a piece.
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  Speaker 5: We're gonna speak about you and peace, talk about it.
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  Speaker 3: Niggas is fighting demons world. I'm gonna start fighting.
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  Speaker 6: They are saying that y'all, y'all should men should not
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  Speaker 6: bring women back to their crib.
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  Speaker 5: But we be knowing where y'all live at I'm.
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  Speaker 12: Confused, Ye, not a first date. I'm dropping you off
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  Speaker 12: at home. I'm home in You're not okay, so.
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  Speaker 7: Telling me that on my block?
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  Speaker 2: But first date, like a random person, you're not dropping
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  Speaker 2: me service.
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  Speaker 6: I've had a woman tell me an address and I
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  Speaker 6: pull up to the address and she come walking down
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  Speaker 6: the block. Yes, and I'm looking at my rear because
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  Speaker 6: I'm around around.
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  Speaker 2: This is what we learned.
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  Speaker 5: This is.
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  Speaker 2: This is what I've always learned. I always learned, always
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  Speaker 2: keep twenty dollars in your wallet just in case you
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  Speaker 2: got to take a cab home, because you cannot rely
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  Speaker 2: on anybody to take you from point A to point B.
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  Speaker 2: When you're going to a date, you go to the
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  Speaker 2: date and if the date goes well, then maybe they
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  Speaker 2: can drop you home. But they don't have to. If
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  Speaker 2: they put you in the uber, that's perfectly fine. You
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  Speaker 2: never give them your exact address. You give them a
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  Speaker 2: couple of doors down or around the corner. These are
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  Speaker 2: the things that I've learned growing up. Nobody just got
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  Speaker 2: my address off ripped, like you're a bugging.
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  Speaker 5: Life is in the comments. Your women lie?
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  Speaker 7: How do you lie?
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  Speaker 5: And it's me yo.
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  Speaker 2: You ever had somebody trying to lie to you about
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  Speaker 2: something you you was?
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  Speaker 7: How are you lying? She knows?
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  Speaker 2: I know, you know, I know, because everybody knows. First
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  Speaker 2: day picked you up from the crib.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes it's about learning in the hallway as well as Hey,
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  Speaker 3: I've had.
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  Speaker 2: Ye Also, that's also another thing, like always like I
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  Speaker 2: would take pictures of niggas cars and send it to
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  Speaker 2: my friends in the group chat. I would literally be
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  Speaker 2: like I'm going out with this person. Here's his handle,
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  Speaker 2: here's his Twitter.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, y'all do all of that?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, not no more because they got my location now.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, yeah, I show people who I'm going.
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  Speaker 2: I tried my sims.
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  Speaker 3: I always know where my friends a moment. Motherfuckers is crazy.
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  Speaker 7: So not only have I never done any of that,
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  Speaker 7: but I've never experienced a women on the other end
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  Speaker 7: not being willing to disclose her location. Maybe I've been lucky.
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  Speaker 7: Maybe it's kind of like yesterday, I've the discernment of
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  Speaker 7: people that I've chose to date, even if it's one
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  Speaker 7: night staying or it's never like some wild where she was?
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  Speaker 7: That is a appearing that she could be on that type.
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  Speaker 3: Of lif Long does somebody know where I'm at?
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  Speaker 11: I think somebody knew where she was.
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  Speaker 2: There is a group chat that was like, oh, I'm
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  Speaker 2: going out with this nigga and I'm coming to this
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  Speaker 2: location that like me and my friends, we don't play
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  Speaker 2: with that safety shit.
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  Speaker 3: Them lovely ladies know where I'm at at all times.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, they play security right now, you can share locations.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but even then, I remember, back in the day,
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  Speaker 2: I remember going out on dates. I remember saying like, Yo,
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  Speaker 2: this is his Instagram, this is his Twitter. I'm going
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  Speaker 2: out with this person to this place, and if we're leaving,
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  Speaker 2: I'm texting a group chat like, oh Dick going good?
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  Speaker 2: Were about to do?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah? So let me ask you. Do you'all agree with
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  Speaker 7: this young lady that a man should not invite to
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  Speaker 7: his script for one extent, for if.
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  Speaker 2: They just meant I think that I think that that
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  Speaker 2: is something that that should be handled with care and
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  Speaker 2: should not be something that happens often, especially the way
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  Speaker 2: that y'all be talking about how bitches be crazy and
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  Speaker 2: you can't really break up with a girl because she's
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  Speaker 2: gonna do this, that and the third then why she
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  Speaker 2: knows all your ship is.
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  Speaker 7: I don't disagree with y'all. What's the alternative?
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  Speaker 11: The alternative is that you're not smashing on the first
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  Speaker 11: night like you can want to.
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  Speaker 2: Want to you could and.
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  Speaker 3: See how you don't know these people to be inviting
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  Speaker 3: them in your space is so.
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  Speaker 6: You got to know how she acts after Dick? Whoa
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  Speaker 6: women change after Dick?
• 13:50
  Speaker 7: So do men?
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  Speaker 6: To be honest, men be changing after this. I know
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  Speaker 6: that once I hit you might see a whole different
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  Speaker 6: version of me. After I hit So why trying to
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  Speaker 6: make me gay?
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  Speaker 7: For I can't even see.
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  Speaker 11: Question to ask questions. I didn't make no assumption.
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  Speaker 2: I just asked the women.
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  Speaker 5: So you're trying to tell me that I should wait
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  Speaker 5: until after I had to see how crazy she gets
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  Speaker 5: before she knows.
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  Speaker 2: That's what you heard by by golly friends.
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  Speaker 7: On the first night. So you're saying, just don't smash
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  Speaker 7: in the first name.
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  Speaker 3: You don't have to.
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  Speaker 2: You don't have to prerequisite of the date.
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  Speaker 7: Y'all know that, right, But I'm just like Tom said,
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  Speaker 7: he does it all the time. Like sometimes it's like
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  Speaker 7: we adults, we've grown folks. We're talking about consensual sex
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  Speaker 7: between grown adults. Sometimes the vibes vibing. But y'all saying never.
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm not saying never. I'm just saying it doesn't
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  Speaker 2: have that's not the norm. It doesn't have to be
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  Speaker 2: the norm of expert. It's okay to invite somebody else
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  Speaker 2: to go out on a date, to have a good time,
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  Speaker 2: and everybody go back home and then continue to revisit
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  Speaker 2: and cultivate the situation instead of having a stranger in
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  Speaker 2: peed your space one way or another.
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  Speaker 3: Because then it creates the thought, how can you be
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  Speaker 3: doing this?
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  Speaker 2: That ship is scary?
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  Speaker 7: Then you bring three times?
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  Speaker 3: You don't know the lady she in your house had
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  Speaker 3: eight times out of it, and it was.
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  Speaker 5: The things was around first go back then I had
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  Speaker 5: a game course, so well you know, she not robbing me?
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  Speaker 6: Wash, I had one take one of my watches back then,
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  Speaker 6: Good for you, but it was I couldn't wrong.
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  Speaker 3: I learned my list in the whole way.
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  Speaker 2: I had a nigga steal from me too, so.
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  Speaker 3: Money from me after I invited him into my home.
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  Speaker 2: Same thing happened, a lot of money.
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  Speaker 3: It was in a jewelry case. It was like a
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  Speaker 3: little jewelry box. I had some cash on me and
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  Speaker 3: I just put it in my jewely box.
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  Speaker 7: Was it the first date of somebody that you know
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  Speaker 7: for a while.
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  Speaker 3: We had talked for a while and went out, but
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  Speaker 3: he had never been to my house. And so the
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: first time you put in my house, you steal bitch.
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: Same thing happened to.
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  Speaker 5: Me and at he beat.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so we can we any boys up?
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  Speaker 3: The thought you stole it while I was in the bathroom,
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  Speaker 3: Like that's some whole ass ship. I told him, like
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  Speaker 3: years later than the club.
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  Speaker 7: We chicked this ship, but you stolen them, stolen, had
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  Speaker 7: somebody else stealing?
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  Speaker 3: Somebody stepped in front of me, but I was talking ship.
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  Speaker 2: Nigga took your wallet and your ugs. A nigga stilling
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  Speaker 2: your ugs is diabolical.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 2: Their ugs blood?
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: Nah?
• 16:31
  Speaker 7: I've heard big ass feet. Are you nigga? Is still
• 16:36
  Speaker 7: your Yes?
• 16:42
  Speaker 6: I feel like you can't give you could give a
• 16:43
  Speaker 6: purse way Unlessard's brand new was a brand new. This
• 16:48
  Speaker 6: is fat was a brand new. Stealing ugs was theus
• 16:53
  Speaker 6: We need to know.
• 16:53
  Speaker 7: Real niggas.
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: Noticed that he put them in his paint.
• 17:00
  Speaker 5: Fat niggas you deal with that's crazy. There's a reason.
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: But you really gotta also understand, like the economy is bad,
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: niggas are really fucked up, niggas are really poor. Like,
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: stop inviting people, stop inviting people to y'all not in
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: twenty twenty six. It's not safe, right.
• 17:21
  Speaker 6: I completely disagree, obviously, but I do understand the need
• 17:24
  Speaker 6: for safety.
• 17:25
  Speaker 5: I just don't think.
• 17:27
  Speaker 7: First of all, men don't care about whether we get
• 17:30
  Speaker 7: y'all pregnant, Like we.
• 17:31
  Speaker 6: Just we're going with no condom. We don't think about
• 17:34
  Speaker 6: the consequences. We don't think about STDs.
• 17:38
  Speaker 7: It was very rare to the man. No, I'm not.
• 17:41
  Speaker 6: I'm speaking about men in general. Aren't gonna ask to
• 17:46
  Speaker 6: see your screen, your medical screen. And I can see
• 17:48
  Speaker 6: actually in my chart, men are not thinking about something
• 17:51
  Speaker 6: you knowing some niggas.
• 17:52
  Speaker 7: Yo. I was talking to my homegirl at my job.
• 17:56
  Speaker 6: She was telling me how like when niggas violate her,
• 17:59
  Speaker 6: she hasniggas that go pop up on a nigga away
• 18:04
  Speaker 6: from this situation, like they she finds out they info
• 18:08
  Speaker 6: and the niggas will find them, follow them to somewhere
• 18:11
  Speaker 6: and take care of business. And I'm like, how many
• 18:13
  Speaker 6: times have you done this? And she said as many
• 18:15
  Speaker 6: times as it's been needed several?
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: I said, yo, women, And what yo?
• 18:22
  Speaker 6: If you scroll, if you go back to my time
• 18:24
  Speaker 6: on Twitter, I said this like two three weeks ago, y'all.
• 18:26
  Speaker 7: She's putting hits out on this putting out hits.
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: You deserve it, not get hits put out exactly. You're
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: doing horrible ship and now you got consequence.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: I don't see the problem.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: Mafia style, what's the problem.
• 18:43
  Speaker 6: It wasn't that horrible one nigga. We was that she
• 18:47
  Speaker 6: works right, We worked in the same thing. And while
• 18:51
  Speaker 6: she was out there working, a nigga said something she
• 18:53
  Speaker 6: ain't like, and she said to him, you really said
• 18:56
  Speaker 6: that to a stranger while you're standing in front of.
• 18:58
  Speaker 5: Your house, Be blessed.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: I love that.
• 19:01
  Speaker 6: Took a picture of them, click, sent it to the people, dude.
• 19:07
  Speaker 6: They sent the picture back with him laid out in
• 19:09
  Speaker 6: his front yard street.
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: Just what you're putting out it. This isn't somebody that
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: grabbed your butt like you. Yeah, I don't, don't.
• 19:19
  Speaker 11: Talk to me crazy.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: But what a lot of men don't understand, and what
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: they need to understand from the youth, is most women
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: have somebody a niggas specifically, that's willing to die for them.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: So if you not willing to die for what you're
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: about to do it, what's about to come out of
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: your mouth? You need to tread lightly. That's the problem.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: Niggas don't have enough fear, y'all. Just walk around, y'all
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: think because you you were born with a penis that
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: that gives you this this autonomy to say whatever, do whatever?
• 19:46
  Speaker 11: Yes, start you know what?
• 19:48
  Speaker 7: I like her?
• 19:49
  Speaker 11: She is an example. She is the exemplar. Let's start
• 19:51
  Speaker 11: laughing like that, yo, I keep saying like everybody, everybody
• 19:56
  Speaker 11: want to say whatever they want to say, and they
• 19:57
  Speaker 11: think that.
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: They should be able to rest their heads at the
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: end of the night safely and know y'all niggas walking
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: around you you're not you're not scared of that.
• 20:04
  Speaker 7: A little irresponsible.
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: Bring bullying back, whooping these niggas as.
• 20:10
  Speaker 7: That's my point. Like said, no hands was put grabbing
• 20:13
  Speaker 7: nobody your mouth.
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: You don't think abuse is still abuse.
• 20:16
  Speaker 7: You don't think that you're putting your homeboys in way
• 20:19
  Speaker 7: that he could have been shooting back.
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: It could have been they.
• 20:23
  Speaker 7: Win, they win in jail whatever.
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: When people say I know it's somebody that don't about you,
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: it's not just the same.
• 20:30
  Speaker 7: But you don't put those people in homes way just
• 20:32
  Speaker 7: because they don't.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: Obviously they don't have much to lose if they if
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: they're here on on call. That's why you need to.
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: You have to keep one in the hood.
• 20:42
  Speaker 5: Every now losses.
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: It's right shop as.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: I'm afraid for them.
• 20:50
  Speaker 11: Keep them prayed up, they covered sanctified.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: Hello, I'm sorry. It's too many men that walk around
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: and just feel like they could just do whatever, say whatever,
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: just because like you, I will slap the ship out
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: of your mother, and then.
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: What damn his bring to keep catching straights.
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: I said that to somebody the other day. Some little
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: fucking troll bitch was in my d MS. One of
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: these little fucking people from the comments said some wild
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: ship to me in the DM. I was like, send
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: your mother, Just send your mother, like I don't even
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: have the time. I will fuck your mother up. You
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: look like you're seventeen years old. Send your accent is
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: really doing it for me. Nobody got nothing to say so.
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: Much so rough that I love that.
• 21:30
  Speaker 7: I think the all of the story is niggas have
• 21:33
  Speaker 7: high risk tolerance, okay, and so they're willing to.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: Listen red high insurance. Dating experiences is gambling. That's crazy.
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: But you know, everybody, the.
• 21:46
  Speaker 7: Whole dating experience, niggas is rolling the dice like TOYL says.
• 21:49
  Speaker 7: Pregnancy scares is spending money without getting a return on
• 21:52
  Speaker 7: your investments.
• 21:53
  Speaker 11: The return on the investment of spending money just say,
• 21:56
  Speaker 11: I just want to hear it.
• 21:58
  Speaker 7: It could be what is it.
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: Give me me to? Could be a multitude.
• 22:06
  Speaker 7: One.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: Whatever your goals, Okay, Okay, politics.
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: Is usual politically correct.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: I don't have the time.
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: I've been buying strangers to your house for Keep inviting
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: strangers to your house.
• 22:22
  Speaker 7: What's the alternatives? Stop having said you're gonna spend outside,
• 22:25
  Speaker 7: Like what you mean outside?
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: Take your hands outside and get to know somebody you
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: don't have. Why you are such a y'all, ain't no reason.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: Y'all is such a rush fun y'all, ain't no real
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: hilarious y'all don't give.
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: Asked like wait, hold on, but you got a whole
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: block in her purse.
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: Y'all don't even know you.
• 22:44
  Speaker 7: Just like pull up that man from that stole from you.
• 22:47
  Speaker 7: You've had several conversations with him.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: It's not not.
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: Several, Know you're saying like building a rapport.
• 22:54
  Speaker 7: I'm saying like, it's not like I literally just met
• 22:57
  Speaker 7: you in the d MS and the first thing I'm
• 22:59
  Speaker 7: doing is send you to address. You're going to have
• 23:01
  Speaker 7: in exchange first, whether it's a conversation or text, I
• 23:03
  Speaker 7: meet you at a bar something, it's some exchange that
• 23:06
  Speaker 7: happens before we just linking up at the crib.
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: Are you doing but okay, you're doing this with everybody.
• 23:12
  Speaker 7: Everybody. You're trying to have sex with it immediately.
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: Jesus fucking Christ. So you're doing it with the whole hood,
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: either that or.
• 23:17
  Speaker 7: What you're gonna get a hotel or you're just not
• 23:20
  Speaker 7: having sex.
• 23:20
  Speaker 11: And this is why they had this smell app This
• 23:22
  Speaker 11: is exactly why.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: And all you gotta do is post a nigga naven
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: be like, yo, this nigga live here and you got
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: fifty bitches. Yeah, I know that place.
• 23:28
  Speaker 7: I know that place, and these situations don't apply to me.
• 23:32
  Speaker 7: I'm forty nine years old. But when I'm twenty five
• 23:34
  Speaker 7: and you out and your main objective is trying to
• 23:36
  Speaker 7: get you some, do you know you have a high
• 23:39
  Speaker 7: tolerance risk.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: I'm so happy that the Lord never blessed me with
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: a son, because I'm telling you, I would literally be
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: one of the mothers, Like, don't you be bringing no
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: random bitches in my house?
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: No, facts, don't be that's crazy until you get your
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: own ship to bring scrap.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: When I think about it all in retrospect of just
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: like my twenties and like how many niggas houses I
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: went to in a mall in the I'm just like ill,
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: yeah as a mother now right, but we were like
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: in our twenty so I get it. But however, I'm
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: just like, yo, this is crazy, Like if I really
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: wanted to get crazy, I'm going to get crazy in
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: here with your moms down the.
• 24:13
  Speaker 7: Hall thinking about that.
• 24:15
  Speaker 5: Yeah, yup, y'are speaking about.
• 24:23
  Speaker 6: Fear, and you know, obviously I always got a clip
• 24:26
  Speaker 6: for everything. Right, A young lady said this in regard
• 24:30
  Speaker 6: to relationships. We're gonna get into relationship talk for the
• 24:32
  Speaker 6: last couple of minutes that we have here.
• 24:34
  Speaker 5: Right, Let's see, I'm telling you.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: A relationship only works out if you're mine.
• 24:42
  Speaker 7: Faisi.
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: I love it.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: And he's even allowing his mom to be commenting on
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: his ex fiction.
• 24:49
  Speaker 9: It's not going to work out when you enter a relationship.
• 24:52
  Speaker 9: The dating period should just be you instilling fear, you know,
• 24:56
  Speaker 9: just start over with the next guy.
• 24:57
  Speaker 7: Do you know how many.
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: Sexy guys are in.
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's sexy. What Scotlan's don't getting knocked
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: out with? That's sexy?
• 25:08
  Speaker 7: Get rich live on.
• 25:13
  Speaker 9: Remember find that ex husband on Facebook?
• 25:16
  Speaker 7: Yes?
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: Oh, can I give context on this video because I
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: think that video was funny as fuck. So like they're
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: Shorty was asking for advice, and what the white girl
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: was saying in that video was like her boyfriend's mom
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: is still cool with his ex and still be liking
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: her pictures and ship on Instagram and on social media.
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: So they were like, Yo, that's mad, crazy and mad disrespectful.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: And the boyfriend wasn't feeling the same way. He was like, Yo,
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: they don't fuck with you.
• 25:41
  Speaker 7: You need to move on.
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: From that man. So I guess she voiced it to
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: the boyfriend voiced it to the mother. Nobody is on
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: her side, so it's making her feel like stir crazy,
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Like am I bugging? Because like your mother still has
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: this relationship and rapport with your ex and that shit
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: is inappropriate in her standpoint. So when Neela is saying like, yo,
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: find her ex husband on Instagram and start liking all
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: his pictures and seeing she find it to be inappropriate
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: or not like inappropriate?
• 26:08
  Speaker 7: What part my mother still be a cool mas?
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: That's my niggas mamas? Beat the ups? Are you never
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: your friend?
• 26:13
  Speaker 5: Bro?
• 26:13
  Speaker 7: No? I don't understand what what what the fuck they
• 26:15
  Speaker 7: got to do with anything?
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: Miss Brenda is not on your side?
• 26:18
  Speaker 11: What does it have to do that's disrespectful?
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: If I'm your mother has my ex, if I'm your
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: girl and I'm with you, now and that makes me
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: feel uncomfortable. And I am the next person in line.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: You're I'm insecure.
• 26:34
  Speaker 6: Yes, if it makes you feel insecure what my mother
• 26:36
  Speaker 6: is doing, but you're insecure.
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: Her other point was that the mother never liked none
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: of her pictures or nothing. So the mother don't with
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: the girlfriend at all on social media, but my moms
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: to like your picture.
• 26:48
  Speaker 7: Talking about you.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: The same person that was talking all of that ship
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: two weeks ago about the internet and how Instagram is
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: a date insight and and this is the streets now,
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: ain't fucking you? This is what this is what I'll
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: be saying.
• 27:02
  Speaker 7: What are we talking about?
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: But when I say I used to like niggas, that
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: didn't no?
• 27:05
  Speaker 7: Shot, yo, shot? Can you have a rip?
• 27:07
  Speaker 5: Listen?
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
• 27:08
  Speaker 7: Separate yourself from nonsense.
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: You're telling me.
• 27:13
  Speaker 12: That my mother liking my exes picture all happen. There's
• 27:17
  Speaker 12: a problem for the chick I'm with today. That's something
• 27:20
  Speaker 12: to talk about on the podcast.
• 27:21
  Speaker 11: Let me ask you a question.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: If my father, my father liked all my exes pictures
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: that me and you together and don't don't even fuck
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: with you at all, You're not gonna feel the type
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: of way. No, you're a fucking lion.
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: T you.
• 27:32
  Speaker 7: I don't even my father.
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: What I said?
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: My father, I said, if we're together, and my father
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: literally is on Instagram under all of my exes pictures,
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: You're not gonna feel away? Lie again?
• 27:49
  Speaker 7: Why would I know that? You will know? Why would
• 27:52
  Speaker 7: I know that?
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: Okay, now all of a sudden, anybody in here yesterday,
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: I'm bugging post moving?
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: Why am I under your exes picture? Looking at your
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: dad's likes?
• 28:12
  Speaker 7: Where the kids?
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: I don't care how I found out?
• 28:15
  Speaker 5: Have I gotten you flowers?
• 28:17
  Speaker 7: Like? What?
• 28:17
  Speaker 5: What the fuck is we talking about?
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: What are your mothers? You must not be your mother?
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: What's your mama?
• 28:27
  Speaker 7: Your mother? My mother is being a fucking Christian.
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: By liking she had apport with my ex She don't care.
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: So you got you gotta have a conversation and Hi,
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: how are you doing? Just making sure you're good? You
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: fucking dick sucking? My ex under your mother is an
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: op and a dick sucker?
• 28:44
  Speaker 5: Now what YO.
• 28:50
  Speaker 10: Is?
• 28:52
  Speaker 7: So obviously with all these clips is a lot of
• 28:55
  Speaker 7: context missing. Right, So because there's context missing, I can
• 29:01
  Speaker 7: see both sides. Like Tahoe said, if if this is
• 29:05
  Speaker 7: an issue, there's clearly some insecurities that play here. Let's
• 29:08
  Speaker 7: not just throw that away and the other thing. I
• 29:12
  Speaker 7: will acknowledge that if you are insecure about this and
• 29:15
  Speaker 7: you're my partner, I'm actually gonna care about that, and
• 29:18
  Speaker 7: I might do I might do something about it. But
• 29:20
  Speaker 7: we can't deny that there's some insecurities I play because,
• 29:23
  Speaker 7: like Toy said, why is this an issue? My mom
• 29:26
  Speaker 7: is liking a picture on Facebook or whatever.
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: Pictures all of her picture.
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: I like how it gets diminished.
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: I said, all of her pictures, And she said specifically
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: because I watched the whole thing. Shorty said that the
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: mother never gives her the same energy. She don't like
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: her pictures. She don't comment on me like that.
• 29:42
  Speaker 11: She but they what do you mean?
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: Like they have been in a relationship for a minute.
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: This is not some brand new shit. We're being serious, Like,
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: let let's let's be let's be very dead ass. If
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: we're in a relationship. I would expect that there would
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: be an upper trajectory in a relationship. First start talking,
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: Then you're start dating your boyfriend and girlfriend, you've met
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: the family, that engagement, marriage boom, like that should be
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: the trajectory line, and if it doesn't make it there,
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: that's perfectly fine, but that should be the line of
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: when you're getting a relationship and what you're trying to do.
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: How the fuck am I here with you loving on
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: your child, being in a relationship with your child, probably
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: seeing a future with your child, and you're still stuck
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: in the past, dick sucking his ex. How do you
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: think that makes me feel? Not only as somebody that
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: is here every day, but as somebody that loves your child.
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: And even if you don't fuck with me for whatever reason,
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: if I have a problem with it, it should cease
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: to happen. It should cease to continue because there's a
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: there is a disconnect and a discomfortability here for me,
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: and that shit is not okay. That shit is not okay.
• 30:48
  Speaker 5: You were here, Lola, was here? Am I right?
• 30:52
  Speaker 6: When the mother hooked up? Yes, the baby mother, Yeah,
• 30:58
  Speaker 6: with somebody from her job.
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: Her son's baby mother. She got a man, her business like,
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: and that's what I'm saying, mother's gotta stay out of
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: That's weird. That's weird. I think like the major.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: Business acknowledge that Mama's is pity as wholes just like
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: you acknowledge a regular pity ass whole on the street.
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: Women ain't stupid. You know, I can see you liking
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: this bitch pictures. That's not liking this bitch pictures, Miss Brindle.
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: Now I got to cut you know, I'm gonna kiss
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: your ex husband and your mama.
• 31:28
  Speaker 7: Why do I even know that she's liking.
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: Not liking? Mind you think she's not doing.
• 31:35
  Speaker 7: That shit page to see who's like?
• 31:38
  Speaker 11: You don't know, you don't know the dynamic. I don't
• 31:39
  Speaker 11: know that part of the story.
• 31:41
  Speaker 7: I don't.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: Pictures matters.
• 31:49
  Speaker 13: That's not all investigator, and you're about the If you're
• 31:54
  Speaker 13: gonna say that, y'all know women, You the type of
• 31:57
  Speaker 13: women that's going back and looking at your there's something
• 32:01
  Speaker 13: to that.
• 32:02
  Speaker 7: There's something to that.
• 32:03
  Speaker 6: If you're gonna say that, you know, if you're gonna say,
• 32:06
  Speaker 6: we know women, you know that there's something to women
• 32:09
  Speaker 6: that go and search and and pay attention to the
• 32:11
  Speaker 6: old chick to see what you liked about it, To
• 32:14
  Speaker 6: see if you're still liking the pictures, see if she's suffering.
• 32:17
  Speaker 7: You like, Yeah, y'all do that? No mast funny memes,
• 32:22
  Speaker 7: she's funny.
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: You're at a mad source y'are at a mad source
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: and you're putting it on the woman and the fact
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: that right the mother. The issue is the mother not
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: keeping boundaries. The issue is the mother making the girlfriend
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: feel uncomfortable, comfortable. I just explained it.
• 32:39
  Speaker 6: She's on somebody else's page, minding there, minding their own business.
• 32:44
  Speaker 7: How that something with you?
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: You're actually doing something to you.
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: Know, without the pictures, with or without the pictures. Your
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: mama don't fuck with me. She don't respect me up
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: in here. I'll try to act like that. Ship don't
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: matter matters people. It definitely matters to some people, whether
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: they're parents, are people who they approval from with your
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: your significance, very disrespect.
• 33:04
  Speaker 7: Disagree with y'all. I'm just saying there's a lot of
• 33:06
  Speaker 7: facts play on both sides, and you gotta acknowledge. You
• 33:10
  Speaker 7: have to acknowledge the insecurities because if you don't, then
• 33:12
  Speaker 7: now you're the man is obligated to now just move
• 33:16
  Speaker 7: at the whim of your.
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: Security relationship.
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: With me and I feel a way about.
• 33:22
  Speaker 7: It, but it's cool because you're a private investigator on
• 33:25
  Speaker 7: my excess page. Is happening.
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: No, it's fine. We're gonna we can have that shore. Yes, yes,
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: and and Mike Nell said, go find her ex husband
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: on Instagram, go like all of his pictures and see
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: if she keep the same energy. Now, this woman to women, you're.
• 33:42
  Speaker 6: Gonna be sing I start seeing you moving like that,
• 33:44
  Speaker 6: regardless of whether anything like, then you're gonna get You're.
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: Gonna get mad at your woman, but not your mother, right.
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: Because your mother, but your mama actions out your mother.
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: I can't sit down and have a talk. I can't.
• 33:56
  Speaker 7: I don't want to be in that toxic relation.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: This is.
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: I can't say ship.
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: I can't say nothing got mom.
• 34:07
  Speaker 5: This is what you honestly always damn.
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: I wish she was with that respect for women.
• 34:14
  Speaker 6: Y'all be having issues with women. Y'all have like these
• 34:17
  Speaker 6: really like your mother has an issue with me and.
• 34:20
  Speaker 7: She's a woman, so maybe, But men.
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: Can finish like YO can say your mother corny?
• 34:27
  Speaker 5: Though?
• 34:28
  Speaker 7: Can you get a full sentence off?
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: I think two things could be true.
• 34:32
  Speaker 11: But I gave them. I gave y'all everything. I said,
• 34:37
  Speaker 11: you got it, you got it.
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: But can we also say that the mother is corny?
• 34:41
  Speaker 6: Men don't like this ship, bro, this is ship that
• 34:45
  Speaker 6: I remember I was dating this woman remember when I
• 34:47
  Speaker 6: was dating the go and the same time right to
• 34:52
  Speaker 6: she was my mother, So I wasn't dating her, but
• 34:55
  Speaker 6: I was.
• 34:55
  Speaker 5: I was living there like that was like my home base,
• 34:58
  Speaker 5: and I had a girlfriend.
• 34:59
  Speaker 7: My home base and my girlfriend who I was with.
• 35:02
  Speaker 7: But sometimes I just go to my beebo crib.
• 35:04
  Speaker 5: And that's just what it was that I was in
• 35:05
  Speaker 5: the street. I was doing what I was.
• 35:08
  Speaker 7: It was when it was.
• 35:10
  Speaker 5: I had no idea that they were at war behind
• 35:12
  Speaker 5: the scenes.
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: Why wouldn't Why wouldn't tar random mean to be a war?
• 35:17
  Speaker 5: Yes, I had no idea, and you them both, I
• 35:22
  Speaker 5: had no idea.
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: I had.
• 35:27
  Speaker 6: I just they were calling each other. One had the
• 35:31
  Speaker 6: other one robbed by gunpoint.
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: She had you robbed. Well, it was she got for
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: forty minutes straight, Like, boy, that's aggressive.
• 35:45
  Speaker 6: But I didn't know, like y'all be doing ship to
• 35:48
  Speaker 6: irritate each other, women like literally having the same niggas just.
• 35:53
  Speaker 7: Get at it.
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: Oblivious. Why wouldn't you every nothing is ever happening. It's
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: very sick if I don't know.
• 36:05
  Speaker 7: See this is the thing she's saying that.
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: You don't know what's going on with none of the bitches.
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: Stress.
• 36:12
  Speaker 6: We got two chicks on the couch, one in the kitchen,
• 36:14
  Speaker 6: like ken niggas talking around this house.
• 36:19
  Speaker 7: If you're not gonna tell me, nobody's telling me that
• 36:21
  Speaker 7: this war is happened.
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: Somebody have to tell you. Not the fu to women
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: at the.
• 36:26
  Speaker 6: I was fucking both. They were giving me consents. What
• 36:31
  Speaker 6: what they both knew? I was dealing with them for years?
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: What do you mean I have?
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: This wasn't months years.
• 36:38
  Speaker 3: I can't believe the house.
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: I was with them both for years.
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: Make when the.
• 36:46
  Speaker 6: Jumped out the car, it because I was driving her
• 36:48
  Speaker 6: car to drop myself off at my baby house.
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: And you still care fucking with both of them even
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: after you miserable.
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: I didn't know chaos because like as much as they
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: swear that they like peace, they actually like chaos. And
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: they like to gaslight when people set boundaries and when
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: people are very clear about what they're willing to accept
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: them what they're not willing to accept, and then it's like,
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: oh you're nagging, Oh you're doing too much, Oh you
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: got a problem. Everybody in your life is above reproach.
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: Everybody in your life can do whatever the fuck and
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: say whatever the fuck. But the minute that the woman
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: in your life is saying that I'm uncomfortable by this.
• 37:22
  Speaker 11: I feel something about this.
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: Oh you're insecure.
• 37:25
  Speaker 6: How am I supposed to do about my mother? I'm
• 37:27
  Speaker 6: supposed to tell my mother? Yo, she feels the girl
• 37:29
  Speaker 6: that I'm with. Yeah, she's gonna be like she's insecure.
• 37:33
  Speaker 6: I've known this other woman for four years. Okay, I'm
• 37:36
  Speaker 6: supposed to I create. You brought this woman in my house.
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: I was round you her Thanksgiving, Christmas, as whatever.
• 37:43
  Speaker 6: I was around this woman for four years. We created
• 37:45
  Speaker 6: this relationship. Now that y'all don't fuck with each other,
• 37:48
  Speaker 6: I can't know her anymore.
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: Yes, we still Charles left from fucking your mom. Man,
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: don't fuck with mister Charles no more. Are you still
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: fucking with mister Charles?
• 37:56
  Speaker 7: No? You are not.
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: That is an you don't fuck with that nigga. I'm
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: moff your mom. Don't fuck with him.
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, you're saying no.
• 38:05
  Speaker 6: No, I can understand it because as a man, I'm
• 38:08
  Speaker 6: defensive over my mother, and you think that I'm defensive
• 38:12
  Speaker 6: over my mother. So yes, if a nigga did something
• 38:15
  Speaker 6: to her to make them break up, yes, I'm gonna
• 38:18
  Speaker 6: feel a way.
• 38:18
  Speaker 5: I don't care what it is.
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: Okay, I don't care why y'all stop sucking with each other.
• 38:23
  Speaker 6: I'm not gonna be cool with you as a man
• 38:25
  Speaker 6: because yes, I'm defensive over my mother.
• 38:27
  Speaker 7: It's different.
• 38:28
  Speaker 5: There is no defense here with y'all.
• 38:30
  Speaker 7: It's just pettiness.
• 38:31
  Speaker 11: Okay, say less.
• 38:34
  Speaker 7: That's all. All of this is pettiness.
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: Okay, say let's as long as we can get that
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: established because you ain't.
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: Because we got.
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: Is crazy.
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: All of this is happening. I have no idea or not.
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: But we still have not been able to admit the
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: fact that your mother is part of the problem. If
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: you consistently say, oh, women hate other women, your mother
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: is a woman too towards your girlfriend. No, no, no,
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: it's not possible your mother unless your mother is fucking stupid.
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: Your mother is literally being petty towards the person that
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: you're with right now, and you can't see it because
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: your mother has a fucking sunshine coming out her asshole
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: and y'all cannot.
• 39:17
  Speaker 7: See she doesn't. I'm not saying that, But what am
• 39:20
  Speaker 7: I saying?
• 39:21
  Speaker 11: You're not going to say nothing about it either.
• 39:22
  Speaker 7: What do you want me to say that?
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: What is it going to change? Be a man, that
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: makes my girl uncomfortable.
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: I don't appreciate it, just because.
• 39:33
  Speaker 6: Just because I don't agree with y'all doesn't mean I'm
• 39:35
  Speaker 6: not going to defend you. But it also doesn't mean
• 39:38
  Speaker 6: that I can change who she is and how she moves.
• 39:40
  Speaker 7: I can tell you and still on the other hand,
• 39:51
  Speaker 7: but when.
• 39:51
  Speaker 6: I say, got all the names in the world she
• 39:55
  Speaker 6: came up with, I can and this is something that
• 40:01
  Speaker 6: I have done will do in the future. I can
• 40:04
  Speaker 6: tell you you're wrong within the privacy of our home.
• 40:06
  Speaker 6: I can say, yo, I think you're bugging. I disagree
• 40:09
  Speaker 6: with you within the privacy of our home, and.
• 40:11
  Speaker 5: Still go outside and defend you.
• 40:14
  Speaker 6: Still go on the other side and be like yo,
• 40:15
  Speaker 6: ma yore.
• 40:17
  Speaker 7: Seeing you like yo, you make me so uncomfortable.
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: But what am I supposed to do? Change her Facebook password?
• 40:24
  Speaker 12: No?
• 40:24
  Speaker 6: Like if she don't, if she has a relationship with
• 40:26
  Speaker 6: the girl, I can't make her not I can't.
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: Okay, Okay.
• 40:32
  Speaker 7: I think that's where your obligation lies is to have
• 40:34
  Speaker 7: that conversation.
• 40:36
  Speaker 6: But if she continues to do it, but you're centering
• 40:40
  Speaker 6: yourself and a relationship that has nothing to do with you,
• 40:43
  Speaker 6: which is what my problem is. Now, if you're saying, yo,
• 40:46
  Speaker 6: my mom don't like my pictures, that's the whole thing.
• 40:49
  Speaker 5: That's its own thing.
• 40:50
  Speaker 6: But the fact that she's over here doing having this
• 40:53
  Speaker 6: relationship with somebody that has never crossed passed with you,
• 40:57
  Speaker 6: you have no bear, You have no nothing.
• 41:00
  Speaker 5: It's her and my like accents.
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: Don't stop the new bitch either.
• 41:04
  Speaker 5: We creating new ship out of the sky to validate bush.
• 41:07
  Speaker 7: Let's find something. Let me just.
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: Same argument in the same argument.
• 41:13
  Speaker 6: You good, I don't know what you said. Does anybody
• 41:19
  Speaker 6: here know what she said? Besides Shy is like, yeah,
• 41:23
  Speaker 6: he is finished, So talking about I know.
• 41:26
  Speaker 7: What I'm agree with.
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: At the end of the day, it's fine. I think
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: that what I want for more women in the world
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: is to know your worth and have your boundaries. And
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: if you're a man, or the man that you're laying with,
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: the man that you're spending time with, the man that
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: you're catering to, and are therefore cannot make sure that
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: you feel comfortable even in the midst of their own
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: mother doing petty mean ship. Get the fuck on, because
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: that's not going to stop there, because see that that's
• 41:56
  Speaker 2: minutia to you now. But when it gets If we
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: let the little ship go, then the bigger ship starts
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: to happen. But it's fine. I just want niggas to
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: settle their Oedipus complex.
• 42:07
  Speaker 3: Just go marry your I don't like that mama's boy as,
• 42:11
  Speaker 3: marry your mother.
• 42:12
  Speaker 7: This is mama's boy behavior.
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: That is sick.
• 42:14
  Speaker 3: A brown ass man, you're scared to tell your mama chill.
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: Out yet I would.
• 42:22
  Speaker 5: Hurt you said, but.
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: Let's keep it a book. Niggas is not talking to
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: their mama, not telling their mama calm down. They're not
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: telling ut they're not.
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: There's an art, y'all.
• 42:32
  Speaker 3: Can in the in the check tell me if I'm wrong.
• 42:35
  Speaker 3: Niggas is people checking their mama's on y'all.
• 42:37
  Speaker 7: Bath let me know there's an art and seeing both
• 42:40
  Speaker 7: sides and you can understand that sometimes it's okay to
• 42:43
  Speaker 7: say something to your mom for the sake of relationship,
• 42:46
  Speaker 7: but it's also okay to acknowledge some accountability on being insecure,
• 42:50
  Speaker 7: and then maybe maybe you need to see somebody about that.
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: I'm the problem your mother is driving me to.
• 43:03
  Speaker 7: Somebody that has been in therapy. You should know you
• 43:05
  Speaker 7: can't outsource your inbsecurity issues. You're not insecure because of
• 43:09
  Speaker 7: somebody's mom. You insecure because of your ship.
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: Absolutely I'm the problem.
• 43:12
  Speaker 7: So okay, And that's a typical answer from somebody that
• 43:17
  Speaker 7: to take any accountability for the situation, you have to
• 43:21
  Speaker 7: understand that you're putting this man into a predicament where now.
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: He can't say nothing to his mama.
• 43:26
  Speaker 7: Can I finish my sentence? The predicament is he should
• 43:30
  Speaker 7: say something to his mom, but he also has to
• 43:32
  Speaker 7: understand that what I'm saying to my mom has to
• 43:34
  Speaker 7: be justified in something other than just insecurity. If there's
• 43:38
  Speaker 7: some justification, if he could be like, you know what,
• 43:41
  Speaker 7: I can see where where you're coming from. I can
• 43:43
  Speaker 7: see why that makes you uncomfortable. Let me go speak
• 43:45
  Speaker 7: to my mom. But in certain situations it's not as
• 43:49
  Speaker 7: clearly justified, and it's more clear that you are being
• 43:52
  Speaker 7: very insecured. There's nothing going on here like so for
• 43:56
  Speaker 7: me to react to your demands without anybody in your
• 44:00
  Speaker 7: level of insecurities is problematic as well.
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: The fact that this insecurity forty seven tomes this is
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: my question because I have a question. I have one question,
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: and I've done how many feelings exist in the world
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: roundabout a lot. So is it possible that I can
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: be frustrated and not necessarily insecure?
• 44:21
  Speaker 7: Yes or no?
• 44:22
  Speaker 5: Yes?
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: All right? Is it possible that I can feel disrespected
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: and not possibly be insecure?
• 44:27
  Speaker 7: Yes or no?
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: Yes, all right?
• 44:28
  Speaker 11: Is it possible that I can.
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: Feel like somebody is not taking the time to get
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: to know me and appreciate the position that I have
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: in somebody's life without being insecure? Yes or no? So
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: why do we keep throwing this one water on this?
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: Under my exit page.
• 44:47
  Speaker 7: Comments?
• 44:52
  Speaker 10: How do you know what she looks like?
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: How do you know what my mom's that's insecurity?
• 44:59
  Speaker 7: The one light?
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: Then you win to the page to see her like
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: every picture it's insecurity. Okay, you done? Okay, So we
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: understand that there are a wide range of emotions that
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: a person can possibly have, and I feel like when
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: you continue to put the word insecure on it, you
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: are dumbing it down. You're watering down that feeling and
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: making it a little bit more negative when it can
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: be a little bit.
• 45:22
  Speaker 11: More nuanced than it is dismissive.
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: But then on top of that, what makes it even
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: more dismissive is that if a person comes to you
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: and says I feel disrespected or I feel disregarded. All
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: my feelings are not in or not being taken into
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: the proper care in this situation. And I express that
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: to you and you come to me saying, oh, you're
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: just insecurity. I really And then if my reaction is
• 45:46
  Speaker 2: to like, go the fuck off, it's like, oh, you're
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: being emotional, oh, because you're throwing all of these different
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: adjectives on me without asking me how I really feel,
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: because it is rooted in disrespect disappointment.
• 45:59
  Speaker 11: If I'm with you, I want your parents and your
• 46:02
  Speaker 11: family to fuck with me too.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: So now I'm feeling like your parents and your family
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: don't fuck with me, and you're calling me insecure. Here's
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: the proof right here. This is proof. We said that
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: Instagram was the streets. We said it was real life
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: a couple of weeks ago. So if this is real life,
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: that means that your mother fucks with your ex more
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: than she fucks with.
• 46:20
  Speaker 7: Me, and that makes it so let me respond to that.
• 46:23
  Speaker 7: That's so Dodge, that was very well said. Everything that
• 46:25
  Speaker 7: you said a spot on point. However, how I started
• 46:28
  Speaker 7: this conversation.
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: This is a clip.
• 46:31
  Speaker 7: We don't have a lot of context.
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: I gave you, let me finish.
• 46:34
  Speaker 7: We have to make certain assumptions based off of our
• 46:36
  Speaker 7: past lived experience. Based off of my past lived experience,
• 46:41
  Speaker 7: this situation sounds like with the very little context we have,
• 46:45
  Speaker 7: it sounds like insecurity is at play. The same way
• 46:48
  Speaker 7: that y'all can make an assumption that this sounds like
• 46:51
  Speaker 7: a Mama's boy type of situation might be at play.
• 46:54
  Speaker 7: You've made that determination off of very little information, and
• 46:57
  Speaker 7: so we've made these assumption based off of our lived experience. Now,
• 47:02
  Speaker 7: if we were to give this lady some proper advice,
• 47:05
  Speaker 7: obviously we need to know more about the situation. But
• 47:08
  Speaker 7: we have to make certain assumptions off of a thirty
• 47:10
  Speaker 7: second clip and based off of my lived experience, my
• 47:13
  Speaker 7: therapy sessions and things and people I've dated, and my experiences.
• 47:17
  Speaker 7: It sounds like security. It sounds like I would say
• 47:20
  Speaker 7: there's more than a fifty percent chance that insecurity is
• 47:23
  Speaker 7: at play somewhere based off of a thirty second clip.
• 47:26
  Speaker 7: I know nothing else about the situation. I want to
• 47:29
  Speaker 7: be comman to make that assumption, and I could be wrong.
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: I want to be clear and make sure I stamp
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: this because I did not start this off as a
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: mama's boy situation, that that was not the precipice of
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: my role. It got there, No, it got there now information,
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: but it got there. It got there because we started
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: getting into why he should not say anything and why
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: his mother doing this. Is not a novel, and it
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: started when we started throwing these insecure words out.
• 47:57
  Speaker 11: I want to name that.
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: In the beginning, I said that there is disappointment that
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: it doesn't feel good. That doesn't feel good to anybody,
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: which is why I threw it back to Tahoe and
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: said that if the person that you're with father did
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: the same thing. And then the deflection was, well, how
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: would I even know? It doesn't matter how you know,
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: because once you find out something, now you know, it
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: doesn't necessarily mean that I'm snoopid. It could be a
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: myriad of ways that you find out information. It doesn't
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: matter how I found out. But once I find out,
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: you cannot dismiss my feelings and then throw the word
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: in security on me because I'm coming to you as
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: my partner and telling you I have a feeling about
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: something that's dismissive, that's fucked up, and then that's why
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: she should kiss his father in the mouth.
• 48:38
  Speaker 3: It's too many being thrown out there. I went from
• 48:41
  Speaker 3: insecurity and I say something. I'm gonna be called aggressive.
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: Yo' it's nasty word. It's nasty word. God, why are
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: you drinking juice?
• 48:50
  Speaker 3: Because he got great groups somewhere like a fucking why.
• 48:53
  Speaker 11: It's two o'clock in the afternoon.
• 48:56
  Speaker 5: Okay, what.
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: You don't understand?
• 49:00
  Speaker 8: All right?
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: You know what, nigga Ramadan is not over.
• 49:04
  Speaker 5: It's over for that, do not I up fed up
• 49:07
  Speaker 5: sitting here drinking water. You ain't say nothing about that.
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: I just know I just put two and two together.
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: But the water like but I'm just like you drinking.
• 49:15
  Speaker 5: I made it as far as I can make it.
• 49:17
  Speaker 5: I'm still trying. But I'm broken.
• 49:22
  Speaker 3: I'm broken.
• 49:23
  Speaker 7: It's crazy. I tried.
• 49:24
  Speaker 6: I did my best, and what happened was the play party.
• 49:29
  Speaker 6: Oh yeah, that day I was so stressed trying to
• 49:33
  Speaker 6: get everything around. My head was and I had to
• 49:36
  Speaker 6: eat and then what it was over? At seven o'clock
• 49:41
  Speaker 6: I finally get a chance to stop down. The sun
• 49:43
  Speaker 6: is up by the time I got here, I was hungry.
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I get that day.
• 49:48
  Speaker 7: I got to wait a whole another hour about that
• 49:50
  Speaker 7: because I still do it most of but.
• 49:53
  Speaker 6: I had a super run with was nothing, and now
• 49:56
  Speaker 6: I just break when I when I when I'm like,
• 49:58
  Speaker 6: I just break it.
• 49:59
  Speaker 3: I get it.
• 49:59
  Speaker 5: So it is of this.
• 50:00
  Speaker 6: But I'm gonna have a Muslim come on to show,
• 50:03
  Speaker 6: a black Muslim come on the show this week.
• 50:04
  Speaker 5: Hopefully you ain't gonna be here.
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: I know I'm not gonna be here. Why don't Okay,
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: I mean I can stay home.
• 50:15
  Speaker 3: They just hang back.
• 50:16
  Speaker 6: Well, I'm out of town next week, so I gotta
• 50:17
  Speaker 6: figure something out. Anyway, that was a great content.
• 50:23
  Speaker 7: You're not gonna be here.
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: But you see how niggas just throw sh it on
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: you that you I ain't even do nothing.
• 50:33
  Speaker 7: I was just like what happened.
• 50:35
  Speaker 5: And that's another thing, coach. I did not eat breakfast
• 50:37
  Speaker 5: this morning.
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the down bad.
• 50:39
  Speaker 3: I did not eat breakfast either, drinking gray Goose on
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: the empty stomach.
• 50:47
  Speaker 6: Shout out to everybody that's still doing it though. Okay, Dann,
• 50:53
  Speaker 6: that was a great convo.
• 50:54
  Speaker 7: I think we just.
• 50:57
  Speaker 6: You know, people look at these things to things traumatic
• 51:00
  Speaker 6: experiences that they've had.
• 51:02
  Speaker 5: I don't think trauma.
• 51:03
  Speaker 7: I can't say what you with your experiences with this
• 51:06
  Speaker 7: speak to.
• 51:08
  Speaker 6: But I can say that I think women when they
• 51:12
  Speaker 6: talk about how the men stand up for them or
• 51:15
  Speaker 6: how other women are being petty towards them, there's a
• 51:18
  Speaker 6: lived experience that y'all are adding to these conversations that
• 51:24
  Speaker 6: make it hit harder then. So me, I'm looking at
• 51:28
  Speaker 6: it from like a why would it like? I don't understand,
• 51:31
  Speaker 6: But y'all have lived experiences with men not standing up
• 51:33
  Speaker 6: for you and also with women being petty towards you
• 51:37
  Speaker 6: that make it like this conversation mean more. You understand
• 51:41
  Speaker 6: what I'm saying. So I could be arguing when this
• 51:43
  Speaker 6: shit is just like yo, I'm just arguing the point.
• 51:45
  Speaker 6: But you're like, nigga, you don't know what the fuck
• 51:47
  Speaker 6: I've been through to know what it's like for a
• 51:49
  Speaker 6: nigga to not protect me, especially from.
• 51:53
  Speaker 7: His own moms's supposed to be my family.
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: Son crazy.
• 51:58
  Speaker 7: So although I can argue this.
• 52:00
  Speaker 5: Down, I understand where y'all coming from.
• 52:03
  Speaker 3: Okay, you got me all rilled up on these people platforms.
• 52:07
  Speaker 7: And I said one thing, real crass. Sorry for throwing
• 52:13
  Speaker 7: around that word insecurities. I'm not gonna front that. A
• 52:16
  Speaker 7: lot of women have, you know, the heads turned a
• 52:21
  Speaker 7: lot of women have introduced me to that word in
• 52:24
  Speaker 7: describing other women. When I'm talking to my female friends,
• 52:27
  Speaker 7: my therapist, my mother about my experiences with women, they
• 52:31
  Speaker 7: have come to me be like, you know what. You
• 52:33
  Speaker 7: probably don't know this, but it sounds like insecurities from
• 52:36
  Speaker 7: the women. So it's never been the exact situation on
• 52:39
  Speaker 7: social media likes and shit like that, but that word
• 52:42
  Speaker 7: has been put into my frame from other women to
• 52:45
  Speaker 7: look out for that behavior in women, right, So I'm
• 52:49
  Speaker 7: not saying that it applies here, but it sounds like
• 52:52
  Speaker 7: it could apply there.
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: I think that we as people need to understand that
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: there are way more emotions and reasoning for emotions then
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: we give credit to everything. Can't be happy, mad, sad, angry,
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: like it's like every time you emote is you're angry,
• 53:11
  Speaker 2: or every time you set a clear boundary and say
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: you know what this is, this is not passing this
• 53:17
  Speaker 2: moment it's aggressive or you're being a bit like there.
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: We have to understand the range of language and use
• 53:24
  Speaker 2: it appropriately, and we don't use it appropriately, which is
• 53:27
  Speaker 2: why certain words tend to sting a little bit more.
• 53:31
  Speaker 2: We had this conversation I think a few months ago
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: on this podcast. We were talking about the word obedient
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: or if somebody says be obedient, and how that stings
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: people because like, fuck you mean obedient? Am I a
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: dog like? But no, like, words mean things, and we
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: have to be conscious of the words that come out
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: of our mouth, especially when we're using it to put
• 53:48
  Speaker 2: labels and feelings on people. And that's where I get
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: frustrated consistently, because this is if I'm bringing my own
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: life into play, I'm consistently getting thrown. Words are getting
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: thrown on my headtop that I don't even currently feel
• 54:04
  Speaker 2: because of other people's projection or perception of what I'm saying.
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: Don't tell me I'm mad when I'm not mad. When
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: i'm mad, I'll tell you to suck my dick. If
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: I didn't say suck my dick, I'm not mad. So
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: everybody relaxed. Find another feeling or another emotion to represent
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: what it is that I'm saying. If I did not
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: throw the frank stand, I'm not mad, I'm actually still chilling.
• 54:25
  Speaker 7: Are all able to articulate your emotions like in the
• 54:28
  Speaker 7: moment and say that I'm mad or I'm not mad.
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: Or yeah a long journey, yeah, shout out to therapy
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: all the time, yes for me. For me, it's one
• 54:39
  Speaker 2: hundred percent of the time.
• 54:40
  Speaker 7: Yes.
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: But what's gonna set me off? The only thing that's
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: gonna set me off is if I tell you.
• 54:48
  Speaker 7: No, no, no, no no.
• 54:49
  Speaker 2: I'm a one hundred percent of the time, I can
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: tell you exactly how I feel. What will set me
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: off is if I explicitly tell you how I feel
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: and you dismiss that and give me a word on
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: top of it, like I didn't just tell you, like
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: you know what, I'm not mad right now. I'm a
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: little agitated. I'm a little frustrated because of oh, you
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: just being mad. I'll slap the ship out of you.
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: Bitch now I'm mad.
• 55:08
  Speaker 3: I don't like explaining in full depth twelve point front
• 55:12
  Speaker 3: in LA for maybe. So what you mean, bitch, it's over.
• 55:18
  Speaker 3: Don't worry about the game.
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: Don't worry about that.
• 55:22
  Speaker 7: You're good, You're good, broke.
• 55:26
  Speaker 3: It's I'm talking about. I'm talking about.
• 55:30
  Speaker 7: Well, let's let's walk this down.
• 55:32
  Speaker 5: Then we've we've we've.
• 55:35
  Speaker 6: Been going down up the ladder of chaos today. Do
• 55:41
  Speaker 6: you not do anything else at the top yet?
• 55:46
  Speaker 3: American?
• 55:51
  Speaker 5: I love my job.
• 55:54
  Speaker 14: People were not taught the same dating scripts or socialized
• 55:57
  Speaker 14: to date the same way that white people are.
• 55:58
  Speaker 10: From a young age, White.
• 55:59
  Speaker 14: Peop teach their children how to build successful relationships with
• 56:02
  Speaker 14: the opposite sex. They allow their teenagers who have boyfriends
• 56:05
  Speaker 14: because they see dating as a way to build a
• 56:07
  Speaker 14: social skill. They are taught formal dating etiquette, asking out,
• 56:11
  Speaker 14: picking up flowers, dinner, courtship is a rehearsal for adult roles.
• 56:15
  Speaker 10: They're learning how to be providers, wives, and husbands at
• 56:18
  Speaker 10: a young age.
• 56:18
  Speaker 14: The goal is to produce individuals who can replicate proper
• 56:22
  Speaker 14: pair bonding. So the outcome is you have a bunch
• 56:24
  Speaker 14: of teenage relationships that are modeled as many marriages.
• 56:27
  Speaker 10: There's a rehearsal for future.
• 56:28
  Speaker 14: Domestic contracts for as Black people do not teach their
• 56:31
  Speaker 14: children's formal dating etiquette. Black parents primary focus is making
• 56:35
  Speaker 14: sure their children do not get pregnant or get anyone pregnant.
• 56:38
  Speaker 10: Sex is a risk to be managed.
• 56:40
  Speaker 14: Girls are told don't have sex, don't be fast, don't
• 56:43
  Speaker 14: get pregnant. It's about negation and danger. The focus is
• 56:46
  Speaker 14: about avoiding ruin instead of seeking or recognizing healthy connections.
• 56:51
  Speaker 10: They don't teach you how a man should treat you.
• 56:53
  Speaker 10: They teach you that men only.
• 56:54
  Speaker 14: Want one thing and you shouldn't give it to them.
• 56:56
  Speaker 14: Boys are told to use a condom and not come
• 56:59
  Speaker 14: home with anybody. Focuses on avoiding legal and financial consequences,
• 57:03
  Speaker 14: not on proper relationship conduct.
• 57:06
  Speaker 10: The underlining goal in the Black community.
• 57:08
  Speaker 14: Is crisis prevention, and so the outcome from that is
• 57:11
  Speaker 14: that adult relationships DeVault to a sexual transaction framework, because
• 57:15
  Speaker 14: that is the only framework that.
• 57:17
  Speaker 10: Was explicitly discussed.
• 57:18
  Speaker 14: This is why situationships is the default setting in Black dating,
• 57:22
  Speaker 14: the adult extension of the secretive, sex centered interactions that
• 57:26
  Speaker 14: we were only offered when we were young. This is
• 57:28
  Speaker 14: why courtship rituals feel foreign or performative in our community.
• 57:31
  Speaker 14: We were never given the communal training the same way
• 57:34
  Speaker 14: that white people are. And this is why almost every
• 57:36
  Speaker 14: Black woman I know has lost their virginity in some
• 57:38
  Speaker 14: type of situationship and never been in a serious relationship,
• 57:40
  Speaker 14: and almost every white woman I know lost our virginity
• 57:43
  Speaker 14: in a serious relationship and has never not been in
• 57:45
  Speaker 14: a serious relationship. All the white women I know have
• 57:47
  Speaker 14: been in consecutive serious relationships. Because we were taught different
• 57:51
  Speaker 14: social scripts. This is why there's always so much gender
• 57:53
  Speaker 14: war conversation amongst black people, because now we are learning
• 57:56
  Speaker 14: the social scripts that white people have known since they
• 57:58
  Speaker 14: were children. Now women want the romantic script that they
• 58:01
  Speaker 14: have been deprived of since youth.
• 58:03
  Speaker 10: How they want the flowers, they want.
• 58:04
  Speaker 14: The wining and dining, they want the money, they want
• 58:06
  Speaker 14: to be provided for, and the same goes for black men.
• 58:08
  Speaker 14: This is why they're constantly comparing black women and white
• 58:10
  Speaker 14: women because now they know that white women perform femininity
• 58:12
  Speaker 14: in their relationship, perform softists and submissiveness.
• 58:15
  Speaker 10: In their relationship, and now that's what they desire.
• 58:17
  Speaker 14: So now we're arguing back and forth about a script
• 58:20
  Speaker 14: that never was taught to neither of us. Our social
• 58:23
  Speaker 14: script was born out of survival. Our people were trying
• 58:25
  Speaker 14: to survive to make sure that we can get out
• 58:26
  Speaker 14: of our economic situation and move upwards. So they were
• 58:30
  Speaker 14: focused on making sure we didn't have any children that
• 58:32
  Speaker 14: would prevent us from getting there. This is why I
• 58:34
  Speaker 14: say white supremacy and white normatives are so dangerous to
• 58:36
  Speaker 14: our community because when you don't understand where these social
• 58:39
  Speaker 14: scripts come from, it confuses us.
• 58:41
  Speaker 10: It causes tension in friction between us.
• 58:45
  Speaker 5: I have a few things to say.
• 58:46
  Speaker 6: First of all, young lady, you speak fast as a mother.
• 58:49
  Speaker 6: I don't know if that was sped up. Maybe it
• 58:50
  Speaker 6: was sped up. It's possible that that was sped up. Two,
• 58:57
  Speaker 6: did you have to start a new video after every sin?
• 59:02
  Speaker 6: At every sentence you had to think again?
• 59:07
  Speaker 7: Three? Cap?
• 59:09
  Speaker 2: Hmmm?
• 59:12
  Speaker 7: Four?
• 59:15
  Speaker 6: No, But those are the only I'm only going to
• 59:20
  Speaker 6: say those to certain things. I want to know what
• 59:22
  Speaker 6: the room thinks first, and then I'll explain why.
• 59:24
  Speaker 5: I said cap and fuck out of here.
• 59:28
  Speaker 6: With all due respect to you, sister, and you know
• 59:30
  Speaker 6: this ain't about you, but the ideas that you're presenting.
• 59:34
  Speaker 3: No, if I had to take a gamble just shooting
• 59:39
  Speaker 3: an adult, I would guess that white men or in
• 59:44
  Speaker 3: the highest amount of killers. And this motherfucker cause don't
• 59:49
  Speaker 3: tell me. I need to be emulated nothing that white
• 59:51
  Speaker 3: people is doing in their house, because they the main
• 59:54
  Speaker 3: motherfuckers that's killing their spouses and and themself. I don't
• 59:59
  Speaker 3: want to hear that, girl.
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 5: Yes, I don't it.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 7: Great, super agreed.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 6: I don't like what black people care to white people,
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 6: but there's a caveat to that, and I will let
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 6: dodge who liked this post speak on the caveat.
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: You know, I like it because I saw because you
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: saw it.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 5: Yes, and I follow you as I'm supposed to. I'm
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 5: not You're not my ex.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: I just thought it didn't matter who liked what if you,
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 2: I follow you clearly, because you know, sometimes you just
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 2: happen to follow people anyway. You can see what they
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 2: like they don't like.
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 7: I'm familiar that if I was following Drew's X, you'd
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 7: have a problem with it.
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 2: He don't have an X.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 3: Who's his ex?
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 5: If I was following your man's ex, you'd be like,
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 5: it does not have an X, am.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: His morning star, I am his moon, I am his son.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 2: He don't have an ex. Matter of fact, trump you
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: go because she's lott never matter.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 7: First instinct in this video is that I don't agree
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 7: that it's a black and white thing. I think it's
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 7: a socioeconomic thing, and I think it has to do
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 7: with and she kind of hinted at it like survival economics,
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 7: like when you are in a certain space, when you
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 7: live in check to check and things like that, you're
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 7: not worried about all the other things that pertains to
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 7: your kids that other people that I financially well off
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 7: are and you're worried about the basics, stay off the pole,
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 7: don't get pregnant, don't go to jail, shit like that,
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 7: the basics. But a lot of times, a lot of
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 7: other things in raising our kids slip through the cracks
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 7: because you're stressed out worried about yourself. I got a
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 7: whole nother human being that I got to worry about,
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 7: But I'm still worried about myself. I'm still living day
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 7: to day and figuring this shit out.
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 3: Don't bring another mouth to feed of it, exactly, so.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 7: You're trying to keep it on basic surface level. The
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 7: other thing I would touch on is, like a lot
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 7: of this stuff for me, my parents never taught me
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 7: about how to date and stuff like that. But they
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 7: were together and they're still together. So I watched them
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 7: and I emulated them. So if you are in a
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 7: single parent household, maybe you don't have what I had
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 7: in order to see that and emulate that. And maybe
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 7: that's that play.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 13: I don't know.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 7: I'm just gonna throw that out there, but I will
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 7: say I don't think it's a black and white thing.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 8: It's not.
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 2: I don't know if it's a black or white thing either.
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 2: I'm going to make it a little bit more regional
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: and nuanced because the friends that I have from the
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 2: South have a very different understanding of dating in courtship
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 2: than the friends that I have from the North. Yeah,
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 2: I think that being a New Yorker, we are not
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 2: taught a lot of the the basics of dating, of courting,
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 2: of wear a shirt, knock on my mama door, introduce
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: yourself to my parents if you want to date me.
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 2: This is what this is supposed to look like. It's
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 2: not just like we just in the middle of a
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 2: night texting, Like, if you take me seriously, you need
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 2: to present yourself to my family. You need to present
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: yourself to my parents. And I think that I got
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: a lot of that a little bit because even though
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 2: we mostly grew up in New York, I do have
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 2: or I did have Southern Conservative Baptist grandparents, so there
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: are a little bit of those roots that are still
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 2: within me. And then having conversations with my friends from
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 2: the South, it's just different, and it's something that I'm
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: personally trying to emulate, because you can't stop kids from dating.
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 2: They're gonna do it. They're gonna like each other.
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 3: We all did it.
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 2: We snuck and did it. But I don't want to
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 2: have that relationship and rapport. Like my seventeen year old
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: she has a boyfriend. This is her second major boyfriend
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 2: in her life. And I met him. I met his mom,
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 2: like she bought him to the house, and I was
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 2: actually annoyed with her. I was like, why are you
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: bringing this nigga to my house if this is not
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 2: your nigga? Like are y'all to get? And she was like,
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 2: I just want you to meet him? And I'm like, Okay,
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: met the boy, very nice young man. They already know
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: the first thing I want to see when I come
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 2: to the house. What's your grades looking?
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 3: Like?
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 2: Phones is open? Power school open? And I think that
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 2: that is the right way to teach her, Like yo,
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 2: it is okay to date, it's okay to like people,
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 2: but just make sure that we kind of do it
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 2: the right way and we do it above board. Like
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 2: even him, like he texts me one day randomly, He's like,
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 2: I want to buy this Felia and da dada, Like
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 2: what do you think? Her birthday is coming up? And
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 2: Valentine' da is coming up? And like that is the
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 2: type of young man that I want my daughter to
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 2: be around, and I want her to be able to
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 2: vet and be able to have a respectful relationship with
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: a young man and hopefully it grow into something that
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 2: we don't have a thousand niggas running around here like
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 2: I'm cool with that. I just think that we need
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 2: to look at dating a little bit more seriously and
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: look at it like it's not just a free for
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 2: all and everybody just around here fucking like, present yourself
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 2: to me if you want to fuck with one of
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: my daughters.
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 6: So while you all made valid points, I think the
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 6: one that that I like the most is the Regional Park.
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 7: New York is just is super different.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: Bro.
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 6: We're right next to everybody. We're around everybody all the time.
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 6: So yes, you're more scared your child runs into a
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 6: million people. Is around a million people every single day.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 6: Even white people their their children, they're walking their children.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 5: The only people who not worried about is the Jews.
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 6: The Jews kids just be walking around, They be walking
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 6: around pushing baby carriages.
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 7: They don't give a fuck. You have been, bro, They
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 7: don't give a fuck.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 5: But you see the white people that's living in the
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 5: hippy nagbor.
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 6: They with their kids, and they they're with them in
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 6: the doggie park or in the little parks in their communities.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 7: They're a lot more now.
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 6: This is why I said, out of the regional, the
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 6: white people, out of town, Homegirl said, all of them girls, yo,
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 6: them girls are sucking dick at twelve, them girls is
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 6: teaching everybody.
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 2: You think these little girls second twelve.
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 5: Well, I don't know what's happening now.
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 6: I don't know what's happening now, but I'm just saying
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 6: that you she tried to separate black and white in
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 6: that aspect, and I'm just trying to tell you, Homegirl,
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 6: I don't know if you.
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 3: Know, but they be in full You ain't watch Gossip Girl.
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 7: They be outside.
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 6: Them white girls be outside, okay, and their parents don't
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 6: be giving the ship because white people don't really have
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 6: that danger thing that black people have. So regional or not,
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 6: black people have always had to live in the survival mode.
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 6: The reason why I said it kicks in in regional,
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 6: especially in New York, it's because there's too much going on.
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 6: But out of town white people be doing their kids,
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 6: be doing house parties at fourteen, when their parents go
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 6: away they don't give a fuck.
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 5: They get in troubley, give me trouble.
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 7: They be cursing their bombs out in the supermarket.
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck.
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 6: They don't give it. They don't have those same things.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 6: That's happening right. Also, I said, no, teach my teenager
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 6: how to date?
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 11: Yes, you're supposed. At what point do you teach them?
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 11: In the twenty you teach.
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 5: Them and she was on it, like you gotta.
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 6: They go through the whole ritual of them having boyfriends
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 6: at teenage?
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 7: What is teenage? What age is teenage?
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 2: Thirteen? Fourteen, fifteen, what's seventeen? You think thirteen year olds
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 2: don't have girlfriend? You ain't have, then you get your
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 2: heart broken by the first bitch and one thirteen that
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 2: was your girlfriend and she dubbed you.
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 5: But I'm not teaching her how to I'm not you
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 5: supposed to somebody.
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 3: Her teaching is encouraging her to do wrong.
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 7: That's what it sounds like.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 11: That's not that's not what that word means.
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 7: You know, will teach me?
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 2: Then it's about education. It's about if if a boy
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 2: wants to talk to you, or a boy thinks that
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 2: he likes you, then he needs to. There are certain
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 2: ways that he should present himself to you. He should
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 2: not be talking shit about you behind your back. If
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: he cannot come and come to this house and shake
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 2: your father's hand and say I want to date your daughter,
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 2: then he is not good enough for you. If he
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: is not somebody that cares about his studies. Because at
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 2: this point y'all had children, the only thing you could
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 2: do is be a fucking student. You might be a
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: student athlete, but you're a student first. Like there are
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 2: certain things like does he open the door for you?
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 2: Does he walk on the outside and let you walk
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 2: on the inside, Like there are certain things that yes,
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 2: I'm absolutely gonna teach my daughter, is okay exactly? And
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: if I had a son, there are absolutely things that
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 2: I should teach my son, Like what do you mean
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 2: she had to take off her own jacket and you
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 2: saw her struggling? What do you mean she's carrying her
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 2: own books and her own book bag? Like absolutely not.
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 2: Like I think that one of the cutest and most
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 2: wholesome things that I saw this year in school is
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 2: how big these kids make these Valentine's they proposals, And
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 2: I think the shit is so dope.
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 11: And we're talking about six seventh eighth gradert.
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 2: They fucking like, oh my god, can I get a marker?
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 11: I got this basket?
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 2: Can I?
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 11: But it's not teaching them.
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 2: Your kids can't even read, goddamn for Valentine's Day. They
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 2: can't fucking read. But at the end of the day,
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 2: I don't.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 6: Know the difference between a nickel and a quarter, and
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 6: he worried about Valentine's Day at.
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 2: The end of the day. Yes, we can say that,
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 2: and you know that. I'm a big advocate of understanding
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 2: that children are definitely behind and below.
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 11: But there are adults that don't know the difference between
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 11: a nickel one quarter.
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 2: There are adults right now that are still out here procreating,
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 2: and they are a part of that literacy right now.
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 2: There are millions of Americans right now that cannot read
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 2: or comprehend on a sixth grade level. So what we're
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 2: saying is you're gonna stop children from having an experience
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: of being a child and having the experience of having
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 2: like that puppy love feeling because of their academics. I
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 2: don't agree with that, and you know I'm an academic proponent.
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 2: I don't agree with.
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 3: That and don't stop ship. It doesn't stop it. It
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 3: didn't stop any of us. Whether you brought, you were
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 3: still you were still dating, you were still caught, and
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 3: you were still sneaking and doing something. You're still sneaking
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 3: and fucking sneaking and kids and sneaking. Hold hands on
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 3: the megicanos. You were still doing something.
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 6: And I was not worried about the things that I
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 6: needed to worry about, because I was worried about where
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 6: she was at and whether.
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 2: She you know, because nobody taught you how to tat.
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 2: Nobody taught you duality. Okay, nobody taught you that. And
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 2: that's part of the problem because we because as black people,
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 2: and I'm gonna say black people in New York because
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 2: I can only think about the New York aspect of
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 2: my life. I was consistently taught not to worry about boys,
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 2: not to take boys seriously, that they're just a distraction.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 2: That it took me years and therapy to understand what
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 2: dating is really supposed to look and feel like after
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 2: sitting here, philandering through my whole fucking twenties and then
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 2: coming to a consensus and other standard like yo, I
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 2: never really had a boyfriend before because if this is
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 2: the bar that I have to measure it up to,
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 2: none of y'all niggas was my boyfriend. I was never
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 2: with none of y'all because at the end of the day,
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 2: it doesn't measure up. It never gave girlfriend the way
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 2: that it was supposed to give girlfriend.
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 5: At what age are you? Should you your child really
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 5: be able to have a boyfriend your daughter?
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 3: You're putting too much of emphasis on the word like
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 3: you're touching. Were you in high school? Right by ninth grade? Fourteen?
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 3: You in high school? What do you think of? Like
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 3: you saying boyfriend, Like they're finna move in together and
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 3: split bills, and like this is fourteen year old relationship?
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 3: What is a fourteen What is a fourteen year fourteen year.
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 6: Old daughter can bring a fourteen year old bring to
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 6: the house to introduce himself to you.
• 1:11:44
  Speaker 7: That's what she's saying.
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 3: I don't see why not as opposed to what sneaking
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 3: because she's gonna They're gonna do it. Kids are gonna date,
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 3: they gonna fuck. I know that they don't. I know
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 3: parents don't like did it. Let's be realistic, though, these
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 3: kids are already.
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 7: Doing time between nine and three pm.
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 3: Involved, and I'm gonna say, okay, this is just coming
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 3: from me. I wish the talk was more than if
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 3: your ass come up pregnant, you're getting up out of hell.
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 3: I certainly wish my dating talk was.
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 7: More than mood, like what what's you talk.
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 3: Then, ship, how to pick niggas, what to look for
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 3: red flag? Oh, don't let nobody make you feel like
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 3: this because you look a certain way, like just even
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 3: smaller things like being the bigger friend as a kid,
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 3: like take niggas, trying to take advantage of any kind.
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 3: It should have been more than just don't get pregnant.
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 2: It's important, honestly, my kid. Yes, to answer your question,
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: yes you can. This is the boy that I like,
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 2: and we're okay. Yeah, y'all can come over. Y'all can
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 2: sit on the couch. Y'all can watch a movie. Y'all
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 2: can sit here and do homework together. Y'all not passing
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 2: this threshold, like, don't pass that long ass hallway.
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 11: Y'all could sit right here.
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 2: I don't mind. I want to meet your parents. I
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 2: want them to come over for dinner. I want to
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 2: see who you come from and who I want to
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 2: have conversations with your family. I don't mind that there
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 2: is an age appropriate way to do things to one
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 2: to show your kids one that they're growing up and
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 2: that you're growing up with them.
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 11: Two that there are there is a respectful way to
• 1:13:15
  Speaker 11: do things.
• 1:13:15
  Speaker 2: But I'm not going to turn a blind eye and
• 1:13:18
  Speaker 2: be like, oh, don't ever have no niggas around me.
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 11: Ever, Yeah, like I'm never I'm not going to do.
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to do that yet.
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 7: It's the point.
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 3: No, it's not the because you then grow up again
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 3: navigating your twenties poorly. Yes, because you're picking bullshit because
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 3: you don't know what's right or what's wrong.
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 7: What do you think about this? This reminds me of
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 7: the Cosby Show. I remember growing up watching that and
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 7: they had several episodes where the teens on the show
• 1:13:46
  Speaker 7: were dating, or they're bring their boyfriend their girlfriend over
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 7: and sending the couch and then mister miss come in
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 7: I mean to be Huxtable will come in and they
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 7: might have some interactions and conversations and so you may
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 7: not have seen them like literally teaching them how to date,
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 7: but you basically bearing them in certain ways. And I
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 7: think that's that's important. I think that's valuable, and I
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 7: think kind of like what I said earlier, exists probably
• 1:14:13
  Speaker 7: more in the middle and upper middle class households, but
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 7: I think it's something that everybody should inspire to.
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 3: I think people parents just don't be wanting to have
• 1:14:23
  Speaker 3: the uncomfortable conversation because then, at what point, since dating
• 1:14:27
  Speaker 3: is now on the table, when does consent become a
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 3: conversation that the sons getting talked to about consent? What
• 1:14:33
  Speaker 3: to do, what not to do? How far to go?
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 3: Is this okay?
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 7: We gotta teach them how to move? How they're gonna
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 7: learn on the streets watching porn, like we gotta teach them.
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 2: That's exactly how they learned. They learned watching porn. They
• 1:14:45
  Speaker 2: think that ship is supposed to be watching these fucking videos.
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 2: They falling into red pill fucking propaganda. It's really really bad.
• 1:14:56
  Speaker 2: And then all right, I'll stop there, But I said.
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 6: There's more to I want to ask some context, right
• 1:15:02
  Speaker 6: because I am the father, have always been the father
• 1:15:05
  Speaker 6: that taught my daughter. Yo, I don't mind you dating.
• 1:15:09
  Speaker 6: They gotta come here first. They gotta have respect for
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 6: your family. They have respect for your father. Got to
• 1:15:13
  Speaker 6: know your father's in your life. Let me give him
• 1:15:15
  Speaker 6: a once over, and I think that the experience will
• 1:15:19
  Speaker 6: be completely different after they go through that process.
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 5: Right. She started hiding them.
• 1:15:26
  Speaker 3: Because it's given. You've been agrillam so I, but it
• 1:15:32
  Speaker 3: needs to be done. Yeah, my daughter trying to say,
• 1:15:35
  Speaker 3: come out with the shotgun and those ship like that, Like,
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 3: don't do that to nobody, kid, but you know, see
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 3: what's up with them?
• 1:15:40
  Speaker 2: My daughter said, you're mean, you're gonna ask me in questions.
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 2: I'm scared for you to meet. No, I'm gonna ask
• 1:15:45
  Speaker 2: the right fucking questions and I'm gonna tell you the
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 2: truth too. I'm gonna tell you if that little nigga bum, see,
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 2: you can still be with the bum if you want
• 1:15:53
  Speaker 2: to walk around with a bum, But don't say your
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 2: mom ain't tell you he was a bum.
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 5: But you don't have that discernment when you're a kid
• 1:15:58
  Speaker 5: to care that much.
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 7: No, it's fine, like you think it, bum, But I
• 1:16:01
  Speaker 7: like him.
• 1:16:01
  Speaker 2: I love that, and you can like him for as
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 2: long as you want. And then one day you're gonna
• 1:16:04
  Speaker 2: wake up and you're gonna realize that Mama was right,
• 1:16:06
  Speaker 2: and then we have that conversation.
• 1:16:09
  Speaker 5: And that's why they don't want to bring them to you,
• 1:16:10
  Speaker 5: to you, to.
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 2: You, but they're gonna come regardless, because I think at
• 1:16:13
  Speaker 2: this age my oldest understands that's for me, it's about respect.
• 1:16:17
  Speaker 2: It's about not only respect of you, but respect of
• 1:16:21
  Speaker 2: who you are. I don't want you to ever feel
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 2: like you have to date down your fire and if
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 2: he does not meet where you are, I'm not going
• 1:16:30
  Speaker 2: to allow it. Don't. I love you enough to let
• 1:16:32
  Speaker 2: you know that I don't want you to be with
• 1:16:34
  Speaker 2: somebody that I don't think that is on your level.
• 1:16:37
  Speaker 6: Have you ever been with a woman that didn't realize
• 1:16:39
  Speaker 6: she was supposed to be the prize in the situation
• 1:16:41
  Speaker 6: and she not been with but known friends, daughter, whatever.
• 1:16:46
  Speaker 6: I've seen women chasing the nigga. I hate it and
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 6: been like, Yo, this is not what I'm supposed.
• 1:16:54
  Speaker 7: To be, Like you know what I'm saying.
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 6: But they don't want to listen to you about it,
• 1:17:00
  Speaker 6: out at hiding the situation from you, and they're just
• 1:17:02
  Speaker 6: gonna drag it until their head and they.
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 5: Oh, yeah, I was about to say some crazy shit,
• 1:17:07
  Speaker 5: but until they're fucked up.
• 1:17:09
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 1:17:10
  Speaker 3: I had to.
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 2: Experience like that my grandmother when I was in my teens,
• 1:17:15
  Speaker 2: I was dating this girl and we got into like
• 1:17:17
  Speaker 2: this nasty ass argument, but it was like right outside
• 1:17:20
  Speaker 2: of the house, like we was like on the block.
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 2: We was wailing, and she like walked away, she was
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 2: tight over something, and I like ran after her, and
• 1:17:27
  Speaker 2: I was like, nah, because I'm still whatever whatever, young,
• 1:17:30
  Speaker 2: stupid shit. And I will never forget the conversation my
• 1:17:34
  Speaker 2: grandmother had with me. She was like, you don't fucking
• 1:17:37
  Speaker 2: go chasing after nobody down the block if they walk
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 2: away from you, and let them walk. And at the
• 1:17:41
  Speaker 2: time I didn't understand, like I thought I was doing
• 1:17:44
  Speaker 2: the right thing because I'm like, oh, but she's upset
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 2: and I'm trying to be careful, like I'm trying. But again,
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 2: these are the conversations that if we pre had and
• 1:17:51
  Speaker 2: I pre had understanding of, Like I get it now,
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 2: one optics looks crazy, but then two, if you're willing
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 2: to walk away from me, I'm gonna let you go.
• 1:17:59
  Speaker 2: That was the first first, the last time somebody walked
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 2: away from me and I chased them down, Nigga, you
• 1:18:02
  Speaker 2: want to go, go, I'm never I'm never coming after
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 2: you because that is not the position that I'm supposed
• 1:18:08
  Speaker 2: to play. I am the prize. I'm sorry, I am not.
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 2: I'm not the one that's running after the nigga and
• 1:18:14
  Speaker 2: the like. Nah, that's kind of crazy, bro, I'm not
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 2: chasing you down.
• 1:18:17
  Speaker 3: I said this on my show, and they burned me
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 3: at the cross. I said women are the prize, but
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 3: men are the winners. And they got so offended that,
• 1:18:25
  Speaker 3: like everybody still wins. Is that not positive for everybody?
• 1:18:29
  Speaker 2: No, I definitely understand that.
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 3: Thatspective, Like women are the prize when it's still a pursuit.
• 1:18:35
  Speaker 3: You go to the carnival, you spend all this money
• 1:18:37
  Speaker 3: to win this bear, but you're happy when you finally
• 1:18:40
  Speaker 3: accomplished the goal. You worked hard to get this and
• 1:18:44
  Speaker 3: you're happy that you got it.
• 1:18:46
  Speaker 2: Same thing you won the prize.
• 1:18:48
  Speaker 3: You won the prize. You're still the winner. Why do
• 1:18:51
  Speaker 3: you have to be the prize? Men won't to be
• 1:18:54
  Speaker 3: the prize. And that's the problem in some of today's.
• 1:18:57
  Speaker 2: Dating because they lose this Because if you was really
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 2: a real you will understand I want to get your
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 2: will get your prize. Only a loser as nigga will
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 2: want to be the prize.
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 7: Just got a question, is it possible for the man
• 1:19:07
  Speaker 7: to be the prize.
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 3: Do you think you're just you sure if he's getting
• 1:19:10
  Speaker 3: another man.
• 1:19:10
  Speaker 8: I threw up a little bit of all right, yeah,
• 1:19:12
  Speaker 8: all right, Yo, it's time.
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 3: So when I think of prize, I'm not saying it like, oh,
• 1:19:17
  Speaker 3: you're beneath me, but the woman.
• 1:19:19
  Speaker 7: Is ultimately I understand the traditional context of courting a
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 7: woman and things of that nature, right, but things have advanced,
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 7: things are a little bit different that some of that exists,
• 1:19:29
  Speaker 7: but some of it is different, sure, and I'll equate
• 1:19:32
  Speaker 7: it to like supplying demand. Right.
• 1:19:36
  Speaker 2: Oh, so plot and demand is insane.
• 1:19:42
  Speaker 7: If if a lot of times when women and I'm
• 1:19:49
  Speaker 7: sure everybody in this room could relate to this, okay,
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 7: there'd be a few dudes that are like doing well,
• 1:19:55
  Speaker 7: look good, taking care of themselves, got money, and like
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 7: all the women want that that one person or one type.
• 1:20:01
  Speaker 3: Of everybody want midnight, right, midnight.
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 7: Checks all the boxes. Everyone wants that one man. Is
• 1:20:12
  Speaker 7: he not a prize because of the demand for his
• 1:20:15
  Speaker 7: archetype if we use her carnival example.
• 1:20:20
  Speaker 11: Correct, there's not just one bear. There are multiple prizes.
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 5: They're different.
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 2: You can get you can get the low level prize.
• 1:20:28
  Speaker 2: You can get the big prize, you can get the big,
• 1:20:30
  Speaker 2: big big bear, you can get a basketball. It's still
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 2: a prize.
• 1:20:33
  Speaker 7: My point is sometimes the woman puts a lot of
• 1:20:37
  Speaker 7: effort into that man and getting that prize because that's
• 1:20:43
  Speaker 7: the prize that she.
• 1:20:45
  Speaker 2: Wants, because she don't know that she's the prize.
• 1:20:47
  Speaker 7: You don't have. What is a prize? We've we always
• 1:20:50
  Speaker 7: we've always used these I don't know what euphemism.
• 1:20:53
  Speaker 6: I don't know what it is this word prize, What
• 1:20:56
  Speaker 6: is surprise? What are the characteristics of the prize? If
• 1:21:00
  Speaker 6: they keep because you made them the feminine. You made
• 1:21:03
  Speaker 6: the prize the feminine. It's about women.
• 1:21:05
  Speaker 5: What is it? If you can define that, then we
• 1:21:07
  Speaker 5: can say why if you go out and.
• 1:21:09
  Speaker 3: Hunt, you ain't got to be feminine. If your man
• 1:21:12
  Speaker 3: go out and okay, the cave man go out, get
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 3: his get his meal, bring his food back, he still won.
• 1:21:18
  Speaker 3: You went out, you captured something, you succeeded, you brought
• 1:21:22
  Speaker 3: it back. You can now eat, you can now replen it,
• 1:21:25
  Speaker 3: you can now continue on and in your ship.
• 1:21:28
  Speaker 2: It's the same thing with the woman in the jungle.
• 1:21:31
  Speaker 7: Yeah, the lioness is the ones that brings the food back. Okay,
• 1:21:35
  Speaker 7: won't you just she just did.
• 1:21:41
  Speaker 2: For another example, and then instead of accepting that an
• 1:21:44
  Speaker 2: example that she gave you double down. But we're not
• 1:21:52
  Speaker 2: talking about saying.
• 1:21:56
  Speaker 7: Y'all balked, and y'all made it gay and you vomited
• 1:21:59
  Speaker 7: in your mouth. You made it a whole thing. You said, Yo,
• 1:22:02
  Speaker 7: he could go fuck another nigga dating another man. You said,
• 1:22:14
  Speaker 7: run stay right here.
• 1:22:17
  Speaker 3: One of them is the girl?
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 7: Right?
• 1:22:20
  Speaker 6: My only thing is should a woman not feel that
• 1:22:24
  Speaker 6: she caught a winner when she has a certain type
• 1:22:29
  Speaker 6: of man?
• 1:22:29
  Speaker 5: That is about.
• 1:22:32
  Speaker 3: That.
• 1:22:32
  Speaker 6: A man should feel he has a winner in his woman. Like,
• 1:22:37
  Speaker 6: why are we putting like these two words have to
• 1:22:40
  Speaker 6: mean one thing or the other. Yes, I have somebody
• 1:22:43
  Speaker 6: that treats me well. I have somebody I value, I
• 1:22:45
  Speaker 6: have somebody I admire, has somebody that's that's like healthy
• 1:22:48
  Speaker 6: for me either way, male or female. Why are we
• 1:22:52
  Speaker 6: breaking it down to one or the other. Yes, your
• 1:22:54
  Speaker 6: woman has to treat you a certain way to keep you,
• 1:22:56
  Speaker 6: for you to value her a certain way. It ain't
• 1:22:58
  Speaker 6: just about yes and so the same way the man
• 1:23:01
  Speaker 6: has treated woman. Where is gender coming in?
• 1:23:04
  Speaker 7: Like?
• 1:23:04
  Speaker 2: You, I love, I love how how we have to
• 1:23:09
  Speaker 2: in this day and age somehow blur the lines of gender.
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 2: Said this multiple times. I am not a feminist. Gender
• 1:23:19
  Speaker 2: roles live in my house. I am the prize. That
• 1:23:22
  Speaker 2: man is the winner. There are several other prizes. You
• 1:23:26
  Speaker 2: can get a prize right now, and it could be
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 2: a dud, but you still want it. You still you
• 1:23:30
  Speaker 2: still did You played the competition and then you found
• 1:23:32
  Speaker 2: out that that teddy bear had a rip in it.
• 1:23:34
  Speaker 2: Just because it's a prize don't mean it's the best prize,
• 1:23:36
  Speaker 2: doesn't mean it's a great prize. But you do have
• 1:23:39
  Speaker 2: a prize. You want it out of everybody in the world.
• 1:23:42
  Speaker 2: Somehow she wound up with your ass. Whether it was
• 1:23:44
  Speaker 2: a good one or a bad one. If it was
• 1:23:46
  Speaker 2: a defective prize, then you need to throw that shit
• 1:23:48
  Speaker 2: in the garbage and go back and play again. I
• 1:23:51
  Speaker 2: don't understand why we don't want to let this analogy live,
• 1:23:55
  Speaker 2: but I am not gonna sit here and consent to
• 1:23:58
  Speaker 2: having a conversation of blurring the line. There is no
• 1:24:00
  Speaker 2: blur for me. The man is the man, the woman.
• 1:24:04
  Speaker 3: Make it up. Are you getting trophy? You don't know
• 1:24:08
  Speaker 3: such thing as a trophy?
• 1:24:10
  Speaker 2: Words right, the words means mean words mean I'm not
• 1:24:13
  Speaker 2: going to consent.
• 1:24:14
  Speaker 7: I'm not going.
• 1:24:19
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, I'm not going to consent to
• 1:24:22
  Speaker 2: continuously having a conversation about blurring gender roles and lines.
• 1:24:26
  Speaker 2: Stop blurring ship. If y'all want to be the man,
• 1:24:30
  Speaker 2: beat them bitches that I'm wrong. And it's like, oh
• 1:24:36
  Speaker 2: my god, now you're emasculating, Like what do y'all want you?
• 1:24:40
  Speaker 2: We just said that you are the winner? Is that
• 1:24:43
  Speaker 2: not enough to be a winner in the prise? You
• 1:24:45
  Speaker 2: want to be both.
• 1:24:46
  Speaker 7: I'm pointing out how it could be some of the
• 1:24:50
  Speaker 7: things that y'all saying could be problematic for y'all as well.
• 1:24:53
  Speaker 7: I'm good, right, So all right, let's take your analogy
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 7: of the prize in the carnival the big teddy Bear.
• 1:25:00
  Speaker 7: So you have to wait now to be picked by somebody.
• 1:25:05
  Speaker 7: You're just sitting there and sometimes you see a teddy
• 1:25:09
  Speaker 7: bear that's been there for years and no, no, no
• 1:25:12
  Speaker 7: winner has ever picked that teddy bear.
• 1:25:14
  Speaker 3: So does the teddy bear get up and then go
• 1:25:16
  Speaker 3: select somebody to play?
• 1:25:17
  Speaker 7: So here's the thing, At what point do you take
• 1:25:21
  Speaker 7: any of your fate? At one point does a woman
• 1:25:25
  Speaker 7: now take her destiny into her hands and maybe pick
• 1:25:29
  Speaker 7: who her partner could be, possibly maybe put some effort into,
• 1:25:33
  Speaker 7: maybe put something else.
• 1:25:36
  Speaker 2: The PRIs.
• 1:25:39
  Speaker 7: I'm just going based off y'all.
• 1:25:40
  Speaker 3: That was just one example. Of course, we know toys
• 1:25:43
  Speaker 3: can't get up in real life.
• 1:25:44
  Speaker 7: I understand what I'm saying, But my whole point is,
• 1:25:46
  Speaker 7: y'all are like, there's no exception to this rule unless
• 1:25:49
  Speaker 7: you gay.
• 1:25:50
  Speaker 3: I'm like a woman. Ain't you got a woman? It's
• 1:25:53
  Speaker 3: not just because you got that woman.
• 1:25:56
  Speaker 2: Also wanted to be got exactly.
• 1:25:58
  Speaker 3: You know how they say women know our first real
• 1:26:01
  Speaker 3: if they want to give you some pussy or knight facts,
• 1:26:03
  Speaker 3: same ship.
• 1:26:05
  Speaker 2: The woman know.
• 1:26:06
  Speaker 1: She did.
• 1:26:06
  Speaker 3: She did what she needed to do to get chose right.
• 1:26:10
  Speaker 3: I put you in a proper position to do what
• 1:26:12
  Speaker 3: you need to do to win. I helped you win
• 1:26:14
  Speaker 3: and it is still be losing.
• 1:26:16
  Speaker 2: I propped your ass up on my shoulders and said, here, babe, win,
• 1:26:20
  Speaker 2: I fucking bit the fucking basket down to help you win.
• 1:26:23
  Speaker 2: I gave you everything, win win, goddamn, just win and
• 1:26:27
  Speaker 2: like be happy about it. God damn.
• 1:26:29
  Speaker 6: When she said she did, I thought she's talking about
• 1:26:31
  Speaker 6: the apple. No, I said, Bence in forbidden garden.
• 1:26:35
  Speaker 2: But I'm not saying like, don't shoot.
• 1:26:36
  Speaker 11: Obviously shoot a shoot.
• 1:26:37
  Speaker 2: At the end of the day, I can't say that because,
• 1:26:39
  Speaker 2: as y'all know, I slid in my husband DMS. However
• 1:26:43
  Speaker 2: we have we're now in a position that I could
• 1:26:45
  Speaker 2: slide in your DMS. I could say that I want
• 1:26:47
  Speaker 2: to talk to you, but you still had to ask
• 1:26:49
  Speaker 2: me to be your girlfriend. You still had to ask
• 1:26:51
  Speaker 2: me to be your I'm still deprised.
• 1:26:53
  Speaker 7: Okay, So that's kind of what I was getting at.
• 1:26:55
  Speaker 7: I just think that women should be able to go
• 1:26:58
  Speaker 7: after they that they like they Okay, but I'm.
• 1:27:03
  Speaker 3: Not jumping through hoops to prove to you that I am.
• 1:27:06
  Speaker 7: I don't know if a man should have to jump
• 1:27:08
  Speaker 7: through hoops to anything either.
• 1:27:10
  Speaker 3: All right, again, blame the patriarchy, brother, don't blame me.
• 1:27:14
  Speaker 3: You got to bring the goat to the to the house.
• 1:27:16
  Speaker 7: Choosing where the patriarchy benefit you that.
• 1:27:22
  Speaker 2: No, it's not.
• 1:27:23
  Speaker 11: But there is a bride price check checking, just checking.
• 1:27:26
  Speaker 11: I need I still need my cows.
• 1:27:28
  Speaker 3: And I was just trying to see you know what
• 1:27:31
  Speaker 3: I was up to. Okay, So what do you want? Friends?
• 1:27:34
  Speaker 3: Do you want a woman to work hard and chase
• 1:27:37
  Speaker 3: you and pursue you as you all this ultimate problem.
• 1:27:41
  Speaker 3: I want to feel.
• 1:27:42
  Speaker 7: I have two daughters. What I want is to raise
• 1:27:44
  Speaker 7: my two daughters that they have some autonomy. They don't
• 1:27:48
  Speaker 7: have to sit. Yeah, yes, that's my point.
• 1:27:52
  Speaker 3: Okay, I'm with that.
• 1:27:53
  Speaker 5: Damn, I'm with it.
• 1:27:55
  Speaker 7: They smoke that you never.
• 1:27:56
  Speaker 11: Got to sit on the sideline.
• 1:27:58
  Speaker 2: Still the pride, don't.
• 1:28:00
  Speaker 3: He's standing there looking like the dud. This got picked
• 1:28:02
  Speaker 3: last a kickball? Go do some ship else, Go play dodgeball.
• 1:28:08
  Speaker 3: That's fun. Do cheer something you ain't got to.
• 1:28:11
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• 1:28:17
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• 1:28:21
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• 1:28:24
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• 1:28:27
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• 1:28:32
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• 1:28:39
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• 1:28:41
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• 1:28:42
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• 1:28:51
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