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How To Find Your “Yes” In A World Of “No” · Voices for Voices®

• 0:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Hi everyone, it's Justin here of Voices for Voices.
• 0:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you very much for joining us.
• 0:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're grateful to uh have you with us in the Voices for Voices family on the Voices for Voices podcast TV show.
• 0:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whether you're watching and listening here in the United States across the world, we're sending our love and support to you and to everyone who has is and will tune in to our Voices for Voices podcast and TV show.
• 0:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If you can do us a free favor, possibly, give us some thumbs up, like, follow, subscribe, share, reshare, repost, uh, word of mouth.
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• 1:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're available wherever you or they get their podcast.
• 1:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So this is more of an upbeat show today.
• 1:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh I guess have you ever gotten anything in your head that you wanted to do, you wanted to try, and for whatever reason, you didn't try whether it's you didn't have the time, you didn't have the equipment, you didn't have the software, you didn't have the money, you didn't have whatever it may be.
• 1:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I just want to tell you number one, that you're awesome.
• 1:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Number two, you can do anything that you put your mind to.
• 2:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Number three, don't worry about what others think and what others say.
• 2:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If people are talking and talking behind your back, to your face, to my face, behind my back.
• 2:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh I know I'm doing something right, I know I'm doing something uh that is what I'm meant to do, what I'm meant to be.
• 2:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so for all of those things, as they apply to you and yours, just remember that.
• 2:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've noticed this all too well, all too often.
• 2:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, it really is a it's really a shame that people won't back what you're what you're doing.
• 3:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Doesn't have to be money.
• 3:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It can be, as I mentioned earlier, it could be y'all giving us a thumbs up, like and subscribe and share, all those things, those are all free to do.
• 3:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Don't have to get a comment, don't have to raise a million dollars.
• 3:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh you just have to be you, and so for some, that first try you struck gold, for others, it it'd be trial and error.
• 3:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I know it's been trial and error for me, and so when you find whatever that thing or things are, just go for it, go for it with all your being, all your energy, anything that is within your power, within within yourself.
• 4:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well we we do well what we like to do.
• 4:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I remember growing up and I didn't like to read.
• 4:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I forget who who told me.
• 4:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But somebody told me, Justin, I know you don't like to read.
• 5:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But what are some topics?
• 5:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What are things you're interested in?
• 5:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I think I said like music, sports.
• 5:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And and so this person said, Well, then why don't you why don't you read about music and sports?
• 5:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I remember getting the Aerosmith biography, I think it it was, and just read about the band.
• 5:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, there was quite a lot of curse words in there that I'm not a huge fan of.
• 5:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But as I continued my education into college and university, when I would have a presentation, when I would have to pick a topic for a project, I would pick as much as I could, I would pick things that interested me.
• 6:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I remember my communications one-on-one class, like it was yesterday.
• 6:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So it was an introduction to communicating, and so we learned a different, we know, uh informational, persuasive, you know, those types of things, presentations, and we were asked as part of the class grade to do that.
• 7:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I remember picking, and again, I'm putting politics aside, I'm putting whether you like the artist, Aerosmith, or one of who I'm about to mention, or not.
• 7:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I picked Kid Rock because it was interesting, he was interesting to me.
• 7:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that's what I did my my different presentations on.
• 7:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I did different aspects of him, you know, information, persuading the class, their professor, maybe to listen to a song, maybe not.
• 7:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And again, I'm putting politics aside, I'm putting whoever that is for you, the musician, a band, an orchestra, pick that if it was sports, and baseball is my biggest the biggest sport that I liked, that's what I did.
• 8:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so whether you're asked to give a presentation, to write a paper, to work on a project, whether it's an individual group project, presentation, combination, or just a current event.
• 8:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Current events are huge in in my courses that I took, and so I tried to find things that were interesting to me because I knew that those were things because they were interested, interesting to me, I would probably do my best on that and on those.
• 9:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so for you, that's all you have to do.
• 9:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: When you're thinking about like what do I choose to want to do, uh, to do for my career, to do for my class.
• 9:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe you're a maybe you're a professor, and the course content is just too dry.
• 9:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Just definitions, processes, etc.
• 9:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And you see the different see the different examples.
• 10:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well, mix in some examples that are interested to you.
• 10:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Cause you're gonna have more knowledge and you're gonna have more passion behind those than not, and it's interesting how people are we can't change them, we just can't.
• 10:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If there was a way, I probably would have found it at some point in my 44 years of being on Earth, it's just not not possible.
• 10:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So something that's interesting to you or to me might not be interesting to others, and that's okay.
• 11:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've said it before, say it again.
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  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: One.
• 11:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You need one person, one supporter, one person that believes in you, one person that has heard you talk, who has read something you've written, has listened to a speech, whatever it is, doing a local baseball camp, showing young kids and helping them learn the fundamentals.
• 11:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whether it's a golf class I took in in college, we would go to the driving range, go to the putt practice putting green.
• 11:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We had quizzes and tests.
• 12:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The person teaching it, they like golf.
• 12:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So it made complete sense for them to teach that course.
• 12:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so if you like music, if you like sports, if you like if you like summertime, if you like the fall in the Midwest, when the leaves change their colors.
• 12:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Whatever that is, whatever that may be, do it.
• 12:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Keep your interest.
• 12:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So I just did something I've done, I don't want to say like hundreds of times, but probably around there between getting between reading about, between lessons and so many more.
• 13:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: At forty-four years old, I'm doing things that and I have done things that have been dreams of mine to do.
• 13:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I gave you an example, I give real examples, so whenever I can, and this one is absolutely that.
• 13:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So last year, I have a friend who has a nonprofit that works with individuals who may have what some may consider disabilities somehow, whether it's in the mind or the body or both.
• 14:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But they love music.
• 14:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: A group of his I don't say students, but they're just regular human beings.
• 14:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like, yeah, they may have some things that are unique to them then than to me or others.
• 14:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I we had a conversation with friend of mine and mine, friend and me, and we were talking, and I didn't end up doing this first one for uh several reasons, but he mentioned to me, hey, this is going on at a particular time in a particular location, and I I wanna I want to bring my my orchestra, my band with with with me, the special needs band, special needs orchestra, and I want once-in-a-lifetime experience.
• 16:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Man, wish I was there, wish I would have won.
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  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I can't get into publicly why that didn't end up working out, but in any event, one I wanted to play with the his special needs orchestra, and so I play a little bit of guitar, and so I was I was thinking about it, so I asked him, and so that's how I got invited on the one one once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, and then there was another once-in-a-lifetime opportunity where he was taking his musicians to a university and was integrated in an orchestra performance at that university, and so because of the here we go, the sun's playing tricks on us, and so I was like, oh my gosh, how cool would it be?
• 17:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Not even cool, but you know, it's one of these things that really gets you like wow, wouldn't that be neat to to do this?
• 17:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So I asked, I didn't have to ask, my friend, but I did, and he said, sure, yeah, and so integrated with orch the orchestra for from this school was these orchestra musicians that some may say they have a disability.
• 18:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I just try to look at people as people, humans, because I think we all have something or some things that are are a little quirky or quirks of ours.
• 19:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I did it, and it was one of the most satisfying, fulfilling things that I've probably ever done.
• 19:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because I was doing something that I loved, playing my guitar.
• 19:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I was with a group that a lot of them probably have been told no a lot, and they were told yes this evening, and then it took an orchestra director to buy into the idea as well, and all these variables they work together to make this happen.
• 20:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Did I get paid for it?
• 20:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No.
• 20:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Did I do it so I could get paid?
• 20:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No.
• 20:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I did it because it was so neat.
• 20:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I was I was not the main person.
• 20:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I was in the orchestra, in with orchestra members, so I didn't have to worry about logistics or anything.
• 20:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, driving to get there, you know, that's logistical, but I'm talking, show up, bring my guitar, bring a couple guitar picks, and and do it.
• 21:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I did it.
• 21:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that did something for me.
• 21:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What about you?
• 21:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What have you done or you've wanted to do?
• 21:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What's held you back?
• 21:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Is it somebody telling you no?
• 21:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Can't do that?
• 21:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No, that's too controversial.
• 21:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No, nobody cares.
• 21:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's stupid.
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  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's dumb.
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  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's just a hobby.
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  unknown: Do
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  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do something real.
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  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What is it?
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  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Cause all those things are things I've heard told to me in one way or an or another.
• 22:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So don't let life is too short.
• 22:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No is a hard word to hear.
• 22:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No is a word that dashes a lot of our dreams, a lot of what we want to do.
• 22:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Or we've done something once, but we don't know how to how to keep replicating that.
• 23:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have over 570 episodes of a podcast and TV show.
• 23:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That I thought we would maybe get a hundred episodes.
• 23:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I wanted far more than that.
• 23:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So we're over 570 episodes.
• 23:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Don't get paid to do it.
• 23:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do it because I love it.
• 23:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do it because I have an opportunity to help one person each time I come in front of the camera.
• 23:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Each time we have a guest come in front of the camera.
• 23:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, the Joe Rogan experience has 2,000 more episodes than we have.
• 24:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I think the Dan Dan Bongino show, probably the same thing.
• 24:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: 2,000 more episodes or more or thereabouts.
• 24:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And as you've heard me mention before about going to the gym back in the day for me when I was younger, thinking that I was the strongest person there.
• 24:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And not even at that gym was I the strongest person there.
• 24:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I wasn't.
• 24:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So many others that were and aren't stronger physically.
• 24:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I could have said no, like uh that cut me down the size.
• 24:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that's I think when some of the seeds started to be planted, that Justin just focus as much as possible on being the strongest you that you can be, or the best you that you can be, and it's not cliche, it's for real.
• 25:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I could look and go, oh, the Joe Rogan experience, so popular, so famous, twenty-five, twenty-six, twenty-seven hundred episodes.
• 25:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Dan Bon Gino show, same thing, and I could just get discouraged and go, Well, I gave it a shot.
• 26:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We gave it a shot.
• 26:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We did our best, which is true.
• 26:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We are doing our best, we're doing the best that we can.
• 26:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So I can't I can't worry about others like that.
• 26:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, I can.
• 26:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Trust me.
• 26:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I do my fair share of worrying.
• 26:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I certainly do.
• 26:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And it doesn't mean that you're not gonna worry ever again.
• 26:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's not what this is about.
• 26:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: This is about you finding something that you love, that you're passionate about, that you want to do, that not what your roommate, not what a family member, not what a teacher, what you want to do.
• 26:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Now, it could be what one of those individuals, like it could be one of those things.
• 27:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm not saying that it's not, but what I am saying is at the end of the day, you're gonna finish that class, your roommate, depending.
• 27:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If they're not from the area, they're gonna move back closer.
• 27:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: They may be single, you may be married, and so there's just there's just things that we go, oh, okay.
• 27:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I listened to what this person said, but I can't like hang out with them and talk about and learn from them because of any of those reasons or more.
• 28:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's so true.
• 28:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's why you have to do what you want to do that's legal, and if some people want to come along for the ride with you, gotta make sure they're as passionate as you are.
• 28:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Nobody's nobody is ever gonna be as passionate about your thing, your things, than you.
• 28:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so if you're not bought into it, how are you gonna invite others and expect them to buy into what what you're doing or what what your vision is, what your goals are, how you want to do the do the things that you want to do.
• 29:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So that's why you have to be bought in.
• 29:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Earlier in the show, talk about what you have, and what you can start thinking about, start reading about things that you like, not things that you don't like, not things that somebody else wrote that are not interesting to you.
• 29:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Or maybe you you just go learn yourself, teach yourself whatever that and those things are.
• 30:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's so many ways to go after it, but the one thing comes back is you gotta do it for yourself first because you're gonna put in more hours than the nine to five, eight to five, whatever the whatever may be.
• 30:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Some jobs may travel, some jobs may not.
• 30:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Some ideas and thoughts and goals could be similar, they could be different.
• 30:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But one thing I've been trying to work on is being humble.
• 30:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But man, what I just did just reaffirmed why I'm doing and what why we're doing what we're doing with voices for voices, so neat, so interesting.
• 31:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, we think about a lot of a lot of different ideas in our mind, in our head.
• 31:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Sometimes our mind says, go for it, Justin.
• 31:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Some of them say, no, don't do it.
• 31:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: One person says, do it.
• 31:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The other person says, no, you stink, you suck, whatever.
• 31:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that's how we build that armor of you know what?
• 31:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I really like what I'm doing.
• 32:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do other people like it?
• 32:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do if you like it you want to do it, you're able to do it, do it.
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  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Try it.
• 32:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Once you try it, you try you you do it w you you try it may maybe once, and after that, it's you're doing it.
• 32:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Now whether you're you're doing it and thinking well when's the money gonna come?
• 32:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: When's this gonna come?
• 32:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: When's that gonna come?
• 32:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It might never come.
• 32:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But if you love doing it, that's what matters.
• 33:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The money may come.
• 33:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The people you meet, some of them are the right people, some of them aren't.
• 33:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So you have to be bought into your own ideas like I do.
• 33:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I know you can do it.
• 33:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You're probably already doing it in some capacity.
• 33:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But think, have an idea, have a dream, have a goal.
• 33:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Man, just dream.
• 34:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like, I'd love to do this, find out what steps need to be taken, and see if it's something that you can start right away, or it might be something that you can't start right away, but never lose that dream, that tenacity, that passion, and always give thanks to others.
• 34:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Even if they're enemies, even if they're people you never haven't talked to in twenty, thirty years, somehow, some way each interaction shapes us into who we are.
• 35:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So just go for it.
• 35:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're gonna see you on the next episode of the Voices for Voices podcast and TV show.
• 35:20
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• 35:30
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• 35:43
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• 35:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So until next time, let's celebrate all the voices of the world.
• 36:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And let's be a voice for our not only ourselves, but maybe somebody else in need.
• 36:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We'll see you next time.
• 36:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thanks for joining us for sending our love and support to you.
• 36:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We'll see you next time.
• 36:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Bye for now.