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#HURDLEMOMENT: What Do You See When You Look In the Mirror? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's Emily about a Here with a fresh episode
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  Speaker 1: of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle, a podcast that talks to
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  Speaker 1: everyone from entrepreneurs to top CEOs and athletes about how
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  Speaker 1: they've gotten through tough times hurdles of sorts by leaning
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  Speaker 1: into wellness. Today, I'm talking to you guys about something
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  Speaker 1: that I mentioned quite often on the podcast, and it's
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  Speaker 1: this idea of what you see when you look in
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  Speaker 1: the mirror.
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  Speaker 2: First, a little commentary.
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  Speaker 1: Fresh back off the plane from Hawaii, I've got a
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  Speaker 1: nice tan that I am super thankful for, much more
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  Speaker 1: relaxed than when I left, and.
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  Speaker 2: Just really grateful. I got a lot of messages from.
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  Speaker 1: Many of you while I was gone asking me for
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  Speaker 1: my best tips for traveling solo, and I have recorded
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  Speaker 1: a Hurdle Moment before on how to be better by yourself.
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  Speaker 1: But in the wake of all these requests, I will
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  Speaker 1: definitely put that solo trip inspo situation on the docket
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  Speaker 1: for the weeks to come. But I digress. This week's
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  Speaker 1: Turtle moment again talking about what we see when we
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  Speaker 1: look in the mirror, and now weekly on the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: As I get to the end, I typically ask my
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  Speaker 1: guests to reflect a little bit, and I ask them,
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  Speaker 1: despite what it is that they may see esthetically, who is.
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  Speaker 2: It that they see looking back at them?
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  Speaker 1: And I've had some really poignant, thoughtful answers in the past,
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  Speaker 1: answers that I think a lot of the guests probably
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  Speaker 1: even surprise themselves with.
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  Speaker 2: And I love that.
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  Speaker 1: And that's because not always do we take the time
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  Speaker 1: to really reflect about what's going on inside, right, and
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  Speaker 1: the hustle and the bustle and things being crazy, and God,
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  Speaker 1: this time of the year, with the holidays and running around,
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  Speaker 1: it can be hard to take that beat to stop
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  Speaker 1: to reflect. But today I'm going to answer that question myself.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to get honest with you guys about what
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  Speaker 1: it is that I see when I look in the mirror. Again,
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  Speaker 1: going back to this trip that I took to Hawaii,
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  Speaker 1: I had a lot of time to reflect that I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't taking necessarily before I left New York. You know,
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  Speaker 1: twelve hours on a plane there, sitting on the beach
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  Speaker 1: for days listening to the waves, taking another twelve hour
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  Speaker 1: flight back, that's a lot of me time, a lot
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  Speaker 1: of time to sit with who it is that I am.
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  Speaker 1: And so I just wanted to open up to you
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  Speaker 1: guys and kind of be honest with what I'm feeling
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  Speaker 1: and where I'm at. Now here is my goal. My
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  Speaker 1: goal is that I'm going to open up to you,
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  Speaker 1: and then hopefully you'll open up with yourself, and then
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  Speaker 1: maybe you'll feel comfortable opening up to me.
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  Speaker 2: So what does that look like?
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  Speaker 1: It looks like me talking to you about what it
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  Speaker 1: is that I see when I look in the mirror.
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  Speaker 1: Then maybe it's you doing this exercise on your own.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's talking to yourself in the comfort of your
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  Speaker 1: own apartment like I'm doing right now. Maybe it's writing
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  Speaker 1: some thoughts down on the subway or on your commute.
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  Speaker 1: And then maybe once you're honest with yourself, you'll feel
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  Speaker 1: comfortable sharing a little bit of that with me, whether
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  Speaker 1: it's on your Instagram story or over email or whatever
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  Speaker 1: feels right. The goal of this exercise again is to
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  Speaker 1: hopefully get us all honest with what's going on, not
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  Speaker 1: because we expect that it's going to be all roses
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  Speaker 1: and perfect and smiles, but because until we take the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to get honest with ourselves that we cannot make
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  Speaker 1: positive progress, We cannot really grow you guys know the drill.
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  Speaker 1: Tag me with your videos, with your comments, with your
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  Speaker 1: thoughts at Hurdle podcast, at Emily Body, and of course
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  Speaker 1: always over email. If you have a hurdle moment of
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  Speaker 1: your own to share, you want to say, Hi, It's
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  Speaker 1: Emily at Hurdle dot us. And with that, let's get
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  Speaker 1: to hurdling. What do I see when I look in
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  Speaker 1: the mirror. It's interesting. I actually went to a studio
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  Speaker 1: of sorts that's relatively new in New York City. It's
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  Speaker 1: called Frequency, And I'm sure, however I explain this right now,
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  Speaker 1: will not be how the company explains what happens in there.
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  Speaker 1: But basically, you walk into a room and you have
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  Speaker 1: the opportunity to connect with individuals who you don't know
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  Speaker 1: and talk to them in an open and honest way
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  Speaker 1: that you definitely wouldn't do on the streets. So when
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  Speaker 1: I went to Frequency, I stood in this sphere of
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  Speaker 1: sorts and opened up to one of the co founders,
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  Speaker 1: a man from Israel, and we didn't exercise and where
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  Speaker 1: for one or two minutes, just based off of impressions.
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  Speaker 1: I told him who he is, and then he told
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  Speaker 1: me who I am, and then we switched so it
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  Speaker 1: was phrases like I am a daughter, I am strong, willed,
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  Speaker 1: I am compassionate, things like that, and it was so
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  Speaker 1: interesting to actually see how it is that we describe
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  Speaker 1: ourselves versus some of the nice or maybe outlandish things
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  Speaker 1: that someone else might say.
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  Speaker 2: Anyway, I'm rambling.
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  Speaker 1: Basically, what I'm trying to say is that that exercise,
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  Speaker 1: in particular, it really got me thinking about who it
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  Speaker 1: is that I am.
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  Speaker 2: What do I see when I look in the mirror?
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  Speaker 2: So what is it?
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  Speaker 1: Well, I'm going to open my handy cell phone camera
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  Speaker 1: and stare at myself as I do this. This is
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  Speaker 1: not pre rehearsed, all right. When I look in the mirror,
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  Speaker 1: I see a strong woman. I see someone who's been
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  Speaker 1: through a lot, and a woman that over the past
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  Speaker 1: year has grown more than she could have even anticipated.
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  Speaker 1: I see someone that's motivated beyond belief, and that knows
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  Speaker 1: that she wants a lot, and that has a lot
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  Speaker 1: of big goals, but also recognizes that she needs to
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  Speaker 1: take some time to articulate exactly what those are and
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  Speaker 1: what she wants.
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  Speaker 2: To do to get to them.
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  Speaker 1: I see a body, of course, just my last name,
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  Speaker 1: but my physical body. This body that I feel at
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes I am so so proud of, and admittedly it,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes I'm uncomfortable with. I look down and I see
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  Speaker 1: a stomach that at times has been small and other
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  Speaker 1: times big. I see some mornings a couple of abs,
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  Speaker 1: and other mornings none at all. And on that note,
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  Speaker 1: I guess I see a fighter. I see someone who
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  Speaker 1: is willing to put in the work, who understands that
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  Speaker 1: the tough stuff happens for a reason. I see someone
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  Speaker 1: who's trying to do good and someone that's been hurt.
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  Speaker 1: I see someone that's just trying to figure it out,
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  Speaker 1: and a person who is compassionate and impulsive and goes
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  Speaker 1: out of their way for people even though maybe they
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  Speaker 1: didn't even ask me for it. I see someone who
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  Speaker 1: takes risks. I see someone who wants so badly to
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  Speaker 1: be loved and liked, but understands that she's not everybody's
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  Speaker 1: person and that's okay. I see someone who definitely wants
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  Speaker 1: to be a partner, but understands more than ever that
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  Speaker 1: she doesn't need a partner to feel whole. I see
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  Speaker 1: someone that understands that there's a lot of work to
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  Speaker 1: be done. And I see someone who's willing.
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  Speaker 2: To do it. I don't know. I feel like I
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  Speaker 2: listed a lot of things.
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  Speaker 1: I think mostly when I look in the mirror, I
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  Speaker 1: just see someone that's determined, someone that is willing to
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  Speaker 1: go after it. And I hope, at the very least
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  Speaker 1: that me talking about these things, me being open about
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  Speaker 1: these things, me being honest about the fact that I
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  Speaker 1: too struggle with self confidence and articulating exactly what it
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  Speaker 1: is that my goals are.
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  Speaker 2: And that's okay.
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  Speaker 1: I hope that by sharing this with you, it empowers
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  Speaker 1: you to be open and honest with yourself. So, like
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  Speaker 1: I said in the intro, what I want you to do.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's now, maybe it's tonight, maybe it's over the weekend.
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  Speaker 1: Take some time to reflect, to say out loud or
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  Speaker 1: to write down what is it that you see looking
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  Speaker 1: back at you when you look in the mirror. I
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  Speaker 1: don't just want descriptors, although those can be good too.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to look deep, to maybe identify what
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  Speaker 1: it is that you want that you don't see, and
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  Speaker 1: then start to put together a little bit of an
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  Speaker 1: action plan of what you can do to make a shift.
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  Speaker 2: It's okay if.
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  Speaker 1: You don't like everything, but what's important is that you're
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  Speaker 1: honest and open with yourself, because until you're open with yourself,
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  Speaker 1: nothing changes. If nothing changes at Emila Body at Hurdle Podcast,
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  Speaker 1: do me a favor this week. Share this episode with
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  Speaker 1: a friend who you think can benefit from this little
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  Speaker 1: exercise another Hurdle co Good catch you guys next time.