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Season 3 - Episode 266 - What does letting go mean to you? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we're talking about letting things go and deciding
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  what you're going to hang on to in the moment.
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  And I'll tell you, one of the most fascinating things that I
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  have ever approached with myself is letting things go because
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  it's not in my nature to let things go until I feel like
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  they're done. I want to dive in.
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  I want to be able to solve the problem, complete the project,
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  doesn't matter what it is. I don't just let things go
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  easily. And one of the hardest lessons
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  that I've ever had to teach myself is some things I can't
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  control, some things I have absolutely.
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  And my certainty girl, you've heard me talk about her,
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  especially this week quite a bit with Storm and everything else.
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  I've had a lot of experience dealing with my need to control
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  things over the years, and admittedly, I've gotten much
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  better with it. I've had to acquiesce on a lot
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  of things. I've had to reassess what my
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  intentions and attention goes to.
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  And in deciding to let things go, it doesn't mean that you
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  failed. It just means that you've
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  decided this is not important enough for my intention anymore.
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  And for me, that little phrase is so powerful because I'm able
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  to say to myself, well, this is not important enough for my
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  attention anymore. And if I'm giving something my
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  attention, don't I want it to be important?
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  Don't I want it to be part of my law of attraction?
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  Because if I'm giving it attention, that means I'm giving
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  it fuel for it to come to me. And if it's fueled, then that
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  means it's it's being fueled by my emotions.
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  So I definitely don't want to give fuel to something that I
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  don't want. I have to just decide to let it
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  go. What's so challenging though,
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  for all of us is, does that mean failure?
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  Does it mean that you've given up?
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  Does it mean that you have decided that you're happy about
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  it? I don't know.
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  Everybody has a different reaction to it.
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  And hence the reason we're talking about it, because there
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  are times when I'll say to clients, well, let's talk about
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  letting this go, letting this project go or letting this idea
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  go. And sometimes people will be
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  like, that's such a relief. And other times people will be
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  like, well, then I failed again. It is all about our own
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  perspective. And if you are not familiar with
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  how you process these things and how you go through perspective,
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  it is well worth your time to make a decision and look at that
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  and say, OK, I really want to know.
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  And how, how am I processing that?
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  What is that all about? Because it it brings everything
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  to you because if you are not letting it go, it's back there
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  in the back of the bus and it's got mind chatter with it.
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  And mind chatter is energy. And then that means you're
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  attracting it. So you have to make sure you're
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  clear on that part. Now I'm going to explain this a
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  little bit from my perspective if coming from letting a project
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  go. So I had something that I was
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  working on and I just decided that it no longer excited me.
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  This just it no longer excited me what I was doing.
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  And I, I made a decision that I was going to let this project
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  go. I was just not going to hold on
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  to it the way that I, I had initially thought I was going to
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  and I was just going to let it go.
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  And that is very rare for me because I like to see things all
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  the way to the end. And since this was a product I
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  was thinking of putting together, I was like, you know
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  what? This thing just does not give me
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  any excitement beyond not failing.
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  And when I had that distinction in my head and I went, wow.
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  So I actually have put it under the category, if you don't
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  complete it, you've failed. And that was not what the
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  polling was supposed to be about.
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  So I had to pull myself into that reality and say, hmm,
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  interesting, OK, what if I didn't make it mean that?
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  What if I had? It means something else.
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  What if there was something else that I could do and just say,
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  this is not right for the person I am right now.
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  That was a very powerful switch in my head for the person I am
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  right now. This project is not right
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  because I have put myself on a different trajectory and now I'm
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  working on different things. And that was a project that had
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  been around for a while. And now I'm just like, it's not
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  as important. So I'm sharing this because in
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  my recognition of that for myself, it was so freeing to be
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  able to say, I can free myself. I can let this go.
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  I don't have to mean it means something bad because I'm
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  associating it to something different.
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  It is no longer aligned with the person I am right now.
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  And boom, it was effortless. So try that figure out is you're
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  letting something go aligned with the person you are right
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  now. And if it is, oh, that's a great
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  way to do it. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.