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You Are Not Alone, This Space is for YOU · Kingdom Spouse Disappointment | Healing, Heartbreak, God Revealed Relationship, The One,

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  One of the primary feelings I really felt while navigating everything was this sense of aloneness.
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  This sense of feeling as if nobody else was going through what I was going through.
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  A feeling as if I needed to figure out everything by myself.
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  As if I needed to keep it all in.
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  I wondered if I was crazy. I wondered if people would think I'm crazy.
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  And honestly, a part of the reason I stayed silent is because no one was talking about this.
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  I heard so many testimonies about people who believed God revealed their spouse. And it happened. and,
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  But no one was talking about the other side.
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  Like what happens when you believe God showed you your future spouse and it doesn't materialize?
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  What happens when the relationship ends or what happens when it never even begins?
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  That silence made me feel alone and I'm sure it can make you feel alone too.
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  Have you ever believed God showed you your future spouse only for the relationship
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  to end or never even begin?
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  You are not alone. Welcome to Kingdom Spouse Disappointment,
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  a space for honest conversations about Christian dating, heartbreak, and healing.
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  If you've ever said, I thought God told me they were the one, this podcast is for you.
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  Here, we process the pain, rebuild the trust in God, and rediscover hope.
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  One honest conversation at a time.
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  Thank you.
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  Hi everyone, welcome, welcome, welcome.
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  Thank you so much for joining me for the very first episode of Kingdom Spouse Disappointment.
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  My name is Lori Kay and most
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  people call me Lori and I'm truly
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  grateful that you're here and I
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  want you to know that I don't take your presence
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  lightly and you know
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  I truly believe that this is the beginning
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  of a journey one where we we
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  move from brokenness to healing together now
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  you might be wondering what is this podcast about
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  who is this podcast for and let
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  me tell you firstly this podcast
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  is not a podcast that will give.
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  You all the answers to all your questions
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  right now it's not a podcast to
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  give you an immediate fix or solution
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  but instead this podcast
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  is one that is here
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  to support you to be there with
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  you and just to help you navigate this
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  journey because the truth is that healing is not necessarily a destination but
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  a journey so come with me on this journey as we navigate the hurt the pain the disappointment Ment.
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  And a very specific kind of heartbreak that happens when something you believe
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  God said doesn't come to pass.
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  So yeah, this podcast is for persons who honestly believe that God told them
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  who their future spouse would be,
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  that he revealed it in whatever way, but it didn't materialize.
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  Either the relationship ended and
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  you were left heartbroken or the
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  relationship didn't even start and you
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  were left confused and the
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  truth is that not everyone knows how
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  to deal with or even support this kind
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  of pain so they might try
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  to correct you rebuke you they might try to silence you or they might try to
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  just give you a quick fix but this space is a space for processing it with honesty.
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  Care and grace like there is no
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  pressure to pretend to
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  have a strong faith right now no pressure to
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  figure everything out no this space
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  is just to allow the journey of
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  healing to take place as we move from
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  a place of immense hurt and disappointment
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  to a place of healing and
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  restoring hope in God this space
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  is for the woman who feels
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  embarrassed even thinking about what she's experiencing it's for that person
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  who still loves God but what you're navigating right now just just makes it
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  feel hard to trust God right now.
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  And if you're listening to this, there's a strong chance you believe God showed you,
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  told you or revealed to you in one way or another who your future spouse would
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  be, but it didn't happen.
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  You might be left with questions like, did I hear God wrong?
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  Am I delusional?
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  Can I still trust God?
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  But once again, this is a space where you don't have to figure out everything right now.
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  You might be here because you
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  might be feeling disappointment that's a bit deeper than a normal breakup.
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  You might be feeling confusion about your ability to hear God.
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  Maybe shame for getting it wrong
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  or you just might really feel distant
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  from god even though you still
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  love him and it's okay it is
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  okay you know i don't know whoever told us as christians that we cannot feel
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  certain emotions and be honest about them like it is okay to feel what you're
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  feeling and laid honestly on the alto before God.
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  It is okay to be real with yourself and to be real with God about what you are truly navigating.
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  It is okay. And this podcast is here to let you know that.
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  And to support you as you take one step at a time to being healed,
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  to be made whole, restored and joyful.
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  Now while recording
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  this episode i decided to just take a glance back at my journal yeah i'm just
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  gonna read maybe one or two sentences from it but this was,
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  this was May 8, 2022.
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  Yes, that is 2022, several years ago.
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  And this is what it says. I was sick for the whole day yesterday,
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  vomiting, weak, headaches. Help me Lord.
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  And that's a very short snippet but
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  i i'm just here reflecting on you
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  know on the possibility that you may feel the
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  exact same way or even a similar way you
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  may feel weak tired you might be having headaches maybe you're nauseous maybe
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  you feel as if your heart hurts so much that it feels like it's gonna fall out
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  of your chest any moment now.
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  And, you know, as you encounter several emotions and how those emotions display
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  themselves in a physiological way,
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  I just want to encourage you that things won't always be like this.
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  And for today I just
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  want to remind you that you are loved you're
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  not crazy and most importantly
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  you're not alone you will get
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  through this even though you probably can't fathom
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  the how the when the
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  why the where but you will
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  eventually get through this it's a
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  process it's a journey it's not
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  a destination and for
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  the rest of this week until next week what
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  i want you to do is i want you to do something for me i want you to stop trying
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  to figure out every single thing
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  stop stop just stop trying to solve everything right now instead just.
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  Just take the time to be honest with yourself and with God about what you're feeling. Be honest.
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  For example, you can say, God, I thought you said this and now I'm feeling this.
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  For example, God, I thought you said John Brown was going to get married to me.
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  But instead i'm seeing where
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  his engagement was announced to someone
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  else in the church and now i feel betrayed
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  i feel like i can't trust you again
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  i feel as if i'm in a hole i feel
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  as if there's no hope help me
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  yes do that just be
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  honest with god this upcoming week and
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  just take this week to name what
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  you're feeling without minimizing it
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  and remember you don't have
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  to figure out everything now so
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  thanks once again for joining my
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  first episode of my podcast Kingdom Spouse
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  Disappointment and I look
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  forward to meeting with you and supporting you so join me next week as we talk
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  some more about how to navigate what I call Kingdom Spouse disappointment?
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  And why is it that this seems like it hurts a lot more than just a normal breakup or heartbreak?
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  So until then, and remember, you're not falling behind.
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  You're creating space for healing. See you next week.
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  Thank you.