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I REFUSED to help with a family medical bill… It was all a SCAM! -r/BORUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3059 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 3: I refused to help with a family medical bill, then
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  Speaker 3: discovered a gambling problem.
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  Speaker 4: It's one thing after another.
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  Speaker 3: My 39 male husband, 35, has a big family, and
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  Speaker 3: they are always in about each other's business. and causing drama.
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  Speaker 3: I generally keep out of it and let him deal
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  Speaker 3: with them all. This time, I was dragged into it,
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  Speaker 3: and it is.
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  Speaker 5: All blown up.
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  Speaker 4: Or nor.
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  Speaker 3: He has a cousin who is married to a real
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  Speaker 3: Tweety Bird kind of guy. They have an eight-year-old boy.
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  Speaker 3: They are all about show and live outside their means.
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  Speaker 3: Everything is on finance, nice cars, and luxury holidays, etc.
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  Speaker 3: Through the family grapevine, we've heard that they're in about $ 80, 000... debt.
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  Speaker 4: That's a lot of debt.
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  Speaker 3: But think about all the fun they had in Turks
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  Speaker 3: and Caicos.
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  Speaker 4: And who had this fun?
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  Speaker 6: Captain Davy Jones.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, Davy Jones locker.
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  Speaker 6: No, I'm just kidding.
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  Speaker 5: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 6: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to read this story and have things to
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  Speaker 3: say and so will they. And so will you. And
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  Speaker 3: you can say them to us.
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  Speaker 5: In the comments.
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  Speaker 3: Anyways, this guy has a job that pays about $ 100, 000
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  Speaker 3: a year. We have never got on. There have been
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  Speaker 3: the G with a J jokes. Nothing too bad, but irritating.
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  Speaker 3: He also hates the fact we both do extremely well
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  Speaker 3: for ourselves.
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  Speaker 5: Not to brag. Incoming brag.
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  Speaker 3: But we have access to seven figures in savings and investments.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, wee!
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Not to brag, but.
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  Speaker 3: I'll brag a little bit. The family knows, but people
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  Speaker 3: on the outside have no idea.
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  Speaker 5: We live a quiet life.
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  Speaker 3: No flashy cars or Insta posts about our holidays. Last year,
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  Speaker 3: he came into a decent inheritance in the form of
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  Speaker 3: a $ 750, 000 house, and.
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  Speaker 4: He would not shut up about it.
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  Speaker 3: This is all relevant. Now, to the issue. Ultimately, their
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  Speaker 3: kid has become ill. Extremely ill. Not going to pass away,
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  Speaker 3: but their life will definitely be more difficult. There is
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  Speaker 3: a treatment. available that might help, but it will cost
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  Speaker 3: around $ 250, 000. They came to us and asked if we
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  Speaker 3: would pay for it. We said we would need to
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  Speaker 3: discuss it and ultimately went back to them and said
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  Speaker 3: this isn't something that we would do.
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  Speaker 5: This was not a fun phone call.
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  Speaker 2: Genuinely, I think that they cannot come to anyone and
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  Speaker 2: ask for that level of money when they are spending
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  Speaker 2: triple that on you know houses and cars i'm like
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  Speaker 2: until you have sold the house that you do not
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  Speaker 2: need the car that you do not need and not
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  Speaker 2: gone on the vacation that you don't need to go
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  Speaker 2: on then we can talk about you know getting help.
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  Speaker 6: You don't understand those things are going to cure the child.
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  Speaker 2: Yes that's part of the medical treatment we take them
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  Speaker 2: to the mountains.
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  Speaker 3: Of cancun He started off calling us every name under
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  Speaker 3: the sun. Our reasons will become clear soon. After this call,
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  Speaker 3: they put us on blast in the family group chat
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  Speaker 3: and Facebook. We were getting calls and messages from people
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  Speaker 3: going in hard on us. This is when I messaged
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  Speaker 3: the chat and commented on their Facebook. I explained that
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  Speaker 3: if they could not afford it, we would have helped.
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  Speaker 3: They have a paid off $ 750, 000 donation.
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  Speaker 5: House.
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  Speaker 3: I pointed out that there is nothing stopping them from
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  Speaker 3: releasing some equity in the house, and this would pay
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  Speaker 3: for the treatment and clear their debt. Their mortgage payments
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  Speaker 3: would be less than what they previously paid in rent.
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  Speaker 3: I also pointed out that they could cancel their two
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  Speaker 3: upcoming $ 10, 000 holidays and downgrade their cars. I said that
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  Speaker 3: I felt like we would be paying to maintain their lifestyle,
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  Speaker 3: and as parents, they should be doing everything they should
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  Speaker 3: to help said kid. Since this happened, there has been
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  Speaker 3: more name-calling and dramatics, But most of the family have
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  Speaker 3: now pivoted to our point of view. This has led
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  Speaker 3: to some of them who previously promised money pulling out.
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  Speaker 3: We are all being called monsters for not helping a
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  Speaker 3: sick kid. I don't think we are, but that is
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  Speaker 3: why we are here.
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  Speaker 5: Am I the a-hole?
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  Speaker 3: Well, given that they have the full opportunity to refi
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  Speaker 3: their house or whatever.
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: You're not the a-hole.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not giving them money that they have.
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  Speaker 3: They could literally just do whatever they got to do
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  Speaker 3: with their house.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: They're like, Uncle Tommy and Timmy over there have seven
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  Speaker 6: figures in their savings account. They're being really selfish. Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: But we're going to buy a brand new car.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: How do you lose that kid? And your parents are like, well,
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  Speaker 4: I guess no one can help you.
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  Speaker 3: That's it for you.
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  Speaker 6: I'm like, listen, Johnny, we bought you the new Xbox,
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  Speaker 6: we bought you the new PlayStation, and we got you
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  Speaker 6: a Wii 2. That's not curing you?
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  Speaker 4: Now, Johnny, we can't save you, but we can take
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  Speaker 4: you to Cancun.
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  Speaker 5: Where you can roll in the sand.
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  Speaker 4: Would you rather live or Cancun?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, you haven't really lived.
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  Speaker 4: Life is temporary.
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  Speaker 6: Cancun?
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  Speaker 5: Forever.
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  Speaker 3: Especially if that's the last place you ever see.
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  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 3: We have some comments. Individual Cloud 7656. How is this
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  Speaker 3: even a question? They have the money. OP replies, well,
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  Speaker 3: apparently because we're rich and don't have kids, we should
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  Speaker 3: just cough it up. They have also pointed out how
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  Speaker 3: we have helped other family members. We've paid for three
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  Speaker 3: of their universities and also bought two houses.
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  Speaker 5: For ones who were genuinely struggling.
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  Speaker 3: Keyword there, genuinely struggling. Ten days later. First off, a
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  Speaker 3: lot of you were right. There was a lot more
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  Speaker 3: going on than anyone knew. There was something off about
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  Speaker 3: the whole situation, but the one thing we knew is
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  Speaker 3: that the kid was sick. My husband saw a post
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  Speaker 3: on socials that his cousin's husband was out of town
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  Speaker 3: for the weekend, and we decided to reach out to
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  Speaker 3: the cousin and see if she would meet us for
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  Speaker 3: a coffee. She did, and she invited us around to
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  Speaker 3: their house. I know a lot of you will say
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  Speaker 3: we were stupid to go around, but my husband had
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  Speaker 3: been close to his cousin growing up and just wanted
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  Speaker 3: to see if there was something that could be figured out.
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  Speaker 3: I was against it, but it was important to him.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't need to be there, but I'm going to
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  Speaker 3: be honest. I was there for the tea.
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  Speaker 6: What kind of flavor was it?
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  Speaker 3: English breakfast. Anyway, things were off in the house. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know how to describe it, but she seemed out
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  Speaker 3: of place in her own home on edge. At first,
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  Speaker 3: I thought it was because we were there and, you know,
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  Speaker 3: the whole situation was awkward. After everyone was settled, we
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  Speaker 3: started talking and basically said that we stand by what
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  Speaker 3: we said. But if we could help in other ways
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  Speaker 3: that worked for everyone, we would. She broke down and
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  Speaker 3: it all came out. It turns out that her husband
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  Speaker 3: has a gambling problem and the 80K was nowhere close
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  Speaker 3: to their debt. He had taken out $ 550, 000 against the
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  Speaker 3: house as soon as he got it. This cleared what
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  Speaker 3: he owed on credit, and it was to some less
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  Speaker 3: than savory people. The problem is his gambling problem did
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  Speaker 3: not go away. Surprise, surprise. And it had crept back
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  Speaker 3: up again to the tune of about $ 100, 000. F-ing crazy. Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 3: Have you tried telling the illegal gambling ring that your
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  Speaker 3: son is sick?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe we can gamble on some other stuff.
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  Speaker 3: You've got options.
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  Speaker 5: None of them are good now. Oh, boy.
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  Speaker 3: As predicted by some of you, the out-of-pocket for the
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  Speaker 3: treatment was not $ 250, 000. It was closer to $ 125, 000. He
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  Speaker 3: decided to double it and approach us to sort of
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  Speaker 3: take care of two Tweety birds with one stone.
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  Speaker 6: Wow, quite the gamble, huh?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and it didn't pay off.
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  Speaker 3: He wanted to clear the debt and pay for the treatment.
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  Speaker 3: Before I go any further, we are now paying for
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  Speaker 3: the full treatment directly to the hospital.
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  Speaker 4: And that, you know, that like very kind of you.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Because clearly, you know, the cousin doesn't know what to
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  Speaker 2: do because the husband's responsible for all of this.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And you guys are helping a child, which is always good. Right.
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  Speaker 3: And big bonus, you get to hold this over that
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  Speaker 3: child's head forever.
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  Speaker 4: They say, oh, well, you know. birthday presents no your life.
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  Speaker 3: Say oh i don't want to keep doing your yard work.
• 8:16
  Speaker 4: Well you're welcome for existing do you like.
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  Speaker 3: Being alive you're welcome well i guess they said it's
• 8:22
  Speaker 3: not life-threatening but it's like they have is it lupus
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  Speaker 3: i don't know is it lupus uh it doesn't say
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  Speaker 3: it's always lupus.
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  Speaker 6: You sure they could um what about loop a Fiasco.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, okay.
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  Speaker 3: Appointments are being made and hopefully the little guy will
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  Speaker 3: start this treatment in the next few weeks. What we
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  Speaker 3: didn't predict and what nobody had any idea about was
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  Speaker 3: what else was going on in the household.
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  Speaker 5: I won't go into.
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  Speaker 3: Details because I would need to post trigger warnings, but
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  Speaker 3: I'm sure you can figure it out. I have to say,
• 8:54
  Speaker 3: I had said that his family can be troublesome. But
• 8:57
  Speaker 3: they rallied as soon as the flag went up. The cousin,
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  Speaker 3: the son, and all of their personal belongings and documents, etc.
• 9:04
  Speaker 3: were out of that house within two hours. There was
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  Speaker 3: not a trace of them left. I was impressed. All
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  Speaker 3: the family crap and dramas were forgotten.
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  Speaker 5: That's good.
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  Speaker 3: If there's any reason to rally as a family.
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  Speaker 5: It's to save the child.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So good on you guys.
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  Speaker 3: We moved both of them into our guest house, and
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  Speaker 3: that is where they will be staying for the foreseeable future.
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  Speaker 4: Cousin and child.
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  Speaker 5: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Sunday night, crap hit the fan. He came home to
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  Speaker 3: an empty house. His stuff still there. She had blocked
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  Speaker 3: him on everything. So he started going around all the
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  Speaker 3: family members, teeing it off. He was met with a
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  Speaker 3: wall of silence.
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  Speaker 4: Props to everyone.
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  Speaker 2: Like, again, I know he just said it, but props
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  Speaker 2: to everyone who was fighting and so much infighting and
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  Speaker 2: drama and stuff. And then just said, you know what?
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  Speaker 2: We don't care about you guys or you guy. Let's
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  Speaker 2: help the cool people.
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  Speaker 4: In this family?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's the Cool Cats Club.
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  Speaker 4: Cool Cats Club. And you can't get in because it's
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  Speaker 4: only for cool cats, husband.
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  Speaker 5: And you are a dirty dog.
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  Speaker 3: Everyone denied all knowledge of anything and told him where
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  Speaker 3: to go. The only place he couldn't get to was ours.
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  Speaker 3: He couldn't get past security. We had given them all
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  Speaker 3: his details and told them the situation and said that
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  Speaker 3: under no circumstances was anyone to be let through to
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  Speaker 3: visit us without calling and confirming with us. He showed
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  Speaker 3: up and made a scene, but got nowhere. I think
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  Speaker 3: security enjoyed it. It is normally a pretty boring job.
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  Speaker 3: Next thing we knew, we had the police at our door.
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  Speaker 3: I think he called in a welfare check as he
• 10:31
  Speaker 3: guessed or knew that they were here. We explained the
• 10:34
  Speaker 3: situation and that went nowhere for him. She's talking with
• 10:38
  Speaker 3: our lawyer and they will be dealing with everything for her.
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  Speaker 3: The main thing is that they are both safe and
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  Speaker 3: her kid is getting the treatment that he needs. I
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  Speaker 3: know I shouldn't take any pleasure in this, but I do.
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  Speaker 5: I hate that guy.
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  Speaker 4: He's the worst.
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  Speaker 5: It's all right.
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  Speaker 4: Take pleasure.
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  Speaker 3: Just a little.
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  Speaker 5: Just a little. You can do a little.
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  Speaker 4: He deserves it. Cheap day.
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  Speaker 5: Be bad.
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  Speaker 7: He will lose everything.
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  Speaker 4: I hope he keeps the debt.
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  Speaker 5: That he should keep that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, because it's a little.
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  Speaker 2: Bit tricky when you're married. They usually split the debt up,
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  Speaker 2: but hopefully he keeps the debt.
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  Speaker 3: They have been missing their mortgage payments. The house will
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  Speaker 3: be gone soon. Divorce will be happening and there is
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  Speaker 3: apparently an excellent chance of full custody for her. He
• 11:23
  Speaker 3: is spiraling. It would not surprise me if he messes
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  Speaker 3: up his job as well. So for now, everything seems
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  Speaker 3: to be under control. I don't expect any more updates
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  Speaker 3: unless he does something spectacular.
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  Speaker 5: There is an edit.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, okay.
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  Speaker 3: There's been a lot of comments saying that he could
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  Speaker 3: be dangerous right now, as he has nothing to lose.
• 11:40
  Speaker 3: While you can never be 100%, we are in a
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  Speaker 3: good position.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, it seems like he doesn't know where anyone is,
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  Speaker 2: which is the most important thing. No one's willing to
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  Speaker 2: give him any of that information. And keep working through lawyers.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 11:54
  Speaker 4: Don't give him anything. Keep the lawyers.
• 11:55
  Speaker 5: You're in a secure place.
• 11:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah. He would need to get past two security checkpoints
• 12:00
  Speaker 3: just to get to our front gate.
• 12:02
  Speaker 4: It's like... Have you seen that one episode.
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  Speaker 5: Of Nathan Fielder?
• 12:07
  Speaker 2: There's an episode where he convinces a guy who has
• 12:11
  Speaker 2: a TV selling store to put an alligator.
• 12:14
  Speaker 4: In it so that people could get... You know what
• 12:16
  Speaker 4: I'm talking about? Well, anyway, that's the level of traps
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  Speaker 4: we've got in front. These are the security levels. We've
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  Speaker 4: got an alligator in there.
• 12:21
  Speaker 5: We've got a security alligator.
• 12:23
  Speaker 3: You have a moat?
• 12:25
  Speaker 4: That Nathan Fielder episode is what you have.
• 12:27
  Speaker 3: If you don't have a moat, I would build one.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: And then put gators in there.
• 12:31
  Speaker 4: Gators.
• 12:32
  Speaker 3: Put yourself on down there in a moat down there
• 12:35
  Speaker 3: a little bit. Alligator them.
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  Speaker 5: Hold on. I made that hammer the whole time. I'm
• 12:39
  Speaker 5: getting on that alligator.
• 12:40
  Speaker 4: Put Gambit in there. Don't throw cards at your ex-husband.
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  Speaker 3: So we have patrols that drive around 24-7. We have
• 12:50
  Speaker 3: five dogs.
• 12:51
  Speaker 4: That's a lot of dogs.
• 12:52
  Speaker 5: That's a lot of dogs.
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  Speaker 3: Admittedly, three of them are useless.
• 12:55
  Speaker 4: What are the three of them?
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  Speaker 3: But we do have a Doberman and a German Shepherd
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  Speaker 3: who spend most of their time outside by choice.
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: Cool.
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: And this story time is coming to a close.
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  Speaker 8: Oh, no.
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  Speaker 5: You've done a good job.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 4: OP and your partner are good people.
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  Speaker 2: And I like how you have chosen to use your
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  Speaker 2: money responsibly, respectfully, and righteously.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: The opposite of gambling your house away.
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  Speaker 4: And abusing your family.
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  Speaker 6: The house always wins.
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  Speaker 3: So, she has no desire to venture outside of this
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  Speaker 3: right now. And if she does, she will be with
• 13:33
  Speaker 3: someone on high alert. Just until the dust settles and
• 13:36
  Speaker 3: we see how the land lies.
• 13:38
  Speaker 4: Let the land lie.
• 13:40
  Speaker 3: Let sleeping lands lie. The lawyers are doing their thing
• 13:44
  Speaker 3: in regard to restraining orders, etc., but I don't think
• 13:46
  Speaker 3: we will know what's happening until next week. Thank you
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  Speaker 3: for your concern, but for now, they're both totally safe.
• 13:51
  Speaker 3: And we've got some comments. HungWhiteBoy25.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sure they've got a serious comment for us.
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, all of this also, OP is a much better
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  Speaker 3: man than I am, because even though he said... He
• 14:09
  Speaker 3: shouldn't take pleasure in this a-hole getting what he deserves.
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  Speaker 5: I certainly do.
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  Speaker 4: Thanks, hung white boy.
• 14:16
  Speaker 3: OP says, I felt I had to say it in
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  Speaker 3: the post, but not gonna lie, I am taking immense
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: pleasure from this. Not what has happened to his cousin, obviously,
• 14:24
  Speaker 3: but bringing the a-hole to his knees will bring me
• 14:27
  Speaker 3: great joy. Mrs. Jones says, hopefully that attorney can do
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  Speaker 3: something so that the debt doesn't fall on her. Doubt
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  Speaker 3: this nightmare is over for her. but I'm wishing the
• 14:40
  Speaker 3: best for the little guy. Hope he says, that won't
• 14:42
  Speaker 3: be a problem.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, thank goodness.
• 14:44
  Speaker 3: Money-wise, things should be close to balancing out. There will
• 14:47
  Speaker 3: just be nothing left. We will be helping them get back.
• 14:50
  Speaker 5: On their feet.
• 14:51
  Speaker 3: My husband was looking for therapists today for both of them.
• 14:55
  Speaker 3: I expect them to be here for a couple of years.
• 14:56
  Speaker 3: She's talked about some courses she can take. Even though
• 14:59
  Speaker 3: it reeks of nepotism, we will create a job for
• 15:02
  Speaker 3: her so she can start building her confidence back up.
• 15:05
  Speaker 4: That's what nepotism's for.
• 15:07
  Speaker 5: Yeah, absolutely. And an OP finishes once she's ready, of course.
• 15:12
  Speaker 5: That is the end.
• 15:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah, use a little nepotism. Sprinkle a little bit of
• 15:16
  Speaker 4: that on there.
• 15:17
  Speaker 3: What's nepotism for than helping out your cousin and your
• 15:21
  Speaker 3: little nibbling?
• 15:22
  Speaker 4: What's nepotism between friends?
• 15:25
  Speaker 5: That's what I always say.
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: That's where all of you guys came from. Friendship. I
• 15:31
  Speaker 3: always thought nepotism had to be family, but I guess
• 15:33
  Speaker 3: it doesn't, does it?
• 15:34
  Speaker 4: Eh, friends, family. All that jazz. Just connections.
• 15:38
  Speaker 3: Just connect.
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: But that is the end of that story. My sister
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: snapped at me for planning her bridal shower. Turns out
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: there's no wedding.
• 15:46
  Speaker 4: Then what's the issue here?
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: I'm 35 female and one of our four sisters, my
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: third youngest sister, 27 female, got engaged last year through
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: the grapevine.
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: Everything's happening through the grapevine.
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: I love a good grapevine.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: It's a second story about a grapevine. I heard that
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: she was upset that she was receiving no help or
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: excitement from her sisters regarding the wedding. The thing is,
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: this is our most non-social sister. Oh, so she doesn't
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: deserve any of that.
• 16:11
  Speaker 4: The thing is, she's kind of a loser.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: She makes zero attempt to hang out with us or
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: bond with us, and she majority only calls or texts
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: me to ask for favors. Like if she's low on
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: cash or needs a ride. This is important because any
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: attempt to bond with her has been met with odd excuses.
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: For example, one time last year we asked if she wanted.
• 16:34
  Speaker 4: To do dinner on Saturday.
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: And her response was she had to go to the
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: supermarket that day. And everyone knows supermarket, full day. Full
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: day event. Dinner, yes, at probably 7. But I'm going
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: to be at the supermarket all day.
• 16:49
  Speaker 5: All day.
• 16:50
  Speaker 8: I like to spend my days at the supermarket. Honestly,
• 16:53
  Speaker 8: when I was little, I used to ask my mom
• 16:54
  Speaker 8: if we could just go to the supermarket, even when
• 16:56
  Speaker 8: we didn't need anything.
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: I just really like to be at grocery stores.
• 16:59
  Speaker 5: Aw, that's sweet. Is that weird?
• 17:01
  Speaker 7: No.
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: That's an example of her usual responses to us, amongst
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: other ones that leave us scratching our heads. Anyways, I
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: asked how the wedding planning was going, and if a
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: date was set back in June, and she tells me
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: a long story, but basically due to some family drama
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: on the groom's side.
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: The wedding will be delayed.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: This changed again the next month in July, and a
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: date was set to have a court wedding sometime in November.
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from girls, girls, and... Oh,
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: and if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 17:32
  Speaker 5: I'm Sophia.
• 17:32
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah. I'm Keon. And we're here to give good
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers.
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: We only know what we'd do. So let us know
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: what you would do in the comments. And OP says,
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: in July, she asks me for a favor. Always asking
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: for favors. I ask what?
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: And she wants me to call two restaurants to see
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: how much they charge for a brunch. Ask her why
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: that's not something she can handle herself.
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: I didn't mean it offensively, but I'm busy. And that
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: seemed like something easy she could do on her own. Well,
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: she sends me a long paragraph about.
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: How she's so busy with stuff for the wedding. They're
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: doing a courthouse wedding. What are you busy with? She's
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: busy courthousing. And wedding-ing.
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: I ask her what's keeping her busy and thinking I
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: could help with something.
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: She sends me.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: Back a text with four tasks on it. Literally just
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: four things. Says she needs to decide if she wants
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: to get her hair done. If she should get her
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: nails done. Has to find a dress. And has to
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: find a tux place for her man.
• 18:28
  Speaker 4: That's it. I mean, those are kind of stressful. Okay,
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: but it's like, we're four months out.
• 18:34
  Speaker 6: Oh.
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: Like, I think we're in July.
• 18:36
  Speaker 5: And it's in November.
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: November.
• 18:39
  Speaker 8: Okay, yeah, you can easily pick, like, a hairstyle in, like,
• 18:42
  Speaker 8: a couple days or even a day.
• 18:45
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: In an hour.
• 18:45
  Speaker 6: There's 24 of those in a day.
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: Dude, that's, like, not enough. Sometimes I wish it was. Sorry, sorry. Yeah.
• 18:53
  Speaker 4: You wish you were on a different planet that had
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: longer days.
• 18:56
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: I'm a little stunned and slightly peeved because those are
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: tasks I could get done in half an afternoon.
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: That's why she sent them to you. Peeved is such
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: a good word.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: She's like, oh, P, you're so good at getting tasks
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: done in half an afternoon. It takes me four months.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: You're so good at it. It only takes you a
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: few hours. I also had just gotten back to work
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: from being off a week and was super busy. I
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: told her until she has an estimated number of guests there,
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: there would be little point in calling places until a
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: number was decided. And to just decide yes to their nails,
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: because why not? Fast forward to last night, me and
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: my oldest sister start chatting over dinner and decided a
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: small bridal shower and some kind of outing would be
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: nice for her. She's very low key, but we wanted
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: to do something as sisters together and then throw her
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: something as well so she could receive gifts. Well, I
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: text her at 7 p.m. asking, what she would like
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: to do before she gets married like if she preferred
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: a dinner or a brunch or some sort of group
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: class together she kept dodging the question to the point
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: my other sister called her directly Well, she picks up
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: and seems very annoyed and states that we woke her up.
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: I had been texting her for about an hour, so
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: unsure of how.
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: I woke her up. Hold on. Woke her up at
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: 7 p.m.? Yes. She texted her at 7 p.m. She
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: woke her up at 7 p.m.? Yes. Like from a nap?
• 20:15
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 20:16
  Speaker 6: What is this girl doing? Is she hibernating? What is
• 20:18
  Speaker 6: she doing?
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: I'm confused because they had been texting also for an hour.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: She had been texting them and then they call her
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: and say, hey, are you coming? And she goes, you
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: woke me up.
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: I was sleeping during that text.
• 20:31
  Speaker 6: Then who was I texting?
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: I was texting. I was sleep texting. Sleep texting.
• 20:35
  Speaker 5: Sorry.
• 20:35
  Speaker 6: It's like Wallace from Scott Pilgrim. No, not Wallace from Gromit.
• 20:40
  Speaker 5: Scott Pilgrim.
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: Wallace from Gromit. It was 8 p.m. at this point.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: My sister asks her if she had anything in mind
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: she would like for a mini bachelorette bridal type thing.
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: She responds and says, it's all taken care of. We
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: don't need to do anything because it's all taken care of.
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: And she just wants to get this over with. And
• 20:55
  Speaker 4: she doesn't want to do anything. And we're bothering her. Girl,
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: what do you want? You keep asking for help and
• 21:00
  Speaker 4: then you don't want the help. She doesn't know. I
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: say you do every single thing for her and then
• 21:05
  Speaker 4: let her complain again.
• 21:06
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: My sister says, okay then, and gets off the line.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: Quite frankly, we were taken aback. Her response was so
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: attitude filled and just straight nasty that it's hard for
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: me to convey it here. I don't know if somewhere
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: along the line we fell flat or if we legitimately
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: caught her on the wrong day. Was more support supposed
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: to be offered to her? She decided on a courthouse
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: wedding and a lunch after for about 10 people. I
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: don't know what else she could need and she never
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: reached out either. Her response kind of makes me hesitant
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: to reach back out to her again. And we've got comments.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: But Savannah, what are you doing?
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: Are you trying to demorph her? Are you just letting
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: it lie? I would try to.
• 21:47
  Speaker 8: Do more just because I know like, I don't know,
• 21:49
  Speaker 8: she's antisocial. You already know that. So it's not like
• 21:52
  Speaker 8: she's going to really ask for help. It seems like
• 21:55
  Speaker 8: she's just going to demand. Yeah, it's either she's going
• 21:58
  Speaker 8: to like demand you, but like she's waiting for you
• 22:01
  Speaker 8: to ask.
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 22:03
  Speaker 8: So like the thing is, here's how you win this.
• 22:05
  Speaker 8: So if you don't ask, she's going to complain. If
• 22:08
  Speaker 8: you ask, she's going to give you 500 things to do.
• 22:11
  Speaker 8: So you can either be a bad person or be
• 22:14
  Speaker 8: a bad person. yeah there's really no winning yeah wait
• 22:18
  Speaker 8: i said the way to win it sorry there's no
• 22:21
  Speaker 8: winners here actually this girl this 27 female with no
• 22:26
  Speaker 8: name she just she doesn't know what she wants and
• 22:28
  Speaker 8: she's actually probably not even gonna get married because she
• 22:31
  Speaker 8: still doesn't know if.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: That's yeah i feel like she's like i'm gonna keep
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: pushing it i'm gonna keep pushing it and then one
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: day i hope he's gonna be like hey what's going
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: on she's like Why would you even bring that up?
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: I'm not getting married anymore. But we got comments.
• 22:43
  Speaker 6: I'm canceling it all just because of you.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: Comment one says, no idea what your family history is,
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: but that being said, isn't this something you can do
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: yourself is a pretty snarky remark, especially over text. Opie says, yeah,
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: I know my response was snarky. The thing is with
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: her is that she suffers a bit from baby sister syndrome.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: and will wait for things to be handled by others, mom, sister, boyfriend,
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: rather than take the initiative herself. My patience has worn
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: thin with this dynamic, which led to the snarky response.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: She only has one or two friends that I know of,
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: and three of us sisters, so I don't think she
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: has anything planned, but that could very well be the case.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: Either way, we would have liked to do something just
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: as sisters, but it's hard to find enthusiasm after a
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: reaction like that. We've got a little bit left to
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: this story... Any final thoughts?
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 23:31
  Speaker 8: I think maybe you should ask her if there's like
• 23:33
  Speaker 8: a day that she can, you know, set aside and
• 23:38
  Speaker 8: you all sisters can like really focus and get stuff done.
• 23:42
  Speaker 8: Like be like, let's, you know, all get together.
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: Let's pick out a hairstyle. Let's pick out some, like,
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: you know, let's go get dress shopping. Let's do this.
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: Let's do that.
• 23:51
  Speaker 8: You know, like just to, maybe she's one of those
• 23:53
  Speaker 8: people that like needs the push rather than like, you know,
• 23:57
  Speaker 8: I like, she doesn't seem like someone who's going to
• 23:59
  Speaker 8: like get in front of it and be in charge.
• 24:01
  Speaker 8: She seems very much like a follower. And so I
• 24:03
  Speaker 8: feel like if you guys all band together and be like, okay, sissy,
• 24:06
  Speaker 8: this is what we're doing today.
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: She'd be like, okay, let's go. Let's do it.
• 24:11
  Speaker 8: And at least like giving her that, like not forcing
• 24:14
  Speaker 8: her per se, but just giving her that push.
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: I feel like it's going to.
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: And also allows you guys to like have a day
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: with her.
• 24:20
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: You don't have to do that. She's been kind of annoying.
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: But if you want to do something for her, I
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: think that is a good idea.
• 24:30
  Speaker 8: And if you want to do nothing and be mean,
• 24:31
  Speaker 8: then do that. But just know there's consequences. But we've
• 24:35
  Speaker 8: got a little bit left.
• 24:36
  Speaker 5: Update.
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: The wedding has been called off. Okay. So you don't
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: have to do anything anymore. Okay. So actually, never mind
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: all of what we said.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: My sister updated me and called off the wedding due
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: to her fiance showing non-enthusiasm and other factors.
• 24:50
  Speaker 6: Oh.
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: Her response to us asking.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: If she wanted a bachelorette party was bad because she
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: was so stressed. She knew at the time she was
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: calling off the wedding, but was too embarrassed to tell
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: anyone yet.
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: Oh, this makes sense.
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: Thank you for all the responses that implored me to
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: consider that she might be on the spectrum or have
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: other difficulties that could make things more complicated for her. Also,
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: thank you to everyone who responded with consideration. And didn't
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: villainize me or make me out to be one of
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: Cinderella's stepsisters based on a single interaction. And that's the
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: end of that story.
• 25:23
  Speaker 5: Wow.
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: Well, maybe you can still go out for a little
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: sister day.
• 25:27
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 25:28
  Speaker 8: When I broke up with my ex like a while ago,
• 25:30
  Speaker 8: I had a little sister.
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: Well, it wasn't really a sister day. They all like
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: just sent me stuff. And I was like, oh. And
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: it was really, really nice. Like I got like little like.
• 25:38
  Speaker 8: Spa stuff and little flowers and like little letters from them.
• 25:42
  Speaker 4: And I was like, oh, thanks, guys. Sweet. So, yeah.
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: So it's nice.
• 25:49
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 25:51
  Speaker 7: go on to the next one.
• 25:51
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• 25:55
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• 25:57
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• 26:00
  Speaker 8: My sister-in-law demanded to be maid of honor, but I
• 26:03
  Speaker 8: already chose someone else.
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: Ooh, sorry.
• 26:05
  Speaker 8: You didn't make the cut. I, 33 female, got engaged
• 26:08
  Speaker 8: to my fiancé, 28 male, last July. We decided to
• 26:12
  Speaker 8: get married about a year later this August. As preparations
• 26:16
  Speaker 8: in my country take a lot of time. So that
• 26:18
  Speaker 8: could be any country.
• 26:21
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 26:21
  Speaker 8: Truly.
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: Preparations take time.
• 26:24
  Speaker 8: Back then, when we decided on a wedding venue, I
• 26:27
  Speaker 8: asked my friend, 42 female, to be my maid of honor.
• 26:30
  Speaker 8: But she wasn't sure if she'd be able to join
• 26:32
  Speaker 8: the wedding after the ceremony as she's shy. Not gonna lie,
• 26:35
  Speaker 8: I was a tad sad. But I was grateful that
• 26:37
  Speaker 8: she let me know beforehand. Still, I complained a bit
• 26:40
  Speaker 8: when I grabbed an adult soda with my fiance, his sister,
• 26:44
  Speaker 8: 25 female, and his sister's BF. She immediately assumed that
• 26:48
  Speaker 8: now she's gonna be my maid of honor, but I
• 26:50
  Speaker 8: was reluctant and told her that for now I'm good.
• 26:53
  Speaker 8: There was never a question on my side for future
• 26:56
  Speaker 8: sister-in-law to be my maid of honor, to be clear.
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: Fast forward to the Halloween party.
• 27:01
  Speaker 8: I'm sharing a story that my maid of honor took
• 27:03
  Speaker 8: me shopping for a wedding dress and future sister-in-law got mad.
• 27:07
  Speaker 8: screaming that she's my maid of honor i was a
• 27:10
  Speaker 8: tad tipsy and i told her that i never changed
• 27:13
  Speaker 8: my mind and told her earlier and then just ignored
• 27:16
  Speaker 8: her fuming first red flag that i overlooked that's on
• 27:20
  Speaker 8: me by the way this comes from floral lady and
• 27:22
  Speaker 8: if you want to submit your own stories go to
• 27:24
  Speaker 8: the r slash okay story time subreddit i'm savannah i'm
• 27:26
  Speaker 8: sophia i'm keon and we're here to give some good
• 27:29
  Speaker 8: advice in a little goofy way but we don't have
• 27:30
  Speaker 8: all the answers We didn't tell you what we would
• 27:32
  Speaker 8: do in this situation, but you should let us know
• 27:34
  Speaker 8: what you would do in the comments right now. As
• 27:37
  Speaker 8: Opie says, on to the real thing. I'm going skiing
• 27:40
  Speaker 8: with my fiance and his two friends in two months. Skiing.
• 27:44
  Speaker 4: Fun. I'm not very good at it.
• 27:45
  Speaker 6: Not for me.
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: On to the real thing. I'm going skiing with my
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: fiance and his two friends in two months. We prepared
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: everything a few months back. Last year, we went with
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: future sister-in-law and her BF, but they both were insufferable
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: and fighting a lot. So this year, we didn't even
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: consider asking them. Oh, thank God. Also last year, they
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: were complaining that the skiing trip was expensive.
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: Duh.
• 28:06
  Speaker 8: And it was the cheap option. So you get the point.
• 28:09
  Speaker 8: Or lack of it. To tell them and expect them
• 28:11
  Speaker 8: to cough up three times the price from last year.
• 28:14
  Speaker 8: But future sister-in-law got info about the trip from a
• 28:17
  Speaker 8: mutual friend and she really wanted to go. I got
• 28:20
  Speaker 8: info and told friends that if they want to go
• 28:22
  Speaker 8: with her, then I'm not going as I don't want
• 28:25
  Speaker 8: any trauma. She could take my spot though. but probably
• 28:28
  Speaker 8: they'll need to pay for her. Nobody was on board,
• 28:31
  Speaker 8: and I thought that's it. Oh boy, I was wrong.
• 28:34
  Speaker 8: Future sister-in-law started to pester my fiance to take her anyway,
• 28:39
  Speaker 8: where there's no spot. And when he told her no,
• 28:41
  Speaker 8: then she involved my future mother-in-law.
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: Oh man, she doesn't even want to go.
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: Like, why are you fighting so hard to be on
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: a ski trip? that you can't afford nor want to
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: be on.
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah. I just, I don't get people.
• 28:55
  Speaker 6: It's like, she's proving her worth.
• 28:58
  Speaker 8: My one friend would get like, I would tell her
• 29:00
  Speaker 8: about like, I would hang out with like my other
• 29:02
  Speaker 8: friends or whatever. And she'd be like, why wasn't I invited?
• 29:04
  Speaker 8: I'm like, you told me you had something to do.
• 29:06
  Speaker 8: So I just didn't invite me.
• 29:08
  Speaker 6: But it's the idea of being invited.
• 29:09
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: And she was like, I do like the idea. I
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: like being invited to things even when I can't go.
• 29:13
  Speaker 8: Yeah. It was like, I mean, I would invite you,
• 29:16
  Speaker 8: but you told me like you were busy that day.
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: So I was like, oh, then I just won't invite her.
• 29:20
  Speaker 8: I didn't think to, why would I make her feel bad?
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:24
  Speaker 6: FOMO, FOMO, FOMO.
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: She used to do that all the time in high school.
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: I'm like, come on.
• 29:27
  Speaker 8: Beyonce was so pissed at this point that he told
• 29:30
  Speaker 8: her there's no place. And that future sister-in-law is constantly
• 29:33
  Speaker 8: mocking me. And now she's surprised I don't want to
• 29:35
  Speaker 8: go with her. Future sister-in-law started to message me. Angry texts,
• 29:39
  Speaker 8: then plain verbal mistreatment, and all names in the book.
• 29:43
  Speaker 4: Then threats.
• 29:44
  Speaker 8: Projection cracked to level 9000. No idea what was her plan,
• 29:48
  Speaker 8: but I don't like her even more. I just replied
• 29:51
  Speaker 8: to her that she's acting like a kid and I
• 29:52
  Speaker 8: won't be talking to her when she's like that. Question,
• 29:55
  Speaker 8: how can I get rid of her from the wedding?
• 29:57
  Speaker 8: I didn't give invitations yet, but I guess she'll be
• 29:59
  Speaker 8: expecting one.
• 30:00
  Speaker 6: Whoa.
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: I don't know if you can get rid of her, honestly.
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: She's your brother's sister. Yeah, you're married to a brother.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: Like, if your whole thing is that, oh, I don't
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: want to bring her because she's going to cause drama
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: at my wedding, you will cause drama if you don't
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: invite her.
• 30:17
  Speaker 6: This isn't like a third cousin thing. Or like a friend.
• 30:20
  Speaker 6: This is the sister.
• 30:22
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 30:23
  Speaker 5: In-law.
• 30:24
  Speaker 6: Your future sister-in-law. Girl, if you do this, there's not
• 30:27
  Speaker 6: going to be drama at the wedding. There's going to
• 30:29
  Speaker 6: be drama for the rest of your life.
• 30:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and you don't want that.
• 30:33
  Speaker 8: What can I do or tell to make her consider
• 30:35
  Speaker 8: not coming? By the way, I told fiancé that she's
• 30:38
  Speaker 8: not invited.
• 30:39
  Speaker 5: You didn't ask.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: You told fiancé that his sister is not invited?
• 30:45
  Speaker 8: If my sister-in-law... told my brother, hey, Savannah's not invited
• 30:51
  Speaker 8: to our wedding. He would cancel the whole thing.
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: He'd be like, yeah, good one.
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: I mean, yes, she is acting very poorly, but I
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: just think it's a worse decision to kick her out
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: if you don't want drama.
• 31:06
  Speaker 8: He's not happy about this, and after thinking... I told
• 31:10
  Speaker 8: him that I can reconsider if his sister will apologize
• 31:13
  Speaker 8: to me. But she did more vile things to him
• 31:17
  Speaker 8: and never apologized. So I'm assuming this won't happen. There
• 31:20
  Speaker 8: is an update here. Basically, we got an ultimatum to
• 31:23
  Speaker 8: invite future sister-in-law or she won't come. Well, that's what happens.
• 31:29
  Speaker 8: If you're invited, you come. If you're not invited, you
• 31:31
  Speaker 8: don't come. So I don't know what this thread is.
• 31:32
  Speaker 8: She's like, if you don't invite me... I'm not coming.
• 31:36
  Speaker 4: That's exactly what that means. Congratulations. You can't fire me.
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: I quit.
• 31:42
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 31:43
  Speaker 8: Beyonce wanted to give the invite after a really heated
• 31:46
  Speaker 8: phone call. I told him I can give her one,
• 31:48
  Speaker 8: but shredded into pieces. Then we discussed if at that
• 31:53
  Speaker 8: point it wouldn't be better to cancel the wedding and
• 31:55
  Speaker 8: kiss any money we put into that goodbye. I admit
• 31:59
  Speaker 8: that I was screaming during the call at some point,
• 32:01
  Speaker 8: which I'm not proud of, but.
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: I'm a petty one. Yeah, we know. Yeah, we know.
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: This is the call with sister-in-law? Yeah.
• 32:09
  Speaker 8: You're screaming on the phone? Yeah, it's not looking good.
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: Doesn't make you look good. It doesn't make you look good. Yeah.
• 32:18
  Speaker 8: It's our wedding, and so much energy and money was
• 32:22
  Speaker 8: spent at this point. Fiance expects another ultimatum tomorrow morning.
• 32:27
  Speaker 8: Give the invite.
• 32:28
  Speaker 4: Now or else. This is stupid.
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: You're stupid.
• 32:31
  Speaker 4: You have to invite her.
• 32:33
  Speaker 5: What are you doing?
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: You have to. That's all I have to say.
• 32:35
  Speaker 5: What are you doing?
• 32:37
  Speaker 8: I really want to accept the or else and. disinvite
• 32:41
  Speaker 8: future mother-in-law and any family on both sides that will
• 32:44
  Speaker 8: engage in this nonsense oh oh wait wait wait wait it.
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: Was the mother they were saying oh that was the
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: mother yeah invite future sister-in-law or mother-in-law doesn't come i
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: think they just didn't put that in it was implied
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: yeah so mother-in-law is the one saying i'm not gonna
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: come if you don't invite you know op's sister-in-law oh
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: And that's going to be even worse.
• 33:06
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: And so then is OP screaming on the phone with
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: her mother-in-law? Girl, you're kind of the a-hole, Loki.
• 33:15
  Speaker 8: But as you've all guessed by this point, my fiance
• 33:18
  Speaker 8: is my weak spot. He's angry at his mom for
• 33:21
  Speaker 8: the treatment she gave me, basically admitting that I will
• 33:24
  Speaker 8: never be part of the family. And what am I
• 33:26
  Speaker 8: even thinking? But it's still his mom. I don't have
• 33:30
  Speaker 8: it in me to tell him the harsh truth to
• 33:32
  Speaker 8: ditch them both and any flying monkeys. Another partial solution
• 33:37
  Speaker 8: was to be really petty and after the shredded invite,
• 33:41
  Speaker 8: duck with them both. Give them the worst places to
• 33:44
  Speaker 8: sit at the wedding and have my friends destroy their
• 33:47
  Speaker 8: gowns and keep them occupied and away from me during
• 33:49
  Speaker 8: the wedding.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: So you're the a-hole. You are 100% without a doubt
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: the a-hole. That's crazy OP.
• 33:57
  Speaker 5: Why are you crying?
• 33:57
  Speaker 8: To ruin these people's lives over like a wedding.
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: Like to be so petty at your own wedding. Like,
• 34:05
  Speaker 4: why does that? That would not make me feel good.
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: I just imagine you are supposed to be, you know,
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: planning your one of the happiest days in your life.
• 34:13
  Speaker 4: It's supposed to be.
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: A celebration of love and your partner and a coming
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: together of two families.
• 34:19
  Speaker 4: And Opie is only planning revenge.
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 34:22
  Speaker 8: During the entire, entire reception, entire ceremony. Like also, okay.
• 34:28
  Speaker 4: Opie did say, Oh, she's done vile stuff against my fiance.
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: But the only two examples that Opie has given us
• 34:34
  Speaker 4: about why sister-in-law is a nightmare is that she complained
• 34:38
  Speaker 4: about wanting to go on a ski trip. and that
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: she wanted to be the maid of honor. Like, come on,
• 34:46
  Speaker 4: we can't deal with her for a little bit?
• 34:48
  Speaker 6: Opie, you sound awful.
• 34:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you do sound awful.
• 34:52
  Speaker 5: A-hole.
• 34:53
  Speaker 8: Not sure if I want to go this far for
• 34:55
  Speaker 8: people who will never be my family. and for whom
• 34:58
  Speaker 8: I don't have any feelings. At this point, they're both
• 35:02
  Speaker 8: an inconvenience for the planning for a big day. No hate,
• 35:05
  Speaker 8: just indifference. In my life, I got my fair share
• 35:09
  Speaker 8: of family drama, so this is category crazy part of
• 35:13
  Speaker 8: the family I never contact. Thus, I came here for advice.
• 35:17
  Speaker 8: Go scorched earth, give invite, and be petty, or go
• 35:21
  Speaker 8: scorched earth and deny wedding invites to both Future mother-in-law
• 35:24
  Speaker 8: and future sister-in-law. Is there any other solution? Well, we
• 35:28
  Speaker 8: got a second update here.
• 35:29
  Speaker 5: Oh boy.
• 35:30
  Speaker 8: Last time I posted, my fiance and I were wondering
• 35:32
  Speaker 8: what to do next regarding the invite drama. We had
• 35:35
  Speaker 8: a wonderful week off work and then my fiance decided
• 35:38
  Speaker 8: he's going to go to family dinner on Sunday and
• 35:40
  Speaker 8: give his sister the invite.
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: The shredded one? I was livid.
• 35:45
  Speaker 8: My gut feeling was telling me it's a dumb idea,
• 35:47
  Speaker 8: but then I thought that if I'll tell him no,
• 35:50
  Speaker 8: then he'll never see it. The obvious disrespect, not only
• 35:54
  Speaker 8: for me, but for him as well. So he filled
• 35:57
  Speaker 8: out the invite, took the one his mother brought back,
• 36:00
  Speaker 8: and went there. Without me, of course, family dinners are
• 36:04
  Speaker 8: for family and I ain't part of this club.
• 36:06
  Speaker 4: Why are you acting like they're casting you out? And also,
• 36:11
  Speaker 4: even if they invited you, you would not go. You
• 36:13
  Speaker 4: would go. You hate these people.
• 36:15
  Speaker 5: Oh, God.
• 36:16
  Speaker 4: Here we go.
• 36:17
  Speaker 8: Beyonce returned angry as heck, shaking and barely holding it
• 36:20
  Speaker 8: together while telling me what happened. His sister first was
• 36:23
  Speaker 8: ignoring him, so he had to go to her room
• 36:26
  Speaker 8: to give her the invite. He asked her to behave
• 36:28
  Speaker 8: for one day and contain her hate. But if she
• 36:30
  Speaker 8: hates me so much, then she doesn't have to come.
• 36:33
  Speaker 8: It started a screaming match that had a grand finale
• 36:36
  Speaker 8: of our invite being torn to pieces.
• 36:38
  Speaker 4: Well, I guess you got your wish, Opie. Then in pieces.
• 36:43
  Speaker 8: Then his mom tried to gaslight him, but he gave
• 36:46
  Speaker 8: her a piece of his mind as well and left
• 36:48
  Speaker 8: them all with you've been served the invites, but you
• 36:51
  Speaker 8: don't have to come. He took it badly and had
• 36:54
  Speaker 8: to take a day off work. And when I tried
• 36:57
  Speaker 8: to comfort him, future mother-in-law thought it was a good
• 36:59
  Speaker 8: idea to send him a wall of text. Basically writing
• 37:03
  Speaker 8: some bullcrap that I was pestering future sister-in-law and that
• 37:08
  Speaker 8: her cussing me is telling the truth.
• 37:10
  Speaker 4: And that my greasy hair is a total disrespect to her, lol. Hahaha.
• 37:15
  Speaker 4: Don't come for my hair.
• 37:16
  Speaker 5: My hair is fine.
• 37:18
  Speaker 8: I never interacted with future sister-in-law alone, except maybe two
• 37:22
  Speaker 8: or three times when we exchanged single sentences before someone
• 37:25
  Speaker 8: else appeared. I was wary around her and my gut
• 37:29
  Speaker 8: feeling was right.
• 37:30
  Speaker 4: But I digress.
• 37:32
  Speaker 8: The wall of text ended with a demand for my
• 37:34
  Speaker 8: phone number because as a future mother-in-law, she wants to
• 37:37
  Speaker 8: talk to her future daughter-in-law. I laughed for 10 minutes.
• 37:42
  Speaker 8: The audacity of this woman. I accepted her word vomit
• 37:46
  Speaker 8: of not accepting me as family. It stung for a minute,
• 37:49
  Speaker 8: and then I thought that she's right. We're never going
• 37:52
  Speaker 8: to be a family, and thank God for that. She's
• 37:55
  Speaker 8: just a crazy addition to my fiancé that first rejected
• 37:58
  Speaker 8: any relationship with me and then tried to call the
• 38:01
  Speaker 8: relationship authority, lol. Fiancé never responded. Next day, his sister
• 38:06
  Speaker 8: was pestering him that he's a monster for asking her
• 38:09
  Speaker 8: for so much. Yeah, to act like a human being
• 38:11
  Speaker 8: for one day. And he's a monster for everything he's
• 38:15
  Speaker 8: done in the past. Production, she was the cray-cray one,
• 38:17
  Speaker 8: and my fiance almost blew important exams because of that.
• 38:21
  Speaker 8: In the end, she wanted my phone number. He never
• 38:23
  Speaker 8: responded to her as well. FYI, we left points of
• 38:27
  Speaker 8: contact to both of us in the invites, but that
• 38:29
  Speaker 8: means you need the ability to read and not go
• 38:32
  Speaker 8: Hulk mode on a piece of paper. Girl, don't act
• 38:34
  Speaker 8: like you didn't want to give them a piece of paper.
• 38:36
  Speaker 4: You literally wanted to give.
• 38:38
  Speaker 6: You kept poking the bear.
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: Everyone sucks here.
• 38:41
  Speaker 6: You were like, I want to poke it.
• 38:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah, literally everyone sucks here.
• 38:45
  Speaker 6: And you look at fiance like, see, I poked the
• 38:47
  Speaker 6: bear and he got really angry.
• 38:49
  Speaker 8: When the bear got angry at you, it's because I
• 38:50
  Speaker 8: poked it. The sister doesn't stop here. She pesters fiance's friends.
• 38:55
  Speaker 8: So I warn those she didn't contact about the crusade
• 38:57
  Speaker 8: for my phone number. In the meantime, I installed apps
• 39:01
  Speaker 8: for recording just for craps and giggles. Unfortunately, they didn't
• 39:04
  Speaker 8: find my number. So it was a wasted effort. His
• 39:06
  Speaker 8: sister tried to stalk me online, but I practically don't
• 39:09
  Speaker 8: exist there. Had fun looking at my LinkedIn profile to
• 39:12
  Speaker 8: see her pop up there. There's a little bit left.
• 39:15
  Speaker 4: Oh boy. Any final thoughts? Everyone sucks here. Everyone sucks here.
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: It's pretty clear to me that you all suck. Yeah.
• 39:26
  Speaker 4: I thought it was just UOP.
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 39:28
  Speaker 8: And now I understand. that they are crazy. But you
• 39:32
  Speaker 8: are also just as crazy. Like, you don't try to.
• 39:35
  Speaker 8: minimize anything. You try to be like, oh, you're crazy? Well,
• 39:38
  Speaker 8: I'm gonna one-up your crazy. I'm gonna go even crazier. Yeah,
• 39:41
  Speaker 8: and it's like, oh, that makes you seem like a
• 39:43
  Speaker 8: bigger and cooler person. Yeah. Dang.
• 39:45
  Speaker 6: I guess Beyonce's just in a world of crazy.
• 39:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah, tough. God. Dang.
• 39:50
  Speaker 8: It's been eerily quiet for a week. Beyonce is still gutted,
• 39:54
  Speaker 8: but holds firm that his sister and monster of a
• 39:56
  Speaker 8: mother better not show up. Okay, so now everyone's on
• 39:59
  Speaker 8: your side.
• 40:00
  Speaker 5: Well, he is.
• 40:01
  Speaker 4: I thought I'll use the calm before the next storm
• 40:03
  Speaker 4: for further planning of our wedding. And that made me think,
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: how should I prepare my wedding around that whole crap storm?
• 40:10
  Speaker 4: Backing out isn't an option. Too much money went into deposits. Also,
• 40:14
  Speaker 4: it's a European country, so I don't have any restraining
• 40:16
  Speaker 4: orders as an option. My friends volunteered to keep an
• 40:20
  Speaker 4: eye and get rid of any bogeys during ceremony, and
• 40:23
  Speaker 4: I plan to have a list of people for the venue.
• 40:26
  Speaker 4: But maybe I missed something obvious?
• 40:28
  Speaker 6: You know what? Have it.
• 40:29
  Speaker 5: Have it.
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: Ugh.
• 40:31
  Speaker 6: Make it fun. Make it all dramatic because it seems
• 40:32
  Speaker 6: like you love drama and you live for it.
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: You're so obsessed about this. Like, if you want to
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: get security, if that's what you're worried about, get security.
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: Get someone to, like, come out if you need to.
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: But don't spend your wedding day that's supposed to be
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: about love thinking about these people.
• 40:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 40:46
  Speaker 8: It's just, like, they're winning if you're letting them control, like,
• 40:51
  Speaker 8: all of your thoughts. Yeah.
• 40:53
  Speaker 4: Like, you're just letting them win. And it really feels
• 40:55
  Speaker 4: like they're... very much winning.
• 40:58
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 40:59
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I've just dropped the pettiness.
• 41:02
  Speaker 8: Just go normal person and see if, like, you can
• 41:05
  Speaker 8: come to a solution here. But, I mean, all in all,
• 41:09
  Speaker 8: you're going to have the wedding, they're not going to
• 41:12
  Speaker 8: be invited, and then nothing's going to get solved, and
• 41:15
  Speaker 8: that's just going to be a whole resentment.
• 41:17
  Speaker 4: So good luck with this marriage. It's going to be
• 41:19
  Speaker 4: absolutely insane.
• 41:20
  Speaker 5: Yep.
• 41:21
  Speaker 8: Because you can't even get it right before you get married.
• 41:25
  Speaker 3: So.
• 41:27
  Speaker 4: Good luck.
• 41:28
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story. We're going to
• 41:29
  Speaker 7: go on to the next one.
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: My friend demanded back the art he gave me after
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: he learned its true price.
• 41:36
  Speaker 4: Ooh, I don't want a split of that. So about
• 41:40
  Speaker 4: 10 months.
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: Ago, my friend gave me three little artwork pieces that
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: they thought were really ugly and they hated. I absolutely
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: adore them and I think they're very pretty. So I
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: have them in my living room. And I redecorated my
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: living room and arranged everything so I could have these
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: paintings in a very specific spot. One day they were
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: over and one of my friends that they had yet
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: to meet until that day was over as well. My
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: other friend who did not give me the piece of
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: artwork looked up at the art pieces through Google Lens
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: because they also liked them and wanted to get some
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: for themselves. That friend found out that the artwork that
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: was given to me was worth $ 1, 000 per piece.
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: And I said, wow, that's an insane price. So the
• 42:23
  Speaker 4: friend who gave me the art pieces told me that
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: I needed to give them back to him. And he
• 42:27
  Speaker 4: started taking them off the wall.
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: And I said, absolutely not. You gave those to me.
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: And by the way, this comes from Potential Mammoth 673.
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: slash ok story time subreddit.
• 42:38
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia. I'm Savannah. I'm Carly. And we're here to
• 42:42
  Speaker 4: give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers.
• 42:44
  Speaker 4: We only know what we'd do. So let us know
• 42:45
  Speaker 4: what you would do in the comments. Yeah. No, no, no.
• 42:49
  Speaker 4: Get your paws off of my art. He started yelling
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: at me because I wouldn't give them back.
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: Then he said, I better pay him $ 3, 000 for all
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: of them. And I said, no, because you gifted them
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: to me almost a year ago. That's what really gets
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: me the amount of time that's passed since OP was
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: gifted these.
• 43:11
  Speaker 8: If it was like a couple days, maybe I'd be like, okay, yeah,
• 43:15
  Speaker 8: you know, it's fine.
• 43:16
  Speaker 4: But like a year, a year, it's like, nah, that's mine.
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: So he told me that he was going to call
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: the police and he left because me and my other
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: friend kicked him out.
• 43:26
  Speaker 4: Am I the a-hole for keeping them? Uh, no. But
• 43:29
  Speaker 4: what do you guys think?
• 43:30
  Speaker 8: No, I don't think you're the a-hole for wanting to
• 43:32
  Speaker 8: keep things that were gifted to you a year ago.
• 43:35
  Speaker 4: A year ago?
• 43:36
  Speaker 8: Like, sorry, there's no like contract or like somebody literally
• 43:40
  Speaker 8: was like, these are ugly. I don't want them. If
• 43:42
  Speaker 8: he had not known the price, which he didn't a
• 43:45
  Speaker 8: year ago.
• 43:46
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 43:47
  Speaker 4: Now you do, and now you're like, I actually really
• 43:50
  Speaker 4: want them back.
• 43:51
  Speaker 8: I need $ 3, 000.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: OP gives more info. Where did your friend get them from?
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: OP says they were gifted to him the same month
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: he gave.
• 43:59
  Speaker 4: Them to me. But we got an update. Let's see
• 44:01
  Speaker 4: if he called the police. So a funny thing happened.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: The other friend who priced them also looked up something
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: they also gave me and realized the price of it.
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: So both of these friends are wanting their stuff back.
• 44:13
  Speaker 4: No way.
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: Where are they getting all this pricey art? And why
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: did they not check it before? So today I'm planning
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: on just giving them the art pieces.
• 44:22
  Speaker 8: No.
• 44:23
  Speaker 4: And the other items that both had given me over
• 44:25
  Speaker 4: the past few years.
• 44:26
  Speaker 8: No.
• 44:28
  Speaker 4: Why? Dude, that's your stuff.
• 44:31
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 44:32
  Speaker 4: They gave it to you.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: It's really disheartening to have to go through this. But
• 44:37
  Speaker 2: dealing with this drama is worse than just redoing my
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: living room and getting rid of the things that they
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: gave me back to them. The friend who looked up
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: the price of what they gave me and said that
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: they were just lending me the items.
• 44:48
  Speaker 5: Liar.
• 44:50
  Speaker 4: Even though I have.
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: Written proof that they were given to me. So both
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: friends are going to be acquaintances from now on.
• 44:56
  Speaker 4: Life's weird.
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: I would not have given those back. That's actually ridiculous.
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: I would have cut them off and said, no, you
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: gave these to me. This was a gift.
• 45:07
  Speaker 4: Update two. So another funny thing happened.
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: Both of them met up to go hang out because
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: they both made me the common enemy.
• 45:13
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: I did give back the other things to the second friend,
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: but I do have the art pieces due to me
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: giving them a couch around the same time that was worth.
• 45:22
  Speaker 5: $ 2, 000.
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: The artwork is currently being appraised. One of my siblings'
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: friend's girlfriend appraises artwork, a weird lineup, but we're figuring
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: that out now. She came and grabbed the pieces around
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: 11 a.m.
• 45:35
  Speaker 4: Today.
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: For some reason, I feel like this art is not
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: going to be worth $ 3, 000 in total.
• 45:40
  Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying. I really don't think that you
• 45:42
  Speaker 4: could get that much money.
• 45:44
  Speaker 2: Honestly, life isn't worth this stress, so I'm just going
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: to take it as a loss and move forward.
• 45:49
  Speaker 4: How much do we think these are going to cost?
• 45:52
  Speaker 8: I hope it's like a ridiculous amount of money, but
• 45:54
  Speaker 8: I feel like it's not going to be. It's probably
• 45:56
  Speaker 8: like $ 500 for.
• 45:57
  Speaker 4: All three or something. Yeah. I don't know. I don't
• 46:00
  Speaker 4: think they're going to cost as much as they're all
• 46:02
  Speaker 4: saying they are.
• 46:03
  Speaker 8: Because I'm guessing the original pieces that they just have.
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: I have no idea.
• 46:07
  Speaker 8: I don't know.
• 46:08
  Speaker 4: They were gifted them, and then they re-gifted them.
• 46:10
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 46:11
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 46:11
  Speaker 4: Update three, they've been appraised. And this part's actually funny.
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: So the relative of that friend who gave them the
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: art piece is the one who made them. The relative
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: copied a style from a different artist and recreated the
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: pieces for that friend. The relative signed the back. And
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: when the person who appraises the artwork told me the
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: artist's name, I laugh because that's the friend's relative.
• 46:35
  Speaker 4: So they would have been worth nothing.
• 46:37
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: That's so funny. That's so funny. I would be laughing
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: at those ex-friends saying, oh, hey, by the way, the
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: artwork that you stole back from me, it's not worth anything.
• 46:49
  Speaker 8: Because your relative made it. Did you not remember that part?
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: Good job. There's a little bit left.
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: I let that ex-friend know that their relative created the
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: piece for them. I told them since they were made
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: by his relative, I would happily give them back. After
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: I said that, this ex-friend said I could just throw
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: them away because he didn't want them anymore.
• 47:08
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 47:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that is an ex-friend. Get your couch back.
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: Literally, give me my couch back. Since it had no
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: value to them monetarily, they did not care.
• 47:21
  Speaker 4: So technically, I have three art pieces that are priceless.
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: Anyway, I thank the relative for creating these pieces because
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: without these pieces, I would have never known the type
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: of people I was friends with.
• 47:33
  Speaker 4: That's true. So true.
• 47:34
  Speaker 8: But still, that's unfortunate that like, you know, Sometimes people
• 47:39
  Speaker 8: don't show their true colors until there's money involved, which
• 47:42
  Speaker 8: is crazy to me.
• 47:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah. And then it comes and goes.
• 47:45
  Speaker 5: It does.
• 47:45
  Speaker 4: I don't know. When you find a good person.
• 47:50
  Speaker 7: Hold on to them.
• 47:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah. I just I never understand.
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: You know, it's one thing for people to be like
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: stealing or withholding money or, you know, they're making money
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: the issue. But don't don't be the person who does that.
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: Don't be the person who makes money.
• 48:05
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story. We're going to
• 48:07
  Speaker 7: go on to the next one.
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: I let my friends stay at my apartment to watch
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: my cats. I came home to a disaster.
• 48:14
  Speaker 4: Dude, clean up the poop. Come on. Last week, my husband, mother,
• 48:20
  Speaker 4: and I traveled out of the country.
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: We needed someone to watch our cats while we were gone,
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: and my husband and I asked our mutual friend. We
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: specified that one of the cats is special needs and
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: has a habit of going outside of the litter box,
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: which requires extra cleaning. He said that was fine as
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: long as he could bring his dog and stay in
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: our apartment for the time that we were gone. He
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: called two hours before we were due at the airport
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: and said, I'm outside, but I should warn you that
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: I'm a little sick. I think I have a cold,
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: but it should be gone by the time you guys
• 48:51
  Speaker 2: are back. I'm incredibly immunocompromised, which said friend had been
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: made aware of numerous times. Considering that we didn't have
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: any time to find anyone else to watch the cats,
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: we agreed to let him stay. as long as he
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: wore a mask while being here. Halfway through the trip,
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: we asked him to buy disinfectant spray to use while
• 49:12
  Speaker 2: he was here. We even offered to sell him the
• 49:15
  Speaker 2: money to purchase it. He responded saying that he couldn't
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: because his car was out Oh.
• 49:10
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: And seeing as he was walking his dog every day,
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: he could have walked there for the spray. And by
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: the way, this comes from Melodious Ballerina. And if you
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: slash OK Storytime subreddit.
• 49:42
  Speaker 5: I'm Sophia.
• 49:43
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah.
• 49:44
  Speaker 8: I'm Carly.
• 49:45
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 49:47
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers.
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: We only know what we'd do. So let us know
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: what you would do in the comments. And OP says,
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: One day I asked him to FaceTime me, the cats.
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: Upon calling, I saw that he was on my side
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: of our bed with No mask on. I tried to
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: keep it casual and asked how he was feeling health-wise.
• 50:05
  Speaker 2: And he said that he was better. My husband had
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: to talk me out of an anxiety attack once we
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: hung up the phone. Yesterday, said friend came to pick
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: us up. He said, I don't really want to drive.
• 50:16
  Speaker 2: I don't feel good. I threw up before I got here.
• 50:18
  Speaker 5: Oh, cool.
• 50:19
  Speaker 8: What?
• 50:21
  Speaker 5: Huh?
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: Considering that he's staying in our apartment, that threw me
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: into a spiral. And I immediately had a huge panic
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: attack and started sobbing. I am severely emetophobic, which said
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: friend knows, seeing as he once vomited in my car
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: and I refused to go back in it for months.
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: Why is your friend telling you any of this?
• 50:42
  Speaker 4: You should have, honestly, you should have cleaned up your car, said, hey,
• 50:45
  Speaker 4: you know, still not feeling good. Don't think I can
• 50:47
  Speaker 4: pick you guys up. And then it cleaned it up,
• 50:50
  Speaker 4: and it was just gone.
• 50:52
  Speaker 8: I cleaned up an Uber thing, an Uber's car, when
• 50:55
  Speaker 8: I threw up in it.
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: I begged him to take a Zofran, and I put
• 50:59
  Speaker 2: my headphones on full blast until we got home. This
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: is where it gets to be too much. Because I
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: had just traveled internationally and am on my menstrual cycle,
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: my immune system is at its weakest. He was in
• 51:11
  Speaker 2: our apartment vomiting, which is much more than just a cold.
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: And I had to stay in my car while my
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: mom and husband went inside until we could go get
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: disinfectant spray. While I was waiting in the car, the
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: friend pulled my husband aside and said that I made
• 51:24
  Speaker 2: him feel like a leper by crying over him vomiting.
• 51:28
  Speaker 4: And that I disrespected him.
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: Dude, if you know that your friend has a phobia
• 51:33
  Speaker 2: to this, maybe keep your mouth shut. Then he went
• 51:37
  Speaker 2: on to ask that because he watched our cats, we
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: should watch his dog on specific days for the next
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: few months at our apartment.
• 51:44
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: I asked my husband if we could watch the dog
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: at our friend's apartment, seeing as I wanted to give
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: the cats an opportunity to feel safe in the apartment again.
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: The special needs one is particularly territorial and acts out
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: if she feels threatened. And my husband told me that
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: said friend had actually been living in his car for
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: the past two months and has a dog. I asked
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: my husband to tell our friend that we could watch
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: his dog today, but potentially not in the future. because
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: if we're working, it falls on my disabled mother to
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: take care of her friend's dog, which is unfair. I
• 52:17
  Speaker 2: started to piece together the fact that he waited until
• 52:20
  Speaker 2: he was here to tell us that he was sick
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: so that he would have an entire apartment to himself
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: for free for 10 days. The lack of warning now
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: feels deliberate. When we went back into the apartment... It
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: was a mess. There were advertisements from the mail ripped
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: up and put on a box of my belongings. Crumbs
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: were on the bedroom floor.
• 52:41
  Speaker 4: Our sink and toilet were stained. And the bathroom and
• 52:46
  Speaker 4: bedroom were covered in dog fur. Oh, so he had
• 52:51
  Speaker 4: brought his dog. Did they know that? Did they know
• 52:54
  Speaker 4: he brought his dog? Okay. Despite being sick, he spent
• 52:57
  Speaker 4: most of the time in our bedroom as opposed to
• 52:59
  Speaker 4: the living room. Half of our belongings were unplugged or moved. Today,
• 53:04
  Speaker 4: my husband went to pick up our friend's dog to watch.
• 53:07
  Speaker 4: Neither my mom nor I are feeling well, so we
• 53:10
  Speaker 4: asked if he could stay at the park with her.
• 53:12
  Speaker 4: Our friend responded by saying that we're disrespecting him by
• 53:15
  Speaker 4: not letting his dog in our apartment, treating her like
• 53:18
  Speaker 4: a mutt. He then went on to say that it's
• 53:20
  Speaker 4: too hot for the dog to be outside.
• 53:23
  Speaker 2: And that if anything happens to her, I'm going to
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: be extremely hurt, and I'm going to take that hurt
• 53:27
  Speaker 2: out on whoever is responsible for it?
• 53:30
  Speaker 4: Are you threatening us? We're taking your dog out on
• 53:33
  Speaker 4: a walk, and you're going to threaten us?
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: Then he proceeded to say that everyone at her apartment
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: complex loved his dog, that dogs are universally loved, and
• 53:43
  Speaker 2: that my special needs cat is not as loved nor
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: welcome in rooms because of her temper.
• 53:48
  Speaker 4: Don't you be talking about my special needs cat.
• 53:50
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 53:51
  Speaker 4: I'll whack you.
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: Get my special needs cat's name out of your mouth.
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: He said that it's unfair of us to not watch
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: his dogs because he watched our cats. That the special
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: needs cat was too difficult to handle and that he
• 54:04
  Speaker 2: was forced to clean up after despite being warned beforehand.
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: My husband replied that we allowed him to stay in
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: our apartment forever.
• 54:12
  Speaker 4: For ten days.
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: And that he has everything at his disposal to make
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: himself at home. The friend said that it doesn't count
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: because he was cleaning up after Bink's special needs the
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: whole time. And finished it off by saying that my
• 54:26
  Speaker 2: husband is too influenced by me. And that he's letting
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: me wear the pants of the relationship by exercising my
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: boundaries both yesterday and today. My husband is terrified of confrontation.
• 54:38
  Speaker 5: Okay, good.
• 54:39
  Speaker 4: Come on, dude.
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: Which is why I'm the one who has to set boundaries.
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: I had to tell my husband to push past his
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: fear and speak up about the fact that we felt
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: disrespected that the apartment was left a mess and the
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: responsibility of his dog was.
• 54:53
  Speaker 4: Forced upon us last minute after we had just come
• 54:56
  Speaker 4: home from vacation.
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: The friend is now claiming that we left the house
• 54:59
  Speaker 2: a mess and expected him to clean it. We only
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: use the bedroom for sleeping, so there's no way that
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: the mess came from us. Especially considering the fact that
• 55:08
  Speaker 2: we have a no eating in the room policy. And
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: that he cleaned up after himself as much as he could.
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: We are now at a standstill and watching said friend's
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: dog as my husband felt too scared to say no.
• 55:20
  Speaker 4: Husband, stand up! Stop being a baby! Yeah, I'd be
• 55:24
  Speaker 4: annoyed by the husband. I would be so pissed. My
• 55:26
  Speaker 4: husband's too scared to say, hey, we don't want to
• 55:29
  Speaker 4: watch your dog.
• 55:30
  Speaker 8: Oh, so we should just let him walk all over
• 55:32
  Speaker 8: us and disrespect our boundaries.
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: Come on.
• 55:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, this is frustrating. Come on, two against one, let's go.
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: The Tomlet says, OP has super high anxiety, which I get,
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: but this guy is not a friend. Yeah, that's the
• 55:44
  Speaker 2: crazy thing to me. OP is the one who has anxiety.
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: Clearly her husband has it too because he can't stand
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: up to them. And they're just letting this guy walk
• 55:53
  Speaker 2: all over him or walk all over them.
• 55:55
  Speaker 4: Get out of my house.
• 55:57
  Speaker 2: I felt bad for telling our friend that he can't
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: stay here and that we can't watch his dog.
• 56:02
  Speaker 4: And I never meant to make him feel isolated about
• 56:05
  Speaker 4: getting sick. You didn't.
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: At the same time, I genuinely am questioning if we
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: went too far by setting our boundaries. And we've got
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: an update. Emma Wilkins says no wonder she has to
• 56:15
  Speaker 2: wear the pants. He's too scared to put the pants on.
• 56:18
  Speaker 4: He's afraid of pants.
• 56:20
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 56:20
  Speaker 4: But we've got an update. What do you think? I
• 56:24
  Speaker 4: don't think... You're the a-hole at all, OP.
• 56:28
  Speaker 8: This guy is obviously disrespectful, doesn't listen, and just believes that, oh, well,
• 56:36
  Speaker 8: I lived there for 10 days while you were gone,
• 56:38
  Speaker 8: and so now I own half of this house.
• 56:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah, now this is my house. Yeah, like, huh?
• 56:43
  Speaker 5: Thanks.
• 56:44
  Speaker 4: Update.
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: He just texted my husband and asked for us to
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: bring his dog down to him and said that he
• 56:51
  Speaker 2: doesn't want to come in the apartment as he no
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: longer feels safe. Wow. But he's the one who threatened
• 56:57
  Speaker 2: us if anything happened to his dog. Could someone help
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: clarify if there's anything that we've done that might have
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: made him feel unsafe? I'm autistic, so I'm not sure
• 57:06
  Speaker 2: if there's something here that I might be missing. And
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: update two, we found out that the litter boxes were
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: not clean properly.
• 57:14
  Speaker 4: Shocker.
• 57:15
  Speaker 2: While our friend was here, as my husband had to
• 57:17
  Speaker 2: spend about an hour cleaning them. We also took some
• 57:20
  Speaker 2: time to reflect on the threat that was made and
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: and realized that there was some hypocrisy. When we arrived home,
• 57:27
  Speaker 2: the air conditioner was only on in the bedroom. He
• 57:30
  Speaker 2: had told us throughout our trip that he kept the
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: bedroom door closed while his dog is in there to
• 57:35
  Speaker 2: keep him safe from the cats. To keep your dog
• 57:38
  Speaker 2: safe from the cats?
• 57:40
  Speaker 8: Okay.
• 57:40
  Speaker 4: This is a real menace. Yeah.
• 57:43
  Speaker 2: The air purifier was on in the living room, but
• 57:45
  Speaker 2: not the AC, meaning that he left our cats out
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: in the heat while his dog and him use the
• 57:53
  Speaker 2: AC in our bedroom.
• 57:54
  Speaker 4: He is now going around.
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: Claiming that we took advantage of him due to him
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: being unhoused. You took advantage of him? By giving him
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: a free place to stay for 10 days?
• 58:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah, letting him crash.
• 58:06
  Speaker 8: Well, oh, I guess the inconvenience of taking care of
• 58:09
  Speaker 8: the cats that he also didn't do.
• 58:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 58:11
  Speaker 4: However, this was only made aware to us after he
• 58:13
  Speaker 4: had watched the cats.
• 58:15
  Speaker 2: Again, for clarification, we asked him to pop in and
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: feed and clean once a day.
• 58:20
  Speaker 4: Oh, and he asked to stay there instead. This guy sucks.
• 58:24
  Speaker 4: This guy stinks.
• 58:25
  Speaker 8: Like, cut him off.
• 58:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah, immediately.
• 58:27
  Speaker 4: He obviously, like, there's a reason that he... is unhoused, unfortunately.
• 58:32
  Speaker 8: And that is because he does not know how to
• 58:34
  Speaker 8: live correctly and treat people with respect.
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: I think in terms of your guys' friendship, this guy
• 58:42
  Speaker 2: is just going to use you and not be grateful
• 58:45
  Speaker 2: for anything, so.
• 58:47
  Speaker 4: I would not want him in my life. Little bit left.
• 58:49
  Speaker 4: He's also going.
• 58:50
  Speaker 2: Around claiming that I manipulated my husband into ending the
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: friendship because he was sick in our apartment. The same
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: friend has been sick in my car once before, and
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: I stayed friends with him despite him never once offering
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: to have it clean.
• 59:05
  Speaker 4: That is diabolical.
• 59:07
  Speaker 5: Gross.
• 59:09
  Speaker 2: Overall, my heart is broken that someone that I considered
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  Speaker 2: family would say things about me like this and break
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  Speaker 2: a friendship so fast over our disappointment in him breaking
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  Speaker 2: boundaries that he personally agreed to. Could I have done
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: something better? People are saying that my boundaries were unreasonable,
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: but he never told us that. He said that everything
• 59:29
  Speaker 2: that I asked was okay and that he understood. What
• 59:33
  Speaker 2: did I do wrong?
• 59:34
  Speaker 4: You were wrong in asking him to be your friend.
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  Speaker 4: We should never have let this guy... near our place.
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  Speaker 8: There's just people that they just like take and take
• 59:44
  Speaker 8: and take. And then they're, and then they make you
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  Speaker 8: feel bad when they, when you're like, well, now I
• 59:49
  Speaker 8: don't have anything for myself.
• 59:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah. You've taken all my things. Yeah.
• 59:52
  Speaker 8: And then they're like, well, I don't know. I'm the
• 59:55
  Speaker 8: one that's in house. So you're obviously doing better than me.
• 59:59
  Speaker 8: So I deserve more. It's like, okay. And how'd you
• 1:00:03
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  Speaker 8: My friend started dating my sister's cheating ex and wanted
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 8: to bring him to my wedding.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: No!
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  Speaker 4: I shall try and keep this short.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 8: Though I have a tendency to ramble and add more
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 8: than necessary info, so I apologize ahead of time.
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 4: Also, I'm on mobile. That was the first unnecessary piece
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 4: of information.
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 8: Anyway, I'm supposed to be getting married early October 2022,
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 8: which is why I'm wearing a veil today.
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 8: It's not going to be a big wedding or anything,
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 8: but me and my fiance both have friends that we
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 8: don't want to leave out.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 4: I have this friend, Amanda.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 8: We have known each other since high school and we
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 8: aren't incredibly close by any means, but we are still
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 8: somewhat good friends and hang out regularly.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 4: And I would like her to be there.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 8: The problem is I just recently found out who she
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 8: is now dating and she wants to bring him as
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 8: her plus one. My sister Lily and her ex Steve
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 8: broke up about 10 months ago because she found out
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 8: he was cheating. She was heartbroken and I know along
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 8: with that pain she still has a lot of resentment
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 8: for him and doesn't even like hearing his name. He
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 8: was a crap boyfriend so my family has no problem
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 8: with him no longer being in our lives. By the way,
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 8: this comes from Wedding Dilemma October 22, and if you
• 1:01:32
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• 1:01:35
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia. I'm Carly.
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  Speaker 8: And we're here to give some good advice in a
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 8: little goofy way, but we don't have all the answers.
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 8: We'd only yap about what we would do, but I
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 8: want to hear what you're yapping about in them comments.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 6: Aight?
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 8: As Opie says, Eight months ago, Amanda told me she
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 8: had started talking to someone, and she really liked him
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 8: and everything. She wouldn't tell me who, not even his name,
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 8: because she said she didn't want to share anything about
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 8: him until it got more serious.
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 4: Ooh. Or it's because he's your sister's cheating. If she had.
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 2: Never done this before, where, like, keeping that a secret,
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 2: keeping her relationships a secret, I would be a little
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 2: bit suspicious.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 4: You know, and be like, why is it different this time?
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 5: Why are you hiding?
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 8: If I had been, like, seriously talking to someone for, like,
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 8: a couple days, I'm telling everyone.
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 4: Everyone will know. Exactly. And everyone will follow them on Instagram. Absolutely.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 8: I didn't really understand the secrecy, but didn't force her
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 8: to tell me anything and just let her know I
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 8: was happy for her and hope it all worked out.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 4: Well, last week, she told me she was dating Steve.
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 5: Steve!
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 6: No!
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 8: I'm furious. They had gotten more serious and she wanted
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 8: to make their relationship public to the people they care about.
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 8: She also said she knew how much I disliked him
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 8: and what he had done to my sister and hoped
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 8: I would try to understand their love and be happy
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 8: for her and try to see him in a different light.
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 4: What?
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: If you knew what a guy had done to a
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: person that you know personally... And it seems to be
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 2: a pretty bad thing or like bad things.
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 2: Why would you that? Like he's already been peer approved
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 2: or peer disapproved.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 4: You know?
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 2: Like there was not like he's been through the process
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: and he did not get a good grade.
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 4: Why are we dating him? I, those people, I don't know.
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 4: I would say that those people are weird.
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 8: Like you have to keep them at arm's length because
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 8: like if you're going to go after someone who literally
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 8: left you saw me go through stuff.
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 8: I mean, granted it was like her sister that went
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 8: through it, but still like, I'm sure.
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 4: Knew about the whole thing.
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 8: If I knew that the person that I'm seeing has
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 8: cheated on their person before me, red flag immediately.
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 4: I'd be like, yeah, I don't really want to deal
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 4: with that. Sorry.
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 8: I'll just find someone who, Oh, I don't know.
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 4: Doesn't do that. I was a little shocked at first.
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 8: Since I didn't really expect her to be with a
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 8: guy like him, and she knew what kind of person
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 8: and boyfriend he was. But it isn't my place. And
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 8: I told her that I'm happy she's happy, and that
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 8: was that. Well, two days later, we are texting about
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 8: the wedding and everything, and she mentions Steve being.
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 5: Her plus one. No.
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 4: I do not want him there.
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 8: Not only because I know my sister, who's my maid
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 8: of honor, doesn't want him there, but also because I
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 8: don't like him, and neither does my fiancée.
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 4: And this is what you say.
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 2: Hey, I'm really happy that you're happy, but this is
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 2: my wedding and I don't like him.
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 4: And I don't want them there. And it's literally just
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 4: one day to celebrate me. So.
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 2: Or if you want to be like really nice, you
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: can say, sorry, we're only having people who we know
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 2: as plus ones.
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 8: I immediately told her that Steve was not invited to
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 8: the wedding. He or she was confused. And I explained
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 8: to her that I was sorry and I'm happy for her,
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 8: but I didn't want him there. At first, she thought
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 8: it was just because my sister would be and kept
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 8: saying that they wouldn't even be near each other and
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 8: it would be fine. But then I explained that with
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 8: everything that happened, we didn't want him there. I said
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 8: sorry again, but she kept saying how I don't want
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 8: her to be happy, how I just want to live
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 8: in the past, how I want to punish her for finding.
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 4: Love, stuff like that.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 8: I'm telling you right now, that's him feeding her all
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 8: this information. She's saying, oh, I'm sure she was like, fine.
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 8: She was like, oh, you can't come, you know, whatever.
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 4: And he's like, what?
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 5: Well, why?
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 4: They just don't want us to be happy.
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 8: It's so funny that cheaters, people who do something wrong,
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 8: then are surprised that people don't like them. None of
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 8: that is true, and I tried to tell her that,
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 8: but she stopped responding. So now I'm left feeling like
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 8: a complete a-hole, and I don't know if I should
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 8: just let Steve come or not.
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 6: No.
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 4: No, it's your wedding. It's literally your wedding. Why would
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 4: you punish your sister at your wedding? Exactly.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 8: Like, that is just, no.
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 4: Immediately.
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 8: I would be like, if he shows up, I'm punching
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 8: him in the face, and then he's leaving.
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 2: He's going out the door. I'm going, and he goes
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 2: right out the, he goes like, Ooh, and he's sliding.
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 2: He slides right out the door.
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 8: Now, as I have mentioned in the comments, I had
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 8: a lapse in my judgment, and that's what led to
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 8: this post.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 4: I thought maybe I.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 8: Was seeing things simply from my distaste for Steve, and
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 8: it was coming off as I wasn't supportive of Amanda,
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 8: and that's what made me think I was wrong for
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 8: not allowing him to come. But I see now I
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 8: am completely in the right to not have or want
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 8: him there, so he will not be invited.
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 4: And that won't be changing.
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 1: Nice!
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 4: With Amanda, I.
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 8: Have pretty much decided that she is no longer invited
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 8: to my wedding.
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 4: Double nice!
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 8: And I'm pretty sure I'm ending the friendship, but I
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 8: wanted to sit down with her and have a conversation first.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 8: Not to salvage anything, but I have some things to
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 8: say to her and questions to ask. With the cheating,
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 8: I mentioned in the comments that we only know of
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 8: three girls Steve cheated with.
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 4: He cheated with three girls?
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 2: And Amanda's like, this is the guy that I want
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 2: to be with.
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 4: This is the guy who makes me happy.
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 3: Girls.
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 4: This is the guy who's going to cheat on you.
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 4: This is the guy who's literally shocked. Give him like
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 4: a week. Give him a week and he's going to.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 5: Be like, oh.
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 4: We all believe there are more.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 8: Especially since one of the affairs goes all the way
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 8: back to a year. They were together for two.
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 5: Wow.
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 4: This guy's a piece of crap.
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 5: Oh my goodness.
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 4: That's crazy. Oh my goodness. I feel so bad for
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 4: your sister. And for him to try to justify that.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 1: Is bad.
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 4: It's for Amanda to try and justify that.
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 8: But we don't know for sure and have no solid
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 8: evidence at the moment. And Lily doesn't care to find any.
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 8: Amanda could very well be one of the unknown affair partners.
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 8: That's what I thought. Very much so. It's very likely
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 8: and the timing and secrecy make more sense to believe
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 8: she was. Even though I intend to end this friendship
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 8: and I'm finding it hard to believe that Steve wasn't
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 8: cheating with her, it would still suck if she had been.
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 8: Another thing I mentioned in the comments was that Amanda
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 8: had offered support to my sister when everything happened. She
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 8: even said more than once that Steve was an a-hole
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 8: for hurting Lily, and for that to most likely have
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 8: been an act would suck, lol.
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that would be like truly the lowest of the
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 2: low if she was actively cheating with Steve while comforting
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 2: your sister.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 4: That's like evil.
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 4: You like don't do that. Like those people, they have
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 4: a special place. How could you live with yourself if
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 4: you were doing that? Just the immense guilt. Just to
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 4: be like, oh, I hate him. Yeah.
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 5: He sucks.
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 4: Ugly and stupid. I don't mean any of that. I
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 4: didn't mean any of that, Steve.
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 4: You want to hear the bad things I said about
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 4: you today?
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 6: Ew. Get a life.
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 8: I would also like to clear up something about Amanda
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 8: and her wanting to make their relationship public. Right after
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 8: she told me they were dating, she started posting them
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 8: on social media and telling people so my wedding wouldn't
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 8: really be their coming out event, though it would definitely
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 8: be a way for them to show off their relationship
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 8: and gloat and everything. Still not okay, but just wanted
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 8: to clear it up and not mislead anyone. Last thing, lol,
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 8: I was finally able to get a response out of Amanda.
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 8: I told her I would like to talk to her
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 8: about everything and get everything out in the open. And
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 8: she has agreed to meet up with me and talk.
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 4: So I shall update when that happens. And it's updated.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 4: Oh boy, there's more.
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 2: What are the odds that we think that Amanda was
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 2: one of the people that Steve cheated with?
• 1:09:55
  Speaker 8: Yeah, one if she was one of the affair partners.
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 4: Ride the bus. Ride the bus. Red if you think
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 4: that she did it. Black if you think she did it.
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 2: I think it's a big old red card.
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 4: I like Brehive. I like this girl acting like she
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 4: won a prize. Yeah. Like, congrats. You got last place.
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 4: You got last place. And she's like, woohoo. I placed.
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 4: I got 12th place out of 12. It's like getting
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 4: like a participation.
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 7: Yes.
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 4: Participation award. Like, oh, yay.
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 4: Update two.
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 8: I was finally able to sit down with Amanda and
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 8: talk today. Anyways, on to what happened. I didn't really
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 8: want Amanda coming to my house, so we met at
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 8: this small cafe place near where we live. I figured
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 8: it wouldn't be too crowded and we wouldn't be able
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 8: to have a discussion easily there.
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 4: So it was the best option.
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 8: She was there first, and as soon as I sat down,
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 8: she looked extremely smug.
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 5: Oh, Lord.
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 4: What are you so smug about? Wipe that smirk off
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 4: your face. Imagine, like, sitting down being like, I won,
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 4: and you got, like.
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 5: Sloppy seconds.
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 4: You've come to apologize? Actually, you got like sloppy like 15th.
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 4: Probably. You've come to apologize. That's why you're here.
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 8: It seems that she thought I had wanted to talk
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 8: to apologize or something and thought I would be telling
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 8: her Steve was invited to the wedding. Imagine her surprise
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 8: when I almost immediately tell her that Steve is in
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 8: no way allowed to attend and I have officially decided
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 8: to rescind her invite as well.
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 6: Nice.
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 8: She was instantly angry, asking why I would do that
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 8: when I was obviously in the wrong, why I would
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 8: uninvite her simply because she wanted her partner there, etc.
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 8: BS like that, lol. I let her rant for a
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 8: minute before I called and told her what I wanted
• 1:11:44
  Speaker 8: to say. I told her that my family and literally
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 8: everyone important to me would be at the wedding. Did
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 8: not like Steve. No one but her wanted him there,
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 8: and multiple people would be uncomfortable if he was. I
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 8: also told her it was my wedding, and me and
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 8: my fiancé are the only two people who get to
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 8: decide who comes and who doesn't.
• 1:12:05
  Speaker 5: Facts.
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 8: I was clear that she was allowed to want her
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 8: boyfriend there, but I wasn't obligated to cater to her wants,
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 8: especially when that's someone I don't like at all. I
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 8: even told her that if she had just decided not
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 8: to come at first, since he couldn't, I would have understood.
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 8: But she tried to guilt me into inviting someone who
• 1:12:25
  Speaker 8: wasn't invited. So that's why she was no longer invited.
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 8: I told her how her actions made me feel and
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 8: how I now perceived her and made it clear I
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 8: wanted to end our friendship and stop our contact. She
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 8: was furious through every word. Before I ended the conversation,
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 8: I told her that I had a question and I
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 8: wanted the complete truth. Honestly, wasn't sure if I would
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 8: get it though, lol. And asked her point blank, was
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 8: she with Steve before he and Lily split? She got nervous,
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 8: wouldn't even make eye contact and stayed silent for a
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 8: few seconds.
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 2: And there's our answer. Cheater, cheater, pumpkin eater. Of course
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 2: you did, Amanda.
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 8: I figured that told me what I wanted to know,
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 8: but I honestly wanted to hear her say it.
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 4: Then she did. Wow. You hypocrite. So you want to
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 4: be invited.
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  Speaker 8: So you literally want to just rub, rub it in
• 1:13:18
  Speaker 8: the sister's face.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 4: Be like, look, I got him.
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: You cheated with her boyfriend and then have the audacity
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 2: to comfort her and then have even more audacity to
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 2: think that you can bring this guy to her sister's wedding.
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 8: I mean, in what world does that ever, ever make sense?
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 4: None. Like how delusional do you have to.
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 8: be to live in a world like that yeah how
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 8: pretty insane like that's crazy to just think of no
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 8: one else but yourself crazy couldn't be me she told
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 8: me that they have been together for a year total
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 8: they started sleeping together when steve and lily got into
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 8: an argument and amanda started falling for him so thought
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 8: being his mistress was better than not having him at
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 8: all At first, he would only go to her when
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 8: Lily and him fought, but then he started going to
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 8: her whenever Lily was busy or his other girls were.
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 4: Wow, what a pick this guy is. Yeah, aren't you
• 1:14:18
  Speaker 4: so happy, Amanda?
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 2: He went to you when all of the other girls
• 1:14:23
  Speaker 2: wouldn't have him?
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 4: Aw, that makes you his fourth choice? Yeah, maybe even eighth.
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 5: We don't even know.
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 8: Yeah. How fun it is to be not the first.
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 4: Choice, but one, two, three, four, five, six, maybe ten. Oh,
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 4: there's the bottom.
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 8: That's really fun. Awesome, awesome choice, you guys. She didn't
• 1:14:42
  Speaker 8: feel sorry about it at all and kept trying to
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 8: justify her actions.
• 1:14:46
  Speaker 4: There is a little bit left.
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 8: Any final things you want to get off your chest.
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 4: These people are not your friends and they do not
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 4: have your best interests at heart. Amanda can cheat on
• 1:14:57
  Speaker 4: your sister's partner. Then I would not trust her around
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 4: anyone in my life or just trust her at all.
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 8: Yeah, she's done. She's cut off. He's cut off. You're
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 8: gonna have so much more fun at the wedding. Could
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 8: you imagine?
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 4: If they came to the wedding. Oh, everyone would be
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 4: talking about it.
• 1:15:15
  Speaker 8: And that's the other thing I thought like reading through it.
• 1:15:18
  Speaker 8: I said, not only would like my family know my
• 1:15:22
  Speaker 8: entire family, like my cousins, my aunts, uncles, we're all
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 8: like super close. my entire family would know who this
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 8: person is and what they did. And if they show
• 1:15:32
  Speaker 8: up to my wedding, Oh, the looks, the talks, the
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 8: actions that would be done to that person.
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 4: You were like, why would you want to go into that? Yeah.
• 1:15:42
  Speaker 4: It's not even a fun experience for you. Yeah. Like you, you,
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 4: you two in the corner, like we're so in love.
• 1:15:49
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 4: And everyone else like, look at those two freaks. It's
• 1:15:53
  Speaker 4: like willingly going into a pit of snakes.
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 4: Except the snakes are the good guys.
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 8: She even tried to justify her ability to look my
• 1:16:02
  Speaker 8: sister in the eyes to comfort her. All that, even
• 1:16:05
  Speaker 8: though she was effing Steve for so long. She really
• 1:16:09
  Speaker 8: thinks she did the right thing just because she loves him.
• 1:16:13
  Speaker 8: At one point, she said that they really were in
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 8: love and she was the only one in his life now.
• 1:16:18
  Speaker 4: Oh, good. That's what you think. I'm sure he's changed
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 4: his ways. After you.
• 1:16:25
  Speaker 8: You have changed him for the better. He is now
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 8: stand-up citizen because of you. And your love works in
• 1:16:33
  Speaker 8: mysterious ways. I felt bad for her then, I admit.
• 1:16:37
  Speaker 8: But that's not my problem. I got up, I walked out,
• 1:16:41
  Speaker 8: and I drove straight to my sister's where I am now.
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 8: Told her what I had learned, and we are having
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 8: a very fun girls' night with ice cream.
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 5: Booze, and movies.
• 1:16:49
  Speaker 8: Amanda and Steve are no longer my concern, and I
• 1:16:51
  Speaker 8: have decided to enjoy the stress-free time while I've got it.
• 1:16:54
  Speaker 8: Because I know I'm going to be stressed the closer
• 1:16:56
  Speaker 8: the wedding day gets.
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 4: LOL.
• 1:16:58
  Speaker 8: Thank you to everyone who commented. You were all right
• 1:17:00
  Speaker 8: about the cheating and everything. And I'm extremely thankful for
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 8: y'all opening my eyes.
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:17:07
  Speaker 2: That was all pretty obvious. And I'm glad they're not
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 2: coming to your wedding. Honestly, props to Amanda for bringing
• 1:17:16
  Speaker 2: this whole situation up. Because you might not have realized
• 1:17:19
  Speaker 2: that she was such a sucky person. If she hadn't
• 1:17:22
  Speaker 2: asked to invite Steve.
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 4: That's true. Everything happens for a reason. It really does.
• 1:17:28
  Speaker 5: It really does.
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 8: But it's just so annoying when it's like.
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 4: Or they really do.
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 8: And I've done this where it's just like this person
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 8: that you're seeing or that you're dating is a horrible,
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 8: toxic person. And you have to like convince not only yourself,
• 1:17:43
  Speaker 8: but others to like them.
• 1:17:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:17:45
  Speaker 5: You're like, no, no, no.
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 4: You just don't.
• 1:17:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:17:47
  Speaker 4: You just don't know them. They're really nice.
• 1:17:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:17:50
  Speaker 8: That's when you know. That's the first, like, red flag
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 8: is when you try to convince yourself. Like, you know
• 1:17:56
  Speaker 8: that what they did was wrong or, like, what they're
• 1:17:59
  Speaker 8: doing is wrong. But it's like, well, if you just
• 1:18:02
  Speaker 8: don't look at that part, if you just ignore that,
• 1:18:04
  Speaker 8: everything else is great.
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 4: It's like, that's the biggest red flag. Yeah. Or, like,
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 4: the not telling your friends things about them.
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:18:13
  Speaker 2: Because there are certain things you should, you know, keep.
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 2: Between your partner and yourself. But there are also certain
• 1:18:18
  Speaker 2: things that you willingly hide from your friends because you're like, oh,
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 2: that doesn't make them look that good.
• 1:18:23
  Speaker 4: If all of a sudden I wasn't talking about someone.
• 1:18:27
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:18:27
  Speaker 4: I feel like everyone would know. They'd be like, hmm,
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 4: what's up with that person?
• 1:18:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 7: And that's the end of the story.