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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just -Vulnerability and the Wisdom of Humility 4.30.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  We discussed yesterday that we all live in a state that every
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  one of us wants to avoid to not be in.
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  And that state is an unsettled state for whatever reason it is,
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  whether it be our children, our income, business, health, things
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  always unsettled. And he explained unfortunately
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  to him about him, Ahmad Sidiya Amidala Azut, one of the biggest
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  detractors and removers that's were from humility is being
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  settled. Who are ibuiva Sevilla boutevote
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  la mazen. If someone has a lot and
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  abundance and it's satiated the benefits of this world, it does
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  not mean a person does not want to be very well off.
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  They do, but they don't want to be very dependent on that being
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  well off. They're going to be very reliant
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  on it and very busy with that because that'll make them say
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  Shi Shi, says Pentokava Savata, president of ARIM that talks
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  about the the sins. We're going to eat and get
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  satiated and then and then we're going to raise our hearts to
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  have arrogance in our hearts. In other words, it's considered,
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  it's considered related. It's considered related when a
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  person is satiated, arrogance comes from there.
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  So you say I'll avoid it. I don't want to be an arrogant
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  person, but if you are very reliant and very dependent on
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  your wealth and all you have automatically, and that's in
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  your mind your wealth, and you said would you have, that
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  automatically creates that. I'm good here and once I'm in a
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  good state, all of a sudden I started thinking about how great
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  I am. It's an automatic reaction.
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  The reason people are humbled very often is because they are
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  vulnerable. Vulnerability is one of the best
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  traits that people can have. Its level of being unsettled,
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  vulnerability, very dangerous as well.
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  But it's not that. It's being unsettled, being not
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  so sure of yourself, not so definite that I'm in a perfect
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  situation. That plays into your allowance
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  to look for other people, to listen to other people, to be
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  interested in what they have to say, to look up to others, to
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  watch what you say and not think that it's perfect.
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  Automatically there's some sort of bridge.
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  If a person thinks he's good and he thinks he got this, he thinks
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  he's settled. Automatically he starts thinking
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  he's smart. He starts thinking he knows what
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  you're talking about. He starts thinking that he is
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  the Bo end all and that leads to the problems.
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  There's the structure of people's lives.
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  If you have it going on in your mind, you automatically start
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  talking like you have it going on and you end up carrying an
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  arrogance. If you have an area of unsettled
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  vulnerable, not true of yourself, not so guaranteed,
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  definitely. I'm set for life.
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  That's when you open up the door to I want to hear from others.
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  I want to be like others. I want to allow others to talk,
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  and I want all the ways of humility to come in.
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  It's just a natural thing. So there's a natural creation,
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  the blockage of humility, and then there's an actual opening.
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  And even though this is not a character thing, being settled
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  has nothing to do with character or being vulnerable on its own
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  and none to do a character, but it plays right into good
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  character up against Baker. Yes, he's telling OK Matsu lemma
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  Hassidim the pious people made sure tove Liotta da man in
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  Nashua Lipa Amin person at times should it be man in a short the
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  English word man. I should deprive himself.
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  Hold back a little bit. Don't allow yourself to feel
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  like you totally, totally have everything.
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  Hold back. He has it, he can afford it.
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  He can spend whatever he wants and he can have to shop his car
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  in the nicest house. I'm the greatest in his out and
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  he can just be rolling away and he decides not to.
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  What's wrong with enjoying What's wrong is that it leads to
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  this issue. And what's good about this
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  approach is that it stops the mana so they can diminish.
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  Hold back the itzah of arrogance, which would otherwise
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  not take over him. Elamito Haribui.
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  This yetzah, not the only itzah, but this one is built upon a
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  person because he has a lot. EN Ari nohe MI tokupa shotevin
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  ella MI tokupa shabasar. A lion does a roar.
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  I'm in a basket of straw, he roars.
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  I'm in a basket of meat. When he feels like he's doing
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  well, that's when he yells at his woo.
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  And the same is true with people.
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  When people feel comfortable, when they feel settled, when
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  they feel little, invincible, that is when they start saying
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  things that seem ridiculous and they start talking in an
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  arrogant way. When they feel, on the other
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  hand, vulnerable, unsettled, not so sure of themselves, then
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  that's when they open up to a more comfortable state.
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  Yeah, I believe you Later. Good.
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  This is telling you the line represents man.
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  Man is the exact same way. If man is sitting over you.
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  Finally, guy whose business is in flux.
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  He doesn't know if he's going to make it to the next season,
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  doesn't know if he's going to close up, clash it alone, switch
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  to something else, or he can continue.
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  That. Guy will not talk about money in
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  a way that seems like he knows what he's talking about.
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  He just won't. Even though he's maybe not
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  natural, just a humble guy, he will be automatically humble no
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  matter what because in his mind, he doesn't see himself having
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  all worked out. But this is not a character
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  thing. This is a life thing.
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  The life thing plays into the character thing.
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  It's one hundreds hand in hand. On the other hand, you find the
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  guy who just made a great deal and he feels like next couple of
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  seasons he sent the buyer took his goods, he sent for a couple
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  of seasons. That guy will talk in a way
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  without realizing it. You know how I do things.
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  The way it works is you make a product, you talk to China, you
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  make sure of this, you make sure of that.
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  You got to catch Walmart on the right day and he gives you the
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  whole spiel as if you know what you're talking about.
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  The same guy in a different situation would not talk that
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  way. Why does one talk that way and
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  why not? Because 1 feels like they have
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  it worked out near mine has settled, and now they're talking
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  about a way the other one does not and therefore he does.
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  It's not a character base, it's a life base that triggers into
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  character. While his other one, his life
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  and his situation allows him to see Hashem, to be aware that
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  there are other ways this could have gone and all that because
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  he's in an unsettled state. So it's natural.
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  He's saying yes, the arrogance a person can get is actually a
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  natural development of the situation and the ability a
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  person can get is a natural development of his situation.
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  You are in a different predicament.
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  You're better off for this situation.
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  In a different predicament, you're better.
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  You're actually the opposite. So every person can, you know,
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  just rely on his situation or he can put himself in his mind in
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  the vulnerable state. Either he can play out the
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  truth, which is as settled as you are, you're never really
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  settled, or he can do like these rabbis Z witches.
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  Don't allow himself to enjoy every dollar that he has.
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  Don't allow himself to be, you know, satiated and everything
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  that he's doing with. And then he'll be able to see
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  himself. And even if he's not so
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  vulnerable, he'll play out in his mind a vulnerable element
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  based on this. This is what he's telling you,
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  and it's so, so important right now.
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  Let's go a little further on the same idea.
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  Now he's like this. Another way people miss over
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  humility and allow themselves to become arrogant is become is
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  because they're an Ahmad. It's Ahmad.
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  It's a strong word, but it means they don't know any Torah or
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  they don't know the Torah's way of thinking.
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  Let's play it out. One of the main ways a person
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  can lose out on being humble who has seclude is ignorance and
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  limited knowledge of the truth. Key to there you realize
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  Shanahan GABA mutsuyayo Ted ET la bamisha sakaliote.
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  It's a shocking, embarrassing point.
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  Arrogance is found by the fools. The more foolish a guy is, the
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  less he knows. Less a person knows, the more
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  he's arrogant. That sounds backward.
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  The more foolish he is, the more he's arrogant to be the
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  opposite. If he's foolish, he doesn't know
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  anything. He should be humbled.
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  He doesn't know to be humble. The more foolish a person is
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  like a kid. A kid talks in the confidence.
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  He doesn't know. The first thing he talks is if
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  he knows and you want to tell them and stop them and tell
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  them, young man, you don't know anything.
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  So while you're talking, right, there are adults that are like
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  children. That is adults when it comes to
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  Tara and the Tara way of thinking.
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  I don't mean how much Kamara they know.
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  We mean how much Tara way of thinking do they have?
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  How much have they been aware and recognize the endless vast
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  sea of the Tara? The last they know how big it
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  is, the more they think they have it, the more they think
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  they already have enough. That plays into arrogance.
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  So he's telling you, one of the greatest detractors on a person
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  being humble. It sounds backward.
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  The more he's a fool, the more arrogant he is.
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  The smarter he is. The more he where he is of the
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  Twitter knowledge, the more humbled he can be.
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  You will notice the greatest places of arrogance you'd say,
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  oh, they're by the people that run the biggest companies.
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  No, the greatest spots of arrogance about this foolish,
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  most foolish people. And let me just say, call you,
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  the less the guy knows Torah, the more he's prone to think
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  he's a big deal. The more he's prone.
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  Why? Because he looks at his life and
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  now if he doesn't have any awareness to Torah, knowledge.
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  So knowledge, he accomplished everything.
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  So knowledge. Exactly.
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  Knowledge for in this person's book is just the natural world
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  of knowledge. OK, You have to know marriage,
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  children, business, how to be, how to be a person among people.
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  OK, There's a couple of areas and he conquered them very well.
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  This guy's very grifted and he conquered them very well.
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  At least you think so. He has no idea that the marriage
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  element is endless if you have that Torah knowledge, because
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  there's so much more to a marriage and it's a basic
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  marriage. He has no idea that raising
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  children is endless if you have to throw away the Torah, because
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  there's so much more to being a father and simply being a
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  father. If you have a Torah knowledge,
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  he has no idea that business even can be endless, to be
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  honest to our knowledge, because he understands how you
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  intertwine business with Hashem and Muna and all that.
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  If you understand that I exists, he doesn't know about that.
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  He's just things open shot that I catch that category.
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  I got that category. Father, yes.
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  Husband, yes. Business owner, yeah, I'm making
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  money. Home owner, I had to be a home
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  owner. I know how to do that too.
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  I know how to purchase. I know how to sell.
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  I'm doing making money. So he has a very simple and
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  therefore very dumb and therefore very arrogant way of
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  looking at the world. Open shut.
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  My father, yes. Husband, yes.
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  Famous owner, yes. Homeowner, yes.
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  And I got them all figured out. I'm golden.
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  I am Mr. Noble. Little does he not know, little
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  does he know exactly that there's a whole world out there.
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  And if you would look at the reflection of that world, we
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  realized that every one of us in every area of life, I'm talking
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  about even as a person in business, in every area of life,
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  we're only touching literally the tip of the iceberg.
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  And the knowledge and the understanding of how to be a
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  proper company owner even is so much more knowledgeable than
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  what you have to our knowledge and how to be a person, how to
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  be a developed person, how to be a characterized one with
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  character, how to be a sensitive one, how to be a giving one.
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  All those things only are fully going to be developed if you
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  look at the tada. So therefore this guy does no
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  clue what he doesn't know. You don't know what you don't
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  know. And because of that, he's
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  arrogant. And you look at the guy saying
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  you food. If you only knew how much you
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  you're missing. If you only know how much you
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  don't know, then you'd be quiet, you'd be nervous to talk and
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  you'd be aware that it's a very, very, very high hill to climb.
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  That's why arrogance is found by the fools, even though you'd say
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  it would be the opposite. The more foolish the guy is, the
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  less knowledgeable he is, the more humble he'd be.
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  That's only true if he knows what he doesn't know.
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  But many, many people think that life is the simple world that
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  they look at, and their whole job of life is to conquer that
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  world and be good in those areas.
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  You mentioned those categories, they're decent on those
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  categories. They're making a lot of money.
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  That's all you need to know. I'm a genius for those, you
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  know, he's a fool if he would just allow himself to see just
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  how much vast knowledge is out there.
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  And you can use Fuda as the best example.
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  The truth of the matter is, it's even applicable when it comes to
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  world knowledge. When a person thinks he knows
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  something and then he opens up his eyes to the knowledge of the
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  information of the world, he's a little little nothing.
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  And he realizes that he would never say a word.
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  I don't know anything about this topic.
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  There's so much more to know, right?
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  And that allows a person to be humbled la on the youth dotty.
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  In my humble opinion, that should be the opening line
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  before they say anything. In my humble opinion, that
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  conquered the whole topic. You never conquer a topic
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  because there's so much information out there.
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  Knowledge is the most vast thing that exists in the world.
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  Knowledge total is the most vast thing exists in the world.
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  The knowledge in general is the most vast thing.
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  And if someone opens up their eyes to any topic, they
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  literally are shaking by the level of ignorance that they
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  have. But if they're arrogant enough
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  to close the door to those topics, whatever it may be, and
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  the arrogant enough and they don't notice what they don't
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  know, oh, I think I got it all. I think I know it all.
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  And then the guy you talking about, if I have a guy you're
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  talking about a topic and he just read the Cliff Notes, so to
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  speak, he's been involved in a couple of years looking at the
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  guy saying you have no clue. You have no clue.
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  You haven't lived it, you haven't learned it, you haven't
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  developed it. You're very good at the surface
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  stuff. You have no idea the depth of
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  this topic. That person talks a big game and
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  he knows nothing and you can undo his opinions in 3 minutes,
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  right? Only if you just give it a
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  chance. And the better person is the one
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  who's humble enough to know There's a lot I don't know, and
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  it's a lot you don't know. Tada's huge knowledge is used.
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  The odds of Tada's forever. A lot you don't know.
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  You'll be careful before you say an opinion, it'll be nervous to
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  say something because there's a lot out there and my
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  contradiction and my add to it. And that allows the person to be
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  humble. The main place you see arrogance
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  in their words and the main place is humility Isn't
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  someone's words. Well, that's only noticeable and
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  doable. I think God has this overall
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  knowledge of what He doesn't know.
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  We'll stop with this.