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Capítulo 072: Muy Booked, Muy Busy · Locatora Radio [A Radiophonic Novela]

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Speaker 1: Radio Radio Radio Commies a Myth and Bullshit, a radiophonic
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Speaker 1: a break from recording because we've just been really super
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Speaker 1: I when I cycled it had been a while because
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Speaker 1: I used to do it really consistently and it had
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Speaker 1: been a while. So then the next day I was
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Speaker 1: so sore it like in that like pelvic area and
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Speaker 1: it's such a weird soreness to feel because yes, yeah,
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Speaker 1: Lookout Radio, No at Lookout dash Radio. Venmo. Okay, so
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Speaker 1: we have been MOI booked, amoy busy as they say,
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Speaker 1: and um, we just want to update y'all with what
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Speaker 1: we've been doing. We've been doing a little bit of everything.
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Speaker 1: So as you know, in twenty nineteen, we taught a
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Speaker 1: ton of podcasting one on one workshops at public library
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Speaker 1: branches throughout l A. A lot of fun. So we
5:32
Speaker 1: were basically like participating artists guest artists in the l
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Speaker 1: A Maide series. To celebrate that collaboration with the library,
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Speaker 1: we put together a show, a live show and podcast
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Speaker 1: at the Central Library in the Mark Taper Auditorium, and
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Speaker 1: we had live musical guests. It was like a full
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Speaker 1: on like late night talk show setups. It was great
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Speaker 1: And who are our beautiful, amazing, gorgeous guests are beautiful
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Speaker 1: and amazing were Cris Soul of Facts and Selenamos and
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Speaker 1: she performed her own set and it was amazing, and
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Speaker 1: then we got to interview her. And then additionally we
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Speaker 1: also interviewed and invited to perform Sancha of Sancha, like
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Speaker 1: the amazing, amazing, amazing performer like the Sancha, the Sancha
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Speaker 1: and the only one. There's only one. And she talked
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Speaker 1: to us about the origins of her name Sancha, and
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Speaker 1: we're going to release that capitulo. I think like we're
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Speaker 1: going to release that interview as a because we have
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Speaker 1: we have to live tapings, one from the Wing when
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Speaker 1: we interviewed Sizzle and Norms for Hispanic Heritage Month, and
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Speaker 1: then one for the Library show. So at some point
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Speaker 1: we're going to put those out so if you weren't
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Speaker 1: able to make them in person, you can still tune in. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and you know, the whole show in general was amazing,
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Speaker 1: but I think one of my favorite parts was shaming
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Speaker 1: our parents for getting our laid like our parents, like
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Speaker 1: all of our parents, like the parents they gave birth
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Speaker 1: to us, like they all came late. And it's funny
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Speaker 1: because we reserved spots for them in the front row obviously,
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Speaker 1: so they had to come down to the front and
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Speaker 1: be in the thick of it. And we were on
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Speaker 1: stage and what do we say and what did we say? Oh,
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Speaker 1: thank you for joining us, parents, Yes, glad you could
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Speaker 1: make it on this fine Thursday evening. Yeah, it was great.
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Speaker 1: Love it. They're good sports, they're good about it. They
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Speaker 1: make senses of humor. Yes, yes, thanks mom, Thanks parents.
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Speaker 1: So that was a library show. That was a library show.
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Speaker 1: And then in the midst of all that, we also
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Speaker 1: did a partnership with Word Agency and foot Locker l
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Speaker 1: A and foot Locker Women and we got to model
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Speaker 1: some clothes by La La Anthony. Um. I was wearing
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Speaker 1: a Lalla Anthony dress and yeah, we were both wearing
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Speaker 1: Lalla Anthony. You were wearing her ath Leisure. Yes, yes, yes,
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Speaker 1: so shout out allah. You're great. Yes. And so the partnership,
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Speaker 1: the collaboration was also with Less Photos project and that
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Speaker 1: was really cool. Yes, you know those kids girls took
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Speaker 1: all the photos. Yeah. And so there were three prototypes
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Speaker 1: that they were debuting. One was the Visionary, the other
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Speaker 1: was the the Visionary, the Disruptor, which was which was us,
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Speaker 1: our shoes the shore and it's not the Dreamer. Oh
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Speaker 1: my god, I'm blinking. But we were the disruptors naturally. Yes,
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Speaker 1: so that was that was really such a cool thing
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Speaker 1: to be a part of. There were like so many
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Speaker 1: amazing women that were a part of the campaign and
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Speaker 1: the campaign was called Our House. So shoutout to Zola
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Speaker 1: a Word agency for inviting us to be a part
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Speaker 1: of it. She put it all together. And then there
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Speaker 1: was an event at the foot Locker store in Hollywood
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Speaker 1: on Highland. Yeah, and there was a panel and the
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Speaker 1: photos were all in display. There were different women they're
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Speaker 1: giving business advice, such as Julisa Brado Rico's Girls and
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Speaker 1: a former guest on the show, and Brida latin X
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Speaker 1: was on the panel. So it was just a whole
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Speaker 1: culmination of events, culmination of the photo shoot into like
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Speaker 1: a live event. So that was super dope. Yeah, so
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Speaker 1: thanks again to Zeila and Phil Locker l A for
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Speaker 1: allowing us to be a part of it. Yeah, it
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Speaker 1: was a lot of fun. Then, um, as I mentioned,
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Speaker 1: we did kick off Hispanic Heritage Month with Sizzle and
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Speaker 1: Norms at the Wing, So shout out Sizzle, Shout out
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Speaker 1: norm Shout out thank you to the wing UM. We
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Speaker 1: talked about basically the party's practice and how party planning
9:39
Speaker 1: is almost like organizing in a lot of ways, and
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Speaker 1: how they have been working on centering on document clear
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Speaker 1: joy and safe spaces for um, undocumented queer people of color. Yeah,
9:50
Speaker 1: good stuff, good stuff. And then additionally we were involved
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Speaker 1: in work it we uh. We facilitated a lightning talk
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Speaker 1: or like a woman festo they called it, where we
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Speaker 1: talked about community building through podcast parties and pop up
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Speaker 1: So we talked about the difference different events that we've
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Speaker 1: had and like how that can foster community with your
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Speaker 1: listeners a k y'all our localmotives. So that was super
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Speaker 1: dope and the feedback was amazing. It was so amazing
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Speaker 1: to be in a room full of podcasters and women
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Speaker 1: in radio or folks in radio. So that was like
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Speaker 1: super cool to be a part of. It was here
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Speaker 1: at the Ace Hotel in downtown l A. And like
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Speaker 1: it alternates between l A and New York, so it
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Speaker 1: was here this year. Yeah, And what was so wild
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Speaker 1: was there were really women podcasters from all over the
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Speaker 1: entire world. So there was a podcaster from Nairobi, there
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Speaker 1: were podcasters from Armenia. Um, I was um paired up
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Speaker 1: with like mentees and one of my mentees is from
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Speaker 1: Colombia and she does radio down there, so it was
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Speaker 1: just really cool. Um. We go to a lot of
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Speaker 1: events that are like women focused or Latin X focused,
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Speaker 1: but we don't actually go to a ton of like
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Speaker 1: podcasting focused events. So it's cool to be in that
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Speaker 1: very particular space women podcasters. Yes, yes, and like first
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Speaker 1: of many, I hope. Yeah, the energy is amazing and yeah,
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Speaker 1: we'll see what comes from it. We're excited. We're definitely
11:16
Speaker 1: like plotting and planning things based on that experience. We
11:19
Speaker 1: took some very interesting meetings and had some great conversations.
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Speaker 1: So yes, and then okay, so like so much to
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Speaker 1: tell y'all. Um. We also guest hosted our guest hosting
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Speaker 1: a mini series with Crooked Media. So we are hosting
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Speaker 1: a mini series called Me, My Self, Care and I,
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Speaker 1: and we're going to interview different folks in the community
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Speaker 1: that are doing the groundwork and doing the work to
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Speaker 1: foster not only self care in their community, but also
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Speaker 1: community care. So our very first episode was with the
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Speaker 1: right do you want to talk about? Yeah? So, um,
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Speaker 1: thea is we've had the on the show before. She
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Speaker 1: is a poet, she is a therapist and activists an
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Speaker 1: incredible person. She's an artist and she's one half of
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Speaker 1: a podcast called All Heart and so she and her
12:09
Speaker 1: co host Nony Lamar have been guests on look At
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Speaker 1: and we worked with them in different capacities. So we
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Speaker 1: invited THEA on to talk really about UM the origins
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Speaker 1: of self care like on it as as indigenous and
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Speaker 1: cultural spiritual practice and also some of the psychology behind
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Speaker 1: care of the self. And we really wanted to have
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Speaker 1: a conversation with her about what that looks like, specifically
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Speaker 1: for people of color, and she really focused in on
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Speaker 1: a lot thinking about elders, older people of color and
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Speaker 1: the notion of taking care of the self and how
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Speaker 1: for some that can be foreign or secondary and all
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Speaker 1: the different historical and sociological reasons why. So that was
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Speaker 1: our first episode UM with THEA and I was really
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Speaker 1: happy with the way it turned out. Thank you, Thank
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Speaker 1: you THEA, and thank you Crooked Media. You can head
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Speaker 1: on over to all podcasting platforms to listen to it.
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Speaker 1: It's Crooked Minis and the title is Me My Self
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Speaker 1: Care and I And Yeah, so we're just excited to
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Speaker 1: be working with a podcasting company for this limited run
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Speaker 1: series and hope it all goes well and like opens
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Speaker 1: other doors. Yeah, this is our first collaboration with a
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Speaker 1: podcasting like a professional studio network situation, so okay, we'll
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Speaker 1: see Yeah. And then we also did a video with
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Speaker 1: buzz Feeds Battle Like Yes, we did, very excited to
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Speaker 1: do this. UM, thank you Curly. Yeah. So for this video,
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Speaker 1: we debunk common myths that you hear about sex and
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Speaker 1: sexuality in the Latin X community. And I love the
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Speaker 1: way that it came out. We will beat it in
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Speaker 1: the show notes. If you haven't watched it, get it
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Speaker 1: was pretty phenomenal. I'm like really happy with the way
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Speaker 1: that edits were and every all the knowledge that we
13:54
Speaker 1: brought to the table. I hope people walked away feeling
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Speaker 1: like empowered and more knowledgeable after watching it. Agreed, it
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Speaker 1: was a lot of fun and Curly is hilarious and
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Speaker 1: UH is super creative and funny, and it's not afraid
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Speaker 1: to like explore and push some boundaries, which is what
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Speaker 1: we like to do too. So I think the collaboration
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Speaker 1: was really great and Curly invited us in to do this. UM.
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Speaker 1: After we had like a very like casual like conversation
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Speaker 1: about sexual health and getting tested, just as friends out
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Speaker 1: and about one night. So it was based off of
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Speaker 1: a very just normal, like chill convo about this stuff
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Speaker 1: that the idea was born to work on this video.
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Speaker 1: So it's been fun. Yeah, it's been a very busy
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Speaker 1: couple of weeks for us. And then finally we were
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Speaker 1: named as finalist as nominees for Breakout Creator of the
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Speaker 1: Year for a tech LA Award. So we are beyond
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Speaker 1: on beyond honored, super excited. This is like our first nomination.
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Speaker 1: This is an award ceremony that takes place at Hispanic
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Speaker 1: Sides has been running for ten years. They're celebrating their
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Speaker 1: tenth year this year, so and it's all his fantasized
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Speaker 1: if you're not aware, is all about digital creation, influencers,
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Speaker 1: folks and media in within the Latinox landscape media landscape.
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Speaker 1: So we're excited to be like a good company. We're excited,
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Speaker 1: we're honored. Um, we are trying to figure out what
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Speaker 1: to wear. We're in the midst of that right now
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Speaker 1: because now we're going to go to the thick cloud
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Speaker 1: words and we have to show out of course, always um,
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Speaker 1: and we have some stiff competition because there's really talented
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Speaker 1: Latino X creators out there who have also been nominated.
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Speaker 1: So good luck to everyone, Good luck to everyone. I
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Speaker 1: hope we get it though, I really hope we really
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Speaker 1: want to win, but you know, yeah, I mean, and
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Speaker 1: I also like I was thinking about this, and this
15:50
Speaker 1: is our very first time where we like we can't
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Speaker 1: control anything because like we tell y'all, like, we don't
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Speaker 1: tell y'all what happens until it's done and ready, and
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Speaker 1: this is like a nomination is out of our control,
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Speaker 1: out of our control. If we don't win, you'll know.
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Speaker 1: If we do win, you'll know. So there's like a
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Speaker 1: piece of vulnerability that's definitely attached to it. But that's
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Speaker 1: also exciting because that's how you grow and you know
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Speaker 1: all of that. So yeah, I think it comes with
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Speaker 1: the territory you really like is getting real and so
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Speaker 1: that means that we got to bring our a game
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Speaker 1: and just put our best foot forward and be positive
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Speaker 1: and if it doesn't work out, onto the next but
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Speaker 1: I hope it does. Yes, I hope it does. Anyways,
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Speaker 1: so that's send us good vibes because there's no voting process. No,
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Speaker 1: this is like up to an advisory advisory advisory boy,
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Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe you can like at Hispanics side, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: give us in a book, low key, that's going to
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Speaker 1: be our voting campaign. You can't actually vote. Just at
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Speaker 1: his fantasize. What's her actual handle, his fantasize, that's it,
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Speaker 1: at his fantasize and be like you need to give
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Speaker 1: this award to look at that our radio for a
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Speaker 1: breakout content creator of their year. Just gently, not gently,
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Speaker 1: just just nudge them energetically, nudge that, Yeah, it's Hispanics
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Speaker 1: sized event. Is there? Is there handleaz and it's you know,
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Speaker 1: it's really exciting because like, yes, we're podcasters, and podcasting
17:18
Speaker 1: is like the core that's like the trunk of what
17:21
Speaker 1: we do, you know, and like all the branches that
17:24
Speaker 1: we have are like podcasting workshops, workshops in general where
17:28
Speaker 1: we talk about fem defense and fem tech, locopistemologies, the podcast,
17:33
Speaker 1: the podcast parties, the live events, the film aspect that
17:37
Speaker 1: we do. You know, there's just so much. So it's
17:39
Speaker 1: exciting to be nominated as breakout creator as opposed to
17:43
Speaker 1: podcaster or the year, which is also amazing, or I'm
17:45
Speaker 1: not sure what the categories, but there's a podcasting category,
17:48
Speaker 1: but like thinking about like, yeah, we do a lot
17:51
Speaker 1: of different stuff, so it's exciting. We're creators, we're creative
17:57
Speaker 1: and we're doing it. We're doing it. Thank you for
17:59
Speaker 1: supporting us three years deep. Yeah, now we're having fun. Honestly,
18:04
Speaker 1: it's a good time. We love what we do. That's
18:06
Speaker 1: why we keep doing it. Yes, and we love y'all. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: you know. Um, so that's fun. And then we have
18:13
Speaker 1: even more stuff coming up after the thick loud words
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Speaker 1: or before the four words. Yeah. So next week at
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Speaker 1: ten am, we will be leading a podcasting one on
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Speaker 1: one workshop for youth in collaboration with k CRW at
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Speaker 1: the Mocha so the Museum of Contemporary Art here in
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Speaker 1: Los Angeles. It's on Central and we will be doing that.
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Speaker 1: And we love teaching the youth about podcasting and using
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Speaker 1: their voices and you know, taking creating their own narratives.
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Speaker 1: So we're excited. The youth are I think, in our experience,
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Speaker 1: always the most creative when it comes to the podcasting
18:48
Speaker 1: ideas because we have them actually build out a concept
18:52
Speaker 1: and like an outline for their own show and the
18:55
Speaker 1: names and the hashtags and things that like the kids
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Speaker 1: come up with are like so great and funny and creative.
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Speaker 1: So definitely come out. Yes, bring your children. Yes, and
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Speaker 1: they're friends. Okay, So we are going to get into
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Speaker 1: a segment of oya. Lookas you know, I'll answer the question.
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Speaker 1: If you ask me, I'll answer yes. So what do
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Speaker 1: the folks want to know about? Okay? So the first
19:21
Speaker 1: question is about dating women slash maybe coming out later
19:26
Speaker 1: in life. So I'm going to read the message from
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Speaker 1: this listener. She says that in her early twenties, she
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Speaker 1: found herself attracted to mask of centered women and kind
19:38
Speaker 1: of just dismissed it as saying like she found them attractive,
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Speaker 1: but it didn't ever actually explore it. So she says
19:44
Speaker 1: now in her late twenties, this is coming up for
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Speaker 1: her again, and she says, I'm all for exploring. My
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Speaker 1: concern is how I would bring this up to my
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Speaker 1: Mexican parents slash family. If I do indeed find myself
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Speaker 1: liking women, I find that my age makes this process
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Speaker 1: into aidating coming out in your late twenties. Your opinion
20:02
Speaker 1: is greatly appreciated, So thank you for this question. It
20:06
Speaker 1: was just National Coming Out Days so whether you're out
20:09
Speaker 1: or not, we hold space for y'all. Being out to
20:12
Speaker 1: others isn't necessarily everything, you know, it's all individual however
20:17
Speaker 1: you decide, you know, whatever you decide that's right for you.
20:21
Speaker 1: So what are your initial thoughts? Malla, Well, I think that,
20:24
Speaker 1: first of all, it's not uncommon for people to come
20:27
Speaker 1: out in their late twenties or even later. Um, I mean,
20:31
Speaker 1: and I think that that's honestly true across the sexuality
20:35
Speaker 1: and gender spectrums, like whether we're talking about coming out
20:39
Speaker 1: as by or gay, or as lesbian, or even coming
20:43
Speaker 1: out as trans. I think that there's a pretty like
20:47
Speaker 1: common experience of folks waiting, um to to share that
20:52
Speaker 1: with their families and communities. And like, I don't have
20:55
Speaker 1: a coming out story because I kind of just like
20:57
Speaker 1: do whatever. And for me, that has never been like
21:01
Speaker 1: I've never really felt the need or wanted to have
21:05
Speaker 1: that conversation with my family because I've never had a
21:07
Speaker 1: conversation with them about being strayed either, Like it's just
21:11
Speaker 1: never I've never talked to them about my sexual orientation
21:14
Speaker 1: at all because we don't talk about those things in
21:17
Speaker 1: my family. So I just on I don't I'm not
21:21
Speaker 1: one who's going to say like, you know, you have
21:24
Speaker 1: to or you need to, or you must or here's
21:27
Speaker 1: how to do it. I think it really is super individual,
21:30
Speaker 1: and whether you do or you don't, like enjoy yourself
21:33
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, I echo that, um. And I also
21:37
Speaker 1: just want to say, like to be transparent with what
21:41
Speaker 1: your processes. If you do start like dating a woman
21:45
Speaker 1: or you know, being like sexually intimate with someone or
21:48
Speaker 1: casual with someone, I would definitely like encourage the transparency
21:52
Speaker 1: where you are in your process, because what does happen
21:55
Speaker 1: is queer women, UM can kind of become almost like
22:00
Speaker 1: quote in experiment first rate women and like being very
22:04
Speaker 1: cautious of not doing that to queer women and like
22:07
Speaker 1: stepping into a queer community and you know and doing
22:10
Speaker 1: that for the sake of like quote exploring. So just
22:13
Speaker 1: I think transparency and communication is definitely the key. Um.
22:18
Speaker 1: Quirky Riakan Gaby Rivetta did this really great post about
22:22
Speaker 1: being a mask of centered Poppy, and we talked about
22:25
Speaker 1: like like like like she's she said something along the
22:29
Speaker 1: lines of like mask, queer women are not here to
22:33
Speaker 1: be your fantasy. And I think that that is really
22:36
Speaker 1: important to think about because there is a spectrum and
22:39
Speaker 1: there can be power dynamics at place. So just you know,
22:42
Speaker 1: like always like treat people with dignity and respect. You know,
22:46
Speaker 1: be transparent and honest about where you're coming from, and
22:49
Speaker 1: you know, enjoy yourself and you know, see where it goes.
22:55
Speaker 1: And I think it's in general, right important to like
22:58
Speaker 1: let the people you're dating about your headspace and where
23:01
Speaker 1: you're at and what your intentions are and what you're
23:04
Speaker 1: hoping to gain out of dating or a relationship. And
23:09
Speaker 1: I think sometimes like, um, folks will hide or not
23:16
Speaker 1: include information about certain parts of their lives and that
23:19
Speaker 1: ends up being harmful because then you're not really allowing
23:22
Speaker 1: the person you're seeing to make a decision about whether
23:25
Speaker 1: or not they want to date you because you're withholding
23:28
Speaker 1: key information. Right. So just kind of considering that balance
23:31
Speaker 1: of all those different factors I think is really important. Um,
23:35
Speaker 1: but like, don't force it if it doesn't make sense
23:39
Speaker 1: for you. I agree. I hope that's helpful. Thanks for
23:42
Speaker 1: that question. Okay, so the next question is what does
23:47
Speaker 1: healing look like to you? I'm like, which I do
23:53
Speaker 1: not know, Ask me later. I shout out to this
23:58
Speaker 1: listener that asked this, we know who you are, girl,
24:01
Speaker 1: hope you're doing well. Um. Well, I had something recently
24:05
Speaker 1: that I for me, I think healing is setting my
24:10
Speaker 1: boundaries without even knowing that I'm doing it. I'm just like,
24:13
Speaker 1: it's such a practice now that I don't even think
24:16
Speaker 1: of it. Oh, I'm setting this boundary. And I'll give
24:18
Speaker 1: like a very specific example. So it was recently my birthday,
24:22
Speaker 1: and um, I did something small with my family the
24:26
Speaker 1: day of and I only invited or was only a
24:28
Speaker 1: dinner at my house. So it was my parents, my
24:30
Speaker 1: potty mother lives with us, and my partner and that
24:32
Speaker 1: was it. And in the past I've had other family
24:36
Speaker 1: members come and I don't want to say that it
24:39
Speaker 1: feels forced, but it's almost like I'd love to see you,
24:44
Speaker 1: thank you for coming, love you, But it's also like
24:47
Speaker 1: I also don't necessarily need you to be here per se.
24:51
Speaker 1: And a part of me feels kind of weird and
24:53
Speaker 1: kind of rude feeling that, But then it's also thinking like, well,
24:56
Speaker 1: what is it that I want and what is this
24:58
Speaker 1: boundary for me? I find feel this type of way
25:01
Speaker 1: about my family and what it's like when we're all together.
25:04
Speaker 1: Then why am I even inviting everyone over? You know?
25:07
Speaker 1: So I set that boundary without even realizing that I
25:10
Speaker 1: did it. So I'm proud of me. I think that
25:13
Speaker 1: that's for me, what healing looks like is having those
25:16
Speaker 1: boundaries and respecting them and not trying to change them
25:20
Speaker 1: for myself. Yeah, it's almost like prevention, right. So, like
25:24
Speaker 1: if you're on a healing path and you know certain
25:27
Speaker 1: experiences are going to set you back or are going
25:31
Speaker 1: to trigger things, sometimes setting those boundaries can help prevent,
25:36
Speaker 1: you know, like regression. Yeah, because sometimes like you need
25:42
Speaker 1: to just not deal with everybody in their nonsense. There's
25:47
Speaker 1: there's like this really good meme that I love like
25:49
Speaker 1: sharing around Christmas time, and it's this meme of Plankton,
25:53
Speaker 1: like from Spongefold and he's like I'll remember you all
25:56
Speaker 1: in therapy, and like I truly feel that way around
25:59
Speaker 1: the holiday. So it's like, no different for my birthday.
26:02
Speaker 1: You know why I put myself through these kinds of things.
26:05
Speaker 1: If you don't want to, If I don't really want to,
26:07
Speaker 1: you don't have and it's my birthday, I'll do what
26:08
Speaker 1: I want, Okay. Healing. I think healing too is like
26:13
Speaker 1: oh my god. Um kind of allowing things not to
26:17
Speaker 1: work out and then not stressing out over it. Life
26:21
Speaker 1: is long, you know, like life is long and kind
26:26
Speaker 1: of repetitive and things. There's always a new chance and
26:30
Speaker 1: a new opportunity in a new situation, and you know,
26:34
Speaker 1: see I would say life is short, so new opportunities
26:37
Speaker 1: are going to come. I'm saying life is super long,
26:40
Speaker 1: and so like I have to reserve my energy and
26:43
Speaker 1: my disappointment and my stress so that I can apply
26:47
Speaker 1: it to all these different things that are going to
26:49
Speaker 1: happen over the course of many decades. You know what
26:52
Speaker 1: I mean. That's how I'm feeling. I'm feeling super like
26:56
Speaker 1: like with work or something. If something doesn't work out,
26:58
Speaker 1: some people are super like, oh my god. Like catastrophizing
27:03
Speaker 1: happens a lot when you know, uh, work or a
27:07
Speaker 1: project are super important in a person's life. Then if
27:10
Speaker 1: something doesn't work out, then it's like a major blow.
27:14
Speaker 1: And so I'm trying really hard to put things in perspective.
27:17
Speaker 1: And when something doesn't work out, like at work, for example,
27:22
Speaker 1: and the folks around me are catastrophizing and are like
27:24
Speaker 1: in flames, I'm like, it really doesn't matter. Do not matter?
27:32
Speaker 1: It is okay. Literally, we will come back to work
27:35
Speaker 1: tomorrow and a whole new set of things are going
27:38
Speaker 1: to happen, and we're going to forget what we were
27:40
Speaker 1: upset about yesterday. Now do you think that that's more
27:42
Speaker 1: for work or do you feel that that's like just
27:44
Speaker 1: where you're at in general? Oh, that's totally where I'm
27:46
Speaker 1: at in general. I'm like, I do not give a fuck,
27:50
Speaker 1: you know, um, about many things because I'm like, in reality,
27:56
Speaker 1: we're doing fine and like I'm in a good place.
28:00
Speaker 1: And so when there are like things don't go my
28:03
Speaker 1: way or like whatever, whatever, it's okay, it's all right.
28:08
Speaker 1: You know. That's how I'm trying to approach a healing process,
28:12
Speaker 1: by letting things fucking go and not getting upset over
28:16
Speaker 1: stuff that are ultimately inconsequential. Right right, Yeah, cool, Thank
28:22
Speaker 1: you for sharing them. Those are my thoughts. Okay. So
28:27
Speaker 1: final question that we have for today is for Mama,
28:30
Speaker 1: and it's about tips ongoing to Morocco. This our listener
28:34
Speaker 1: wants to go. So she's wondering if you can offer
28:36
Speaker 1: any insight. Yes, okay, So let me preface this by
28:41
Speaker 1: saying that all tourism is problematic and all travel, especially
28:48
Speaker 1: if you are an American passport holder, is ultimately like
28:52
Speaker 1: a mark of privilege and access, And there's all types
28:57
Speaker 1: of power and balances that go into traveling as specially
29:00
Speaker 1: two countries and um, parts of the world that are
29:03
Speaker 1: considered to be like quote the Third World, right or underdeveloped.
29:09
Speaker 1: I know, we all fucking know, Okay, Like it's that,
29:12
Speaker 1: it's true, that's true. So that being said, here are
29:15
Speaker 1: my tips on traveling to Morocco. Um, because I went,
29:21
Speaker 1: and I also think it's important that in these conversations
29:24
Speaker 1: to also acknowledge, um that, yeah, like there is ultimately
29:31
Speaker 1: always a power and balance when we're talking about Americans
29:34
Speaker 1: in particular going abroad and spending time and money and
29:38
Speaker 1: like navigating different communities because we have like this like
29:43
Speaker 1: global political and financial advantage over like locals in most places.
29:50
Speaker 1: So like, let me be clear, that's understood, it's established.
29:54
Speaker 1: I know this is not like social justice tips or
29:57
Speaker 1: how to like do a non problematic trip. I don't
30:00
Speaker 1: know how to do that in certain parts of the world.
30:03
Speaker 1: I'm not from Morocco. I don't know people in Morocco.
30:05
Speaker 1: So I went as purely a tourist, right, like, with
30:09
Speaker 1: no special circumstances or adjustments, you know what I mean. Like,
30:14
Speaker 1: we stayed in an Airbnb, and a lot of those
30:17
Speaker 1: airbnbs ultimately turns out are like managed by Moroccans but
30:22
Speaker 1: are owned by like British people or French people, what
30:26
Speaker 1: have you. So we stayed in an airbnb and then
30:31
Speaker 1: all of the communications you know, Um, for the most part,
30:34
Speaker 1: we're with the owners, but then when we got there,
30:37
Speaker 1: the owners are not actually there. It's like local Moroccans
30:41
Speaker 1: who run the home and who like keep it going.
30:45
Speaker 1: And then every time we wanted to take a tour,
30:47
Speaker 1: um our host would help us to arrange a tour
30:50
Speaker 1: and like a Moroccan tour guide who's like with the
30:53
Speaker 1: Ministry of Tourism would come and like arrange for a
30:57
Speaker 1: car to come drive us around. And then the tour
30:59
Speaker 1: guy would show us the different spots around the medina Um,
31:03
Speaker 1: the mosques, the universities, the markets, all that good stuff.
31:07
Speaker 1: We went to the tanneries um we saw the spots
31:11
Speaker 1: where they do all of their ceramics and their pottery,
31:14
Speaker 1: and like everything down there is had made. It was beautiful,
31:17
Speaker 1: tons of shopping. We only were in Fez. We didn't
31:20
Speaker 1: go anywhere else in Morocco. We did three days and
31:23
Speaker 1: it was beautiful. So if you're not staying in an airbnb,
31:26
Speaker 1: you know there are hotels, so you can look into
31:29
Speaker 1: a hotel. I don't know anything about the hotels, um,
31:33
Speaker 1: but we walked around the medina. It was four of
31:36
Speaker 1: us for women, and we were fine. We didn't have
31:38
Speaker 1: any problems, Like we had a great time and everyone
31:41
Speaker 1: was really nice to us and respectful and kind, and
31:44
Speaker 1: we did shopping and we talked to people and we
31:48
Speaker 1: ate and it was chill, like it was a good time.
31:51
Speaker 1: We flew into Fez from um Madrid, so if you're
31:55
Speaker 1: going to do a trip out there, it's really not
31:59
Speaker 1: um hard to get to Morocco from Spain. Um there
32:04
Speaker 1: are flights from Madrid to Fez all the time and
32:07
Speaker 1: they're like the flight is like an hour hour and
32:09
Speaker 1: a half. So it was pretty chill and you know,
32:12
Speaker 1: of course the American dollar like allows for it to
32:15
Speaker 1: be pretty affordable for us if we go to Morocco.
32:19
Speaker 1: I just recommend like to people well and too people
32:21
Speaker 1: high and that's a really I think important way to
32:25
Speaker 1: give back. And if you're going to be buying things,
32:28
Speaker 1: buy it in cash, not don't put things on your card,
32:31
Speaker 1: like give your money directly to artists and the artisans
32:34
Speaker 1: because all that work is handmade and it's super high quality.
32:38
Speaker 1: So if if you're you know, conscientious in that way,
32:41
Speaker 1: I think that you're good, you know. So yeah, that's
32:46
Speaker 1: I also think something to note about traveling is like,
32:49
Speaker 1: don't haggle with local artists and artisans, uh, for their
32:54
Speaker 1: for whatever, for their craft. I like, yeah, Like whenever
32:58
Speaker 1: I'm in bid Oh, I don't haggle at all. Like
33:01
Speaker 1: I will pay even if I'm getting the tourist price. Fine,
33:03
Speaker 1: Like I'll still haggle because the dollar really is worth more,
33:06
Speaker 1: you know, and you know, obviously, like if you can't
33:09
Speaker 1: afford it, don't do it, you know. But if you're
33:11
Speaker 1: going to save yourself two dollars, five dollars, you just
33:14
Speaker 1: pay the full price. Just pay the full price, you know. Um.
33:17
Speaker 1: I will say that Morocco was different because on our trip,
33:20
Speaker 1: we did Spain, we did Portugal, and we did Morocco.
33:23
Speaker 1: And for us, there were a lot of men in Morocco,
33:28
Speaker 1: Like out on the streets, we didn't really see a
33:30
Speaker 1: ton of women. And then in the Medina, in the shops.
33:33
Speaker 1: All of the shop owners and the folks selling things
33:37
Speaker 1: were men. Like women were there buying things, but anyone's
33:40
Speaker 1: vending were men or little boys. So like there were
33:44
Speaker 1: little boys who would be in charge of the shops
33:46
Speaker 1: if you know, their dad or their uncle like wasn't
33:48
Speaker 1: there or had to go run an errand they would
33:50
Speaker 1: like let the boys, you know, watch the shop. But
33:52
Speaker 1: there were no women. And it was interesting because in
33:54
Speaker 1: the Medina there's like a men's section for men's clothing
33:58
Speaker 1: and a section for women's clothing. The clothing is being
34:01
Speaker 1: made by hand, like you can see the artists. They're
34:03
Speaker 1: like sewing the clothing by hand. But the all the
34:07
Speaker 1: women's shops were also run by men. So the men
34:10
Speaker 1: were like sewing the women's garments and then like selling them.
34:13
Speaker 1: So when we got there, you know, our airbnb host
34:15
Speaker 1: was a woman, but like the taxi driver and then
34:19
Speaker 1: like the guides and like the folks that met up
34:22
Speaker 1: with met up with us and helped us with our luggage.
34:24
Speaker 1: Once we got to the city, we're all men, so
34:27
Speaker 1: we were dealing with like like four or five men,
34:30
Speaker 1: and we were expecting to talk to a woman at first,
34:33
Speaker 1: who was our host and we didn't see her to
34:35
Speaker 1: the next day. So for us, especially just like where
34:38
Speaker 1: we're coming from and we're not really used to that
34:41
Speaker 1: much contact with men all at one time, that was
34:45
Speaker 1: like a little bit um new on our first day there.
34:49
Speaker 1: So that was like an adjustment because we really didn't
34:52
Speaker 1: talk to a whole lot of women while we were
34:53
Speaker 1: there because there just weren't I don't know just however
34:56
Speaker 1: it worked out, So that was That's also something that
34:59
Speaker 1: I would say, just like you know, we are we
35:03
Speaker 1: have a particular audience of listeners and stuff. So that's
35:07
Speaker 1: something just to keep in mind. And anytime you're traveling abroad,
35:10
Speaker 1: I think it's important to be just aware of like
35:13
Speaker 1: dynamics like that, especially having to do with gender. Um.
35:17
Speaker 1: I remember, you know, going abroad in college, like they
35:20
Speaker 1: would talk to us about if you're going to certain
35:22
Speaker 1: places and you're queer, you're a woman, like, there are
35:25
Speaker 1: certain things you need to keep in mind, right and
35:29
Speaker 1: like just be aware of as far as being out
35:30
Speaker 1: in public. So it's that kind of a thing. Got
35:33
Speaker 1: you well, thank you for sharing. I hope that answered
35:37
Speaker 1: this listener's question. Okay, so just to close out, we
35:40
Speaker 1: have a couple announcements. We will be um traveling doing
35:44
Speaker 1: some traveling at the end of the month. So in October.
35:47
Speaker 1: October we will be at Texas Lutheran University and we
35:51
Speaker 1: will be delivering a keynote um at their university for
35:54
Speaker 1: a conference. And then that same weekend we will be
35:57
Speaker 1: in Charlottesville with the nonprofit Cresciando Puntos delivering a community
36:01
Speaker 1: artist talk and a podcasting one O one workshop. So
36:05
Speaker 1: we're excited we're gonna go into these Red States. So yes,
36:09
Speaker 1: we'll see how it goes. More travel advisories for ourselves
36:13
Speaker 1: in state travel Advisory. Yeah, so we will see. We
36:16
Speaker 1: will keep you all posted. But you know, we also
36:18
Speaker 1: recognize that there are Latin X. There is Latin X
36:22
Speaker 1: community living in these Red States, and that's why it's
36:24
Speaker 1: important for us to go out there. I especially want
36:27
Speaker 1: to shout out Guardina from Junto. She has been trying
36:31
Speaker 1: to make this happen for two years. She applied for
36:33
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36:36
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36:40
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36:44
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36:46
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36:49
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36:57
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37:09
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37:13
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37:17
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37:20
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37:24
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