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What to Do When That Guy Comes Back! · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  My hand is back by popular demand.
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  OK, so ladies, when that guy that you've been hoping hoping
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  to hear from and it's been a long time, but you always were
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  hoping he'd circle back and he finally comes back into the
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  picture, here's what you got to do.
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  First of all, do not leap in with both feet.
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  Do not get so excited that you're like, sure.
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  And try to. Because he wants to pick up
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  where he left off. He wants to pick up where you
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  left off. OK.
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  But what he means by where you left off is when it was good.
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  But I want you to pick up where you left off, which means when
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  it was bad. All right, hang on.
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  So he needs to earn you back. Not with words, with actions.
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  All right. So number one, you just don't
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  leap right in. All right, You tell him, you
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  know, OK, I'm, you know, it's great to hear from you.
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  But let's just pretend we're starting all over and and I want
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  you to really mean this to yourself, that you got to look
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  at it as like he's a stranger and you're starting all over.
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  So he has to date you, He has to court you, He has to show up for
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  you, and he has to do things different than how he did when
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  you were first together. That's the only way you're going
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  to know if you should get back with him.
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  Has he shown up as a different person?
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  Not in words, but in actions. That's what you want to look
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  for. And the only way you're going to
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  know the actions is to give it time.
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  To give it time and let him show you who he is, and only and only
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  and only and only if he is different.
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  Now, if his actions are different, if he's doing things
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  different consistently, not one time or two times consistently
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  over months, 'cause if he's really that hot for you, he
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  ain't going anywhere, right? Over months, then you slowly
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  build your trust. But if things seem the same in
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  any way anyway, you pull the plug, let him circle down,
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  circle the drain down he goes, and then you move on and that's
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  it. And block, block, block, and you
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  close that door and never open it again.
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  All right, I hope it out.