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He ruined his chances after he said this to Abby.... · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Tampa Bay's Best Music.
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  Speaker 2: Is Welcome to another episode of Scotty and Abby Unfiltered,
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  Speaker 2: a bonus edition, because there's just things that need to
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  Speaker 2: be talked about before this weekend happens.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't decided, because we posted one today on Friday,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, do I post this Monday because we won't
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  Speaker 1: have an episode on Monday.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I think we just get it up because there's
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  Speaker 2: things that are going to happen this weekend that I
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  Speaker 2: want people to know about as they're happening.
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  Speaker 1: But we're not posting the weekend episode until Tuesday. Oh
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  Speaker 1: my gosh, we're so ahead, So this will I guess
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  Speaker 1: maybe this will tie them over on Monday.
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  Speaker 2: You know what, then whenever you need to post that
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  Speaker 2: you posted. Okay, money, I'm just too curious, to be honest,
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  Speaker 2: I can't wait an entire weekend to not have these answers.
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  Speaker 2: Based off of what was kind of mentioned in the studio,
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  Speaker 2: if you've listened to the past couple episodes, the dating
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  Speaker 2: apps are back in the scene for Abby.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I've gotten on like man hating TikTok so,
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  Speaker 1: I think I have like a lot of unresolved anger
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  Speaker 1: that I need to hash out with with a punching bag.
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  Speaker 2: Let's just let me hear it out though, because I'm
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  Speaker 2: not you know, I am going to lean into this
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  Speaker 2: a little bit because I do see other women going
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  Speaker 2: through this, the man hating, like just frustration. What is
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  Speaker 2: the core of it, though, Like what are the guys
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  Speaker 2: doing that you're just like or you're seeing on TikTok
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  Speaker 2: where you're like, so many women agree that these things
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  Speaker 2: are so frustrating.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, the main frustration is and I think I
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  Speaker 1: can speak to it because I'm not saying I'm like
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  Speaker 1: some like upper echelon human being, but I'm friends and
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  Speaker 1: i'd like to think I'm in the above average category
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  Speaker 1: of lady where you know, I make my own money,
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  Speaker 1: and I have interests, and I have a career, and
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  Speaker 1: I have friends, and I work out and I do
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  Speaker 1: all the right things. And it's hard to find someone
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  Speaker 1: that you feel like is an equal. And then sometimes
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  Speaker 1: you do find someone that you're like, you're an equal,
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  Speaker 1: but it's not a match, or they're a douchebag or
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  Speaker 1: because there's not as many guys who are I hate
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  Speaker 1: to use the term league, but let's just use it
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  Speaker 1: because everyone knows you use it just everyone does, all
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  Speaker 1: the guys that are in your league. Because there's not
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  Speaker 1: that many of them, they start to feel like entitled
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  Speaker 1: because so many women are like, oh my god, here's
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  Speaker 1: someone who's on my level. Thank god, finally, and these
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  Speaker 1: dudes get these massive egos and start just mistreating women
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  Speaker 1: like crazy because they have so many options because there's
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  Speaker 1: a hundred of us and there's maybe fifteen of them.
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  Speaker 2: That's wild to me in general, just that statement alone,
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  Speaker 2: like I don't care what league you think you're in
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  Speaker 2: or what status you think you belong to. Yeah, you
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  Speaker 2: don't treat someone like they are less than or that
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  Speaker 2: you are too good for them. That's crazy to me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a lot of bread crumbing and sleeping around
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  Speaker 1: and yeah, it's just frustrating. It's it's frustrating to be like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not really asking for anything crazy, Like am I
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  Speaker 1: asking for Michael B. Jordan's sliding into my Team's Like,
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  Speaker 1: but I mean, buddy, am I it's I need to
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  Speaker 1: go on Love Island and maybe you'll start liking my photos.
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  Speaker 1: It's I think where a lot of the anger comes from.
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  Speaker 1: It's like it's not even like I have a dating life.
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  Speaker 1: It's dating. I literally am like, this is a job.
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  Speaker 1: It's not fun, it's not enjoyable. It doesn't make my
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  Speaker 1: life more interesting, and it sucks that it's so hard
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  Speaker 1: to just find like a basic part of human life,
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  Speaker 1: which is just companionship with somebody of the opposite sex,
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  Speaker 1: if that's what you're in too, romantically. And I think
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  Speaker 1: a lot of my friend's anger is like it's we're
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  Speaker 1: like jealous that men can experience that so easily because
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  Speaker 1: you guys have so many options.
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  Speaker 2: That's very valid because a lot of women are just
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  Speaker 2: great people, and they also what women have done a
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  Speaker 2: lot faster than men is just being straight up.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's a huge difference that I've seen even
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  Speaker 2: from friends, and I hear the stories where men are
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  Speaker 2: just so bad about being honest about where they're at,
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  Speaker 2: what they need, what they're looking for. They want to
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  Speaker 2: keep all options open, which actually ends up closing every
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  Speaker 2: single possibility because you don't want to hurt somebody, or
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  Speaker 2: you don't want to reveal that you know what you
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  Speaker 2: quote unquote just want to fuck around, Like if that's
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  Speaker 2: what you are looking for, didn't just say it?
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  Speaker 3: Ye?
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  Speaker 2: Or if you know this is not a match. If
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  Speaker 2: you know I'm not in say it instead of the
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  Speaker 2: annoying part of the bread crumbing or the complete ghost
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  Speaker 2: or the come up with an idea then coming up
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  Speaker 2: with an excuse like that that's exhausting for people. And
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  Speaker 2: if you're doing that to somebody, then think about how
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  Speaker 2: many times that had happened to them. You're not the
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  Speaker 2: only one. You're just adding on to that layer, which
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  Speaker 2: then leads to the frustration.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I know that men have qualms with women too,
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  Speaker 1: So I'm not trying to get on my high horse
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  Speaker 1: and be like it's only hard for women. I think
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  Speaker 1: women are just really vocal about it, and I think
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  Speaker 1: it's frustrating that we're not seeing any change or any
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  Speaker 1: light at the end of the tunnel.
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  Speaker 2: Like I kind of think of, like what would the
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  Speaker 2: frustrations with women be, and that part that's I don't
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  Speaker 2: know what else.
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  Speaker 1: I'll give you an example because you said this either
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  Speaker 1: yesterday or the day before, where you said on a
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  Speaker 1: dating app, it's hard for men to get matches with women. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: So while I have empathy for the fact that that's hard,
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  Speaker 1: it makes me wonder why you're not looking internally to
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  Speaker 1: try and figure out why that is.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, do you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: Because you're there are men that are getting a lot
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  Speaker 1: of attention on dating apps, but why are they getting attention?
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  Speaker 2: I guess my head goes to it's just when the
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  Speaker 2: dating apps pop up, it goes for a lot of guys.
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  Speaker 2: Frustration is it's just so surface level that it's hard
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  Speaker 2: to cut through and what and this if you go
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  Speaker 2: to a wrong side of TikTok. I had a buddy
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  Speaker 2: that would get on the wrong side of TikTok. He's
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  Speaker 2: like all women are looking for as a guy over
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  Speaker 2: six foot who has a lot of hair, a lot
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  Speaker 2: of money, all the muscles, and I'm like, you're in
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  Speaker 2: a weird side of TikTok. Bro, I don't think that's
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  Speaker 2: what every woman is looking for.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I've seen some of my friend's boyfriends.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, you'll be fine.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. I think it's easier though, especially
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  Speaker 2: if you're somebody that's getting a lot of matches. You're like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna look at you know, Tyler on Bumble
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  Speaker 2: because yeah, I mean he looks like a nice guy.
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  Speaker 2: He's five to eight and he has good hair, he
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  Speaker 2: is a decent job, he's kind of funny. But then
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  Speaker 2: when I go over a little bit more, I see Chad,
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  Speaker 2: Chad six to two, he doesn't have an ounce of
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  Speaker 2: body fat on him, he has the greatest job over
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  Speaker 2: in Tampa, and he's in a boat. You're gonna go
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  Speaker 2: for Chad. Yeah, that's the problem with it, where it's like,
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  Speaker 2: if you met Tyler out in person, he's probably funny.
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  Speaker 2: He probably is that wholesome guy that also maybe even
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  Speaker 2: has that dark sinister side, whereas Chad, you'd rather talk
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  Speaker 2: to a plant versus Chad. That's what I've noticed for
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  Speaker 2: people on dating apps. Now I say that very biasedly
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  Speaker 2: because I haven't had much time on them.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I will also challenge that logic is why
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  Speaker 1: is what do you give you the name to the
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  Speaker 1: five eight king?
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  Speaker 2: Tyler?
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  Speaker 1: The five eight king? If Tyler is pulling all the
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  Speaker 1: same stops as Chad and it's just the one thing
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  Speaker 1: that's the height, then that's on you as the girl
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  Speaker 1: for knocking him for being five eight. But the reality
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  Speaker 1: is is it's not like it's apples and apples and
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  Speaker 1: it's just the height thing. It's like, I feel like physically,
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  Speaker 1: me and Chad look like we would be a good match,
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  Speaker 1: but we're not emotionally, and that's totally fine. So I'm
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  Speaker 1: just looking for Tyler to step up a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: But how would you get through that first layer? Like,
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  Speaker 2: I guess that is going to if there's any I know,
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  Speaker 2: we have a lot of women, let's listen. Shout out
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  Speaker 2: to y'all. I don't know what dudes are listening, but
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  Speaker 2: this could be very helpful to say, like, how do
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  Speaker 2: you cut through that noise of the chads?
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  Speaker 1: Well, you've got to play the game. And this is
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  Speaker 1: where I get politically incorrect, because I feel like I
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  Speaker 1: have tried to play the game. The game is. I
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  Speaker 1: know that men want a girl who is physically fit,
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  Speaker 1: who takes care of herself, who you know's there's certain
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  Speaker 1: things that you have to get through the shallowness, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure, like you know, if I was stranded on
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  Speaker 1: a deserted island with Tyler, we would fall in love.
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  Speaker 1: We look past all the bullshit that comes with life.
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  Speaker 2: Because you're like, that's my literal only option.
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  Speaker 1: But the reality is that you have to play the
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  Speaker 1: game to be able to get in the game. And
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  Speaker 1: I feel like all the women are in the game.
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  Speaker 1: We're doing all the things that we've gone to therapy,
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  Speaker 1: picked out the outfits, we've we've gone a little botox,
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  Speaker 1: We've done the botox. I mean I literally, I mean
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  Speaker 1: I got the nose job for me, But I mean
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  Speaker 1: like literally I went, I got a surgery that altered
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  Speaker 1: my face for me, I like the way that I
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  Speaker 1: look now for me better. I'm glad I got my
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  Speaker 1: nose job, But I mean, like the lengths that women
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  Speaker 1: go to when they look and word when they want
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  Speaker 1: to make a change in their life. If I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to be more attractive, I wanted to look in the
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  Speaker 1: mirror and go I like the way that I look,
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  Speaker 1: So I wanting to take that into my own hands,
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  Speaker 1: went under the knife.
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  Speaker 2: That makes a lot of sense.
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  Speaker 1: That is an objectively crazy thing to do.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, but it does show the word that I said
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  Speaker 2: before on this podcas and that's effort. Where guys lack
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  Speaker 2: effort when it comes to like we'll put in a
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  Speaker 2: mens and this is very common. Again, like I love
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  Speaker 2: studying this stuff, but like men, we do things that
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  Speaker 2: we know that we're good at. So let's say somebody
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  Speaker 2: is really good at work, you'll see them put a
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  Speaker 2: shit ton of effort into their job. That's why they
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  Speaker 2: advance in their company.
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  Speaker 1: And that's it, and that will get you a certain
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  Speaker 1: type of woman.
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  Speaker 2: Correct.
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  Speaker 1: But you have to ask yourself, is that really what
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  Speaker 1: you want?
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  Speaker 2: Correct? Because if you set that same effort and applied
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  Speaker 2: it into your dating life or your relationship, if you're
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  Speaker 2: already dating, that's what I'm trying to do. It's like,
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  Speaker 2: make sure you always stay on that level that you're
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  Speaker 2: putting into everything else, even if it's complicated, even if
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  Speaker 2: it's like something you're not really I guess knowledgeable about,
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  Speaker 2: like doing the effort to learn, Like that's what I'm
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  Speaker 2: trying to do. It's like I'm like reading books. I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: how do I understand women? I'm like, I want to
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  Speaker 2: make sure I'm good, but I do I can understand
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  Speaker 2: that being a frustration for women where it's like you're
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  Speaker 2: going and getting your hair done, you're getting a new outfit,
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  Speaker 2: you're taking care of yourself, your mind, body, spirit, You've got.
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  Speaker 1: Friends, you've got family, you're trying to be a good daughter,
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  Speaker 1: you're trying to be a good friend, all these things,
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  Speaker 1: and it just feels like.
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  Speaker 2: Then you meet chat or Tyler, and.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe Tyler is a great dude, and he's such a
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  Speaker 1: good friend, and he's such a good son and all
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  Speaker 1: these things, but like also just in the same way
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  Speaker 1: that you want to look at me and go, she's
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  Speaker 1: so hot, and I want to look this. I want
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  Speaker 1: to feel the same way when I look at you,
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  Speaker 1: So lift a weight, brush a hair, get a haircut.
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  Speaker 1: So that's my frustration is just yeah.
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  Speaker 2: You know what, I think that's very valid, And obviously
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  Speaker 2: we talk about that because you're not the only one
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  Speaker 2: that's dealing with that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not. I literally saw do you know who Tinks
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  Speaker 1: is on series XM. She's somebody I would consider like
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  Speaker 1: a god. I hate this type of terminology, but like
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  Speaker 1: a we'll call her a desirable woman. She is a
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  Speaker 1: radio host on series XM. Very attractive, seems like a
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  Speaker 1: level headed human being, and she literally got on her
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  Speaker 1: show and was like, you guys, I'm giving up dating,
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  Speaker 1: Like I'm I'm so sick of going out with with
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  Speaker 1: these men.
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  Speaker 2: To put it bluntly, yeah, I think a lot of
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  Speaker 2: well let me see on the guy's side, especially like
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  Speaker 2: a power Like I don't know her as a personality
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  Speaker 2: or a person, but I do, and I was just
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  Speaker 2: weirdly enough, yesterday I was doing like a Peloton workout
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  Speaker 2: and the instructor, successful, beautiful, fit, all the things. But
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  Speaker 2: again same kind of deal dealing with the dating struggles.
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  Speaker 2: And she told the story as we're lifting, She's like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I was ghosted by this guy and I ran into
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  Speaker 2: him yesterday, and so it's like, even people, you're doing
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  Speaker 2: all the things and you're getting ghosted.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: The lowest thing.
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  Speaker 1: But you see a guy who has her exact same
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  Speaker 1: credentials Peloton, instructor, hot, attractive, interesting, Maybe he's five foot
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  Speaker 1: eleven at the very least, he's engaged, he has four kids.
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  Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think the crappy side of it. And this
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  Speaker 2: is where it's not fair. But guys do get intimidated
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  Speaker 2: by that. It's a weird thing. I'm not saying all.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I mean. Stop being such pay stop being
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  Speaker 1: please stop.
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  Speaker 2: Being ask got a girl, And that's in the episode.
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  Speaker 1: No, No, that's not where it ends, and period. This
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  Speaker 1: is where I Okay, so we're gonna give you no
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  Speaker 1: update on the people that I'm dating, well talking to
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  Speaker 1: on dating apps. So this is where I'm I'm this
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  Speaker 1: is the transition here. So the one argument I hear
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  Speaker 1: from men over and over and over again is I'm
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  Speaker 1: so scared of getting rejected by a girl in public
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  Speaker 1: and you know she's gonna laugh at me in front
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  Speaker 1: of friends. Blah blah blah blah blah. Personally, never seen
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  Speaker 1: that happen, but whatever, live that dream.
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  Speaker 2: King.
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  Speaker 1: My problem is is when I'm on a dating app
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  Speaker 1: and I have either liked you or I'm engaging in
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  Speaker 1: active conversation with you, and you can't ask me out,
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  Speaker 1: I'm done. So that's one of the reasons why I
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  Speaker 1: think of about to ghost be.
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  Speaker 2: Ah, okay, this is okay, because if men used to
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  Speaker 2: go to war, I recognize men still go to war. True,
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  Speaker 2: most men used to go to.
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  Speaker 1: War and kill deer and bears and all that.
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  Speaker 2: Stuff, tackle and elk with our bear hand rap.
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  Speaker 1: If the thought of me saying no to a date
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  Speaker 1: with you is what's gonna send you into a tailspind I.
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  Speaker 2: You gotta do that deep work. And I say that
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  Speaker 2: to so many friends where they're like, man, I'm not
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  Speaker 2: saying I have all my ducks in a row, but
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  Speaker 2: I will say The one thing I'm proud of myself
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  Speaker 2: for doing is the work going and learning and being
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  Speaker 2: okay with those things you have to understand, like where
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  Speaker 2: does that fear actually stem from? Understand the fear to
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  Speaker 2: break through the fear. And I know that might not
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  Speaker 2: even be applicable to this podcast because I don't know
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  Speaker 2: if those men are listening to it. I know they
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  Speaker 2: take the time to do the work to understand that
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  Speaker 2: fear because once you break past it, the rest of
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  Speaker 2: life becomes so free. And it's not that fear disappears,
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  Speaker 2: it's that you're able to look at fear and say,
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  Speaker 2: I see you, and I'm going to move forward.
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  Speaker 1: Anyway, here's our motivational speaker. So let me give you
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  Speaker 1: an update on b Where did we leave off yesterday.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you replied back to his message about wakeboarding.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so he so long story short, just to give
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  Speaker 1: you a recap, but feel free to binge the rest
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  Speaker 1: of the podcast. It's from the last couple of days.
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  Speaker 1: I matched this guy we're calling him be. He said
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  Speaker 1: something that I was talking about how it gave me
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  Speaker 1: the eck because I said, hey, I'm good, how are you?
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  Speaker 1: And then he said, blessed and highly favored, and I
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: was like, if you're saying that, like legitimately, we don't
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  Speaker 1: have the same sense of humor. But then I started
• 12:49
  Speaker 1: reading his profile, I'm like, oh, maybe he's like maybe
• 12:51
  Speaker 1: he did mean it ironically. And if he did mean
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  Speaker 1: it ironically, I think that's funny. So I decided I'll engage.
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  Speaker 1: So he asked me where I'm from.
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  Speaker 2: In Jack's.
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  Speaker 1: He said he lived in Jack's and then I said, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I missed this ship about Jack's and he goes, that's
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  Speaker 1: a staple. Do you have any plans for the rest
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  Speaker 1: of the week and I said, probably just hanging out
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: with friends, and he said, sound like sounds like keep
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  Speaker 1: your routine, And then I asked him what he was
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  Speaker 1: getting into, and then he asked me because I had
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  Speaker 1: said something about okay, let me back up. Probably just
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  Speaker 1: hanging out with friends. Then he said, sounds like you
• 13:22
  Speaker 1: have a routine. I don't know why, but when I
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: read that, it immediately made me think of Dog Saloon,
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: which is a bar here in Tampa. And I said, ah,
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: my friends are always trying to get me in there,
• 13:29
  Speaker 1: but it's not really my vibe. What are you getting into?
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: And then he asked, what is your vibe? And then
• 13:33
  Speaker 1: he said he wants to go wakeboarding, So I said
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: anywhere I can get a solid glass of wine. And
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: then I said it doesn't look like it's going to
• 13:38
  Speaker 1: be great weather for wakeboarding, though, and then he said
• 13:40
  Speaker 1: a little rain never hurt, and I said, so true.
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: So then he said, speaking of wine, last time I
• 13:46
  Speaker 1: had or last time I had a good wine night,
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: it was at Barcelona wine bar. Have you been? And
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: I said, oh, I love that place, not here, but
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: they have one in Atlanta. And he said, actually a
• 13:55
  Speaker 1: friend of mine hosts a wine night once a month
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: because she's becoming to Somalia. It could be my date
• 13:59
  Speaker 1: next time. I'm drinking all types of wine and I
• 14:01
  Speaker 1: said that could be what pause and I said that
• 14:03
  Speaker 1: could be fun. I said, do you want to meet
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: first and make sure we don't hate each other? Though again,
• 14:08
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to like freaking lobby.
• 14:09
  Speaker 2: It like, hello, this is the easiest.
• 14:12
  Speaker 1: Oh, let's stop asking stop talking about asking me out,
• 14:14
  Speaker 1: Let's just ask me out. And then he said, for sure,
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: I was speaking it into the universe, oh boy. And
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: then I said, why don't you speak it into hinge
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: chat existence? First?
• 14:24
  Speaker 3: Did you say that you are a legend?
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, Oh my god. I'm like, cause, like,
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: come on, it's not like it's not You're not guessing anymore.
• 14:33
  Speaker 2: I have guessed. Like when I was dating I literally there,
• 14:36
  Speaker 2: I was like, I'm going to just throw the lop
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: and I would just write the message and I would
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: send it yes, and I would get rejected. That's all.
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: Ghosted doesn't say rejecting.
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: Maybe someone changes their mind.
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: I hadn't no leadway. I just had a couple of
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: messages that were like, huh, maybe they're maybe they're interested.
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: It seems like it, and I would just go for it.
• 14:54
  Speaker 2: This is the easiest thing to understand that.
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: Hello, I'm literally making it so easy for this mofa.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: Oh and there's more I'll tell you once I finish
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: this chat. But that's literally the only reason I'm going
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: out with Jay is I'm not repulsed by him, and
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: he asked me out immediately. You want to know why,
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: because I can't do I've done this so many times.
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: I have done the whole he la la la la la.
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: Can we just meet? Can we just meet and see
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: if we hate each other or not?
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let's get the first initial thing out of the way,
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: so we don't waste our time going back and forth
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: and back and forth.
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: That's what I mean. So I said, why don't you
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: speak it into hinge chat existence first, because I'm like,
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: literally just asked me out. So then I sent that
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: at like six yesterday. I didn't hear from him until
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: eight this morning.
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: Holy crap, Okay, I'm Lily.
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: Gonna cull myself. It is actually speaking this out loud
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: actually makes me even angrier, and I think I'm literally
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: gonna match him. That's how angry I am. He goes
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: eight am this morning after leaving me on Red for
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: about twelve hours. I actually was just manifesting in my
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: dreams last night.
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: Holy shit, I'm you're doing it right now.
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: I was gonna do it, but then I forgot. I
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: have to tell you about his profile. So obviously I'm
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: getting kind of excited because I'm thinking he said the
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: whole blessed and highly favored thing. Ironically. I'm like, we're
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: gonna have the same sense of humor and it'll be fun.
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: I think he's attractive, Like his profile picture kind of weird.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: It's literally just like a random selfie he took on
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: the side of the road. But he looks good.
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: And I did find his Instagram. I'm like, oh, okay,
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: he's an attractive guy. He changed his profile from the
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: time that we started talking to.
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: Now do you think?
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I know he did, so he changed the first
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: prompt to it says the one thing you should know
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: about me is I'm open to a committed relationship with
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: the right person. I was like, perfect, I feel the
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: exact same way.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: And then he keeps scrolling down and he changed the
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: one photo that I really liked of him. Oh to
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: again another dumb ass selfie. Looks like he's at a wedding,
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: but it looks like he literally is just like looking
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: at his phone, opened the camera app and snapped a picture.
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: No way, This goes back to the okay, I can
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: understand the rant now of the effort, the hell okay,
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: let me.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: Just or just you know what actually single signals to me.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: It's not even effort. Well, I mean the fact that
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: he's not asked me how to stupid. It's like the competency.
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: It makes me look at you and go, you're incompetent.
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: That's valid.
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: I'm giving you clear signals to ask me out and
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: you can't get the words out.
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: It also shows me like, do you have any women
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: in your life that can help you with this? And
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: I say this to many guys too, because the ones
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: that have successful profiles, they have a woman look at it.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: How do your prompts look? How do your pictures look?
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: What's the order? Like I hearing you talk about your
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: profile and how everything is, like it's put there purposely.
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: It tells a story, he does.
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: If you want to like really show who you are
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: versus this dude that just puts a selfie up, You're like, okay,
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: I get it. I see your face.
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: You had a perfectly normal photo of him at like
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: a car show or something. I'm like, oh, we likes
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: car okay.
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: But it just knows that you don't understand, and you're
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: not trying to understand. I think that's the part that
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: would be frustrated. It's like, yes, it's one thing to
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: say you don't know thing, Yeah, go learn.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: Go learn. Literally ask somebody to look at your profile. Hey,
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: do you think a girl would think this looks.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: Like chatchibt At this point, I don't know.
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, yeah, you have no excuse now literally
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: asks Chad, she bt so anyway, I'm over b Yeah,
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: I would say.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: At this point, it's like, if he's not gonna.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: Ask I, I you know what, I'm gonna give him
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: twenty four hours to fix that. I'm going to see
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: what he says.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna see what did you say back to that.
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: I didn't say anything back.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: You're just gonna like, come on, you're.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: Gonna message me at eight am and say that you
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: were manifesting in your dreams last night. Literally, this is
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: now turning me off because I'm like, no, man, I
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: would date whatever speak like that.
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: That's exactly what I was thinking. I love a good
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: like you know, spiritual thought. But there's a balance, y'all,
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: Like unless you're going and dating that hippie central, like
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: you got to know one to show him and where
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: to hold them, Like, ask me out.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: I'm literally begging, like, this is why men aren't getting laid.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: This is the male loneliness epidemic. They're doing it to themselves.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: That's very true.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: I'm literally giving I'm doing mental gymnastics trying to make
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: myself like you.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: It's not even like you're at a bar and you
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: don't have no idea if you're even dating, you're literally
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: on an app.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: I'm literally looking at you and going, oh, I love wine.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: Wine is great. I'm a big fan of wine.
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: I like that place I also mentioned.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: I also just agreed to go. I was like, oh,
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: I'll be your date to that thing. Okay, so I'm
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: I would say yes to a date. Ask me out.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: Are you so how dumb are you?
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: That's pretty dumb anyway? Well, yeah, I would say that's
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: a that's a that's a dune in the at.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: Least there's.
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: A I j ai j j I j I j
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: I w that's the one that's supposed to be tonight
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: and that's still locked in. You guys have a place
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: already figured out.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: Why is this man who's borderline AI my only romantic prospects.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: I hope it's because he's not actually AI. I hope
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: it's that it's.
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: Don't do it your hair, it's not.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: Understand the frustrations that part has to be.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: I'm going to die alone.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: Oh I don't think you'll die alone. It's just I'm.
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: Gonna die with fifteen chats in my eyes.
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah. A lot of people that show up, they're only
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: gonna show up when you die. They're like, oh my god,
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: I heard about her. I talked to her, and I'm.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: Gonna like rise from the grave. I'll be like, are
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: you gonna ask me home? Are we going to Barcelona? Wine?
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: Bar?
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: Oh? I do think. I guess the best way is
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: just when friends connect with other friends. I know, I
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: know that's annoying, though.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go out with Jay and then I'm gonna
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: delete my inge just.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: Back off it. Yeah, what about another thing?
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: Like shut up? What are you to say?
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I was gonna say bumble or no, because.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: I've been on bumble before. The guys are typically better
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: on bumble. But they're like hot whossies again, like they'll
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: match with you and you'll never hear from them or
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: you'll see them on Are we dating the same guy?
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Lord?
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: Have mercy?
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Had that happened before?
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: Now? Have you where you'd talk to a guy and
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: you saw them there?
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: No short anecdote which I don't know if I ever
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: revealed this, but like two years ago I was talking
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: on The Bird Show about how I matched with this guy.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: We called him hot Dentist because he's hot a dentist.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: That's pretty nice but like so hot, and we were
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: chatting for like a day and the messages were so good.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: He was so interested. I'm like, oh my god, I
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: love him. And then he ghosted. He like asked me
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: out and then he ghosted, and I got so upset
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: because I was like, oh my god, this guy's like
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: perfect mm and then he ended up on are we
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: dating the same guy? About six months ago? And my
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: friend Taylor was like, oh, I saw him and it's
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: like all these screenshots of this girl who went out
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: with him, and I guess he like fat shamed her
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: or something. Yeah, it was horrible.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's horrible.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: If it's true, that's heinous. But I wonder if it's
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: just some girl who was bitter and wanted to like
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: leave a bad review, but apparently he like pinched her
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: her stomach and.
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's but it also does.
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: See that's the thing about dating guys that are that
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: hot and that's successful, is there if they're single. It
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: does make you wonder, okay, howcause you have so many options?
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: That's True're like why why would you be single?
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: Wow?
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: Wow, Wow, I don't understand what's wrong with you? That
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: is one of the big questions is you know you
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: look at people now and you're like, hmm, how are
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: you still available? Which is a silly.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: Question, there's something wrong? Well, I think if guys are available,
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: I think it's a silly question. I know so many normal,
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: well adjusted women in my life.
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: But now we know why though, Now I know why
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: those the heck and I think it's a smart thing.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: Why would you settle for a bee when it's like that,
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: I'd be miserable.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: I would you settle for bee when Ji is going
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: to take you to blank blank?
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: He has a helicopter, he probably has a private jet,
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: and he's probably like the guy from the Shades of Gray.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: No, he asked me to a restaurant. I'm not really
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: a fan of.
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: Oh, but is it a nice restaurant?
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah? I think objectively it's like a fine choice. But
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: when he said it, I went.
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: It's like, is it cliche?
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: Sure, I'll tell you what it is, Okay, I actually
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: have never been there, but.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's objectively fine.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: It's I mean, it's like a staple in Tampa.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: It's actually is the first date restaurant in Tampa.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: Everybody else that you're going to be looking around. So
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: is it just a drink or is that actually like
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: a mule?
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: No, I'm hoping it's just a drink because I don't
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: like the food there.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: Oh is there a bar inside?
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: I don't know there's a bar in there. I think
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: they actually do have a good happy hour. So it
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: does make me a little suss why he asked me
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: out there. I'm like, oh, so you're cheap, which is fine.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: I'm like, please spend as little money on me as possible.
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: See if there's any interaction. Yeah, given an hour, that's tonight.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: But then you're going to the event.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can take me to meet Market next and
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: then yeah, wow, no you well yeah, yeah he can
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: take me to meet Market.
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: I've never even got to meet Market. I don't know
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: how my girlfriend feel about me taking you to meet Martin.
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, I met him.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: Well, that'd be really nice. I'm gonna be honest. I'm
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: an optimistic guy. I will be shocked if I get
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: a great report from Beth's back. Actually, I guess i'll
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: find out in a couple hours. I'm looking forward to it.
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: It's at five point thirty.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: Wow. Wow, you gave a lot of time between that
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: and the event.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: Well, because I have to drive there in Saint Pete
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: and I'm not having drinks in Saint Pete.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: Well, who knows. By the time your girls get away comes,
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: maybe you'll be swooned up and taken before. Okay, alright,
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: this all A couple of spots are available. How people
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: want to get on for that get away.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: It's in the episode description.
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: Here you go, Hey, you know what, maybe you know what.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: We're just everyone just cross your fingers, say a prayer
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: for Abby.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: Call a shaman, do a blood sacrifice.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna do everything I can this weekend to find
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: a shaman, a rabbi, a priest, and I don't know
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: what else, because in that category, we're gonna we're gonna
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: lift this curse. Damn it. All right, everyone wish to
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: Abby good luck.