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shows. Let's see today we got something
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very exciting as always for you here.
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If you may or may not be aware that I am a co-owner now because
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I I I shared the teams with my my friends.
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So we, we, we, we're now Co owners of the not just the
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Ventura County Orcas or the Riverside County Mavericks, but
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the Inland Empire Hounds, which is the one team that we're
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keeping in this season. And so with that being said, we
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have a campaign called for the love of dogs.
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This campaign is dedicated to my pet who I had to put down Daisy.
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So my, my, my view of the campaign is more of the
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grievance conversation and just in having a few talks with
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people, a lot of people have had to put their dogs down.
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Or if I've had the dogs pass away and, and some people are
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like myself, not ready to take on another pet.
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And some people are able to go right out and get another dog.
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So, but do we really ever get a chance to deal with that grief?
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And so that is my part of the conversation about for the love
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of dogs. And then just helping out the
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other aspects of it from dog breeders again to the grief
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counseling, if you have dog services, if you are a
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organization that fosters dogs or pets, if you have a pet
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company that you provide services, whatever it is that
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relates to our, our fellow dogs, you're more than welcome to be a
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guest and, and Share your story. And also we offer opportunities
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to brand with us as this season is coming in October.
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You want to advertise with us and brand your company with us,
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Professional basketball organization, then we also have
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space for that available as well.
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So, yeah, so I'm just out in the community on social media, just
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reaching out to organizations, finding out what they do,
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finding out what their love for dogs are and then why they do
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what they do. Pretty much as the question is,
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is what's your why around all of all the other conversations that
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we can have about life. You know, people love their dogs
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and we take care of our dogs and and our dogs are actually part
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of our family in some cases. And for me, putting Daisy down
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was one of the hardest, man, one of the hardest things I've had
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to do in my life. My dad passed away in 2019.
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My grandfather passed in 2020, not due to COVID.
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He was 91 years old, 90 years old, and then my dog in 2022.
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And so that's a lot of that's a lot of grief, you know, in that
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time span. And I'm grateful that I have
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been able to, you know, find peace within myself around all
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the other areas of life that I was dealing with.
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And then to have them then take on grief with my dad was just a
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totally whole other conversation that we're going to have on our
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platforms as well. Especially losing a parent or a
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loved one or or sibling or child grandmother, but then you know,
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our animals. And so as, as, as I've been
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reaching and sharing, coming across people across social
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media and in the San Bernardino area, LA County area, I have a
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guest today, Mitch, who's going to share what he's up to.
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I, I like what he does because as a sickle cell trade advocate,
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you may remember I met Doctor Maisha, She does telehealth and
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she's in North Carolina and she's licensed in 20 states
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where she can actually see patients.
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And so in, in our sickle cell trait conversation, we've been
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able to send people her way who have sickle cell trait and had
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no idea that there was complications of parents were
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seeing their child play sports, having health issues and
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struggling with their health. And, and unfortunately some of
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those cases are connected to sickle cell trait because it is
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an inherited gene. It it affects the red blood
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cells and those red blood cells can mutate and cause health
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problems. And gratefully, finally there's
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a conversation that's been shifting that the medical
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community are starting to realize that sickle cell trait
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is not benign, right. So it's not just don't have a
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baby with someone that can have sickle cell trait or disease.
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But also again, people with sickle cell trait might have
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some real life health complications connected to that
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one copy of the gene. They've known that for years.
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And finally, with what I experienced with sickle cell
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trait and rhabdomyelosis, the RABDO is what can cause a sudden
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death and health complications connected with the sickle cell
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trait. So with those two cut together,
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we're a little bit more susceptible of having heat
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exhaustion and heat exertion and collapse and the worst cases
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we've seen military personnel and athletes die from those
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health complications. So now with the sickle cell
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trait, there is a rare and they've known about this
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already, there is a rare kidney cancer directly connected to
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sickle cell trade carriers. And that is what sparked the
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conversation more broadly, nationally and internationally
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that sickle cell trade is about to be not benign.
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So there's articles published out of the UK and when those
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articles come together and, and, and reach the United States, I'm
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pretty sure already there's conversations about the sickle
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cell trade is not benign. We know it causes blood clots
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again, collapsing, a lot of different things.
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Pain. I've had pain in my arms since I
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was 2 years old, my mom says. And so those were what we
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figured out as sickle cell trait crisis.
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And so for some athletes, it's hard for them to recover after
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exercising. And for some, again, we have had
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to collapse and sudden death. So we're going to get started
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Hey, what's up man? How you doing?
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I'm. Blessed my brother.
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I'm good, man, I'm good. Hey, did you see the game last
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night? I was your game.
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But did you see the shot? I lost money from that.
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Oh man, that shot was. Old man, but it was good.
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Yeah. What's the name?
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Jeez. You really want to know.
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I do. Exhaustion, muscle spasm,
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Asthmatic issues, unexpected sickle cell trait Triton.
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Are. You serious?
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When I was young I found out I had sickle cell trait.
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My mom's told me but I didn't have no knowledge of it.
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But when I got older I had a child and the doctor told me my
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daughter has sickle cell trait. You know, the fact that both
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parents have sickle cell trait, there's a 50% chance the child
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may have the trait and 25% chance the child may have the
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disease. And that's what's the count.
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Do you know that 2.5 million people in the United States have
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sickle cell trait? 300 million people globally.
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I didn't find out I had sickle cell trait until I was in the
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Army 10 years. Next thing you know, I had a
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sickle cell trait. Exertion Site.
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April Cell. I thought that was a black gene
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or something. Nah man, the black community is
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number 21 out of 36,000 babies are being born with sickle cell
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disease. You could be Caucasian,
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Mediterranean, European. You got rid of a red line man.
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There is an inherited gene in our community that has been
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forgotten. The name is sickle cell trait.
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WDCONSCT, also known as What's the Count, is out to bring
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awareness, education and prevention to people all over
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the globe. Want more information?
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Call us now at 323-215-5384 or visit www.wdconsct.org.
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All right, welcome back to another episode of the Frondose
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Show on MB Radio. I want to say I'm blessed next
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week. I haven't told Big Dre this yet,
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but we probably not have a show next week because I will be in
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Las Vegas speaking around sickle cell trade at a sorority event.
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But I think it's their national conference.
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And so Jody and myself will be there travelling on Tuesday,
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speaking on Wednesday. So yeah, probably catch a rerun.
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That's what you probably see. All right, so again, thanks for
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listening to the Front Jose show.
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Just a side note. It it it is called trench talk.
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However, I don't know, I may be changing that name.
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So we'll see. Right now we're just going to
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keep it at the front Doze show, but there is a trench talk
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segment. But I may just change some of
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that stuff to just revamp it, even though it's been branded
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for that such a long time. But however, today is very
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important. Again, if you want more
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information about the Island Empire Hounds for the Love of
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Dogs campaign, you can go to iehounds.com.
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I'll put that up on the screen later.
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But today, again, I, I've been out just reaching out to people
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and I came across this page and I, I again connected to it
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because of the things that we do around sickle cell trade and
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telehealth. I just thought that his white
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coat, white coat business was important.
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And so I'm going to bring up Mitch who is believe he's in
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Louisiana today. How you doing, Sir?
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Good, good man, how about yourself?
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I'm great man. Thank you for for accepting my
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invitation to hang out today. Hey.
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Look, I appreciate it. I I've been looking forward to
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it and glad we can make it happen.
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We have crazy weather here right now, so my signal may be a
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little sketchy, but we'll we'll make it work.
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No problem, we'll make it work. I won't keep you on too long.
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I know you in a different time zone.
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But again, thank you for for taking some time out this
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evening to be on here. So do me a favor, just introduce
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yourself, give a little bit of background, and then we'll just
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have. A Absolutely.
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My name is Mitch Bratton. I have 20 had 23 years as a
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first responder but then also have owned businesses for 20
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years, restaurants and security guard agency, serial
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entrepreneur. I think it's my.
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I think it's a good trait. My wife thinks it may be a
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syndrome. Because.
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She never knows what we're going to have, but during my time in
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law enforcement, I was AK-9 officer.
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No kidding. So Belgian Malinois, which is
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what I had both times, both the past of old age 1 was was older
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when it came to me and it no one could deal with it.
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It was he was just, he was a grouchy old man.
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No, but we we worked well together and then got a after,
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after Rocco passed away a few years later, we ended up with a
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canine and the community named it.
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Its name was Justice and it was deserved until he had some early
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onset hip problems and some health issues.
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So love dogs. We got, you know, our our Pets
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at Home now and things which are not nearly as useful as my
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canines were, but we love them anyway.
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We my my kids picked a schnauzer weenie dog mix so I can you can
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imagine how useful fella is. Two totally different worlds,
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huh? Absolutely completely from from
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you know, straight on business mind and and just useful and a a
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wonderful tool too. Whatever the opposite of all
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those things are is what we have now.
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So let. Me, let me ask you, being in law
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enforcement, was that an opportunity to work with the
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canines or how did that part come up for you it?
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Was so the first one I had was when I worked for the Sheriff's
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Department here, it got assigned to me because nobody else wanted
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it. And I, I was the new guy.
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So they're like, well, let's see how this works.
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And we, we, we made it work. And then the next was because I
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had the training and things to work with the dog.
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And so that's where justice came along.
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So, and course, you know, they, they live with us.
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And after their, when their health got where they weren't
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working dogs anymore, they, they just looked it up here, you
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know, as pets and and things. So, you know, obviously very
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attached, just like you were with as you were talking about.
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I was reading that actually on the hounds website on the when I
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was looking about the campaign you got you're going to be
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starting and doing so I thought that that's all really cool.
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And so between the, you know, the, the, the affection and the
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the closest with dogs and animals in general, we right now
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we at my house, we have a bearded dragon ducks.
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You'd have a miniature highland cow and the pasture Outback.
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And so you never know, we kind of like a zoo around here.
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So getting that in the, the entrepreneurial side and I
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actually have a own a telehealth as well and we have a national
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doctors network that that works with that and pharmacy.
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But then that led to the the televet program.
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Wait wait wait wait wait. So you have a telehealth
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medical? I do, yeah.
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It's it's whitecoat-md.com and then you have white coat DVM,
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which is our veterinary side. So yeah, both are fairly new
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businesses. The the telehealth is everything
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from primary care and you know, different things to to weight
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loss and and you know, anti aging, just kind of whatever and
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tries to kind of level the playing field for people that
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may not have access to, to get to something.
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And you know, we have a national doctors network, some of the
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best out there that are part of it.
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And so we have that and then that kind of led to the the
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telivet. And.
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We did the same with it. So White Coat, DVM, doctor of
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veterinary medicine, but it's all all one word.
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Whitecoatdvm.com and basically we operate it as a subscription
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service. It's is there's no requirement.
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You can cancel at any time, but it's 1999 a month and that gives
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that subscriber 24 hour a day as many times as they need
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unlimited access to our licensed vets and Tiffany, we're not we
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can't take the place of your local vet because we're not
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there. You know, our our team is not in
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in your towns. We can't do some things, but
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we're there at 2:00 AM when you've got a problem and you
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don't know, is it a serious issue with your pet or is it
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just something, you know, run-of-the-mill that can wait?
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A lot of instances, depending on the state law, our vets can
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prescribe things for pets, anxiety, you know, and general
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health, things of that nature. And the big thing, if you do
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reach out to us and your pet does appear to be having a
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genuine emergency, our team will help you find the closest,
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fastest place to get to that can see you in an emergency
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situation. So, you know, there's no, no
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extra fees, nothing. It's, it's just the 1999.
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And they also offer pet advice. You know, you get new pet
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owners. It's, it's like being a new
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parent. I wished I had one when my, I
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have a 17 year old daughter and 14 year old boys and I wish I'd
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had somebody I could have called 27 for advice for them.
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And the same thing with the pets, you know, you get new pet
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owners and we even offer some online behavioral training to,
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you know, to help you with things for your animals.
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And it's all included in that 1999.
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And something that I've, I've also is close to me is, is
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rescues and shelters, because none of there's not a single one
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that has enough funds that operate and the need is always
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going to be greater than the resources.
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And so something we have started to, to do with any shelter,
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anybody that you know, that we need, they need to be licensed.
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You know, we, we want to make sure that they're legit and
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doing things we will, they can basically become an affiliate
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for lack of a better term. And for anybody that signs up
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for our subscription for the unlimited televet, we'll do $5 a
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month per person for as long as that person is a member.
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So someone signs up and they, they pay the subscription for 10
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years. Every month we send $5 out of
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their 20 to that rescue or shelter and.
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So that's just kind of something we do to try to give back 'cause
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you know, you get donations and things for the, the rescues, but
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you don't get a lot that's recurring that you can count on
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every month. And so, you know, if shelter
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goes, if they get a, you know, 500 people to, to sign up and
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you know, be and subscribe under them, well, they're going to
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get, you know, $2500 a month, every month, you know, long as
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those people are on there. And actually, so anybody that
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goes to the site shelter or, or rescue, or if they want to
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suggest one, they can actually go there and click the red
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message support button. And I've got that right now.
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Those messages will come to me. If they mention that they heard
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it on here for the first three months that that shelter is on
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there and that anybody signs up, we'll do $10 for everybody that
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signs up on it. And then after that it would go
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to the five. But just try to something we
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could give back. And it's, it's kind of a labor
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of love. The televest that is the
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telehealth is, is we're operating it like a business.
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And so the televent though, I'm, I'm probably operating it out of
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good sense just to, to get the service to people and then then
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to try to get a, a system to get some recurring funds to these
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shelters and rescues that are out here doing the Lord's work
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without any money. Well, you, you, you took the
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words out of my mouth because as, as, as I've been on my
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spiritual journey, the last, you know, full force six years, you
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know, I, I, the, the, the Ventura County orcas, right?
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The orcas are an endangered species, right?
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And so we created a whole campaign around the orcas last
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season when we put, we introduced them to the league.
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And it just made me think about how we, as the people are
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supposed to take care of this planet, right?
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The, the animals, I mean, as Adam, as Adam did.
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And so it was like, you know, there is a part of life that
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that we are responsible for taking care of these animals in
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the NRN. And so that give back, as you're
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saying, is, is a is AI think it, I'm not that I think, but I know
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it's our responsibility. So when we took over the IE
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hounds, as I mentioned the conversation with my co-owner,
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somehow we both just started talking about our dogs that we
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had to put down that we're grieving.
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It was like, well, wait a minute, the the the mascot is
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the hound. And we're over here talking
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about, you know, almost crying about our, our, our pets being
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put down and, and being deceased.
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And it's like, why don't we just create a campaign for the hounds
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and, and do and do what you just said, help these organizations
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that are fostering, that need dog supplies, that need dog
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food. Like, how can we not support
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that? And so we pray that that will be
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one of the platforms campaigns that we can in return contribute
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to in San Mateo is one of the largest counties in LA, so
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California. So that's one of our, our, our
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whys before I let you go, just is there anything else?
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Can you, can you say what states are you licensed in California?
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Like are you able to say what states that you can?
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Absolutely. So our vets are licensed for
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consults in all 50 States and so the where it varies some is on
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the prescription side. OK.
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Every state has different requirements on what establishes
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the vet patient contact like Louisiana allows virtual to
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establish the vet and patient contact.
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Florida it does the same. California I believe allows it
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as well. But then I know Oregon does not
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in Colorado does not. So in those states, we are
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limited in what we can do. You know, we, the vet still see
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a video chat with you and your pet.
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They can still give you a diagnosis, some ideas if there's
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something over the counter that might could help your pet
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symptoms or if it's an emergency, you know, they'll
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help you get a referral and get where you need to be.
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But unfortunately they couldn't do a prescription.
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OK again man, thank you so much for sharing that.
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I hope that we can have a conversation outside us because
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like I said, I, we, we have what we call the trait Dr. doctor
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Maisha and, and she has been able to see patients.
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Like I said, she's licensed in 20 states.
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And so like I said, with that sickle cell traitor and parents
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not knowing, not aware of those complications and health issues,
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she's been able to definitely help, even partner with their
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doctors and provide information and, and prescriptions and, and
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consultations and things like that.
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So she has the same type of business.
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That's why when I saw yours, I was like, man, that's, that's
25:11
stimulus to what we're doing for, for our community of sickle
25:14
cell there. There's never a time when you
25:17
can have too much knowledge on the line all.
25:21
Right, I'm going to bring up Big Dre and see if Big Dre's got
25:23
something for you. I know you guys were talking
25:25
behind the scenes. Big Dre, What's happening, man?
25:28
Man, I love that Mitch. I mean, I'm I'm going to do.
25:33
I had a kill. I had a Rottweiler, I had a
25:36
bullmaster, so I know I was going to say.
25:41
You could have rode that thing to college.
25:44
Yeah, I'm, I'm a big boy. I'm 6/4 and I'm a I'm a
25:46
countryable Mississippi boy. LSULSU pride, of course.
25:50
Go Tigers, you know, national championship baseball again, you
25:55
know, so I love the idea what you got?
25:57
So basically you have you have vegetarians on call for your
26:00
dog's illness. That is incredible.
26:02
We'll need more of that. I appreciate it.
26:05
We're we're very proud of it and and proud of the response we've
26:08
seen and love the idea. There's a shelter an hour or so
26:12
from me and I watch them and they're on Facebook everyday
26:16
begging. Can we get can somebody donate
26:17
to some fans for that? The dogs, can we get some food?
26:21
And I thought, you know, these folks, they're most of those
26:23
are, they're volunteering and, and you know, and they're on
26:25
here having to beg to just not have to, you know, spend their
26:29
last dime to get it. So, you know, if we can, we can
26:32
do something that that benefits the, the person.
26:35
And then also, but it's it's maybe they can spend one day
26:38
less on Facebook asking for for basically.
26:44
Go fund me, Go fund me for a pack of cigarettes like some of
26:47
them do. They abuse it.
26:49
You know, I got to have, I got to have $75 million a pack of
26:54
cigarettes. Can you do it and go fund me,
26:56
though? Yeah, it's got, it's
26:57
interesting. But I know for Ron has your
27:00
information. Good.
27:01
I'm going to pass it on to my team and my meeting.
27:04
I'm in Saturday for my Indian tribe people and I would love to
27:07
help that cause for sure man donations.
27:09
Hey, look, that would be great. And like I say, anybody they can
27:12
go there and just click that red and I've said it where all those
27:15
messages will come to me and also it they can e-mail
27:19
info@whitecoatdvm.com and I've got it all to come to me right
27:24
now. Mentioned they heard it on this
27:26
and we'll we'll double what we contribute for that first 90
27:29
days. All right, definitely, man.
27:31
I, I thank you again for your time and thank your service man
27:35
being a, being a, you know, former law enforcement and
27:38
everything else you know, and being a first responder man,
27:40
thanks for your service man. Look, I appreciate you guys very
27:43
much. So I great really appreciate the
27:46
opportunity to be on here and hope we can think of something
27:49
to talk about again. Oh yeah, I'm, I'm already
27:51
thinking like we forgot. There's a whole another aspect
27:54
of life that we we, we kind of glazed over so.
27:57
That's right. Before I let you go for you
28:02
growing up in your environment, what was that like for you, you
28:05
know, in your in your day and age of growing up as a child
28:08
from the environment you grew up in man?
28:11
Man, I'll be honest, I had it too easy.
28:13
I had man, that's what I I had great parents that they
28:16
supported me. They they my first business.
28:20
I was 15 and my dad signed a note and I bought AT shirt
28:23
printing company and that was not odd in high school.
28:26
I skirts and like it was, it was a like a a shooting fish in a
28:32
barrel, man. I had all the school groups.
28:34
I had all those things, you know, I.
28:36
Like, I love it. And did that for for about 5
28:40
years and and ventured out some other things.
28:44
Sold that. So we always had animals.
28:47
They they they never told me no about bringing home some random
28:49
animal. Or what we're going to.
28:50
Have now I've got kids like me. Your nickname was Jamaic
28:55
Jamaican Mitch. That's your nickname.
28:59
He. Got 15 jobs mine.
29:03
He said, he said, his wife said it's the syndrome man.
29:10
Your wife says, Oh my God, another, another creature.
29:13
You bring another kid home and a dog and I love it.
29:17
I'm getting paid back several years ago my daughter wanted a
29:20
horse and. I'm like.
29:24
I wasn't for it so we compromised and got 4.
29:29
So now you got 4. Yeah, so she barrel.
29:33
Rides. Everybody gets a horse, so you
29:35
get 1, you get 1. And so she barrel races and then
29:39
she's passed it on to other kids.
29:41
The community, they come and she teaches them and let's them ride
29:44
horses. And so it's just just a cycle
29:48
and. You know what I I I heard I
29:51
forgot the guy. He's a pretty popular name.
29:54
Zigs. I don't know if it's Zig, but he
29:57
said that when he was a child he bought 2 bikes, one to ride and
30:03
one to rent and he was had a business at like 12:13 14-15
30:09
years old because kids in the neighborhood didn't have bikes.
30:11
Yeah, so he was like business minded that, Young said.
30:14
I bought 1 to ride and one to rent and I would charge them a
30:18
dollar $2.00. To rent.
30:20
I was like. How did we miss that?
30:23
Yeah, my boys, they're twins. They're 14 and they've had 3D
30:30
printers for a couple years. And they cornered.
30:32
They cornered the junior high market for all the good 3D
30:36
principles and so. Oh, man, you you couldn't be a
30:39
he'll keep watching me in there. Whatever.
30:41
You're 21 years old and you couldn't you said you could
30:44
retire Mitch. You and the wife is about
30:45
another another another year or two.
30:47
Yeah, I just don't. Hear that?
30:49
When they put me in a home, give me one with a room, you know
30:51
that. Was something nice.
30:55
That's Mitch and and yeah, thank.
30:57
Thank you again, Mitch, on my behalf.
30:58
Thank you man so much. Man, for hanging out, like I
31:00
said, we'll, we'll make sure we bring you back for some more
31:03
discussions around life and sports and those kind of topics.
31:05
Too man, looking forward to it. All right.
31:07
Appreciate you. Yeah, thank.
31:09
You all right. Thank you.
31:10
Thank you there. This is the front dose issue.
31:12
We have Mitch big Drake's in the building.
31:14
We got Kay coming up next, so make.
31:16
Sure. You.
31:16
Oh yeah. Yeah.
31:17
Get ready. I'm hungry for a hot dog.
31:20
This dude is already hungry. All right, we'll play some more
31:23
Psas and then we'll come back and take on segment #2.
31:28
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I just want you to know that that conversation is very
33:02
important subject matter. It is part of my DNA.
33:07
African Americans, we are #1. However, the Latin community is
33:10
number 2. That's why I have that PSA for
33:12
our Latin community, because they are #2 again, it's not a
33:16
skin color, it is a bloodline. So you could be Caucasian,
33:19
Mediterranean, Asian descent. You have to know where your
33:23
ancestors are from. And if you, your ancestors are
33:25
from an area where malaria was present, guess what?
33:28
You could have that gene because that's the gene that combats
33:32
malaria for us as Africans. That's why population is #1 but
33:36
the Latin community have sickle cell trait.
33:39
They also have thalassemia trait.
33:40
There's also C trait, D trait. So depending on your ancestral
33:44
background, you might have another red blood cell condition
33:48
as we call the cousin of sickle cell trait that could combat
33:54
malaria. But when two people have those
33:56
inherited genes as I have sickle cell trait, imagine my partner,
34:00
she had C trait and didn't know we could have a baby with sickle
34:04
cell SC disease or sickle cell beta thalassemia or sickle cell
34:08
and C trait, D trait. And so those are parts of our
34:11
community that experience different types of sickle cell
34:14
disease and of course, s s, which is sickle cell anemia.
34:18
I have been blessed to ask to be a godfather of a young baby who
34:23
has sickle cell s s. And so that just gives me more,
34:28
you know, drive to to start a blood drive campaign to around
34:32
sickle cell because African Americans don't donate blood.
34:35
So we have a whole campaign coming around that.
34:38
So again, thanks for tuning, listening in.
34:41
I'm going to bring up Big Dre. Yes, yes.
34:45
First, first of all, man, I want to give honor to all the
34:52
veterans out there. I was at my school, I met
34:56
Charles, who was a Vietnam vet and he might be watching right
35:01
now inside there, but I want to give a shout out to him.
35:04
I'm going to try to have him on the show the week after next.
35:06
I'll be in Vegas this weekend for the fight.
35:10
The Manny Pacquiao barrel fight is.
35:12
That this weekend or the 19th next weekend see I'm I I might
35:17
have to try to stay an extra couple of.
35:19
Days yeah, you like I'll be up through a company on Friday.
35:23
Oh yeah, on Friday. So, you know, it's like it's
35:28
it's it's like we're ready to do this thing with, you know, bags
35:31
and canvas and everything. But like I say, first of all, I
35:34
was talking to show and thanking you again how you gave me the
35:38
blessings and honor come in to try to take a place in the world
35:42
to help these men and women that deal with sickle cell.
35:46
And this month is disability month with no color.
35:51
It's not a shame, it's not a disease.
35:54
It's everyday life with disability.
35:58
We all have friends at disability mentally challenged
36:01
as things they're dealing with and we're very supportive.
36:04
That, that disability, that's probably, that's probably we got
36:06
to have a talk this month about that because of my, my
36:08
relationship to being disabled veteran, man, it almost took me
36:12
out. I was getting ready to sell
36:14
everything because I felt like I'm disabled now.
36:16
So I can't have a motorcycle. I can't have my three wheel.
36:19
Like, like there's things I can't do anymore because I'm
36:22
disabled. And I almost, I almost put that
36:24
label on, man, almost. We definitely have to have that
36:28
talk this month, Yeah. For sure.
36:30
So what? What's up with Kate?
36:32
Introduce Kate Howard. Man, how much before I bring
36:35
this queen up her name? I met her, a friend shot me and
36:40
the missus. She had this little fan up
36:42
there, what you call her hot dog queen.
36:46
But I tell her food is so incredible, make you want to
36:49
slap your grandfather's third cousin. 5th to the power night.
36:54
That's how good her dog were. Her tacos, her Turkey dogs,
36:58
Chicago dog, you name it, she has.
37:02
But then she crossed over, then she is, then she crossed over to
37:06
the trucking industry. And lastly, the owner, ladies
37:13
and gentlemen, Miss Kay How? How you doing?
37:16
How you doing introduction and all that?
37:24
Don't call the comeback. I've been there for you.
37:30
No, I thought that was, I thought it was a conspiracy
37:32
because when he was talking about me, my, my it start
37:34
buffering, I was like, what are you saying?
37:37
Yeah, on purpose. On purpose.
37:38
See what? I was sick anyway.
37:40
Walk, walk. Walk.
37:41
Walk. Walk.
37:41
Walk. Right.
37:43
That's how I felt I went. I don't know.
37:45
I'm gonna make, I'm gonna make my voice heard, even if I had to
37:49
wait for after buffers. So.
37:51
There you go. How?
37:53
You doing today? I'm doing great.
37:55
Nice to meet you. You too.
37:57
Thank you for hanging out today with us.
38:00
Of course, you and I know you was in the background looking at
38:02
me going from the back house to the front house.
38:04
I was like, no, I can, I need to make, I got to make my voice
38:09
heard, so I got to make sure I get some good signal.
38:11
Yeah, I might need to go stick my truck.
38:13
Everybody's outside. Everybody didn't get out of
38:15
here. Going No, I'm at my college, I'm
38:17
at school, you know, like me. I'm out here front.
38:20
That's it. I got to make sure I'm in.
38:21
Sue called me while I was talking to my professor and
38:24
everything. I'm like, Oh my God, hold on the
38:25
case, call me, let me hurry up. You know, let's tell you that
38:28
too. So the question we all want to
38:30
know, by the way. He may have to change his
38:32
podcast, a car podcast because I had.
38:35
No Carly. Carly, me and Dre.
38:37
In the car like for a reason, We.
38:39
Gonna call it front seat. Front seat The front seat I own.
38:44
That right there I. Own that's right, that's right,
38:47
that's you, that's you get the trademark for you now let's get
38:50
it. Let's get it.
38:50
Let's we want to ask we want to ask a question.
38:55
We want a famous question of me and Poran want to know who is
39:01
the the queen of hot dog? The hot dog queen of The Who
39:04
misses how if you start and where you from?
39:08
I'm gonna just tell you right now, you, you starting from the
39:10
back end, because if you want to start where, where where hot
39:13
dogs started from, it's The Who is credit girl plus, who is
39:17
Royal hair exchange, Who is K Freight logistics, who is hot
39:22
dog? I'm so many.
39:24
And the thing behind it is that I'm a woman that believes in
39:27
everything. I believe I can do everything
39:30
and I don't say. Nobody would hate to make it.
39:34
And you know what, it's nice that they're making.
39:36
I had a real conversation. I was just like, people were
39:38
like, well, you all over the place.
39:40
I know I'm not even I said, I said I'm not even a woman that's
39:45
all over the place. I'm a woman that didn't learn
39:48
'cause I was the other day. I was listening to what's her
39:53
name? I forgot her name.
39:54
She used to she had a baby with with the the man Kardashian.
39:59
What's her name? What's?
40:00
Her name? China.
40:02
Oh, Kim. China.
40:03
So no, I'm gonna tell you some real stuff.
40:05
So they were like, well. Why are you considered?
40:08
They they said, why are you considered a baby Mama, but they
40:11
not considered baby Mamas because they stick together.
40:13
See, The thing is that with me, I know how to get money.
40:16
I know how to get do businesses, but sometimes I got to be on a
40:19
hush status, but I got to put myself out there and I have to
40:22
let people know that I'm great. So when I put all these
40:25
different businesses out there, they like, well, Casey, you were
40:27
doing this, this and that. I'm still doing this, this and
40:29
that, but it looks like I'm all over the place.
40:31
And it's not because you got Kardashian, you got all these
40:34
other people. They do multiple things too.
40:38
They just don't have to put it out there, you know, I'm saying
40:41
so I'm like, wow, it I questioned it at first, but no,
40:45
I'm OK. I'm OK being able to be the
40:48
woman of all Jack of all trades. I I I agree.
40:52
With you I'm so KKK logistics hot dog queen LA credit girl
40:57
Plus is a is a Jack of all traits.
41:00
That's what I am. I I I agree.
41:02
With you on that aspect because even just me being retired from
41:05
the military and and taking on different aspects of my life,
41:09
people say man you all like you all over the place.
41:11
You got 5 talk shows and you doing this sickle cell and
41:14
basketball. I said everything that I speak
41:17
from is from my life. So it's not, I'm not doing
41:19
nothing that's out of the ordinary that I got to figure
41:22
out how to have a conversation about.
41:24
It's all tied to the different aspects of who Ferron is as a
41:27
person and in my experiences. So it's not a lot for me.
41:31
It's just what hat do I put on in in the conversation that
41:34
we're having. So I appreciate you for saying
41:35
that because some people, I don't know what they, what they
41:38
see in that as As for themselves probably.
41:41
I'm gonna say this right now. For my boy Dre to sit here and
41:46
have respect for me to be a black woman sitting on in
41:48
California on a hot dog cart in the streets, not embarrassed
41:53
about nothing, knowing that 3-4 years later I had 6 figures in
41:58
my account. I had three brick mortars and
42:01
all. I had all that, but I'm so quick
42:03
to be like, you know what? It ain't working out so I can
42:05
move a different way. I don't, I don't let the
42:08
government, I don't let people dictate what God has for me.
42:12
If he say this is your purpose, this is your purpose.
42:15
Unfortunately, we have social media that makes it seem like,
42:18
oh, you got too much going on. No, if you sit here and you
42:22
listen to a billionaire, he going to tell you they didn't
42:25
become a billionaire when they was in their 20s.
42:28
They became being there through all their losses.
42:30
Don't nobody talk about their losses.
42:33
Well, yeah, because the losses are going to reflect if if
42:36
you're not, I don't want to just say emotionally strength, but if
42:42
you're dealing with shame and embarrassment and disappointment
42:44
and that's what you live from, then of course you're not going
42:47
to want to have a, you know, take on different things like
42:49
that in the world because of those kind of even decision.
42:52
We had a talk show yesterday. The team were talking about
42:54
decisions and sometimes people get stuck because of the
42:58
unforeseen consequences of the decisions that they made.
43:00
And now they want to make no more decisions because they're
43:02
still dealing with past experiences.
43:04
So for you, Kay. Can I?
43:07
Just how did y'all become who y'all are today?
43:13
I got, I'm in, I'm in front of you on the radio on this talk
43:17
show right now out of depression and anxiety and suicide
43:20
ideation. That's where I was in the space
43:24
that my military career was over and I made it mean my life was
43:27
over because my identity was trapped in that camouflage for
43:31
all those years. And God, again, God showed me
43:34
that that inherited gene that I gave you that almost killed you.
43:38
That's actually what your voice is while you're here to deliver
43:41
that message. And so I found a whole nother
43:43
world of 300 million people plus with sickle cell trade.
43:47
So I go from serving this country to not serving the
43:49
community of people. And I have a voice in that
43:51
community and my experience. And then that just unraveled all
43:55
the other seeds and flowers and trees seeds that was implanted
44:00
to me in my mother's wilderness. So now I get to talk about those
44:03
different categories. I'm especially reconciliation
44:05
and self forgiveness because that's a human being
44:08
conversation. A lot of us are just dealing
44:11
with our families, but we really are upset with ourself of of how
44:15
we think we should have been raised in time, brought up and,
44:18
and and and blame our parents for our our life not working
44:21
out. You said you said it's a human
44:23
being conversation. What are we?
44:25
We're human beings, but a lot of people don't think that they're
44:28
they're, they think they're the other.
44:30
And so they don't associate or relate to us as people because
44:33
they, the way that we talk and label one another.
44:36
If I'm black and you're Mexican, I, I, I talk to you like a
44:39
other. So it disconnects us as that
44:41
human relationship, that human connection.
44:44
So that's why I say as as human beings, we all deal with
44:47
something. You said this is you said this
44:49
is swag, right? Yeah.
44:53
OK. So.
44:55
The, the, the reason why I said, what are we is because instead
44:59
of losing yourself in a government in which society
45:01
wants you to be, be true to yourself, there's somebody out
45:04
there that feel the same way you feel.
45:06
And the reason why I said, why are you here now is because all
45:10
the things that you've been through, and I know, I know it
45:11
wasn't perfect, but everything you've been through has built
45:14
you and made the strength that you have within yourself.
45:17
So that's what I'm saying. Like at first I was questioning
45:20
because everybody has something to say, the same people that
45:22
have something to say about, well, why are you doing this?
45:24
Why are you doing that? But you ain't even doing it.
45:26
Right, right, right. And because as, as it says and,
45:31
and I'm gonna go back to what you were saying, Mexicans and
45:33
black as black people, it was kind of like I would, I use the
45:36
Kardashian 'cause I was the last.
45:38
Hello. Interview I heard when when you
45:41
know, trying to say it because they stick together.
45:43
That's why they're not considered baby Mamas.
45:46
So the thing about it is I'm a stick with you.
45:48
The reason why he's where he's at is because he went through
45:51
trauma. He as a black man didn't have a
45:53
he couldn't talk to nobody about his story.
45:56
So he decided to like get a podcast and live through certain
45:59
people. But what you need to do is speak
46:01
your truth, because there are people like me.
46:04
Right. Or Drago, because I'm getting
46:06
spiritual. He got out the car and got lost
46:11
signal. But no for real, for real like
46:13
you, you, you got to speak the truth because it's people like
46:16
you, the people that have been through the army people.
46:19
Let me let me give you another example.
46:21
My son is 20 years old. And then you see that girl like
46:24
I. Got scared.
46:26
Huh. You got scared.
46:31
He's over there. No, I think that's the same
46:33
thing I was going through. I was going in and out.
46:34
So my son is a black man who is 19, about to be 20 years old.
46:39
And when I sit here and say, you know, when women say it ain't no
46:42
good man, I sit there and observe my son.
46:44
My son is the most amazing man. But you know what, man?
46:48
I can feel like if he does change, it's not because he
46:51
didn't have a great mother. It's because the choices of
46:53
women he chose, that's what made him decide that.
46:56
You know what? I might be that player.
46:58
I might be that disconnected emotional person because you
47:02
don't understand that I'm showing you the love because
47:05
today's society it ain't love no more.
47:07
So when a female do find a man that's a good man, I'm sorry.
47:10
I know we supposed to be talking about women and empower.
47:12
You black. People to understand this too,
47:14
because I have a son. When you, when you have a, you
47:18
have a, a man, especially a black man who goes through so
47:22
much mental trauma and there's nobody to talk to, you figure it
47:26
out on your own. So now I'm talking to him, but
47:29
I'm trying not to be too strong because it comes off too
47:32
aggressive. And right now he's delicate.
47:34
And I say to your, I just say, we need to change this, this
47:38
whole thing. We need to change how the world
47:41
is today. Forget what Donald Trump talking
47:43
about, forget what anybody is talking about.
47:46
True to yourself spiritually. That's the reason why a lot of
47:49
us are not connected, because we're not spiritually connected.
47:51
What we're doing is we're getting on social media trying
47:53
to be somebody we're not. We're trying to be like the next
47:56
person. I've been through so much
47:57
through business, but one thing is that I can still go out in
48:01
the street and be proud to be out on the street selling hot
48:03
dogs. I can still get in the truck and
48:05
roll and get dirty, get my hands dirty.
48:06
I can still sit here and make 6 figure and be true to myself and
48:10
love everybody equally. Yeah, for, for you, when we talk
48:15
about that human being and, and that spiritual context, it takes
48:19
a lot of courage. It takes a lot of confidence.
48:22
Like what did you, what did you see that you had as such an
48:26
early age growing up that gave you that kind of mindset or, or
48:31
mental toughness? That'd be like, you know what, I
48:33
could do whatever I want. Like not everybody has that.
48:36
We we all have it in this. But sometimes those environments
48:40
fractures, things that happen that we think happened to us
48:43
that you know. Taking time to taking time to to
48:48
evaluate yourself because sometimes I will sit here and
48:52
think to myself that I will go all my way, but people will be
48:55
saying you wrong for this, Kishu.
48:57
And then when I really thought about it, I was like, when I
49:00
didn't do anything that hurt nobody.
49:01
My intention was so pure. Me knowing because some other
49:05
people think their intentions are good, but you know when the
49:07
devil's playing his position and I said my intentions are so
49:10
good. Even in relationships I can sit
49:12
here and say that I'm perfect. But what happened was I had God
49:18
sending good people in my life. Unfortunately with men, y'all
49:22
don't have nobody to talk to. So when y'all go through these
49:25
emotional battles, what happens is that y'all look for the
49:28
homie. He no good advice because he
49:33
damaged he's like instead of sitting here and saying that you
49:37
like like the other day, my son, I'm going to tell you some real
49:40
stuff. My son talked to me.
49:41
He probably on my my, my thing if he'd follow me.
49:44
He said to me, he's like mom, I told this girl that, you know, I
49:48
wanted more affection and she was like getting mad at me.
49:51
And I said, but she's mad at you.
49:54
When you decided to take another female to home because you want
49:59
to make sure she was safe. His intention wasn't that he
50:01
want to have sex with her. He want to make sure she's safe,
50:03
right? Why is it OK for her to get
50:06
upset and say that you're wrong for taking a female home?
50:09
And then you try to make it right.
50:11
But when you ask for a little thing about, hey, can I get some
50:13
infection, you make it angry. Said you're not wrong.
50:15
I said she got something stuff, something going on.
50:18
Yeah. So with men, men have to
50:20
understand that you women need to take accountability.
50:26
Women they need to take. I know this became a
50:29
relationship show when it's supposed to be no.
50:31
You good You, no. You good.
50:33
You no. This is this is whatever you
50:36
wanted to talk about. I'm gonna say I'm gonna keep it.
50:39
Women need to take accountability for what they do
50:42
because it's not. So you got to understand that
50:45
women are being raised by women who are strong.
50:47
And it because it goes all the way down to when the white man
50:50
decided to take the black man out the home.
50:52
And then when they had to do everything, it became strength.
50:56
So now you got these men who feel like, OK, I'm being raised
51:00
by a woman. You can't knock the man that
51:02
he's all spoiled and sensitive. Because when you do have a man
51:04
that you can take advantage of as far as like control, now you
51:09
spoiling him. You got to show that man how to
51:11
be a man. So when things are hard, like
51:13
meaning like when she ain't got it, he got it.
51:15
When he ain't got it, she got it.
51:16
Become a team player instead of sitting here as black people
51:19
pointing fingers and stuff like that.
51:21
So what I tell my son is, is like, you know, it's OK for you
51:25
to want to date Spanish girls because I'm not the one that's
51:28
going to sit here and tell him that he can't love.
51:31
Because at the end of the day, when your spirit is strong, it
51:34
don't matter what color you are. So I said, if you do love a
51:38
Spanish woman, make sure you love her spirit.
51:41
You make sure she's what you want spiritually.
51:44
Because at the end of the day, you got crazy Mexicans, you got
51:47
crazy black girls and you got crazy white girls.
51:52
So at the end of the day, yeah. No one, no one escapes it.
51:57
No one escapes it. And I appreciate you especially,
51:59
you know, you come in from the mother's perspective, right?
52:02
And and what I what I don't like and what I appreciate about what
52:05
you've said so far is sometimes men try to speak for the woman's
52:12
perspective or they try to use a celebrity to speak for, for a
52:16
community of people. But when it comes from a mother,
52:19
like true mother, a conversation, it hits different
52:24
when, when you speaking from that.
52:26
And that's, and that's what I believe.
52:27
That's why the, you know, some podcasters are, are not good
52:31
because it depends on what they're doing it for.
52:33
But they're easy. Like you said, for men.
52:36
We definitely need a space to talk because we suffer in
52:39
silence. We know that we suffer in
52:40
silence. I know that I did.
52:42
And now to come out of that, I'm like, we ain't got to.
52:45
I was 40 years old, though. Why do I have to wait till 40 to
52:49
start to soul search and spiritual search when I could
52:52
have took and taken that on 89101112 years old if somebody
52:57
would have you know? 'Cause you could you because you
53:00
ate, because you ate the apple. No, I mean, we don't really.
53:07
We don't understand. But you know, 'cause I because
53:10
he ate the apple. No, the reason why I say that is
53:13
because. OK, so I don't.
53:14
I only have a son and I'm. I'm I got scared.
53:18
You got so. So what I realized is today's
53:21
world is because now they got social media, right?
53:24
So they have females that they represent other women saying
53:28
that, oh, I'm a strong black woman, I could do it myself.
53:30
No, you can't. No, you can't.
53:32
OK, yeah, you might get the money, but at the same time, you
53:36
need that balance of a man that could teach a man how to be a
53:38
man. I can't sit here and beat up my
53:40
son and say you gonna be tough. If anything, he's going to be
53:44
traumatized because he's been beat by his mom.
53:46
So what are you he going to do? He going to be like, I'd rather
53:48
go to a white girl in Mexico because I've been beat up by my
53:50
black Mama. Right, I'm trying to tell you if
53:55
if we understand child. Development.
53:59
All of that stuff when I when I when I thought my Mama abandoned
54:02
me at 8 years old, I didn't know that she was going to represent
54:04
all women from a from a 8 year old decision.
54:08
So you're absolutely correct that sometimes as that parent,
54:11
even as a father, we could be too hard as a father.
54:14
Or Bridget. Push that child away and now
54:18
he's he's running to his coach or he's running to somebody
54:21
else. And but, but the father's like,
54:23
where's my son? I'm.
54:25
Going to be like, go ahead, can I get deep?
54:28
Can I get deep into that? Go.
54:31
Ahead or let me let me let. Drake say what he got to say,
54:35
because I'm going to say some real stuff on that part.
54:37
I'm listening, Dre. Dre, Dre, Frozen.
54:42
OK, so I'm going to say what I have to say.
54:45
Dre. Oh, he keep Dre need to go back
54:47
on this Internet. So.
54:49
So you want to can I speak the truth?
54:51
Of course. You sure?
54:58
You got it. OK, so in that category, This is
55:02
why I said I could never be a counselor or a therapist because
55:05
I, I, I'm spiritually connected in a weird way.
55:08
And that's why even with business, like when people say,
55:11
hey, why your training class is so cheap, because I'm
55:13
spiritually connected. Knowing that you may be a single
55:15
mom, single dad, somebody that ain't kind of they ain't got
55:17
finances. So I'm not going to try to get
55:19
rich off of you. I got to sleep at night.
55:21
But I'm going to tell you that the other part of when you are a
55:25
woman, especially if you are a woman.
55:28
After all these men were taken out of the home and then finally
55:33
a boy does get attention from a man sometimes as a young boy.
55:38
They don't know if it's supposed to be a Big Brother attention or
55:44
a love, right? So the so they start getting
55:47
confusing because, and I know I don't want to make this a
55:51
sensitive topic, but I'm you said I could be open.
55:55
I think what happens is that as black men, we're already going
56:00
through mental being effed up, right?
56:03
And then when you do have someone you can look up to, you
56:05
have these pedophilers who will take advantage of someone who
56:10
who needs that father figure. And then it becomes, it becomes
56:14
a sexual situation. But what happens is that now the
56:17
child is confused because they're like, well, I want to
56:19
love on this man, but in my right to love on a man and be in
56:23
love with this man. You can be in love with your
56:25
father, you can be in love with your best friend.
56:27
You can be in love with your your uncles without it being
56:30
sexual. But see what happens if we live
56:32
in a world now is that they make sex before true love more
56:38
important. You get what I'm saying?
56:39
So what happens is. I said, Oh yeah.
56:43
Yeah, so So what happens is that all this confusion happens and
56:47
stuff like that. And then these boys who's
56:50
looking for the homie, looking for the, the, the, the, the,
56:53
the, the, the, the uncle, the father and stuff like that.
56:55
And then they become vulnerable and it becomes more than what it
57:00
is. And now the the, the the the
57:03
older person is taking advantage and you're taking that persons
57:06
innocence because that child has not developed.
57:08
This child is still trying to. I ain't going to lie, even when
57:11
I was what, 11-12 years old, never thought about being gay,
57:16
but when I was getting dog dogged out by guys, I was like,
57:19
well, I'm gonna be with a girl. Never been with one, but just
57:22
thought of even having that was like, what am I doing?
57:25
Good God bless me to say I would never, I've never been with a
57:27
woman. But I'm just saying that when as
57:29
a child you're confused. So if as men you're already
57:33
going through confusion of not having a father or the proper
57:36
father figure, and even if you do have a father figure, you got
57:41
to hope he's alpha beta. People understand it's good to
57:44
be alpha beta. Don't just be one or the other,
57:47
be both. Because be that strong, man, but
57:49
be emotionally intelligent at the same time.
57:52
See what you're saying again, I'm, I'm 55 years old now and I
57:56
got three daughters, 2 grandchildren as dark girls and
57:59
the grandson and even spiritually, biblically, the
58:03
Bible says that the, the father is the one that has the
58:06
compassion, not, not the mother, it's the father that's the one
58:09
that's supposed to be compassionate to their children.
58:11
So you, I mean, you're right. And, and the downside of that,
58:14
again, as you're saying, the, the emotional fractures of
58:19
upbringings and the vulnerability of that child, the
58:23
innocence, as you pointed to the innocence.
58:26
That's why we can go back and teach these children how to have
58:29
the self esteem, self love, self affirmation within themselves so
58:34
they don't have to be susceptible to the predators and
58:36
the gangs and all the other stuff that's going to come up if
58:39
they have the knowledge and understanding and the place to
58:41
express how they're feeling. And a lot of times when you
58:44
don't have that parent or you have the parents, you still have
58:48
to have that connection back to that parent.
58:51
And it depends on how that parent was raised as a child.
58:54
Then I'm the parent and you're the child.
58:55
So it's a one way direction conversation.
58:58
So then I don't get to say what I need to say to you, because
59:01
every time I try to talk to you, you tell me to get out of here.
59:04
And remember, people express themselves through trauma.
59:10
So if that parent like say that that parent has been touched or
59:14
did anything. So when that child is trying to
59:16
express themselves or saying something happened before
59:18
looking at the whole situation, they're going to reflect on what
59:20
they've been through and then it's going to come off very
59:23
light. You know, So that's where when
59:25
back in the days, because I'm like, I think I'm like the last
59:27
of the Mohicans, the last aunties, we had a group like in
59:33
the neighborhood, we knew who the neighbors were.
59:35
We had multiple people raising us.
59:38
And on top of that, we didn't live in fear, right?
59:41
But we didn't have social media where we thought I could see
59:43
here. When I look back as a kid, yeah,
59:45
I was walking down the street, people, men were rolling up on
59:47
me and stuff like that. But I didn't think nothing of
59:49
it. I'm like, oh, you're perfect.
59:50
Let me hurry up and run home. But now it's like you didn't
59:55
welcome the devil in your home. Because if you get these kids on
59:57
social media, these predators and these the devils coming
1:00:01
through, coming to your home. And how do we control that?
1:00:05
You hear what I'm saying. So that's why I said, you know,
1:00:08
when I try to have a communication with my son,
1:00:10
because communication is very communication is very important
1:00:14
in relationships, son and mother, father, daughter
1:00:18
relationships, everything communicate because you don't
1:00:21
know what that person is thinking and why they think that
1:00:23
way. And so when you're sitting here,
1:00:24
say the confusion, that's where you bring your child around
1:00:28
different people. And hopefully that it's a safe
1:00:30
space for everybody that you bring your child around, because
1:00:33
the mind of a child is very delicate.
1:00:35
Because I've, I've read things and it's so sad because I've
1:00:39
been on social media where I'm not going to say is new to the,
1:00:43
the, the, the homosexual thing is new, but some of these people
1:00:47
are only doing it because of social media.
1:00:50
Get what I'm saying? Some people are only being gay
1:00:53
for pay. Some people are only being gay
1:00:56
because they got they, they open up Pandora's box.
1:00:59
Some people are just mentally effed up because when you go to
1:01:03
jail, they have conditioned your mind to say this is what it is.
1:01:07
And genuinely they don't want to be that way.
1:01:09
They know it's not right. But you locked up for 30-40
1:01:12
fifty years, you go pretend like, OK, I'm a I'm a I'm a fake
1:01:16
my mind and make it seem like this is a woman.
1:01:18
And then when I get back in real world, I'm going to act like
1:01:22
nothing happened. You get what I'm saying?
1:01:25
And So what I with all that said, is that we got to start
1:01:29
communicating and being OK to make it for a man a safe place
1:01:35
and not be judgmental as a within our own community.
1:01:40
Yeah, everything, everything you said for me is, is exactly where
1:01:43
I, I had to get to to the point where I understand and relate to
1:01:49
you because I had to go through my own healing process.
1:01:52
And it wasn't until, like I said, 40 where I had an
1:01:56
opportunity to start to work on that after I wanted to complete
1:02:00
my life. But then I got my life back
1:02:01
because I put myself in conversations and curriculums
1:02:04
and education that taught me how to, Hey, you don't have that
1:02:08
voice in your head is not you. That's not, that's, that's your
1:02:12
subconscious mind, that's your brain.
1:02:13
That's what your brain is designed to survive.
1:02:16
But if you got, if you're not aware of that, I responded how I
1:02:19
felt and, and what my mind said was, was OK, I, I better, I
1:02:24
better go do this then. But I never knew that I could
1:02:26
question even my own thoughts. And that's the reason why listen
1:02:32
to this guy name his, his name is Joe Dispenza.
1:02:36
He talks about the power of the mind.
1:02:38
We live in a subconscious mind because it's it's almost like
1:02:41
comfort. Subconscious mind is comfort.
1:02:44
You can see here, you ever thought about when you were
1:02:46
driving somewhere in space? If you're intoxicated, you're
1:02:48
like, how did I make it home? Because the subconscious mind
1:02:51
guides you. So when you use your conscious
1:02:55
mind, it becomes work. That's just like me saying, OK,
1:02:59
I'm a go to the gym and I'm a stay consistent.
1:03:01
But you got to consciously tell yourself I'm going to the gym.
1:03:04
You got to consciously tell your mind that this is what I need to
1:03:08
do. But when it becomes work because
1:03:11
the mind is a muscle, people fall off.
1:03:15
I'm sorry. No, it's and, but again, if if
1:03:20
we go back spiritually, then that's what that's what Christ
1:03:22
has taught is, has taught us. You have to renew your mind.
1:03:25
You have to change the way that you think.
1:03:26
At some point you got to change the way you think because how
1:03:30
you've been thinking again was it might be corrupted.
1:03:33
It might not be, it might be your truth, but it might not be
1:03:36
the truth. And, and when I went at 40 years
1:03:39
old to go to my parents, to ask my parents to forgive me for my
1:03:42
behavior toward them, they was like what I'm like, yeah.
1:03:46
I realized at some point I have to take responsibility for my
1:03:48
own life and I thank you because actually you did the best you
1:03:52
could with what you had. And then I look back at how old
1:03:56
I was. I'm like, well, a child at 8
1:03:58
years old has no concept of time.
1:04:00
A5 year old has no understanding what is being adult.
1:04:03
But the brain is developing and giving meaning to life as such
1:04:06
at those young ages that if we as parents don't know that and
1:04:10
put the as much truth as we can into that child at those young
1:04:14
ages, my mind's going to go back to what I remember.
1:04:17
And if it's not, if I made it up and that's my truth now, but if
1:04:21
you tell me, hey, you know what? This is what's going on with the
1:04:23
marriage for wrong. This is why your dad can't come
1:04:26
and see you right now at at the age appropriate for that child,
1:04:29
then I'm always going to remember why my dad's not
1:04:31
around. Not because he doesn't love me,
1:04:34
not because he doesn't love me, but because, oh, there was a
1:04:36
conversation that y'all had that he can't see me right now
1:04:38
because he got to go deal with something with his own life
1:04:41
right now. That would be a.
1:04:42
That's a different space to grow up in.
1:04:46
It's so crazy you when you said that I'm not not to cut you off
1:04:49
when you said that. It was when my son's father had
1:04:52
got locked up because of something he did.
1:04:53
He got deported and I didn't want to tell my son the truth
1:04:58
because I felt like it would hurt him.
1:05:00
Someone told me, I don't know where was like you got to tell
1:05:02
him the truth because then if you lie to him, he feel like
1:05:04
it's OK to lie. So I had to be honest with him.
1:05:07
It hurt me. But sometimes the hurt and
1:05:10
comfort is what kind of opens to it frees you from the the the
1:05:15
what is it the they call it the the curse, almost.
1:05:20
You free. Yeah, you free.
1:05:22
It frees you. And then because the child could
1:05:24
grow up to be mad at you because you lied at him, now he don't
1:05:26
want to talk to you no more. And then he's mad at whatever
1:05:29
happened with his dad. It's like, like I said, and we
1:05:32
don't. Not that we don't, but.
1:05:34
We think we're, we think we're protecting the child, but we
1:05:37
have to. We're we're, we're not just
1:05:39
protecting the child, we're protecting ourselves kinda
1:05:41
because we felt like if we feel this way, they may feel, feel
1:05:44
that way and maybe it's not the truth.
1:05:46
And it's not the truth. So, so us as adults, right, who
1:05:50
are now 55 and 60 and 70, how much of that do we have to go
1:05:54
back and, and figure out in our own adult life now, right?
1:05:59
And, and now you got to be able to tell the truth to yourself at
1:06:03
again, I say at 40, it was challenging to have to go back
1:06:06
and look in time and realize that some of the stuff that I
1:06:08
made-up, that wasn't the truth about my parents or my, or
1:06:11
myself even now you got to go through that process.
1:06:15
And can I tell you too that, you know, we change as people.
1:06:19
So the same story that you told at 8 years old ain't the same
1:06:22
story you told at 15 and or 20. That's why I said, yeah, whoever
1:06:26
on here, y'all need to follow Joe Dispenza because it talks
1:06:29
about that, that you not the same person you was 10 years
1:06:32
ago. So what you're saying is the
1:06:34
truth. You have to be real with
1:06:37
yourself. And hey, hey.
1:06:42
Baby. Hey, hey wifey, did you got to
1:06:47
get everything together? Yes, I did.
1:06:51
OK, OK, see, that's why you need a woman in your life 'cause
1:06:53
she's gonna, she's gonna figure it out.
1:06:54
She's gonna figure it out. But no, like you got to be.
1:06:58
You got to be mad with. Yourself.
1:06:59
Yes, yes, yes. Well, let me not, let me not
1:07:02
talk too much this we got that. This is on the line anything.
1:07:07
You anything you heard that you want to do, you want to chime in
1:07:09
on. Oh my, and do I want to chime in
1:07:14
please? Please.
1:07:16
I think I think I need to keep quiet, but I really want to
1:07:19
chime in on is that thing about being locked up for 30 or 40
1:07:23
years? I just want to add to that and
1:07:26
kind of take away from it. When I say take away from it, I
1:07:29
mean step back because we got we got young men or young boys on
1:07:36
in the world that are that are seeing black boys get killed in
1:07:43
the world. And as quiet as it's kept when
1:07:45
the mind is meant to survive. That's why we have so many boys
1:07:49
decide to carry a purse or think that they are girl and switch
1:07:53
because what they're seeing is black women are surviving and
1:07:57
not getting my goodness. I'm just saying because the mind
1:08:02
is meant to survive, so that it doesn't, it doesn't happen.
1:08:08
Wait, you didn't wait a minute, you didn't shook the table, but.
1:08:10
I'm well, no, but but you don't we we because but look, but
1:08:13
look. So let's, let's let's put it on
1:08:15
the table. Look at what the movies are
1:08:17
doing. The movies are making it OK for
1:08:20
celebrities to play women to play these roles now.
1:08:24
So it's becoming OK. Well, then I could pretend too,
1:08:27
right? And.
1:08:29
Then hey, I'm gonna take you back.
1:08:32
I told I told someone if if they could.
1:08:34
If I have to ask you what your pronouns is, then you should ask
1:08:37
me how tall I am because I'm 6 feet.
1:08:42
Look, look, I'm gonna say this society has made it so scary to
1:08:49
even want to speak about this because when my son was young,
1:08:53
he was like, yeah, I love my homeboy.
1:08:55
And I was like, you love your humble side.
1:08:58
The time I think like, what's going on?
1:09:00
And then he had to figure it out.
1:09:02
He's like, no, I'm not like that.
1:09:04
He was all like, because they say that if you dislike that,
1:09:08
then you will be hateful. And my son is not a hateful
1:09:12
person. So in his head, he's like, if I
1:09:14
dislike them, that means that I'm a bad person, right?
1:09:18
It's almost from black manipulation.
1:09:20
You get what I'm saying? Especially when you're young.
1:09:22
And so when she was saying what she was saying and stuff, I was
1:09:24
just like, it was deep. It was deep.
1:09:28
I don't even know how we got from women empowerment, but this
1:09:30
is something that needs to be talked about because what
1:09:32
happens is when you want to speak your truth, especially
1:09:36
when wrong is wrong In your eyes.
1:09:38
I have the right to speak my truth and not be muted.
1:09:41
You get what I'm saying? So why is it that I have to
1:09:44
accept certain things and take it in and then when you do
1:09:47
something, it's like I'm being, I'm, I'm racist, I'm
1:09:51
discriminating on this. I'm not it's not that.
1:09:54
It's just I choose not to live. I'm good, not I respect it.
1:09:58
I I just feel like back in the days when we were kids, I didn't
1:10:03
know how Lucy and Ricky made a baby.
1:10:06
I didn't know they have separate.
1:10:07
Beds and stuff and all of a sudden Ricky came out of
1:10:09
nowhere. So what I'm saying is that you
1:10:12
can do you, but you don't have to force it on us.
1:10:16
Well, the. Thing about it is, well, the
1:10:18
thing about it is what they're not Speaking of is it's an
1:10:22
alternative lifestyle. So alternative to what?
1:10:26
And how did it become alternative?
1:10:28
And why are you alternative? Because you truly are not have
1:10:31
not healed from your childhood for you.
1:10:33
So you start looking for something alternative.
1:10:36
So let's be let's deal with that.
1:10:38
So that deals with that. And that goes back to what she
1:10:42
was saying about follow up. You need to find out and heal
1:10:46
your wounds, whether they're young, old, jail, whatever it
1:10:52
is, those wounds need to heal because I truly can honestly
1:10:56
stand here and sit. I'm so I'm sitting sit here and
1:10:59
say I'm a different woman than I was 30 years ago.
1:11:03
I'm 57 and I'm a whole nother woman.
1:11:05
I feel a whole nother way that I, I man, I can't even because
1:11:11
those wounds were healed though my daddy came back and healed my
1:11:16
wounds and made sure that I was a whole person because I was
1:11:20
operating from 1/2 person. Now I'm operating from a whole
1:11:23
person. So I see things totally
1:11:26
different and I'm in. I'm all for arranged marriages
1:11:30
at this point in my life and I understand.
1:11:32
I'm just saying, I'm like, I just evolved to something to I
1:11:37
can't even believe that I evolved to this because I was
1:11:40
all about, Hey, Dee, I'm doing I'm an independent and and it's
1:11:45
just it's not the same, but you definitely should enjoy life and
1:11:51
you definitely should be encouraged to to pay attention.
1:11:58
So let me let me ask this as as the male and I, I don't think
1:12:01
I've even asked my mom this question.
1:12:03
So I want to ask you since since we're on this subject, why, why
1:12:06
does it seem like women wear that single independent like a
1:12:12
badge of honor when I I believe K you kind of mentioned it
1:12:15
earlier that it's it's it's not a badge, but why, why is it
1:12:19
portrayed? Why is it portrayed that like as
1:12:24
a badge of honor? If I could language with that.
1:12:27
I understand. When did, when, when did it not
1:12:29
be OK to be a a wife and a mother?
1:12:32
When did that all of a sudden become not OK?
1:12:35
When did that not become enough just to be a mother and a wife?
1:12:39
When did it? When did I have to make a
1:12:41
paycheck? When people didn't appreciate me
1:12:44
is when it didn't become OK to be a mother and a wife because
1:12:49
it felt so much better to get a paycheck than it did to get a
1:12:53
slap in the face because you didn't like the food that I fed
1:12:56
you that night. So at the that's when it became
1:12:59
not a badge of honor to be a husband, wife and and A and A
1:13:03
and a mother because no one appreciated that.
1:13:07
You know. Can I, can I pee back off on
1:13:10
her? Go ahead.
1:13:12
It became that way when you start competing with your mate.
1:13:17
I'm like, I don't mind being the woman to if I if, if OK, say you
1:13:22
ain't making the money because society said, OK, we not going
1:13:25
to give you a job because you got a felony, blah, blah, blah.
1:13:27
I don't mind doing that. But at the same time don't sit
1:13:30
here and want me to follow you. But you doing all some like some
1:13:34
some female stuff like you sitting there.
1:13:36
Are you battling me when I'm sitting there?
1:13:37
Like I didn't did I didn't take care of the kids, I didn't work,
1:13:40
I didn't did this and you don't even know how to be emotionally
1:13:43
intelligent for me. So now once again I'm in
1:13:46
survival mode. I'm thinking I got to do
1:13:48
everything. So internally I'm like, I love
1:13:52
cooking for my man, I love being the wife.
1:13:56
But then it's scary because like she said, the wrong person will
1:14:00
take advantage and then the right person that may come
1:14:03
around, I don't even know if he right or wrong 'cause I didn't
1:14:06
80% of the time people didn't take advantage of my kindness
1:14:10
And I'm strong. I know I'm strong, but at the
1:14:13
same time I get tired of being strong.
1:14:15
I don't want to be strong. Can can I just be accepted and
1:14:19
appreciated? I don't need to be strong.
1:14:22
I don't need to be strong. I just need to be appreciated.
1:14:25
And I and I depend on your check and my check.
1:14:29
I don't need to be interdependent.
1:14:30
I'm a dependent. I I I found my piece in that
1:14:34
conversation. Ring ringer here.
1:14:37
Because of my grandparents, because I, I was raised with
1:14:41
them for the, from 2 to 8 years old, right?
1:14:44
So I have a little bit of that old school and I have a little
1:14:46
bit of the, of the current version, right?
1:14:48
But what I, what I saw when I look back in time, World War 2
1:14:54
changed a lot because women came out to help build equipment and
1:14:59
they were making tents, they were building bullets.
1:15:02
And, and for, for, for us as the military mindset, we look at
1:15:06
that era as is where the women went into the workforce, right?
1:15:10
A lot of men were killed during that time.
1:15:11
And so now women became, they say, bringing home the bacon.
1:15:16
And then now she's got her own house and own property and own
1:15:18
car. And then the men now are like,
1:15:20
well then what do I who? What do I do?
1:15:23
Now, friend, This is why I told you it don't it didn't you?
1:15:28
If I'm born, if I'm born, I'm not born ghetto.
1:15:31
I'm not born, I'm not born nothing.
1:15:34
It's just it's it's the environment that I'm put in.
1:15:37
So think about it like this. If you know, first you got the
1:15:42
man. If you got a felony, you can't
1:15:43
work. Then you got the women on the
1:15:45
county. You can't have a man in the
1:15:46
house. At all.
1:15:48
At all. Like.
1:15:49
They, they changed that. Wait, wait.
1:15:52
I just want to say they, they've changed that within the last 20
1:15:55
years. That's changed.
1:15:57
Well, you have them in and out the.
1:15:59
The whole family can be on the county now.
1:16:03
But no, I mean, can you get that?
1:16:05
No, I. Don't no.
1:16:06
The whole family, the husband, the wife, the children, the
1:16:09
whole entire family. No, no, no.
1:16:12
So you when was this? What part of the county though?
1:16:16
Right, because all all parts of the county I.
1:16:20
Am let me tell you, this friend when I was there was 5-6 years
1:16:25
ago, my son got deported. They wanted his information.
1:16:28
They was like, he cannot be in a home.
1:16:29
He can't. This is that.
1:16:30
This was five years ago. And I'm like, but he don't have
1:16:33
a social. They was like, yeah, but we need
1:16:35
his. We need some kind of contact
1:16:36
because he needs to pay. They never allowed him to be in
1:16:39
a home. They said it can only be you and
1:16:41
your child. They wanted to know who's in the
1:16:42
home or whatever. And even through the day, they
1:16:46
lied to you. They lied to you.
1:16:48
They changed the law and the whole family.
1:16:51
You could have put him on your case and everybody could have
1:16:54
been on the county on the case. It's your social worker, I
1:16:58
promise. You anybody that's watching
1:17:03
this, you hear what she says? Yeah, the whole, no, the whole
1:17:13
entire family. Dre's son is a social worker.
1:17:17
Now the whole family can be on. Section 8 and everything.
1:17:25
The whole family. He want to be alive, he said.
1:17:34
He's trying to say no because he be hating on my dog.
1:17:37
Let me I'm gonna show you my dog right now.
1:17:39
I'm gonna try to get him on the county too because he act like
1:17:42
he just put the. Dog on, the county put him on.
1:17:56
That. What's his name?
1:17:57
His name is Bear. He just looked like a bear.
1:18:01
He went he went to work with his dad.
1:18:03
We we gonna get him a little uniform because you need to get
1:18:05
a job, right? No, He gonna get claimed and all
1:18:11
that shit. I'm gonna figure it out for
1:18:13
real. No, I need to know that I didn't
1:18:15
know that. I did not know that.
1:18:18
We all need to figure that out because they still trying to
1:18:20
play us right now. Don't think, don't think they
1:18:23
don't do it when they have 13 dogs at the coffee shop with
1:18:26
you. You trying to drink and eat your
1:18:27
food. Serve, serve a dog.
1:18:29
You know good Wayne, go serve a dog.
1:18:30
Sit under you well. What I'm trying to figure out
1:18:32
how to get $4000 worth of food stamps.
1:18:35
OK, how about 13? 1000 That's because that's
1:18:39
because I know somebody in there and they gave me extra. 13,000
1:18:46
not. Me, not me.
1:18:47
I'm just spent. 13,000 on on the food stamp and 4000 on the cash.
1:18:54
Are you seeing you got to have 10 kids at least or something?
1:18:59
She don't that we're doing. There's a street takeover on.
1:19:02
There's a Strata St. takeover on here on the ON.
1:19:06
The highway. Oh my God, Yeah.
1:19:08
What happened? So they they had a woman in the
1:19:10
store getting groceries and she left her receipt behind and A
1:19:14
and a black girl got it who's a cashier.
1:19:16
And so the woman left here. Armenian in a brand new
1:19:21
Mercedes-Benz. She had 13,456 on her EBG stamp
1:19:26
and 400,822 on her cash. Wow now you can feed a whole
1:19:33
football team and $13,000 for a couple a couple of days.
1:19:37
Football team according to football player.
1:19:39
Wow 13,000 on on cash. Come on wait on on the full
1:19:42
stamp. I wish I couldn't get 1000 a
1:19:44
month for food stamps. Period.
1:19:49
Now what you know is who you know.
1:19:52
And Miss and Miss Dre, I know you.
1:20:01
No, on the real day, no. The thing is that she is saying
1:20:05
is who you know because people work in the system.
1:20:08
I don't know how they doing it, but I'm like, you know, when you
1:20:11
work hard, you put in the work, it's like you get less.
1:20:14
But when you got time today, they we get the most they get
1:20:17
they know how to. Work the OK, I I might piss the
1:20:19
people off while I'm driving out here.
1:20:21
I'm she holding thing. I may piss a lot of y'all folks
1:20:23
off this in this show and look at this show.
1:20:26
But like what those what she just said this is the reason why
1:20:30
you get mad at the orange man. You call it orange man when he
1:20:34
was cutting that stuff out catching him.
1:20:36
Yeah, yeah, he catching people and who who getting $400,000 a
1:20:40
year salary at the Department of Education while she should get
1:20:43
30,000 a year. Figure it out now.
1:20:45
But you get now you know I must catch them people and the county
1:20:48
people while you cutting back. You don't even know 10 years to
1:20:51
be on on the county and still walk around and drive in the
1:20:54
bands. How about 3 or 4?
1:20:56
Years. But wait, wait, they changed
1:20:59
that law too because they you could drive.
1:21:02
No, they they used to say that if you had a certain kind of
1:21:05
car, you needed to sell your car in order to get on the county.
1:21:08
No, they can't even look at your car and what kind of car you
1:21:11
drive. No more.
1:21:14
Yeah, no, no, you can't. Well, first of all, Section 8
1:21:21
and and food stamps account that's all separate.
1:21:24
Those are all separate programs and you're allowed to stack
1:21:29
those programs on top of each other.
1:21:31
You don't have to just get 11 program.
1:21:34
You're allowed to get those are considered government contracts,
1:21:39
so. I'm a, I'm a 100 like because
1:21:42
I'm an independent worker. I mean, I'm a oh, hold on, I'm
1:21:46
independent. Can you see me?
1:21:49
Hold on put. Put you put bear as an
1:21:52
independent your service dog or you need help, you're going to.
1:22:00
What you got to do is you got to take pictures of them.
1:22:02
We got we going to take, we going to take a commercial.
1:22:04
She went, she went off camera. She probably lost her signal
1:22:07
real quick. Again, thanks for listening.
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1:22:22
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You got to be able to talk, talk about those things.
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And then we got to talk from those things, right?
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And when you can free your mind and tell the truth about where
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languages are trapped. So if you want support, if you
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All right, so let's get back to the conversation.
1:28:42
We're going to wrap it up. We got about a couple more
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minutes. All right, How you doing?
1:28:45
Miss K, how are you doing? Miss Howard, how are you?
1:28:48
Hey, so I did want to get into more of the business part.
1:28:52
I'm sorry I got into the mental part and everything.
1:28:57
I just wanted you know you're not alone.
1:29:03
Yeah, your your signal is it's a little choppy where you are
1:29:06
right now. Let me see.
1:29:07
Or about, you know, not giving up, especially in this economy.
1:29:13
So hold on. Yeah, your signal.
1:29:17
There it is. Can you see me?
1:29:18
Yeah, that's better. Yeah, We can hear you.
1:29:23
I can hear you. I can see you.
1:29:26
Can you see me? Yes.
1:29:28
OK, I can hear you now. OK.
1:29:31
So yeah, just touch on your business.
1:29:32
What do you want to say about about your logistics Business
1:29:37
Today? OK, so I do want to share that,
1:29:41
you know, I do more than just logistics.
1:29:43
So I have my K freight logistics, which me and my
1:29:45
spouse, we decided to go into a partnership.
1:29:47
He's been driving trucks for 20 years.
1:29:50
And so I had already got my broker's license in 2021, but
1:29:55
now I'm going for my A license so we can work together as a
1:29:58
team to get out on the road. Prior to that I did have my
1:30:02
credit consulting office, which I credit consulting business,
1:30:05
which I still do for the important people or for the
1:30:08
people that are serious about the credit.
1:30:10
And I got hot dog queen LA it's on pause, but it's still going
1:30:15
to elevate because I did make a brand.
1:30:17
So if you guys want to follow me three places y'all can follow
1:30:20
me. You can follow me on Hot dog
1:30:23
Queen LA how it's spelled or Kays KAYS Freight logistics.
1:30:33
And then also too, I have I am credit girl plus, so I do
1:30:39
multiple things. I let people know you can be
1:30:41
great in everything you do. So don't feel like, oh, you got
1:30:45
this business going on because once again, we live in an
1:30:48
economy. You have to have multi, you have
1:30:50
to have a lot of streams of income.
1:30:52
It's not like back in the days when it was just something to
1:30:56
do. Now it's a requirement to have a
1:30:59
business on the side, so that's where I'm at.
1:31:03
Appreciate that, appreciate that, appreciate that.
1:31:06
Let me bring up Big Dre. Anything you want to say before
1:31:10
we get out of here, Big Dre? I'm still beautiful, you know,
1:31:18
the incredible things with this young lady and Beyoncé.
1:31:21
We met her on Crenshaw making a famous hot dog with this cargo
1:31:25
dog and tacos and everything else and.
1:31:28
Y'all about that food? Yeah.
1:31:39
Because wifey was doing the hot dog dance after she was in the
1:31:43
middle of the. Street when you chasing
1:31:54
yourself, you're going to be feeding too.
1:31:56
But like New Jack City, you know what's going to happen, so get
1:32:00
ready. For it, it's really good.
1:32:05
And then you and and then then I got this ingredients that nobody
1:32:09
know about. It's called love.
1:32:11
Love. Love ingredients?
1:32:15
You can't get it in no store. You in love, when you put that
1:32:19
love in it, you taste it. You be like, yeah, I'm in love.
1:32:24
That's exactly what I'm. Saying too what I want to tell
1:32:27
you. I do want to give a shout out to
1:32:30
my girl. She's about to get her
1:32:32
doctorate, you know, at the university and operate.
1:32:36
I'll get you graduate 1111 learn 11 learn and she going to be
1:32:40
graduating so in April getting that doctorate.
1:32:43
So I'm I'm proud of her and I'll be out of my honorary course,
1:32:47
but we we we shot we we we very impressed with the things she
1:32:50
doing, the trucking and the development she doing with the
1:32:53
apartments and stuff. But she want to talk to UK about
1:32:56
some stuff when y'all get a chance to talk off the thing, of
1:32:59
course, and I'm sure one day we want to get the money up
1:33:01
together. We end up owning one of those on
1:33:03
Spanish eye basketball team 18 what we.
1:33:06
Look. We look around, so that's
1:33:09
something to happen. Thank you again.
1:33:11
I must. Say, I must say, say
1:33:13
congratulations, because at the end of the day, you know, like
1:33:16
when you believe in yourself, you can do anything, anything.
1:33:21
Anything. If I in a minute, I'm about to
1:33:25
be the president, Keep. Playing with me keep.
1:33:29
Playing right, please. I'll be the first dude.
1:33:31
I'll be the second dude, right. Paint that White House the
1:33:35
burgundy and green. Right, because I'm trying to
1:33:38
figure out what Donald, I'm trying to figure out what Donald
1:33:40
Trump doing. Let me not talk.
1:33:42
To teach 'cause he he's getting his feelings to try to
1:33:45
disconnect us all off the social media.
1:33:46
So. You need to call cautious.
1:33:48
Well, I think I think he's going to do it secretly, but you have
1:33:51
why you do a secret number 1800 hot dog Queen.
1:33:54
You just sitting about sitting of dogs and I agree with.
1:33:57
From the hood. Yeah, don't wait.
1:34:00
So we're going to do thank you ma'am from always, you know, a
1:34:03
good man and have fun in Vegas. Hope we connect next week in
1:34:06
Vegas. Yeah, well, I'll talk to you
1:34:09
offline to see how long when you going to get there, how long I
1:34:11
can extend my stay. Exactly.
1:34:15
So we we'll probably put it on Friday the way in this Friday
1:34:18
did a big Friday, Friday night at Mandalay Bay, so.
1:34:21
Oh, Friday. Oh, that's Friday night, huh?
1:34:22
Oh, that might. The way in yeah, on the on the
1:34:26
18th, then 19th, the Fight Night.
1:34:28
So oh. So OK.
1:34:30
You'll probably see more fights in the fight in the in the
1:34:32
audience because I think half of Americans are going to be scared
1:34:35
to go because of what's going on immigration right now.
1:34:37
They had oh in the park in the form last night.
1:34:40
Ice was no ice was in the form, Yeah.
1:34:44
There was a form parking lot assembly and boy they was like
1:34:47
man, wait, I have. A question Hey hey hey are y'all
1:34:51
going to Clarissa fight? No, Chris Chrisa fights on
1:34:55
somewhere else in the on the 27th we just said Manny Pacquiao
1:34:59
he come out retirement to fight for the belt.
1:35:01
No, but would you go to would you go to her fight?
1:35:04
Would you go to her? Fight I'm trying I'm trying to
1:35:06
chat to her if I want I want to say it's a part of the movie I
1:35:09
want to play is a is a fighter in this movie about her life?
1:35:12
Was she the boxer but she turned into an assassin assassin movie.
1:35:16
So I'm retired. I'll be right the script right
1:35:19
now. Wait wait wait.
1:35:21
Well I'm actually too wifey. Would you go and you 2 hosts,
1:35:24
would you go for a fight to see her get beat up or would you
1:35:27
want to see her win? Once you win, I like what you
1:35:30
talk. Crap.
1:35:30
When, of course. When of course.
1:35:32
No some people because she has haters because of the situation.
1:35:36
I don't really know her so. So basically she she's not the
1:35:41
side piece of Papoose, but you know, when Remy and Papoose had
1:35:45
the black love, so a lot of people are hating on that
1:35:47
because they believed in that. And then so when everything
1:35:50
wasn't working out, you know, Clever said came out with
1:35:53
Papoose. So now they're not feeling her
1:35:55
because of that. Yeah, they they, they want,
1:35:58
Yeah, they want to. They want, they want to put the
1:35:59
Marine together. She even challenged her to
1:36:01
fight, too. Oh wow.
1:36:03
Exactly. I don't, I don't follow the
1:36:05
fights, but I'd like to see that.
1:36:07
And guess what, that would be an interesting one.
1:36:12
But the y'all don't know it's the box.
1:36:16
No one knows that. And she got hands.
1:36:20
Who's? That Who's the box?
1:36:23
So that's The funny thing about it was so The thing is that
1:36:26
that's what she said. She liked the box, she's she
1:36:29
liked the fight and everything like that.
1:36:30
But. Speed kills.
1:36:39
Oh, I'm sorry. We're taking up your time.
1:36:41
Sorry. No, no, you froze so we can't
1:36:43
hear you. I got my chicken finger I'm
1:36:45
about to get off. No, no chicken fingers on here,
1:36:48
but thank you. Yeah, we, we love, I love see
1:36:50
that kind of fight. But the next fight I'm trying to
1:36:53
get more tickets for. It's a big one in September.
1:36:56
We can change Crawford against Carmelo Alvarez.
1:36:58
That's the one we're going to go to.
1:37:00
They said tickets are not really selling well because all all the
1:37:02
Nitinos are really scared to go out because they're ice.
1:37:06
Well, yeah, that's that's going to change.
1:37:07
That's going to change the whole game right now, Yeah, because
1:37:10
because this fight. Saturday is a Latino is fighting
1:37:13
a Filipino all all the Filipino American companies see Manny
1:37:16
Pacquiao and a Latino is going to see Barrel.
1:37:19
But probably anybody's scared because what's going on in
1:37:21
Paris, you know, so the chicken stuff might affect them.
1:37:24
So I just say to all about Latino brothers and sisters who
1:37:28
are out there trying to fight the fight, just keep me honest
1:37:31
about yourself and put God first.
1:37:32
And if you meant to be here, you and God plan.
1:37:34
You're going to be here no matter what.
1:37:36
Just get your paperwork together.
1:37:37
That's. All just get your paperwork
1:37:39
together. Come on now.
1:37:40
Come on now, that's. It stop running and get your
1:37:42
paperwork together. Come on, you've been here
1:37:45
forever. 15 years, 10 years, five years work.
1:37:47
Just get your paperwork together.
1:37:49
That's it. And I know a lot of lawyers are
1:37:52
doing pro bono too right now, a lot of more.
1:37:55
So we thought it for free. Come on, let's go.
1:37:57
Everybody run. Get that documentation together,
1:38:00
man. If I run.
1:38:02
All right, I appreciate everybody.
1:38:04
Nice meeting you, Miss Cave. Thank you for sharing.
1:38:06
From a mother's perspective, from a business woman's
1:38:08
perspective, it's all it's all accepted here.
1:38:10
So thank you so much for the love of dogs right there.
1:38:16
Ladies and gentlemen, that's our campaign.
1:38:18
This. Date night for us, we missed day
1:38:21
that last night, so we're going through.
1:38:26
You guys enjoy each other OK and keep living.
1:38:30
Always enjoy. We have to have a double date
1:38:33
y'all? Yeah, my other half, he's in the
1:38:35
truck right now. He just dropped the dog off
1:38:37
because he they went to work together.
1:38:41
So no, Yes, let me know. Other than that, you guys all
1:38:45
been amazing. I appreciate.
1:38:47
Thank you for your time. Thank you.
1:38:49
Thank you. Definitely.
1:38:51
All right. God bless you.
1:38:51
Bye, bye guys. Much love.
1:38:53
Bye, happy holiday, bye. Bye, bye.
1:38:57
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