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Memory Care Social Media · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American Mamas. Dear Mamas, have
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  Speaker 1: you noticed memory care facilities doing social media these days?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American Mamas.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now are American Mamas, Terry Nedeville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burleson. I haven't necessarily noticed this, but is this
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  Speaker 1: part of a marketing campaign for these memory care facilities?
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  Speaker 3: I think it started as a marketing campaign, but other
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  Speaker 3: memory care facilities are now kind of doing the same thing.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: So it's kind of a cool trend. You see these
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  Speaker 3: elderly people in memory care facilities. They hold a sign,
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  Speaker 3: and on the front of the sign, it says, I
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  Speaker 3: once was. And then they turn it over, and you
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  Speaker 3: see what they were when they were younger.
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  Speaker 2: I have seen this.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And it's like an attorney, a mayor, a ballerina, a teacher.
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  Speaker 3: You see all these things in your mood. But the
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  Speaker 3: other day I watched one and I was shocked because
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  Speaker 3: it was a memory care facility and they looked like
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  Speaker 3: they were not that much older than me. So it
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  Speaker 3: looked like late 60s and 70s. And this one man,
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  Speaker 3: he had to have help turning it over like he
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  Speaker 3: didn't even know to turn it over. And he was
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  Speaker 3: a doctor and an attorney. And another lady was a mayor.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh, my gosh. For that second, I
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  Speaker 3: felt scared that I'm getting to that age and thinking
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to be there.
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  Speaker 4: It was weird.
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  Speaker 3: When they're 80 and 90, you're thinking, oh, how sweet. Oh,
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  Speaker 3: look what they were. But for some reason, seeing this
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  Speaker 3: younger group do it, that fear just came over me. Like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: my God, that seems.
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  Speaker 4: Way too young.
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  Speaker 1: My grandmother was in a memory care facility. She had dementia.
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  Speaker 1: But before that, she was a lawyer, and she worked
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  Speaker 1: in the Texas State Capitol. And her job was anybody
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  Speaker 1: that was writing a proposal, a bill, had to take
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  Speaker 1: the bill to her, and she would look at it
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  Speaker 1: and say, this is constitutional or this is not constitutional,
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  Speaker 1: or you need to change this to make this.
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  Speaker 2: So every proposed bill.
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  Speaker 1: In the 1970s and 1980s, I went through the Texas
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  Speaker 1: state law. My grandmother looked at it and said, this
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  Speaker 1: will pass muster, this won't pass muster. That was her job.
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  Speaker 1: And she ended up in a memory care facility where, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: there were days she didn't really remember who I was.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. You know, I've said this before. Whenever I go
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  Speaker 4: to a funeral of somebody that's elderly that passed away,
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  Speaker 4: And you hear all the things that they accomplished and
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  Speaker 4: did and set out to do and they attained their goals.
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  Speaker 4: And I'm thinking, my gosh, I wish I had known
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  Speaker 4: this when they were alive. You know, just because I
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  Speaker 4: would love to talk to them about it. But when
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  Speaker 4: you see these people, like when our grandfather, when our
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  Speaker 4: papa was in one of those facilities, you go down
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  Speaker 4: the hall, it's kind of scary because, you know, you
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  Speaker 4: have these old people that are out in the hallway
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  Speaker 4: and some of them are screaming. And to think that...
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  Speaker 4: To think that these people once were the final say,
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  Speaker 4: whether it was a doctor.
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  Speaker 2: They were the authority wherever they were.
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  Speaker 4: Wherever they were. Yeah. And now they're not being treated
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  Speaker 4: sometimes like the meaningful... humans that they really are they're
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  Speaker 4: left behind.
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  Speaker 1: A little bit and that's one of the things i
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  Speaker 1: have liked about the videos i've seen of of these
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  Speaker 1: women of these men and women flipping over the cards
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  Speaker 1: saying what they were is i do think that is
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  Speaker 1: a nice way for the memory care facility to kind
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  Speaker 1: of honor who they were i love it it also
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  Speaker 1: makes me have more respect for nancy reagan every time
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  Speaker 1: i think about this because ronald reagan was the most
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  Speaker 1: powerful man on the planet And I read a biography
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  Speaker 1: about Ronald Reagan, and in his later years, Edwin Meese
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  Speaker 1: and another Secretary of State came to his house. And
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  Speaker 1: Reagan had no idea who these men were. All he
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  Speaker 1: knew was that these were powerful and great men, and
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  Speaker 1: he could not figure out why they wanted to come
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  Speaker 1: see him. Oh, wow.
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  Speaker 2: Ronald Reagan, right, had no idea why these other men
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  Speaker 2: that had served under him in his administration, had any
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  Speaker 2: desire to come see him. He didn't remember who he was.
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  Speaker 4: And you know what Nancy did that was so great?
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  Speaker 4: Our mom did the same thing. She maintained his dignity.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Because the American public didn't see that right there.
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  Speaker 4: That's right. She was so protective over him, and she
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  Speaker 4: loved him so much, she wasn't going to allow people
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  Speaker 4: to see the weaker side because she knew that the
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  Speaker 4: real him inside of that body, the spirit of him,
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  Speaker 4: would be embarrassed. And that would be... not degrading, but
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  Speaker 4: it wouldn't serve his dignity.
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  Speaker 1: It's a little emasculating in some ways. Yeah. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: it can be.
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  Speaker 4: But I love going back to the funerals to know
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  Speaker 4: what people did and how they lived. It does make
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  Speaker 4: you kind of look at our elderly that are here differently.
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  Speaker 4: You're like, well, they did big things too.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 4: They clearly had a life, whether it was raising their
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  Speaker 4: children and their grandchildren and Whatever it was, everybody has
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  Speaker 4: a purpose on this earth and we need to treat
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  Speaker 4: them accordingly no matter how old they are. They need
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  Speaker 4: to be revered. And other cultures do that.
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  Speaker 1: And again, it comes back to Reagan. If you want
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  Speaker 1: to know who we are, you have to know what
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  Speaker 1: we did. And who we are is not necessarily the
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  Speaker 1: patients in the mental care, the memory care facility. It's
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  Speaker 1: the lifetime of collected activity.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Love that. If you'd like to ask our American Mamas
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  Speaker 1: click on the Ask the Mamas button. Terry Netto, Kimberly Burleson,
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  Speaker 1: thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you.