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109. Chasing Certs vs. Building Belief-What Gets You To Flight · The Shift Podcast

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Welcome to Frontline Static. We will get to hear interviews
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with some of my clients journeys of getting into flight and how
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they utilize coaching to help them create success of getting
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hired with less confusion and more ease.
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Make your dream a reality of getting into flight.
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Listen in as you hear some of the stories of the people
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getting there and come join the flight prep group.
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You guys. Welcome to this Instagram live.
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I'm going to do something a little bit different than I have
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never done before is I am coming live to you on Instagram with my
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latest podcast episode. So I thought it would be fun to,
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instead of just in my office recording my podcast for you
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guys to bring it on the live so that you guys could watch it and
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be a part of it as I'm doing the episode.
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So you guys are gonna get a front row seat to my podcast
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this week and it's not gonna drop until Thursday.
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So I titled this next podcast episode of Frontline Static
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episode 109, Feeling your way to Flight.
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I want to help you guys work on getting to flight without
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believing that you need to take all of these actions.
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Meaning I see a lot of people hustle and overwork and then
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once they get an offer and they get into flight nursing, then
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they burn out, they get overwhelmed, they spin and they
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end up leaving the position ahead of time.
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So this I'm going to show you what this looks like as far as
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how I see people actioning their way to get to flight and taking
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all these unnecessary actions. And then I'm going to talk to
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you about believing and feeling your way to flight and then give
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you some solutions on how you grow this belief in yourself.
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If you don't believe that you're a flight nurse, companies won't
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either. Meaning when you sit in that
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helicopter seat or when you do ride alongs or when you sit for
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interviews. If you don't believe it, then
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flight companies won't either. That's why this belief piece is
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so important. The way that I see people doing
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this is they're chasing the way that they think they're going to
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feel in the end. So, for example, a lot of people
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want to get into flight because they think after they become a
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flight nurse or after they become a flight medic, then
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they're going to feel proud or they're going to feel
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accomplished. And so they chase that feeling
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similar to people who are trying to lose a bunch of weight.
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They think they're going to feel different at the end of losing
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that weight. The key to this and getting to
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this goal of flight and any goal that you're trying is to take
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that feeling that you think you're gonna feel once you get
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there and start feeling it now. So, for example, if you think
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that getting to flight nursing is gonna have you feel proud,
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you want to start generating pride now.
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And so I'm gonna show you what this kind of looks like as
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people are taking actions and what it's gonna look like if you
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feel your way to flight and believe your way to flight.
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So a common thing that I see people chasing who want to get
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into flight nursing is chasing all of these certifications, all
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of these courses. And they're getting external
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validation. Meaning they think if they take
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the certs or they take these trauma courses that they're
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going to feel more ready or that they're going to feel like they
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have enough time and experience or they're going to feel enough.
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And they're getting a small dopamine hit from every cert
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that they take, every course that they take, every next big
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thing that they take. And everybody knows people like
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this who want all the letters behind their name and continue
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to chase certifications. But here's the thing about
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external validation and trying to action your way into feeling
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enough is that there is not enough certs, not enough
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departments that you can work to start to feel ready or feel
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enough. And the way that I see this is I
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have a lot of nurses and paramedics that come to me that
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have been in these critical care jobs for 15 or 20 years and they
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still don't feel ready. And that is simply because
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they've been chasing all of these courses, sorts,
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departments of things to have themselves feel ready and trying
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to get external validation from it instead of creating internal
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validation and internal belief for this goal.
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When you fear that it's going to go away, when you fear that it's
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not possible for you and you don't have control over it,
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that's where I see people going out and doing more and
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continuing to fuel it with things.
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So we need to give ourselves evidence outside of external
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factors that we can create the success and belief in ourselves
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and not by going to get more certifications or taking more
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courses or working more departments.
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Because like I said, when I work with people who've been doing
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this 1520 years, they still don't feel ready.
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Another common error that I see people making who are trying to
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get to flight is they fear the disapproval of others.
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Meaning I have a lot of people who are trying to do this in
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secrecy. They don't want to tell people
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one, because they fear they're going to fail and then
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everybody's going to know 2. They fear what their friends and
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family are going to say and that they might disapprove of their
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decision. And when they tell me that, I
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know that's when they're trying to get external validation that
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I know that's when if someone says something negative, then it
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highly effects them instead of internally deciding ahead of
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time how you want to feel about it.
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And so with with this, I, I just wanna offer that we can't
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control the way people think about us and the way people
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think about our goals. But I see so many people spend
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time around not telling anybody about it because they fear
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failure or they fear what their friends or family or close
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people are gonna say about them. But the reason behind this is
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because they just haven't dealt with the thoughts that people
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are are having within themselves, meaning that they're
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thinking some of these thoughts and they haven't worked through
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them yet. So when you fear it and you
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someone disapproves of you, it affects you because it's only a
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reflection of the thoughts that you've had that you haven't
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worked through. So for example, I hear a lot of
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people say, well, this doesn't, isn't good timing for you.
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And maybe if you haven't worked through the thought of like
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timing for you and your life and your circumstances, that when
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someone else close to you says that, then you're like, oh, then
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you silently agree with them. And so it's really important to
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create that internal validation for yourself of this goal and
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work through some of those thoughts so that you don't fear
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the disapproval of anyone else. Here's the difference.
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When you get internal validation, meaning you generate
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your own confidence based on yourself and not based on the
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the certs or the courses or other people, then it doesn't
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really matter what other people are saying because you know for
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yourself why it's a good fit for you.
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OK, so one other thing that I want to offer with this approval
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piece is that getting people to approve of you, people pleasing,
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is always gonna keep you from major growth because what you do
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or what you don't do is going to be fueled by other people's
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thoughts of you. And what matters the most,
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especially in flight as you're making the really tough critical
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decisions, is what you think of you and that you have your own
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back. So this is common ways that I
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see people getting external validation and actioning their
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way to flight. Now I'm going to give you the
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solutions in this episode of how to get internal validation, how
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to feel and believe your way to flight.
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Because the key isn't taking a bunch of actions.
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The key is to working on that mindset and that belief and
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really being able to believe that you're a flight nurse
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before you even get there. And you want to work on this
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belief As soon as nursing school, I saw someone comment
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that they're a nursing school. This is the time that you want
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to grow that belief. And people ask me when should I
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start working towards flight. And a common misconception is
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people start working towards it at their three-year mark.
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When you want to work, start working towards flight is when
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you know that you want flight. So if it's before nursing
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school, if it's during nursing school, whenever it is that you
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know, that's when you want to work, start working towards it.
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And I really teach you what steps to be taking in the flight
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prep Academy to start working towards it.
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OK, so you guys ready? Let's talk about what you need
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to do to get internal validation for yourself and how to feel
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your way to flight and how to work on growing that belief of
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getting into flight nursing. OK, like I said at the
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beginning, we chase the feeling of how we're going to feel once
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we became a flight nurse or flight paramedic, meaning we
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think we're going to, it might be, we think we're going to feel
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proud, we think we're going to feel accomplished.
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We think we're going to feel confident.
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And the key to creating more belief in yourself is just
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deciding now that you are going to generate that feeling now.
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So if you know that you're going to feel proud, you want to
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generate feeling pride now and using this feeling to fuel you
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and every action that you're taking towards it.
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When you can start to become that flight nurse now who feels
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proud, that's how you grow the steady belief in yourself that
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is possible for you. That's why the people in my
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Flight Prep Academy are not only getting offers and getting
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offers in their first one to two interviews, but they're doing so
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well in orientation and coming off of orientation and 3rd
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writer quicker because they've already worked on growing that
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belief that they're a flight nurse and decided ahead of time
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how they wanted to feel and started generating that feeling
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now. So I'm going to teach you how
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many steps I have. I have 5-6 steps on how to do
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this, how to generate the feeling ahead of time, how to
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feel your way to flight, and how to create internal validation
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for getting there. So #1 decide ahead of time what
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is the feeling that you will feel once you arrive in flight
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nursing? Then work on generating this
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now. And so I talked about this a
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little bit already. So whether that feeling is
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proud, accomplished, confident, whatever you think it's going to
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be when you get that offer and you sign your paper to that
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company, what do you think is that feeling you're going to
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feel? That's the feeling that you want
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to start generating right now for yourself.
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And your question might be like, how do I do that?
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So for example, if it's proud, you want to start feeling pride
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now, Pride for everything that you've accomplished.
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Proud of how you're showing up every day, proud of the actions
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that you've decided to go towards this goal.
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Proud that you decided that you're even going to live out
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working towards this dream. Because lots of people quietly,
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quietly give up on their dreams. They decide that growth is not
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for them because they're comfortable where they're at,
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but they still have that little hint that's like, I'm feel
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unfulfilled. I'm feeling stuck at my job.
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I know I want something more. So feeling proud now #2 this is
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a big one, you guys. And this is sometimes really
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hard for me to do. And I really encourage all the
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people that I work with and for myself to live in gratitude and
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allow celebrations. So #2 is allow celebrations,
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seek out what to celebrate, and allow celebrations for the wins,
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whether they're little wins or big wins.
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See every single win, the win allows.
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There's two reasons for this. One, it puts you into deep
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gratitude of like where you've gone and where and where you are
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going. I, the way that I see people not
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do this is in nursing school, for example, I think we're such
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a clean slate. We're, we're willing to learn
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anything. We're like, we don't know
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anything. Let's, let's just learn and take
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in and get criticism and just learn how to do this job.
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And then somewhere around the 34610 year mark, we start to
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feel entitled. We start to think, Oh, well, we
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should know this by now. Or, or it's like either we
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should know this or I'm not good enough because I don't know
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this, or we're like, why are those people criticizing me?
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We have to allow ourselves to be a clean slate.
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And in doing that is allowing celebrations, allowing ourselves
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to say, oh, wait, look at how far I've gone from nursing
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school. I was this little tiny new grad
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nurse who turned into this critical care nurse who can take
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any patient on or have any code and feel really confident about
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it. I think we forget to realize
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like how far we've come and celebrate all of the wins.
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So that's the one reason why you want to celebrate is because you
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want to recognize how far you've come.
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And then the second reason why celebrations are so important is
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because you want to see what's been working for you.
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When you celebrate, you can be like, oh, you know what's really
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been working for me as I'm a really good critical thinker.
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I'm able to make the decisions in the high pressurized moments.
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I'm able to work really well with anybody no matter what
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their personality is. And so when you can celebrate
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those little things, you'll find out what your strengths are.
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And those strengths will create momentum to keep doing what is
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working. And when you keep doing what is
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working, that will help you take the correct steps to get into
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flight. When you allow celebrations and
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you know what's working, then you can continue on with the
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things that are working and then make them a little bit better as
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you evaluate versus if you don't celebrate, then you might start
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doing something totally different and not continue to do
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what's working. So #2 is allow celebrations and,
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and seek out those small wins and be able to recognize them #3
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in generating internal validation and feeling your way
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to flight and working on your belief.
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Is what is telling yourself that what you want is work worth the
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risk even if you fail? And the way that I see this for
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a lot of people is they're like, I don't know if I want to go to
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flight nursing because I don't want to fail.
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I don't want to tell people about it because I don't want to
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fail. And here's the thing about
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failure. My last week's episode was on
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the value and failure and finding all of the value in it.
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I think about this for myself a lot because I think this is what
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stops a lot of people from going for big things.
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And I've been like trying to evaluate like what always has me
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shoot for big goals and always go for them.
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And it's and of course, like the thought is always going to be
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there of what if I fail? But I try to steer my brain the
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other direction and say, but what if I succeed?
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And if I don't succeed, if I don't, if I don't get there, if
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I do fail. And the big goals that I create
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for myself, I like the version of me that always tries, then
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the version of me that subtly gives up and pulls back and
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wonders what if. I like the version of me that
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even if I fail at the thing that I'm going at, that I'm doing it
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Because what's going to be even harder for me is to not try at
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all. And I don't know if you guys
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feel similar to this, but I just know that at night when I lay my
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head on the pillow, I always like the version of me that went
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for it, even if I didn't get it that day.
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And what I also know about myself is if I keep at it, if I
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keep wanting this, if I keep trying, even if I keep failing
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that I eventually will figure it out and I will get there.
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So #3 is what you want is worth the risk even if you fail number
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40. And something that I want to go
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back and say with #3 is it's actually not about getting to
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flight. See, people think when they get
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to flight that they're going to feel so much different.
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But you don't feel any different.
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You're still the same person. You still have 50% of the good
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things and 50% of the bad things.
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But what it's about in getting to flight nursing is the person
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that you become in the journey. It's about what you figure out
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about yourself, your resilience, your grit, your strength, your
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willingness to keep at something.
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That's what you find out. And then the growth happens
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after you get into flight because you've taken all of
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those failures, all of those lessons, and they've made you
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stronger. To be able to be the flight
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nurse who's going to fly into these critical situations, make
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the hard decisions, and be able to have your own back and your
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team's back in every situation. So that's why becoming who
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you're going to be come in this journey of going for something
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is so important, OK #4 in, in feeling your way to flight and
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working on growing your belief is separating your identity from
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your job. OK, I'm going to be honest with
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you guys. This is something I have had a
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hard time in myself. The number one question that I
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fear people asking me sometimes who don't work in Healthcare is
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what? What are your hobbies?
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What do you like to do outside of the work?
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Because my work has always been so closely tied to my identity,
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meaning I've tried to find joy from my job.
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Or when I had a rough shift or I didn't like my job for that day
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or that month or that shift or whatever, then I felt bad about
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myself. And that's what I mean by
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separating yourself from separating your identity from
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your job. We cannot continue to rely on
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our jobs to make us feel better. We have to generate the feeling
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for ourselves and separate our identity a little bit from it.
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This is how burnout is created. When we put so much of who we
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are and our identity into our jobs and when things aren't
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going well, then we allow ourselves to not feel good.
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And so being self, self motivating yourself, generating
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who you are and your identity outside of your job is going to
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require you to tap into your why.
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Why do you want to be a nurse? Why do you want to be a flight
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nurse? Why do you want this level of
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growth? And then also why do you desire
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it? Your desire and your why has to
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be stronger than the other people's voices because as long
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as you hold on to that desire, as long as you hold on to that
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why, that's how you're going to be able to separate yourself
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from your job and be able to be empowered by making decisions
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and generating confidence not based on what's happening at
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work that day or how well your shift is.
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This will also create possibility and momentum for
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you. My hunch is that that your job,
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like myself, has always created that external validation for
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you, meaning that if things were going well or if you did a
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really good job, then you allowed yourself to feel
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confident. And when things weren't and you
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were shutting yourself and you're like, I don't know
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enough, then you allowed yourself to have doubt.
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And it's in these moments that it you realize it becomes
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exhausting to use your job as that thing that fuels the way
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that you feel. So you to be self motivated is
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going to require you to tap into your desire, your why you're
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doing this and and to always be able to generate the way that
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you want to feel pride, belief in yourself, confidence outside
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of your work. And that's going to just be
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practicing these little belief, this belief work and the
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mindset. This also, I think like
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separating yourself from work requires you to think about what
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you enjoy doing outside of the job and really taking time to,
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one, take care of yourself. And this is what will help
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prevent burnout. And two, I see a lot of
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healthcare workers really go into people pleasing where it's
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like, I will, I'm so used to doing for other people at work,
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then outside of work, then they, they start doing for other
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people. And so really getting out of the
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people pleasing is starting to take care of yourself, your
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wants, your needs, finding joy again, having a little bit more
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fun in your life. This will help you separate your
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identity from your job. And I know that's really hard
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for some of us, but really think about like, what brings you joy,
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have fun and start creating that possibility.
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Because as a flight nurse, shifts are long, 24 hours is a
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long time. And one of the things that I
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really struggled with a lot was, you know, you go to your 12 hour
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shifts in the hospital and although it's a long day, it is
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a little bit easier than going to your 24 hour shift and then
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coming home and then really getting getting from me into mom
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mode and wife mode and all of those and house mode.
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And so the more that you practice this now, the better
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you'll be able to separate your work and your identity and your
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job because that's going to be required of you as a flight
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nurse. You cannot take home the things
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that you're doing and seeing at work.
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You're going to have to be able to process some of those
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emotions so that you can be the very best at work and you can be
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the very best at home. And the big part of this, and we
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talked about this yesterday in the Flight Prep Academy group
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session, week session, is putting our oxygen mask on 1st.
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And we forget to do this because we spend so much time taking
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care of people inside our jobs that we come home and we think,
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oh, we got to take care of our kids, we got to take care of our
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spouse, We got to take care of our house.
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Would really it, those things should always start with taking
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care of you first. And then when you take care of
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you, then you have so much more to give to other people.
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So that's number four, separating your identity from
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your job and taking care of yourself, OK #5 in the feeling
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and working on this belief and getting into flight is
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recognizing and reframing your past.
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What I mean by this is that I see and work with so many people
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that are holding on to their past, meaning they regret
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certain things that they did or certain things that they didn't
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do, and that holding on is holding them back.
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Because holding on to the past is preventing you from future
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thinking of getting to where you want to go.
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That regret that you're feeling is helping you not recognize the
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strides that you've taken. So reframing your past might be
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like, for example, if you didn't get that job, might be for
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example, hey, I didn't get that job.
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But in not getting it, it really taught me a lot about myself.
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It really taught me that I'm going to have to work a little
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bit harder in my belief in my confidence in putting myself out
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there and being scared and being bold at the same time.
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So that's kind of what reframing your past looks like and not
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living in regret. Those tools of reframing will
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help springboard you to the next thing, will help you not be so
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drugged down by the past, but be able to look into the future.
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In doing this, you want to tap into your desire of wanting
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more. Why do you want to be a flight
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nurse? Why do you want to get into
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flight? And also being willing to find
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what that answer is and know what that is OK 6.
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This is the last thing and building that belief and feeling
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your way to flight versus action in your way.
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You want to pull from the future, meaning you want to
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think about who is the future flight nurse that you are.
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What does she think about herself?
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What does she look like? What beliefs does she have about
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herself, he or she? And if this is a big thing, this
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is a big thing about pulling from the future.
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Whatever those beliefs are, whatever those thoughts are that
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you have about yourself, you want to start thinking those
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things about yourself now. If you think, oh, I'm going to
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be so much more confident or I'm going to be really strong in my
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decision making, you want to be confident now.
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You want to be strong in your decision making now.
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You want to become that flight nurse now and pull from him or
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her from the future. So these are some questions that
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will help you do that. The first question, if you knew
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that flight was inevitable, what would you start doing right now
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today? If you knew that flight nursing
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was inevitable for you, meaning that you were going to get there
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no matter what, like you had a magic wand that you could wave
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and you saw the future no matter how far away you were and you
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saw yourself getting there. If you knew that it was
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inevitable, what would you start doing right now?
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And I, my guess is it would be different than the actions that
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you're currently taking. And the second follow up
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question for that is, if you knew that flight was inevitable,
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meaning that you would get there no matter what, and you saw it
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already for yourself, what would you stop doing right now?
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And these are such great questions to really think about.
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And if you're listening right now, maybe pause this episode
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and think about those questions again.
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If you knew you flight was inevitable, what would you start
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doing right now? If you knew flight was
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inevitable, what would you stop doing right now?
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And those questions are going to be your answers of how you pull
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from the future and how you start working towards it right
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now. I want to offer you guys, I hope
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that this episode, how do you think differently?
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How do you maybe recognize some ways that you're trying to
26:52
action your way, hustle, overwork, get yourself an
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overwhelming confusion, and hopefully gave you a process and
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some options to start working on that belief, that mindset and
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feeling your way to flight. This is a work that I teach my
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students to do inside the Flight Prep Academy.
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This is the work right here that is cutting people's time in
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half, if not shorter, of getting there because they're cutting
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out all the fluff of taking all the actions and doing all of the
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things. If you know that flight nursing
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is what you want, come join us inside the Flight Prep Academy
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today. Again, I get asked ask a
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question, when should I join your flight prep Academy?
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I say as soon as you know that you want flight.
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That's when you want to start mapping out your plan, learning
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how to do ride alongs, and prepping confidently for
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interviews. I am going to mentor and support
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you the whole way. It's lifetime access because as
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soon as you join my program, every single person who joins, I
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am going to help you all the way into a flight offer no matter
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where you are starting. If you guys are online on the
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Live Today and you are interested in joining the flight
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prep Academy, you can just comment flight in the comments
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or you can DM me flight and you'll get a direct link on how
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to join us inside. And if anything today resonated
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with you or sparked your interest in getting mentorship
28:14
for a lifetime so that you can fulfill this goal of getting to
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flight and work on really growing that belief and feeling
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for yourself instead of taking a bunch of actions to get there,
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join us inside. That's it for this week.
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We will see you guys next time. Bye.
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Anything in the episode sparked your interest into getting into
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flight? Come join my flight flight
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group. We are an entire community that
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meets together on a weekly basis with an ongoing group chat.
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And if you are already flying and you are currently a flight
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nurse or flight medic, you can join my all Flight clinician
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group as well. You can click on the link to
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join in the show notes or you can DM me on Instagram.
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I hope to see all of you guys inside.