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Permission to Thrive - Hypnosis for Anxiety Relief & Resourceful Motherhood · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here now if you are a mother of a baby, a young
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  child, and you feel that sometimes you don't have the
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  right to do things for yourself and everything has to be about
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  your new child, you might connect with this hypnosis
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  session. I was working with a client who
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  had recently had a child. The child was under a year old,
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  but they really felt that they had an expectation or an
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  obligation to put their child before anything else.
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  And there is an element of utility to that thought.
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  I think most people feel that if you've got a very vulnerable
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  child and you're a capable adult, of course you have to put
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  the needs of the the child before your own needs.
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  But this wasn't the dynamic. The client I was working with
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  had additional resources. They had a nanny, but they felt
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  that they had to do it themselves, that they had to
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  physically be present in all the cases.
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  And that was a lot of guilt that they were carrying if they
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  weren't able to do that. And what it also?
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  Meant is that. Things that they would do that
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  would actually give them a lot of energy, like, you know,
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  looking after their well-being and looking after themselves,
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  they weren't allowed to do. And that word allow is really
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  important because this is all about permission.
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  And the client wasn't giving permission to themselves.
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  That's why the essence of this is about having permission to
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  thrive as a new mother. Because if you have this feeling
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  that you have to sacrifice yourself in order for the baby
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  to do well, then you can end up depleting your resources, which
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  in turn paradoxically means that you would be a worse mother than
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  if you. Really were.
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  Pouring from a full cup, you can't pour from an empty cup.
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  So this is really about finding the ideal balance of what's good
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  for the child, of what's good for the for the mother, and also
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  what's good for the wider family because they're able to get the
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  balance right. So if you're carrying a lot of
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  guilt or these unconscious rules about what's OK and not OK, this
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  session might help you really feel at an unconscious level
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  that you do have permission to be the kind of mother that gets
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  the balance right. Because what isn't good for
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  anyone is if there is a feeling of by doing what you're doing,
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  it can lead to resentment, it can lead to guilt, it can lead
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  to frustration, it can lead to annoyance and lots of other
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  emotions which aren't helpful. Whereas if you have permission
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  to really prioritize at some level your own needs alongside
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  the child, then that resentment goes away and that feeling of
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  tiredness and fatigue goes away because the balance is right.
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  So if you can connect with these ideas, you might get some value
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  from this session. The client I was working with
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  certainly did, but equally, some of the suggestions are going to
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  be very relevant to the client I was working with and might not
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  fit your circumstances. It might be that there is no
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  nanny, or there is no additional help that you can utilize to be
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  able to do this, in which case get the essence from this in
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  terms of finding a solution to ensure that there isn't that
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  resentment or there isn't that same level of fatigue.
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  And if you do want a bespoke session created just for your
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  needs, there will be a link in the description but also on my
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  website whichisadamcox.co.uk to book a completely free
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  consultation call to explore working with me.
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  For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in a
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  feeling of calm relaxation. And as you exhale, give
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  permission to yourself to release.
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  Release any frustration, any tension, any anger, any
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  resentment, even if it's just an echo.
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  And as you breathe in, breathe in a wonderful feeling of
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  resourceful relaxation, the kind of relaxation where things feel
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  like they're in flow. That's it.
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  Eyelids getting heavier, breathing even deeper, breathing
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  in that resource for relaxation. And as you exhale, feeling that
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  wonderful feeling of release, releasing old narratives, old
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  expectations, old labels, as you consider each breath like it's
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  charging up a battery or filling up a cup.
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  As you exhale, you release. And as you inhale, you absorb
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  all of the resources that help you feel like you're tuning in
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  to that frequency. You remember the one.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  And as your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  And I want you to recall a memory of a different time in
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  your life. I want you to imagine being
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  behind the wheel of that Mini Cooper.
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  So you imagine looking to your side, see that dog lying on the
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  beach towel in the blanket there on the passenger scene.
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  And I want you to breathe how you used to breathe back then,
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  relax your muscles and feel as relaxed as you did back then.
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  I want you to imagine that you, by accessing this memory of
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  finding and awakening that frequency.
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  That's it. Your inner dialogue back then
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  was not in fear of judgement, it was a line to possibility
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  abundance. Like you cracked a code.
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  And here's the thing, a code breaker knows how to break
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  codes. And if you cracked a code back
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  then, it's inevitable you will crack the code now.
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  So imagine driving around those streets, those freeways
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  connecting to that feeling of alignment.
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  And imagine driving to a beach, soft warm sands.
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  And just imagine you're now they're on the beach wearing
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  whatever clothing would feel comfortable and relaxing on that
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  beach. And just imagine a big blanket
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  there on the beach. And just imagine staying on the
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  blanket and drifting off into a state of indulgent relaxation.
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  Nothing to do, nowhere to be. Just connected to that
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  frequency, that feeling. That's it.
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  Enabling yourself to go deeper and deeper.
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  Relaxed. And I want you to notice that
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  when you find yourself in that place, that place where there's
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  nothing to do and nowhere to be, that it's easy to start thinking
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  of what's possible, not what's required.
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  Feel the warmth of the sun on your skin, but more importantly,
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  feel the frequency of gratitude and abundance.
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  That's it. I don't want you to think about
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  how you cracked that code. You didn't do it with maths,
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  with problem solving, didn't require huge amounts of effort.
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  You cracked the code back then through a wonderful feeling of
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  alignment, that your desires and values and standards and dreams
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  all felt aligned like an eclipse.
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  Everything seemed to synchronize back then.
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  Then you weren't chasing abundance, you were
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  synchronized. And it's the synchronization
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  that unlocked the synchronicities.
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  So notice how your body felt then, where the ease lived, how
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  energy moved freely instead of being rationed.
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  And as you settle into that state, your nervous system
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  recognizes it. I want you to think of something
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  you haven't done for years. Your brain still knows how to do
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  it. And if you did that thing even
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  once, you would awaken those neural pathways.
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  And as you reawaken the frequency of alignment,
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  abundance, gratitude, and possibility allow these neural
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  pathways to feel that they are returning again.
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  Is your default way of thinking. Any thought, any feeling you've
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  experienced once can return again.
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  I just notice how your body relaxes on that blanket on the
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  beach at that time in your life. Notice how you can breathe deep
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  without needing to force a deep breath.
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  Muscles that have been tense can just relax in your face, around
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  your jaw, arms and legs. Relaxing now and that part, that
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  part that's been afraid of being judged, just dial that all the
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  way down and instead turn up the dial on, let's call it
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  self-awareness. When you're aware of your needs,
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  when you're aware of your values, the more you connect to
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  that. The judgement of others is just
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  information rather than something that could be
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  considered coercive or controlling.
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  That's it. Connect to that feeling.
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  Feel a gentle warmth spread through your chest, or perhaps
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  subtle vibration through your body, a connection to what high
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  frequency actually feels like. Not manic, not rushed, but
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  clean, steady and abundant. And I'd like to speak directly
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  to the part of your body that sometimes experiences
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  discomfort. And not as an enemy, not as a
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  flaw. That part that tries to protect
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  you, that protective intelligence that learn to stay
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  too vigilant, aware of a facial expression or a sound.
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  I want you to get a feeling that you can acknowledge that part
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  and thank it for trying to help you and to keep you safe.
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  And sometimes pain, fatigue and tension are not punishments.
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  What if there's signals from a system that once believed that
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  it had to stay switched on all the time?
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  And maybe think of some treatments that you had that
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  changed, then helped your nervous system learn a new
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  pattern. This moment allows an even
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  deeper update. I want you to feel that right
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  now, your body is safe, that you are supported.
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  You don't need to be looking for danger or disapproval right now,
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  and therefore your energy no longer needs to hide behind
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  tension and vitality no longer needs permission from
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  exhaustion. And I want you to think of that,
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  friends. You know who lives freely.
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  I want you to get a sand. Then they have clear boundaries
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  and they don't believe that they have to be a martyr in order to
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  be a mother. I want you to imagine how they
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  move through life, how they make decisions.
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  It's not that they don't have consideration for their
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  children, it's just part of their considerations.
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  And intuitively or consciously, they know you can't pour from an
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  empty cup. That when your battery is fully
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  charged you have more energy to give.
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  When your cup is overflowing, you have more love to give, and
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  when you're in a state of flow, a frequency of abundance
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  resentment is hard to find. I want you to imagine what it
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  would feel like to fully embrace A belief that says I am allowed
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  to meet my needs. To feel that belief settle.
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  I'm allowed to feel good while being a mother.
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  Allow that seed to be planted. I am allowed to live life on my
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  terms. It's not selfish to ensure your
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  needs of Wellness and hygiene of energy are met because
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  motherhood does not require depletion.
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  It requires resourcefulness. And that feeling of
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  resourcefulness amplifies when the cup is full.
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  I want you to imagine encountering A profound
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  experience. Imagine floating up, way up from
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  the beach into the very center of the universe, perhaps
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  overlooking a huge black hole. And just imagine every star,
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  every nebula, every planet, and the entire universe is
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  communicating with you. Or maybe you imagine the
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  universe as a single entity, something powerful.
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  And imagine the universe saying you have permission to rest, to
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  receive, to be nourished, and to thrive.
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  And when you're willing to accept the permission that the
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  universe is giving to you, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And not intellectually accepted
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  emotionally, feel a sense of liberation or freedom.
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  That there is no higher permission than the universe
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  itself. And when you feel that, just
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  allow a phrase to start to echo inside you.
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  That there is always a way. Not as blind optimism, but as
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  live truth. You have found ways before.
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  You found alignment, you found freedom.
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  You cracked the code once, and that means the code still exists
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  within you. So as this.
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  Belief settles that there is always a way, anxiety loosens
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  its grip and fear no longer needs to shout to be heard, and
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  energy begins to rise naturally. Not forced and not stolen from
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  tomorrow, but generated from deep within.
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  And from that celestial perspective, imagine seeing your
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  future. See yourself as a mother who she
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  listens to. Her body responds early, not
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  after depletion. See someone that feels energized
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  more often than tired, and see someone that has rebuilt trust
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  with her nervous system. Someone that allows themselves
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  to experience joy without guilt. To be a mother without being a
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  martyr. And notice how your body looks
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  and feels in that future. Strong, capable, alive.
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  And if challenges do arise, which of course they will, see
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  that future version of you meeting them from a place of
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  resourcefulness, not fear and exhaustion.
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  Because in your future, which begins now, you are no longer
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  pouring from an empty cup. Your cup is overflowing, your
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  battery is fully charged and you are tuned into the frequency
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  where you cracked that code start to float down in the
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  centre of the universe, back into your body on that beach.
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  Imagine driving from that place all the way back to your
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  present, maintaining the same frequency, connecting with that
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  feeling and getting a sense that through conversations, actions
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  and alignment you are unlocking the resources and the courage to
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  hold the line to create a wonderful new self fulfilling
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  prophecy. And that future version of you
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  does not retreat because you know the more resources you
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  have, the better a mother you can be.
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  And everyone benefits when you are at your very best.
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  As you hold that thought, imagine returning to the here
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  and now. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now. As I now count from 1:00 to
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  10:00 to awaken you starting to count 123 waking up 456, more
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  alert 7-8 open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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