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Close Cousins · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: why are we not seeing cousins that feel more like
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  Speaker 1: sibling relationships anymore?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas. Mama, mama, mama. Mama
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  Speaker 2: told me not to come. She said that ain't the
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  Speaker 2: way to have fun, no.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now are American Mamas, Terry Nettleville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burleson. I am very close with one of my cousins.
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  Speaker 1: Very close with them. And I was actually just texting
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  Speaker 1: with them just a couple days ago. And there's several
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  Speaker 1: of my other cousins I'm not. My children know their cousin,
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  Speaker 1: but they have not really spent a sense of time
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  Speaker 1: with them. They aren't really close either. And I don't
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  Speaker 1: think that's unusual necessarily in this day and age.
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  Speaker 2: Is it?
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  Speaker 3: I think it's becoming rare, and I hate that. And
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  Speaker 3: I feel like cousins just don't decide that they don't
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  Speaker 3: love each other and want to be together. It's their
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  Speaker 3: parents stop creating an environment for those relationships to flourish.
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  Speaker 3: We just got back from our cousin trip. We go
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  Speaker 3: to the beach every single October with our cousins. And
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  Speaker 3: our memories, when we're together, we laugh because we share grandparents.
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  Speaker 3: We share aunts and uncles. But we've made palates. We
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  Speaker 3: begged our parents to stay one more night, just one
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  Speaker 3: more night. We went on vacations together. We built pine
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  Speaker 3: straw houses together. We have so many memories that I'm
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  Speaker 3: so grateful my parents prioritized their relationship with their siblings
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  Speaker 3: so that we grew up in that environment because we
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  Speaker 3: now are so just as close as we were as
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  Speaker 3: little ones. But now our children have become so close
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  Speaker 3: because we continue to pour into those relationships. And I
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  Speaker 3: don't think people are doing that as often. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so my son's fiance is very close with her cousins.
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  Speaker 1: He's actually closer to her cousins than he is to
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  Speaker 1: his own because, again, her mom and her aunt stay very,
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  Speaker 1: very close all the time, which is, again, really cool.
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  Speaker 1: But also, again, in this day and age, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: sure it's as common as it used to be.
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  Speaker 2: Well, this is what's so cool. If people can just
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  Speaker 2: really look into the future. So since our parents made
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  Speaker 2: sure that we were close with our cousins, And now
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  Speaker 2: we continue to be close with our cousins. Not only
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  Speaker 2: are our siblings' children all close together, but our cousins'
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  Speaker 2: children and our children are all close.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, wow.
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  Speaker 4: So we all, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, and like you said, some were closer than others. Right.
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  Speaker 4: Like there's some that live far away. We never see them.
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  Speaker 2: And, you know, maybe we didn't see them as much
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  Speaker 2: as we did the ones that kind of were located
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  Speaker 2: around in the same state or whatever.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: But it makes for so many special memories.
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  Speaker 2: And I wish so badly that people would recognize the
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  Speaker 2: beauty in familial friendships because those are so extra special.
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  Speaker 2: And there are statistics that say that these days, a
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  Speaker 2: lot of those cousin relationships are not as strong because
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  Speaker 2: maybe political reasons. Or there might be a falling out.
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  Speaker 2: Like if we have a falling out with our sibling,
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  Speaker 2: we know it's going to be fine the next day.
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  Speaker 2: We might say, okay, I don't like what you had
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  Speaker 2: to say or whatever. We get off the phone and
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  Speaker 2: we need a breather for a couple of days. It
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  Speaker 2: will never, ever come to the point where we don't
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  Speaker 2: love each other enough to come back together and just,
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  Speaker 2: you know, here, let's work this out. Right.
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  Speaker 4: Or let's just let that go. You feel the way
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  Speaker 4: you do about it. I feel the way I do.
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  Speaker 4: But we're going to get together for this holiday.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 2: You know?
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  Speaker 4: And so I think it's such a special thing.
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  Speaker 2: When I see reels on social media with the cousin
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  Speaker 2: times or the grandparents that have cousin camp, I mean
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  Speaker 2: grand camp and all the cousins come together, there's nothing better.
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  Speaker 2: I cannot think of anything better. Someone I had a conversation,
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  Speaker 2: my daughter and I had a conversation about, she said, Mom,
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  Speaker 2: I think that you wanting to stay home to help
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  Speaker 2: me with the baby is rare I was like I
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  Speaker 2: don't know she's no I think that it is I
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  Speaker 2: have a lot of friends that parents are like at
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  Speaker 2: this stage where they still they're still living they're still
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  Speaker 2: doing their thing yeah and she said but you for
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  Speaker 2: you family's everything and I said you know what summer
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  Speaker 2: family is everything for me I'm gonna do my part
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  Speaker 2: this is me this is who I am and I'm
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  Speaker 2: gonna have to do I will let everything else go
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  Speaker 2: by the wayside because these babies are gonna know me
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  Speaker 2: and know my love but I will say my parents
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  Speaker 2: were so young when we had children they were in
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  Speaker 2: their 40s right As much as they loved our children
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  Speaker 2: and they loved them with all of their hearts, they
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  Speaker 2: still were so young, they were doing their own things.
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  Speaker 4: Luckily, we had each other. Hey, Kimberly, can you keep
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  Speaker 4: my kid? Because mom and dad were gone. True. So
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  Speaker 4: it just depends on your dynamics. Well, and we had that.
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  Speaker 1: My parents were actually very good at that when we
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  Speaker 1: had our child, our kids, that if we needed them, hey,
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  Speaker 1: the kids are sick, come get them. And we lived
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  Speaker 1: several hours away from each other. We'll meet halfway in between,
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  Speaker 1: see you in an hour and a half, let's go.
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  Speaker 1: And we would do that. And that was very important too, but.
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  Speaker 1: There was also an age difference between my kids and
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  Speaker 1: my brother's kid. And I think that kind of affected
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  Speaker 1: that too.
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  Speaker 3: It will affect that for sure. I think start as
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  Speaker 3: a family, start a tradition. We started 4th of July
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  Speaker 3: because we had the foresight to see kids having kids.
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  Speaker 3: Let's keep this tradition going. I don't know if y'all know,
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  Speaker 3: but I'm going to be a grandmother. My kids just
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  Speaker 3: told us that they're having a baby. So we want
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  Speaker 3: to start a grandmother camp. So we will start a
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  Speaker 3: new tradition so that we can continue to build those
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  Speaker 3: cousin relationships.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that.
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  Speaker 1: And the 4th of July that you guys throw is
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  Speaker 1: absolutely amazing. What you've really done is you've created generational blessing.
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  Speaker 1: That's what you've really done.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I love that.
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  Speaker 1: If you'd like to ask our American Mamas a question,
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  Speaker 1: the Ask the Mamas button. Terry Netto, Kimberly Burleson, thank
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  Speaker 1: you so much.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you.