Latest / The Strength In Numbers Podcast / EP 47: Dave Nedbalek | Lessons from a First Season Leading a Program
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- 0:00We just want to be better at making the messes into something
- 0:03beautiful at the end and we hope that people succumb to the
- 0:06craziness. The players that had the ability
- 0:09to utilize skill at speed and make decisions.
- 0:13It's still the separator. That idea for me sparked into
- 0:16our our polar bear club, which is ice baths and ice cream.
- 0:19We do our culture talks. We've got our breakfast club in
- 0:22the morning, we have our captains council, we've got our,
- 0:25you know, post game WWE belt, our turn, our defensive player
- 0:29of the game chain. Like we've got cinder blocks
- 0:32painted with our logo for our Blue collar Boy awards.
- 0:34Like it's just, it's not magic. It's just consistent things
- 0:39applied to where they hear us talk about and emphasize things
- 0:42other than basketball and we just spend time together.
- 0:51Welcome to the Strength in Numbers podcast.
- 0:53I'm your host, John Loom. Today's guest is Dave Nedvalik.
- 0:56Dave returns after being one of our very first guests ever on
- 0:59the podcast. And that was one of my favorite
- 1:01episodes and you definitely should check it out and listen
- 1:04to it before this one if you haven't.
- 1:05At that time, Dave was actually in the middle of transitioning
- 1:09from being a Division One basketball assistant at Oral
- 1:12Roberts to becoming the head coach at Tyler Grace Community
- 1:15High School. Now in this talk, we're able to
- 1:17reflect on his first season, what went well, what didn't,
- 1:21where he to grow and he's really humble about it.
- 1:23But he did win Co district coach of the year, neither set or tied
- 1:27the school record for most wins in a season.
- 1:29So there's definitely some things we can learn from him in
- 1:32his first year. We also talked about the process
- 1:34and importance of building team connection, his takeaways from
- 1:37watching all the state tournament games this past week
- 1:40and his perspective on goals and approaching being both a coach
- 1:44and a dad. If you're getting value from
- 1:47these conversations, give the show a follow and leave a
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- 1:51and impact more coaches. Let's get into today's episode.
- 1:56Dave. It's awesome to get to have it
- 1:58on here for the second time. You know, if people haven't
- 2:02listened to our first episode, which is one of the the very
- 2:04first episodes of this podcast, she definitely go listen.
- 2:08That was that was an awesome, awesome talk with Dave here.
- 2:11I mean, go get his full bio. But real quick.
- 2:13We we work together. Oral Roberts, he was an
- 2:15assistant basketball coach there.
- 2:17Now he's at Tyler as the head coach in in the high school
- 2:21scene now out in East Texas. And you know that there's bio is
- 2:25kind of the same as when we tacked last time, but you got to
- 2:28add a couple things to there now because you got Co coach of the
- 2:31year in the district announced this week along with a pretty,
- 2:36pretty big time season with grace this year for your first
- 2:39year. Yeah.
- 2:39I mean, like I told a couple of my parents that I've talked to,
- 2:42I think anytime you see coach of the Year, it's automatically
- 2:45indicative that you got pretty good players and you got good
- 2:48staff around you. And so, you know, I would say
- 2:52I'm pretty bashful about this, but I am grateful that people
- 2:56have recognized what we're doing at Grace and recognize it enough
- 3:00that they wanted to throw some awards our way.
- 3:01I think we tied or broke the record for wins in a season in
- 3:05what I was told would be a down year.
- 3:07And so just a testament to our guys putting their head down and
- 3:10getting after it. It's awesome to see what you did
- 3:12this year and we we got to spend a lot of time together this last
- 3:16weekend. Friday inside out in Waco for
- 3:19state tournament. You know, you were there wanting
- 3:24to see where where you want to get the program to where you
- 3:27want grace to be eventually, right winning, winning
- 3:30championships and you got to watch a lot of basketball, some
- 3:33of it really, really good, some of it not as good at all at
- 3:37times. Like as you as you look at at
- 3:40those games, like what are your biggest takeaways from watching
- 3:44that? You know, first time I started
- 3:46like, like what do you take from seeing the, the teams that are
- 3:49winning it all and like what do you take to grace from that and
- 3:52what, what's going to be different from from what you saw
- 3:54there? Yeah, I think, you know, we were
- 3:56fortunate during our time at ORU that we were obviously a smaller
- 4:00school than most of the teams we played outside of conference,
- 4:04right? And so the thing that was the
- 4:06separator always for us was the skill.
- 4:08You know, we had guys that could dribble past shoot and make
- 4:11decisions at all 5 positions. And so I think you could clearly
- 4:15see that in the state tournament, it's obviously it's
- 4:18a microcosm of, of college basketball, but this, the
- 4:22players that had the ability to utilize skill at speed and make
- 4:26decisions, it's still the separator.
- 4:29It's obviously a little bit lessened.
- 4:31And so I think you noticed that the teams that had guys that
- 4:35could shoot or make decisions at all 5 spots were a lot more of a
- 4:39threat. Like I saw a tweet yesterday,
- 4:41I'm going to butcher it, but I think the idea is really good
- 4:44because like, if I want to get the same result over and over
- 4:47over, it's going to require a different constraint each time
- 4:50because the environments of athletics, it's constantly
- 4:54changing. So even if I want the same
- 4:55result, it's not the same tool to execute it.
- 4:58And so like, I think a great example is Reese Austin, who,
- 5:02you know, at first I had kind of built up in my mind of, you
- 5:06know, here's this this stud player and he's nationally
- 5:09ranked. And when I worked first watched
- 5:10him, I was kind of unimpressed the first time.
- 5:13And then after I left that second game, I was like, no, I
- 5:15get it. Like he's got the ball in a
- 5:17string, he can get anywhere he wants on the court at any given
- 5:20time. He can make every pass with both
- 5:22hands at speed, off the bounce, stand still.
- 5:25He puts the ball in the shooter's pocket like he reads
- 5:28the pick and roll. They trapped him, they switched
- 5:30him, they hedged him, and it was just like every he.
- 5:32That's the thing about great players is they make things look
- 5:35simple to where it can almost look like they have quote UN
- 5:38quote motor issues or they're not playing super hard and it's
- 5:42like, no, they're just dissecting what's happening
- 5:45really, really finessely and it makes it look easy.
- 5:48And so, yeah, I think I think that was probably my biggest
- 5:51take away was the teams that separated were the ones that had
- 5:53higher levels of skill. And then I also, you know, I
- 5:56went Wednesday and Thursday as well.
- 5:58So I watched one through 3 A before we got together.
- 6:01And I think you could see at the really the 456A level, those
- 6:06teams at the top, they have already mitigated the speed and
- 6:10strength curve that those kids are going to face in college.
- 6:13Just the the bodies, the twins are a great example, Antoine and
- 6:17Armand, just the force with which they can move and execute
- 6:22skills. It's kind of impressive to watch
- 6:25in person because those guys are are college ready right now.
- 6:30And if you could see that in the top levels.
- 6:32And so I think the speeding strength, the weight room is a
- 6:34big, is a big separator as well. So those were kind of my biggest
- 6:38takeaways. Yeah.
- 6:40You know, I guess you talk about like being able to have a
- 6:43different trying to get the same outcome.
- 6:45I remember when I was really getting into the skill
- 6:47acquisition piece and, and they would talk about like this one
- 6:51study and like you, you usually think, OK, the best people like
- 6:54we're thinking about shooting a basketball or, you know, the
- 6:56study was in golf, like would have the same, like exact
- 7:00pattern to get the same result. But what they found is it was
- 7:02like a golf state. It's like the very best people
- 7:05had the most variability in how they swung to get the least
- 7:10variability in the outcome, which I think what you see with
- 7:12like shooting with people like that, it's like they can get
- 7:15their shot off and execute in the most ways and still get the
- 7:19least variability in the outcome of the ball going in the hoop
- 7:22versus OK, it's the exact same shot every time like that.
- 7:26That's just not realistic in a in a game environment.
- 7:29Well, it's probably how we think about it naturally, too, is
- 7:32like, you know, you think about practice drills and the
- 7:34structure that we grew up and it's like everyone's in line and
- 7:38you catch it and you do the same thing and you put it down and it
- 7:41looks the exact same. And it might make us feel good,
- 7:45but I'm not sure how much that really translates to the chaos
- 7:50of a game where they all of a sudden on that dribble, now
- 7:53there's a hand in your way and how do you move your body and
- 7:56have any kind of control and, and be able to do what you need
- 7:59to do from there. So, so talking about those
- 8:02things like, you know, it's great.
- 8:03Like obviously we want that stuff like how do you how does
- 8:05that impact now you actually getting that at Grace?
- 8:08Like what, what do you do to? Build that yeah, I I have to
- 8:13really coach my staff well to like put in guard rails for
- 8:17myself because, you know, those are those who have seen US play.
- 8:20I mean, we, we press every second and, and we run very
- 8:23little scripted offense. And so we try to introduce chaos
- 8:28into the equation. And sometimes my mind, it still
- 8:31goes back to that black and white where it's like, I'm, I
- 8:34want to crash out at something And it's like, I mean, it's
- 8:37messy. It's going to be messy that the
- 8:39kicker is we just want to be better at making the messes into
- 8:42something beautiful at the end. And we hope that people succumb
- 8:46to the craziness. But I'm, I'm, it's still a
- 8:49learning curve for me as well, because it's easy in theory to
- 8:52say on paper, when I get my opportunity, this is how I want
- 8:55to play. And then all of a sudden you
- 8:57watch it and your parents are looking at you like, do you not
- 9:00know anything? Dude?
- 9:02We're just throwing the ball to the other team.
- 9:04Like we're, you know, our middle still teams are shooting threes
- 9:07because we're, we're kind of a let it fly situation.
- 9:10And they're, you know, one for 30.
- 9:11And the parents are like, what are we doing?
- 9:13I'm like, I promise there's a vision here, like I promise you
- 9:16just got to, you got to kind of embrace the ugliness a little
- 9:18bit. And that is definitely a a work
- 9:21in progress for me. Yeah, I remember like right when
- 9:25y'all were starting the season, maybe had a scrimmage or two or
- 9:28maybe just getting in, you're like, I think we might not be
- 9:31good at all or like you weren't sure at all and then, you know,
- 9:34it turned out pretty good. But yeah, sometimes you don't
- 9:37really know, and it doesn't always look pretty at first.
- 9:39Yeah, well, I think, you know, we shot 10% in the in the
- 9:42scrimmage from three. And I was like, it's not, it's
- 9:45not going to be good if we continue this path.
- 9:48So yeah, kudos to the guys. They kept working.
- 9:51You know, as we as we watch those games and and then now,
- 9:54like obviously when you're in college, you recruited and and
- 9:57watched a lot of high school kids, but now actually living
- 10:00it, seeing those games, seeing it in your day-to-day life for a
- 10:04whole year now in your own coaching.
- 10:06Like what are your thoughts on the overall state of high school
- 10:10basketball and kind of where the games at, what could be better,
- 10:13what is really good? Yeah, I think, I think
- 10:16obviously, you know, maybe it was Steph Curry that kind of
- 10:20broke the the dam here where now I think we saw maybe two true
- 10:26post players in this whole deal, the the big from Westbury and
- 10:31then the big HUD, which even HUD is is a perimeter skilled guy as
- 10:35well. And so like maybe really we saw
- 10:37one true low block feed it in and and I know like that style
- 10:42has changed a little bit. I thought that was interesting
- 10:44of the lack of interior presence.
- 10:46Everyone wants to just kind of let it fly.
- 10:48But I do think it's cool. And and Parrish is a great
- 10:52testament to this. Like we used to always kind of
- 10:54think it was just cliche when Mills would say it.
- 10:56But like the most connected teams really do find a way to
- 10:59win. And I found myself in scouting
- 11:02this year, Like I'd watch on the film and a bad call and I would
- 11:05see one guy drifting off and the other four team mates with their
- 11:08heads down. And I just knew if we press them
- 11:11in the third quarter, they will quit.
- 11:13Like if you show that that weakness at all, it's like that
- 11:18stuff erodes teams and I think Parrish, which was such a great
- 11:22example because to me, per my knowledge, maybe them and like
- 11:26Waco Live Oak were the only two that I really saw that hell or
- 11:29high water good run, bad run, whatever it was.
- 11:32Not that y'all at perish endured many bad runs, but those guys
- 11:37were connected. And, and again, I sing the the
- 11:39twins praises as as much as I can because those dudes are
- 11:43connectors and that to me, I didn't see as much of that.
- 11:47And I think some of that is the transfer culture.
- 11:49I think some of it is the AU culture where kids are just kind
- 11:52of they don't have a team. Like I feel like when we were
- 11:55kind of like you had you had a team and you played with them
- 11:59maybe all elementary and then you play with your school all
- 12:02middle school and you play with your school all high school.
- 12:04And then, you know, now collegiately and and again, some
- 12:07right or wrong, it's just different.
- 12:09But I wonder how much of that team leadership component guys
- 12:13don't necessarily get just because they're kind of being
- 12:15plucked in the new situations constantly.
- 12:18Yeah, I was kind of underwhelmed by that.
- 12:20Like just the the connectedness of some of those teams that were
- 12:24in the state tournament, which is like the pinnacle, which is
- 12:26just kind of riding on talent. And unfortunately, you know, we
- 12:29always talk about gearing your system to beat the best.
- 12:32And I feel like some of those teams unfortunately ran into
- 12:35having to pay that bill that they hadn't put in the time for
- 12:39as a team and it cost him at the highest stage, which is
- 12:42unfortunate. Yeah, You know, we when we
- 12:45talked about it a little bit, I think of ideas you had of
- 12:48building your connection as a team way back before when you
- 12:51were really before you first started with the team.
- 12:54How do you think about for your team building that though?
- 12:56Like, you know, especially as you talk about what you know,
- 12:59maybe people aren't planet so they're jumping around more.
- 13:02Like how do you build that deep connection within your team?
- 13:05So then those hard moments, they are leaning further into each
- 13:08other instead of becoming individuals.
- 13:10Yeah, I think obviously super loaded question.
- 13:14I do think, I think vulnerability is a is a huge
- 13:17component. I think that starts obviously
- 13:20you always want to model that as a staff before you just demand
- 13:23in our situation, a group of, you know, 14 to 17 year olds to
- 13:28just start walking out and and being vulnerable in front of
- 13:32their teammates. I think modeling that and then
- 13:34giving them space to do that. And then I just think in
- 13:37tension, like my buddy Neil Welch is at Weatherford and he
- 13:41did a really great podcast with Matt Samon from Jim Modi and he
- 13:46shared one idea and it was they call it movies with mom and they
- 13:48take their player, their players take their moms on a date and
- 13:51with everybody and they go watch a movie.
- 13:53And it's like such a simple idea.
- 13:55And that idea for me sparked into our our polar bear club,
- 13:59which is ice sprouts and ice cream.
- 14:01And we do our culture talks. We've got our breakfast club in
- 14:04the morning where it's actually more skill than it is food.
- 14:08I may have tricked them with that one accidentally, but we
- 14:12have our captain's council. We've got our, you know, post
- 14:14game BWE belt, our our defensive player of the game chain.
- 14:19Like we've got cinder blocks painted with our logo for our
- 14:21blue collar boy awards. Like it's just, it's not magic.
- 14:25It's just consistent things applied to where they hear us
- 14:29talk about and emphasize things other than basketball and we
- 14:32just spend time together. You know, we did a team retreat
- 14:35this fall and I remember my Ed asking me like, So what are you
- 14:38guys doing? I was like, I don't know, we're
- 14:40just packing like 30 people into a cabin that has three bedrooms
- 14:44and we're going to grill and burn stuff and hang out and like
- 14:48it just. So it became some of the most
- 14:50special times. But I think those things kind of
- 14:53forged us together to where those bonds, just those strands
- 14:58just kept getting tighter and tighter and stronger and
- 15:00stronger as the year went on. And I don't know, I think some
- 15:04people are afraid to give up their time with sports specific
- 15:07instruction and I think maybe those things pay dividends.
- 15:10Yeah. And like, like you're saying,
- 15:12they're like, I think there can be that fear of like I'm going
- 15:15to give up practice time for this stuff that maybe is a
- 15:19little like, like how do I actually tangibly see that it's
- 15:23improving? You know, maybe I can see that
- 15:26we're running our offense better.
- 15:27I can see that our maybe our shooting percentage is getting
- 15:30better. But like, how do I see that our
- 15:32connection is is getting better? So it's like, is this, you know,
- 15:35I can't see my inputs to do these outputs.
- 15:38So it's like, maybe I don't put the inputs in.
- 15:41But but I think it's just like anything like like you're
- 15:43saying, it's about consistency. It's about consistent
- 15:46communication, consistent time devoted, right?
- 15:49What you put your time to is what you're going to develop and
- 15:51what they're going to see is important.
- 15:54So if if you don't spend any time on connection and you just
- 15:57say Hey be connected, you know may not go too far.
- 16:00But you may never see that your connection improved, but I
- 16:03guarantee you'll see it when it's not there.
- 16:05And that's unfortunately the moments that you see teams
- 16:09fracture and and come apart. I don't know.
- 16:13I remember when I was at a previous, I'm not going to this
- 16:16is not over you, but a previous school we had a donor that owned
- 16:20a car dealership and he was offering to teach all of our
- 16:22guys how to change their oil. And we were talking about doing
- 16:25it and and the comment was made like, like you've got to work on
- 16:29ball screen defense. Like we can't guard a ball
- 16:31screen. Like we can't take teach them
- 16:32how to do oil. And like it's not, it's not
- 16:35about no changing oil make us a better ball screen defense team.
- 16:40No, but it's, it's the time span, it's the pouring into like
- 16:45the vast majority of those guys, even collegiately, they're going
- 16:48to GoPro on something else and forget what we're talking about.
- 16:50High school, 1% of them gets a chance to play collegiately.
- 16:53So like, as hard as it is, I do have to actively choose.
- 16:58Our transition break may not get better today, but we spend time
- 17:02pouring into these dudes as men and putting people around them
- 17:05that are pouring into them like that.
- 17:06That is a that's a win in my book.
- 17:09So. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- 17:11I think like you're saying, like, I think there's no doubt
- 17:14it's going to impact winning, like people made history, but I
- 17:17think there's no doubt it will. But like you're saying that it's
- 17:19like, what are we doing this thing for?
- 17:21Like what's our purpose as as coaches, especially at the high
- 17:24school level, it's got to be about more than just being great
- 17:27at ball screen defense and all those things.
- 17:29But I definitely don't think it's an either or.
- 17:31And I think, you know, the the what drive winning stuff is is
- 17:35great when it comes to this. You know, you know me and you
- 17:37have talked about a lot of that, but I think one of their books
- 17:40is like, you know, building great teams and and things there
- 17:43and a lot of stuff that like Gonzaga's basketball team does
- 17:46and how they have their weekly stuff doing all all this.
- 17:49And you know, I remember he, you know, the guy Brett Ledbetter
- 17:52and times the wood drives winning.
- 17:53He would consult with Iowa women's basketball back when
- 17:57Caitlin Clark was there. And that's pretty freaking cool.
- 18:00They've got some team meetings that literally you can go watch
- 18:03the whole team meeting when they're having some real
- 18:05vulnerable, real, real conversation.
- 18:07Tears are coming out. Like real, real stuff coming
- 18:10out. Yeah.
- 18:12And teams at the highlight, Gonzaga basketball is at the
- 18:15highest level. Those teams are devoting a lot
- 18:17of time to that because they've realized how important it is.
- 18:21I think it may be more important in the transfer culture era
- 18:24because again, it's got to be intentional.
- 18:27It can't be transactional. It's not like, all right, let's
- 18:29get John in a development session because we want to make
- 18:33him feel like a part of the team.
- 18:35But it's like you got to get people in and it's like the
- 18:37treadmill is going and how do you ease people on to that?
- 18:41And some of it is like, let's jump in the deep end and figure
- 18:44it out. But it's the support systems
- 18:46that are willing to go low and slow when you need to.
- 18:49I sometimes have to toss my practice plan out the window and
- 18:52adjust. And that's the art versus the
- 18:54science of coaching. And I think that that's why
- 18:57stuff like this is great. It's it's people that are trying
- 18:59to to learn and grow and improve and figure out when do we be
- 19:03technical and tactical? And when do we just sit and deal
- 19:06with people and cancel practice and go play wiffle ball because
- 19:09we're struggling with connections, you know?
- 19:11Yeah, and you know, you talk about that even made me think
- 19:16Rod Olson, who I had as a a a coach in my book and and we did
- 19:21an interview for that that book. And he he coaches, coaches,
- 19:25forces people for super high level.
- 19:27But remember, we were at he's we were talking and he was on the
- 19:30way to Colorado State basketball.
- 19:32He consulted with them and he's talking about, and this was in
- 19:35the summaries like like they've got, he has like a transfer
- 19:39tournament. And I think, I think it was like
- 19:40transfer integration plan or, you know, something like that.
- 19:43Basically like how to like have an actual plan of how we, you
- 19:47know, usually basketball, it's all, you know, maybe 3-4 kids
- 19:50coming back now, you know, you got a whole new group of
- 19:53individuals. How do we make that a team?
- 19:55And I think you have to have a plan now because, you know, I
- 19:58think, you know, I'm sure we've, we've both seen it on teams.
- 20:01You bring in 13 new kids and kind of just hope it.
- 20:06Goes well together, hope they fit well together and I, you
- 20:10know, I think that's a lot to put your hopes on and, and hope
- 20:14that it goes well and not have a a real plan and then a real
- 20:17structure to how, how are we going to get this just like
- 20:20anything like how are we going to develop the body?
- 20:22How are we going to develop this skill?
- 20:23How are we going to develop, you know, our, our, our, our, our
- 20:26tactical aspects like you got to have a.
- 20:28Plan and I think a big adjustment, I mean, for me this
- 20:32year has been the idea of giving them, I'm going to tie it into
- 20:35basketball, but we'll bring it back.
- 20:36But like giving them offensive freedom.
- 20:38We're not going to have plays. We're just going to go.
- 20:40And I want you to read how you're guarded and read what's
- 20:43happening and make decisions. And that freedom was kind of
- 20:46paralyzing at first because like I didn't give them the edges in
- 20:49the sandbox. But as soon as I gave them just
- 20:52simple parameters, not not constrictive ones, but like,
- 20:56here's some things we're not going to do.
- 20:57Here's some things we're going to do every time that that gave
- 21:00them the freedom to then go color inside the lines.
- 21:03And I think it's kind of a similar idea if you have the
- 21:06edges of the guardrail. Like what matters to me as a
- 21:08coach, like whether we're good, bad, awful, like I don't ever
- 21:12want to be a part of a team that's not connected.
- 21:14So we're going to huddle on every dead ball and it better be
- 21:16genuine and we better have all 5 in there.
- 21:18We're never going to quit. I don't care if it's 100 to 0 or
- 21:21whether we're up 100 to 0. We're not quitting.
- 21:24We're playing from buzzer to buzzer.
- 21:25And like, so they're just some things to me that are.
- 21:27These are the edges of my rails. But within there, like be
- 21:31impressive, be creative, have freedom, have ownership.
- 21:34And I think that's a piece that maybe I didn't talk about was
- 21:36giving guys ownership. Like I struggle with delegating
- 21:40to my players because a lot of times it's awkward and they're
- 21:43trying to lead and it's clunky and they end up just kind of
- 21:46yell and tell and, you know, then I snatch it back.
- 21:48So I'm like, well, that sucked. I don't like don't do that.
- 21:51But it's like, where do they develop that muscle?
- 21:53And we don't ever give them the chance to have ownership and
- 21:55lead. And so I'm that's an area I'm
- 21:58committed to trying to grow this offseason a little bit.
- 22:00Yeah, nothing. I think that's a good point.
- 22:02As you were talking about it just made me think of like Jocko
- 22:06Williams phrase of like discipline equals freedom where
- 22:09like like you said at first, if it's just like complete freedom.
- 22:13There's no rules. There's is kind of, you know,
- 22:15too much, they're not sure what to do maybe.
- 22:17But if you create that discipline, create those
- 22:19boundaries, and then and then they learn to have freedom
- 22:22within that. And that's where like great
- 22:24things can happen. But if it's, you know, kind of
- 22:26like you're saying, it's like, hey, be a leader.
- 22:28No description or, or, you know, guidance on what that should
- 22:34look like, how that should look like.
- 22:35Like, you know, I, I don't know what to, you know, especially,
- 22:38you know, a younger kid, like, I don't know what that looks like.
- 22:40Maybe it'll turn out good, maybe it won't.
- 22:42But if you give them some guardrails, some some examples,
- 22:45some constraints, and then give them freedom with an ownership
- 22:48within that, then they can really take off.
- 22:50It's like what our wives say, where do you want to eat
- 22:52tonight? I don't know 360° of choices,
- 22:55but she's like, hey, if I want a steak, all right, I can give you
- 22:58some ideas. It's just that reframing a
- 23:00little bit as you look at this, this first season at Grace,
- 23:05What? What?
- 23:06What are you? Most proud of like what went
- 23:08well, more than you maybe thought?
- 23:10And what areas are the biggest areas of improvement for next
- 23:13year? Yeah, I think stylistically most
- 23:16of us that are assistants kind of have the the Super secret
- 23:20notebook, like was it from the waterboy?
- 23:22The green notebook of this is what I would do if if I got my
- 23:26shot and I kind of had made my peace with.
- 23:29I really like the idea of everyone says they want to play
- 23:31fast, but I want to play fast, like to the umpteenth.
- 23:36And so I thought our guys did a great job of just buying into
- 23:38our systems. I mean, we went from a very
- 23:41numbered break, your 1 Cougar, 2 Cougar, three set play kind of
- 23:46deal to like. Now I want you to play musical
- 23:51chairs and the second the ball goes through the rim, I want you
- 23:53to be nose to nose with the closest person.
- 23:56And then on offense, I want you to, if you have the ball on a
- 23:59rebound, run and try to go score.
- 24:01And if they stop you Kick It Out.
- 24:03Like I want to score in four seconds.
- 24:05I want them to shoot within four or five seconds.
- 24:07Like I just, it was a very, very drastic change and they just
- 24:11embraced it and it was really cool.
- 24:13We went to one tournament at the beginning of the year and like
- 24:16the press just came alive and we took a 5A team to the rope.
- 24:20We took another 5A team that ended up like 30 and one on the
- 24:23year and went to the state playoffs, like took them to the
- 24:26ropes. Like our guys just really,
- 24:28really bought in and you know that the old cliche adage of
- 24:32like the burn the boats, it really was that like there's no
- 24:36other, there's no safety net like we're going.
- 24:38And so thought they did an unbelievable job.
- 24:41The area that I in reflection that I, I and I just was a
- 24:44conscious choice of the time, but like I did sacrifice a lot
- 24:47of specific skill work for system implementation.
- 24:51I, I kind of felt the crux of year one like God, like I've got
- 24:54to get this big picture idea installed, like they've got to
- 24:57understand what I'm trying to do.
- 24:59And so, you know, we did, we turned it over a bunch.
- 25:02Our passing was terrible, but I had to make some conscious
- 25:05choices. And so I just thought speed is
- 25:07king, let's go. So it was good.
- 25:09The the beauty of it was our, our players style, our play
- 25:13style kind of became our player development model.
- 25:15When, when you're forced to get the ball up to floor in three
- 25:18seconds and make a decision like you're, you're going to get some
- 25:21skill work in. Now, whether it's exposing,
- 25:23whether it's developing, that's, that's to be determined.
- 25:27I think as a coach on the instructional side, I, I want to
- 25:31be better about my buddy. Saint Albert has a really,
- 25:35really good video on his Twitter of him teaching at APDPGC
- 25:39session where he talks about describing the storm versus
- 25:42navigating the storm. You know, the coaches that call
- 25:45timeouts and they're like, you got a box out and like they're
- 25:47just kind of crashing out versus the guys that are giving
- 25:51instruction and actionable feedback.
- 25:53I feel like I got baited into describing the storm more than I
- 25:57really cared to. You know, I want guys to leave
- 26:00the huddle with an actionable piece of of information.
- 26:03And sometimes I, you know, we're coming out of huddles and we
- 26:05don't have a play ready just because I decided I wanted to
- 26:08yell at my guards about not rebounding.
- 26:09Now, that may happen. Yeah.
- 26:11But yeah, I want to. I want to be better there.
- 26:14Just the journey of becoming a master teacher.
- 26:17Like if people are listening to my huddles, I don't want them to
- 26:19be embarrassed with what's being said.
- 26:21I don't want there to be questions of like, well, maybe
- 26:23you shouldn't, you know, talk like that to the kids.
- 26:25And then obviously nothing I've seen.
- 26:27But just I want them to, if a person came out of the stands
- 26:31objectively and just listen to my huddle that they're like, no,
- 26:34he just is a great teacher. And so, yeah, that's kind of my
- 26:37high, low girl there. Yeah, yeah, I know.
- 26:40I like it. When you talk about the skill
- 26:42development piece, what does that maybe look like going into
- 26:46this next year and like like how do how do you feel that looks
- 26:49differently between or like you were the player development
- 26:52coach at or you and the college level?
- 26:54How does skill development scale and look different working with
- 26:58high school level athletes versus college level athletes
- 27:01for you? Yeah, I have to make the
- 27:02assumption that what's done in my practice will be the only
- 27:05thing that's done. We're working on improving the
- 27:08culture of work. But in college, you know, I
- 27:10would have every guy most days for skill sessions or have them
- 27:14in with Aga with a prescribed plan.
- 27:18And so they would get skill work in addition to teamwork and
- 27:22practice. And so now I'm having to, and I
- 27:25think This is why it was such a challenge for me is because I'm
- 27:27not used to marrying those two ideas.
- 27:29Now I do think, I think the best teaching can be done in those
- 27:34spaces. And this is where like the
- 27:35constraints LED approach and kind of the small side of games,
- 27:38this is where I've not quite spent enough time fully just
- 27:43integrating into that because I think those accomplished both.
- 27:48But yeah, I've got, I've got a structure my, my practices to
- 27:52where they're getting better. We're going to play enough games
- 27:55with, you know, 36 games with tournaments.
- 27:58They're going to play enough games that the team stuff will
- 28:01will really be forged in that November section where we play
- 28:04like back-to-back to back tournaments.
- 28:06And so we're getting 20 games and three weeks.
- 28:09I have to trust that that's going to do some of the team
- 28:12forging. And I've got to really, really
- 28:14make a commitment to like, we're going to dribble past you, make
- 28:17decisions and defend exclusively in practice.
- 28:20Yeah. So that's my big adjustment is
- 28:23finding the time. Yeah, no, it's it's definitely
- 28:26hard when you know, like you're saying in in college you can a
- 28:32lot so, so many different hours to so many different things.
- 28:36And then, you know, now as we talk, OK, we got to spend time
- 28:39on team and culture development. We got to spend time on skill
- 28:43development and, you know, team tactical development.
- 28:47It's like, you know, the parents are going to start emailing if
- 28:49you keep them there too late now at high school levels.
- 28:51So, you know, how do how do we how do we divide that out
- 28:55without, you know, not getting anything out of in it, you know,
- 28:58chasing too many rabbits and not really not really getting a
- 29:02potent enough stimulus to to develop in any of them, but
- 29:06still getting the most of what we need.
- 29:07And then I think, I mean, I think that develops you as a
- 29:11coach a lot because it's like, you know, if you got all the
- 29:13hours in the world, you can waste a lot of time.
- 29:15But if you're really constrained to, OK, I've got two 2 1/2 hours
- 29:19a day to do everything I've got to get really good understanding
- 29:22what my return on investments are from every single drill,
- 29:26every single minute. And how I'm really also teaching
- 29:31that. Like you're talking about being
- 29:32a master teacher. How do I best teach that?
- 29:34How do I best structure that where we are getting the most we
- 29:38can from every minute of this practice plan?
- 29:40Yeah, yeah. I mean, that's you nailed it.
- 29:42You nailed it. You know, as, as as you've as
- 29:46you go back, go back to when we had the the first conversation,
- 29:49you're really you you really like just move to Tyler before
- 29:52you're starting this job. What's been what's been maybe
- 29:55different than what your expectation was moving from that
- 29:59college level back to this high school level and and and, you
- 30:03know, basketball, but also just life of like what what that life
- 30:07looks like for you different than the college coaching career
- 30:11to the high school coaching daily life.
- 30:13Yeah. Well, I think the same time
- 30:15constraints that you just talked about, or it's, it's my
- 30:18day-to-day because I'm actually, I feel like I'm busier than
- 30:22before, which was surprising to me.
- 30:26I made this change from college. I want to be more present,
- 30:29father, and just slow down and simplify and kind of get off the
- 30:33hamster wheel for a minute. And then I feel like, whoa, holy
- 30:36cow. Like I have less time because
- 30:39you know, when you look at it, I've got my varsity, I've got JV
- 30:42blue, I've got JV white, I've got eighth, I've got seventh.
- 30:45I've got a Youth League. And not to mention that I teach
- 30:49all day. And so I have less time in terms
- 30:54of just overall hours I am traveling less, which I think is
- 30:58big. Yeah.
- 30:59It's, it's that part kind of surprised me, I think.
- 31:02I thought, I think in my mind, I'm like, you know, picturing
- 31:05like armchair on the beach, you know, just hanging out for a
- 31:09line. Just, all right, I'll go to
- 31:11practice, you know, dismiss all this free time.
- 31:13And I'm not sure where that perception came from.
- 31:18You know, we used to always joke in college that it was like 1%
- 31:20basketball and 99% just other duties as assigned.
- 31:25But the beautiful thing here and probably my favorite part that's
- 31:28been a surprise to me is that everything that I choose to do
- 31:32with my time is a direct improvement of my program.
- 31:36So if I choose to spend time doing Polar Bear club or
- 31:40breakfast club or or Captain's council or we got a program that
- 31:44ended up being really cool. We call it our CIT.
- 31:46It's our Cougars in training and it's anyone from 4th to 8th
- 31:49graders and they're basic. They call themselves water boys.
- 31:52But what they really are is their front seat to our culture
- 31:55of like you're getting, you're getting a taste of cougar
- 31:59basketball and they love it. Like they're nuts back there.
- 32:02They Jackie pants and polos and like in every picture we have of
- 32:06our bench, they're just going crazy and it's the highlight of
- 32:09their years. And their parents are all
- 32:10e-mail. And so it's like all these
- 32:12things that we're choosing to do are making Grace better.
- 32:15They're making our program better.
- 32:17They're making our players better.
- 32:18I hope they're making me better. It's making my family better.
- 32:21And so that part is cool. Whereas before, you know, as a
- 32:25support staff in college, you end up, you end up doing a lot
- 32:28of the ground work, you know, Hey, can you sort through 4000
- 32:32clips of ball screen defense and find me 5 good hedge clips?
- 32:35And then it's like, oh, we're not showing that project that I
- 32:38stayed up all night to work on a lot of those kind of things.
- 32:42And so here I, I, you know, I have the freedom to choose what
- 32:45those things are. And so I'm able to choose a
- 32:47little bit more intentionally. And, but it's been great.
- 32:50I mean, I'm, my family's more integrated.
- 32:53Like I was joking with somebody yesterday.
- 32:54If I were still at ORU, I would be in South Dakota right now,
- 32:58you know, missing Trey's birthday, which was yesterday.
- 33:00And so here, what do I do on Trey's birthday?
- 33:03We break him out of daycare at noon and my wife brings him to
- 33:06my last three PE classes. And I watch my son run around
- 33:09the gym with kids that are just going nuts and so excited to see
- 33:12him. And it's like that's that's the
- 33:14difference as the control just at this phase in my life, I'm
- 33:17just less motivated by maybe some of the career things that
- 33:21had driven me before and really enjoying the season that we're
- 33:24in so long winded, but. Yeah.
- 33:26And I love it. You know, as you talk about like
- 33:29that, that CIT program we have for kind of that younger
- 33:34generation coming up at at your school, I think that's really
- 33:37cool. And you know, I did.
- 33:39I wanted to ask you about that. Like especially Grace as it
- 33:42gives Grace K through 12. Yes, it's two different
- 33:45campuses. So on our campus we have 5th
- 33:49through 12th and then Trey's campuses, the daycare through
- 33:534th. Yeah, so I mean, even if even if
- 33:56we're just talking about the the the 5th through 12th, it's like
- 33:59how you know, as obviously, I'm sure prior to number one, this
- 34:03year's like maybe let's get the high school program.
- 34:05But it's also thinking about how do we start building that next
- 34:09generation. Those those ones that are going
- 34:10to be 7 in the middle school, middle school to high school.
- 34:13How do we how do we start building that long term program
- 34:16for them, but also like to want them to stay at grades versus
- 34:20maybe going to, you know, a public school or going to
- 34:24another private school in the area.
- 34:26And I, you know, I think that's really cool where, you know,
- 34:28with the with that permanent, it's like, OK, now, like
- 34:32they're, they're building these role models and kind of these
- 34:36heroes in their mind of, of OK, you know, this whatever senior
- 34:41like, you know, you know, that really impacts them.
- 34:44Like, I want to be like that kid, like I want to be a, you
- 34:47know, a varsity player, like him doing the things he's doing
- 34:52because now they have this role model there and they're getting
- 34:54to be around the team. And like, I feel like that makes
- 34:56it so much more likely that they're going to want to stay
- 34:58versus trying to go find somewhere else.
- 35:00And, you know, that's, you know, like Paris, like they've got
- 35:03like these like second and third grade teams that all year,
- 35:06Armand, Antoine and one of our other kids, they would coach
- 35:09those teams. They'd actually miss lifts on
- 35:11Wednesday and we'd make it up some other time, but they would
- 35:13coach those team before practice every day.
- 35:15And Oh my gosh, like those little kids love all of our
- 35:17basketball players and, and want to be part of that so much.
- 35:20I just feel like especially like, like we've talked on this
- 35:23age of people wanting to jump from school to school, like if
- 35:26you can build that in, like it's, it's making them want to
- 35:29be there so much more. Are there any other ways that
- 35:32you feel like you're kind of trying to push that of like what
- 35:35you're building, whether it's from a development standpoint or
- 35:38also just a connection standpoint of how you're you're
- 35:42building your long term team? Yeah, that's a great question to
- 35:45it. We just finished our kind of, we
- 35:47call it a Youth League and it's got grace teams.
- 35:50We also play Gorman and All Saints.
- 35:52And so I think we're kind of in the process now of evaluating,
- 35:57you know, can we do, can we offer a little bit more because
- 36:00that's kind of more of a wide net.
- 36:02Any kid that wants to sign up can, can we offer something
- 36:05where, you know, they're coached by me a little bit and it's our
- 36:10select best 4th and 5th best, you know, 5th and 6th, some some
- 36:14kind of combination of that. So we're trying to do some of
- 36:17those things, but you know, just this is this is a constant need
- 36:22for us. It's like, how do we integrate
- 36:24and connect? Because, you know, we've got our
- 36:264 high school teams, which is great, but not all of them get
- 36:30FaceTime with me. And so trying to figure out what
- 36:33those, those avenues look like. If again, we go back to time, I
- 36:38could probably make all these practices, you know, and then
- 36:41kiss my son on the head because he'll be smooth asleep by the
- 36:44time I see him. And so that, you know, that's
- 36:45not it may be sustainable and good for grace, but is that
- 36:49what's best for our family, family?
- 36:50And so trying to prioritize some of those things.
- 36:53And in the one thing I will say that not to like get super
- 36:56religious with it, but I also really believe and my buddy
- 37:00Aaron from Florida Atlantic always shares for me the verse
- 37:03from Psalms. It's like, unless the Lord
- 37:04builds it, he who laborers, laborers in vain.
- 37:06And so part of me, I have to choose to trust that I'm going
- 37:10to put my hands to the plow every day and I'm going to get
- 37:12after it, but I'm also going to protect the things that matter
- 37:15most to me. And I hope that the Lord will
- 37:17bless my efforts and multiply those farther than where I can
- 37:20can physically be, because the reality is you, we can't be in
- 37:24all those places. And so yeah, that's I, I think I
- 37:27anti answered your question actually with that.
- 37:29No, I love it. You know what?
- 37:32I want to talk about goals, and that's something I kind of go
- 37:34back and forth with sometimes. You know, there's people that
- 37:40talk about having, you know, SMART goals, habits, very
- 37:42specific, miserable. You know, in three years we're
- 37:45going to do X, I'm going to have XY and Z, you know, whatever it
- 37:49is. I feel like there's also people
- 37:52that it's like I'm going to, I'm going to operate the highest
- 37:55level each day, kind of attack these things that are in front
- 37:58of me. And yeah, like I think about the
- 37:59future and but I'm kind of constantly updating what I want
- 38:03that future to look like and more so allowing my present
- 38:07decisions to impact where my kind of long term outcomes are.
- 38:11Yeah. Like where, where do you fall
- 38:12kind of between that of having like measurable objective goals
- 38:16that you're attacking versus just attacking the process and
- 38:20allowing the goals to be a result of that?
- 38:23Yes, yeah, no, I think I think like somewhere right in the
- 38:27middle of that, you know, I think there's there's obviously
- 38:31you think about some long term planning because I do think like
- 38:33without vision, you know, I felt really convicted.
- 38:36Actually, I was reading Tim's section, the book the other day
- 38:38and he talked about how when he gets to a program, he wants to
- 38:41assess and he took a year to get them to wear practice shirts.
- 38:44And I'm like, flashback into me and I'm like, the first time I
- 38:47met these kids was my culture presentation of what I'm going
- 38:50to do in the locker room. I'm like, I hammered them the
- 38:53second I got there, You know, it's like, I don't know that
- 38:56there's right or wrong. I know, I think, I think vision
- 38:59is contagious. And so I think the big long
- 39:02term, you know, the B hags, the big hairy audacious goal, like
- 39:05the the high hard ridgeline that we're going at.
- 39:07I think you have to put that on a board somewhere and you know,
- 39:11throw darts at it. And but I do think you have
- 39:13those times where you check in of like, well, how are we, you
- 39:18know, how are we doing towards that?
- 39:20But the one thing that I think is the kicker is it's people
- 39:25because so many times when I got into time blocking, really big
- 39:28shout out Tim Ferriss that thanks, because he just made me
- 39:31steamroll people all day because I'm like, look, from 6:48 to
- 39:35seven O 5, I'm having coffee and reading.
- 39:39And so when the kid comes in my office and his mom just got
- 39:41diagnosed with breast cancer and I'm like, well, I love you, but
- 39:45like, this is my time block to read all of a sudden, like my
- 39:48goals and my, my systems just made me like speed bump right
- 39:52over people. And so like, yeah, like
- 39:56hopefully that that lands of like it is somewhere in the
- 39:59middle. And I try to be, I try to have a
- 40:02big long term vision. We've got a great school in our
- 40:05area. You're familiar with Martins
- 40:06Mill. And then they just turn in,
- 40:08they're turning out state championships and they do it
- 40:10incredibly well. And their kids are super
- 40:12respectful and they're all super high academic, they're high
- 40:15character, they're elite athlete.
- 40:17And it's like, yes, Grace in 10 years, why can't we be that?
- 40:20But in the meantime, like, what do I do with little Johnny that?
- 40:24Puts his shoes on the wrong feet and can't make a layup.
- 40:27If I give him a hundred tries, like does that kid get
- 40:29steamrolled? Because I have this vision of
- 40:31becoming something greater? Like, how do I, how do I
- 40:34navigate and handle people? And I think, man, that's hard
- 40:38because a lot of the business world is like, cut the brake
- 40:40lines, floor it and just go. And if you get caught in the
- 40:43way, you get caught in the way there is some validity to like
- 40:47going there. And we want you to go with us
- 40:50and we may drag you for a little while because you're you can
- 40:53legs aren't quite walking like. But at the end of the journey,
- 40:56he'll be better for it. And so I think you just have to,
- 40:59it's such a balance. It is such a balance.
- 41:01But I think they're constantly in tension with each other.
- 41:04But if I were to say I had to choose one or the other, I would
- 41:07always choose on how am I treating, loving and serving
- 41:11people and if those goals can be accomplished while I'm doing
- 41:15those in a way that I feel like is is honoring to the Lord,
- 41:18great. If not, man, I got some hard
- 41:21choices to make with my vision and my goals.
- 41:23So hopefully that's the direction you were asking.
- 41:26That's how it hit me. Yeah, no, no, I really love that
- 41:28answer. And yeah, I think it's like, I
- 41:30think it's like you're saying, I think it's great to have, OK,
- 41:33this is where we want to be. But if you allow that chase for
- 41:37whatever that goal you set to determine how you act, how you
- 41:44people you know and, and basically do anything to get
- 41:48that point, whether it is, you know, not not loving and
- 41:51treating people or reporting to people the way you need to, then
- 41:54that goal is, is really antithesis to really what your
- 41:58mission probably is. I'll give you a great sorry, go
- 42:02ahead. No, Yeah, you got it, You got
- 42:03it. I think a great example is when
- 42:05I was at UT Tyler, I started as a volunteer and my whole goal,
- 42:08my whole vision was I want to be the best young recruiter in
- 42:11Texas. And that was my MO.
- 42:13Everything went into it. My boss was fortunate.
- 42:16I was fortunate. Like he let me get a rental car
- 42:17every night. I would go recruit every single
- 42:19night because you know, in Texas you can pick a gym anywhere in
- 42:22the state and go and you can recruit.
- 42:24And so I was getting after it. I was working all day, I was
- 42:27working all morning at UPSI would go to to school, I would
- 42:32practice, get a rental car, go recruit, come home, rinse and
- 42:35repeat. And I remember coming home one
- 42:37time and my wife was just looking.
- 42:39This is after months and I was newly married and my wife just
- 42:42looked at me and she's like, I didn't sign up to just like be
- 42:46single when I'm so gracious. There's so many people in
- 42:49college coaching that are either divorced or or remarried and
- 42:53having to learn those lessons the hard way.
- 42:55I'm so gracious that my wife was willing to confront like, what
- 42:59are we doing here? But in my mind, like the way I
- 43:03love my wife was I went and got after it because I was going to
- 43:06turn this into a better job. And I was going to get some big
- 43:09Division One job. And I was just going to grind
- 43:11and go get it and, and create this life for her that that
- 43:14neither of us could ever dream of.
- 43:15And like, I realized I was leaving her in the dust.
- 43:18And she was like, I yeah, this is not it.
- 43:21And so I had to recalibrate. And that has been a form of like
- 43:25a shaping fork in the road moment for me.
- 43:28If like, I don't know what my career holds.
- 43:31I don't know if college is back in the equation down the road.
- 43:33I have no idea. But I know I want her and Trey
- 43:37as primary in my life. And by the time this comes out,
- 43:40people will know that Riley's on her way here.
- 43:42And I want those 3 to be priority in my life always over
- 43:48any job. Because the we'll talk about
- 43:50that later with your, with your parenting questions.
- 43:53Well. Let's let's get into that.
- 43:55You know, yesterday marked two years of being a dad for you,
- 43:59right? Yeah, that's, you know, couple
- 44:01months away from me. Like what advice would you have
- 44:04for me as I'm stepping into that, especially as we're
- 44:08coaching? Like you're talking about like,
- 44:09obviously, no matter what level you're at, like you're saying
- 44:12you kind of expectation of the high school, like no, what level
- 44:14you're at, like it's going to, it takes a lot of time and
- 44:17commitment to be really good. At the same time.
- 44:20We got to be, you know, great fathers and and husbands.
- 44:23How do we, how do we do both of those things?
- 44:25And, and what, what should I be thinking about as I'm about to
- 44:28step into those, those shoes of, of being a?
- 44:31Dad, Yeah, well, it was really hard for me because the second I
- 44:34held Trey, I I was a Division One assistant, which was one
- 44:37step away from my dream. And I held my son and looked at
- 44:40my wife. I was like, I think we're in
- 44:42trouble because I just everything just reshaped in an
- 44:46instant. Here's the here's the one thing
- 44:48that I've learned in two years. The only job in my life that I
- 44:51cannot be replaced at tomorrow is is with those two.
- 44:53I could I could win A state championship at grace to get
- 44:56fired the next day. They'd have a coach in within
- 44:58the month. My phone hasn't stopped ringing
- 45:01for two days because UT Tyler just opened.
- 45:03Like it's just jobs come and go. And I know that, like I know
- 45:08that I don't think I know it yet, that that sinking that foot
- 45:12distance from from brain to heart is hard for me because I
- 45:15will work my tail off at my job and, and sometimes just be so
- 45:20subpar here because I'm I'm tired and mentally tired.
- 45:24And it's like, man, I just want to give them my best.
- 45:26And I think it's Buzz Williams just says like he wants to be
- 45:28famous in his own home. And I don't know what that looks
- 45:33like. I'm trying, you know, it's just
- 45:35a simple stuff like, can I, can I leave my phone?
- 45:38Can I take 30 seconds in the car and recalibrate?
- 45:40Like they haven't seen me all day.
- 45:42This is the first time they're seeing me.
- 45:43So like, whatever version of 5th grade PE, tired, worn out,
- 45:47stressed, angry, mad, lost a game, nervous about this,
- 45:50whatever it is. Like I got to leave all that
- 45:52because one, Trey doesn't care. He's an animal right now.
- 45:54Like he's, he's trying to get into WWE right off the RIP and
- 45:58he doesn't care about some game. And so how can I just be
- 46:03present? And that's been hard.
- 46:05That's been the biggest challenge.
- 46:07And so I to me, that's the guardrail.
- 46:09Like I can't be replaced here. So if excellence in my job
- 46:14requires me to not be able to be what I want to be for them, then
- 46:18it's time for my job to change. And I'm grateful now that I'm in
- 46:21a situation where I do feel like I can integrate them.
- 46:23And my son tries to sub himself into every game that we have at
- 46:27Grace from the bleachers. He's like ball, ball, ball.
- 46:30And he's like trying to get in the sideline.
- 46:33He's like, it's my time to get to it.
- 46:35But like, seeing my players hold him and seeing him in the locker
- 46:38room and he's chasing a basketball around.
- 46:41And it's like, yeah, like, this is the vision that our family.
- 46:43And luckily, my wife's a Hooper too, so she gets it.
- 46:46The man. I feel like if you don't put
- 46:48that stake in the ground of like, I, they can never have
- 46:52another me, even if, you know, God forbid something ever
- 46:54happened to me. And like, that's still not
- 46:57Trey's dad. If there's somebody new in the
- 46:59picture, like, you know, I can never be replaced in that role.
- 47:02And so how do I, how do I maximize that first?
- 47:05Yeah, I love it, Dave. And and I was I was getting to
- 47:08talk to you is is always, always gets me thinking always is, you
- 47:13know, just just super impactful. And this has been no exception.
- 47:17It's been awesome conversation kind of wide-ranging, little
- 47:20more informal than normal maybe, but I think really, really good.
- 47:23And then lots of great thoughts across lots of lot of different
- 47:26ideas. So man, I appreciate you coming
- 47:28on and doing this again. Second second two time guest
- 47:31here on the podcast. Appreciate you.
- 47:33I guess that means I didn't do anything in the first one to get
- 47:35me on the no fly list. Yeah.
- 47:38We, it's, it's kind of the opposite of what we talked about
- 47:41their time for practice now in high school.
- 47:43We, we can use as much time as we need if we have a low, low
- 47:47return on investment, I guess. So we'll have to get a couple
- 47:49more of these in the next couple weeks.
- 47:50I love it. I love it.
- 47:52Well, I appreciate you man. And again, it's likewise, it's
- 47:55always encouraging and selfishly, I'm like, how can I
- 47:58get the best people in my boat and around me as I navigate live
- 48:04from fatherhood? And so you're one of those ones.
- 48:06I appreciate you man. Yeah, I appreciate you too.
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