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The Daily Mess Adults Suffering From Separation Anxiety Plus Hashing And Rehashing Your Life · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: that question guy, the dude that's always asking questions because
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  Speaker 1: it's so much fun to do the research. For instance,
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  Speaker 1: does separation anxiety, as felt by a child, transfer to
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  Speaker 1: adults wearing the same shoes? Plus, is the secret to
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  Speaker 1: life located in the physical involvement of hashing and rehashing?
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  Speaker 1: As a receiver of thoughts and ideas, we as people
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  Speaker 1: tend to throw things to the side because we think
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  Speaker 1: we're going to deal with it later on. Not if
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  Speaker 1: you don't write it down and research it later on.
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  Speaker 1: dig in. It's still keeping that daily journal, but by
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  Speaker 1: doing the research, the picture is going to become clearer.
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  Speaker 1: This is the daily mess. Do young children with separation
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  Speaker 1: issues caused by departing parents suffer? still have problems in
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  Speaker 1: grown-up shoes? Well, the patterns do exist, and it really
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  Speaker 1: does get carried with you through life. Now, that doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean the adult is damaged. The childhood experience is shaped
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  Speaker 1: by how the brain learns to handle closeness, uncertainty, and
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  Speaker 1: being away from people. Adults struggle with worry when someone
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  Speaker 1: they lose is away. They also need the reassurance that
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  Speaker 1: their relationship is pretty much okay. So, yeah, adults do
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  Speaker 1: have a difficult time in the years beyond the separation
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  Speaker 1: issues that they had as kids. It's that burning fear
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  Speaker 1: that something bad is always going to happen. Very sensitive
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  Speaker 1: to rejection, abandonment, and oh my my, any type of change.
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  Speaker 1: Because we, we may mature, but our relationships change. The
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  Speaker 1: body system still knows separation anxiety. So how do we
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  Speaker 1: know if we're secretly suffering from this? Well, number one,
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  Speaker 1: you're needing frequent contact. Number two, extremely difficult with being alone.
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  Speaker 1: Number three, overthinking relationships. One small change in a person
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  Speaker 1: absolutely freaks them out. Adult separation anxiety. Do you think
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  Speaker 1: you suffer from it? Do you avoid the idea of
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  Speaker 1: someone leaving? This is a real deal material kind of
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  Speaker 1: thing to talk about because adults do face these situations.
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  Speaker 1: And the question is, did it start now? in their childhood. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: coming up next is the secret of life hashing and rehashing. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: thanks for coming back to The Daily Mess. Is the
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  Speaker 1: secret to life hashing and rehashing the events of your childhood? Uh-uh.
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  Speaker 1: No way. Not exactly. Physically, understanding your childhood is the
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  Speaker 1: secret to life, but to endlessly rehash it is nothing
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  Speaker 1: more than you causing trouble. Your younger years and chapters
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  Speaker 1: serve as the original blueprint to how we learn things
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  Speaker 1: throughout life. Being a kid means learning what love means,
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  Speaker 1: whatever people can do to trust, how to handle being alone,
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  Speaker 1: whether you feel safe or how much responsibility can you
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  Speaker 1: actually handle. So looking back and rehashing your life is
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  Speaker 1: incredibly not useful. but only if you're trying to understand
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  Speaker 1: the patterns rather than reliving the moments. The question you
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  Speaker 1: should be asking is, why did this even happen to me? Then, then,
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  Speaker 1: then you got to say this. What if it had
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  Speaker 1: gone this way? Something that's completely different. That final question
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  Speaker 1: should take you out of the rigorous mental loop. What
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  Speaker 1: if it had been different? Mental health leaders remind us
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  Speaker 1: that we don't have to erase our childhood to become
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  Speaker 1: free of it as adults. The goal is to truly
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  Speaker 1: look into what you have been taught from childhood to adulthood.
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  Speaker 1: Decide what is the useful tool. Then make a move
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  Speaker 1: on carrying it forward. Your past explains you. It doesn't
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  Speaker 1: have to continue you. If you lean in on keeping
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  Speaker 1: a journal, by doing this, you're not hashing or rehashing.
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  Speaker 1: You're basically saying, this is where I was. This is
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  Speaker 1: where I am. This is where I would like to be.
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  Speaker 1: How can all three of these things come together to
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  Speaker 1: create one? I'm Arrow, and that's The Daily Mess.