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Lessons - Breaking Free From the Rat Race | David Wood - Founder of Focus.ceo · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  And I'm curious as you work with these individuals, I feel like a lot of people get caught up
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  in the rat race, which is something that you probably were caught up in when you were
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  first starting your career.
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  Like you mentioned your first half of your career was numbers and business and revenue
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  and then you started to understand some of the importance of I guess self-awareness and
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  truly understanding what you can bring to the world and yourself and whatnot.
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  But how do you break, how do you break that cycle of rat race of needing to make more
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  money of needing to get the next promotion or needing to get the next round of investment?
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  How do you break that psychological cycle?
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  Because that's how we're all wired now and everything just reinforces that.
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  Yeah, it's really tricky for us humans because you know, making money to feed ourselves
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  and to feed others and to house ourselves and to clothing is a biological drive.
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  It's an evolutionary trait.
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  And so that's good and valid man, I'm hustling, I'm hustling all the time, I just created
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  a, and I don't think hustling is a bad word, it's just, you know, your hustle.
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  To make a living, the trap is, as you're pointing out, we can get into that pattern, we can
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  get into that groove and we can forget to ask how much is enough.
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  We can also forget, so, oh, this is great, it's bringing up some powerful questions that
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  we forget to ask and my invitation is to everyone to ask these questions of themselves
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  and you could write these down on a piece of paper.
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  So first question is how much is enough?
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  How much is enough for me to be comfortable in life?
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  And then how much would I, would I really like to make and have in the bank that would,
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  that would probably make life better as a, those are two, hmm, those are four numbers
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  actually.
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  So you've got an income amount that would have you comfortable and an amount in the
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  bank that would have you comfortable and then you've got what you would like.
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  Now many of us go past that, I've got one client I'm working with now who set a goal of
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  bringing in a company, making a company that's worth about two or three million dollars.
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  And then he achieved that and then automatically thought, well, what's the next goal?
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  Okay, get it up to say ten or twenty million dollars.
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  Now that's not fun for him.
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  He's not having a good time.
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  It's harder to go from, from the three, from, from say one million to two or three, then
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  it is from three to six.
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  That's what he's finding.
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  And he's not having a good time.
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  And so we're really diving into these questions.
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  How much is enough for you?
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  And I asked another great question last week and he did, he did his homework.
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  If money was not an issue, you won the lottery, someone just gave you thirty million or someone
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  gave you five million.
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  All right, for many people, that'd be plenty.
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  If money wasn't an issue, what would you do?
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  And he really had to dig deep and things came out like he'd love to be on the beach more,
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  just taking walks on the beach, swimming in the ocean, more time with family, playing tennis,
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  loves to train, loves to be learning something, also loves to be building.
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  So he might still be in business, even if money wasn't an issue.
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  So it'd be really good, I think, for all of us to work at our core values, three of his
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  core values were passion, creativity, and love.
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  And so we're looking now at how he can create more of that in his life.
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  And to your question of like, how do you bump out of the right race, well, you ask yourself
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  questions like this, and even better, have someone else ask you questions like this,
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  because it's hard to do it for ourselves.
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  You can't read the label from inside the jar, sometimes you just need someone else.
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  I'm about to hire a nutritional coach, because I can do a lot of it on my own, but I won't
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  do a lot of it on my own, and she's going to spot things that I wouldn't spot.
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  And even in our first session, as we're talking, my brain started coming up with new things.
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  She didn't, my brain came up with it, but because I was in a coaching session, and I started
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  writing down all the things that I knew I should be doing, but I was sliding on.
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  And so just out of that one session, I went and joined a gym and committed to three squash
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  games a week.
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  I committed to being in bed by 11 instead of 1230, stopping television by 10.
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  I booked a singing lesson, and now I'm taking singing lessons.
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  So all sorts of things can come out of someone else saying, how could life be better?
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  What would that look like and digging in into it with you?
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  Maybe it's a friend of a friend's willing to show up once a week for you.
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  Sometimes it's hard to get friends to do that.
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  Maybe it's a therapist.
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  Maybe it's a mastermind.
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  Maybe it's a men's group.
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  Maybe it's a women's group.
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  I hope that answered your question.
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  It does.
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  And so it's getting somebody to sort of just take a, they can be invested in you, but
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  invest it in you in a way that they don't see things through your lens.
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  So an unbiased view, an audit of your life, so to speak.
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  And that's what's going to help you understand that maybe everything that you're investing
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  yourself in, some of it's going to be very good.
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  Some of it does move the needle.
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  Some of it has to be done for the career, for the job, for the business.
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  But yeah.
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  What's up?
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  What's up?
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  What's up?
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  Mind is on.
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  Yeah.
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  Mind.
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  Right?
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  We're creatures of habit.
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  We're living in our own personal matrix.
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  If you've seen the matrix, we're living in that.
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  And if that's going well for you, if you're loving it and you're inspired by what you're
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  doing and you're moving at the pace, it's good for you, then great.
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  Don't change anything.
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  But there's a reason that people, even like Bill Gates, goes and gets a coach and the
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  top athletes, the top of their game have coaches because we can't read the label from
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  inside the jar.
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  I consider myself, this is a reveal, I consider myself as a very intelligent, very self-resourceful
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  and motivated independent person.
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  And so the biggest thing for me to watch is my arrogance.
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  I often assume I'm the smartest person in the room.
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  And in many rooms, that's probably going to be true.
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  But the shortfall, the real problem, pitfall, is that by assuming that that leaves me closed
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  and not open to, wait, maybe there's a better way, or maybe this would help.
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  Yeah, I just got coaching on the promotion that I'm doing right now.
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  And something obvious that I should have spotted was pointed out and like, oh, okay, that's
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  really good.
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  And then there were four other things that I hadn't thought of.
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  So yeah, outside input can be absolute gold.
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  One because in that space, just someone else, being in front of you, asking these questions,
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  more things are going to come out of your brain than would have come out before.
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  And then there's the accountability factor.
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  And you know, you got to show up once a week and you got to say if you did what you said
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  you were going to do, it's embarrassing.
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  It's embarrassing to say I didn't do it, right?
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  Don't feel good about yourself, you're embarrassed in front of someone else.
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  So the next week, you probably do it and then you feel good, hey, I did what I said I was
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  going to do.
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  It wasn't easy, but I got it done.
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  I feel proud.
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  Now you're, now you're building a positive cycle.
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  And if you keep doing that, you get in the habit of, oh, wait, when I do what I say,
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  I'm going to do, it feels powerful.
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  It feels good.
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  And look, I just got these results.
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  So I'm a big fan of building positive reinforcing cycles.
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  Unfortunately, we get into some very unproductive habits and cycles.
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  And it's all about this is changing.