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#TMI - Ever wished you had an "Ate" to help you decode Filipino family drama in America? · PHLV Radio

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  Speaker 1: Hey, guys, welcome to another episode of TMI with Mikayla,
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  and today I have two very special people in no room.
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  So you has already seen Virausy last time, but we
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  have another guest in the room. Can be up for Rocky?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, Oh that's really loud. So Rocky is one of
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  the beauty queens that I was also mentoring back in
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  like what two three years ago? Yeah, that's when we
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  first met. And anyways, I just had my ground opening
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  and everybody met each other over there. So we're gonna
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  have some ATA talks. Okay. So for those who don't
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  know what ATA means, it's like older sister or like
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  older Yeah, like older sisters, right, but I'm not related
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  to any of them. So anyways, all right, you guys,
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  so we have these two today. They're gonna ask me
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  questions and I will give my best advice. So but
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  as do as I say, not as I do. Okay,
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  So all right ready, okay, I guess we could start
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  with Rocky. Okay, your first question, girl, first.
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  Speaker 3: Question, what do you wish you had known when you
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  were my age?
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  Speaker 1: Oh? What I wish I would have known? That's a
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  really good question. Would I will what would I wish?
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  Speaker 2: What?
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  Speaker 1: What is the question? What? What?
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  Speaker 3: What? Where?
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  Speaker 2: Did it go?
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  Speaker 3: Hold on? What do you wish you had known when
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  you were my age?
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  Speaker 1: More like financial resources? If I if I always say,
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  like if I had the same amount of money that
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  I had before, I wish I understood real estate more
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  and like everything I needed to do to prep for that,
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  because everybody always wants to invest, not invest, spend money
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  on things that they want. But investment is different from
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  the things you want because investment is like something that's
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  going to pay you out, pay you off later. And
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  I wish I knew more about real estate before because
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  I would have been more prepared. But now look at me.
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  So okay, all right, So that was a good question.
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  I want to ask that to you too. What is
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  something that you wish you knew before?
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  Speaker 4: Something that before now? Yeah, Oh I do not know
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  because I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: The question was for you for your mind. Okay, well
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  do you want to respond to that question? Sorry? What
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  was the question again? My gosh, what would you wish? Oh,
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  my gosh, what would have washed it?
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  Speaker 2: Wash it?
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  Speaker 1: What would you wish that?
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  Speaker 3: What do you wish you had known? Well?
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  Speaker 1: For you, it's when you were my age.
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  Speaker 2: So I guess what do you wish you had known now? No? What?
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  Speaker 1: What' something? Because I mean, okay, I don't believe in
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  like people are smart because of their age. I believe
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  that people are wise because of experiences. So maybe there's
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  something that you knew now that you wish that you
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  knew before. Oh okay. Well for me, for boxing, it's
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  probably eating well weight cuts, because if I knew there
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  was weightcuts, I probably would have been doing something else.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie because weightcuts is kind of a struggle.
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  Speaker 1: Oh it's not fun. Oh it's not fun at all. Well,
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  you guys cannot box or something. So if you don't
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  make the way, you can't fight. So yeah, we'll get
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  what the system.
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  Speaker 2: Like wrestling, when I did ju jitsu, I had I
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  literally like soaked. I was just I just sweated out
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  and I was there in like a full.
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  Speaker 1: On sweatsup until I gone on the map.
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  Speaker 2: And then when I did wrestling, I don't I don't
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  know why, but when I did wrestling was a lot
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  harder for me to keep waiting, which is weird because
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  I had kept wait before or but it was a
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  lot harder, so I had to. I was bumping weig
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  classes so that I could actually go because like for
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  wrestling one, you're paying a lot of money and it's
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  the whole entire day for these events. So were there
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  at like seven o'clock to like eight o'clock.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you might be fun.
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  Speaker 2: I had to book classes so that my mom was
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  alwaysting when he's sitting there watching me did noth thing.
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  Speaker 1: So I actually have a question. It's kind off topic
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  a little bit, but since you guys are both athletes,
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  and how do you guys feel about like other genders
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  competing with you in that same category or something?
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  Speaker 2: Uh No, he said, okay, Well, because for me when
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  I did jiu jitsu, I was like training against the
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  guys and girls, like I bumped belts in like six
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  months because I was training like twice every single time
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  I went. So I would do the kids classes and
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  I would do adult classes. So I was like one
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  hundred pounds getting thrown around by like these really big.
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  Speaker 1: Guys and it was a lot.
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  Speaker 2: But for volleyball, at a certain age, they make you
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  play against the guide teams during club volleyball because of like.
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  Speaker 3: Development and whatever they I forgot.
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  Speaker 2: But like because you know, that's why a lot of
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  people reclass too, is because puberty reasons or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, yeah that makes sense. Actually, it's just like.
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  Speaker 2: You would do better if you had more time in it,
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  I guess. But yeah, so it was not fun for
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  me because I had to go against guide teams.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so like that wasn't a good because.
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  Speaker 2: It's fair and like, biology wise, guys.
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  Speaker 1: Are just genetically stronger. Yeah yeah, okay, good response. You
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  you ever punched a girl?
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  Speaker 2: I say no, because yeah, like like you said, biology wise,
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  guys are kind of like stronger but more more advanced.
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  Speaker 1: But they can go for it. I mean, you get
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  knocked out, come on.
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  Speaker 2: But I mean if they could prove prove the guys wrong,
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  I mean, why not.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you guys. Okay, so this is one
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  time I thought I would like I thought it was
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  so strong okay, and I was like so quacky, no bro,
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  So I was trying to like box this guy. Oh no,
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  I got knocked out. You don't understand. I got knocked out,
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  but okay, I got what I asked for. But anyways,
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  so that was thank you for your guys' answers because
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  I know that's like such a touchy topic as well.
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  So I'm like with the whole like them being stronger
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  thing too. When I was doing too, I had to
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  like maneuver and do different things because I couldn't overpower
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  them to get But did you feel proud? I felt yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I felt very proud because all the guys would like.
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  It was me and one other girl, my friend Jackie,
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  and we would constantly get in trouble because my coach
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  was like, why do you.
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  Speaker 1: Guys keep going with each other?
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  Speaker 2: Because none of the guys wanted to roll with us,
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  so we had no choice but to spar with each
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  other because no one else wanted to know, which I
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  felt very accomplished because.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like if you go against even if I lose, okay,
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  and I went against the guy, I feel like, oh,
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  that was like pretty ballsy of me to do this.
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  I had a guy. I told my older brother because
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  my older brother did it too, and that's when I
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  was like twelve. But I have very like bony arm.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have a lot of muscle. All my muscles
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  in my legs, I did a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Of They say that girls are stronger, yes in your
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  lower body than guys.
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  Speaker 2: So when I did jiu jitsu, I sucked at takedowns,
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  which is also why I wasn't the greatest at wrestling
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  because the wrestling is like the complete.
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  Speaker 1: Opposite of what I'm good at in jiu jitsu.
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  Speaker 2: But I had a guy one time and he went
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  to go I had just trained with him, and then
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  he we switched partners and he went with my older
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  brother and then he was like, man, that girl, like
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  I can't I can't submit her. I don't know, I
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  can't do anything, like she's kind of scared, like and
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  my brother was just like, oh, yeah, that's my sister.
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  Speaker 1: He was like, really, how old is she?
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  Speaker 3: He was like, she's like twelve.
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  Speaker 1: How do you feel about like guys, if you were
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  against a guy, how do you feel about them like
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  being a little easy on you because you're a girl.
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  I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think anybody did that one, but I would
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  prefer not because then like it's easier for me to
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  figure out how to get out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I got you out of a situation.
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  Speaker 2: Ye. So like during when I did jiu jitsu, some
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  of the things like it's more points, like if you
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  depending on where you are, so if like you're in
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  mount that's more points for competition. But if I was
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  going with a guy, I'm not strong enough. I can't
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  push them off from me or like flip us over
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  to get out of it. I legit would just like
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  try to lift as much weight as possible and slide
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  out underneath.
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  Speaker 1: All smart. I think it's just technique. I feel, especially
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  with jiu jitsu and wrestling, I feel like it's more
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  technique than anything. And then I feel like with boxing,
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  well I don't want to say the wrong thing. You
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  know the house all right? Oh, I feel like it's
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  also strength, but also like like fast, like speed, you
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  know what I'm saying, But that's also technique. It's a
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  little quick thinking.
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  Speaker 2: That's the funny thing too, because when I did wrestling,
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  my coaches knew that I did jujitsu and she was like,
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  good job, you're doing great, like you're thinking about it.
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  Speaker 1: But wrestling is just brute force.
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  Speaker 2: So don't think. Just push and I was like, I
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  can't do that.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have muscle. Okay, well, these are really good questions,
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  all right, So that's question number one. Question number two,
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  your turn, I think fast, Sorry, you're good. What are
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  the most important lessons you've learned in life. Mmm, I
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  say these are also like regrets that I wish that
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  I could reduce stuff. I guess number one lesson that
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  I've learned was have to be in dating I would
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  always say or something. I feel like, this is something
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  that is always said, but I also feel like I
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  just I failed at doing so Basically they always say
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  like put God first. I failed at putting God first,
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  and I always I always end up in like really
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  bad situations in my love life because of that. And
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  with that being said, I think what's very important if
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  you're dating okay girl, the girl really quick? Okay, if
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  you notice the like the guys the ones that they
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  always end up with are the ones that's completely different
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  from all the other girls that they ended up with
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  or that they were with in the past. You with me.
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  So with that being said, one thing that I I
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  one of my mistakes back then is I would do
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  the same things that the other girls that their type
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  would do, you know, saying like if the girl, the
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  girls in the past like would dress a certain way,
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  I would kind of start dressing like that. That's some
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  insecure shit, So don't do that. Yeah, Okay, but I'm
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  just saying, if there's one thing I wish that I
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  put that I was solid on being on putting God
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  first because I always I feel like when you put
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  God first and you prioritize that, you give the people
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  what they need. You know what I'm saying. And that's
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  like in any relationship, friendship, like anybody, because your authentic self,
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  it will serve the right way to the right people.
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  The second thing is how many lessons you need, how
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  many lessons you want? So that's the first lesson. Lesson
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  number two and I would like, this is I guess
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  for you guys as well, getting into where you guys
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  are at. You guys are going to be hanging out
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  with a lot of older people. My lesson would probably
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  be values are the same no matter which circle you're in,
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  whether you're in front of a bunch of cameras or
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  whether you're with people who are broke, Like, the values
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  are still the same. So one thing I would say
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  is like, don't be scared to speak up on it,
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  even if like your boss or something is doing something
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  that's against those values. Like, those values are still gonna
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  remain the same no matter what. And I the Bible
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  always says, like, anybody who testes the principles of the Bible, well,
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  I don't say in these words, but they'll eat their words.
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  You know, I don't know. The verse says it's gonna
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  come back to you. So I those are the main ones,
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  and anybody who tries to test it, Like, I've seen
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  everybody eat their words, whether I like everybody who've done
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  me wrong, I've seen them eat their words without me
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  having to go after them. So that's how I know
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  I'm covered by the grace of God. But that's those
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  are the lessons that I've learned that I'm still training
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  myself today to keep doing him all right, Next question.
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  Speaker 2: A big old list, Okay, a big list, Yeah, because
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  I was just like, yeah, what's something that you've learned
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  about time or patience?
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  Speaker 1: Well, I don't got time or patience, so there's not
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  much I learned because verse I'm always late. Actually I
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  got it late today where it is recording, Well, okay,
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  maybe nobody else is. I don't think other people will
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  agree with me on this, But you can't prioritize everything.
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  What you're going to prioritize the stuff that's important to you.
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  So that's what you're gonna make time for and it
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  may not be the same for everybody else, Like, for example,
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  other like I will prioritize my family, so meaning I
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  would drop whatever I'm doing, And I'm okay with dropping
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  whatever I'm doing to go to my family, even like
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  it sounds silly to other people, like, Oh, you're gonna
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  drop your You're gonna drop this client just so you
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  could go to like your little cousin's basketball game. Yeah,
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  I would, you know, And so other people would tell me, like,
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  you gotta get your priority straight. You got to manage
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  your time better. Well, not all of us has the
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  same priorities. And that's what I started to learn or
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  started to realize, Like other people like they could prioritize
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  their job, which is great, but if I have a
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  different priority, we're not gonna align on the same timing
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  of stuff. So that's my I don't know if that's
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  do whatever you want with that girl. If you miss something,
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  that's on you. But I hope I answered it. I
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  think I could fit one more question.
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  Speaker 2: Go ahead, Okay, did you have a role model and
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  what did they teach you?
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  Speaker 1: I don't I don't like that question. I feel like
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  because I feel like there's people I always look up to,
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  but they were never my role model, because I feel
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  like once I start getting to know the people on top,
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  you start realizing, oh, they're regular people as well, and
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  they have their own weaknesses and they have their own insecurities,
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  and I just feel like I feel like I have
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  a version of my stuff that I want to be,
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  and that's my role model. I don't know if you
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  could be my ear own role model, but I feel
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  like that's those are my goals, Like, Okay, do I
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  want to For example, if I want to be like
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  fit and like there's people in like each round, I'm like, okay,
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  I'm going to follow what they're doing so I could
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  look like that or get to that level. But I
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  feel like I never had a role model. It's just me.
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  All right, you guys, any last words, we're going to
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  close this up. Nah, they were good, They're good, Okay, Okay,
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  he said, then we're good. You're gonna talk no more.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I just keep talking, so I feel like I
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  should not talk as much.
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  Speaker 1: No, this is good, this is good. All right, you guys.
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  I mean you guys could find Cyrus waere.
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  Speaker 2: Cyrus underscored dot, the underscored dot virus on Instagram perfect.
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  Speaker 1: And then Rocky, Uh, mine is just my name or
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  my actual name.
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  Speaker 2: Rocky's a nickname Sophia dot Raquel, but I'll spell it
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  because it's spelled fun.
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  Speaker 3: Uh, it's s O P h I A h dot
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  r A c q u E l l E.
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  Speaker 1: All Right, you guys, until next time. Bye, mm hmmmm