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The Root Of Bitterness (Part 4) · Apostle Lazarus Femi

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  Speaker 1: Apostle Femi Lazarus is a man raised by God to
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  Speaker 1: demonstrate his wisdom and authority to the last day church.
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  Speaker 1: He is the lead pastor of Sphere of Light Church
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  Speaker 1: and God told him years ago that a time will
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  Speaker 1: come where my wisdom will be needed to navigate tough
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  Speaker 1: times in the body of Christ.
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  Speaker 2: Then I will cause your voice to be heard.
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  Speaker 1: And all who pay attention to my word on your
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  Speaker 1: lips will not lack light and direction. He's a man
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  Speaker 1: sent from God, sent to raise God's end time armies.
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  Speaker 1: With Apostle Fermi Lazarus, every minute counts as you listen attentively.
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  Speaker 3: When you say a thing, it comes to pass. There
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  Speaker 3: is no searching of your wisdom. There is no searching
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  Speaker 3: of your understanding. You are the most high God. We
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  Speaker 3: return all praise to you. We return all glory to you.
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  Speaker 3: In a moment, can we lift our hands and just
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  Speaker 3: bless the name of the Lord. And I need us
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  Speaker 3: to be deliberate about it. I need us to be
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  Speaker 3: very deliberate about it. Come on, do so in a moment.
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  Speaker 2: There's nobody like you, Lord.
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  Speaker 3: There's nobody like you, Lord. There's nobody like you, Lord.
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  Speaker 2: Let's take it two more times. Thank you.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you.
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  Speaker 5: Thank you, Lord.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you, Lord.
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  Speaker 2: We bless your holy name. Thank you, Lord.
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  Speaker 3: In Jesus' mighty name, we are praying.
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  Speaker 2: Amen. Let's put our hands together for Jesus. Amen. You
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  Speaker 2: may please be seated. God bless you. Good morning church.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Alright.
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  Speaker 3: So today I'm going to be wrapping up and I
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  Speaker 3: want us to please follow me keenly as we wrap
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  Speaker 3: up this subject on dealing with the root of bitterness.
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  Speaker 3: Let's turn our Bibles quickly to the book of Hebrews.
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  Speaker 3: Hebrews chapter number 12. Hebrews chapter number 12. We start
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  Speaker 3: the reading from verse 14. Hebrews 12 from verse 14.
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  Speaker 2: If you are there, say amen. Amen.
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  Speaker 3: Alright, follow peace with all men and holiness, without which
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  Speaker 3: no man shall see the Lord. Looking diligently, lest any
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  Speaker 3: man fail of the grace of God, lest any root
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  Speaker 3: of bitterness springing up trouble you, thereby many be defiled.
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  Speaker 3: And I want us to pay attention to that. It
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  Speaker 3: is the one who is bitter that is troubled. That's
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  Speaker 3: the logic.
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  Speaker 2: Amen?
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  Speaker 3: It is the one who is bitter that is troubled.
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  Speaker 3: I took you from the roots. If you missed the
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  Speaker 3: first teachings, you have to go back to it. That
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  Speaker 3: to be bitter means to be coerced To lose every
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  Speaker 3: sense of sweetness.
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  Speaker 2: Towards a person. Towards a cause.
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  Speaker 3: To become sharp. Sharp not in the. Not as precision.
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  Speaker 3: But sharp to mean. Something that can cause injury.
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  Speaker 2: You see. When you are hot.
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  Speaker 5: Hot.
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  Speaker 3: You just want justice. And sometimes it's not just justice,
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  Speaker 3: but vengeance. A pound of flesh. There's this book we
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  Speaker 3: read then, I think, Machant of Venice. Have you ever
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  Speaker 3: read that book before?
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  Speaker 2: Alright. Okay, Machant of Venice. You want a pound of flesh.
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  Speaker 2: And in many cases... The offender is not even sorry
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  Speaker 2: in many cases. You see that?
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  Speaker 3: In fact, the offender considers it for you to think
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  Speaker 3: it's a privilege for him to hurt you.
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  Speaker 2: Let me tell you something. The reason why you have
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  Speaker 2: to take it to your own soul is because not
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  Speaker 2: all men are reasonable. You must understand that. Not all
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  Speaker 2: men are reasonable. You can't afford to.
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  Speaker 3: People hurt people because they are in pain themselves. How
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  Speaker 3: will anybody who is normal take a girl and rape her?
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  Speaker 3: The fellow is not fine. How will somebody who is
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  Speaker 3: normal bring out a gun and shoot somebody in the head.
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  Speaker 2: The failure is not fine. How will somebody who is
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  Speaker 2: normal be rude?
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes these actions are ways people used to ventilate. A
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  Speaker 3: way of giving everyone around a measure of the pain
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  Speaker 3: they are already running with.
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  Speaker 2: You need to feel what I feel.
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  Speaker 3: The policeman whose salary is not being paid regularly wants
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  Speaker 3: the citizen to feel it. When you drive and they
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  Speaker 3: ask you for money as a gentleman, you fail to
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  Speaker 3: give as a gentleman, I say, pack.
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  Speaker 2: And sometimes I just want to know I can't waste
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  Speaker 2: your time. Because the person is not what? Fine. Fine.
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  Speaker 3: What about in a marriage? Married with someone who is
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  Speaker 3: a perpetual offender. One who doesn't see anything good in you.
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  Speaker 3: Will even insult your family. How do you forgive people
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  Speaker 3: who don't stop offending?
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  Speaker 2: I have been dragged on many occasions. I've called many names.
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  Speaker 2: But I really don't mind.
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  Speaker 3: Let's read that Hebrews 12, 15 again. And I want
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  Speaker 3: all of us to see it again. Hebrews 12, verse 15.
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  Speaker 3: If you dare say amen.
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  Speaker 2: Look at it. One, two, three, go.
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  Speaker 5: Go.
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  Speaker 3: Looking diligently, lest any man fail of the grace of God,
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  Speaker 3: lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and
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  Speaker 3: thereby many be defiled.
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  Speaker 2: So bitterness is best killed at its root. And I'll
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  Speaker 2: tell you how. So you say, what about the ones
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  Speaker 2: we grew up with? The things... See, you know, sometimes
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  Speaker 2: I put out something.
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  Speaker 3: I see people come to the comment section and speak
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  Speaker 3: like the junior brother of Jesus. You know, this life,
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  Speaker 3: don't just do this. Let's just live the right as
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  Speaker 3: a holy life. Let's just do this, this, this, that, that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. Do you know what rejection is?
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  Speaker 3: Do you know what it means to go through life
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  Speaker 3: and there's no one who has mirrored acceptance, including your
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  Speaker 3: own blood? Do you know the tendencies that comes with it?
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  Speaker 3: That in many cases, bitterness is not about forgiveness first.
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  Speaker 3: It is about healing first. You have to heal. And
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  Speaker 3: many times, let me tell you this, to heal from
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  Speaker 3: the trouble a person has caused you, you have to
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  Speaker 3: create distance. And that's what many don't want to hear.
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  Speaker 3: You have to create distance. Sometimes you have to walk away.
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  Speaker 2: Let me say this.
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  Speaker 3: There are marriages that I am sorry cannot repair. And
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  Speaker 3: as a pastor, I insist that it should not be
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  Speaker 3: repaired with I'm sorry. there's a need for people to
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  Speaker 3: sit down and ask questions. Why are you doing this
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  Speaker 3: to your wife? Why are you doing this to your husband?
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  Speaker 3: Why did you say this? Why did you say that?
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  Speaker 3: Because there are people who don't even know what it
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  Speaker 3: means at all, what people go through. Their emotions is numb.
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  Speaker 3: For your own sake, move on. It is not for
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  Speaker 3: their sake.
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  Speaker 6: Move on.
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  Speaker 3: The one who is locked in prison, the one who
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  Speaker 3: is crying, the one who is shedding tears, the one
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  Speaker 3: who is feeling the heat, is you. There are people
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  Speaker 3: who are too battered to even know that you are bruised.
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  Speaker 3: They are hurting you, but they too, they are not fine.
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  Speaker 3: Their life is also meaningless. Don't allow any root of
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  Speaker 3: bitterness spring up in you I.
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  Speaker 2: Want to give very.
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  Speaker 3: Simple but practical ways to undo bitterness.
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  Speaker 2: Number one separate yourself from the curse.
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  Speaker 3: Write it in capital letter separate yourself from the curse
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  Speaker 3: There are families that you have to, as a child,
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  Speaker 3: travel far from. In fact, you cannot even have a
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  Speaker 3: good marriage if you marry from that home to your
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  Speaker 3: own spouse's house. You cannot have a good marriage. There
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  Speaker 3: are places that you have to first go far.
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  Speaker 2: Are you with me? And be treated well.
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  Speaker 3: If you put somebody in a cage where there are
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  Speaker 3: snakes and the snakes track, you can't treat the person
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  Speaker 3: in the midst of the snakes. You take the person
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  Speaker 3: out and remove the venom. Love is a commandment. The
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  Speaker 3: distance was not specified. So there are times that you
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  Speaker 3: have to love from afar. I love you, but proximity
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  Speaker 3: will injure both of us. I'm not saying don't restore fellowship.
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  Speaker 2: I love you sincerely.
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  Speaker 3: But if there will be someone that will rise from
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  Speaker 3: this home to change the narrative, it cannot be somebody
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  Speaker 3: who is a part of the problem.
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  Speaker 2: So there are times to detach. You know, people just
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  Speaker 2: talk about things.
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  Speaker 3: You know, people shout, you know, mouth now is mouth.
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  Speaker 3: You know, there is a way you commend on an issue.
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  Speaker 3: You have just said, let me go through what they
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  Speaker 3: went through. So when next we make a post about it,
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  Speaker 3: you keep quiet. See, me, the way I am, I
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  Speaker 3: am wired with forgiveness. No, that is natural. There are
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  Speaker 3: situations that will exhaust that natural one, that you will
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  Speaker 3: not need divine strength to know what we are talking about. See, me,
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  Speaker 3: I'm naturally a patient person. That's my nature. I don't
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  Speaker 3: cause trouble. Have you seen where they exhaust patient people?
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  Speaker 3: And something speak within you.
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  Speaker 2: After one hour. You say, eh? Was I the one
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  Speaker 2: who just....
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  Speaker 3: When the Bible talks about Galatians 5, the fruit of
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  Speaker 3: the Spirit, love, patience, gentleness. None of those things is
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  Speaker 3: a natural fruit. It is the fruit of a mature,
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  Speaker 3: regenerated spirit. It is that gentleness there. He's not that
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  Speaker 3: one that I don't need to talk in class. I
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  Speaker 3: want the right noise maker. They don't write my name.
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  Speaker 3: Are you following what I'm saying? That's not the gentleness.
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  Speaker 3: Let me not talk. Let me tell you this.
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  Speaker 2: You can....
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  Speaker 3: Even Joseph, that his brother sold, the guy, the moment
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  Speaker 3: God lifted him, he didn't say, go and look for demo.
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  Speaker 2: Not because he was a bad guy.
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  Speaker 3: There are times that you need time and deliberate approach
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  Speaker 3: to heal. Then there can be restoration. This kind of
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  Speaker 3: restoration is not a five-second steno. And let me say
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  Speaker 3: this to you. If you are going through a healing
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  Speaker 3: process and you are sincerely praying to God for your
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  Speaker 3: mind and soul to heal your emotions so that there
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  Speaker 3: can be a restoration of affection in certain places, the
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  Speaker 3: fact that it is taking time doesn't mean you are
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  Speaker 3: a bad person. Sometimes the depth of the injury is deep.
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  Speaker 3: But make sure between you and God, heal. Are you
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  Speaker 3: following what I'm saying here?
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  Speaker 2: You can imagine, let's say for instance, a father hates
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  Speaker 2: his daughter. Hates her so bad. Now the girl is married.
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  Speaker 2: And the hatred won't still stop. Or the boy now.
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  Speaker 3: And you are finding a way to still bring that
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  Speaker 3: same toxic mentality and inject into this woman, scatter it.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no.
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  Speaker 3: There are times that you have to say, I love
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  Speaker 3: you sincerely, but distance is a must. Let me tell
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  Speaker 3: you something. For some of you, preparing for marriage is
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  Speaker 3: not just preparing in character.
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  Speaker 2: No, no.
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  Speaker 3: Preparing for marriage is to treat certain family members that
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  Speaker 3: there's a gap. There are some of you, if you
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  Speaker 3: don't start building that now, your home will become worse
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  Speaker 3: than the dysfunctionality you grew from.
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  Speaker 2: It is you growing up and every blessed day.
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  Speaker 3: Of your life choosing to live by example. This is
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  Speaker 3: the boundary. There are homes that mother-in-law came for and
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  Speaker 3: that's the end of peace in that home. Just one statement,
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  Speaker 3: they never knew peace again. There are times that distance
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  Speaker 3: is a must, but love is compulsive. Is that okay now? See,
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  Speaker 3: let me tell you this. Don't overrate yourself.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, I can't take it. I can't take it.
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  Speaker 3: No, that's how you have been taking it and now
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  Speaker 3: you have gone bad. The whole thing you are taking
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  Speaker 3: is becoming cancers in your heart. You are not fine anymore.
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  Speaker 3: You are not Superman. You are not Superman. Detach yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Heal. Come back.
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  Speaker 3: And there are times that where to come back to
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  Speaker 3: is bad, so we keep it from afar, but I
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  Speaker 3: love you. When we get to heaven, we'll both find
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  Speaker 3: out how we love each other, but we cannot.
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  Speaker 3: Are you following what I'm saying here? Forgiveness is a must.
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  Speaker 3: But there are times to start with what?
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  Speaker 2: Distance.
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  Speaker 3: Number two, shut the door to every unnecessary knowledge. let
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  Speaker 3: me use that word there are certain knowledge um that
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  Speaker 3: is not necessary there are things you don't need to
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  Speaker 3: know about um apostles you need to see there's this
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  Speaker 3: man of god i hate you so much it's none.
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  Speaker 2: Of my business Maybe the... What I've not really heard
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  Speaker 2: people say they hate is water.
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  Speaker 3: But it will amaze you that people would say, I
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  Speaker 3: don't just like water. If you don't like water, who
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  Speaker 3: am I? Apostle Lazarus, you need to see what this
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  Speaker 3: person is saying about you. It is none of my
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  Speaker 3: what business. You don't need certain knowledge. You don't need it.
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  Speaker 2: You don't need it. You don't need certain explanation. Let
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  Speaker 2: me explain. No, no, let me say my part. No, no, no.
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  Speaker 2: Even your explanation will trap you.
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  Speaker 3: Look at what the Bible says in the book of
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  Speaker 3: Proverbs chapter number 26 verse 20. Proverbs 26 verse 20.
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  Speaker 2: Look at this. Can we read this together? One, two, three, go.
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  Speaker 3: Where no wood is, there the fire goeth out. So
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  Speaker 3: where there is no tailbearer, strive, cease. Can you give
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  Speaker 3: me this in message translation?
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  Speaker 2: It will shock you. Message. Now look at it. One, two, three, go.
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  Speaker 3: The fire goes out. When the gossip ends, the quarrel dies.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes you know too much. And it's a sign that
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  Speaker 3: you too, you have a problem. You are searching people's
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  Speaker 3: phone to see what have they said about me?
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  Speaker 2: What did they type? What was this person saying? What
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  Speaker 2: does she feel about me?
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  Speaker 3: Usually that is because your self-perception is weak. And your
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  Speaker 3: self-esteem is battered. So, let me tell you this. There
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  Speaker 3: is a way you feel fly when people praise you.
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  Speaker 3: The devil is also aware that you can be destroyed
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  Speaker 3: through criticism.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, Apostle Lazarus, amazing man! It's your business. It's your business.
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  Speaker 2: Because my topic tomorrow can deal with you. So it's
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  Speaker 2: your business. It's your business. I just like him. You
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  Speaker 2: better be careful. You better be. No, he's the truth.
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  Speaker 2: So even myself, I'm not sure what I think about
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  Speaker 2: myself like that. I just like him. He's so cool.
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  Speaker 2: Be careful.
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  Speaker 3: Because we are dealing with fundamental issues. If you are
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  Speaker 3: found as a culprit, the message will deal with it.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, yes.
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  Speaker 3: I've seen women, I jack my teaching, I use those
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  Speaker 3: con men till the day I face women.
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  Speaker 2: And I think it's becoming a pattern now.
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  Speaker 3: Some people went to take my message and say, hey,
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  Speaker 3: he's talking to this political person.
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  Speaker 2: He's saying he's sweeping. He's people's business. The day to
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  Speaker 2: attack you too.
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  Speaker 3: Let me tell you, any system that you see strife inside,
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  Speaker 3: somebody is empowering gossips. And you hear they said this,
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  Speaker 3: they said that, this one said this about that, this one.
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  Speaker 3: You cannot live your life like that. There will be
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  Speaker 3: pain in your house. One of the things God has
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  Speaker 3: taught me to deal with my heart, listen to what
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  Speaker 3: I'm saying, is to.
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  Speaker 2: Be careful what my conclusion is about people.
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  Speaker 3: You cannot be bitter towards a person until your conclusion
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  Speaker 3: is bad. So when people are doing things, the devil
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  Speaker 3: is trying to attack your conclusion. He's trying to give
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  Speaker 3: you perspective about the person. The moment you conclude this
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  Speaker 3: person is bad, there's nothing good the person can do again.
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  Speaker 2: And you believe.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes we believe gossip about people because the gossip seems
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  Speaker 3: to partner with our hatred towards them. Somebody that you
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  Speaker 3: already hate. They now say, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, I really don't mind. I really don't mind.
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  Speaker 3: You know, there are people who are believing and waiting
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  Speaker 3: that say, all these fair of light church, all these
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  Speaker 3: everywhere will scatter now for where?
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  Speaker 2: Lazarus, see, let me tell you something.
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  Speaker 3: If you are going to live a life as one
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  Speaker 3: who carries God's glory, you must get your heart. The
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  Speaker 3: Bible said, not with a part of diligence, with all diligence.
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  Speaker 2: That is, it is.
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  Speaker 3: Important what enters. It is important what can form perspective.
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  Speaker 3: It is important what can color your view. It is
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  Speaker 3: important how you see people. It is important. There are
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  Speaker 3: times I wake up in.
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  Speaker 2: The night and I keep telling myself, this person is
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  Speaker 2: a good person. I don't care.
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  Speaker 3: This person is good. This person is good. I will
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  Speaker 3: walk with this person. This person is nice. This person
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  Speaker 3: is kind.
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  Speaker 2: Because, listen to what I'm saying, the root, the seed
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  Speaker 2: of thought is words.
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  Speaker 5: Words.
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  Speaker 2: I need to speak to myself to hear it.
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  Speaker 3: For my mind to know that I refuse to partner
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  Speaker 3: with the devil.
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  Speaker 2: In believing that this person is bad.
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  Speaker 3: Before you know it, every good people that can change
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  Speaker 3: your life has been walked out of your life.
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  Speaker 2: It is a pattern. It is a pattern where you
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  Speaker 2: see small things. Once I go see small things, I'm
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  Speaker 2: done with you. See small things, I'm done with this person.
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  Speaker 2: Small things, I'm done. Before you know it, there's no
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  Speaker 2: one in your life that God can use to help you.
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  Speaker 2: Be careful. Be careful. Just cut off, cut off.
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  Speaker 3: There's something called emotional intelligence. That you have to learn
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  Speaker 3: to build coping mechanism with people. Are you following what
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  Speaker 3: I'm saying there? What did I call it? Coping mechanism.
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  Speaker 3: You will have to inform yourself. Nobody will do it
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  Speaker 3: for you. That I choose to see this person as good.
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  Speaker 3: If not, the little party you have will be over
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  Speaker 3: in no time. And you wonder, why can't we greet
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  Speaker 3: each other again? Sometimes the problem is not even the issue.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes it is the gossip that follows. What makes many
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  Speaker 3: relationships irreconcilable is not even the matter.
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  Speaker 2: It is those who are cashing out on the matter.
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  Speaker 3: Those who have been waiting for this matter to come
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  Speaker 3: and let me tell you this, Anyone who gossip to
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  Speaker 3: you about people will gossip to people about you. It
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  Speaker 3: is a matter of time. A gossip is a gossip.
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  Speaker 3: Today they have this side, tomorrow they have that side.
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: Somebody said, when you sell your neighbor's cheap, even the
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: buyer won't trust you. They should not trust you. Are
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  Speaker 3: you following what I'm saying here? Somebody, maybe you just
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  Speaker 3: went to me, Pastor Mimi, I said, Pastor Mimi, you
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  Speaker 3: won't believe me.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: Say what? Say, Aposu. We need to see what we saw.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: Let me share a story with you. I don't even know.
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: I heard it. I can't remember who shared it with me.
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: Somebody took her husband-to-be, took the man to the family house, said,
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  Speaker 3: this is the place I want to marry. Everybody celebrated, oh,
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: you are welcome, our in-law, blah, blah, blah. Later, that night,
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: our closest friend messaged the guy, are you aware that
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: the girl you want to marry has a child?
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: Is that the person you want to marry? The guy said,
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: describe the child. Male. How tall? This tall.
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: The guy said, thank you, that's my child. Who are
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: the people you have lost in your life? Not because
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  Speaker 3: of what they did, but because of what you heard from.
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  Speaker 2: A tale bearer.
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  Speaker 3: That's why I'm, see, our world, people, people, people are
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  Speaker 3: more brutal than the devil.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: God forgives, but we say the internet doesn't forgive. Who
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: are those on the internet?
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: If God brings out somebody from nightclub now, that they
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  Speaker 3: know this person as somebody who is a professional, whatever
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: you call it now. And this person is out and
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  Speaker 3: serving God. Who are those who first caused the person now?
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  Speaker 2: People.
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  Speaker 3: The same people who need forgiveness will not give it.
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  Speaker 3: God brought somebody.
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  Speaker 2: Let me ask you a question. Let me check your weight.
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: If somebody comes out now as a pastor and say
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  Speaker 3: to you, I used to be a gay.
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  Speaker 2: But now have repented. Can you disciple the person? And say, ah, ah.
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  Speaker 3: The kind of people I've discipled, the worst case I've
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: dealt with, somebody who is dealing with immorality, but this
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  Speaker 3: one now, ah, ah.
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  Speaker 2: You see that now.
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: While you need the forgiveness of God, there are people
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  Speaker 3: you have also concluded that are irredeemable.
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  Speaker 2: It is the nature of our world.
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  Speaker 3: And we bear tales about there are people who right
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  Speaker 3: now are almost miserable. Not because of what they did.
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: But for whom most people are spreading about. Do you
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: know that guy? Do you know that guy? He's such
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: a very stupid guy. You need to hear him once
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  Speaker 3: to know how notorious he is. He's one of the
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  Speaker 3: worst human beings I've met.
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  Speaker 2: And so I say it's true.
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: Check what happens to your heart when you hear people
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: say things about other people.
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: Check your conclusions.
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: If your conclusions believe that those people are so, without
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: hearing their parts, number one, that is one of the
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: acid tests of foolishness.
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  Speaker 2: It is one of the what? Acid tests of what?
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: There are people who want to, a girl, they like
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  Speaker 2: the girl.
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  Speaker 3: Until their friend comes to say, that girl, we have
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: slept with the girl. then the same friend likes the
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  Speaker 3: girl and go and marry the girl. Be careful of
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: tail bearers. Be careful of getting information about things that
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  Speaker 3: is none of your business. There are people who are
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: so inquisitive. They want to know what everybody is saying
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: about them. What are they thinking about me? What should
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: she say? There are organizations that have been destroyed with
• 30:50
  Speaker 3: tail bearers. They employed one employee... We now have rumors
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: about everyone just so that the person can take their position.
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  Speaker 2: Let me tell you this.
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: Nobody can successfully gossip in your organization until they have
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: seen that you have low service team. Every gossip cash
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: out on your low service team because for you to
• 31:15
  Speaker 3: believe what they are saying, the gossip will have to
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: first massage your own ego. I have seen that you
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  Speaker 3: are a good master. I've never sat under a boss
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  Speaker 3: that is as kind as you.
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, just a suit.
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  Speaker 3: I say, if not for yesterday night, you need to
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: hear what I saw Nick say, what they said you are.
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: I was wondering, is this my boss? This is the
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: man I've sat with. I know him to be a
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: good man. Right now, the man is thinking about to
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: write resignation letter and tell the girl to resign for
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: something that he has not seen the sign in her life.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: Are there no homes that have been destroyed because of what?
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: You now believe an outsider over your own spouse. Somebody said,
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: we saw your wife, this, this, that. Say, my God,
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: I know she's a very useless woman. And when people
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: see that you don't really love your spouse, they will
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: destroy your meat, both of you, they will. They will
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  Speaker 3: come in, they will ravage the both of you and
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  Speaker 3: mess you up. There are people who need to divide
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  Speaker 3: your home to spoil it. They wear you of tailbearers.
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: When you take away wood, the fire goes out. It
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: will remove gossips in any environment. The strife will cease.
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: Be careful. Number three now. How do you deal with bitterness? Forgive. Forgive.
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  Speaker 2: This is.
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  Speaker 2: This is a very.
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  Speaker 3: Sensitive word, to forgive. Everybody lift up your right hand
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: and say, I forgive today. So, Pastor Tumishe, please come.
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: So what does he mean to forgive? Nakale, please stand
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  Speaker 3: behind him. I want to release the anointing.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: Now, look at this. Is your pastor, if he falls down.
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: So let me show you what it means to forgive.
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: I want to release the anointing. So I'm going unintentionally.
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: I bruised him. You see that now.
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: He looks at me. Can't you see what you have done?
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  Speaker 3: I say, that's the business of the king of your village.
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  Speaker 3: Go and tell the king of your village that I
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: pushed you.
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  Speaker 2: Nonsense. Get out of my sight. To look at this
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: person and say, just go. That's maturity. That's maturity.
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: It takes having a divine nature to have the opportunity
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  Speaker 3: to retaliate and choose to say go. That you forgive
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  Speaker 3: doesn't mean you are weak. It means you understand something
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  Speaker 3: the offender doesn't understand.
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  Speaker 2: Listen to what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: That you forgive doesn't mean the offender has changed. That
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: you forgive doesn't mean the offender has repented. That you
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: forgive doesn't mean that the offender will not repeat it.
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: So I see stories like, how do I forgive a
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: man who keep hurting me? Let me tell you something.
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: If I come this first time, like I did the
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  Speaker 3: other time, and I push him, he falls, stand again.
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: I come again the second time, I push him again,
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: he falls. I come again the third time, I push
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: him again, he falls. Who is the fool here?
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: Him. You know why?
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: You must get away from the level where you can
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: be emotionally reached.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: Let me tell you what that means.
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: What that means is, if you will not stop doing this,
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: I choose to outgrow you.
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: How do I outgrow you?
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: Keep doing what you are doing, but you will not
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: meet the same perpetual go back and cry. I now
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: understand that you must have a problem to be like this.
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: Somebody is talking to you and talking you down in
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: a way that wants to bring out pain and poison
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  Speaker 3: from you. You must learn to see the person for
• 35:21
  Speaker 3: who they are. This is what you want to bring
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  Speaker 3: out of me. Because I know if you are too
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: much in pain, you will not see beyond the smoke screen.
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: Talking you down. Talking you down. Do you know how
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: foolish you are? How stupid you are? How condescending your
• 35:40
  Speaker 3: behavior is? How dis, how unwise, how blah, blah, blah, blah.
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: This is what you want. That I will always sit
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: down here and sulk and cry You want to have
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: a man or a woman who is deranged and broken.
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: Since you have refused to change, I'll get out of
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: that zone where you can do that. Come back and
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: talk again, but it's not the same old me you
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: will meet. You are still saying the same word. There
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: comes a time that, let me tell you, people who
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: curse and talk people down with words, what hurts them
• 36:24
  Speaker 3: the most is to see that you are not hurt.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: Are you not the one I'm talking to? You mean
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: all the things I'm saying?
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: You are looking at me as if a dog is barking?
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: What are they saying?
• 36:35
  Speaker 3: I'm pressing a sensor, trying to get an emotion from you.
• 36:39
  Speaker 3: Why are you not giving me? You used to be
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: my proprietor. I know the key to press, and you
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: break down. If they will not stop pressing that key,
• 36:45
  Speaker 3: they refuse to break down. Every time the person, you
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: know what they're about to do. You know what they're
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: about to say. Toxic things, painful things.
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  Speaker 2: Outgrow them. I shared my story with you.
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: A woman was, ought to be the most all my life,
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: called me for 16 minutes, was raining curses as a teenager.
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: I was saying things. I removed the phone from my
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: ears and placed it on my bed. When she was
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: done by herself, I'm sure she must have said, hello, hello, hello, hello, hello,
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  Speaker 3: network on, I don't care. She ended it herself. So
• 37:26
  Speaker 3: I called her back after about an hour. And I
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: said to her, I said, I know the reason why
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: you are shouting. And I know the reason why you
• 37:35
  Speaker 3: are talking and saying the things you are saying. I
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: said to her, you are afraid of me.
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you mean?
• 37:41
  Speaker 3: I said, you are afraid of me. I said, you
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: know that the hand of God is upon my life
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: and it will lift me up. And you are afraid
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: that I will remember all the things you have done
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  Speaker 3: since I was growing and I will afflict your children.
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: But you don't know who I am. I love you
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: and I love them with my entire life. The woman
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: broke down in tears. That is what it means to
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: take your emotions away from rich. Outgrow them. And you
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  Speaker 3: see that they are children. I know with all these things,
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: I'm somebody saying, but this person must answer his case
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  Speaker 3: before God.
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: That is between him and God. But guess what?
• 38:15
  Speaker 3: The same way you repented, understand though, the same blood
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  Speaker 3: that saved you is on ground.
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  Speaker 2: To save him.
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: And it is in God's interest that he will not
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: go to hell. Are you following what I'm saying here?
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: So that you will not say, I forgive you, but
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: I'm waiting for you in eternity. See, I forgive you,
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: I forgive you, but I will see him born in hell.
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: So one day I'm going to stand at the bosom
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: of Abraham and see him cry for water. My brother,
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: you have not forgiven. You have not forgiven. Let me
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: tell you this. Forgiveness is not complete until you no
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: longer want the person to go through the kind of
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: pain you went through.
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  Speaker 2: It is a deep matter. Think of the biggest pain
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  Speaker 2: right now in your life.
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  Speaker 3: All the things you remember that followed you from your
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: childhood stage down to adulthood. The statements they said about you.
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: How they said the shape of your head was. How
• 39:21
  Speaker 3: they called you a witch. How they called you different names.
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: How you went to a pastor who prayed for your
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: family and singled you out and said, this one I'm
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: your children is a witch. How one particular uncle that
• 39:33
  Speaker 3: the family trusted will open your clothes at night and
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: try to touch you.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: Remember all those pains that affected.
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: The way you perceive men, the way you see life,
• 39:42
  Speaker 3: the way you see people.
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: Remember!
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: Put your fenders side by side with the pain in
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: your mind right now. You know one thing about the
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: mind is, whatever it is you think about, the flood
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: of emotion that comes with it comes also. So you
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: look at that person, you are boiling in your heart.
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  Speaker 3: And then this year has gone by, everybody still call
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: this person daddy. But nobody knows this person is a predator.
• 40:07
  Speaker 3: Put the person side by side now in your mind.
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  Speaker 3: And say, true Christ, that strengthens me.
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  Speaker 2: I forgive you.
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: The person may see God falling and say, useless child,
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: how are you? The version of me that will be
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: hurt died yesterday. Are there forgiveness that comes with tears?
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: I tell you, there are forgiveness that takes weeks.
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: You will cry. So you will now begin to see
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: how deeply rooted you are.
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: Have you seen where somebody has boil and they are
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: trying to get out the boss? That is how it
• 40:43
  Speaker 3: is when you are trying to get out pain from
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: your mind. Something really bad is going on there. You see,
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: there are people who are not worthy of forgiveness. You
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: forgive them not because they are worthy of it. You
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: forgive them because... You have to forgive them their trespasses
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  Speaker 3: even after your father who is in heaven forgives you also.
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  Speaker 2: When will you be free from that prison? They are
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: not the ones inside. It is you.
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  Speaker 3: Unfortunately, many of these people are so insensitive that every
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: blessed day they don't even think about your existence and
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: they still go about hurting others. You get out of
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: that prison for your own sake. But if you know,
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: listen to what I'm saying. If you have an idea
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: of what people have had to endure. A woman is
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: there knowing that the husband is eating on her best friend.
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: And the best friend will still greet her. Knowing that
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: the husband is trying to sleep with the younger sister.
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: And she keeps it in her heart.
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: Knowing that the man is trying to do this and
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: she's wondering.
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: You say, how do I forgive such kind of man?
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: This man has made me a bitter woman. He has
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: made me deranged.
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: Or a woman who has never honored her husband, not
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  Speaker 3: for a day in her life. When she look at him,
• 42:16
  Speaker 3: all she sees is a man she wants to hurt.
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: He reminds her of all the pain and the agony
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: she has been through. And the man is saying, if
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: I'm your husband, where's my honor? But honor can't flow
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: where there's pain. Some of you will need to call
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: people today.
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: Today. And say, I forgive you. The response is useless.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: What do you mean?
• 42:44
  Speaker 3: You see this momo, you still say you didn't forgive me.
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: Who do you say you be now?
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: Say, don't worry. I forgive you. Just go. You are
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: the victim, not me. I let go.
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: You can never truly heal. until you take that step
• 43:05
  Speaker 3: of forgiveness. And sometimes to seal it up, you have
• 43:08
  Speaker 3: to tell the person to their face, I forgive you.
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: Some children will have to go and look at their
• 43:15
  Speaker 3: father and say, for the pain you have caused me
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: and all my younger ones, for the pain you have
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: caused my mother, I forgive you. Some children will have
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: to go and tell their mother, for abandoning us, for
• 43:28
  Speaker 3: all the things you have done. For all the things, this, this,
• 43:31
  Speaker 3: the way you were not there, the way you hated
• 43:33
  Speaker 3: me in particular, I forgive you. God wants them to
• 43:38
  Speaker 3: live a good life. While God is busy on your matter,
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: he's also busy on their matter.
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: He's trying to find, and.
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: Many times, the fellow who began this bitterness is not
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: even them.
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: He's the father of their own father.
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: And the thing has been passing from one person to another.
• 43:57
  Speaker 3: Lift your right hand where you see it. Say, Father,
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: in the name of Jesus. You are not saying it well.
• 44:04
  Speaker 3: From today, I forgive and I let go.
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: Can I give you a minute to think about someone
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: and bring.
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: The person on the table of your heart right now.
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: Call their names. It may cost you tears.
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: It may be that the only way you are coping
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: with life is never to remember these people. But now
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: you have to. You have to summon them to the
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: court of your heart. And say, Lord, I let go.
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: I receive grace today to let go this matter. Let
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: go of this matter. I receive grace for this matter
• 44:52
  Speaker 3: to die a natural death. I forgive.
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: I forgive. If you feel you have to kneel down, kneel.
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: If you feel you have to. It doesn't matter.
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: The church is God's way of reaching us. It is
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: a spiritual clinic. Take a posture you know you understand.
• 45:10
  Speaker 3: That reflect exactly how you feel. Some of you will
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: have to go and burn certain journals today. The journals
• 45:19
  Speaker 3: where you write all the things that.
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: Have pained you. Where you chronicled all of them. You
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: will read them again. The memories come back.
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: Some of you will have to go and pick the
• 45:27
  Speaker 3: journals and tear it to pieces and say.
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: The things of the past will I remember no more.
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: I let go.
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: I choose to begin a new life today on the
• 45:38
  Speaker 3: bill of God's grace. I choose to begin a new
• 45:43
  Speaker 3: life on the bill of God's mercies.
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: I choose to begin a new life. I let go.
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: In Jesus' name we're praying. Look up everybody.
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: In Genesis chapter number 3, when God came down and
• 46:05
  Speaker 3: he saw that both Adam and his wife were naked,
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: God said.
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: Who told you that you are what? Naked.
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: That was the first abuse man was exposed to, verbal abuse.
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  Speaker 3: For someone to look at you and call you what
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  Speaker 3: you are not That was what the devil did. And
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  Speaker 3: many times it runs deep. There are things people would
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  Speaker 3: now have their money, working for their money, have their family,
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  Speaker 3: but they are still chains. They know it is there
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  Speaker 3: and they know it is a product of upbringing. The
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  Speaker 3: girl is so fine, everybody can see it. The boy
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  Speaker 3: is handsome and industrious, but will never believe that he is.
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  Speaker 3: When they say, my God, you look so beautiful, say really,
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  Speaker 3: And in her mind, what she remembers all the time
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  Speaker 3: is the words of the stepmother. You look like whatever
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  Speaker 3: she calls her. And you look at your life and say,
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  Speaker 3: these people have caused me so much pain. In order
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  Speaker 3: for them not to have taken your past and also
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  Speaker 3: take the future, let them go now. They have affected
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  Speaker 3: the past. They've done strange things to you. They've messed
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  Speaker 3: up your mind. Don't give them the opportunity to also
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  Speaker 3: affect your future. That your children will not see you
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  Speaker 3: as a bitter father. That the reason why you are
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  Speaker 3: doing the things you are doing is because you are
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  Speaker 3: in pain. Now they look at all that. You have
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  Speaker 3: a good heart. You are loving. You are trusting.
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  Speaker 2: You are genuine. You are kind.
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  Speaker 3: But when you are hurt, you don't know how far
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  Speaker 3: it's too far. Everybody must be served around. But you
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  Speaker 3: truly love people. And now the perception of people about
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  Speaker 3: you is bad. That is a sign you need to
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  Speaker 3: change your strategy. What you are doing is not working.
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  Speaker 3: And if you continue like that, the only narrative there
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  Speaker 3: will be about you is that you are a witch.
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  Speaker 3: And there will be no one to defend you because
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  Speaker 3: all those who should would have been bruised by you too.
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  Speaker 2: So what do you do? Get up. Forgive.
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  Speaker 3: Don't make anybody make you a fool. And don't make
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  Speaker 3: a fool out of yourself. This life is not that nice.
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  Speaker 3: There are dangerous people around. Are you following what I'm
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  Speaker 3: saying there? Are you aware there are people you know
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  Speaker 3: in your family as bad? Meanwhile, they are the nicest.
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  Speaker 3: They are the nicest. Everybody believe this sister. Maybe the
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  Speaker 3: fellow is now even trusting God for a child. They say, no,
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  Speaker 3: it's because of the wickedness. Meanwhile, this fellow is not wicked.
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  Speaker 3: This fellow is just pained. They have done things to
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  Speaker 3: her in that family that it will take growing up
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  Speaker 3: for everybody to understand what she has endured.
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  Speaker 2: But this is the narrative. The bad witch. The wicked woman.
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  Speaker 2: The this and the that.
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  Speaker 3: And she has allowed it so because she is not
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  Speaker 3: managing the emotions well.
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  Speaker 2: You must forgive. You must.
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  Speaker 3: Lift your hands again. And say, Father, again I repent.
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  Speaker 3: my heart before you. Help me heal. Help me forgive truly.
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  Speaker 3: Help me. At this point, I really don't think I
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  Speaker 3: have the capacity in myself to. At this point, I
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  Speaker 3: don't really think I have the strength in myself to.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe you are here. Somebody has dented your image. There's
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  Speaker 3: been character assassination. You don't even know where to start from.
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  Speaker 3: And you have given up now. Since they have destroyed
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  Speaker 3: my image, let me just do the bad things too.
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  Speaker 2: Who cares anymore? No, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 3: You won't go that route. You won't go that route.
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  Speaker 3: And I want us to truly pray. I want us
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  Speaker 3: to truly pray. You might see a man out there
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  Speaker 3: who is just crying like a child. No, no, no.
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  Speaker 2: It is the move of the Spirit. Sometimes you need
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  Speaker 2: to vent.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes the tears are necessary because a new beginning is here.
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  Speaker 2: Please cry. Just leave it. Look up. When you fail
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  Speaker 2: to forgive.
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  Speaker 3: and you are dealing with manipulative people, you become the
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  Speaker 3: ultimate victim. Both before God and men. God knows my heart,
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  Speaker 3: knows how good I am. Sometimes you too, are you
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  Speaker 3: following what I'm saying here? Both before God and men.
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  Speaker 3: I choose to walk in wisdom.
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  Speaker 2: I choose. I will not respond to this issue the
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  Speaker 2: way it is coming. Amen. I will be wrong.
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  Speaker 3: I choose to see it in a different dimension. I
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  Speaker 3: choose to embrace grace.
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  Speaker 2: I choose. I choose.
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  Speaker 3: If there are people that you need to call, call them.
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  Speaker 3: This is not an altar call. But there are some
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  Speaker 3: of you who actually know that the strength to do
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  Speaker 3: what you are doing on your seat is not there.
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  Speaker 2: I should actually be out before the Lord and cry
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  Speaker 2: myself out.
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  Speaker 3: Nobody will hold you down. I've carried this pain. I've
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  Speaker 3: carried this burden. I've carried this anger since I can remember.
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  Speaker 3: I come before you, Lord, and I lay down. If
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  Speaker 3: you know you have to be here, be here right now.
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  Speaker 3: Nobody cares about Nobody is going to hold you back.
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  Speaker 3: I bring out my pain, my burden, my trouble, my trauma.
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  Speaker 3: The bitterness of my soul.
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  Speaker 2: I bring them out. I can't go on like this anymore.
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  Speaker 2: I can't. I lay them at the altar. Pick any
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  Speaker 2: spot you want.
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  Speaker 3: Pick any spot you want. I lay them at the altar.
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  Speaker 3: I choose to trust you, Lord. I choose to trust you.
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  Speaker 3: I am no longer seeking for vengeance.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 6: No.
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  Speaker 3: I embrace peace. I am no longer seeking for vengeance.
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  Speaker 6: No.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 5: No.
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  Speaker 3: Shake up the dust that has gathered on you for
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  Speaker 3: so long. Step out of the darkness of shame you
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  Speaker 3: have wrapped yourself in. There is hope for a tree
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  Speaker 3: that is cut down, because at the scent of water
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  Speaker 3: it shall spring back to life again. Ego, you are
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  Speaker 3: a soldier in the army of God, and the host
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  Speaker 3: awaits your response to declare your call. It's time to
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  Speaker 3: shake off the dust. The balm of Gilead is here.
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  Speaker 3: And is here to truly help you heal. He's the
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  Speaker 3: lily of the valley. He's here to help.
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  Speaker 2: Yes. He's here to help.
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  Speaker 3: And sometimes the person you have really not forgiven is yourself.
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  Speaker 2: How did I make this mistake? How did I allow
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  Speaker 2: myself to go there? How did I allow myself to
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  Speaker 2: do this? Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself. Sometimes you are hungry
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  Speaker 2: at the society, pained by the church.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to have anything to do with church again.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to have anything to do with Christians again.
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  Speaker 3: But really, you let go. There's somebody saying the church
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  Speaker 3: killed my mother. The church did. She could have walked
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  Speaker 3: out from that abusive marriage. But they kept saying this
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  Speaker 3: till she died.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I'm angry. Forgive. It's been how many months now?
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  Speaker 2: It's been how many years now? Forgive. Forgive. My younger
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  Speaker 2: brother died. We prayed all the prayers we could pray.
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  Speaker 2: He could not come back to life. I'm angry. Forgive.
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  Speaker 3: As long as there is breath in our nostrils, I
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  Speaker 3: can bet it that we will not have answers to
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  Speaker 3: all our questions. Till we see him face to face
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  Speaker 3: as he is. Then will the deepest questions of our
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  Speaker 3: hearts be heard. And the deepest longings of our hearts
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  Speaker 3: be satisfied. While we are in this world, the Bible
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  Speaker 3: said we will have tribulations. We will face problems. We
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  Speaker 3: will be accused wrongly.
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  Speaker 2: We will be lied against. We will be hated.
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  Speaker 3: People that you have helped will manipulate people against you.
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  Speaker 3: But he said, be of good cheer. For I have
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  Speaker 3: overcome the world. So when we are here outside, we
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  Speaker 3: are not here because we are weak.
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  Speaker 4: We are weak.
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  Speaker 3: We are here because we lean on His strength. We
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  Speaker 3: are here because we have come to the hand of ourselves.
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  Speaker 3: We are here because we've come to the hand of
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  Speaker 3: our hope. We are here because this is the last hope.
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  Speaker 3: This is the last hope. That you will.
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  Speaker 2: Heal your children, Lord. That you will heal, Lord. Heal marriages.
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  Speaker 2: When you look at your spouse now, you don't even
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  Speaker 2: know what you see. You don't know what you see.
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  Speaker 2: All you know is that you are not seeing the
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  Speaker 2: person you fell in love with.
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  Speaker 5: No.
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  Speaker 2: You are only clouded with the pain.
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  Speaker 6: Forgive.
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  Speaker 2: Forgive.
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  Speaker 3: Where do I go from here? My reputation has been damaged.
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  Speaker 3: My image has been scattered. What do I do with
• 57:08
  Speaker 3: my life now?
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  Speaker 2: Forgive. Start from there. I need you, Lord, I need you.
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  Speaker 6: Everything, I need you. Help me, Lord, save you.
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  Speaker 3: I run too deep. Somebody promised you marriage only for
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  Speaker 3: you to find out that you were the only one
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  Speaker 3: in the relationship.
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  Speaker 2: Forgive. Forgive. He's left your life now but keeps saying
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  Speaker 2: bad things about you. Forgive. That is where your journey
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  Speaker 2: truly starts from. Forgive. I need you. Oh, I need you.
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  Speaker 2: I need you.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, bless me now, my Savior, I run to you.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, Lord. Thank you, Lord. Thank you, Lord.
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  Speaker 3: In Jesus' mighty name, we are praying. Those of you
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  Speaker 3: in front, do you mind I agree with you in prayers?
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  Speaker 3: Let me agree with you in prayers. If you can stand,
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  Speaker 3: please stand. Let me agree with you in prayers. And
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  Speaker 3: if you know you actually ought to be out, you
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  Speaker 3: can join.
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  Speaker 2: Let me share a story with you. I shared a
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  Speaker 2: story before. Of a man that....
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  Speaker 3: His wife died while the marriage was still young. And
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  Speaker 3: they had just a girl. And the man vowed that
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  Speaker 3: he will not remarry. But all the affection he has
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  Speaker 3: for the wife, he will channel all the affection to
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  Speaker 3: the girl and train the girl until she becomes somebody
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  Speaker 3: in life. When the girl brought a man home to
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  Speaker 3: Show the father that this is the man I want
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 3: to marry. The man begged him. This girl is my life.
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  Speaker 3: She's my everything. Don't beat her. If she does anything
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 3: to you, report her.
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  Speaker 2: She's my life.
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 3: And it was like the guy went on to do
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 3: the exact opposite. He will beat the girl. He will
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 3: bruise her face. They had to package her several times.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 3: And the father held him, held the guy in his heart.
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 3: And after a while, he became very sick. They did
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 3: everything they could. They prayed. It was just swelling. They prayed,
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 3: they fasted, it was swelling. Till a man of God
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  Speaker 3: prayed for him and said, there's somebody you have not forgiven.
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  Speaker 2: So it's true.
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  Speaker 3: He invited the daughter's husband. Already at that point, the
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  Speaker 3: daughter was already back to living with him. And he
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  Speaker 3: held the guy and was shaking and crying.
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  Speaker 2: Just saying one word, I forgive you. I forgive you.
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 2: I forgive you.
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  Speaker 3: And what they noticed was that the wedding ring the
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 3: old man was wearing just fell.
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  Speaker 2: What happened? In the course of holding the guy, he shrank.
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  Speaker 2: He shrank back.
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  Speaker 3: The devil is so brutal that despite your pain, he
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  Speaker 3: can even inflict you with sickness.
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 2: Because unforgiveness is you violating a law. Lift your hands.
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  Speaker 3: I decree today that you receive grace. Every injury in
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 3: that heart is healed. I ask that you receive divine
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 3: enablement and the spirit of boldness. To let go this
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 3: deepest issue in your heart. And the knowledge of God
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 3: that passes understanding will keep you. And his grace will
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  Speaker 3: preserve you. It will help your heart and mind. And
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 3: you will receive perfect healing in the name of Jesus.
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  Speaker 3: I ask that anything that you are currently suffering as
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  Speaker 3: a result of what has been done against you, the
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  Speaker 3: Lord himself will help you.
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  Speaker 2: He will help you recover in totality. In the name
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  Speaker 2: of Jesus. It is done. In Jesus' mighty name. Amen.
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  Speaker 2: It is done. It is done.
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  Speaker 3: Whatever step you have to take from here as the
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 3: Lord leads you, go ahead and do it.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, Jesus. You may go back to your seat.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, Lord. Have you been blessed today?
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  Speaker 3: Let's put our hands together for Jesus.
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