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10 Phrases narcissistic people may use to gaslight you · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist, Mr. Lee Hammock,
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This your first time sitting in
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  my face or hearing my voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and I use my platform on social media to raise
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  awareness for NPD, get more people in the therapy and also
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  validate the victims, survivors and thrivers of said disorder,
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  said Toxy. People said toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about 10.
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  Gas lighting phrases or terms that narcissistic, toxic people,
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  manipulative people will use on you to mess with your minds.
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  Before we hop into today's episode, y'all make sure you
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  All the other good stuff after a toxic relationship dynamic.
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  So if you don't know what gas lighting is, it's a form of
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  psychological abuse, psychological manipulation.
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  That makes the person, the abused person, question their
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  reality, their sanity, and you know, their memory of certain
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  events, time and whatnot. Y'all.
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  It's really just mind games. You know?
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  A lot of people call gaslighting crazy making, so I'm going to go
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  over 10 phrases. There could be more.
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  If you hear any more gaslighting phrases, just let me know in the
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  conversation. You mean let me know.
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  In the conversation should be an e-mail.
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  Hey Lee, you missed this one. I am going to miss phrases.
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  Y'all this is not all the phrases.
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  This is just 10 that I saw. And I'm going to go into, I'm
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  going to describe for you number one, stop being so insecure.
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  Stop being insecure. Y'all narcissistic people, toxic
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  people, will literally weaponize your insecurities against you.
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  Are people insecure? Yes.
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  But narcissistic people themselves ourselves are super
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  insecure people. We might appear to be super
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  confident in things like that, but internally we are super
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  insecure people. And that's just me being
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  realistic with you. That's me being real with you.
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  But narcissistic people, when they get to know you and they
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  you, they learn what makes you insecure.
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  Because maybe you've told them. Maybe they've they've observed
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  you and maybe they've just been analyzing you.
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  They will weaponize your insecurities against you once
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  you try to accuse them of something.
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  Once they try to, you accusing them of something or trying to
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  hold them accountable here, guess what?
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  You're being too insecure. You're being so insecure you
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  mean. Maybe because you're you're
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  overweight that you think this way.
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  Maybe it's because you drank too much.
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  You think this way. Maybe because you lost or mom
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  you're you lost your dad or whatever.
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  Maybe you're super insecure about your looks, your hair.
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  Maybe because you're going bald is the reason why you're trying
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  to worry about me in this situation, The reason you're
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  accusing me of this Blah blah blah Boo Boo Boo Boo BBB.
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  That's number one. Y'all.
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  You're so insecure #2 you're just being paranoid.
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  We try to accuse a narcissistic person.
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  You catch them up with something.
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  They'll call you paranoid. They will play on your paranoia
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  to make you see. You know paranoia is just
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  irrational fears. They'll make it seem like you
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  are just being paranoid as hell. You losing your mind.
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  So how dare you accuse me of this?
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  You're paranoid. You're losing your mind.
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  What you see is not real. What you smell is not real.
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  What you hear is not real. What you taste is not real.
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  They have you questioning your senses.
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  Y'all. Paranoid.
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  You're so paranoid. Got you, They got you.
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  But you again, y'all. A lot of these gas lighting
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  phrases are going to be also a little bit of projection in them
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  into them because a lot of narcissists like I say about it
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  being insecure. A lot of those narcissists, the
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  people also super paranoid. I know I am.
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  I have a high level paranoia within me #3.
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  You're being too emotional when you are reacting to something
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  they had that they have done to you or you are trying to hold
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  them accountable. Accountability is going to be a
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  consistent word in this video. Y'all.
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  When you try to hold them accountable or you're reacting,
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  you actually have it you you're having a genuine reaction to
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  something that they have done to you.
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  They will just say, hey, you're being too emotional, but yeah,
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  you are a human being. You should be emotional.
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  Human beings have emotions. Narcissists have emotions.
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  We just don't like to express them in a healthy way or we
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  don't know how to express them in a healthy way.
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  The main emotion you see narcissistic people expression
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  expressing is probably going to be rage or anger or something
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  along those lines. So they'll just weaponize your
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  emotion that your emotional capacity.
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  They'll use it against you to make you feel like you're going
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  crazy. They'll use it against you to
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  make you question your reality or make you question what it
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  what is actually going on. You know what I mean?
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  You're you're being too emotional.
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  Number four, stop taking everything so seriously.
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  How dare you be serious about holding me accountable.
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  How dare you be serious about living your life the way you
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  want to live it. How dare you?
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  You know, how dare you. How dare you?
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  You may take this seriously and it yeah, it could be a serious
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  matter. It could be a very, very serious
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  matter that a narcissistic person is trying to minimize.
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  They'll make it. They'll make it seem like you
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  can't take a joke. You see what I'm saying?
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  You you can't take a joke. They might say something
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  horrible to you, but then they'll say, oh I was just
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  joking, I was just playing with you.
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  You'll be like you take everything so seriously.
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  You you overreacting. There you go.
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  You're taking away, you're taking everything too seriously.
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  Stop taking everything so seriously.
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  You can't take a joke. Rabo Rabo Rabo.
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  You're no fun to be around Rabo Rabo Rabo because you take
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  everything too seriously. You know what I mean #5 I'm not
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  the problem. You are.
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  They will make it seem like you are the problematic person in
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  here, even though it's them. Doing something problematic to
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  you. Doing something.
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  Doing something or have done something horrible to you.
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  Something malicious to you, Something crazy to you,
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  Something bad to you. You mean something that violated
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  your boundaries. They'll make it seem like you
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  you having boundaries is the problem and not them violating
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  said boundaries. They'll make you feel like your
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  boundaries are stupid. You see what I'm saying?
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  I'm not the problem. You are.
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  You are the problem Because you you don't know how to act.
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  You are the problem because you do this.
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  You do that. No, not me.
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  Not about, not about. Not my behaviors, not my
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  actions. You are the problem, and how you
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  took it is the problem. You see what I'm saying?
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  You get a lot of narcissists. The people that will just blame,
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  deflect, and put it onto you, put your reaction over their
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  actual actions. Your reactions to my actions is
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  the actual problem. Not my actions.
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  You know what I mean? There's a lot of narcissists
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  that people would do right there.
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  Y'all number six. That wasn't my intention.
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  Y'all know I have a new shirt out that says intent.
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  Impact over intent. It doesn't matter what their
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  intentions is when the impact is devastating to you.
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  I didn't intend to hurt you by cheating on you.
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  Y'all that's a lie. It's manipulation that's making
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  you question the authenticity. I didn't mean to her.
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  I never meant to hurt you. You slept with my brother, you
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  slept with my sister. You slept with my dad and my
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  uncle, my cousin. I never meant to hurt you.
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  You shot at me. You, you you you took it.
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  You you tried to stab. You never meant to hurt me.
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  What are you talking about? You see what I'm saying?
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  That wasn't my intent. My intention was to love you and
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  be there for you. But I know I hurt you.
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  Y'all. It doesn't matter what their
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  intent is. A lot of times their intent is
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  to hurt you. A lot of times their intent is
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  just not to get caught. But their impact is hurting you.
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  Impact over intent. Impact over intent.
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  What was the impact? Focus Like this is how you deal
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  with the situation. Right Here.
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  This one. Focus on the impact, not the
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  intention. I didn't mean that you know you
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  have a baby all the way luck. I didn't mean to get pregnant by
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  somebody else. I didn't mean to steal your car.
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  I would just put the keys in ignition.
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  It wasn't my intent. Y'all.
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  They're trying to make you question your reality right
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  there. Even in that situation right
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  there. Insight #7 it was is just old
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  faithful y'all #7 you are crazy or you need help.
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  They'll make it seem like you are literally going crazy.
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  It's crazy making a lot of times when I, especially when I'm
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  doing my one on ones over Zoom, which I still do.
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  Mental illness.net. A lot of times they'll make you
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  seem like you are going crazy when you are just having a
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  general reaction, a general reaction to something they have
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  done. You're you like, your reaction
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  is valid, your feelings are valid.
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  Your your emotions are valid in this situation, but they'll make
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  you feel like you're going crazy because you might not actual
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  have. You might not have actual proof
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  of what's going on, and even if you do have proof.
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  Is screenshot. Oh, you did that.
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  That's a I generated. You mean you use a I to make
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  that picture right there. You use you use a I for this.
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  You use a I for that. You see what I'm saying?
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  They'll make you feel like you're going crazy.
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  They'll have you question their reality.
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  I thought you said you never went to McDonald's.
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  I didn't go to McDonald's. Chickfila ran out of bags.
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  Then they're giving out McDonald's bags.
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  See you just you going crazy. See.
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  See. See.
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  Old faithful right there. Y'all.
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  That's the most common one. I probably is you.
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  You are crazy. You mean #8.
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  You're misremembering things. You are remembering it wrong. #8
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  is you are remembering it wrong. They make this, this right here,
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  just straight up gas lighting. This is the this is this isn't
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  even beating around the Bush, this is in the Bush, this is in
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  the brush. This is trying to get out the
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  brush, trying to come through the brush and all the other good
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  stuff You are remembering it wrong.
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  They just straight up questioning your memory now.
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  And if you are a forgetful person, they got you.
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  If you if you've ever forgotten something before and they
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  remember you forgetting something, they got you right
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  here. Y'all they're going to, they're
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  going to focus on something that you've forgotten in the past.
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  Not right now. Not in the present.
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  They're going to focus on something that you have
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  forgotten in the past, maybe four or five years ago,
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  something like that. Not in this present moment.
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  But they're going to use that to show proof that you are
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  forgetful or that you are remembering.
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  You have a history of remembering it wrong.
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  They're going to use that and focus on it.
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  Y'all. Focus on the past.
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  You're not remembering it wrong. This is exactly how it happened.
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  This is what you're seeing is what actually happened.
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  You don't mean #9. Everyone agrees with me.
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  This right here is one of the most boldfaced toxic,
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  narcissistic lies right here. Y'all everyone else agrees with
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  me. All my friends think you're
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  crazy. My mom hates you.
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  The pastor, the pastor told me he's going to pray.
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  The pastor said he's going to pray for you.
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  Pastor Sheila said she was going to pray for you because you
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  crazy. She agree with me.
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  She know I didn't. She know cheat name wrong.
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  She know I put my hands on you because you deserved it.
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  Everybody thinks you're crazy. Y'all This is one of the most
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  gaslighting statements because a lot of times narcissistic people
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  are. Even if they are telling their
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  friends about you, they're not telling the truth.
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  You said they're giving. They're giving their friends one
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  side of the story and the the side of the story that makes
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  them look good. The side of the story that
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  benefits them in some way, shape, or form.
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  The side of the story that makes them feel good about themselves.
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  You see what I'm saying? This happens quite a bit in
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  these situations, Y'all this is one of those things that you're
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  just going to keep happening in touch.
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  Relationship dynamics where they just make it seem like their
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  friends and family are against you, even if they might not be.
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  Sometimes the friends and family are against you.
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  Y'all. Sometimes the friends and family
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  don't like you. But a lot of times they haven't
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  told the friends and family. They're just using that phrase
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  to make it seem like that that you are the issue.
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  Like my friends and my friends hate you.
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  My family don't like you because it is because of that the family
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  don't even know who you are sometimes.
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  You know what I mean? But in the last statement, y'all
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  the coup de grace gaslighting isn't real.
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  If you question them about gaslighting them, if you hey,
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  stop gaslighting me, they'll make you seem like yeah, they
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  will absolutely make absolutely use the term.
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  Gaslighting isn't real on you. They'll make it sound like
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  you're crazy and you made-up the term gaslight and it's like some
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  psycho Babble that you hear it on TikTok or Instagram or
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  YouTube or something like that. What did you get these terms
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  from? Who you watching?
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  Turn off that Lee Hammock. He's crazy.
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  Lee Hammock is not even real. He's not even a real narcissist.
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  He's a fake narcissist. He's an A I generated
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  narcissist. You know what I'm saying?
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  They'll make it sound like I'm the problem or whoever you're
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  watching is the problem. They'll make it sound like
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  gaslighting or something. People victims made-up or
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  something. Something that somebody made-up
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  to stay in victim mode, to blame somebody else for their own
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  actions and their own consequences.
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  Yeah, gas lighting is absolutely real.
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  Don't let anybody convince you otherwise, you the man.
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  Because that they can convince you that gas lighting isn't
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  real, they got you, or that they're or that they're not gas
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  lighting you. If they get you to question
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  their your reality and agree with them, they got you.
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  Stay. Look how to deal with gas
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  lighting. There's another video coming up.
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  Don't argue the truth. If you have evidence, if you
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  You don't like that. If you have it and you have
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  witnesses. Trust it.
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  Don't argue the truth. Y'all because when you start
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  arguing the truth because all of these right here, most of these
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  terms and these phrases come from them Trying to get you to
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  argue the truth. Trying to get you to argue
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  reality. Try to get you to argue
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  validity. Don't argue the truth.
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  Don't argue validity. Don't argue for your your fact
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