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Dream Bigger: Give Your Dreams Permission to Grow · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we are realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is another Motivational Monday episode,
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  Dreams Doing What Dreams Do.
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  Listen, y'all, there is a reason why you have heard before and you will hear
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  me say again, dream big dreams.
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  And sometimes I'll take it a little further and tell you dream bigger dreams,
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  because dreams have a job to do.
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  Dreams get your wheels turning. Dreams give you drive.
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  Dreams give you direction. Dreams dictate your future and sometimes the problem
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  isn't that your dream is impossible.
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  The problem is that you've allowed your current reality to convince you to dream too small.
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  See, somewhere along the way, life has a way of making us practical. Bills start billing.
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  Responsibilities start requiring. Problems start probleming.
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  People start peopling. And suddenly, that person who once believed they could
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  do anything starts asking themselves, but is that realistic?
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  Listen, realistic according to who? Because some of the things you're living
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  in right now were once unrealistic.
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  There was a time when something you currently have was something you only hoped to have.
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  Something you currently do was something you only wanted to do.
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  Somewhere along the way, yesterday's dream became today's normal.
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  That is a dream doing what dreams do.
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  Dreams disturb your comfort. A real dream will make your current position uncomfortable.
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  Not because where you are is necessarily bad, but because now you have seen where you could be.
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  And once your mind gets a glimpse of possibility, settling starts feeling different.
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  You start asking, what else is possible for me?
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  What would happen if I actually tried? What would happen if I stopped talking
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  myself out of the thing I keep talking or keep thinking about?
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  What would happen if I gave this dream the same energy I've been giving my doubts?
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  Because sometimes we don't have a dream problem. We have a permission problem.
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  We are waiting for somebody to tell us that it's okay to want more.
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  More peace. More purpose. More money.
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  More freedom, more fulfillment, more impact, more life.
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  Well, Coach C came to give you permission today. Want more.
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  Not because you're ungrateful for what you have, but because gratitude for where
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  you are and hunger for where you're going can occupy the same space.
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  Dreams give you direction. Dreams aren't just pretty pictures in your head.
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  A dream can become a destination.
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  And once you have a destination, you can start developing directions.
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  Because listen, GPS can't route you somewhere you refuse to identify.
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  You can't keep saying, I want something different, while refusing to define
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  what different looks like. What do you want?
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  Not what your mama wants, not what your partner thinks makes sense,
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  not what your friends understand, not what looks impressive on social media. What do you want?
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  Because when you become clear about the dream, you can start becoming intentional
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  about the decisions, and suddenly you begin noticing something.
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  The dream starts dictating the discipline.
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  If I dream about being healthier, my habits have to start heading toward health.
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  If I dream about owning the business, I have to start learning the business.
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  If I dream about earning the degree, eventually I have to enroll.
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  If I dream about financial freedom, my money needs instructions.
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  If I dream about building something that outlives me, I have to stop treating
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  my gifts like hobbies I only touch when I'm in the mood.
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  Dreams demand decisions. Dreams will make you move.
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  And this is where people get stuck because dreaming feels good.
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  Doing can get uncomfortable.
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  Everybody loves the vision board. But eventually, you've got to get off the
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  board and build the vision.
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  Because a dream without movement eventually becomes something you merely talk about.
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  You don't have to know every step. You don't need every resource.
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  You don't need everybody's approval.
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  You don't even have to feel completely ready.
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  You just need enough courage to take the next available step.
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  One phone call, one application, one workout,
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  one class, one post, one dollar saved, one boundary, one conversation,
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  one hour invested, one decision.
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  Because big dreams are often built through small decisions repeated long enough
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  for something extraordinary to happen.
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  And please understand this your dream does not have to make sense to people who are,
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  given the vision stop handing your dreams to people who only know how to calculate limitations
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  you tell them your dream and immediately they start telling you how expensive
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  it is how difficult it is how long it will take how many people fail
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  why now isn't the right time child thank you department of discouragement,
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  but I didn't ask you for the probability.
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  I told you the possibility. There is a difference.
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  Sometimes you have to protect a dream while it's still fragile enough to be
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  talked out of existence.
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  Let's grow it some roots before you expose it to everybody else's weather.
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  Dream wow. I want you to dare to dream wow. Dream beyond what you currently have.
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  Dream beyond what you currently know. Dream beyond your current resources.
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  Dream beyond your current circumstances.
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  Because your current circumstances are information.
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  They are not necessarily your final destination.
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  And I know somebody listening is thinking, Coach C, you don't understand. I tried before.
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  Okay, dream again.
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  I failed. Dream again. I lost time. Dream again.
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  I made mistakes. Dream again.
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  People laugh. Let them laugh. Dream again.
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  Because failure doesn't automatically cancel the dream.
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  Sometimes failure teaches you how the dream needs to be built.
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  And maybe this time you don't need a different dream. Maybe you need a different route.
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  Dreams do what dreams do.
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  Dreams wake something up inside of you
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  they remind you that there is still more life to live more work to do more places
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  to go more people to reach more things to build more versions of yourself to meet
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  and that is why i will continue telling you dream
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  big dreams matter of fact dream bigger dreams Dream dreams that make you nervous.
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  Dream dreams that require you to grow.
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  Dream dreams that make you pray differently, plan differently,
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  work differently, and walk differently.
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  Dream something so meaningful that the pursuit of it begins changing you before you ever possess it.
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  Because sometimes the first thing the dream builds is the dreamer.
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  Here's your fearless homework, the dream dare. This week, I want you to do three things.
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  One, write the round dream.
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  Write down one thing you would pursue if fear, money, age, opinions,
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  and failure could not vote.
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  Don't shrink it. Don't explain it. Don't make it respectable.
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  Write what you really want. 2.
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  Give the dream directions. Underneath it write, for this dream to become my reality, I need to.
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  Then identify three actions that would move you closer.
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  Not someday, not eventually, actually, actual actions.
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  Three, make one move in 72 hours Before 72 hours pass, do something
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  Send it, start it, research it, register for it Save toward it,
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  call about it, create it, apply for it Whatever,
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  your next move is, move Because we are not just dreaming this week We are giving
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  our dreams something to work with,
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  Listen, family, I don't know what dream has been sitting quietly in the back of your mind.
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  I don't know what you've taught yourself out of.
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  I don't know what you decided was too big, too late, too expensive,
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  too difficult, or too unlikely. But I do know this.
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  Anything is possible when you dare to dream.
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  Your job isn't to have every answer today.
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  Your job is to believe enough to begin. So dream it, write it,
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  see it, speak it, work it, build it.
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  And when that little voice tells you you're asking for too much,
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  tell it, Coach C said it, dream bigger.
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  Because dreams give you drive. Dreams give you direction.
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  Dreams dictate your future. And when you put belief behind the dream and behavior
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  behind the belief, baby, that's just dreams doing what dreams do.
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  This is real talk for real life. I want you to remember these three words. I say them often.
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  Decide, commit, succeed, and always live fearless, keep learning, keep living.
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