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Lessons - How a Pro Dancer Built a $20M Online Business From a Van | Adrian Brambila - Author of Start Thinking Rich & Fmr T-Pain Dancer · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  In this lessons episode, discover how an internal locus of control can transform the way people approach success and adversity.
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  Understand why personal agency matters more than blaming external circumstances.
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  Explore how mindset shapes the belief in what is possible and uncover how focusing on what can be controlled creates a more empowering path forward.
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  I actually, you know, you can make a lot of money and still have a poor mindset.
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  You can make a lot of money and still be fearful that you're going to lose it all or take high risk or be greedy or hate other people that made money.
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  It's tough to get out.
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  It's tough to move from scarcity to abundance.
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  It's tough to talk about because it seems like such non-concrete terms.
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  What does that mean?
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  Because people want to...
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  I think when you say scarcity mindset...
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  People like, yes, I didn't have a lot growing up and now I'm making some money, but I still can't shake those beliefs that my parents had that probably are sort of things that have been instilled in me.
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  And I think that it's tough to talk about those two terms because people don't have a very clear way of changing their mindset from scarcity to abundance.
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  Like, what's the point?
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  And I don't know if you don't have a, maybe you do have an idea or advice for people.
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  But I don't know how or why some people are always so angry with money and the concept of money and making money.
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  And people will look at somebody like, they're almost like just they look at the world through this pessimistic lens.
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  I don't know why that is, but say somebody doesn't want to look at the world that way or they want to have a healthier relationship with money, what's the way they achieve that?
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  What's the path they can go on, the tactics, the framework?
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  Because...
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  I couldn't tell someone, hey, just switch from scarcity to abundance.
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  And, you know, you do these five things a day and don't worry, you're going to have a healthier relationship with money.
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  I don't have that path.
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  But I do know that there's people that are definitely in camp one and camp two.
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  Yeah, there is a framework that...
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  In psychology, successful people, they have an internal locus of control.
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  And what that means is, and this is something you could put on literally right now as a framework in how you operate and think about the world.
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  Do you believe right now that most of what's happening to you is because of you?
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  And do you also feel or believe that you have the ability and control to change it, change your circumstance?
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  Yeah.
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  For better, for worse.
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  That is what we define as internal locus control.
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  I can change.
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  I have the ability to make change.
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  So if you are operating in a world where you have an external locus of control, then everything else is happening to you.
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  You can't create success because whoever's the president.
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  Or if you're at a nine-to-five, like, I can't make six figures because my boss.
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  You're always pointing externally.
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  So I think how you view the world is the first step into making sure all the tactics are executed and you're consistent and you have discipline, all that stuff.
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  To me, the tactics...
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  Like, I assume most people actually know the tactics, but this internal psychology is what prevents them from consistently executing them or giving up when they get started.
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  It's because of first how they view the world.
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  Do you have an internal or external locus of control?
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  When you look at your own journey, what was the moment when that pivoted for you?
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  When you felt like, okay, the world is not something that happens to me.
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  It's something that I can influence.
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  By the way, I love that concept.
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  That's actually...
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  So one of the first interviews that I ever did when I did not know this concept and I and I didn't really understand the difference between internal and external locus of control was with Anthony Scaramucci, who was ironically Trump's like director of communications for like 12 days or something like that.
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  And then they got into like a fight when his first presidency and then he quit.
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  Anyway, he's a big he's a big finance guy.
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  And, and I think I asked him again, this was like very early on.
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  So these were not like refined questions.
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  And I was like, what makes you so confident in your day to day something or what, or what makes you so sure that you was there ever a point when you were sure you could be successful?
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  And he's like,
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  There wasn't like one point, but if I go back to, if I lost everything and all I had was my apartment in Brooklyn and like the shirt on my back and no relationships, no money, he's like, I with 100% certainty could do it again.
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  And he was describing that concept.
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  Like that was what he was describing.
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  He didn't say it.
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  He didn't say locus of control, but he was describing that concept.
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  And that was one of the most, that was a very eye-opening lesson for him.
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  Like, yeah, that makes a lot of sense.
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  Like you can impact the things, you can impact your outcome.
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  You can have agency.
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  You can have like extreme ownership.
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  Was there a moment in your career when you felt that switch or in your life, excuse me?
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  So this is, I think, a blessing of growing up with my parents.
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  So my dad immigrated here when he was 13, which really means my grandma is the one that brought us here.
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  My dad's dad was murdered when he was like five years old.
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  So my dad and my grandma, they faced like tragedy and adversity that I'll never face.
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  And they faced the worst kinds.
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  But when I was raised, I was raised with the belief that we left the bad place.
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  And it was Mexico, like dangerous Mexico.
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  And we came to the good place, which was the USA.
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  Now, whether you agree or disagree with this, this is a mindset shift.
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  And the belief that I was given was like, here in this country, we can make change.
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  We left the place where we could not.
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  And so now it's up to us.
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  And that's something like my parents always instills me.
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  If I want to, I can actually make it happen.
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  I can work hard.
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  Again, work hard and sacrifice.
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  These are things I had to work through.
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  Not everything was amazing.
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  But I never had the belief that...
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  that the world or the system was rigged and we weren't going to make it.
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  We immigrated here so we could make it.
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  And so this is, I think I'm not an immigrant.
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  I was born here, but I have an immigrant mindset that I can make it, make it here.
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  And you don't have to be an immigrant to adopt an immigrant mindset.
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  Why, why do people come to the USA to try to make it happen?
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  The American dream is still alive.
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  Like my parents are example.
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  I'm an example.
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  And it's a belief set that you have.
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  Is the system perfect in America?
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  No.
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  But again, where is your locus of control?
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  I'm not a politician, so I don't try to focus on changing the system.
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  And right now, it was election year, and politics are super hot.
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  And I think a lot of people waste time.
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  If you're a politician, it makes sense to spend hours and hours each day keeping up on all the policy changes and stuff like that.
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  But if you're not, again, are you happy with your circumstance?
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  Do you believe you can make it happen?
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  And here in this country, we can make it happen.
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  And that's why, you know, people that were here and my family tree is like, we now are the most successful we've ever been since moving here.
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  You know, this is something that I've thought about a lot because obviously I'm Canadian and I'm living through like U.S. elections, right?
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  And a lot of animosity and anger and anxiety.
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  And I think that a lot of that is people focusing on the wrong thing, like you mentioned, right?
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  Yeah.
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  I would hope that everybody in this audience, because I fully believe this, it doesn't matter who is in office, you have the ability to figure out how you want your life to end up.
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  And yeah, maybe there's...
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  And it's so interesting because even growing up, I think Canadians look at politics a lot differently than Americans.
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  So Canadians, I remember growing up, my parents would vote for who was best for the municipal government.
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  And then I guess state would be provincial and then federal.
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  And they weren't always politically aligned.
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  So you could have like a left-leaning municipal leader who was committing to putting X amount of dollars into fixing roads and infrastructure.
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  And then you could have a right-leaning, maybe at a federal level.
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  And it was really about who's going to be best for our day-to-day life.
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  And I think that what I've seen is I see that people skew all the way one way or all the way the other way.
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  And they just, all the way down, they vote one way or the other way, which I don't actually think is the right way to vote.
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  I think you should actually vote for the people that are going to best serve you.
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  But regardless of that, I think that,
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  I think that most people in this audience, I would hope, understand that no one's going to serve you as well as you're going to serve yourself and your own family.
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  It doesn't matter how aligned people are.
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  You do have to take responsibility for your own happiness while you're on this earth.
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  And I think it's a great and empowering and scary fundamental shift all at the same time.
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  But when you lean into it.
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  it's so freeing.
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  It's so freeing.
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  Cause you're like, it doesn't matter who's in the white house.
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  I'm going to figure out my business.
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  Okay, fine.
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  You know what?
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  Taxes are not as great or taxes are better or whatever.
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  I want to move to this state or that state or red state or blue state.
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  But at the end of the day, I'm going to take accountability for, and you know what?
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  There's a lot of, there's a lot of people that are struggling in red states.
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  A lot of people that are struggling in blue states, a lot of people that are rich as hell in red and blue states.
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  So, I mean, at the end of the day,
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  You can have your politics and you can have your preference for one party or the other, but your day-to-day life is going to be entirely dictated.
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  Maybe 99% of it is going to be dictated by your own actions, not by the actions of the government.
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  And I think that's just a very empowering thing.
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  idea.
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  Anyway, so it's true.
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  I believe it.
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  One of the chapters in our book is actually your political party doesn't give a shit about you.
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  Oh, it's worth it.
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  It's solely aligned.
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  It's solely aligned.
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  Like, it doesn't matter who's in office.
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  If they actually did have the power to control our life,
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  in full and some governments have in our history, their idea of what, what, how our lives should be is never what you would want.
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  It's scary.
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  So you, like we live in a world today where you, you have the ability to change.
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  And again, it comes down to internal versus external locus control.
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  Whatever the government does, it's not going to affect me.
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  And that's, again, I'm saying that as a mindset.
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  Not like if they can or not, at least in this free world.
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