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#531 I'll Do Better Tomorrow · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the
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  Speaker 1: time poor parent who just answers?
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  Speaker 2: Now, Kate Middleton, you go girl? Can we just get
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  Speaker 2: off the back toddlers, preschoolers, little kids, whatever? Can we
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  Speaker 2: just let them be kids and not expect them to
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  Speaker 2: sit through a pooring pageant. I wouldn't even sat through
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  Speaker 2: that pageant.
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  Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show, my mom
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  Speaker 1: and dad.
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  Speaker 2: It's Friday, feel good Friday. Hello, this is doctor Justin Coulson,
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  Speaker 2: the founder of Happy Families dot Com. Today you why
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  Speaker 2: are you smiling? Why are you smiling?
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  Speaker 3: I'm wondering why it's feel good Friday?
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  Speaker 2: Does Fridays feel good? It's almost the weekend. We get
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  Speaker 2: to breathe, we get to relax, we get to slow down.
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  Speaker 3: He thought you might have a big surprise or something here.
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  Speaker 2: With Kylie, my wife and mum to our six kids.
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  Speaker 2: Who is going to be desperately disappointed? Now I've highlighted
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  Speaker 2: that I don't have a surprise. Thanks for that. Hey,
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  Speaker 2: can I just share some really exciting news before we
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  Speaker 2: get into our older better tomorrow and all the stuff
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  Speaker 2: that we've got to do today. I've just done a
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  Speaker 2: quick google and My seventh book is available for pre
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  Speaker 2: order now online.
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  Speaker 1: Woo is that the big surprise? That's the field. So
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  Speaker 1: in case you've missed it, I've written a brand new book.
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  Speaker 1: I was approached by the people that write the Dummies
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  Speaker 1: books and I've written Dad's Guide to Pregnancy for Dummies,
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  Speaker 1: the second edition.
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  Speaker 2: It's an Australian one. There's a US Version's boy, you've
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  Speaker 2: got to make sure you get the Australian one. But
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  Speaker 2: the Australian second edition Dad's Guide to Pregnancy for Dummies.
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  Speaker 2: We'll link to it in our show notes for the podcast.
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  Speaker 2: It's available for pre order now, just in time for
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  Speaker 2: Father's Day. If you know a dad who is expecting.
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  Speaker 3: Can I say that a dad who is expected and.
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  Speaker 2: Dad's expect in the same way that mums expect. That's okay,
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  Speaker 2: isn't it. I hope I'm not just we've just lost
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  Speaker 2: half hour listeners because of my political incorrectness. You know
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  Speaker 2: what I mean. Dads are expected, They're not expected in
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  Speaker 2: the same way that mums are expecting, but dads are
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  Speaker 2: excited about all this baby stuff. If you know a
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  Speaker 2: dad who's going to be having a baby, okay, I
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  Speaker 2: need to say that again. If you know it, whose partner,
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  Speaker 2: a wife is having a baby and he wants a
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  Speaker 2: little bit of support, wants to know, you know.
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  Speaker 3: Someone who's going to become a dad.
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  Speaker 2: Oh that's what I'm trying to say. I did write
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  Speaker 2: the book after all. You think I'd get this together,
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't you? The books available, Dad's Got to Pregnancy for Dummies.
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  Speaker 2: You can find it online for pre order right now,
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  Speaker 2: just in time for Father's Day. You can get it
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  Speaker 2: at book Topia. I think that's online at Dimix and
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  Speaker 2: a couple of other online retailers as well the pre orders. Hey,
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  Speaker 2: can I actually mention this in all seriousness? I know
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  Speaker 2: we've sort of goofed off a bit, but I'm so
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  Speaker 2: proud of this book, Kylie. You and I have been
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  Speaker 2: through six labors together. One of them ended up being
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  Speaker 2: an emergency. Cis aian. But we've had these six labors together,
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  Speaker 2: and the things that we've learned about how a husband
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  Speaker 2: or partner can support his wife or partner as she's
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  Speaker 2: going through that labor process have been relationship changing. And
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  Speaker 2: I put all of that in there, all the stuff
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  Speaker 2: that we've learned from going through these labors and talking
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  Speaker 2: with people who know who know exactly how this stuff
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  Speaker 2: works best? Would you agree? There've been some of the
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  Speaker 2: most wonderful bonding experiences of our lives in spite of
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  Speaker 2: everything you went through.
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  Speaker 1: As long as we're not talking about baby number one, yes,
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  Speaker 1: hands down, all right?
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  Speaker 2: So baby number one, we didn't get any help, right.
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  Speaker 3: We were doing it. We were doing it alone.
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  Speaker 2: Should we share the story? I know it's otady about
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  Speaker 2: it tomorrow, but this is this is worth sharing. So, Kylie,
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  Speaker 2: how pregnant were you when we decided to go for
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  Speaker 2: a drive from Rockampton to Brisbane seven hours in our
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  Speaker 2: day hatsu charade.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I had twelve days to go, twelve.
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  Speaker 2: Days till the due date, and your parents were in Brisbane.
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  Speaker 2: We were living in Rockhampton. I was a radio announcer,
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  Speaker 2: and I thought, let's just go down and visit your family.
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  Speaker 3: Because it was first time around. Neither of us were
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  Speaker 3: pretty clued in.
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  Speaker 2: We had no idea what we were doing, and.
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  Speaker 1: I missed my mom. I just I wanted to be
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  Speaker 1: with my mum. So we took a quick drive down
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  Speaker 1: to Brisbane.
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  Speaker 2: I was in the daihatsu and my parents.
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  Speaker 1: Were actually at a social event, so we crashed the
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  Speaker 1: party and said hello to everybody and then headed back home.
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  Speaker 1: And about about two o'clock in the morning, I started
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  Speaker 1: getting some niggles. And I'd actually gone into pre labor
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  Speaker 1: at about seven months, so I actually knew what was happening,
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  Speaker 1: but there was it wasn't serious, so I just I
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  Speaker 1: just kind of let you sleep through it. By about
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  Speaker 1: six o'clock they had increased, and I knew that this
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  Speaker 1: was actually.
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  Speaker 2: Building, this was going to turn to a labor yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And so I woke you up and I said, I
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  Speaker 1: think we need to go home, which is seven hours and.
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  Speaker 2: Your parents are like, maybe you should stay in Brisbane
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  Speaker 2: and have this baby.
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  Speaker 1: And all I could think about was now, I've paid
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  Speaker 1: all this money to have the obstetrician of my choice,
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  Speaker 1: and I want him to be the one that delivers
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  Speaker 1: my baby, not some random in some Brisbane hospital and.
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  Speaker 2: Who probably would have done the job just fire, probably,
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  Speaker 2: but you.
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  Speaker 3: Know, so anyway, you and I got in the car
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  Speaker 3: and we.
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  Speaker 2: Drove seven hours back to rock Anton voll your labory.
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  Speaker 1: Some people would say it was probably a little bit,
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  Speaker 1: a little bit irresponsible, ambitious, but being first time and
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  Speaker 1: knowing that generally speaking, first time is quite slow. I
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  Speaker 1: rang a friend of mine who was actually due the
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  Speaker 1: same day as I was in Rockhampton, and but she
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  Speaker 1: was having baby number four. So I actually rang her
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  Speaker 1: and I said, this is what I'm thinking. She said, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you should You should be okay.
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  Speaker 2: Terrible advice, you should be okay. So I didn't write
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  Speaker 2: about this in Dad's Guy to Pregnancy with Dummies. I
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  Speaker 2: should have, now that i'm thinking about it, I should
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  Speaker 2: have put it in that. It would have been a great story.
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  Speaker 3: So anyway, we drove.
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  Speaker 1: All the way home. I contracted the entire way. I
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  Speaker 1: was in so much pain. We were in a little
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  Speaker 1: two door charade.
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  Speaker 2: I still remember stopping at the petrol stakes and I'm
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  Speaker 2: it wasn't a self serve. They actually come out and
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  Speaker 2: put the petrol in. It was because it was that
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  Speaker 2: long ago. And the lady saw you in the trying
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  Speaker 2: to get out of the car and I couldn't and
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  Speaker 2: she said, I was your wife, okay, And I said, oh,
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  Speaker 2: she's in labor. We're about to have a baby. And
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  Speaker 2: she was like, oh, how fast can I put this gas?
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  Speaker 2: Like I'm going to get this petrol in the garden now?
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  Speaker 2: As you absolutely freaked out, But.
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  Speaker 3: We drove, we drove into camped in and everything stopped.
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  Speaker 3: Literally everything stops.
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  Speaker 1: So we'd had plans that we're supposed to go ahead,
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  Speaker 1: but because we'd made a trip to Brisbane, we'd cancel them.
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  Speaker 1: So we rang our friend bachelor all the more and said, hey,
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  Speaker 1: we're back in town.
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  Speaker 3: Do you want to go for dinner?
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  Speaker 1: And he did and literally he knocked on the door
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  Speaker 1: and I went started labor again, that's right.
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  Speaker 2: So we had a very uncomfortable meal until he finally said,
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  Speaker 2: I really think I should go, and of course we
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  Speaker 2: went to hospital and we had our firstborn. And anyway,
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  Speaker 2: Dad's got to pregnancy. Dad's got to pregnancy for dummies.
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  Speaker 2: The book is there so that you don't make the
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  Speaker 2: same mistakes. It also that the loved ones in your life,
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  Speaker 2: the dads who are going to or the men who
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  Speaker 2: are going to become dads, either for them.
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  Speaker 1: The reason you have read in this book is so
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  Speaker 1: that the mothers in the room feel supported.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, because and the.
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  Speaker 1: Dads in the room actually feel empowered to be able
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  Speaker 1: to give the appropriate support.
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  Speaker 2: You should write the advertising copy for me. This is great.
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  Speaker 2: So the book's available. I mean, this wasn't supposed to
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  Speaker 2: turn into a story and a plag for the book,
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  Speaker 2: but there it is. The book is called Dad's Guide
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  Speaker 2: to Pregnancy for Dummies. You can get it on pre
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  Speaker 2: order now from all of the usual places online. Make
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  Speaker 2: sure that you get the second Australian edition with my
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  Speaker 2: name on the cover. Okay, the doctor justin calls someone
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  Speaker 2: if your boy, you might.
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  Speaker 3: Get a very different approach to dadhood.
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  Speaker 2: You might feel like I've nailed it anyway. Today is
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  Speaker 2: about I'll do better tomorrow. That's that's what this podcast
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  Speaker 2: supposed to be. Where we talk about the winds and
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  Speaker 2: the losses, the things that we got right and the
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  Speaker 2: things that we got wrong, the nails and the fails.
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  Speaker 2: If I can paraphrase a friend of mine, Holly wayIn
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  Speaker 2: right in terms of how our parenting has gone at Kylie.
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  Speaker 2: Given that we've talked about this so far, let's do
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  Speaker 2: that right after break. The unhealthy, unhelpful boy code that
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  Speaker 2: is rampant in our children's school and social environments encourages
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  Speaker 2: some persistent and dangerous ideas about what it means to
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  Speaker 2: be mailed. But the Building Better Boys webinar is here
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  Speaker 2: to help unpack these cultural ideas and help guide our
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  Speaker 2: boys to be brilliant, beautiful, and even better. Building better
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  Speaker 2: Boys is available today online at Happy Families dot com
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  Speaker 2: dot au.
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  Speaker 1: It's The Happy Family's podcast, the podcast for a time
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  Speaker 1: poor parent who just wants answers.
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  Speaker 2: Now, Hey, did I mention that I've got a new
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  Speaker 2: book coming out?
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  Speaker 3: I think the whole first half was about.
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  Speaker 2: That Dad's Guide to Pregnancy For dumm, He's just saying
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  Speaker 2: it's out now. Anyone you know who's going to become
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  Speaker 2: a dad, they need to read it, even if it's
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  Speaker 2: not the first time they're becoming a dad. Okay, I'll
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  Speaker 2: do better tomorrow, Kylie, what has can I just this
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  Speaker 2: is not about my book. I've been meaning to bring
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  Speaker 2: this up on the podcast for about a week and
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  Speaker 2: a half now, and I keep forgetting. Can we please
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  Speaker 2: talk about Kate Milton? Can we please talk about Prince
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  Speaker 2: Lewis or Prince Louis. I don't know how you saying
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  Speaker 2: Louis Prince Louis and the expectation that people have that
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  Speaker 2: a preschooler will sit and watch the most boring pageant
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  Speaker 2: in the world for hours.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think it's a preschooler. I think it's the
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  Speaker 1: fact that Prince Louis is a royalty and the expectation
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  Speaker 1: that the public has on that and what I love
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  Speaker 1: about this story, and I do I love it. Fans
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  Speaker 1: probably not the right word, but I just loved Princess Diana,
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  Speaker 1: and so over the years, I've watched a lot of
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  Speaker 1: documentaries and things, including her sons and just their remembrances
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  Speaker 1: of childhood and just the structure and the strictness and
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  Speaker 1: the lack of emotion and empathy and connection that existed
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  Speaker 1: between parents and grandparents and children. And this story just
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  Speaker 1: warms my heart that one generation later, we've had such
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  Speaker 1: a shift, just in that one family circuit breaker.
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  Speaker 2: Kate Middleton, you go girl, It's all I wanted to say.
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  Speaker 2: Can we just get off a back toddler's preschoolers, little kids, whatever.
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  Speaker 2: Can we just let them be kids and not expect
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  Speaker 2: them to sit through a boring pageant. I wouldn't even
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  Speaker 2: sat through that pageant, That's all I'm saying. Okay, So
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  Speaker 2: Kate Middleton is giving me, she's my inspiration for old
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  Speaker 2: do better tomorrow? What is your old do better tomorrow?
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  Speaker 1: So we have an a year old in our house
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  Speaker 1: who is desperate to acquire an app on my phone. Right,
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  Speaker 1: she is a Pokemon fiend and we'd love to have
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  Speaker 1: Pokemon Go. She's played it on a few other people's
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  Speaker 1: phones and is desperate for me to download it. My
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  Speaker 1: issue with it is that if I do, then not
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  Speaker 1: only will I not know where my phone is up, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that she will just be constantly on it. And so
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  Speaker 1: we sat down and I said to her, well, I said,
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  Speaker 1: if you are really convinced that you need to have this,
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  Speaker 1: and I think you need to sit down and have
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  Speaker 1: a think about the reasons why you need to have it,
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  Speaker 1: and maybe write a little bit of a persuasive speech argument,
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  Speaker 1: an argument as to why you think this is a
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  Speaker 1: good idea on why it's so important to you?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 3: Can I read you what your own?
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  Speaker 2: I can see it's in purple sexter on one of
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  Speaker 2: my clean pieces of a four papers.
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  Speaker 1: She may have asked me a couple of times while
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  Speaker 1: she was thinking about these things, how do I spell
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  Speaker 1: this word?
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  Speaker 2: What she written?
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  Speaker 1: She said, it gets me out of the house, more
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  Speaker 1: fair call, it makes me exercise.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, I've chasing Pokemon's really exercised. And that's fine.
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  Speaker 2: I guess it's more active than sitting on the couch
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  Speaker 2: staring at a screen.
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  Speaker 3: Lots of people have it, lots.
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  Speaker 2: Of people do, lots of unhealthy. I don't know if
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  Speaker 2: that's a strong argument.
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  Speaker 1: She's also suggested that she will eat more food if
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  Speaker 1: she's able to get it.
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  Speaker 3: Really, it will keep me entertained.
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  Speaker 2: I nr tea, if you're destroying my brain when you
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  Speaker 2: try to spell her spelling, that's it'll keep.
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  Speaker 3: Me entertained, and I will not ask for it all
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  Speaker 3: the time.
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  Speaker 2: Here's the great thing about this. As parents, our job
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  Speaker 2: is not to just say yes or no all the
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  Speaker 2: time and be the unilateral arbiter. Our job is to
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  Speaker 2: help backads to think through things, to make arguments, to
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  Speaker 2: work out how they can function effectively. And I love this.
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  Speaker 2: She's given us what six reasons? Six reasons she has
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  Speaker 2: to have Pokemon and go worry you up to with it?
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  Speaker 2: Are you going to give it to.
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  Speaker 3: Him at this point? No?
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  Speaker 1: No, But the conversation continues, and again, I just like
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  Speaker 1: you said, I love that she's thinking about it. I
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  Speaker 1: love that she's coming up with reasons why it's actually positive.
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  Speaker 1: But it leads into a capacity for us to have conversation.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't shut her down. I haven't said no, and
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  Speaker 1: so we're able to continue this conversation together to work
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  Speaker 1: out what the pros and the cons are and whether
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  Speaker 1: or not we think it's going to work in our
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  Speaker 1: family right now.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, so we've got a fourteen year old who wants Snapchat.
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  Speaker 2: She hasn't given me the essay yet, but maybe you're
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  Speaker 2: waiting for broadcast. It's just going to be forthcoming. Let's
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  Speaker 2: wait and watch this space. Hey, thanks for sharing your
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  Speaker 2: older about it tomorrow. What's to take home message for
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  Speaker 2: that one?
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  Speaker 1: I think when our kids want things, especially when they
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  Speaker 1: feel really big and important to them, it's really important
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  Speaker 1: that we don't shut them down, that we give them
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  Speaker 1: the opportunity to come to the table with an argument.
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  Speaker 1: And as a parent having the capacity to be open
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  Speaker 1: mind did and recognized that if your kids can come
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  Speaker 1: up with some genuinely good reasons as to why they
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  Speaker 1: should have something, that that should go a long way
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  Speaker 1: in helping you to make a decision.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm open to the conversation. Great take home message.
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  Speaker 2: My one's really simple. Last week I was in Sydney.
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  Speaker 2: I've hinted I can't say a whole lot, but I've
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  Speaker 2: hinted that there was a whole lot of season two
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  Speaker 2: Parental Guidance stuff happening that I was involved in. I'm
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  Speaker 2: so excited for season two, That's all I can say.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so excited for Season two of Parental Guidance. But
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  Speaker 2: while I was there, Sydney had its massive light show,
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  Speaker 2: Vivid happening. It was freezing cold, like I see, horribly
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  Speaker 2: windy cold, horrible weather. But we decided to do something
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  Speaker 2: completely out of the box, something that I don't think
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  Speaker 2: we've ever done so spontaneously since we decided to drive
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  Speaker 2: Rock Campton when you were pregnant and then drive home
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  Speaker 2: all of you are laboring. I contact you and said,
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  Speaker 2: let's bring the kids down for the weekend. And so
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  Speaker 2: you and the kids came to Sydney for the weekend
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  Speaker 2: and we got to hang out at Vivid. We visited
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  Speaker 2: blood ones and friends that we haven't seen for ages
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  Speaker 2: as we traveled around, and we just had a great
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  Speaker 2: weekend as a family. And it was extravagant and a challenge.
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  Speaker 2: And it's going to cause some discomfort as a result
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  Speaker 2: for a couple of weeks as we recover from it,
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  Speaker 2: maybe a couple of months. But the experience was worth it,
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  Speaker 2: regardless of what the cost was, and it was just
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  Speaker 2: a reminder seeing the delight on the kids' faces when
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  Speaker 2: they got to do something so different. I mean, I
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  Speaker 2: don't know when the last time was that we put
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  Speaker 2: the one on aeroplane together. I can't remember the last
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  Speaker 2: time we actually went away on a holiday, like COVID
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  Speaker 2: has completely shut down our holidays. We haven't holidayed for
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  Speaker 2: two years. And even though it was only a weekend,
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  Speaker 2: it was so exciting to see how much fun they
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  Speaker 2: had to be walking around Vivid at nine point thirty
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  Speaker 2: ten o'clock at night with our eighteen year old daughter
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  Speaker 2: and she's just having a ball with this, thinking it's
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  Speaker 2: the best to be spending time with the little kids
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  Speaker 2: as we as we hugged and wrestled and visited friends,
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  Speaker 2: and I just thought the whole thing. It was a
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  Speaker 2: reminder that we need to do that sort of stuff
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  Speaker 2: more often. It doesn't even have to cost lots of money,
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  Speaker 2: but just doing spontaneous, big things with our kids, it
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  Speaker 2: makes a difference.
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  Speaker 1: The joy for me was showing up somewhere and having
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: the kids have a recollection and kind of go hanging
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  Speaker 1: a sec does my friend live here, you know, And
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  Speaker 1: I mean Emily was two when we left, and so
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: for her while we've been back a couple of times,
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: you know, she's really digging hard and digging deep to
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: kind of come up with these connections. But to see
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: her face light up when she remembered there's somebody here
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: that I loved. And to watch them reconnect and as kids,
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: they just they have this capacity to just pick up
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: where they left off. And every time the kids would
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: reconnect with somebody that they haven't seen for a couple
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: of years now, it just was so beautiful. It filled
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: my love bucket just watching it without even having to
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: participate in it.
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: Doesn't have to take her message right there, though, I
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: love that the idea that we should take our kids
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: back to places that we used to be so that
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: they can strength and renew rekindle those relationships. It really
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: was an absolutely sweet thing to do last weekend. So
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: that's my older better tomorrow, we've covered some ground. Kate
• 16:13
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  Speaker 2: know any dad who or anyone who's about to become
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: a dad, whether it's for the first time or the
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: fifth time, and our arguing with your kids, our old
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: do better tomorrow about apps and travel. Hey, we hope
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  Speaker 2: you have a wonderful, wonderful weekend with your family. We
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: hope that you get to have a super Saturday, a
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: sensational Sunday, and we look forward to being back with
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: you on the Happy Families podcast on Monday when we
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: address the issue of smacking. It's back in the news.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: There are calls for smacking to be made illegal in
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: Australia after small countries around the world have done so,
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: and some new researchers come out in Australia showing just
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: how rife smacking is in Australian families. We're going to
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: pull that apart on Monday. I can't wait for that
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: conversation for now, though, The Happy Famili's podcast is produced
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• 17:06
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