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I threw my MESSY sister out of my home…now my whole family is against me! -r/AmITheAsshole | Reddit Stories | EP3103 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 3: I threw my messy sister out of my home. Now
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  Speaker 3: my whole family's against me. Well, she was messy. I,
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  Speaker 3: 26 female, live in a two-bedroom apartment. And I was
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  Speaker 3: living alone for the most part until last month when
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  Speaker 3: my younger sister, 23 female... started living with me after
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  Speaker 3: my parents punted her out due to her not contributing
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  Speaker 3: to the house.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, so immediately, that tells me a little something about her.
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  Speaker 1: That tells me a lot about her.
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  Speaker 3: She had nowhere else to go, and she pretty much
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  Speaker 3: begged me to let her stay with me. I said
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  Speaker 3: that if she wants to live with me, she needs
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  Speaker 3: to follow my house rules. That didn't really go well
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  Speaker 3: with your parents, did it?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, she couldn't even do it there.
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  Speaker 3: If she's not going to listen to your parents, do
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  Speaker 3: you think she's going to listen to you?
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  Speaker 4: No, I don't think so.
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  Speaker 3: She is in her last year of university, so I
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  Speaker 3: said that she didn't need to contribute financially, but she
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  Speaker 3: had to contribute to household chores.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, that's not a huge ask.
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  Speaker 3: Something that she didn't do when living with my parents.
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  Speaker 3: I am a clean person, and I like my house
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  Speaker 3: to be neat and tidy.
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  Speaker 1: Sophia, this is for you. This is your kind of story.
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  Speaker 1: This is me. But also, this is kind of me, too.
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  Speaker 1: I'm clean.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: At first, my sister complied.
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  Speaker 4: Great.
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  Speaker 3: She kept the kitchen clean, did her assigned chores, and
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  Speaker 3: would always clean up after herself. Then, recently, around two
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  Speaker 3: weeks ago, she started slacking. She wouldn't do the dishes
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  Speaker 3: on her day. She trashed the guest bathroom, messed up
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  Speaker 3: the living room by leaving her clothes everywhere, and would
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  Speaker 3: not put things away. For example, she made a sandwich,
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  Speaker 3: and she didn't put away the bread, the vegetables, Or
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  Speaker 3: the condiments.
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  Speaker 4: Come on. Who does she think she's living with?
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  Speaker 1: So the sandwich stuff is going to go bad. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: It was infuriating. I work five days a week and
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  Speaker 3: I'm exhausted. So I spoke to my sister and told
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  Speaker 3: her she needs to help me out by cleaning my home.
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  Speaker 1: She just went, okay, okay.
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  Speaker 4: We've got a three-strike policy, and you're on strike two, Missy.
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  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user SquidWordsWifey. And if
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  Speaker 3: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
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  Speaker 3: r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Kian.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: We're goofy people.
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  Speaker 4: We're goofy goobers.
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  Speaker 1: You also, goofy goobers. I know it. We're going to
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  Speaker 1: read the story. It'll be fun. Here we go. Let
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  Speaker 1: us know what you do.
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  Speaker 3: As Opie says, my sister did start cleaning, but it
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  Speaker 3: was only after... Me doing the nagging and being annoying.
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  Speaker 3: I then sat her down and warned her that I
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  Speaker 3: will be punning her out if she starts slacking and
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  Speaker 3: turning my apartment into a pigsty. I said, this is
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  Speaker 3: my house and she needs to follow my rules if
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  Speaker 3: she wants to continue living with me. Fast forward to
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  Speaker 3: two days ago. I invited my friends over and I
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  Speaker 3: told my sister to clean the guest bathroom and the
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  Speaker 3: kitchen and just tidy up the living room because my
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  Speaker 3: friends were coming over and I was at work. So
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  Speaker 3: I wanted the house to be clean when I got
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  Speaker 3: home and I would just prepare snacks. Well, my sister
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  Speaker 3: didn't do any of that.
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  Speaker 4: Shocker. I'm so surprised.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, she probably made it even worse.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, she probably made like made four other sandwiches.
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  Speaker 1: Just for herself. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: When I came home, the house looked extremely messy. And
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  Speaker 3: it was not like that before I left. So she
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  Speaker 3: did do.
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  Speaker 2: What I said.
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  Speaker 4: She did make it worse.
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  Speaker 3: Well, dishes in the sink, food on the countertop, blankets
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  Speaker 3: in the living room, even the guest bathroom was still messy.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, like, how? What are you doing?
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  Speaker 1: Being lazy.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, yeah. Is she just at home all day?
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  Speaker 1: Not caring. You know what she's doing, Sophia?
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  Speaker 4: Slacking. She's treating it like a hotel.
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  Speaker 1: I lost it.
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  Speaker 3: I screamed at my sister and told her to pack
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  Speaker 3: her crap and get the F out of my home.
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  Speaker 3: She cried and she begged me to give her another
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  Speaker 3: chance and I said no.
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  Speaker 4: This was your other chance, girly pop. You already got
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  Speaker 4: kicked out of your first chance.
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  Speaker 1: How many chances have I given you? Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: She had one effing task and she didn't do one thing.
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  Speaker 3: We argued some more until she tearfully agreed to leave.
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  Speaker 3: She packed her bags and left. I quickly cleaned my
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  Speaker 3: house and had my friends over like normal. My parents
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  Speaker 3: are on my side, but my relatives are giving me
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  Speaker 3: grief for punting my sister out. They call me an
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  Speaker 3: evil and control freak a-hole.
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  Speaker 4: Is this what they said to your parents when they
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  Speaker 4: punted the sister out? Because I would just have the
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  Speaker 4: parents say, yeah, no, she's a messy, messy little lady,
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  Speaker 4: and she's an adult, so she needs to learn how
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  Speaker 4: to figure her stuff out.
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  Speaker 1: I go, hey, that's really cool that you're telling me that.
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  Speaker 1: You should help her out.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, she should stay with you.
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  Speaker 3: If you're on your high horse, that'd be cool. My
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  Speaker 3: sister is staying with my aunt. As my parents refused
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  Speaker 3: to let her, aka my sister, stay with them.
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  Speaker 1: Am I the a-hole, Sophia?
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  Speaker 4: Zero. Zero percent a-hole.
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  Speaker 1: What did you do wrong? You had one, you're not
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  Speaker 1: even having her pay.
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  Speaker 4: You laid her, like laid down the ground rules. She
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  Speaker 4: had already had the consequences of her laziness when she
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  Speaker 4: got kicked out of her, or when she got punted
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  Speaker 4: out of your parents' house. And then she did it again.
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  Speaker 4: She's learned zero lessons.
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  Speaker 3: Edit, another issue is my sister would hog the washer
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  Speaker 3: and dryer.
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  Speaker 1: How?
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  Speaker 4: I mean, you just like leave all of your clothes
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  Speaker 4: in there and then you put, I don't know, people
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  Speaker 4: hog the dryer and the washer in my house. I'm
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  Speaker 4: trying to wash my clothes in the house I live in.
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  Speaker 4: Six other people's like laundries of three weeks. There's three
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  Speaker 4: weeks worth of laundry in there.
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  Speaker 3: I do laundry once a week or sometimes twice a week.
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  Speaker 3: She would be so lazy to do her laundry that
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  Speaker 3: she would wait until her laundry basket is extremely full
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  Speaker 3: and she would take forever to finish. This would cause
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  Speaker 3: me to sometimes miss my day to do laundry as
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  Speaker 3: she would take an entire effing week to do her laundry.
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  Speaker 3: And I did speak to her about this and I
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  Speaker 3: told her to stop it. Of course, my sister didn't listen.
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  Speaker 3: So I locked the laundry closet by purchasing a lock
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  Speaker 3: with some sort of rope to prevent her from opening it.
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  Speaker 1: And it worked.
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  Speaker 3: Your child locking your laundry. She's like, how does it work?
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  Speaker 3: I can't figure out this knot. She had no choice
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  Speaker 3: but to go elsewhere to do laundry. I've also been
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  Speaker 3: super pushy with her regarding the kitchen, mainly because my
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  Speaker 3: kitchen is an open space and it's the first thing
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  Speaker 3: that I see when I come home. So seeing the
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  Speaker 3: kitchen messy is quite an eyesore for me and makes
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  Speaker 3: me anxious.
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  Speaker 1: Honestly, I agree.
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  Speaker 4: I completely agree. I hate having a messy kitchen.
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  Speaker 1: Edit two.
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  Speaker 3: As for the dishes, I told my sister I didn't
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  Speaker 3: care how she did them. Either hand washing or using
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  Speaker 3: a dishwasher, I don't care. I want them clean and
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  Speaker 3: out of sight. so I did give her some options
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  Speaker 3: on how she did the dishes.
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  Speaker 1: Update!
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  Speaker 3: My mom called me about 20 minutes ago, telling me
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  Speaker 3: that she wants us all to meet sometime this week
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  Speaker 3: to have a talk with my sister about her not
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  Speaker 3: following house rules, and perhaps see why she acts so.
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  Speaker 1: Defiant when it comes to following them.
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  Speaker 3: My aunt also called me explaining that she can't have
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  Speaker 3: my sister stay with her for long because there's just
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  Speaker 3: no room.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 4: Well, well, well.
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  Speaker 1: It's that high horse.
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  Speaker 3: My aunt has three kids and there isn't room for
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  Speaker 3: my sister, so she will also be coming over this
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  Speaker 3: week so we can all have a chat and figure
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  Speaker 3: out a solution together as a family.
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  Speaker 4: She gets her own place? She's 23 years old.
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  Speaker 3: Why do we need an intervention for someone who's just
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  Speaker 3: lazy and messy?
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  Speaker 4: Like, genuinely, it's actually insane to me that this 23-year-old,
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  Speaker 4: no one's even considering... That this 23-year-old might just need
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  Speaker 4: to freaking get their own place.
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  Speaker 1: She said her last year of university, Sophia.
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  Speaker 4: She can't do that. Ugh, I hate her.
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  Speaker 1: I'd be.
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  Speaker 3: I'd be like, yeah, no. I'm not going to that chat.
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  Speaker 3: You already know what I'm going to say. Opie continues saying,
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  Speaker 3: I have no intentions on letting my sister stay with
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  Speaker 3: me again. And neither does my parents. My aunt is
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  Speaker 3: letting her stay with her in the meantime. And we
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  Speaker 3: have a second update. Getting right into it. First, I'd
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  Speaker 3: like to thank everyone who commented and assured me that
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  Speaker 3: I was not doing anything wrong by punting my sister out.
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  Speaker 1: Who was saying you were wrong?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Other than your family.
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  Speaker 4: I think it was just the family.
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  Speaker 3: Again, the people, it's always the people who are like,
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  Speaker 3: oh my god, you're such a terrible human being.
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  Speaker 1: Why would you do that? Okay, help them out. No,
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  Speaker 1: can't do that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, stop throwing rocks from your glass house that you
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  Speaker 4: won't let OP's sister stay in.
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  Speaker 1: Love it. Here's the update.
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  Speaker 3: The first thing I did, despite everyone's warnings, is I
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  Speaker 3: went over to my parents' house to talk with my
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  Speaker 3: aunt and my sister to come up with a solution,
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  Speaker 3: as my aunt did say my sister couldn't stay long-term,
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  Speaker 3: as there isn't any room. We talked, and surprisingly, my
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  Speaker 3: sister followed my aunt's house rules.
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  Speaker 1: For how long? Again, she did this with you, remember?
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  Speaker 3: She cleaned up after herself, and she even bought groceries
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  Speaker 3: when my aunt said she didn't need to do that.
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  Speaker 3: My sister apologized to me for giving me a hard
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  Speaker 3: time and not keeping my apartment clean When I'm gone
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  Speaker 3: at work, she admitted that she was too lazy and
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  Speaker 3: didn't think I'd be that angry to the point where
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  Speaker 3: I'd punt her out.
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  Speaker 4: Well, you were wrong.
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  Speaker 1: When you warned her so many times.
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  Speaker 4: And she's already been punted out.
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  Speaker 3: And I guarantee you your parents did the same thing.
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  Speaker 3: I accepted her apology, and that's when my aunt asked
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  Speaker 3: my parents if they'd be comfortable letting her move back
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  Speaker 3: in with them as my sister is no longer welcome
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  Speaker 3: to stay with me. My parents said they did some thinking...
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  Speaker 3: And they are willing to let her stay under one condition.
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  Speaker 1: Let me guess. Not be lazy.
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  Speaker 4: She doesn't care. And pay. She's just going to keep
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  Speaker 4: flip-flopping between houses.
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  Speaker 3: She needs to contribute and not just with household chores.
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  Speaker 3: She needs to start paying rent. And after she gets
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  Speaker 3: a job, she needs to start looking for places of
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  Speaker 3: her own.
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  Speaker 4: I would give her a specific deadline. I would say, hey.
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  Speaker 1: I think just after university.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, immediately after university, you're gone.
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  Speaker 3: Like, we'll help you back on your feet, but please,
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  Speaker 3: if you break the rules, you're gone. My sister has
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  Speaker 3: a part-time job at the university, so she agreed to
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  Speaker 3: my parents' conditions. That was a couple weeks ago. Do
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  Speaker 3: we think she is following the rules still?
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  Speaker 4: No!
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  Speaker 6: No!
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  Speaker 1: Do we think third time's the charm.
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  Speaker 4: I don't think third time's the charm.
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  Speaker 3: Now i was over at my parents house an hour
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  Speaker 3: ago for lunch and my sister had improved oh she
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  Speaker 3: doesn't leave her clothes in the living room and cleans
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  Speaker 3: up after herself i.
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  Speaker 4: Will say op said that it was good for like
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  Speaker 4: a week or something.
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  Speaker 1: Again yeah i need like yeah i need i need
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  Speaker 1: i need a trial period.
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  Speaker 4: Which is like a month Yeah, OP said it started
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  Speaker 4: off okay, and then it got worse, so I'm imagining
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  Speaker 4: she's like, oh, well, I need to be clean for
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  Speaker 4: a little bit, and then I can just be lazy. Oh, boy.
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  Speaker 3: I asked my parents about that, and they said another
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  Speaker 3: part of the condition is if she made a mess
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  Speaker 3: or didn't clean up after herself, she'll have to pay
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  Speaker 3: a fine, which is $ 5. That's so freaking crazy. That's
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  Speaker 3: like a swear jar.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, every time you leave something out, $ 5, $ 5. $ 5.
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  Speaker 4: I like that. That's a good tactic.
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  Speaker 3: Since my sister wasn't willing to spend so much money
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  Speaker 3: knowing she would be charged with fines if she didn't
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  Speaker 3: help keep the house clean, that was when she started
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  Speaker 3: being a bit more responsible. I guess the only way
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  Speaker 3: to get her to clean is if you charge her
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  Speaker 3: with a fine.
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  Speaker 1: LOL. That's the update.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just relieved that there are no more problems or drama. Now,
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  Speaker 3: one thing I do need to mention is that my
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  Speaker 3: sister wasn't really happy at first about having to pay
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  Speaker 3: rent or financially contribute. I don't think anyone out there
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  Speaker 3: is like, gee, I'm so happy to pay money.
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  Speaker 1: For bills or adulting. I'm so happy. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But she agreed nonetheless. That's what matters.
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  Speaker 4: Well, we got there eventually. And that's something.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe third time is the charm, Sophia.
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  Speaker 4: I guess so. I did not have faith.
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  Speaker 3: That is the end of that story. I guess everything's
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  Speaker 3: clean now and should be clean, hopefully.
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  Speaker 4: Should be clean. Yes.
• 11:38
  Speaker 1: But we have another one coming right up.
• 11:41
  Speaker 4: I inherited my grandfather's home. My uncle and the whole
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  Speaker 4: family cornered me over it.
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  Speaker 1: My house.
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  Speaker 4: Get away from me. I, 23 male, was very close
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  Speaker 4: to my grandfather, who passed away last year. He left
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  Speaker 4: me his entire estate, including the house, after my grandma
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  Speaker 4: divorced him.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 5: Wow.
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  Speaker 4: Before he passed, my grandma had asked him to let
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  Speaker 4: her son, my uncle, 50 male, not biologically related to
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  Speaker 4: my grandfather, interesting what happened there, rent the house. They
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  Speaker 4: set up a three-year contract for $ 1, 800 a month, and
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  Speaker 4: at the end, he could buy the house for $ 377, 000.
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  Speaker 4: The contract ends this November. After a lengthy probate process,
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  Speaker 4: the house is now officially in my name. My uncle
• 12:25
  Speaker 4: asked if I'd extend the contract because of high interest rates.
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  Speaker 4: But I didn't want to. I'm hoping to buy my
• 12:32
  Speaker 4: own home soon. My grandma pressured me, saying, it's family.
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  Speaker 4: So I reluctantly agreed to extend it for three more years.
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  Speaker 4: While I was waiting for a new contract to be drafted,
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  Speaker 4: my uncle asked if he could start construction on the home.
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  Speaker 4: I said no. But then a friend of mine who
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  Speaker 4: was doing the work told me that my uncle had
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  Speaker 4: already started construction without my permission.
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  Speaker 1: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 4: I went to check it out, and sure enough, major
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  Speaker 4: work had been done without permits. Lawsuit. Lawsuit.
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  Speaker 1: Or family.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Family sends family to jail. I confronted him, and he
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  Speaker 4: denied it until I showed him photos.
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  Speaker 1: No, that's not happening.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, there's like a truck in the background. Like bulldozing.
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  Speaker 1: You're just like, work sounds like... So there are people here. No,
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  Speaker 1: that's not happening.
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  Speaker 4: Whoa! Where do these guys come from?
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  Speaker 1: Arrest them. But let them do their job.
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  Speaker 4: But be nice about it. He claimed it was his
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  Speaker 4: house and that he could do what he wanted.
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  Speaker 3: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from TrainingMortgage766. And if you
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  Speaker 4: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
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  Speaker 4: slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 4: And we've got good advice. And it might be a
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  Speaker 4: little goofy. And if you've got good advice, put it
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  Speaker 4: down below. Opie says... Later, during a family holiday, my
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  Speaker 4: uncle and his girlfriend ambushed me, proposing a five-year contract
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  Speaker 4: with lenient rent terms, no restrictions on construction, and permission
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  Speaker 4: to sublet. I refused and said I'd have my lawyer
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  Speaker 4: draft the contract instead. During probate, my uncle and his
• 14:08
  Speaker 4: girlfriend discussed what they would prefer contract-wise that left it
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  Speaker 4: more open-ended. I continuously listened to their wants... However, I
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  Speaker 4: told them in the end I would send them a
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  Speaker 4: contract drafted by my lawyer once the house was in
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  Speaker 4: my name.
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  Speaker 1: I like how they go, Opie, we want what we want,
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: but we don't want what you want.
• 14:26
  Speaker 4: And Opie said, uh, this is my house.
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: And they go, mm, that sounds really good, but this
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: is what we want. Yeah.
• 14:33
  Speaker 4: A few months later, my uncle, his girlfriend, and my
• 14:35
  Speaker 4: grandmother sent me the five-year contract they had proposed during
• 14:39
  Speaker 4: the family holiday. I firmly declined. My grandmother then called
• 14:44
  Speaker 4: and berated me for not signing, claiming that if it
• 14:47
  Speaker 4: weren't for her, I wouldn't have inherited anything from my grandpa.
• 14:50
  Speaker 4: I'm sorry, if it weren't for you getting divorced and
• 14:55
  Speaker 4: then my grandpa taking away everything that would have gone
• 14:58
  Speaker 4: to you and giving it to me because he liked
• 15:00
  Speaker 4: me more?
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: My grandpa's will is because of you? That's so silly.
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: You're right. Yes, you're right. Thank you.
• 15:08
  Speaker 4: That's so silly. Um, at that point, I lost my
• 15:12
  Speaker 4: temper and said, you have to be effing kidding me.
• 15:15
  Speaker 4: She responded, your grandpa would be disappointed in you for
• 15:18
  Speaker 4: using that language with me. My grandpa divorced you. What
• 15:22
  Speaker 4: are you talking about?
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: If anything, he would love it.
• 15:25
  Speaker 4: I replied, don't use my grandpa against me and hung up.
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: Since then, my grandma and uncle have cut me off. Well,
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: that's silly. Well, now they lose that house immediately.
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: There goes that five year contract.
• 15:37
  Speaker 4: I had my lawyer draft a new contract. Three years,
• 15:40
  Speaker 4: no subletting, and a clause requiring my approval for construction.
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: The rest of the original contract from my grandpa is
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: the same. Now my uncle is saying he can only
• 15:49
  Speaker 4: qualify for $ 350, 000 instead of the $ 370, 000 he owes. And
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: my family is pressuring me to accept the lower offer.
• 15:59
  Speaker 4: accusing me of forcing him out.
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: No, no. I remember I did you a benefit of
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: giving you another three years.
• 16:05
  Speaker 4: I give you three years, buster.
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: And remember when I said, don't do construction? Hmm.
• 16:11
  Speaker 4: Am I the a-hole for refusing his contract, insisting he
• 16:14
  Speaker 4: pay the full $ 377, 000, signing my contract, or moving out
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: and standing my ground despite family pressure? Not at all.
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: What would your grandpa do?
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah, your grandpa would say, I gave you the house.
• 16:27
  Speaker 4: Put that in my will. It was pretty clear. Made
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: sure grandma didn't get anything.
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is really dumb.
• 16:33
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: Now, there is an update. I don't think you're doing
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: anything wrong. Hold your ground.
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: Very crazy that it's not even that much. Like, yes, $ 27, 000.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: That is still a lot of money. But the fact
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: that it's like going from $ 350, 000 to $ 377, 000. You can
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: scrape that, right?
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, come on, buddy.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: You knew about that. You knew this for a long time.
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: You know about it. Following the advice I received here,
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: I made the decision not to extend the contract or
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: lower the price.
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: Good.
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: Good job. After reading the responses, I sent my uncle
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: a message responding to his request to lower the price, saying,
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: I will take this as you declining the extension and
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: will expect the money by November 1st, 2024. Since then,
• 17:18
  Speaker 4: it appears I may have been officially cut off from
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: my grandma and uncle. We happened to show up at
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: the same restaurant last week and there was absolutely no
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: acknowledgement from them.
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: I just look at them, hey, where's my money?
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: Hey, hey, why are you eating out?
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: You don't have money for that. Hey, here's the contract.
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: Additionally, a close family member passed away recently, and no
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: one from my family reached out to me about it,
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: except for my mother. Despite the family strain, as of
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: this morning, I officially received the funds for the house
• 17:47
  Speaker 4: in full.
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: Nice.
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: That's been the biggest relief after all the stress of
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: this past year. Again, thank you all for the advice, support,
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: and truth checks I needed.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: Hurrah. Truth check.
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah, truth check, OP. You're doing okay. You're doing fine.
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: And I guarantee you, your grandpa is proud of you.
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: Yeah, he's like, look at them go. Look at that
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: boy go.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: He's standing his ground. I knew I picked the right one.
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: Stand your ground, little boy. But that is the end
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: of that story. I was promised my great-grandmother's heirloom my
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: whole life, and my cousin just took it.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Was it a pinky promise?
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: When my great-grandma moved a couple years ago, a bunch
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: of my mom's cousins, my second cousins, Helped her and
• 18:27
  Speaker 4: took a bunch of stuff without asking my great-grandma about it.
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: My mother, grandmother, and I couldn't help in the move
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: because my mom was in the hospital for months straight.
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: She's so much better now.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Good.
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: My great-grandma will be 96 this year.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: Dang.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: Shout out to great-grandma.
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: Ever since I was a little kid, my great-grandma has
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: told me that I would be getting a necklace from her.
• 18:47
  Speaker 4: It was my grandma's first ever diamond that my great-grandpa
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: gave her. They lived a happy marriage. The thing was
• 18:53
  Speaker 4: well taken care of for it being around 70 years old.
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: She put it in a box and planned on giving
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: it to me either when I turned 21 or for
• 19:01
  Speaker 4: my wedding, or when she passed it would go to me.
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: She even addressed the box to me to make sure
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: I'd get it. By the way, this comes from Ruby Rose, 1234-5678.
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: to the r slash showcase story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: And Opie says, well, when she moved and my second
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: cousins helped, this necklace disappeared.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Gee, I wonder where it went.
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: The oldest of the cousins took it. I'm suing.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, hey, that's not yours. Grandma said it's mine.
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: Grandma said it's mine.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: If they say no, then I'm suing.
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: At first, she had thought she put it in her
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: closet with her other jewelry. Now, after two to three years,
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: it's still gone.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: Two to three years?
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: Oh, I would have made a fuss in two days.
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: A couple weeks ago, the oldest second cousin posts a
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: photo of the box with the necklace in it with
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: what my grandma wrote on it, too. And so she
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: was cleaning and found a family heirloom. My great-grandma has
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: really fancy handwriting, and it's sometimes hard to read, but
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: you can easily see my name is spelled on it.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: That's great.
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: That's perfect. And you say, oh, so we've been looking
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: for that for two to three years. I want to
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: ask for this necklace, as my great-grandma has intended it
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: to go down to the firstborn female in my family.
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: My grandma would have gotten it, but she passed and
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: wouldn't want it. My mom would prefer I'd have it.
• 20:30
  Speaker 4: Great-grandma had a son and a daughter, my grandmother, and
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: planned to give it to my grandmother. I want to
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: ask for this necklace when it's supposed to go to me,
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: as I want to wear it for special events like
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: my great-grandmother wants me to, especially since I'm getting married soon.
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: Am I the a-hole for demanding a necklace that was
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: promised to me? What do you think?
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, clear as day. It's your name.
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: It's your name.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: It was promised to you.
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: You have to demand yet yeah i think you just
• 20:55
  Speaker 4: say hey that actually was supposed to go to me
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: it's got my name on.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: It yeah no need to be aggressive you can have
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: you guys can have whatever you want whatever that's for me.
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah i was promised that uh thanks and we got
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: an update at first she had made claim that she
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: had no idea what i was talking.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: About i go shut up can you read which was kind.
• 21:15
  Speaker 4: Of true as the necklace going to me was only
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: told to my side of the But she passed and
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: my mom didn't want it, so it would go to me.
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: She then made an excuse that I should have helped
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: my great-grandmother move in if I wanted to get it,
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: when I couldn't. My mother was in the hospital and
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: I was 15 or 17 years old. It's been some time,
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: so I don't remember how old I was. I'm now 21.
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: It started to show she wasn't planning on giving it back.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: But I decided one day when I was hanging out
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: with my great-grandmother to call cousin and great-grandmother talk to her.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, why didn't we do that in the first place?
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I would have been like, hey, great grandma, you
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: remember the necklace that we lost and you said was
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: going to go to me? I think it made cousin
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: feel bad as great grandma made it very clear I
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: was to have it.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: Why would it make you feel bad when I told
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: you the truth?
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: She also just like took it. She literally just took it.
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: She was willing to give it back if I was
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: to promise that when her daughter, 12, was married in
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: the future, she would be able to have it. I said, no.
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: I plan to give it to my children when they're older.
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: I would have said yes in the moment.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: I would have said maybe. My fingers are crossed. Everything
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: is crossed. Fingers, toes, everything that I can cross is crossed.
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: I would just want to get it back.
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: Insane that you are just 21 years old. And when
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: she gets married, whenever that may be, she gets it.
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: And like 10 years, she wants it back. It's like, no, no, no.
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: That's mine.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: Does she know that you're still very young? I'm so confused.
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: Do you think that she's going to send it back now?
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: Now that Opie has not promised.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: I feel like yes, because great grandma is going to go.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: This is stupid. That's mine. I promised her this.
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: You stole it from me.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. Maybe grandma puts it in writing. I mean,
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: we already have it in writing.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: We have it in writing on the actual jewelry box.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: But actually put it on writing like this is in
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: the will. This is what I want.
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: OP says she did send it back.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: Nice.
• 23:14
  Speaker 5: Nice.
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: And it's currently in my possession and kept where no
• 23:17
  Speaker 4: one can take it but me. Thank you so much
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: for the advice you guys gave me. And now I
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: have the at least 70-year-old necklace back. And I'm super
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: excited to wear it on my wedding day in a
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: couple months. Cute. And edit, I do plan on getting
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: it appraised by someone I know very well, like you
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: guys suggested. Cute.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: And smart.
• 23:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah. For insurance reasons.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: And if you didn't get a false one.
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: Edit, I added appraised, and surprisingly, it was the real thing.
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: And since it's a European cut diamond, it's worth more
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: than a normal diamond in production.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: Cool.
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: But I don't ever plan on selling it as I
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: plan to give it to my children. Lovely.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: As you should.
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: Keep it in the family.
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: Absolutely. But that's the end of that story. We got
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: another one coming right up.
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: I asked my mother to inherit the home I'd pay for.
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: She said it's unfair to my sister.
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: Well, give it to me anyway.
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: My female 20s mother raised me and my sister, also
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: in her 20s, as a single parent in a single
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: income household. We rented our whole lives and grew up
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: low middle class. We never went without food or other essentials,
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: but didn't have the luxuries or many wants. I started
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: investing when I was 17.
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: Through my mother and have been somewhat successful through it.
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: I've accumulated enough money to afford a down payment on
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: a house in our neighborhood slash city.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Wow. Teach your kids to invest at a very young age, everyone.
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: I need to get on that.
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: I've decided to pursue a second degree at college to
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: further my career and job opportunities and currently have a
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: part-time job, which is not enough to support a mortgage.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Makes sense.
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: I currently rent with a roommate. Me and my mother
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: have an extremely good relationship, and I used to joke
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: growing up that when I'm older and I have money,
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: I'd buy a house and let her live with me
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: so she doesn't have to worry about her living situation, mortgage,
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: paying rent when she's older.
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: Oh, that's very sweet.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: I did that too as a kid, and my mom
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: holds it over my head.
• 25:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and you're like, uh.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: I was like, Mom, when I'm really rich when I
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: get older, I'm going to buy you a house, buy
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: you a Mercedes-Benz or a BMW like you always wanted.
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: And my mom goes, where is it?
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: Where is it?
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: But she does it jokingly, I think. It was cute.
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: You know, when you're a kid, you make really weird
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: and insane promises, like you're going to be an astronaut.
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: My mom just always wanted us to buy land so
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: she could design a house for us.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: That's smart.
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: My mom just laughed every time I said that, so
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: I think she thinks it's cute.
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from user UsualEarth1935.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: If you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: And we're here to give good advice goofily. We don't
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: have all the answers, we only know what we'd do.
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: So let us know what you'd do in the comments
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: down below, pretty please, as OP says. So, I told
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: my mother about my plan to buy a house and
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: pitched the idea that I'd give her the money as
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: a down payment, and she'd pay the mortgage. She has
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: a very stable job now and can afford to keep
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: up on a mortgage. The down deposit was the issue,
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: as she didn't have enough saved to afford our city.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: She didn't want to feel burdened to me, but I
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: really want to do this for her. I would move
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: in and contribute some money in rent for utilities, mortgage,
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: you name it. It's a beneficial situation for both of us. Eventually,
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: in 20 plus years, when my mom retires or whenever
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: she wants to retire, I should have a stable career
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: and be able to take over the remainder of her
• 26:33
  Speaker 3: mortgage if she still had one. We were all agreed
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: on this and both extremely excited about starting the process.
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: I was fine with the house being in my mother's name,
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: but this is where the conflict came up.
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: Uh-oh.
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: When I agreed for it to be in my mother's name,
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: it was because I'd still be able to live there,
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: would inherit it in the future, and it would eventually
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: be in my name anyway. My mother disagreed and said
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: she would leave it to both me and my sister 50-50.
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: The house that OP's putting money into?
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: Is sister putting money into this? Then that makes sense.
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: No, that doesn't really, that's silly.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: I didn't understand as my sister was not contributing financially
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: to this house while I was.
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: Uh oh. Mom, I don't like the sound of that.
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: I told my mother that I would not give her
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: the money for a down deposit if I didn't solely
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: inherit it in the future. She called me selfish for
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: making her leave my sister with nothing.
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: But I disagree.
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: How do you feel about that?
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: I don't know. You're not saying I'm going to leave
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: my sister out to dry. You're just saying I should
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: have ownership of the house I'm putting money into.
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: What's sister doing? Do you think sister gets this for free?
• 27:48
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: Just because you feel bad for her?
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: Sounds like not my circus, not my monkeys.
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: For real.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: My sister has never had much focus or priority on
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: her future or career and is quite materialistic. She hardly
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: saves and has a boyfriend who she'll 98% marry eventually
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: and have children with.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: What's the other 2%?
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: She's like, probably going to marry him.
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: I personally want to be child free.
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: And knowing my sister, she'll believe she is more deserving
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: as she'll have a family.
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Like probably when it gets to it, when they
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: get to like this house being split 50-50, the sister's
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: probably going to come in and say, well, yeah, it's
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: both of ours, but I have a family and you
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: don't need all this space.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: That doesn't make any sense. I didn't pay for it,
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: but I deserve this because I have a family and
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: you don't.
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: Give it to me.
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: Also, if she knew about my mother and I were
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: buying a house, but still inheriting it in the future,
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: there is zero chance she'd save for her own place.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: She'd be like, hubby, guess what? We're getting a free house.
• 28:49
  Speaker 4: We got a house.
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: Or maybe 50% of it, but come on, it's going
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: to be our house. She'd wait till our mother passed
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: and assume she'd be able to move in. Am I
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: the a-hole for demanding or assuming I'd inherit my mother's house?
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: And we have an edit here. I'll go ahead and
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: read it. Sorry for not clarifying.
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: I'd be paying the deposit plus at least 40% of
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: the mortgage over time. My bank denied my application for
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: a loan. If you're putting money into a house for
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: you and your mom, that has nothing to do with
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: your sister.
• 29:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Like, she's just not in the equation at all.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: And then you tell the mom, you go, well, I
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: want to do this with you, but if this is
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: your stipulation, then I'm not going to go in on
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: a house with you.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: Truly.
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: I mean, if nothing's been signed or, you know, T's crossed,
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: I's dotted.
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: Let's undot those I's and uncross those T's.
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: Yes. Make them L's.
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Update.
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: To start this off, I have decided not to purchase
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: a house at this moment. I sat down to talk
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: about this decision with my mom and gave the following
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: request that would make me comfortable with purchasing a house
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: with her. Both our names would be on the deed
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: and mortgage agreement. with joint tenancy. This would mean that
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: when either of us passed, it would automatically be passed
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: on to the other and not counted as estate. This
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: was the one I liked the best. I donate a
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: portion of the down deposit, not all of it, and
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: consider it a gift. After discussing with an estate lawyer
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: and financial advisor, we do it in a very legal
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: way with signed documents and everything. Dictating my percentage, my mother's,
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: a maximum payoff my sister could receive if I wanted
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: to buy her share.
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: I saw this in a comment. Et cetera. Great. You're
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: making sure there.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: Are no holes in this shiny armor in this house
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: for you.
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: I think that's smart. I think, yeah, before we decide anything,
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: let's have a contract.
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think in any society, going off someone's
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: word or not having anything.
• 30:49
  Speaker 5: People don't value words these days.
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: They value words on paper.
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: Words are not really binding anymore. Let's be real.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: I said I would only consider this option if my
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: percentage was 51% or above. Both named on the mortgage
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: and deed.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: Nothing. We both do our own thing.
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: My mother took the day to discuss these options and
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: said she didn't feel comfortable not leaving anything for my
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: sister when she passes.
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: I mean, you could leave whatever you wanted.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: Remember, this is not the house.
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, this is not the house. And like a lot
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: of you guys said... I realized we just aren't compatible.
• 31:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's when you eventually realize, there comes a
• 31:25
  Speaker 4: day when you realize, oh, maybe I'm not meant to
• 31:28
  Speaker 4: live with my mom.
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, or mom doesn't, maybe I just buy mom like
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: something nice.
• 31:33
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: I tried to tell her why I wanted it this
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: way so I'd have financial security in the future, but
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: also so I could help her. But she said I
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: was being heartless to not consider my sister's future.
• 31:46
  Speaker 4: Why do I have to consider my sister's future?
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: What about my future?
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: Why? I'm focused on my future. I can't focus on
• 31:53
  Speaker 4: two futures. She needs to be concerned about her own future.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: Sissy's a big girl, right? She has her own future
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: that she can worry about. She tried to negotiate option three,
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: but at only 50% guaranteed to me. I know that selfishly,
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: that's not a beneficial situation for me to be in,
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: but I just can't bring myself to agree to that.
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: I would pay for all of the deposits, then 40%
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: of the mortgage, and still get half even if I
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: didn't do the following? This would also set me back
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: years to buy a house that I would actually own.
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: I was also worried after reading comments that she would
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: go and leave her portion to my sister, making it
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: 50-50 anyway.
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I just wouldn't trust.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: I don't think mom's ever going to get it, Sophia.
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: Yeah, like at that point, you don't have to have
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: a bad relationship with her. You just say, okay, well,
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: I don't think we should buy a house together.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: I'm going to make this real simple. I'm like, mom,
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: guess what? I'm going to treat you to lunch. And
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: you know what? We're going to buy lunch. And look
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: at this. I bought my meal. I bought you a meal.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: And then mom goes, what about sister's meal?
• 32:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, did you buy sister's meal?
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: You're like, sister's not here. That doesn't matter.
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but we should buy her a meal.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: Your sister's pretty hungry.
• 32:58
  Speaker 4: She's hungry. She's probably hungry right now.
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: That's so dumb. Mom, why are you being so stupid?
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: My mother said I was selfish for going back on
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: my word and forcing her to choose between me and
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: my sister.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: No.
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: That's not what's happening here.
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: And that I should realize I'm a part of a
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: family before seeing her or my sister again?
• 33:16
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: Okay, what about sister's house then? Oh, yeah. Do I
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: get 50% of that?
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: That's pretty crazy because OP said that she and her
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: mom got along really well. Like, this was her friend.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: And now her mom is threatening to not see her
• 33:32
  Speaker 4: because she doesn't want to get the house?
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: True colors are being shown.
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: Yikes.
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: I feel bad for putting conditions on this offer, but
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: this was never a gift or anything like that. It
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: was an opportunity for both of us to buy a house.
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah. But all of our options.
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: Don't seem to be mutually beneficial. We haven't talked for
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: the past two days, and I don't really see the
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: situation having much more closure to this. My plan is
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: to finish school and work for a few years before
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: committing to buying a home, but thank you for all
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: of the advice you have given me. I'm sad that
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: it ended like this, but hope not too much damage
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: was done in the long run.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: We have some comments. Any final thoughts, Sophia?
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: I think you just say, yeah, I understand, Mom, but
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: I think we're just too diametrically opposed to continue.
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: I guess we agree to disagree, Mom.
• 34:20
  Speaker 4: Yeah, agree to disagree.
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: Okay. It seems like whatever you do, it doesn't make
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: any sense. Yeah.
• 34:26
  Speaker 4: What? I don't think it's going to work out.
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: Comments.
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: Comment number one says, your mother is very worried about
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: the prospect of not leaving an inheritance for your sister.
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: Yet it seems to have escaped her notice that if
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: you pay for half of the house and end up
• 34:38
  Speaker 3: with 50% while your sister also gets 50%.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: She has left nothing to you.
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: Oh, such a good point. Such a good point that
• 34:47
  Speaker 4: I didn't even consider. Yeah. She'd leave 50% to your
• 34:50
  Speaker 4: sister and then nothing to you.
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: You'd be tying up a lot of money for decades,
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: missing out on other opportunities for investment in order to
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: facilitate an inheritance for your sister. I think that you're
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: better off not being part of this.
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: Save your resources to buy your own home. And that's that.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: That's the end of that story. Wow. Wow. Harsh reality
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: and harsh truth.
• 35:13
  Speaker 4: But that is that.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: Makes sense. I'm sorry, OP. I guess your mom is
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: not going to be involved in your house.
• 35:19
  Speaker 4: I guess not. That's okay.
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: Which sucks. It really does suck. You want to do
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: something nice for your mom, but... Yeah.
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: Doesn't always work out.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: As you have that story, we have another one coming
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: right up.
• 35:28
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• 35:31
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• 35:33
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• 35:35
  Speaker 5: I got into my sister's dream university where she got rejected.
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: Our parents said it's unfair.
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: Sorry, I'm smarter than my sister.
• 35:43
  Speaker 5: So I got into Cornell last week. Honestly, I think
• 35:47
  Speaker 5: it was a fluke. I'm not smart at all. I
• 35:50
  Speaker 5: got a 28 ACT, a decent GPA because my school
• 35:53
  Speaker 5: grade inflates considerably. I had some decent extracurriculars, but nothing
• 35:58
  Speaker 5: remotely competitive enough to get me into a school like Cornell.
• 36:01
  Speaker 5: But anyways, my twin sister is.
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: The opposite of me. She's a genius.
• 36:07
  Speaker 5: She has way more impressive stats, 34 ACT, and she
• 36:10
  Speaker 5: only took it once compared to my three times. She
• 36:14
  Speaker 5: has way better grades and way cooler extracurriculars. Everyone always
• 36:18
  Speaker 5: looked up to her as the smart one. I didn't
• 36:20
  Speaker 5: and still don't mind.
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: It's true.
• 36:22
  Speaker 5: The only reason I can fathom I got in and
• 36:24
  Speaker 5: she didn't is that she applied to the engineering college
• 36:28
  Speaker 5: while I applied to arts and sciences.
• 36:30
  Speaker 4: What do you mean the only reason you can fathom? Yeah,
• 36:33
  Speaker 4: that's the reason.
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: That makes sense.
• 36:36
  Speaker 4: That's so funny. Why are we surprised?
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: We have more context.
• 36:41
  Speaker 5: I don't know if too many of you guys are
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: familiar with Cornell, but they have a bunch of different
• 36:46
  Speaker 5: colleges you can apply to, each with their different admission criteria. Well,
• 36:50
  Speaker 5: last week, decisions for Ivy's came out. Unfortunately for my sister,
• 36:55
  Speaker 5: she didn't get into a single one, including.
• 36:57
  Speaker 4: Her first choice, Cornell.
• 36:59
  Speaker 5: She checked as soon as it was available and called
• 37:02
  Speaker 5: me Bali.
• 37:02
  Speaker 4: Aw.
• 37:04
  Speaker 5: I consoled her and told her everything was going to
• 37:06
  Speaker 5: be okay. That who cares what school you go to?
• 37:09
  Speaker 5: And that she was brilliant and was going to be
• 37:11
  Speaker 5: successful no matter where she goes.
• 37:13
  Speaker 4: That's very sweet. By the way, this comes from the
• 37:15
  Speaker 4: lucky dumb one.
• 37:17
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• 37:18
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• 37:20
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah. I'm Riley. I'm Sophia.
• 37:23
  Speaker 5: And we're here to give you some advice, but we
• 37:25
  Speaker 5: don't know all the answers. So you tell us what
• 37:27
  Speaker 5: you would do and we're going to tell you what
• 37:28
  Speaker 5: we would do.
• 37:29
  Speaker 4: As OP says.
• 37:30
  Speaker 5: Well, anyways, I pretty much resolved that I was getting rejected.
• 37:34
  Speaker 5: So I didn't even bother to look at my email
• 37:36
  Speaker 5: until later that night. Well, I guess surprises do happen
• 37:39
  Speaker 5: sometimes because I'm a Cornelian.
• 37:41
  Speaker 4: Whoa.
• 37:44
  Speaker 5: I got in i just don't know how but i
• 37:46
  Speaker 5: did i really want to go guys but this would
• 37:49
  Speaker 5: devastate my sister all week she's been crying and solemn
• 37:53
  Speaker 5: and sad she's been angry at her friends who got
• 37:56
  Speaker 5: into top schools especially the ones with lower stats she's
• 37:59
  Speaker 5: decided to go to nyu still great school great not
• 38:03
  Speaker 5: for engineering but still good I know people who went
• 38:07
  Speaker 5: to NYU for engineering.
• 38:08
  Speaker 4: No, but it's not like known for engineering.
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 38:11
  Speaker 4: It's kind of funny that OP's going to Cornell for
• 38:13
  Speaker 4: arts and sciences. And then she's going to the arts school.
• 38:18
  Speaker 5: But she just hasn't been herself. I haven't told her parents.
• 38:21
  Speaker 5: I think they assumed I didn't get in because she didn't.
• 38:24
  Speaker 5: Am I being selfish? Should I just go with her
• 38:26
  Speaker 5: to NYC? We always thought we were going to school together,
• 38:29
  Speaker 5: but like... It's Cornell. I couldn't in a million years
• 38:33
  Speaker 5: imagine I'd get in. I've been researching obsessively about it,
• 38:37
  Speaker 5: and I can't shake the desire that if I don't go,
• 38:40
  Speaker 5: I'll regret it. Ithaca looks beautiful. It's a small town,
• 38:43
  Speaker 5: which I would love to get away with from the
• 38:46
  Speaker 5: huge city that is New York. It seems like a
• 38:48
  Speaker 5: dream opportunity. Am I being a bad sister? I know
• 38:52
  Speaker 5: she would be upset. We were supposed to go to
• 38:54
  Speaker 5: school together. It would crush her. I really don't have
• 38:57
  Speaker 5: anyone else to talk to. Am I the a-hole for
• 39:00
  Speaker 5: going to her dream school? Sounds a little bit like
• 39:02
  Speaker 5: it's your dream school now, too.
• 39:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 39:05
  Speaker 5: Especially considering how much harder she's worked compared to me.
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: I mean, is it fair that you got in and
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: she didn't? It's not fair. But you now have an
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: offer on the table if you want to go.
• 39:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah. It ain't fair.
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, tell them.
• 39:19
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel like you can go because you want
• 39:23
  Speaker 5: to and you got accepted. It shouldn't be anyone else's
• 39:25
  Speaker 5: choice but yours. And also, I don't think you need,
• 39:28
  Speaker 5: you know, your worry is like, I don't know anyone.
• 39:31
  Speaker 5: That's what happens when you go to college. I went
• 39:32
  Speaker 5: to college.
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: I knew no one.
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 39:35
  Speaker 4: I knew one person from my middle school and that
• 39:38
  Speaker 4: was it. Well, two people from my middle school, but
• 39:40
  Speaker 4: I was only friends with one of them. I knew
• 39:42
  Speaker 4: absolutely no one. And then all the friends that I
• 39:44
  Speaker 4: made live across seas now. So that's really fun for me.
• 39:47
  Speaker 5: But maybe you'll make friends that actually live where you are.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 39:53
  Speaker 4: Even if you don't, I made friends who are still
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: in San Diego and I'm still friends with them.
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: I have a friend I went to high school with
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: that lives 10 minutes away from me. But we don't
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: talk anymore.
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: Why?
• 40:01
  Speaker 4: Because he makes plans and then he.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: No, she... Oh, she... We used to date.
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: Well, that makes sense. Update!
• 40:10
  Speaker 5: So everyone here told me that I should go, so
• 40:13
  Speaker 5: I decided to tell my sister. Well, she started screaming
• 40:17
  Speaker 5: from excitement and got, not actually mad, that how couldn't
• 40:21
  Speaker 5: I tell her earlier and she's so proud of me.
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: Oh, this is a good sister!
• 40:26
  Speaker 4: That's sweet. But seconds later, her excitement just turned to sadness. Oh.
• 40:32
  Speaker 5: She went from like super giddy to depressed in like seconds.
• 40:36
  Speaker 5: And she started bawling. Like uncontrollably bawling.
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: I think she was excited you got into a college
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: and then she realized it was Cornell.
• 40:44
  Speaker 4: And then she realized we're not going to school together. Yeah.
• 40:47
  Speaker 5: I tried to comfort her, but she pushed me away
• 40:50
  Speaker 5: and locked herself in a room. I'm going to give
• 40:52
  Speaker 5: her some alone time right now and we can talk more.
• 40:55
  Speaker 4: About it later. There's a second update.
• 40:58
  Speaker 5: When my sister would lock me out of the room,
• 41:00
  Speaker 5: I would get a little lollipop and stick it in
• 41:02
  Speaker 5: the little door and you'd have to like press this
• 41:04
  Speaker 5: button and then.
• 41:04
  Speaker 4: It would open.
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: You're really smart.
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: Thanks. Figured that out all by myself. There's a second
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: update here. So after five minutes of the previous post,
• 41:13
  Speaker 4: my sister sent me a text.
• 41:14
  Speaker 5: It said, I'm sorry for how I reacted. Please don't
• 41:18
  Speaker 5: be mad. I'm so happy for you and your accomplishments.
• 41:21
  Speaker 5: It's just that after I got rejected, I at least
• 41:24
  Speaker 5: had the consolation that I get to go to school
• 41:26
  Speaker 5: with you and we can go together. But now you're
• 41:29
  Speaker 5: going to be where I wanted to be and I'm
• 41:31
  Speaker 5: just so sad. I worked so hard and did everything
• 41:34
  Speaker 5: I could to go to the best school I can
• 41:36
  Speaker 5: and I just feel like all my hard work was
• 41:38
  Speaker 5: just wasted effort. I'm sorry I'm ranting. I just need
• 41:41
  Speaker 5: more time. I'm not going to lie, guys. When I
• 41:43
  Speaker 5: read this, I cried.
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: Aw, I'm crying too. This poor girl. And she has
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: the right to feel the way she's feeling too.
• 41:50
  Speaker 5: A lot of you are saying that I obviously have
• 41:53
  Speaker 5: to have attributes that made me desirable, but I really don't.
• 41:58
  Speaker 4: I don't deserve my acceptance.
• 41:59
  Speaker 5: I did my homework between classes, barely studied for anything,
• 42:03
  Speaker 5: took the easiest AP classes available, etc. Meanwhile, I see
• 42:06
  Speaker 5: my sister always taking the hardest classes, studying as hard
• 42:10
  Speaker 5: as she can, always volunteering.
• 42:12
  Speaker 4: She deserves it, not me. And seeing her so hurt
• 42:16
  Speaker 4: pains me.
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: Well, can't you guys just....
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: Parent trap. But with engineering school.
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: Academia version.
• 42:24
  Speaker 4: I mean, honestly, truthfully, it sounds like they're twins.
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it does.
• 42:28
  Speaker 5: So.
• 42:29
  Speaker 4: OP, remember, you're doing two completely different majors.
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: Well, what happens when science and arts make love?
• 42:38
  Speaker 4: Smarts.
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: Engineering.
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: Engineering. They engineer love.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: Smarts.
• 42:44
  Speaker 5: I'm really strongly just considering going to NYU with her.
• 42:48
  Speaker 5: Everyone at Cornell will be just like her, and I
• 42:50
  Speaker 5: don't stand a chance.
• 42:51
  Speaker 4: No, they won't. OP, you're going to be in arts
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: and sciences. That is not like engineering.
• 42:57
  Speaker 5: Yeah, OP, you've got to give yourself some credit. Obviously,
• 42:59
  Speaker 5: they saw something in you, and you shouldn't discredit that.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: Just go.
• 43:03
  Speaker 4: Just say yes. Like she probably had a really good essay. Honestly.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: What?
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: The OP. OP. Which is why she got it.
• 43:10
  Speaker 5: And I know if I get a Cornell, we're going
• 43:12
  Speaker 5: to drift apart, which would suck because we're best friends
• 43:15
  Speaker 5: and I just don't want to lose my sister.
• 43:17
  Speaker 4: Update three.
• 43:18
  Speaker 5: So I told my parents and they did not react
• 43:21
  Speaker 5: how I would have expected them to. First, they tried
• 43:23
  Speaker 5: to insist that Cornell made a mistake between our applications.
• 43:27
  Speaker 4: Oh, so mean. Dang.
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: You totally could have made it there. You couldn't have
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: done it.
• 43:32
  Speaker 4: I couldn't have done it.
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: You're dumb. You're an idiot.
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: Oh, what did your sister write your essay? This is
• 43:37
  Speaker 4: messed up.
• 43:38
  Speaker 5: Which would be impossible if we applied to the same
• 43:41
  Speaker 5: school within Cornell, like we both applied to arts and sciences,
• 43:44
  Speaker 5: then it would be somewhat probable. But we applied to
• 43:47
  Speaker 5: different schools with different admission committees. They couldn't have mixed
• 43:50
  Speaker 5: them up. Then they went on to explain how I
• 43:53
  Speaker 5: should go to NYU with my sister. I thought it
• 43:55
  Speaker 5: was strange because they definitely would have supported my sister
• 43:58
  Speaker 5: going to Cornell if I didn't get in. My sister
• 44:01
  Speaker 5: apparently thought so too because she asked why would I
• 44:04
  Speaker 5: not go to Cornell. And they said how it was
• 44:07
  Speaker 5: unfair that I basically slacked off in high school and
• 44:10
  Speaker 5: was able to go... when my sister was the hardworking
• 44:13
  Speaker 5: one who busted her butt all of school.
• 44:16
  Speaker 4: I don't like your parents. Yeah, what? Favoritism. Yeah, literally,
• 44:20
  Speaker 4: golden child. We need to bring the golden child.
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: That's so weird. They probably put a lot of more
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: effort and drove her around more, the sister.
• 44:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a good point. They might have put more
• 44:30
  Speaker 4: effort into helping her with her extracurriculars and stuff because
• 44:33
  Speaker 4: they noticed she probably had more interest.
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: Ah, all our efforts are gone. It's going off to you. Yeah.
• 44:41
  Speaker 5: I don't know if I'm being dramatic, but that hurt.
• 44:43
  Speaker 5: Not being dramatic, what? Why are your feelings never, well,
• 44:46
  Speaker 5: now we know. Your feelings are never validated by your parents.
• 44:50
  Speaker 5: I knew they always thought my sister was the smarter one.
• 44:53
  Speaker 5: They've made it clear multiple times. But to hear them
• 44:56
  Speaker 5: say that I don't deserve my spot sucks. Even though
• 44:59
  Speaker 5: they're probably right. OP, stop doubting yourself. They're not right.
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: There's proof. Proof.
• 45:05
  Speaker 5: I stood there in silence, but my sister stood up
• 45:07
  Speaker 5: for me. She asked them how could they say something
• 45:10
  Speaker 5: so cruel to their daughter that I 100% have every
• 45:14
  Speaker 5: right to be there and that they should apologize for
• 45:16
  Speaker 5: being so rude. My parents were shocked because we're both
• 45:19
  Speaker 5: very passive people and neither of us ever talked.
• 45:23
  Speaker 4: To them like that before.
• 45:24
  Speaker 5: This started an argument and long story short, we're currently
• 45:27
  Speaker 5: in our rooms. I'm just so thankful to have her
• 45:29
  Speaker 5: stand up for me. I realize that I have internalized
• 45:32
  Speaker 5: a lot of comments they've made over the years. I'm
• 45:34
  Speaker 5: glad I have my sister actually believe in me. I
• 45:37
  Speaker 5: still don't know if I want to go to NYU
• 45:39
  Speaker 5: or Cornell, mostly because I just don't want to go
• 45:42
  Speaker 5: to school without her. She's my best friend and going
• 45:45
  Speaker 5: four years without someone who just thinks so positively about
• 45:48
  Speaker 5: you just seems so long. At the end of the day,
• 45:50
  Speaker 5: I always thought the NYU was going to be the
• 45:53
  Speaker 5: school I was going to, so I wouldn't lose much
• 45:56
  Speaker 5: by choosing it over Cornell. I'm going to talk about
• 45:59
  Speaker 5: it more with my sister and look into both schools more.
• 46:01
  Speaker 5: Thanks again, everybody, for your comments. I wouldn't have realized
• 46:05
  Speaker 5: how important of a person my sister is. If you
• 46:08
  Speaker 5: guys didn't give me the courage to tell her that
• 46:09
  Speaker 5: I got in. There's an update four.
• 46:11
  Speaker 4: That's so sweet.
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: Sisters unite.
• 46:14
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, I like it.
• 46:16
  Speaker 5: I just don't, I don't like how OP gets her
• 46:19
  Speaker 5: confidence from everyone else, though.
• 46:21
  Speaker 4: That's not.
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: I mean, not from within herself as a woman.
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she's trying to get, she's trying to get mirrored.
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: Mirrored?
• 46:30
  Speaker 4: Mirrored. Mirrored.
• 46:32
  Speaker 5: She wants her feelings mirrored. Say you're like crying. Do
• 46:35
  Speaker 5: your parents say stop crying or do they say oh
• 46:37
  Speaker 5: my gosh are you okay? If she's mirroring her like
• 46:40
  Speaker 5: if she never got her feelings mirrored then she probably
• 46:43
  Speaker 5: doesn't feel validated at all in anything that she feels. Yeah.
• 46:45
  Speaker 4: Which is why she seeks validation from everyone else. Yeah.
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because if you check in the mirror and you
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: know you look good, you're not going to ask other people.
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: Shout out my therapist.
• 46:54
  Speaker 5: Oh, really?
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: Dang.
• 46:55
  Speaker 4: You've been seeing her? Shout out. I was like, that
• 46:58
  Speaker 4: sounded really good.
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 47:00
  Speaker 4: And I was like, wait.
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: You've been going to therapy recently?
• 47:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: Look at you.
• 47:06
  Speaker 4: I'm proud of you. I was going to say, I
• 47:08
  Speaker 4: think that OP needs to go to Cornell because she
• 47:11
  Speaker 4: needs to have that Experience away. Experience of, like, you know, yeah,
• 47:16
  Speaker 4: finding herself and who she is outside of her, you know,
• 47:18
  Speaker 4: seemingly twin sister. Yeah, outside of her group. And also,
• 47:21
  Speaker 4: Cornell and NYU are only, like, four hours away. Update four.
• 47:25
  Speaker 5: So later that day, my parents actually came to me
• 47:29
  Speaker 5: and apologized for everything.
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: I know. I'm happy.
• 47:37
  Speaker 5: I know everyone in the last post really hated them,
• 47:40
  Speaker 5: but my parents are really good people. They have flaws,
• 47:43
  Speaker 5: but all humans do. It's not like they spent their
• 47:45
  Speaker 5: free time brutalizing me. They knew I was smart and
• 47:48
  Speaker 5: even encouraged me to apply to schools like Cornell. They
• 47:51
  Speaker 5: just automatically assumed my sister would get in, especially versus me,
• 47:55
  Speaker 5: which if you look at our scores.
• 47:57
  Speaker 4: I can't say they should be blamed. I blame them.
• 48:00
  Speaker 5: Nevertheless, they realized that they were being and they apologized
• 48:03
  Speaker 5: for making me feel like I'm not as capable as
• 48:05
  Speaker 5: my sister that they were shocked but it was no
• 48:08
  Speaker 5: excuse for what they said or how they made me
• 48:11
  Speaker 5: feel and they love me and apologize for what they.
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: Said I'm glad this is a happy ending everyone loves
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: each other the big question is where are you going
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: OP where's she going.
• 48:22
  Speaker 5: Oh yeah I was like what do you mean where
• 48:24
  Speaker 5: she's going she's going to the schools what.
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: I like really thought what happened there We have been
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: talking about colleges this whole time about if she's going
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: to NYU or Cornell.
• 48:34
  Speaker 4: What?
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: Why did that take you so long?
• 48:39
  Speaker 5: Anyways, for the moment you've all been waiting for, I
• 48:43
  Speaker 5: decided that I want.
• 48:44
  Speaker 4: To go to Cornell.
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: There we go.
• 48:46
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 48:48
  Speaker 5: It was such a tough choice and wasn't made without
• 48:51
  Speaker 5: serious consideration. But ultimately, I'll be happier in Ithaca. Plus,
• 48:56
  Speaker 5: my sister is going to try to transfer after our
• 48:58
  Speaker 5: freshman year if she still wants to go. She may
• 49:01
  Speaker 5: find that she loves NYU after all that time. Whatever
• 49:04
  Speaker 5: she decides, I have no doubt she will be extremely successful. Plus,
• 49:08
  Speaker 5: it'll be good to spend some time apart from each
• 49:10
  Speaker 5: other and grow as people. NYC is only a short
• 49:13
  Speaker 5: bus ride away, so we can definitely see each other
• 49:16
  Speaker 5: during holidays and breaks. Finally, to the trolls who are saying...
• 49:20
  Speaker 5: this is fake, TLDR, I'm going to Cornell. Since I'm
• 49:23
  Speaker 5: already here, anyone who wants to give me advice on
• 49:25
  Speaker 5: the number one thing they wish they knew when they
• 49:27
  Speaker 5: were 18 and was just about to start college, or
• 49:31
  Speaker 5: the number one thing they regret about college that they
• 49:33
  Speaker 5: don't want others to make the same mistake. I could
• 49:36
  Speaker 5: appreciate some pointers.
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: Don't get a girlfriend for three years while in college.
• 49:44
  Speaker 4: It's going to be so freaking fun. You're going to
• 49:46
  Speaker 4: freaking love it. Be so excited.
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: the next one.
• 49:51
  Speaker 4: My father expected me to support him in his retirement years.
• 49:55
  Speaker 4: It made me explode.
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: Oh no, come back altogether.
• 49:58
  Speaker 4: Let me, 25 male, set the stage for you first.
• 50:02
  Speaker 4: Due to the economy and culture here, we usually live
• 50:04
  Speaker 4: in the same house with our parents. Even if we
• 50:06
  Speaker 4: want to move out, it's hard to find a decent
• 50:08
  Speaker 4: apartment With rent lower than our monthly salary, about 200
• 50:11
  Speaker 4: to 350 are the starting salaries here per month. So
• 50:16
  Speaker 4: my dad, 63 male in his younger years, found it
• 50:19
  Speaker 4: really hard looking for and staying at a job due
• 50:23
  Speaker 4: to his severe asthma.
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: Dang.
• 50:25
  Speaker 4: He lived off the money my mom sent for us
• 50:26
  Speaker 4: while she worked in another country. Don't get me wrong,
• 50:29
  Speaker 4: he was a great dad. Had his ups and downs,
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: but we got along great. Earlier today, he told me
• 50:34
  Speaker 4: about his dream of becoming successful, being able to get
• 50:37
  Speaker 4: a new house, cars, and have a great family. He
• 50:39
  Speaker 4: was happy telling his dream. Then it got to the
• 50:41
  Speaker 4: part where he said that I'll stay with me. Me
• 50:44
  Speaker 4: providing for him when he gets... older me taking him
• 50:46
  Speaker 4: to places he wants to go and i had to
• 50:48
  Speaker 4: stop him there and it went okay by the way
• 50:51
  Speaker 4: this comes from flying turtle 2187 and if you want
• 50:54
  Speaker 4: to submit your own stories go to the r slash
• 50:55
  Speaker 4: okay story time subreddit i'm.
• 50:57
  Speaker 6: Sophia i'm keon i'm riley and we're here to give
• 51:00
  Speaker 6: good advice goofily but we don't have all the answers
• 51:02
  Speaker 6: we only know what we do so let us know
• 51:04
  Speaker 6: what you would do in the comments And Opie says,
• 51:06
  Speaker 6: then after a few hours, he told me again his dream.
• 51:09
  Speaker 4: And now he was thinking of what I need to
• 51:11
  Speaker 4: do for him. I told him to stop, but he
• 51:14
  Speaker 4: just kept on going, which irritated me. I told him
• 51:17
  Speaker 4: again that I don't want to hear it, but he
• 51:20
  Speaker 4: goes on and on. And then I kind of exploded
• 51:22
  Speaker 4: in his face, telling him that I'm not your retirement plan.
• 51:26
  Speaker 4: You wanted a good life. You should have thought about
• 51:27
  Speaker 4: that before. Instead of thinking that I'll carry your broke
• 51:31
  Speaker 4: butt to good senior years, you kept saying that you're
• 51:33
  Speaker 4: strong and so proud that your last asthma attack was
• 51:36
  Speaker 4: when I was in first grade. Then why didn't you
• 51:38
  Speaker 4: look for a job then? Why didn't you think of
• 51:40
  Speaker 4: your senior years before? I told myself that I'm going
• 51:43
  Speaker 4: to help you when I finally get the good life
• 51:45
  Speaker 4: I wanted, but I'm not taking you with me.
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: Whoa.
• 51:48
  Speaker 4: Then I stormed out.
• 51:49
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: I can't believe you remembered that and wrote it back down, too.
• 51:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 51:53
  Speaker 4: Word for word.
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: Was that word for word? Bar for bar?
• 51:56
  Speaker 4: Bar for frickin' bar.
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: Oh, wowee.
• 51:59
  Speaker 4: That was a lot.
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: That seemed pent up. Yeah.
• 52:03
  Speaker 4: I think this is an ongoing issue.
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: I think your bottle was very full and overflowing.
• 52:08
  Speaker 4: There is an update. Do you think OP was in
• 52:10
  Speaker 4: the right for that?
• 52:11
  Speaker 3: I think it was an accumulation of a lot of
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: issues over the years that finally exploded, literally.
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: It's a harsh truth.
• 52:20
  Speaker 3: I think it was a little bit aggressive, but sometimes
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: you got to be aggressive so they can, you know,
• 52:27
  Speaker 3: have the harsh truth.
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: But was it right?
• 52:29
  Speaker 3: It's your life and you know it's true. This is
• 52:32
  Speaker 3: the truth for you and you got to have your
• 52:34
  Speaker 3: dad face the reality, face the music.
• 52:36
  Speaker 4: I guess, yeah, it felt a little too harsh for me,
• 52:38
  Speaker 4: but I also understand there was a lot of pent
• 52:40
  Speaker 4: up Anger there.
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: Don't let it pent up, y'all.
• 52:43
  Speaker 4: Release it.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: Release the Kraken.
• 52:46
  Speaker 4: But we got an update. Thank you for those who
• 52:48
  Speaker 4: showed support and understood what I wanted, even though my
• 52:50
  Speaker 4: delivery to my dad was really harsh. And for those
• 52:54
  Speaker 4: who said I am the a-hole, I deserve that. So
• 52:56
  Speaker 4: me and my dad had a long and awkward talk
• 52:58
  Speaker 4: of what happened earlier. Yeah, that's definitely needed. You definitely
• 53:01
  Speaker 4: needed to go back and be like, I'm sorry for
• 53:04
  Speaker 4: how I said that.
• 53:05
  Speaker 3: But I'm not sorry. Yeah, I'm sorry how I said it.
• 53:08
  Speaker 3: I'm not sorry for saying it.
• 53:10
  Speaker 4: I knew I was wrong. He knew he was wrong.
• 53:12
  Speaker 4: We both apologized for what happened, and I sincerely told
• 53:15
  Speaker 4: him that I'd be happy to help him. And I
• 53:17
  Speaker 4: tried to make him understand that for my future, I
• 53:20
  Speaker 4: want to be in the center of the picture. Just me.
• 53:22
  Speaker 4: And he'll be in the background. I made it clear
• 53:24
  Speaker 4: to him that I didn't want him out of my life.
• 53:27
  Speaker 4: And since a lot are asking, yes, we live together.
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 53:31
  Speaker 4: But that's due to him not having a job before
• 53:33
  Speaker 4: and little to no savings. My granddad decided not to
• 53:36
  Speaker 4: pass the house to him, but passed it on to
• 53:38
  Speaker 4: my grandaunt. The money we spent before I had my
• 53:40
  Speaker 4: job all came from my mom.
• 53:42
  Speaker 6: Oh.
• 53:43
  Speaker 4: I don't want to make this sound bad, but I
• 53:45
  Speaker 4: can't think of any other way to put it. But
• 53:46
  Speaker 4: he literally didn't pay or provide for anything. We've got
• 53:50
  Speaker 4: a little bit left to this story. Any final thoughts?
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: No, I think this is like, this is right. But now,
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: how do we go on from here?
• 53:59
  Speaker 4: I think he needs to get a job. I think
• 54:01
  Speaker 4: you got to say, Papa, we got to get you
• 54:03
  Speaker 4: working somewhere because you have no savings.
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: Do you want to keep living like that? Do you
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: want to keep living like a beggar or just like
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: off other people's backs?
• 54:12
  Speaker 4: Well, I mean, he's made it clear that he does.
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: Guess what? If that's what you want, it's not gonna
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: be my back anymore. Good luck.
• 54:19
  Speaker 4: Someone else's back to hop onto. But there's a little
• 54:22
  Speaker 4: bit left. When I was in grade school, money for bills, food,
• 54:25
  Speaker 4: and school came from my mom. Money for taxes on
• 54:27
  Speaker 4: our property. Is that what you Americans call mortgage? We
• 54:31
  Speaker 4: call mortgage mortgage. We call mortgage mortgage.
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: Mortgage.
• 54:35
  Speaker 4: Just curious. Came from my grandaunt living in the U.S.
• 54:38
  Speaker 4: There were all these thoughts in my head when I
• 54:40
  Speaker 4: exploded at him earlier. I failed to notice that he
• 54:43
  Speaker 4: was the one who raised me since my mom was
• 54:45
  Speaker 4: always in Japan. He helped me with homework, taught me
• 54:47
  Speaker 4: how to ride a bike, and those things money can't buy. Now,
• 54:50
  Speaker 4: these were the thoughts that hit me when I was
• 54:52
  Speaker 4: taking a shower earlier. So right after, I decided to
• 54:55
  Speaker 4: talk to him. It may take a while, but we'll
• 54:57
  Speaker 4: be fine. Thank you, everyone. And that's it.
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 55:00
  Speaker 4: That's the end of that story.
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: Lovely. Well, I hope things go up from here and
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: your dad can stand on his own two feet and,
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: you know, doesn't need to ride your back anymore or
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: ride anyone else's back or all that matters.
• 55:11
  Speaker 4: I think it was a good conversation to have, even
• 55:13
  Speaker 4: if it came out in not the best way.
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 55:16
  Speaker 4: But sometimes that happens.
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: It's a harsh truth. And that's the end of this story.
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: Let's head to the next one.
• 55:21
  Speaker 4: A stranger asked me for legal advice at a party.
• 55:24
  Speaker 4: I turned him down.
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: Stranger danger, stranger danger.
• 55:27
  Speaker 4: Hi, everyone. This actually happened last night. I was at
• 55:30
  Speaker 4: my brother's place for an NFL draft party. I haven't
• 55:32
  Speaker 4: seen my brother in a couple weeks, and my brother
• 55:34
  Speaker 4: and I live a couple hours from each other because
• 55:37
  Speaker 4: I've moved away, so I haven't seen a lot of
• 55:39
  Speaker 4: his friends in years. I also haven't met most of
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: my brother's girlfriend's family and friends because she comes from
• 55:45
  Speaker 4: a town a couple hours from where they currently live
• 55:48
  Speaker 4: in the opposite direction from where I live. My brother
• 55:50
  Speaker 4: and his girlfriend have been together two years and are
• 55:53
  Speaker 4: getting engaged next month. At the party, I was talking
• 55:56
  Speaker 4: with a group of people and one guy, the husband
• 55:58
  Speaker 4: of one of my brother's girlfriend's friends, asked me what
• 56:02
  Speaker 4: I do for a living. And I said, I'm an attorney.
• 56:04
  Speaker 4: He then asked me what kind of law I practice
• 56:06
  Speaker 4: and I could already see where this was going. You
• 56:10
  Speaker 4: then started into, so I'm having problems with one of
• 56:13
  Speaker 4: my neighbors. As he was launching into his story, I
• 56:16
  Speaker 4: reached into my pocket and gave him a card and
• 56:18
  Speaker 4: told him to call me in the morning to discuss
• 56:20
  Speaker 4: the issue.
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: You go, I'm not on the clock right now.
• 56:23
  Speaker 4: I'm off the clock. Stop bothering me. He got upset
• 56:27
  Speaker 4: and said, why can't I just answer a couple of
• 56:29
  Speaker 4: quick questions for him since we're both there? I said,
• 56:32
  Speaker 4: I was there to see my brother and watch the draft.
• 56:35
  Speaker 4: and didn't want to discuss business right now. By the way,
• 56:38
  Speaker 4: this comes from ManBearPigCereal. And if you want to submit
• 56:41
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• 56:44
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: I'm Keon. I'm Riley.
• 56:46
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 56:48
  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
• 56:51
  Speaker 4: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 56:53
  Speaker 4: OP says, as other attorneys will tell you at social gatherings,
• 56:56
  Speaker 4: this is a common thing. Once people find out you're
• 56:59
  Speaker 4: an attorney, they'll try to corner you with a bunch
• 57:01
  Speaker 4: of questions and you're basically back on the clock. Years ago,
• 57:05
  Speaker 4: I decided to do the business card thing instead of
• 57:07
  Speaker 4: answering questions so I could actually enjoy social gatherings.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: That's very fair. I actually, that's smart. Makes sense.
• 57:13
  Speaker 4: Besides, these things almost never turn into actual business. People
• 57:17
  Speaker 4: just want free legal advice. I've never had any complaints
• 57:20
  Speaker 4: about it before. The guy got upset, said something under
• 57:22
  Speaker 4: his breath, and stormed off. The other people standing there
• 57:25
  Speaker 4: all made a face as he stormed off, and we
• 57:27
  Speaker 4: went right back into our conversation. That was it. Or
• 57:30
  Speaker 4: so I thought.
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: Oh, no. No.
• 57:32
  Speaker 4: It's going to make us stink.
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: He brought his neighbor.
• 57:34
  Speaker 4: He actually called.
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: He actually got his neighbor and said, like, hey, we
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: need to figure this out now.
• 57:39
  Speaker 4: The rest of the night was fine, and it was
• 57:42
  Speaker 4: never brought up again. We enjoyed the draft, and I
• 57:44
  Speaker 4: enjoyed seeing my brother's knucklehead friends all these years later.
• 57:48
  Speaker 4: I got a text from my brother this morning, and
• 57:50
  Speaker 4: he said, I want to make this clear. I completely
• 57:52
  Speaker 4: understand why you did what you did. He's seen it
• 57:55
  Speaker 4: happen a bunch of times at events and heard me
• 57:57
  Speaker 4: complain about it afterwards. However, his girlfriend is upset that
• 58:01
  Speaker 4: I blew her friend's husband off and wants me to
• 58:04
  Speaker 4: reach out to him. apologize and answer his questions.
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: You know what he can do? Reach out to me.
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: I gave him my business card.
• 58:11
  Speaker 4: Yep. He literally could reach out to me. You just
• 58:13
  Speaker 4: have to pay me. I honestly, I think that you
• 58:16
  Speaker 4: should tell the girlfriend, oh, hey, what's your job? And
• 58:19
  Speaker 4: then tell her to give, you know, free hours of
• 58:22
  Speaker 4: whatever her job is.
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: Very easy.
• 58:23
  Speaker 3: Be like, honey, not on the clock. Don't put the
• 58:25
  Speaker 3: honey part. That'd be really rude. But you're like, I'm
• 58:26
  Speaker 3: not on the clock. Like I want to just hang out.
• 58:30
  Speaker 3: I don't want to be talking about my work, my
• 58:32
  Speaker 3: work when I'm not at work.
• 58:34
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 58:35
  Speaker 4: My brother said he's on my side and said he
• 58:37
  Speaker 4: told her as such, but she made him send the
• 58:39
  Speaker 4: text to me anyway. I believe my brother being on
• 58:41
  Speaker 4: my side and understand he's trying to keep the peace
• 58:44
  Speaker 4: in his relationship. I said I'm not texting and apologizing
• 58:48
  Speaker 4: or calling the guy, but he has my card and
• 58:50
  Speaker 4: is welcome to call me.
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: Boom. Like I said.
• 58:53
  Speaker 5: Perfect.
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: He can reach out to me whenever he wants.
• 58:55
  Speaker 4: I'm not answering questions. I feel I did nothing wrong.
• 58:58
  Speaker 4: Just because of my job doesn't mean I'm on the
• 59:00
  Speaker 4: clock 24-7. My brother said, yeah, I knew you'd say that.
• 59:04
  Speaker 4: But now I can at least tell my girlfriend I
• 59:06
  Speaker 4: tried and that it was with him. Again, I thought
• 59:09
  Speaker 4: this was the end.
• 59:10
  Speaker 3: End but it was not i think this is insane
• 59:12
  Speaker 3: that again the correlation here that this is brother's girlfriend's
• 59:17
  Speaker 3: friend's husband yeah why doesn't he just message me yeah
• 59:22
  Speaker 3: okay i thought we were adults.
• 59:23
  Speaker 4: Here It's like, does he have my number? Then I'm
• 59:26
  Speaker 4: not apologizing. We don't know each other.
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. What did you want from me? Oh, you
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: wanted free legal advice?
• 59:32
  Speaker 4: Also, like.
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: I don't know you.
• 59:34
  Speaker 4: Friends' husband can totally be annoyed and think that OP
• 59:38
  Speaker 4: is a jerk. Who cares?
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: Who cares?
• 59:41
  Speaker 4: Like, go about your day. Continue thinking that OP sucks.
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: It doesn't matter.
• 59:45
  Speaker 4: You guys don't know each other.
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: If I was an attorney, I'd be like, hey, use
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: the internet.
• 59:49
  Speaker 4: Again, I thought this was the end, but it was not.
• 59:52
  Speaker 4: His girlfriend texted my mom and told her what happened.
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: What are we doing?
• 59:56
  Speaker 4: Now my mom is texting me and saying, I know
• 59:58
  Speaker 4: it's annoying what this guy did, but can you call
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 4: this guy so that your relationship with brother's girlfriend isn't
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 4: negatively affected? Because she's obviously upset with you. My brother
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 4: is getting engaged to her next month and she's going
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 4: to be family and there's no need to have a
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 4: rift when she's about to have family.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: Why is this bothering her so much?
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I said it's too late. The fact
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 4: that she cried to my mom already created a rift
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 4: on my end about her.
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: She tried to tattle on you?
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she literally, I mean, she did. She did tattle
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 4: on you. Again, I declined and my mom said she
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 4: understands but just doesn't want negative feelings with brother's girlfriend
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 4: over this. I said, no, he can call me and
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 4: I'll answer any questions he has. So Reddit, am I
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 4: the AOL for how I handle this?
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 3: See, I, this is one of those things where I
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 3: wish we saw like a video of this, of how
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 3: OP did it. Was it in a rude way? I
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 3: doubt it was, but like, it was just like rolled eyes.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 3: Here's my business card. Call me if you need me
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 3: for any of the legal advice.
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah. It seems like OP just was like, oh, call me.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: Call me, beat me if you want to reach me.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 3: And if it was done in a rude way, makes sense.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 3: But if it wasn't done in a polite way, I
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 3: see no harm, no foul.
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 4: I agree. And it's a little bit, this is getting
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 4: a little bit ridiculous that your brother's girlfriend is going
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 4: to everyone she knows to try and cajole you into
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 4: doing this.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: For her friend's husband. Yeah. Which is even the funniest part.
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 4: But we do have an update. I have some small
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 4: updates on this post I made a couple of months ago.
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 4: My brother got engaged to the girlfriend referenced in the
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 4: post a couple of weeks ago.
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: Congrats.
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 4: They had a get together to celebrate their engagement this
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 4: past weekend. They only invited immediate family and those they
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 4: expect to be in their wedding party. My brother had
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 4: asked me about being his best man last week before
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 4: the party.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 2: Cute.
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 4: But at the dinner, they formally gave gifts to everyone
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 4: in their wedding party, along with officially asking everyone to
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 4: be in the wedding party. Said brother's fiance's friend's husband
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 4: was there as well. He is not going to be
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 4: in the wedding party, but his wife apparently will be.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 4: I was there before he was. And when he came in,
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 4: he made no attempt to come over and say hello
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 4: to me or the group I was talking with.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: Oh, little poor baby.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 4: He's standing in the corner glaring.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: You pouting? Are you in timeout right now? Fine.
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 4: I hardly know the guy. So I don't care if
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 4: he talks to me. At dinner, there were no assigned seats,
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 4: but my girlfriend and I happened to be seated, not
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 4: super close to him and his wife, but close enough
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 4: to where we could hear each other's conversations if we
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 4: weren't involved in our own.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: Oh, do you think they're going to be really annoying
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: and petty?
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 4: I think he's going to be pissy and be talking
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 4: crap about Opie.
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 1: You're like, I hate attorneys. Attorneys suck. Attorneys are the worst.
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 4: They're always so selfish. At dinner, I was sitting with
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 4: my girlfriend next to me on the same side they
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 4: were seated. On my other side was my sister and
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 4: her husband, and across from me was some other friends
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 4: of my brother's fiancé I had never met before this night.
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 4: My girlfriend was not at the previous event, but I,
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 4: of course, had told her about the issue. Any final thoughts?
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: No, let's just see what happens.
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah, how should OP proceed?
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 3: Should OP be the bigger man or bigger person to
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 3: just like, Hey man, sorry that I like gave you
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 3: a bad impression or first time meeting. I just don't
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 3: like giving advice to one, somebody I don't know. And two,
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 3: like if you want the advice, it's on the clock.
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 4: Unless the guy calls OP out directly, I don't think
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 4: we need to address this.
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: Is that like the more mature thing to do?
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 3: Because this has been probably talked about because it's been
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 3: gone through so many people that we should address the
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 3: tiny elephant in the room.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 4: I don't even know.
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 5: I don't know.
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 4: I feel like the more mature thing is just ignore it.
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 4: Because he's not going to see this guy except for
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 4: like the very rare occasion. Anyway, my girlfriend and I
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 4: are making small talk with friends of my brother's fiance
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 4: across from us. And of course, what we all do
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 4: for a living came up. I said I was an attorney.
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 4: And the guy at that point decided to interject into
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 4: our conversation and say, but don't ask him any questions
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 4: right now. He'll just give you his card and tell
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 4: you to call him during business hours. To my delight
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 4: and his horror. One of the friends we were talking
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 4: to responded and said, yeah, of course. I hardly expect
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 4: him to give me legal advice at his brother's engagement party.
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: And you look at him and you go, oh, you go.
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: We're best friends now. I don't know you. We're best
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 1: friends now.
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 4: That's so true. That would be crazy to do. And
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 4: then you go, that would be crazy to do. And
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 4: you stare directly at the friend.
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah. How does that sound?
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 4: He made an angry face, mumbled something to his wife
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 4: who told him to drop it, and then I don't
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 4: think he said a word again the rest of the night.
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 1: Aw.
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 4: Nothing big, just thought some might find this update amusing.
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 4: I do find it amusing.
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 1: That was great.
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 4: Huzzah.
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: I'm amused.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 4: But that is the end of that story.
• 1:04:38
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• 1:04:41
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• 1:04:44
  Speaker 2: My brother took my water bottle without asking me, then
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: peeled off my stickers. Oh, now there's an issue. I,
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 2: 18 female, and my brother, 19 male, both received trendy
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: water bottles from our aunt for Christmas a year or
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: two ago. I liked the water bottle, but ended up
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 2: buying a new lid because I didn't love the original colors.
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: My brother flat out hated the color of his water
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 2: bottle and straight up never used his.
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 4: Grrrr. Fast forward to the beginning of the summer.
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 2: My brother is leaving to be a summer camp counselor.
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 2: Instead of taking his own water bottle, he takes mine.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 4: Ooh, why though?
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 2: He also removed the stickers that I put on it
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 2: because he didn't like them.
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 5: Ooh, that's honestly, that's diabolical.
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 2: I'm going to be honest. I didn't use the water
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 2: bottle as much as I should have, but it was
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 2: still decently being used. So I noticed when it disappeared.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: but just thought it was a dishwasher. By the way,
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 2: this comes from Budget Edition 93. If you want to
• 1:05:51
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• 1:05:53
  Speaker 5: I'm Riley.
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.
• 1:05:55
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• 1:05:57
  Speaker 2: anything you'd like to add, please add it down below
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 2: because we don't have all the answers. As Opie says,
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 2: I would also like to say that if my brother
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 2: would have just asked me to borrow it for the summer,
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 2: I would have said yes. I still wouldn't have wanted
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 2: him to remove my stickers though, because now those stickers
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 2: are long gone and wasted. And I would have been
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 2: fine with him dinging it up over the summer too.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: I understand things happen. I'm just annoyed by the fact
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 2: he didn't ask. And when I texted him after I
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 2: realized he took it to politely tell him I knew
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 2: he took it and to please bring it back on
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 2: his next visit home, he called me names and proceeded
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 2: to ignore me. Now my mom is mad because I'm
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 2: causing trouble when she just wants to have a nice
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 2: time with her boy.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 1: With her boy.
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 4: Oh, come on.
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 2: But I just don't understand why he didn't ask to
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 2: take his or just ask me for mine. And now
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 2: my family is mad that I'm upset. On my brother's
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 2: first visit home, to which he left my water bottle
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 2: at camp, he laughed in my face after telling me
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 2: that my water bottle has been repeatedly been damaged and
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 2: dinged up.
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 4: Who is this guy? I mean, I'd be so pissed.
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 4: He's or she's the younger one.
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 2: She's 18, he's 19.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she's the younger sibling. He's just being a brother.
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 2: Laughing in your face?
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 4: Fortunately, that is. Oh, my God. My brother does this
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 4: thing where he constantly, like, lies.
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 5: But, like, he'll just lie, and it's about, like, stupid things.
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 5: And he's like, oh, yeah, you know, like, the sun
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 5: actually isn't hot.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 4: And I'm like, yes, it is. And he will, like,
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 4: go on, like, a whole rant. And then he's just like.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 4: And I'm like, what is wrong with you? Like, I
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 4: knew the answers. I'm trying to be weird.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 2: Is your brother anything like your cousin? No.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 1: No.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 4: My, no, my brother's normal.
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 2: Okay, just checking.
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 4: My brother's great.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 2: At this point, I just want for my brother to
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 2: admit that what he did was wrong and to just
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 2: be a mature person and just apologize for.
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: What he did.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 2: Because in the end, I really don't care about the
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 2: water bottle. I care about the fact. that he does
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 2: whatever he wants, and no one cares. When talking to
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 2: my mom about this, she said that I'm not going
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 2: to get an apology from him, and she'll just buy
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 2: me a new one. But I don't want a new one.
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 2: I just want my brother, who is a full-grown man,
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: to own up to his actions, even if it is
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 2: something stupid like a water bottle. Yes, this is probably
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 2: the most champagne problem that ever existed, but I feel
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 2: like I'm losing my mind, and I need to know
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 2: if I'm a terrible person or not.
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 1: Pfft.
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 4: I mean, how would you be a terrible person?
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 1: What?
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 2: Just, I don't know. How are you a terrible person?
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 2: Because your brother's being a wiener.
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah, because your brother stole your stuff and then ruined it.
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 2: Did Sam act like this whenever he was 19?
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 4: No.
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 2: Was he a little difficult at 19?
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 4: Not for me.
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 2: That's good. Also, it's not normal to say that I'm
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 2: not going to get an apology out of someone. He
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: is a full grown adult. And the fact that he
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 2: can't just simply apologize for something. This simple shows his maturity.
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 2: Please let me know if I'm a crazy or a
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 2: terrible person because I'm losing my mind. And OP, you
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 2: are a terrible person. Leave him alone.
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 1: Alone.
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 4: No, the verdict was different.
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 2: Oh, I was giving my verdict. Don't you think she's
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 2: terrible for letting this get to her?
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 1: No.
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 2: You could be making money moves. Instead, you're worrying about
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 2: your brother not apologizing to you. Anyways, update. Thanks for
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 2: all of the support. Nice to know that I'm not
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 2: losing my mind. And I am mad about this. I've
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: talked again with my mom to try and fully communicate
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 2: how the whole situation made me feel without us getting
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 2: mad at each other. She does seem more understanding now
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 2: than a few days ago. And has agreed to talk
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 2: with my brother after he gets back for the summer.
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 2: I honestly don't think I'm going to get an actual
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 2: apology from him. But at this point, I'm trying not
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 2: to care as much about this. I'm taking my mom
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 2: on her new offer for a new water bottle. Smiley face. Also,
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 2: I'd like to add that a lot of times I
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 2: have been viewed as an angry daughter by my family.
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 2: I have kept to myself and I'm never truly happy
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 2: around my family. And there are times where I feel
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 2: left out, even if they are not trying to leave
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 2: me out. I think a lot of my anger and
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 2: sadness from the situation is just me feeling this way.
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 2: instead of the water bottle. It kind of felt like
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 2: the water bottle proved what I was feeling on the inside. Anyway,
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 2: to say all the things I'm trying to say is
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 2: I'm going to be the bigger person. But to all
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 2: those suggesting I take something of his, I thought about it,
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 2: and his things are either too valuable or he doesn't
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 2: care about them enough to make an impact, or at
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 2: least the impact I'm trying to make. I like that
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: at the end of the story, it was just like
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: a therapy session.
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 2: And you wanted to stay for the story?
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah. I wanted to see what she was going to do.
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 4: The title seems so interesting. I was like, why did
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 4: you take the stickers off and act like it?
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 2: Just because of the stickers?
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I was like, what are you doing with the stickers?
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 2: Dude, you and my girlfriend are just like the same person.
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 4: Big mistake. I don't have red hair. She's the only
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 4: person in the world that has red hair. She did
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 4: it first.
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 2: That is true. And everyone's just copying her. Well, that's
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 2: the end of that one, fellas.