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#274 Revive Your Home: The Love That Changes Everything · The OneCry Podcast

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Speaker0: So to be impatient is to be unloving. Right.
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Speaker0: To be unkind is to be unloving. To not
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Speaker0: be the kind of person that is willing to forgive is
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Speaker0: to be unloving.
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Speaker1: Welcome to the One Cry
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Speaker1: Podcast, a nationwide call for spiritual awakening.
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Speaker1: The goal: accelerating the movement of God through sharing revival truth,
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Speaker1: stories, and reports.
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Speaker0: Well, welcome to the One Cry Podcast. I'm Kyle Reno with my
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Speaker0: buddy Bill Elif, man, and we are honored to have a few
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Speaker0: moments with you wherever you are. If you're driving to work listening, maybe out on
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Speaker0: a run exercising, or just taking some time
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Speaker0: during your quiet time to think about truths around revival
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Speaker0: and awakening. And we're gonna start a new series here for
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Speaker0: a few weeks. Uh, Bill has 8 kids and like
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Speaker0: 600 grandchildren. Yeah, I have,
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Speaker0: I have 5 kids and in faith believing for a downline.
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Speaker0: Hey Bill, has there ever been a moment where you felt like we need revival
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Speaker0: in our home?
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Speaker2: Oh, not more than once a
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Speaker2: day.
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Speaker0: Yeah, right, right.
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Speaker2: And you know, you, you,
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Speaker2: you have these moments where, uh,
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Speaker2: one thing falls apart But then you have moments where
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Speaker2: like 2 things or 5 things— with 8 kids when
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Speaker2: they were all home and all active, you know,
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Speaker2: uh, you know, you just stop at some point and you
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Speaker2: think, man, the only thing that would fix this right now in my
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Speaker2: home is revival.
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Speaker0: Yeah,
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Speaker2: just a movement,
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Speaker2: a mighty movement of God.
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Speaker0: Yeah, without getting into
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Speaker0: details, and I know we've shared these stories before, Bill, I, I remember a
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Speaker0: moment several years ago Uh, when all of them were younger, and I think
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Speaker0: we had— Joy was a baby baby and the twins were a couple years old,
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Speaker0: and Abel's probably like 5 and Cooper's probably like 8 years old,
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Speaker0: and the old stomach bug came to town.
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Speaker0: Oh, and, and without getting graphic,
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Speaker0: the dominoes have been falling and people
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Speaker0: are— Yeah. And, and it finally got to Mom, you know,
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Speaker0: and, and I'll be honest with you When mom goes down—
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Speaker2: Oh,
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Speaker2: it's over.
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Speaker0: You're in trouble. I wish I had a camera
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Speaker0: where I'm trying to keep things and I just
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Speaker0: finally, and I hadn't slept and stuff, I said,
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Speaker0: everybody stop!
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Speaker0: And I went vertical. Oh God, we need
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Speaker0: you now. And I think probably of all the sincere
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Speaker0: moments of prayer, uh, I think the Lord had to
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Speaker0: lean in going, send angels now to Reno.
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Speaker0: My buddy ain't gonna make it. He ain't gonna—
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Speaker2: Intervene, intervene. You know,
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Speaker2: years ago, uh, Holly and I traveled with Life
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Speaker2: Action. We were on the road living in trailers, and we had at that
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Speaker2: time 5 kids. And, uh, we were living the,
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Speaker2: the little teeny, uh,
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Speaker2: You know, living space in that trailer was— well,
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Speaker2: let's just say it like this. I could sit in my chair and
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Speaker2: turn the TV channel by reaching over and touching
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Speaker2: the TV with my foot. That's how— that's how— and
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Speaker2: we all got sick like that. And all of us,
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Speaker2: 7 of us, were laying in that den with
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Speaker2: bowls, you know, just all throwing up. Yeah. It was
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Speaker2: like—
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Speaker0: You need the Lord.
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Speaker2: We need the Lord,
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Speaker2: you know.
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Speaker0: Well, and it may be in those moments where when you're physically
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Speaker0: just at your wit's end,
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Speaker0: you know you need the Lord. But the truth is, spiritually, we are
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Speaker0: always in that state and in need. And,
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Speaker0: and honestly, revival in the home, uh, is one
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Speaker0: of the greatest ways to see revival play out in the church. to move
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Speaker0: into the community and city. But there's some non-negotiables, you know,
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Speaker0: there's some things that have to happen in the heart and in the husband and
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Speaker0: wife through the kids. And I know, Bill, you want to lean us into a
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Speaker0: chapter of scripture.
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Speaker2: One of those, yeah. And, you know,
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Speaker2: I've often said, Kyle, uh,
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Speaker2: uh, when, when I go into church, or when
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Speaker2: we used to go with Life Action into churches— they still go,
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Speaker2: but I, I did that for several years— I
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Speaker2: would always say, look, if it's one thing
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Speaker2: to say, God, bring revival to our church, but if that doesn't
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Speaker2: get down into the home, the way husbands treat their wives
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Speaker2: and wives treat their husbands, the way children respond to their parents and
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Speaker2: parents to their children, if it— if you don't
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Speaker2: have revival when the shades are pulled
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Speaker2: and the door shut, then it's not real revival.
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Speaker2: I mean, it's not. what you need it to be.
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Speaker2: So, uh, during these next 2 or 3 weeks, we're going to look
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Speaker2: at several things that would help you in
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Speaker2: your home experience a fresh movement of God.
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Speaker2: That would be— that'd be great, wouldn't it, Kyle? Yes.
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Speaker2: Just to see that happen in my home, in your home,
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Speaker2: and in our listeners' home. And today,
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Speaker2: uh, we're going to look at a passage If you have
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Speaker2: your Bible and you're able to get to it, that you
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Speaker2: know, but you may have never really seen in
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Speaker2: this light. And that's this great passage,
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Speaker2: one of the greatest chapters in the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13.
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Speaker2: We call it the love chapter.
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Speaker2: Kyle, I've been in many I
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Speaker2: was just thinking about this the other day. I was writing it down, in fact.
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Speaker2: The moments when I have had
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Speaker2: the great privilege of being in the manifest presence of
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Speaker2: God in movements, in churches, and among a
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Speaker2: group of people— and I've had many of those,
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Speaker2: and some of those have been sustained movements
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Speaker2: for weeks and weeks in His presence.
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Speaker2: Do you know the one thing that is the hallmark
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Speaker2: of that more than any other thing? And you say, well, it would be repentance,
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Speaker2: it would be this, it would be humility. Yes, but the
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Speaker2: great thing that always surprised me was
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Speaker2: how we loved one another.
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Speaker0: Hmm.
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Speaker2: When, when God comes, it changes the
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Speaker2: love quotient in lives, in relationships,
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Speaker2: in a church, and particularly in the home.
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Speaker2: And, uh, but we don't understand what real
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Speaker2: love is all about. Let me just give a little definition to start us
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Speaker2: out here in 1 Corinthians 13 as we
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Speaker2: look at that and how we could see a revival of the
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Speaker2: love of God come into our into the walls of our home.
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Speaker2: You know, there are 3 Greek words that are used.
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Speaker2: They're all translated love in your Bible, but they're
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Speaker2: 3 different words. One is the word philo
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Speaker2: or philo, like Philadelphia, the city of brotherly love.
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Speaker2: And it means a brotherly kind
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Speaker2: of affection, just the kind that friends have with each other, good friends
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Speaker2: have with each other, right? Then there's another word,
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Speaker2: and it's the word eros. And the eros— we
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Speaker2: get the word erotic from it. And it's sad that it
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Speaker2: has a purely sexual connotation to it,
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Speaker2: because the word eros is a lot broader
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Speaker2: than that. Eros means a self-seeking
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Speaker2: kind of love. In other words, I love you for
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Speaker2: what you can give to me. If you love me,
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Speaker2: then I'll love you. If you treat me— if you're patient with
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Speaker2: me, I'll be patient with you. But that's as
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Speaker2: far as it goes. I love you for what I can get
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Speaker2: from you, right? So that's eros kind of love.
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Speaker2: It's the world's kind of love. It's the devil's kind of love,
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Speaker2: really. But then there's another word that's used, and it's
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Speaker2: used exclusively of God. And we
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Speaker2: know this word. It's the word agape. And let me give a definition
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Speaker2: of what I think this love is. It's the
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Speaker2: God quality that always
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Speaker2: responds in self-sacrifice.
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Speaker2: It's the God quality that always responds in self-sacrifice.
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Speaker2: For instance,
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Speaker2: this is not normal to man.
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Speaker2: Nobody has agape love on their own. You can't have
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Speaker2: this apart from God. It's only
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Speaker2: found with God. We only gain it through
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Speaker2: God and a relationship with God.
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Speaker2: So you can't get it any other way. You can't
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Speaker2: drum up agape love. You can't say, I'm going to love somebody with agape Love
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Speaker2: without a connection to God. Okay.
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Speaker2: And what you notice about this kind of love
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Speaker2: is it always responds in self-sacrifice.
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Speaker2: It's completely and totally unselfish. That's the
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Speaker2: way God is. For God so loved the world that he gave.
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Speaker2: Jesus, John 13, loving his own, he loved
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Speaker2: them. Agape is the word. He loved them to the end.
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Speaker2: He loved them to the uttermost. And He takes up the towel in
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Speaker2: that passage, 1 Corinthians— I mean,
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Speaker2: John 13, and He starts washing their feet.
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Speaker2: That's what the love of God is like. Jesus loved us so
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Speaker2: much that He went to the cross, self-sacrifice.
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Speaker2: So this is the kind of love
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Speaker2: That will literally, Kyle,
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Speaker2: revolutionize a home. It will dramatically change
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Speaker2: a home. And let me just call our
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Speaker2: attention to why this is so important. And then I want
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Speaker2: you to respond to this. He says in 1 Corinthians 13:1,
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Speaker2: if I speak with the tongue of men and of
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Speaker2: angels, but don't have love, I've become a noisy
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Speaker2: gong or clanging cymbal. Now, what he says, and it's
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Speaker2: the word agape here, he says,
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Speaker2: if I have incredible ability and
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Speaker2: do these amazing things, but I don't have
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Speaker2: love, I don't have the love of God, it's not driven and motivated by the
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Speaker2: love of God, it amounts to absolutely nothing.
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Speaker2: Secondly, if I have the gift of prophecy and
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Speaker2: I know all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith so
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Speaker2: as to remove mountains, that would be incredible. But I don't have
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Speaker2: love, I am nothing.
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Speaker2: In other words, somebody— we might look at somebody and say, boy, he's a great
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Speaker2: prophet. Boy, she has incredible spiritual
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Speaker2: knowledge. Man, they have great faith. But it's not driven
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Speaker2: and motivated by the love of God,
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Speaker2: who they are amounts to absolutely nothing.
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Speaker2: Now, that's, that's a— what I do is nothing.
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Speaker2: And what I am before God
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Speaker2: is nothing of value, nothing that lasts.
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Speaker2: And then this third statement in verse 3. If I
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Speaker2: give all my possessions to feed the poor. Now we think, man, that boy,
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Speaker2: they're going to get a great reward. Or if
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Speaker2: I give up my— surrender my body to be burned as a human sacrifice,
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Speaker2: but I don't have love, it profits me
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Speaker2: not one single bit. So,
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Speaker2: Kyle, listen to this. In my home,
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Speaker2: If I do all kinds of things as a husband, as a wife,
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Speaker2: and I work and work and work, work my fingers to the bone, but it's
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Speaker2: not driven by the love of God,
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Speaker2: all I am amounts to nothing.
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Speaker0: Hmm.
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Speaker2: If I
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Speaker2: am— people look at me and say, boy, he's just a wonderful dad,
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Speaker2: she's a wonderful mother, but it's not driven by the love of
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Speaker2: God, what I am amounts to nothing before
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Speaker2: God. And if I do all these things, but it's
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Speaker2: not driven by love and motivated by the love of God,
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Speaker2: I don't receive any profit. And you just think
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Speaker2: about— I preached on that
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Speaker2: for 3 weeks one time. Just think of the magnitude
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Speaker2: of what Paul is saying. If the love of God
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Speaker2: is not in my life and flowing through
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Speaker2: my life, what I do is nothing,
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Speaker2: what I am is nothing, and what I receive from all that
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Speaker2: I've done amounts to absolutely nothing. Isn't that amazing?
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Speaker0: That's amazing.
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Speaker2: Yeah,
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Speaker0: yeah. Makes me think, you know,
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Speaker0: without love— what he's showing, which Jesus embodied perfectly—
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Speaker0: and everything he said, everything he did, everything he
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Speaker0: displayed, is that the driving force behind it
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Speaker0: was love. Yeah. The driving reason, the driving motivation,
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Speaker0: love for the Father, love for people that he wanted to redeem.
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Speaker0: So everything came out because our God is love.
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Speaker0: So it, it was the motivation behind every manner
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Speaker0: of, of life, everything that he would do and engage. So take
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Speaker0: that to your home. Right, the, the application thereof.
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Speaker2: Yeah.
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Speaker0: As a hus— as a husband, you know,
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Speaker0: as a father, as a wife, as a mom,
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Speaker0: as children obeying. Well, what's,
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Speaker0: what's going to drive that in such a way that produces the kind of home?
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Speaker0: Well, it can only be love at the very— the, the non-negotiable.
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Speaker0: And it's a love that we don't have naturally.
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Speaker0: Yeah. That we don't— that we don't produce in
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Speaker0: ourselves. So it makes us more dependent on
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Speaker0: God for that to ever actually play out in me,
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Speaker0: to get to a point— you know that I remember when the Lord convicting me,
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Speaker0: even in ministry, you know, like, hey, hey,
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Speaker0: Kyle, to get to the place that I
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Speaker0: want for you more than I want for myself.
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Speaker0: Yeah. Like, I, I, that my— that I'm thinking about you
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Speaker0: more than I'm thinking about how you think of me, you know.
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Speaker0: Like, that's the, that's the beauty of what Tim Keller said. True,
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Speaker0: true humility is getting to that place of self-forgetfulness,
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Speaker0: you know, where I'm, I'm showing up in the home thinking about how do I
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Speaker0: love my wife, showing up in the home thinking how can I lovingly lead my
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Speaker0: children. And that's a miracle. That's a miracle in a person.
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Speaker2: The kind of love that we're talking about. Now, you can have affection,
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Speaker2: right? That looks like, you know, and, or a lot of people think,
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Speaker2: well, I have love, uh, i.e., I have
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Speaker2: emotion.
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Speaker0: Yeah,
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Speaker2: I've just got an emotion towards you,
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Speaker2: and I, some days I feel that and I have love,
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Speaker2: some days I don't feel that and I don't have love. That's not
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Speaker2: what we're talking about here.
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Speaker0: Yeah.
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Speaker2: We're talking about
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Speaker2: a quality from God, something that is given
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Speaker2: to us by God and through God
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Speaker2: alone. Let me give you a couple of illustrations of that.
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Speaker2: 1 John 4:7-8,
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Speaker2: it says, beloved, love, it's the word
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Speaker2: agape, Love one another,
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Speaker2: for God is love.
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Speaker2: He who loves knows God and
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Speaker2: is of God, right?
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Speaker0: Mm-hmm.
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Speaker2: So you can't have it
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Speaker2: without God. God is love. You say, well, where'd this come from?
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Speaker2: God. Uh, here, here's another one.
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Speaker2: Uh, John 5, I think it's verse 4
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Speaker2: or 5, it says this: The love, agape,
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Speaker2: the love of God is shed abroad
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Speaker2: in our hearts. How? By the Holy
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Speaker2: Spirit.
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Speaker0: By the Holy Spirit.
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Speaker2: By the Holy Spirit. So you say, well, how do
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Speaker2: I get that? The Holy Spirit. The only— it's God
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Speaker2: in the human heart that produces this God
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Speaker2: quality that always responds in self-sacrifice.
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Speaker2: And here's one more. The fruit of the Spirit,
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Speaker2: the fruit, it says, walk by the Spirit, Galatians 5, and you
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Speaker2: will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh. And the
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Speaker2: fruit that the Spirit of God produces is love.
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Speaker2: It's love, joy, peace, patience, et cetera.
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Speaker2: So the source of this love is only in God. Now you
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Speaker2: could make this little equation. God equals love.
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Speaker2: No God, no love.
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Speaker2: You got worldly love, eros love, phileo love,
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Speaker2: but you don't have agape love, the God quality that always responds
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Speaker2: in self-sacrifice. And, and this is
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Speaker2: what the home needs. You know,
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Speaker2: my, my mom and dad were incredible. They were, they were just great
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Speaker2: Christians, great servants of the Lord, and great
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Speaker2: parents. And one day I had my mom— it
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Speaker2: was after, uh, uh, well,
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Speaker2: I think we just had my mom. For some reason, didn't have— I couldn't have
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Speaker2: my dad there in a church that I was pastoring in Oklahoma. And we had
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Speaker2: her come and do a little interview for a program we were having on the
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Speaker2: family. And I'll never forget, my mom said,
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Speaker2: look, we weren't perfect parents, but what we
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Speaker2: wanted our, our children to know was that their
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Speaker2: mom and dad loved Jesus more than
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Speaker2: anything in the world. And we loved them with His
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Speaker2: love. And we found that love
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Speaker2: covers a multitude of sins, a multitude
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Speaker2: of mistakes. Wow. If you just love, And your kids get
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Speaker2: out of that home and they know, you know, one thing about my mom,
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Speaker2: my mom just loved me with this unbelievable
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Speaker2: love that always sacrificed. My dad loved me with
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Speaker2: this unbelievable dynamic,
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Speaker2: this divine quality that always sacrificed
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Speaker2: on my behalf. Well, that just changes everything.
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Speaker0: Yeah.
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Speaker2: Now, to make this a
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Speaker2: little more convicting, as if it weren't convicting enough,
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Speaker2: Paul, he doesn't want us to mistake this.
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Speaker2: So in Colossians— I mean, in 1 Corinthians 13,
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Speaker2: beginning in verse 4, he takes
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Speaker2: this love and he takes it, I like to say, like a prism.
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Speaker2: And have you ever had a little prism, a little glass prism,
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Speaker2: and you hold it up to the light and you begin to turn it in
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Speaker2: the light and you see all these variegated
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Speaker2: colors that are in that prism? You know, so Paul
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Speaker2: takes the love of God and he holds it up and he starts turning it.
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Speaker2: And he said, let me just show you so you won't confuse this with
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Speaker2: just humanistic love. He said, let me show you what
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Speaker2: love is like. And let me read what he says.
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Speaker2: Love is patient.
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Speaker2: Now, let me just pause there. So a guy says, well,
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Speaker2: I love my wife. I'm just not patient with her.
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Speaker2: And that word is 2 Greek words,
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Speaker2: thumos, makrothumos. Thumia.
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Speaker2: It's macro and then thumia, tempered.
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Speaker2: So the word is long-tempered or long-suffering.
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Speaker2: What it means is love suffers a long time,
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Speaker2: suffers a long time. It's willing to take it, take it,
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Speaker2: take it, and keep sacrificing,
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Speaker2: keep loving, keep forgiving.
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Speaker2: And a guy says, well, I love my wife. I'm just Not patient, no.
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Speaker2: You may love her with an emotion or a phileo
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Speaker2: love or an eros love,
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Speaker2: but you don't have agape love because love is patient,
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Speaker2: period. Period.
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Speaker2: There's no gray area in that.
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Speaker2: God's love is always patient. And he goes on,
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Speaker2: love is kind.
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Speaker2: Love is not jealous.
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Speaker2: Love does not brag and is
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Speaker2: not arrogant.
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Speaker0: Mm-hmm.
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Speaker2: Love isn't
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Speaker2: rude. It doesn't act unbecomingly.
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Speaker2: It does not seek its own, is not provoked.
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Speaker2: It doesn't take into account a wrong suffered.
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Speaker2: It doesn't keep a record book. When it's wrong,
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Speaker2: and it doesn't rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.
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Speaker2: This kind of love bears all things, believes all things,
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Speaker2: endures anything, and it never fails.
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Speaker0: Hmm.
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Speaker2: Now, Kyle,
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Speaker2: this is what we need in the home. If you want
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Speaker2: a revival in a home, in your home,
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Speaker2: Then you've got to say, oh God, bring me personally
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Speaker2: a revival of the love of God. We're going to talk in a minute how
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Speaker2: that happens. Bring me a revival of the love of God.
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Speaker1: That's right.
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Speaker2: So what is that like? Well, it suffers long.
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Speaker2: It's kind. You know what that means? It's not just— it will take
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Speaker2: it on the chin and keep loving, but it is aggressively
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Speaker2: reaching out to do kind things. You know,
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Speaker2: the most oft-used word
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Speaker2: in the Old Testament to describe God,
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Speaker2: it's translated in our Bible, it's hesed.
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Speaker2: It's the word loving kindness.
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Speaker2: God is loving, but he's kind.
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Speaker0: Hmm.
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Speaker2: He's just kind.
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Speaker2: He aggressively does things. Love is
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Speaker2: not jealous. In other words, It doesn't say, well, I want
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Speaker2: what you've got. It doesn't covet because it wants the best for
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Speaker2: you, not for me. Right.
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Speaker2: And love, he says in this passage,
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Speaker2: doesn't brag and is not arrogant. It's not— it's
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Speaker2: not saying, hey, look at what I've done all the time, because it's more concerned
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Speaker2: about the other person than it is about me. And it's not
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Speaker2: puffed up, is the word, arrogant. In other words, it doesn't have this kind
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Speaker2: of proud, man, I'm better than everybody else. The love of God
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Speaker2: doesn't act like that, doesn't feel like that.
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Speaker2: It's more interested in you and exalting you
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Speaker2: and helping you than it is me. And look at this.
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Speaker2: It's not rude because it's always thinking about
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Speaker2: you. And it doesn't, I love this, Kyle, it doesn't seek
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Speaker2: its own. And you say, own what? Its own blank,
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Speaker2: fill in the blank.
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Speaker1: Right.
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Speaker2: Its own way, its own rights,
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Speaker2: its own time, its own space.
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Speaker2: Because again, it's a God quality that responds in
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Speaker2: self-sacrifice. And it's not provoked,
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Speaker2: that's a word, That means roused
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Speaker2: to anger. When somebody has a proximatic
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Speaker2: cough, a doctor would know that term. It's this,
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Speaker2: it's this quick, just provoked cough that just
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Speaker2: comes on all of a sudden. So love doesn't do that.
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Speaker2: Love is not quickly provoked. It doesn't get angry.
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Speaker2: And, and I'll stop with this one. It doesn't Keep
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Speaker2: a record book. This is, uh, the word is logizomai right here.
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Speaker2: It's an accounting term. Love doesn't
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Speaker2: keep a record book in its heart. You hurt me? Well, I'm gonna write that
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Speaker2: down. I'm gonna make you pay. I'm gonna ignore you.
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Speaker2: You didn't talk to me? I'm not gonna talk to you. You got mad at
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Speaker2: me? I'm gonna get mad at you. Well, that's keeping a— I want
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Speaker2: to make them pay. But love forgives,
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Speaker2: love releases, because it's not concerned about itself, it's concerned
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Speaker2: about others. Now let me just pause right here.
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Speaker2: How this is what we need in the home.
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Speaker0: Mm-hmm.
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Speaker2: Right? And, and you just see that
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Speaker2: if the love of God somehow could
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Speaker2: be ruling and reigning in each member of
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Speaker2: that home, just think of the environment that
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Speaker2: it would create. Yeah,
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Speaker0: well, it makes me think as you're reading
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Speaker0: it, so the opposite of that is true as well.
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Speaker0: So to be impatient is to be unloving,
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Speaker2: right?
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Speaker0: Be unkind is to be unloving, you know,
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Speaker0: to, to, to not be the kind of person that is
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Speaker0: willing to forgive is to be unloving.
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Speaker0: And all these things are that— what
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Speaker0: God displays perfectly in his character and his nature, that he is patient
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Speaker0: toward us. Praise God, by the way. It's because he's loving.
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Speaker0: That he's kind toward us is because he's loving.
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Speaker0: For him— for him to not be roused,
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Speaker0: uh, to just in anger lash
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Speaker0: out on us, but to wait. Yeah. to long-suffer, you know.
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Speaker2: Yeah.
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Speaker0: It's because he's loving. Which show— I mean, you read it off,
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Speaker0: you go, man, I don't have any of those things naturally and
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Speaker0: consistently. Which praise— hey, hallelujah, you're right. But now you,
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Speaker0: you do have the ability by the Spirit of God, through the
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Speaker0: finished work of Christ, to produce through you something that makes Jesus
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Speaker0: look beautiful. And your spouse, your children to be
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Speaker0: loved. I vividly remember the, the,
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Speaker0: our year one marriage moment. And then give my confession, uh,
27:45
Speaker0: I often share this, is Katie and I— man, I got
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Speaker0: an incredible wife, way out of my league, loves the Lord.
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Speaker2: You do,
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Speaker2: and I do too.
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Speaker0: Yeah, but you know,
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Speaker0: hey, she's got some stuff she needs to work on, right?
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Speaker2: Yeah.
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Speaker0: And, and so I was having prayer time one morning with
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Speaker0: the Lord in our little apartment out on the balcony, uh, and North
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Speaker0: Little Rock, Arkansas, and I was letting the Lord know some
28:11
Speaker0: things that he might want to help Katie with. You know,
28:14
Speaker0: obviously, obviously I've, I've identified some of those things.
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Speaker0: Just, hey, you know, Lord, you might want to—
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Speaker2: Because you're so discerning.
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Speaker0: Yeah, so, hey, so it's so spiritual, you know, to,
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Speaker2: yeah,
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Speaker0: to help God out, like to identify some things that Katie really,
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Speaker0: hey, you know, needs to work on. And, and I've
28:33
Speaker0: only had 2 moments that I feel like God, uh,
28:36
Speaker0: put his finger in my chest. And, uh, and it was one of them,
28:41
Speaker0: one of them. And I felt the Lord's— the
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Speaker0: presence of her Father in heaven say, I didn't,
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Speaker0: I didn't call you to change her. I called you to love her.
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Speaker2: Wow.
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Speaker0: And I went, got it,
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Speaker0: got it, Lord. Which lends itself going like, hey,
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Speaker0: Obviously I'm not real good at that because I, I,
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Speaker0: because I've kept her a record of wrongs. I had me a few
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Speaker0: little things that I felt like she needed an adjustment on, you know.
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Speaker0: And, and the Lord showed me like, hey, there is a problem here,
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Speaker0: it's on your side. Yeah. And, and so it made me dependent.
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Speaker0: And honestly, one of the first seasons of learning to pray for the fruit
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Speaker0: of the Spirit every day to be produced through me
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Speaker2: Well,
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Speaker2: and, and by the way, for us husbands, a little side
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Speaker2: note here, of all the things that
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Speaker2: God could tell us to do as husbands, he tells us one thing.
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Speaker0: Yeah,
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Speaker2: love your wife.
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Speaker0: That's right. Love your
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Speaker0: wife. Love the church.
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Speaker2: I don't, I don't care, this, that, the other,
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Speaker2: you know, provide, all that's fine, that's great, important,
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Speaker2: but all of that, those are byproducts
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Speaker2: of loving, not with eros,
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Speaker2: I love you and you love me, not with phileo, you're my good friend,
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Speaker2: I love you just 'cause I like you and I got a nice emotion.
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Speaker0: Hmm.
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Speaker2: But this quality ruling
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Speaker2: and reigning in my heart that
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Speaker2: produces something. in and through me,
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Speaker2: and that's the love of God. Now,
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Speaker2: how do we get that? And I want us
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Speaker2: to talk about that, and I think it's gonna— I think we'll delay
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Speaker2: it till next week because—
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Speaker0: Right.
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Speaker2: This needs some
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Speaker2: extensive conversation about it, about how
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Speaker2: we let the love of God rule in
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Speaker2: our heart and therefore rule in our home,
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Speaker2: which will bring— is the one thing more
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Speaker2: than any other thing that will bring revival to your home.
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Speaker2: So let's just— today, as we look at the
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Speaker2: definition of love and the source of it and the picture of
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Speaker2: it, it's kind of convicting, Kyle. And So
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Speaker2: would you lead us in just a time of prayer?
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Speaker0: Yeah,
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Speaker0: yeah.
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Speaker2: And maybe just repentance of—
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Speaker0: Yes, for sure.
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Speaker2: Honestly saying, Lord, I don't have this, and cleanse
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Speaker2: me. So lead us in a, in a time of prayer,
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Speaker2: would you?
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Speaker0: Yeah, yeah, yeah. For our listeners today, let's walk
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Speaker0: into the presence of the Lord, even if you're driving down the road,
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Speaker0: just with your heart turned toward him.
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Speaker0: And, and I have a feeling that the Lord is
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Speaker0: probably already showing you something. And so if
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Speaker0: there's places to repent even right now in the environment in your home,
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Speaker0: that there's, there's things that you are contributing in
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Speaker0: a way that you may be acting or responding that
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Speaker0: makes your home unloving, Take a moment
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Speaker0: with the Lord right there and confess it.
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Speaker0: Now let's ask the Lord to show
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Speaker0: us the way of love, to show us what does
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Speaker0: it look like for God's love,
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Speaker0: a God love, to come through us. Even,
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Speaker0: even as we lean into this more next week, let's ask him to go ahead
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Speaker0: and Start that today, to produce
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Speaker0: through us that which is not natural but that which is born of
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Speaker0: God. So Lord,
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Speaker0: I thank you for your word that gives us a better way.
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Speaker0: And I do ask even now, Lord, that you would revive
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Speaker0: homes, that you would bring life to homes, to marriages,
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Speaker0: to relationships, to children. Children to parents to
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Speaker0: grandkids even, Lord, that the love of God
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Speaker0: would be displayed, that your help, Lord, that you're
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Speaker0: the holiness of God, bring about a purity.
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Speaker0: And Lord, that you produce through us something that would make the world, the watching
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Speaker0: world, to make neighbors go, I wish I had that, I wish I knew
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Speaker0: that, wish we were experiencing that. So do it because you're sure
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Speaker0: worthy of it. Let me pray in Jesus' name. Amen.
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Speaker0: Amen. Bill, way to lead us into that, man.
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Speaker0: That's powerful stuff. I do encourage— too many times we,
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Speaker0: we just move too quickly. So let's take a, let's take a
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Speaker0: ponder moment, you know. I love that in
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Speaker0: the Psalms that often the psalmist would call for a little break.
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Speaker0: Hey, let's, let's let this settle a little bit. Let this sit
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Speaker0: with us. Let's Let it ruminate, you know,
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Speaker0: in our minds and hearts and see what God wants to do. And so I'd
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Speaker0: encourage our listeners, if this encouraged you, maybe share it, send it
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Speaker0: to somebody else that would be encouraged to help foster a conversation,
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Speaker0: and then come back next week with some anticipation because,
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Speaker0: Bill, we're going to get into a little, a little of the practical. How does
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Speaker0: this start producing through us, aren't we?
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Speaker2: Right, right. How can we see
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Speaker2: this revival of love in our home? Very practical. We'll see
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Speaker2: that next time.
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Speaker0: Awesome. Well, we will see you next
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Speaker0: week. Have a great week, and we're praying for you.
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Speaker0: Thank you.