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you are NOT broken · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  I used to significantly struggle with my mental health, and one
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  of the biggest problems that I faced wasn't just that I felt
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  bad. No, it was the fact that I
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  convinced myself. I was broken.
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  I convinced myself that there was something wrong with me.
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  Hey there and welcome back to another episode of feel your
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  feelings with me. Ethan Jewel.
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  This is a podcast. I started all about mental
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  health, and mental health awareness.
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  Now I'm not a doctor or a professional in the mental
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  health industry whatsoever. I'm just a Normal guy, who was
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  felt a lot of big feelings is super passionate about mental
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  health and wants to start the conversation.
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  So, thank you so much for being here.
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  And, as always, let's feel some feelings.
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  During my time, I spent in therapy which was a couple of
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  years I talk down on myself a lot.
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  I would say things like I'm stuck in the cycle of pain
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  self-pity. I have no motivation and I can't
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  get out of it. I feel useless.
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  I am broken. And I mean that was true.
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  I felt useless. I felt broken and looking back.
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  I wonder why. I mean sure I was in pain.
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  I was hurting and I still struggle with those same
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  feelings but what brought me to I feel so broken and so useless
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  and I realized we have a problem in our society and our mindsets
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  when it comes to mental health. And that problem is that we see
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  people struggling with mental illness, or we feel ourselves
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  struggling with mental illness and we label that as being
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  abnormal and broken, we label it as something wrong with that
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  person. Instead of just a difficulty to
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  overcome and that is extremely dangerous.
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  Dangerous. We are obsessed with labeling
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  ourselves, labeling, ourselves and others as unwell and broken.
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  This is not helpful. This only makes the problem of
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  mental illness, worse, we are already struggling with our own
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  negative feelings, of depression, and anxiety, and
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  various personality. Disorders were already
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  struggling enough with the burden that those bring.
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  So to also struggle with these labels and the pressures that
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  come with them to be labeled as ill to be labeled as broken is a
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  V, heavy thing. And it is something that needs
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  to be avoided. If you struggle with trauma or
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  illness, you are anything but broken and you have proven that
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  merely by existing, you have proven that simply by getting up
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  in the morning and completing small tasks by having a
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  conversation with somebody. You see trauma and mental
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  illness. They try to stop us, let's be
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  honest, they try to stop us from living normal lives, depression,
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  tells you that, you should just lay in bed all day.
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  Depression tells you that you are in too much pain to get up
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  and function at all. Anxiety, tells you that
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  something will go wrong if you get up.
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  So you simply shouldn't various personality disorders.
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  Try to get in the way of your mere existence, they try to
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  convince you of things. And these are all very heavy
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  things to deal with, and by existing with them, by dealing
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  with them, by attempting to overcome them, you are proving
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  Your Own Strength. You are showing that you have
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  faced these hardships in these traumas in these mental
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  struggles and Keep going. That alone is in incredible sign
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  of strength. It's not weakness.
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  It doesn't show that you're broken.
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  It doesn't show that you're struggling.
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  It shows that you are strong enough to get up in the morning
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  and say this is who I am and I'm struggling and I'm in pain and
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  I'm going to keep moving regardless of that.
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  That is incredibly admirable and I'm really proud of you and you
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  don't deserve to ever feel broken because of the hardships
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  that you face, you are showing so much.
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  Strength, simply by showing up and that is enough our brains
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  and societal labels will try to convince us.
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  Otherwise, it'll try to convince us, that mental illness should
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  isolate us. Were told that we're broken, we
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  feel like we need to stay in the shadows.
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  Mental illness is seen as Taboo in his rarely talked about.
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  That's the very reason I started this podcast in.
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  The first place is to Aid people in talking about their illnesses
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  and talking about the things that they struggle with.
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  Because it's normal. It's not Something that should
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  be hidden according to the World Health Organization. 1 in 8,
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  people have a diagnosable mental illness in the entire world.
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  That is almost 1 billion people that struggle with some form of
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  mental illness. This is not an isolating
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  epidemic. This is not something that
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  should be hidden in kept away. It's not taboo, and it doesn't
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  mean that you're broken. It means that you are one of
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  many people who struggle and by simply showing up in overcoming
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  your traumas. And overcoming the pain that you
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  feel. You are showing so much strength
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  and you are not broken. You are not alone, you are not
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  useless. A few cracks doesn't mean that
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  you have shattered. It means that you have been
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  tested and you can overcome imagine if you had a trophy and
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  you'd worked really really hard for this Trophy and one day it
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  fell off the shelf and it hit the floor, really hard and it
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  got a small crack in it. You of course, would still feel
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  proud of this trophy. It's not like it's suddenly
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  wouldn't mean anything just because it has a small crack in
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  it. No.
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  You still achieved that trophy. You still worked hard for it.
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  It's still something that you're proud of.
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  It simply has a crack in it, and that crack can be fixed in that
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  crack will be fixed because you care about that trophy.
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  You are the trophy you should feel proud of yourself.
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  Even if you have cracks, even if you are hurting you are still
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  worthy of being shown off. You are still worthy of Ride and
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  you are doing better than you think.
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  So please give yourself some credit living with mental
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  illness is not easy. It never has been and never will
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  be and it may be a long time until it gets easier.
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  So how do we begin to heal our cracks?
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  How do we begin to slowly alleviate our pain and not have
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  this burden of drama and illness upon us?
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  I would like to reiterate I'm not a doctor.
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  I'm not a professional, this is simply things that Worked for
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  me. And I encourage you to reach out
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  to people in your life, reach out to people who know you and
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  seek help. If you are struggling, this is
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  what has helped me first. I understood the fact that I'm
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  not broken and I don't need to fix myself instead, I need to
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  figure out how to deal with the emotions in the feelings that I
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  feel and live with them and overcome them.
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  That is an incredibly important step in our mental health
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  Journey. That a lot of people don't
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  understand. And a lot of people skip will
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  get right into trying to push past everything and just simply
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  get better. When in reality, we first need
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  to adjust our mindset and understand that this isn't some
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  Grand Mountain to be conquered know.
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  It's a path to walk down. You don't need to climb in
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  overcome, you need to walk and keep moving and understand how
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  to deal with it in. This will look different for
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  everybody. I suggest reaching out to people
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  spending a few minutes every single day with your own
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  thoughts getting physical. Sighs as your physical health is
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  directly related to your mental health journaling.
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  Getting out, the emotions that you feel remember.
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  This is a path and a journey, it doesn't need to be a fight.
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  It's not something to overcome, except the parts of you that are
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  broken, understand that there are signs of strength and
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  something that you should be proud of and slowly but surely
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  learn how to deal with it. You are not broken.
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  You are worthy of Of all of the good things in life.
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  You should not be ashamed of the cracks that you hold instead
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  wear them with pride and wear them as a sign of your own
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  strength. I am so proud of you that's
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  going to wrap it up for today's episode.
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  Thank you so much for being here.
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  If you need help, feeling your feelings, I make music out on
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  all platforms under the name of Ethan Jewel.
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  Also, speaking of music, I'm going on a tour, all up the West
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  Coast. Go to my website, Ethan,
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  Jewel.com and See if I'm playing any cities near you.
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  Please message me on my Instagram at Jewel, boy
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  underscore. And let me know what you thought
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  about today's episode. So thank you for being here.
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  Thank you for understanding that you are not broken.
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  And as always, thank you for feeling your feelings.
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  I'll see you next time.