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MUST vs SHOULD. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today we Talking about musts versus shoulds.
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  So I have noticed a pattern in myself where I will say, oh, I
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  should do this. I should do this and believe me.
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  I've called this out to my coach because it's drives me crazy.
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  And I'm not typically that person I get a lot done, but I
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  do know that there are times in my life when I start shooting
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  all over myself as we say. And I have noticed that it has
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  been showing up with certain things that I don't like to get
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  done like paperwork. Paperwork is the bane of my
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  existence. I can't stand doing paperwork
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  office work, that doesn't have to do with any of my clients,
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  but just has to do with all like tax stuff, you know, anything
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  that has to do with stuff that you don't like to deal with.
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  I hate doing it so I wait till the last minute, I put it off
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  because it's just a, in my world.
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  It's a should but it's not a must So I started thinking about
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  this as I was getting ready to record a session this morning
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  and I said, you know, I should talk about this just so I can
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  give myself a good reminder, as well as maybe help somebody else
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  out there who's doing it. So often we do this to ourselves
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  where we talk about things that are important necessary urgent.
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  However, you want to look at it but we assign them these things
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  of saying, oh well I should do this.
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  I should do this. Like I must brush my teeth
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  before I go to bed. Said, I should get up early and
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  work out because really nobody's going to know right at some
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  point. It's going to show up eventually
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  in the long run, but it's so far out that we don't worry about it
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  because it's so far out, you know, the damages of not working
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  out aren't going to affect you immediately.
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  As they all say, it will take a little bit of time for it to
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  show up typically, and because of that, we put it off and we
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  put it off and we put it off because we don't have
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  quote-unquote the The city for it and it is not a must.
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  It is a should. So for me I know there's a
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  there's time in the year to process and do this type of
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  paperwork that I don't like to do.
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  So it doesn't become a must, it becomes a should.
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  And when I was thinking about this today, I started saying to
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  myself, okay, I have to really focus myself and get myself to
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  recognize that I need to make this an absolute without
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  question must. So I'm going to take Teach you
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  guys how to do this at the same time because anything is
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  digestible. When we do it in small, chunks
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  and Things become a big deal, when we make them a big deal by
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  putting them off and not doing them when we are supposed to do
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  them in a timely manner. And again, it could be anything
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  me. Think about it.
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  If you didn't have the must-have brushing your teeth.
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  Oh my gosh. Can you imagine how gross your
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  mouth would be by the time? You know you didn't do it for a
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  week or so you'd be like this is ridiculous.
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  I feel absolutely Most of us would feel disgusting after
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  missing one of the times we do it during the day.
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  So you have to start looking at the consequences of allowing
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  something to be a should instead of a must and then put together
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  in your mind, what? What are those things that are a
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  must that you're already doing? Like, I must brush my teeth.
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  I must go to sleep. I must eat food fundamental
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  things. Yes, but we make it a must and
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  we Have to do it, you know, just earlier today we were out.
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  I had had only a protein shake in the morning.
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  I had gone hours without anything else other than the
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  protein shake and I started to get really fancy, you know,
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  hangry, if you will and right away.
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  I said, III need to pull over and go to the gas station and
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  get some nuts or something. Because this isn't going to be
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  pretty and I and I knew it, I knew I felt it coming and
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  because there was an urgency with it went from, I should get
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  something. Eat too.
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  I must get something to eat. So it switches very quickly and
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  we can start to follow this along in our life and see where
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  else the shows up. So we can kind of bridge the gap
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  and teach ourselves how to do this in all areas.
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  So one of my plans is to make it a must that every month when I
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  do my wrap-up of a month and I say okay?
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  Because I like to debrief things in detail and say, okay what
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  worked well this month, what could have been better?
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  What can I add in? How can I be more?
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  More efficient. I'll look at months, I add up
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  all the things that I do crazy about that, love to give myself
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  stickers for great jobs, but I've never included this
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  particular one in it. So now I'm going to make it a
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  must that every month. I'm going to download all the
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  information in so that I have everything right away.
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  I'm not going to wait and have to do a Year's worth it a whole
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  time. Instead I'm just going to do it
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  month by month and that will cut down the time and it will be
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  painless and effortless when I have to just Put this all
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  together. Actually get software.
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  That does this? What a concept.
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  So I'm telling you this and I'm sharing this with you one
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  because I want you to know again we all do these things.
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  And this is my Achilles heel if you will and to I want you to
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  see 99.9% of the time. It's all these little tiny
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  things that we can do quickly, that will change things.
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  It's not that it's big giant shoves that we need to do and
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  give ourselves. It's just the small little
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  things. So take that into consideration,
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  work on that. Ask yourself.
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  What am I saying? Is a should when it could be a
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  must or should be a must. There you go.
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  Get that one. What are the things I want to
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  turn into a must? Instead of a should, and really
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  start just the whole process by just observing?
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  What are you allowing yourself to say?
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  I should, I should I should again shooting all over yourself
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  and then turn those into must and then, let's see where you go
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  from there. All right, guys.
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  Hope you have a great day. Talk to you soon.
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  Bye. Hope you have a great day.
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  Talk to you soon. Bye.