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Ep 114. Dealing with Disappointment · Go Big with Gib Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Go Big With Gibb podcast, where we talk to professionals, business owners, and entrepreneurs about their big wins.
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  SPEAKER_00: Dealing with disappointment, especially from people you care about, let's talk about something that every single one of us deals with, but almost nobody talks about openly: disappointment.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not just random disappointment.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about the kind that hits you when it comes from someone important to you, a business partner, a friend, a colleague, even family.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when the people closest to you let you down, it feels different.
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  SPEAKER_00: You expected more.
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  SPEAKER_00: You believed that they would show up in a certain way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when they don't, it can feel personal.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's a hard truth that it took me a long time to understand.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most of the time, people are not trying to disappoint you.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're just trying to survive their own lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody is dealing with something you can't see financial pressure, stress at work, marriage problems, health issues, fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when people are under pressure, they make decisions based on self-interest.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not because they're bad people, but because they're human.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that realization changes everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because once you understand that people are primarily motivated by their own circumstances, you stop taking every disappointment personally.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, that doesn't mean you just accept bad behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where a lot of people get it wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lowering expectations doesn't mean lowering standards.
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  SPEAKER_00: You should still be clear and assertive about what you need.
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  SPEAKER_00: If someone disappoints you, communicate it, say it directly, say it respectfully, but say it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Too many people walk around silently frustrated because they expect others to read their minds.
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  SPEAKER_00: That never works.
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  SPEAKER_00: Strong relationships, whether in business, friendships, or family, are built on clear communication, not assumptions.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's the other side of the coin.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once you communicate it clearly, you also have to accept a reality.
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  SPEAKER_00: People will still make choices that serve their own interest.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's life.
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  SPEAKER_00: The key is learning who people actually are, not who you hope they would be.
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  SPEAKER_00: When someone shows you their priorities, believe them, then adjust accordingly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you rely on them less.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you restructure the relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you simply stop expecting them to operate at the same level you do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you do that, something powerful happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: You stop being constantly disappointed because you've aligned your own expectations with reality.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the ironic part.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you actually become more patient, more understanding, and your relationships often improve because now you're operating with clarity instead of resentment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's the takeaway.
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  SPEAKER_00: Communicate clearly, be assertive about what matters, but also understand this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everyone is fighting their own battles.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everyone is making decisions based on their own circumstances.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the sooner you accept that reality, the sooner you stop carrying unnecessary frustration.
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  SPEAKER_00: Focus on controlling what you can control, your standards, your actions, your response.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you do that, you stop living at the mercy of other people's decisions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is how you go big.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to this episode of Go Big with Gib.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you haven't already, go follow us on social media at Gib Irons.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll see you next time.