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FEELING CLAUSTROPHOBIC WHEN EVERYTHING IS GOOD · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables.
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  Speaker 2: You're allowed to have problems even when you have a
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  Speaker 2: really good job. You're allowed to have problems even when
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  Speaker 2: you have like a bad mental state. Yep, but everything
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  Speaker 2: around you is going good. You might have a good boyfriend,
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  Speaker 2: a good job, good family, but it's still depressed. You're
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  Speaker 2: allowed to be depressed. It's just like human he's telling you. No,
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  Speaker 2: You've got everything good. Why are you depressed? The Relatables
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  Speaker 2: podcast is hosted by myself, Oddy Clark aka Mummy and
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  Speaker 2: my partner in crime, mister Jake Craig aka Daddy.
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  Speaker 1: Daddy.
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  Speaker 2: Let's get straight into it without touching on that point, mate.
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  Speaker 1: What have you got to start the episode with today? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so welcome back everybody.
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  Speaker 3: I actually we haven't seen each other probably for about
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  Speaker 3: a week.
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  Speaker 1: Actually it's been a good week. The last time we
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  Speaker 1: really good week. It's been just under a week.
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  Speaker 2: You're counting the days and I'm thinking this is great
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  Speaker 2: a kid.
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  Speaker 3: So from the last time we recorded, if you're on
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  Speaker 3: actually the highest level Patreon, you would have known.
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  Speaker 1: So I went.
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  Speaker 3: I went to Melbourne this weekend and went to the
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  Speaker 3: Coldplay concert. I highly recommend if you can get tickets.
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  Speaker 3: It was fucking hectic.
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  Speaker 1: That's so oh yeah, yeah, yeah, I remember, yeah nice man.
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  Speaker 1: Highly recommend if you can't get tickets. But so I
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  Speaker 1: don't know how long this tour of theres is where
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  Speaker 1: you live. I don't know if you could get this
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  Speaker 1: year in advest job.
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  Speaker 3: Who knows, but watch some videos maybe. But basically okay,
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  Speaker 3: So it was like my dad's Christmas present to the family.
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  Speaker 3: That's what we got for Christmas last year. And so
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  Speaker 3: it was we had to go enteripation.
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  Speaker 1: Great. He got tickets for Melbourne and we are from
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  Speaker 1: Sydney a region.
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  Speaker 3: Basically, I don't even want to talk about cold Blay,
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  Speaker 3: but what I want to talk about is, so we
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  Speaker 3: flew to Melbourne and I didn't bring a check bag,
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  Speaker 3: but a lot of my family did. So when we
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  Speaker 3: get off, we're waiting at the bag al and I
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  Speaker 3: was waiting there. I was doing my own thing. They're
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  Speaker 3: waiting for their bags, and then I noticed there was
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  Speaker 3: a fella who was he would have been middle aged,
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  Speaker 3: like heavier guy, but he was paraplegic like waist down yes,
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  Speaker 3: and in a wheelchair, and he had a backpack on
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  Speaker 3: and then he had this bag that looked like it
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  Speaker 3: was sort of especially made for his beelchair. I had
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  Speaker 3: these hooks at the back where it's like he looked
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  Speaker 3: like he could hook it on. And there was wheels
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  Speaker 3: on his bag, nicking you could go on to his business.
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  Speaker 1: And so he had his.
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  Speaker 3: Bag and he's and I could see him trying to
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  Speaker 3: get it on these hooks, and I was thinking to myself, like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: Like first instinct was like I was about to be like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: let me help you.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: I was gonna be like, oh, let me help you.
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  Speaker 3: And then I decided not to because I was like,
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  Speaker 3: he probably gets that all the time and gets so
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  Speaker 3: fucking annoyed some random guy trying to just like be
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  Speaker 3: a hero. Yeah, you know, because I have a in
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  Speaker 3: that she's not paraplegic, but like she has like minimal
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  Speaker 3: use of limbs and she gets a little annoyed if
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  Speaker 3: people try and like treat it super different. And so
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  Speaker 3: I would like to ask you, Oh, what you think
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  Speaker 3: happened next?
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  Speaker 2: So something happened, Well, we probably asked your help, so
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  Speaker 2: we saw you probably staring at him more WHEELI.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like I would like say, I mean
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  Speaker 1: I was probably about this far.
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  Speaker 2: From because I'm probably thinking Jake in his head probably
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  Speaker 2: thinks he's being discreet and thinking like should I help
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  Speaker 2: this guy?
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  Speaker 1: Should not?
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  Speaker 2: And like actually he's just looking at him and like
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  Speaker 2: and the guy's probably like this guy gonna ask to help.
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  Speaker 3: True.
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  Speaker 1: True, it's a good point.
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  Speaker 3: So I thought I was being discreted, and so I
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  Speaker 3: was like fuck, and I decided against offering help because
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  Speaker 3: I was like, I've actually gets it all the time.
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  Speaker 1: And then.
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  Speaker 3: Just before I could even think my next thought, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: just he leaned too far.
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  Speaker 1: Back and back he went no, not kidding, oh that
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  Speaker 1: thought what I thought was gonna happen. He just got.
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  Speaker 3: Slow motion, and I was like, like, fuck slow motion.
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  Speaker 1: He had to kind of like give up.
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  Speaker 3: He fell back, and then obviously, like I was near him,
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  Speaker 3: so I rushed over. Yeah, and then my dad and
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  Speaker 3: another guy rushed over, and then you can hear his
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  Speaker 3: wife going, oh, James, like what happened? It was obvious
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  Speaker 3: what happened. He fucking fell back, but and he wasn't talking.
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  Speaker 3: He was just like oh, He's like I'm alright, I'm right.
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  Speaker 3: And so then his fucking leg was stuck in his chair.
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  Speaker 3: Dad and this other guy were helping him and then
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  Speaker 3: I had to get his leg out and I set
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  Speaker 3: up his chair.
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  Speaker 1: They helped him back in his dad. My dad was like,
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  Speaker 1: what's the best way to do this? To his wife?
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  Speaker 1: Like she was like just three two one full, completely
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  Speaker 1: out of the chair, like on the ground, okay.
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  Speaker 3: And so I felt terrible. I felt so so bad.
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  Speaker 3: Like he got himself sorted out, like his wife got
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  Speaker 3: his bag, she had.
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  Speaker 1: Her bag and they went off.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and he was obviously he would have been quite embarrassed.
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  Speaker 3: He didn't really say anything, and I was like, fair enough.
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  Speaker 3: She said thank you. And then I went over to
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  Speaker 3: my dad and I was like telling him. I didn't
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  Speaker 3: want to admit that I had this thought of like
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  Speaker 3: wanting to help him, and I but I went over
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  Speaker 3: to my dad and I was like, god, I really
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  Speaker 3: I was so close to offering for help, but I
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  Speaker 3: didn't want.
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  Speaker 1: To do it.
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  Speaker 3: My dad goes same, because my dad must have been
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  Speaker 3: watching him. Yeah, and he goes same. Here I nearly
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  Speaker 3: offered to help him, but I was like, he gets
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  Speaker 3: this all the time.
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  Speaker 1: Probably I don't want to be a dick.
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  Speaker 3: And so now more all the stories every time and
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  Speaker 3: anytime I see someone in a wheelchair, I'm sorry, I'm
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  Speaker 3: offering help.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, that's a good outcome to the story. I guess
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  Speaker 2: it's better also to offer and get rejected rather than
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  Speaker 2: not offer at all.
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  Speaker 1: True.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Like I'd rather offer and then be even
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  Speaker 3: be ad dick to me and be like I don't
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  Speaker 3: need your help.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care. At least I know I offered. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's not good to assume, is it. Nah? I just
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  Speaker 1: fuck it.
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  Speaker 3: I felt terrible, and my younger sister, she saw her
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  Speaker 3: happy there as a family.
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  Speaker 1: She cried. She felt so bad. I just felt terrible.
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  Speaker 1: So it must have been so embarrassing. He wasn't hurt,
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  Speaker 1: was he No, he wasn't even hurt, but you could
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  Speaker 1: tell he was just so bummed out by it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, And I have a feeling it was
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  Speaker 3: like the vibe I was.
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  Speaker 1: Getting was like he had not been a paraplegic for long.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so he's still learning probably, yeah, because like, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: you had this big scar. I just felt so fucking bad,
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  Speaker 3: and I wish I just wanted to go up to
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  Speaker 3: him and be like, man, I was thinking about it,
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  Speaker 3: but obviously I wasn't going to do that.
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 3: That story has a really good like moral behind it,
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  Speaker 3: like I will now be offering help regardless of whether and.
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  Speaker 2: It's better for you to get rejected than someone who's
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  Speaker 2: going through all these problems.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, just to say no, I guess yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I felt, yeah, what would you I'm trying to and
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  Speaker 3: I wanted to actually ask you, like I assume, I'm
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  Speaker 3: assuming you would have had the same thought process when
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  Speaker 3: you were telling the story.
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  Speaker 1: I had the exact same thinking process, yeah, like don't
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  Speaker 1: help him?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I would have thought, I don't want to
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  Speaker 2: look like a hero. I was gonna be like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: this guy's always going to Yeah, you appreciate it.
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  Speaker 1: Sad story, but.
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  Speaker 2: It makes you appreciate like what you've gotten. Also like
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  Speaker 2: to offer a helping hand when you can. Yeah, it's yeah,
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  Speaker 2: like it's better to be rejected.
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  Speaker 3: I guess yeah, no, good point, Well, definitely better to
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  Speaker 3: be rejected.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. And then we saw him again. I'm ature, I
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  Speaker 1: reckon they went to Coldplay.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, because because we were flying home and checked checked
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  Speaker 3: into the airport and then I saw him and his
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  Speaker 3: wife wheel jo that the priority late and I.
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  Speaker 1: Was like, no way, what did you do in Melbourne?
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  Speaker 3: Something else? Actually kind of funny happened. My family has
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  Speaker 3: never seen me get recognized.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and your story start with like must be nice.
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  Speaker 3: And yeah, I mean yeah, fair, totally fair.
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  Speaker 1: It's just like something funny.
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  Speaker 3: So because I was also filming a vlog like of
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  Speaker 3: going there and my family's in the viog glight.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well the thing is as soon as we pop
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  Speaker 2: our camera, it's like, oh it is those guys.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah exactly.
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  Speaker 3: And so we're on the plane and I was filming
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  Speaker 3: myself talking about something. I was like sitting on my own.
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  Speaker 3: Six of them are all together, and I was near him,
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  Speaker 3: but I was like aa. And then on the plane
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  Speaker 3: I started editing just for the hour, just because I
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  Speaker 3: needed to edit some stuff for the podcast. And then
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  Speaker 3: I didn't talk to the guy next to me the
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  Speaker 3: whole time. But then when I'm getting off the plane,
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  Speaker 3: it happened to us once before. The air hostess just
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  Speaker 3: said like, oh, I really like a podcast. I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: thank you so much.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. But then as I was getting off the.
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  Speaker 3: Plane, the guy next to me, he was behind me,
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  Speaker 3: and he goes, oh, like do you have a blog
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  Speaker 3: or something like that.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, no, I actually have a podcast.
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  Speaker 3: And I was talking to him in the in the
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  Speaker 3: in the tunnel, and then as we were walking out,
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  Speaker 3: I was batting me up with my family and then
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  Speaker 3: he goes like, what are you in Melbourne?
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, I'm actually here with my family
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  Speaker 1: go to Coldplay and he goes, oh, same yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And then as he's like, I'm like, oh, here's my
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  Speaker 3: family see, he goes, yeah, see you.
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  Speaker 1: Tonight, and I was like what. I was like, Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I have a good night. He was like, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: see you tonight. And I was like, dude, there's gonna
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  Speaker 1: be like seventy thousand. I do not think we're going
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  Speaker 1: to see each other. And then I was praying. I
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  Speaker 1: was praying the.
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  Speaker 3: Stars in line, and then I ended up sitting next
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  Speaker 3: to him, but it didn't happen unfortunately.
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  Speaker 1: Is that the guy I recognized you? Yeah? Yeah, yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Oh no no no, the guy the person recognized me
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  Speaker 3: was then the air hosting Yeah, like my.
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  Speaker 1: Dad they here, blah blah blah.
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  Speaker 3: But then the funny part was like I was standing
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  Speaker 3: next to my family and then all they would have
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  Speaker 3: heard was him going see you tonight.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think you're going to see me tonight.
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  Speaker 3: Fair reminded me of like a moment where you're at
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  Speaker 3: like Goods miand or something they go enjoy meal and
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  Speaker 3: you're like.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I hate that.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what to say, and then your brain
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  Speaker 2: takes over and you're like, fuck your brain.
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  Speaker 1: It was probably awkward to exactly. Yeah, he would have
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  Speaker 1: just been like probably when I mean, he's like, damn that.
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  Speaker 2: Now you're talking about it on your podcast.
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  Speaker 1: For fucker.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Jake, I think we can all agree. Something that's
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  Speaker 2: relatable is the cost of living crisis.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Australia is getting hit with it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we are, and like things are getting more and
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  Speaker 2: more expensive and the becoming more unattainable in our brain and.
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  Speaker 1: Physically, yes, yep. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And have you ever seen those videos of like I
• 10:07
  Speaker 2: think it's Jeff Bezos or these really rich people try
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  Speaker 2: and guess the prices of like generic household items.
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  Speaker 1: I've seen Bill Gates. Yeah, maybe it was Bill Gates
• 10:16
  Speaker 1: and someone's like because he someone was like when was
• 10:19
  Speaker 1: the last time in grocery shopping?
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  Speaker 3: And he's like, I don't know, And they're like, oh, well,
• 10:23
  Speaker 3: do you want to try and guess what some items cost?
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  Speaker 3: And at the time in America, they were like a
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  Speaker 3: gallon of milk and it was like two bucks, and
• 10:29
  Speaker 3: you go, so eight dollars. They were like, no, it's
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  Speaker 3: eight dollars.
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  Speaker 1: So basically it's going off that premise. But we've flipped it.
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  Speaker 2: So I've got how much does things cost? And the
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  Speaker 2: cost of living crisis and all these things are probably
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  Speaker 2: things you're never going to buy and they're unattainable now
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  Speaker 2: because of these fucking cost of living crisis unattainable items. Okay, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and I've started, I've started a little, and then I've
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  Speaker 2: actually got really big okay, and some things that you're
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  Speaker 2: obviously never going to buy, but still it's nice to know.
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  Speaker 1: So I need to guess the price.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, So we're going to start with how much
• 11:01
  Speaker 2: does it cost a kilo tin of Milo?
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  Speaker 1: Oh?
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  Speaker 3: I actually don't even know. If I want to know,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going with, oh, six bucks.
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  Speaker 2: Mate, This is like Jeff Bezos flipped sixteen dollars what
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  Speaker 2: a kilo tin of Milo? I told you I've complained
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  Speaker 2: about Milo on the pod before, and you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: you goes, just buy it sixteen bucks with a kg.
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  Speaker 3: Mate, that's that's daylight rock.
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  Speaker 1: That's woo worse price. Okay, now you see way wait
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  Speaker 1: wait wait wait sixteen dollars. Yeah, that's crazy.
• 11:36
  Speaker 2: It goes on sales sometimes, but bog standard sixteen bucks man,
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  Speaker 2: no sales eazy?
• 11:41
  Speaker 1: Okay, how much does it cost?
• 11:43
  Speaker 2: This is the only relatable one that you might buy. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: one kilo of cheer light and tasty cheese.
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  Speaker 3: I might know this one because I very recently bought
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  Speaker 3: a kilo of cheese.
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  Speaker 1: No yeah, yeah, yeah, big block. Yeah, and it will
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  Speaker 1: cost me thirteen dollars. So is that your guess? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: fourteen dollars. What's gone up since I bought it for
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  Speaker 1: a kilo of cheese? Okay? Next one? No, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: I mean I had to pay.
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  Speaker 2: For my thirteen dollars ye, Audi, man, like that's the
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  Speaker 2: only thing that makes things a reasonable price.
• 12:18
  Speaker 1: Oh really, it's crazy.
• 12:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, everything's like half the price shit. Audian woollies are
• 12:22
  Speaker 2: just terrible. They're price gouging. Coals and wollies Yeah yeah yeah,
• 12:25
  Speaker 2: Coles and wooies are just price gouch and everything.
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: Eight.
• 12:28
  Speaker 2: Okay, how much does it cost? Twenty twenty four twurd
• 12:32
  Speaker 2: Land cruise a troopy. Oh I want to add that
• 12:37
  Speaker 2: these are like a year and a half weight to get.
• 12:38
  Speaker 1: One if you want a new one.
• 12:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, these these are so popular now that Toyota actually
• 12:43
  Speaker 3: was going to stop making them, but then Australian started
• 12:45
  Speaker 3: ordering them heaps. Man, Oh they've got to be like
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  Speaker 3: seventy seventy five k eighty two thy five hundred. Really, yeah,
• 12:56
  Speaker 3: I would like to I would like to say something
• 12:58
  Speaker 3: about troopies.
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  Speaker 1: What you had?
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  Speaker 3: I had one, That's why I picked it. I had
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  Speaker 3: a nineteen eighty six model. Okay, yeah, I went while
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  Speaker 3: I had my nineteen eighty six model Troopye.
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  Speaker 1: I loved it. It was great. I loved it too.
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  Speaker 3: It was so cool, like very very very simple inside,
• 13:17
  Speaker 3: like the most simple you can get.
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  Speaker 1: Really.
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  Speaker 3: And I know someone while I had mine, who got
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  Speaker 3: a brand new Troopee like twenty twenty two model at
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  Speaker 3: a time or whatever. Yeah, it was brand fucking new.
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  Speaker 3: And in terms of like interior and technology, they barely upgraded.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, you've got what I've got. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know why people are buying them. They're still like not
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: automatic doors. I know, a wind around the window.
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  Speaker 2: That's crazy to pay eighty two point five thousand dollars
• 13:50
  Speaker 2: and you have to wind down the window they at
• 13:53
  Speaker 2: least have.
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  Speaker 1: Cruise control now because mine didn't. All I could do
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: with mine the engine.
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  Speaker 2: But also if you buy one on the second hand market,
• 13:59
  Speaker 2: the actually up in price.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: People will order two, yeah, and then when they get
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  Speaker 3: them both, they'll sell one of them for more than
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: ok yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It's fucking crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Next one, how much does it cost at twenty twenty
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  Speaker 2: four Mercedes Benz G Class aka g Wagon.
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  Speaker 1: Ah fuck.
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  Speaker 3: But whenever we see one of these, Beth is like,
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: that's what I want, Like, good luck, she can't even drive, Okay,
• 14:30
  Speaker 3: I reckon, damn, they'd be different like top of the line,
• 14:33
  Speaker 3: bottom of the line. I'm gonna go like minimum is
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  Speaker 3: bog standing one like three hundred k three hundred and
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  Speaker 3: ninety six thousand dollars?
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  Speaker 1: Holy shit, really, machine, I didn't that's like bog. That's
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: like you could get better.
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you can get I think it's bog standing in
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: the middle. You can get a worse one and we
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: can get a better one. Holy shit, I didn't realize
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: how much they were on the road ninety two.
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: Don't sell it short ninety six ninety six thousand dollars.
• 14:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that better be worth every penny.
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: How can that be worth? That's the price of a
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: small fucking apartment. I know. Just the money is uncomprehendible.
• 15:07
  Speaker 3: A oh, money sucks, money suck.
• 15:10
  Speaker 2: Okay, this is where it gets interesting. How much does
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: it cost the median house price where we live on
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: the Central Coast?
• 15:17
  Speaker 3: Oh? I actually think I know this is it. I'm
• 15:19
  Speaker 3: pretty sure it's a million dollars?
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: Is that you guess? Yeah? A million and seventy thousand?
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: Oh really?
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: Okay, so yeah about nearly eleven hundred so nearly one
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: point one million.
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, So what is the median house price Sydney Bondai Bondie?
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Oh three million.
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: Three point eight five million dollars for the median house
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: price in Bondai.
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: Talk about unattainable? Really, how wild is that? Like?
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: I just don't understand how these people are making so
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: much money, Like what do they do?
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: I just don't get it. I want to leave it
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: on this. This is the most mind boggling.
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: So obviously, interest rates very basis on the interest rate
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: and how long you do it for whatever, But this
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: is an average. How much would you pay on a
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: million dollar loan over thirty years on average?
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: Oh? It's something crazy I very recently have been looking
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: this up and it's fucking crazy. So thirty loan because
• 16:23
  Speaker 3: of the interest you pay something like it's like two
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: point one million altogether.
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: You're good two point three four million dollars on a
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: million dollar loan and the medium house price in where
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: we live, which is like bog standard Australia. Yeah, it's
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: a million dollars. What I know you're going to save
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: obviously and put a deposit on it. But still, oh yeah,
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: I mean, but just hurts your soul thinking about it.
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it makes it's very man.
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: Life kicks you in the ball sometimes though, it does.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: I was thinking about it today driving to the gym.
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: I was like, why do we make life this concept?
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: It's work five days a week. Everything I do, I've
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: got to make the most amount of money. Like why
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: don't we make the concept like work three days a week.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: We all win?
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like we all everything's affordable, we all just have
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: a good time. But instead it's like I've got to
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: make more money and you how can I make money.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Off you doing this? Yeah?
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: I actually like you live, you leave the house these
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: days and you pay fucking twenty bucks on tolls.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: Oh in Sydney. Yeah, yeah, yeah, as soon.
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: As you leave the house, someone's making money off you
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: just by leaving your house.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: That's actually that's a good point.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: Actually, I've never understood like the concept of like obviously
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: we can't change anything, but it's just so hard to grasp.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: But like no one made a concept of life that's
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: it is enjoyable, but like it could be way more enjoyable.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: It's very like we're very.
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: Uh what's the word called, We're very ego based, you know,
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: like in terms of like if you can afford Let look,
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: if you can afford a really nice car, like great,
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: but like what is the reason you have that car?
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: You know, because obviously a very cheaper car, like a
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: very very way cheaper car would suffice I could say
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: for me to be yeah, like what's the reason that
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: you need the luxury car even though a lot of
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: the time you really only drive it to him from work? Like,
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: what is the reason? I feel like a lot of
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: people would asking themselves that reason. I bet you a
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: lot of it is because they want to do it
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: for themselves. But also it's status. Yeah, everything about us
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: is status. It is really it, it really is, you know,
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: even think about like there's this fucking game called CSGO
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: and I got a cousin actually that so you can
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: pay money like maybe one hundred bucks and you get
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: like a gift.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: Box, like a like a mystery box. Yeah, I know
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: exactly about I got a cousin.
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: That bought just like a mystery box and he got
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: I think he just got like a super rare knife
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: in it.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: And this is just in a video game.
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: And some guy in Korea paid him forty thousand dollars
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: for this knife in a game and all, and the
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: whole reason for it is status. We are status creatures
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: of Like he's just gonna run around in the game
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: killing people with this knife, and people are gonna be like,
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: I just got killed by the six is fucking knife.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: Like I don't get how it's worth anything. And it's
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: the same thing with like iPhones. Everyone always has to
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: buy the new iPhone. You've got the fifteen pro Macs
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: does the job better than any phone could ever imagine,
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: and then you've got to go and buy the brand
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: new one just for some reason. We're just like it's
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: consumerism too, and it's just like when did we get
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: like that? Even like the housing market became a business.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: It did, didn't it. It's now a business of people.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: And then the people who have families got to spend
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: thirty years to pay off a million dollar house which
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: will cost them fucking four million dollars.
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: Oh man, I don't even know, Yeah, I just speak.
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: You know what makes it makes you think like are
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: we so it makes you if we talk about maybe
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: the podcast or our own lives, like we're in it?
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, like we we are in it, Like
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: I drive it, Hayand I guess if we had just
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: like a dumb amount of disposable income and our account
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: was like, boys, you're either going to pay this much
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: in tax, we.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: Can go buy a brand new car and fucking you.
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: Won't pay this much in tax, I'd be like, well
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: fuck it, yeah, give me a new car, Like that's
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: gonna be hectic, like and but.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: My car, like genuinely like it. Fine. I drive to
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: Sydney like twice a week in it and it's an
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: hour and a half drive and it's fine.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: Growing up and figuring out all these issues. It's just like,
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: I don't know, it just makes me sad. I know,
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: it's just like also and there's nothing you can do
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: about it.
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: Nah, true, Like honestly, there is nothing it's but also
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: like we're very very lucky as well, Like it's so easy.
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: I find it so easy to talk about everything we're
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: talking about right now and and be like, fuck, you
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: know so hard, which it is. You know, everyone's everyone's
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: a hardships.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: Of their own.
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: Everyone has a different opinion, everyone's experienced life in a
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: different way.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: But also just.
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: Trying to like accept the fact that not even accepting
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: the fact, just trying to remember the fact that where
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: we were born makes us lucky. Having parents that are
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: like supportive make us lucky having I.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: Don't know any They put it, well, that's a good
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: tip to help putting your life into perspective of thinking
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: about like other people aren't as lucky even though they
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: are our problems, like they're good problems to have, but
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: there's still is hard. But that's a good tip to
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: like help the situation, especially if it's becoming overwhelming with
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: all these fucking cost of living crissis is going on,
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: And we're very privileged to be in certain positions that
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: some people aren't privileged to be in.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I was watching some Ted talks yesterday and one
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: of them, maybe I was thinking about not bringing it
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: up because it was a little confusing, but it actually
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: had a pretty good message. And but one of these
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: like little stats in there was that they've they've obviously
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: there's so different studies on the human psyche, and one
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: of them was that this guy said was that you know,
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: people that.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: Hold value, like hold.
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: The value of money over other things, they are like
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: a crazy percentage higher chance of being clinically depressed. Really yeah,
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: And I was just like, I mean, look it, fuck it,
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: probably're not wrong because you are chasing just like this
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: random little material thing like.
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: Well, one thing funny you bring that up, actually is
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: like one thing I've been trying to practice a little
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: bit more is definitely unhealthy with our job. There's always
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: one more thing you can do. And I'm trying to
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: detach myself from that a little bit and take the
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: time to do something with a friend or communicate with
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: someone that I don't necessarily like it doesn't outcome the
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: podcast better, Yeah, if that makes sense, Like I'll just
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: go and sit out, have a coffee down and have
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: lunch for a couple of hours with my mate and
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: not think about Fuck, I've got to go home and
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: do this fucking thing for the pot I've got to research,
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: is I got to edit this, like because that's building
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: our brand. But then my mental health may be taking
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: a bit of a beating. But doing this is I
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: got to accept that that's beneficial for me just talking
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: to someone, communication and like finding a balance between the two.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: That's a very good point.
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: We're also the first, the first humans in all of
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: human history to be not part of tribes.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Oh, meaning so.
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: Men and women human beings are where tribal creatures like
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: to be in a group, like as a sense of belonging,
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: like we.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: We need belonging, like we need it.
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: But now for some reason, there's this whole thing of
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: like we need to do everything on our own to
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: feel fulfilled, accomplished, accomplished or so.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: Like.
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: For instance, if you were maybe feeling shit about yourself,
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: you'd probably say to yourself, I mean, I'm guilty of
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: but you probably say yourself, like, you know, I need
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: to fucking sort this out and not bring it up,
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: you know, be like this isn't anyone else's problem but
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: my own.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: As back in the.
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: Day when we were in tribes, if you had an
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: issue you bring it up everyone and it's everyone's issue
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: and everyone like it's like if you're down, we're all
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: like the weakest link is what we are.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: We need everyone to be.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: We're no longer a team really, Yeah, we're not a
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: team at all. If you have a good family, you
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: have a good family team. But otherwise we do have
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: this weird independence power trip, don't we.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: It's like I've got to do everything by myself. I've
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: got to be independent. I've got to pay my bills,
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: I've got to have a good mental health. I've got
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: to do everything by myself. I don't know why I
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: god like that. Hey, it's weird because you do need
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: Like the whole thing about humanity is connection. It's like
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: that makes us work good. That's what humans need is
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: to connect to people. Yep, but it's just growing up's hard.
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: It is hard. It's hard. Yeah, I don't even know
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: where fuck where we could go.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: We could talk about even mindset right now is like
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: should I be complaining about it? We're in a good position,
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: but it's like it is hard.
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: Fuck. A good point.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: That's relatable for anyone, Like you're allowed to have problems
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: even when you have a really good job. You're allowed
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: to have problems even when you have like a bad
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: mental state. Yep, but everything around you is going good.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: You might have a good boyfriend, a good job, good
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: family view. It is still depressed. You're allowed to be depressed.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: It's just like human he's telling you. No, You've got
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: everything good. Why are you depressed?
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: Fuck?
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: What you just said was fucking insane. Do you want
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: dilemmas time?
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: Okay? Because what you do? Fuck? Listen to this? All right?
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: Well, so we're going to go into dilemmas going off
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: what I just said. I feel like I have a
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: pretty perfect life. I am twenty five. I have a
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: good job, financial stability, a really happy relationship. I live
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: in a great city with lots of opportunity. I have
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: a variety of hobbies and a good friend group. But
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: I keep feeling a really strong urge to up and
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: leave it all, give it all up, and move to
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: another country without warning. I feel really guilty for feeling
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: this way, as I have most of what anyone could
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: ever want in quotations, Recently, a couple of opportunities in
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: this city fell through, leaving me feeling the only reason
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: I'm still here is my relationship. He is absolutely wonderful
• 26:08
  Speaker 3: and I want to be with him. He also can't
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: leave this city at the moment due to his own commitments.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: I feel a really strong need to follow opportunities overseas
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: study slash career, slash sports, but don't know how to
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: approach this conversation with him. Is it normal to feel
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: so cloustrophobic with a good stable life? How can I
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: choose between my relationship slash stability and the complete unknown?
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: Wow, I didn't even know that dilemma was coming.
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: No, That's why I was like, well, that's why I
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: was like, wait, well, because I was thinking, Fuck, I
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: was keen to bring that dilemma up.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: I didn't think we were going to talk about all
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: that chat. Mm yeah. Ah, it's such a relatable dilemma.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: It's just like so like she has everything and she
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: feels guilty that she doesn't feel like that's what she wants. Yeah,
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: it's so relatable to have all these things too and
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: like not know what you want, like ah yeah. And
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: it's also like society has put this false perception that
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: what you've got is good, Like why.
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: Is why is all that good? Yeah? Why is it good?
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: Like it doesn't mean it's necessarily good for me, Like
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: he's all that good because you were told your whole
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: life that's what you should have.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's it's It's like the simplest thing that bring
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: it back to is like you finished school, go to UNI,
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: you should be good. Yeah if as soon as you finish,
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: Like what do you mean you should be good? Like
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna be depressed after I studied for four years
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: and now I'm putting the workforce and I don't understand
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: how life is. What do you mean I should be
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: good Now I'm getting paid one hundred ker Now I'm
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: a fucking mess.
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: It's like if you were to bring this up with
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: someone and they were to judge you, like, you know,
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: well you should have done this a few years ago.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: It's like, but who says that? Why? Who made that rule?
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: It's like this mental juggle in your head that I
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: should be happy because I've got all this behind me.
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but like why who made the rule that I'm
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: allowed to that I'm not allowed to like.
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: Go back and do more studying and leave the job
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: that I've got even though it's great financially stable, all
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: this stuff, Like who made the rule that I'm not
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: allowed to change my life.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, it's a really it becomes a really honorable person.
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: Honorable person when like you can detach from what society
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: thinks and really, like I guess that's listening to your heart.
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: And the dilemma cender anyone like this is like it
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: puts yourself first, really because she probably doesn't know what
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: she wants, but her soul is calling for something different
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: and she needs to find something and she doesn't know
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: what it is. And some people won't listen to that
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: soul and they'll continue to grind because that's what you
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: told to do.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: And I really envy. I think I have it a
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: little bit. I could be better.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: I think you're pretty good in listening to like your heart,
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: making it relatable for us. Like when we first started
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: the potty and we made zero money and we were
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: doing it. All our friends in society's eyes and terms
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: were getting ahead. They were building their bank account, building
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: their positions in jobs, whereas we were. I don't know,
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: maybe we've seen as what are these guys doing? But
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: we listened to her hard and was like, there's maybe
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: something in this hey, And that's what I'm trying to
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: make it relatable for me, and I think that's anyone,
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: Like it's okay to not do what people think are right.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: It's also like the same dilemma of people think they
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: have to have kids. Taking a broad spectrum. Yeah, like
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: some people feel guilty when they don't want to have
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: a kid. That's a very good point, Like you can
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: do it. Taking it back to our like first segments ound,
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: do what.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: You want to do, be what you want to be.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: Relatables fad Honestly, Oh, I'm sick of like society just
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: like controlling everyone's brain when there's no like they have
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: one solution and one set standards for people when every
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: single person, every single person listens right now, thoughts are different,
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: their body is different, No one understands what's going inside
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: your head. But then they have this one model that
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: says you'll be right if you do all.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: These things dumb.
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, Like for fuck my grandparents. They are like the
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: type of people that you know they would constantly. It's
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: like I was working at a bar and I'd left
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: that job because I'd left a carpenter job, which is
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: like considered to be very stable, make good money to
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: go to be a bartender because I hate a carpentry.
• 30:07
  Speaker 3: I was a lot happy to being a bartender and
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: they'd be like, you know, you're not going to be
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: able to buy a house working there, and I was like, I'll.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: Figure it out one day. Whatever. Yeah.
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: And then when I got a manager like upgrade, like
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: promoted a manager, that's when they were like, oh, like
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: this could be a serious job. And then with the podcast,
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: like god, up until May, I'm telling you up until recently, they're.
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: Just like what are you doing? And I think I'm
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: just good at kind of being like you guys are
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: all just old farts.
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: But it's just like the different people's opinions and trying
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: to disconnect from them is just the hardest thing.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: Well, I think a good question to start asking other
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: people and yourself to build a more healthy environment so
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: people feel located do what their souls telling them to do.
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: Is instead of asking like like I don't know what
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to think, like what I'm trying to say,
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: ask are you happy? Instead of like what they're doing,
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: like what they're doing now, Like no one ever, no
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: one gives a fuck whether or not you're happy. Yeah,
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: they give a fucker whether or not.
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: If you have a good like it's like if you
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: hate your job when they say a house working, like
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: I actually really hate it and they're like, oh, I
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: have it pays good, it doesn't it.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like that asked me if I'm happy.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: No one ever asks if you're happy other than this
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: big question of like, are you doing what society is
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: telling you to do?
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, Like, no one ever asks you what you're happy.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: There is such a good point. No one ever says
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: are you happy?
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: Because it's not valuable in society's terms, because there's no
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: monetary benefit from it. And I think they like to
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: normalize people saying like, because I would prefer to fucking
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: work in a garden, make sixty k year, be happy,
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: then work in a big office for make one hundred
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: and twenty k year, double the thing, and then just
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: be this depressed little man who is unhappy as all.
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: Would you prefer, let's go, would you prefer to work
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: in a garden, you know, being nice and chill, just
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: like at your own pace, make as much as you need,
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: you know, you pay rent, you feed yourself, you've got
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: a girlfriend, you're cool.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: Or do the podcast? Oh no, podcast, I'm happy yeah, yeah, yea, yeah,
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: well I did this because I wanted to do it.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: That's a good point. Yeah yeah, But okay to the dilemma, Yeah.
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: I think I would like I didn't even like obviously,
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to give you any sort of like
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: financial advice or relationship like we give relationship with fice
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: all the time.
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: But it sounds like your part is great.
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: But I'm thinking maybe if you could somehow bring up
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: these like urges you're getting with your for all this stuff,
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: like bring it up with your partner and then but
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: also let them know, Like I think you should have
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: a little plan maybe like in place, you could do
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: things in bite sized pieces.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: Instead of just.
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: Leaving to a different country, you could try and just
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: maybe get a new job in the current city you're in,
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: you know, I mean, I don't know.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: I'm just trying to think of options here.
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: I'm just thinking you just got a definitely voice to
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: him everything that's going on inside your head, and it
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: should be a safe enough environment where he understands where
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: you're coming from. Like it's okay to say, like I
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: don't know, hey, James, something's not right for me here.
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: I know I've got all these good things going and
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: I love you, but I need something else and I
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: don't know what it is, and I'm hoping we can
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: find it together.
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, something like that. I wonder if the first step
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: what does she want to stay with him?
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: It sounds like, yeah, I wonder if you gotta.
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: Tell him, because the hardest thing for a boyfriend is
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: like being caught off guard.
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: You haven't told him.
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, it's better to tell me, tell me, yeah,
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: and say something's wrong and get him in the loop
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: and get his brain thinking about.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: It and just set yourself off for failure as well.
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: That just be like I say some stuff, I'm proably
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: to say some stuff wrong or I don't know how
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: to say this.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: I'm probably going to say some things that hurt you.
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and like, but by no means there's anything I'm
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: about to say, like in a hurtful way.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: Let me rewind nothing's said in stone.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: I want to figure out a solution where we get
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: what I'm looking for and we are still and love together.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, And she's all.
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: About everything in a relationship comes back to communication.
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: I wonder if the first step could be though, like
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: really figuring out why she's feeling these feelings.
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: If there's a way to figure that out. Yeah, oh
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: how do I feel this way? It probably is, well,
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: she just needs to grow as a person. And I
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: think this is where a lot of relationships break apart
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: is because one of the partners think, oh, you're changing,
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: whereas in reality, growths really good and if you can
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: grow together, that's how relationship flourishes. And that all comes
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: down to communication. But some people he might be like, oh,
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: I've fucking love to you. What do you mean you
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: used to love to your yeargo? Like, who cares if you.
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: You're a different person than a year ago.
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: Some people can't understand that, which is like all comes
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: back to communication. Just be open, tell him how you feel,
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: and he should understand it because he sounds like a
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: nice guy and you walk out a solution together like
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: it might like Jack said, start and bite sized pieces.
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: Go overseas to start for I don't know, one month
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: a month in Bali, then next year you do six
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: months in Europe something like that.
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: Because all these things that you're just thinking, you'll like, yeah,
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: you don't know what you like?
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: You gotta go yeah, because like you could, you could
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: up and move and then committed to like a year
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: in fucking France or something shit, yeah, and be like,
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: well I hate France, and then you're gonna feel all
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: this pressure to stay because if you go home, everyone's
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: gonna be like you completely fucked your life and then
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: you're gonna feel judged and you shouldn't, but you will.
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: And it's just how we are as humans.
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: I say, whatever decision you make, like, back it, yeah,
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: like fully back yourself in that decision, and if it
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: doesn't work out, you still need to back yourself and
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: be like, Okay, well now this is like the this
• 35:26
  Speaker 3: is the hand I played. I've got to work it
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: out from here. Like, don't be like, oh I wish
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: I didn't do this. Just take it as life experience. Yeah,
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: back yourself and just keep going about your life after.
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: That, completely agree, good luck. That's the most relatable youth
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: full dilemmte ever.
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I thought this was very relatable.
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: Someone everyone experiences that like once this like it's sort
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: of like imposter syndrome in a way, Like I've got
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: all these good things here, yeah, Like should I just
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: fucking love my life?
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: When I don't? Yeah, why don't I love my life?
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: Like I remember having a girlfriend when I was younger
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: and being like, ah, you know, I don't know if
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: we're gonna be together forever, because like, why would be
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: together with someone that I've met in my own town?
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: Like why do I should be meeting someone I should
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: be meeting someone from Sydney, which I mean, I guess
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: Beth is from Sydney, but I should be meeting someone
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: from like fucking somewhere else. Like why am I still here?
• 36:11
  Speaker 3: That's just so lame?
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, why do I think that, Yeah, we didn't work
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: out in the end, But why do I think that
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: it's beautiful person's in front of you and you're thinking like, oh,
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: I can't love her. We grew up fucking fifteen minutes
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: part I don't know why we brain just trying to
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: place tricks on us and just being honest to yourself
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: and understanding that these emotions are valid and you've got
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: to figure them out.
• 36:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, alrighty guys, thank you very much for listening.
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: That was actually like I didn't know where that episode
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: was going to go. Wait, just flow, didn't it? Thank
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: you very much for listening. Don't forget to join the
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: Facebook group.
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: Facebook group is going good, Honestly, the community we're building
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: is I'm so happy and proud about it. All the baddies,
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: like the best people were so supportive.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: There's been no negativity at all. Yeah. Great.
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: Honestly, if you have a dilemma that you've sent to
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: us and we haven't read it yet, go send it
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: in there.
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it like the baddies are given, Like there's
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: twenty thirty people's advice rather than just mine and Jakes.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. It's sick. It's so good. Love everyone of you,
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: so relat.
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: As bad as you like Patreon relatables, go get an
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: extrapsode every week for five bucks. But how to piss
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: man off? Our favorite book? Page ten? So you gotta
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna read the little blurb first, say this, when
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: a man is playing you a classic rock song, it
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: doesn't have to be true. The odds are he won't know,
• 37:39
  Speaker 3: and if he does, I'm almost certain he won't tell you.
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: So you say, oh, they sang this on Glee, you
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: know that show.
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: See, I wouldn't know too, because I vaguely know what
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: Glee is, but I don't really know what it is.
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: But then if you actually did know they sang it
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: on Glee, you wouldn't want to voice that opinion because
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: of your ego.
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: Take away rock song, just any song you don't lie
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: your man's playing in the car, like, oh you know
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: they playing some glee.
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: Oh they played this.
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: On clean If you're you're like, okay, I don't like
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: this song.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: I'm live all right, everybody, thanks for listening. We love
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: you yourself. So we just said that at the same
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: time we did we got to kiss? Or do you
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: know Jinks on the roof? Oh, it's like Jinx, you
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: owe me a coke? Now you don't know Jinks. No,
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: it's Jinks. We got to kiss.
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: No, I grew I grew up as if I if
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: you say, if you jink someone, it was like, it
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: was okay with this, you go Jinks poke can't speak again.
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: And if you do, you owe me a coke. That's
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: what I grew up with.
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: I grew up on Jinks. And if it's under a roof,
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: we have to kiss. Really, yeah, I ri k. Australia
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: is different.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: Europe. You could just say you don't want to kiss me.