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Break a Limiting Belief in Less Than 10 Minutes · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Welcome to the Nadia Chapman Show, where we talk about mindset,
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  growth, and the psychology behind becoming the strongest version of ourselves.
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  And today, I want to talk about something fascinating, a belief.
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  Yeah, not just any belief, but the quiet ones running in the background of your life.
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  The ones that sound like, I'm not good enough, I always mess this up,
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  or I'm not confident under pressure, or maybe it's, I'm not that kind of person.
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  And here's the interesting thing.
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  Most people treat beliefs as if they are facts. And that's the problem.
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  You know, like something is permanent, something is carved into stone,
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  but beliefs are not facts.
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  They are stories that we repeat to ourselves, stories that we told ourselves
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  long enough that they start to feel as if they are truth.
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  And once a belief feels true, it starts shaping your decisions,
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  your confidence, your actions, or the lack of actions, and sometimes even your entire identity.
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  So that's what I want to talk about today.
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  But there's a good news. A belief can change far faster than people realize, sometimes in minutes.
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  And today I want to show you how to do it. So let me start by asking you something powerful.
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  What is one belief you quietly carry about yourself?
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  Hmm. Think about it for a moment.
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  Maybe it sounds like, you know, I'm not a confident person or I'm bad under
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  pressure. I always overthink.
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  I'm not talented enough. Whatever it is.
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  I know that you know what it is. And if you have to press pause on this podcast
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  to just think about it long enough, that's okay.
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  All right. But I know that there's a limiting belief that you have inside of you about yourself.
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  Now, here's the fascinating part. Most beliefs didn't start as truth.
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  They started as interpretations of a moment.
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  So one experience in your life or one comment, or maybe a difficult season you
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  were in, or if you're an athlete, one competition that did not go so well or
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  one fall, And then the brain does something very human.
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  It tries to protect us by creating a rule, a rule that says, ha, see?
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  That's who you are. But the truth is one moment never defines who we are.
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  So here's the first step into breaking a belief. Question it.
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  Always question that belief. Not with aggressivity, just curiosity. Always.
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  So ask yourself, is this 100% true?
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  Because most beliefs start to crumble the moment that we look at them closely.
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  For example, someone might say, oh, I always choke under pressure. Okay.
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  Always? Really?
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  Never, you know, once did you perform well? Never once did you maybe surprise yourself?
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  Huh. Usually what we discover is this. They are actual moments where we did great.
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  Moments where we did stay calm. Moments where we rose to the occasion and suddenly
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  the belief changes from, oh, I always joke to sometimes things didn't go my way.
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  And those are two completely different realities.
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  See where I'm going? Now, where do beliefs really come from?
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  Because most limiting beliefs we can trace back to a moment.
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  Maybe when you were younger, maybe someone said something to you,
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  something that kind of stuck with you, unfortunately.
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  Maybe there was a disappointment. Maybe there was a disappointing performance
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  or maybe simply, I don't know, you compared yourself to someone else or you
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  got compared to someone else and then decided that you're not enough anymore.
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  And then the brain did what it always does.
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  Well, it created meaning. And here's the key idea.
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  Events are neutral. It's the meaning that we attach to them that becomes a belief.
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  And maybe that is the writer downer for today.
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  Events are neutral. Yeah.
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  It's the meaning we attach to them that becomes the belief.
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  So, for instance, two people can live the exact same experience and walk away
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  with two completely different beliefs.
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  One person might say, well, that proved that I'm not good enough.
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  And another person might say, that showed me what I need to work on.
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  So see, same event, completely different identity.
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  So let's change the meaning, right? So if beliefs come from meaning...
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  That means that meaning can change. So let me ask you something else.
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  What if the moment you've been using as evidence against yourself was actually information?
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  Just information, not a verdict, not a label, just feedback.
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  What if the fall didn't mean failure? What if it meant growth?
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  And what if the setback didn't mean weakness?
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  What if it meant that you were pushing your limits? See, sometimes the story
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  we attach to a moment is the only thing holding the belief in place.
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  And when the story changes, the belief changes with it.
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  Now, once you loosen that old belief, something very powerful happened.
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  We just created space. Uh-huh, there's space. Space for a new identity.
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  So instead of saying, oh, I'm a terrible person under pressure,
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  you might start saying, oh, I'm learning how to perform under pressure.
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  And instead of saying, I'm not confident, you might say, I'm building confidence
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  every time I show up. And notice something very important here.
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  The new belief doesn't have to be exaggerated, doesn't have to be something crazy.
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  It just has to be more empowering than the old one. That's it.
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  You know, every single belief grows stronger with repetition.
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  So each time that you act in alignment with a new belief, it gets reinforced
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  time and time again, little by little, moment by moment.
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  So here's the question I want to leave you with today. What belief about yourself
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  might simply be a story that you outgrew?
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  Not a truth, not a destiny, something that's there forever.
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  Maybe just an all-interpression of something that happened. And if you were
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  rewriting the story today with the wisdom that you have now,
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  what belief would you choose instead?
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  That's an amazing question to ask because the truth is this.
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  You don't become your future by repeating your past. Never.
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  You become your future by choosing the beliefs that move you forward.
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  Thank you so much for spending this time with me today. If this episode made
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  you pause and reflect, I want you to do something very simple.
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  Take one belief that you've been caring about yourself, okay,
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  and gently challenge it this week, all week. Look at it from a new angle.
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  Rewrite the meaning behind it, all right? You might be surprised how quickly
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  your mind can shift when we stop treating all this old story stuff like permanent truth.
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  And remember, your identity is not fixed. It's never fixed.
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  It's something you are constantly shaping with the beliefs that you choose to keep, okay?
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  Until next time, this is Nadia Chapman, and this has been The Nadia Chapman
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  Show. Thank you for listening.