Latest / #Faith4TodayPodcast / Episode 68 of the #Faith4TodayPodcast – Brokenness That Leads to Life
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- 0:00What if the thing you are trying to avoid is actually where God
- 0:03wants to meet you? In this episode of the Faith for
- 0:06Today podcast, we're going to look at Psalm 56 and how broken
- 0:10this can become the doorway to real transformation in our life.
- 0:15We're going to talk honestly, honestly about humility,
- 0:17confession, and why God doesn't overlook our pain.
- 0:21Rather, the psalmist tells us that he captures every tear in a
- 0:25bottle. If you've been hiding, managing
- 0:27your image, or just trying to hold it all together on your
- 0:30own, this episode is going to help you to step into the light
- 0:33and experience the kind of grace that actually changes your life.
- 0:39Are you ready? Let's get into it.
- 0:45Hey, Well, welcome to episode 68 of the Faith for Today podcast.
- 0:49We're talking about brokenness that leads to life.
- 0:53My name is Matthew. I'm your host and I'm really
- 0:55delighted that you are joining us today.
- 0:59Our hope with the Faithful Today podcast is to help you be
- 1:03inspired on Sunday and integrate those truths into a life of
- 1:08faithfulness even on a Thursday. So we drop a new episode during
- 1:13every midweek following a Sunday message, and I'm going to recap
- 1:17that message. I'm going to share a little
- 1:19bonus content and respond to some questions that has that
- 1:23that people have sent in and man, our, our hope is to really
- 1:26help you live a life applying God's word, integrating these
- 1:31truths into how you live, how you treat people so that we're
- 1:35becoming more and more like Jesus each and every day.
- 1:37So now today we're going to talk about brokenness and how
- 1:41brokenness can lead us to real life in Christ.
- 1:47Brokenness, you know, is something we usually try to just
- 1:50avoid altogether. But Psalm 56, we see that it's
- 1:54often the very place where God does his deepest work.
- 1:57David is on the run. He's living under pressure,
- 2:01betrayal, uncertainty is everywhere.
- 2:03Yet instead of kind of hardening his heart or retaliating in
- 2:08anger, he turns towards God in honesty and trust.
- 2:13And I think that's where brokenness now, or that's what
- 2:16does when it's surrendered, it kind of strips away the illusion
- 2:21of control that we have and it exposes what's really going on
- 2:25beneath the surface of our of our heart.
- 2:27And in that place we can discover something essential
- 2:30about God, that he is gracious, he is trustworthy, and he
- 2:35actually cares about the details and the outcomes of our life.
- 2:40David says that God keeps track of the tears, that that's not
- 2:44some poetic exaggeration, although it is fairly poetic.
- 2:48It's I think something that expresses a personal care and
- 2:52connection that David had with God and that we can have as
- 2:56well. We're going to this becomes the
- 2:57moment where kind of the story of self stops working and the
- 3:02heart finally is open and ready to receive God's grace.
- 3:07I don't think brokenness is the end though.
- 3:10I actually think brokenness is really a doorway.
- 3:12It's something God uses to form humility, honesty, and a deep
- 3:17dependence on on Him. Kind of like a bone that heals
- 3:22stronger at the place it was broken.
- 3:24God rebuilds us in a way that we wouldn't or couldn't achieve
- 3:29kind of on our own. The invitation is to stop
- 3:31pretending, stop defending, and start walking in the light of a
- 3:37relationship in union with Christ.
- 3:40That means learning to confess quickly.
- 3:43It means naming what's actually going on on the inside of us
- 3:46rather than generalizing it or over spiritualizing it.
- 3:50And it helps us to trust God's process even when we're
- 3:53uncomfortable. Real relationship with God,
- 3:55though, isn't built on some polished appearance of of
- 3:59perfectionism or or appearing like we have it all together.
- 4:02It's actually built on honest surrender and and when we live
- 4:06that way, we don't just get through brokenness.
- 4:09We're actually transformed and made new by it.
- 4:14That's where we can find rest for our souls, just like Jesus
- 4:19promised. All right, let's get to a little
- 4:20bit of bonus content in in Psalm 56, we see David ask God to be
- 4:27gracious to him. Now graciousness is kind of one
- 4:30of the key characteristics of God that he is kind.
- 4:32He is gracious to us that that that he his favor shows on us.
- 4:38I've done a ton of teaching over the years on especially in the
- 4:41last three years about how grace is the Holy Spirit at work in
- 4:46us. That it's, it's the very thing
- 4:47that we need. It transforms who we are.
- 4:49And so, so one of the ways that God is gracious to us or he
- 4:52gives us grace is by putting his favor on us.
- 4:55And the thing that favors us or that that makes us favored is
- 4:59actually the allows his abiding presence of his Holy Spirit to
- 5:02fill our lives all through Scripture.
- 5:05Favor of God looks like God's Spirit working in and on behalf
- 5:10of people. In other words, So when we have
- 5:12the Holy Spirit working on us, resting on us, and working on
- 5:17who we are, well then that's the favor of God in our lives.
- 5:20Like his favor towards us is his face and his presence shining
- 5:25towards us. Like this is what grace and
- 5:27God's graciousness is. Now one of the ways that God was
- 5:31gracious towards David, we see in the Scripture is actually
- 5:36that God brought people around David in his moment of distress,
- 5:41in his moment of, of being on the run, in his moment of, of
- 5:44pain. Like God brought people around
- 5:46David. And I think that's one of the
- 5:47ways that God is gracious to us that that God brings the right
- 5:50people at the right time for the right reasons to come along to
- 5:54help us walk in the right purpose of God for our lives.
- 5:58And I really do believe that that that is true, that God
- 6:00brings people to us as a way of being gracious to to us.
- 6:05In First Samuel 22, we see a kind of of a summary intro of of
- 6:12some elements of David's life. It says this it says so David
- 6:16left Gath and took refuge in The Cave of a doodle.
- 6:20So this is actually like right after David wrote Psalm 56.
- 6:26Psalm 56 was while he was on the run and running to Gath from
- 6:32from King Saul. And then what we find here in
- 6:34Psalm 22 or a first Samuel 22 is David now has left Gath.
- 6:38So so this is sometime after he wrote Psalm 56 and the very
- 6:42first thing he asked God in Psalm 56 was be gracious to me.
- 6:46So now we pick up for Samuel 22 says so David left Gath and took
- 6:50refuge in The Cave of Abdullah. When David's brothers and his
- 6:55father's whole family heard, they went down and they joined
- 6:59him there. In addition to that, every man
- 7:03who was desperate, in debt, or discontented rallied around him
- 7:10and he became their leader. About 400 men were with him.
- 7:14Now Fast forward. The men that gathered with David
- 7:18became like these mighty men of valor and war.
- 7:22Like we'll see some amazing stories as we read in Samuel and
- 7:27Chronicles about David's mighty men and their exploits.
- 7:31Like they were favored by God in a really unique way that God
- 7:34allowed them to beat, beat giants, overcome random and
- 7:39weird compelling like overwhelming circumstances.
- 7:44One man beat thousands of others.
- 7:46Like it's just amazing what God did through these mighty men.
- 7:50But notice how it describes them.
- 7:52They were desperate, they were in debt and they were discontent
- 7:58in life and they rallied around him.
- 8:01And I think it's interesting, you see these are the people
- 8:04that God sent David. Now on the surface, it looks
- 8:06like these men are like nothing. They are rejects.
- 8:08They're it's the island of misfit toys gathering around
- 8:12David. But but it's not God turned
- 8:14these men who were desperate, these men who were in debt in
- 8:17their life and these men who were discontent with all things.
- 8:21They rallied around David, and because they rallied around
- 8:24David, pursuing what David was pursuing and honoring David and
- 8:27serving David and serving that cause, like God built something
- 8:31mighty out of these men. Something happened in them as
- 8:36they participated in this thing. It sounds really similar, these
- 8:42descriptions of these men. It just sounds eerily similar to
- 8:46Jesus saying blessed are the poor in spirit, blessed are the
- 8:50me, they inherit the earth. Blessed are those who mourn for
- 8:54they will be comforted. Like like this description of
- 8:58that Jesus gives of the Beatitudes in Matthew chapter 5.
- 9:01Kind of sounds really similar to me to these men who were rallied
- 9:05around David, these men who came to David, who were broken, who
- 9:09were disheartened, who were disillusioned and something
- 9:13transformed formed in their life as they rallied together.
- 9:17I think there is something about coming together with people in
- 9:20the midst of our not in our success, but in the midst of
- 9:24like the hard times and the challenges that rally together
- 9:28that somehow reawakens in us this call of God and life of God
- 9:34in US. It's it's transformative.
- 9:36And that's what Jesus promises in in Matthew chapter 5 in the
- 9:39Sermon on the Mount right and the beatitudes.
- 9:41Blessed are you in other words, fortunate.
- 9:43Are you like happy? Are you going to be you're going
- 9:46to experience the God life when you are desperate and dead, when
- 9:51you're poor in spirit, when you're hunger and thirsting for
- 9:54righteousness, when when there's a a discontent inside of you
- 9:58where you can't stand the evil around you and you have to see
- 10:01righteousness prevail like you hunger and thirst for that
- 10:03righteousness, you're going to be filled.
- 10:05And so I just I can't get around this idea that that God sent
- 10:09these men to David and and they were outcast.
- 10:11They, they look like nothing, but yet their heart in their
- 10:15disposition LED them to a place of desperation and dependence on
- 10:20God that reawakened them alive in them and made them fully come
- 10:25alive into who they are. Which is how we have to come to
- 10:27God. We have to come to God in the
- 10:30moment of desperation, in the moment of our debt and our
- 10:33discontent, and in our acknowledgement that we are
- 10:36helpless to help ourselves, that we cannot save ourselves, we
- 10:39cannot get ourselves out of this, that we need God no matter
- 10:43how successful we might appear on the outside.
- 10:46And we still need to be desperate and hunger for God.
- 10:49And Jesus is those who hunger and thirst for righteousness
- 10:53will be filled. And that's the humility we need.
- 10:58And that's how our brokenness leads to some beautiful blessing
- 11:01of God in our lives. And we talked about how Jesus
- 11:05invites us. He he says in Matthew 11, we
- 11:07looked at this verse where where Jesus describes himself as lowly
- 11:11and humble. But the invitation of Jesus was
- 11:14come to me, all you who are weary and heavy laden.
- 11:17In other words, come to me, all of you who are desperate, who
- 11:20are in debt, who are discontent in life, come to me and I will
- 11:25give you rest there. There is a restoring orative
- 11:28nature to relationship with Jesus.
- 11:31Please hear me. There is a restorative renewing
- 11:34nature result when you are in rich communion and right
- 11:39relationship with Christ. This is the invitation there.
- 11:43There's this question that we use, I use with my staff to kind
- 11:50of reflect and, and we do these one on ones kind of every every
- 11:55eight weeks, 10 weeks or so. And one of the questions that we
- 11:59reflect on personally, just kind of where we're at kind of just
- 12:02check INS that we do is this question that says, I know I'm
- 12:06resting in God when. And then there's a list of kind
- 12:10of characteristics or, or or life experiences or descriptions
- 12:16that they kind of select from. Like, Hey, this is true of me
- 12:19right now. I know I'm resting in God when
- 12:21and this list came from speed Pete Schizero And he he's
- 12:26written a ton of stuff about emotionally healthy spirituality
- 12:30and leadership and all these things.
- 12:32It's great, great, great resources.
- 12:35But but he, he says this. I know I'm resting in God when
- 12:39and then he gives this list when I'm enjoying communion with
- 12:42Jesus even in the midst of disappointments and storms.
- 12:45I know I'm resting in God when I'm experiencing a lack of
- 12:47anxiety in my body when I'm not. I'm not doing for others what
- 12:52they can and should do for themselves.
- 12:54I know I'm resting in God when I'm maintaining my rhythms of
- 12:57being with Jesus and seasons of great pressure.
- 13:01I know I'm resting in God when I'm less and less triggered when
- 13:06things go awry. I'm resting in God when I know
- 13:10I'm resting in God when I am present to the beauty and wonder
- 13:13of those who are around me. I know I'm resting in God when
- 13:17I'm enjoying a deep sense of knowing that I have nothing to
- 13:21gain and nothing to lose. I only want God's will.
- 13:26Another one is I know I'm resting in God and when I'm
- 13:30experiencing deep contentment and caring for people around me.
- 13:35Another one is I know I'm trusting in God when I'm
- 13:39receiving God's gifts of limits rather than fighting, ignoring,
- 13:42or denying them. I know I'm resting in God when
- 13:46I'm discerning and embracing the season in which God has placed
- 13:49me. These are our great kind of
- 13:52articulations of what it looks like for us to be resting and
- 13:56God. Remember, Jesus says come to me
- 13:59and I will give you rest for your souls.
- 14:01The way we come to him is with humility.
- 14:03For, for me, one of the, the real indicators that I, I know
- 14:08and, and it's kind of represented in some of these
- 14:10lists that, that I just read. But for me, I know I am at rest
- 14:14in God when I am humble and I'm being honest.
- 14:18I am not at rest when I'm trying to be less than honest, when I'm
- 14:24trying to cover up things, when I'm, I'm trying to pretend when
- 14:27I'm trying to put on an air or or, or or or pose.
- 14:30I but I also know I'm not at rest when I'm walking in pride.
- 14:34Pride kind of disrupts who I am, but when I'm willing to be
- 14:37humble and when I'm walking with humility, when I'm walking and
- 14:40honesty, man, I know I can be at rest in God.
- 14:43I, I, I don't get triggered. I this list is very true of me.
- 14:47I think this list that I just read, kind of rewind it, play it
- 14:50back, if you will. I want you to think about that
- 14:53for your life. Where do you see these
- 14:58characteristics, these these descriptors true in your life?
- 15:03I think that might be an indication of where you need to
- 15:07find rest or where you have found rest in God.
- 15:13Again, I love this list because it really makes us think more
- 15:16about like, what does rest in God look like in our daily
- 15:20lives? It looks like having communion
- 15:23even though you're disappointed. It looks like having less
- 15:26anxiety in your body. It looks like you're able to
- 15:30maintain a rhythm of being with Jesus daily, even when you're
- 15:35under pressure to get stuff done.
- 15:37It looks like resting God looks like it it, It is when you are
- 15:42present to the beauty and the wonder of the people around you,
- 15:45When you are embracing the people around you and you're
- 15:47like, there's such beautiful people.
- 15:49There's such wonderful people rather than annoyed by them and
- 15:52frustrated by them and avoiding people like you're enjoying
- 15:56being with some of the people in your life doesn't mean no again,
- 16:00we're like, well, I'm an introvert.
- 16:01That's great. Introverts still have people in
- 16:03their life. They just don't have as many
- 16:05people in their life. And again, introvert and
- 16:08extrovert is more about how we recharge, not how we live our
- 16:12life. So I think sometimes we think
- 16:14I'm an introvert. I don't need people at all.
- 16:16That's not true. You just don't need to be around
- 16:19people in order to recharge. You recharge so that you can be
- 16:23back around people and experience the fullness of life
- 16:25there. Extroverts, they just don't need
- 16:27people. They need to be around people
- 16:29and recharge before they can get by themselves and experience
- 16:32solitude, right? So, so we need both sides of
- 16:35that. And so resting in God looks like
- 16:39a life being flourished in some way.
- 16:41And so how do you know if you're at rest in God?
- 16:45What are the things of this list that I read that are true of you
- 16:48at least at least 75% of the time?
- 16:51And then then you're kind of living in a a large majority of
- 16:55your time and resting in God. What does it look like for you
- 16:59to be rested in God? You know, for me, one of the key
- 17:03things is that I'm humble, I am honest, and I am unhurried.
- 17:07Those are the things for me that I know this is an indication I'm
- 17:11at rest with God. In fact, I, I, I want to, I want
- 17:16to say this, that one of the things that helps me grow humble
- 17:22and honest is when I experience a healthy kind of brokenness.
- 17:26This, this idea that we're talking about, that brokenness
- 17:29leads to something of life. In fact, healthy brokenness
- 17:32usually looks and leads to humility.
- 17:37Healthy brokenness leads to repentance.
- 17:40It leads to honesty. It leads to our surrender.
- 17:45It leads to more compassion for others.
- 17:48It leads to a freedom from image management, and it leads to
- 17:53deeper intimacy with God. Think about a piece of stained
- 17:58glass. How it how it begins as
- 18:00something broken and shattered. See, before it becomes a
- 18:03beautiful window, it it is first shattered into many fragments.
- 18:07It's broken sharp edges, irregular pieces of nothing.
- 18:12That seems useful on its own, but if you look at each piece
- 18:16shattered across the table, it would seem like just massive
- 18:19damage. But in the hands of an artist,
- 18:23every broken piece is organized, arranged, fit into a greater
- 18:28design. What once looked ruined becomes
- 18:31the very thing that allows light to shine through in breathtaking
- 18:36ways. The cracks and jagged edges
- 18:38aren't hidden, they actually become part of something
- 18:41beautiful. That's often how brokenness
- 18:43works in our spiritual lives. God takes these shattered
- 18:47places, our failures, our griefs, our disappointment, our
- 18:51sins and our losses, and instead of just kind of discarding us,
- 18:56He redeems those very fragments and puts them together into
- 19:00something that can reflect His light more clearly than ever
- 19:05before. Sometimes God doesn't shine the
- 19:08brightest through the parts of us that are that stayed Polish,
- 19:12but rather through the places where grace had to piece us back
- 19:17together again. And I think that's what God does
- 19:20with our brokenness, turns us into a mosaic of stained glass
- 19:24to beauty where his light shines through us.
- 19:27We said this that humility is practiced every time we choose
- 19:31truth over image, confession over control and growth over
- 19:35self protection. And I and I mentioned in the
- 19:38sermon how we need to practice quick confession and we need to
- 19:42begin to just name emotions truthfully, like we just need
- 19:45to, to get, we don't need to be superficial about it.
- 19:48We just need to be able to say, Hey, I'm jealous.
- 19:50Rather than blaming circumstances, we just need to
- 19:53acknowledge the root is like, hey, I'm, I just don't feel like
- 19:57I belong right now. And I feel jealous right now
- 19:59where I'm really angry and upset.
- 20:02I am, I'm hurt. Like we need to get to the root
- 20:05and name those things truthfully.
- 20:08But another element of this, I think is that we need to be
- 20:12willing to invite honest feedback.
- 20:14That's what humility is. It invites honest feedback.
- 20:17Pride has a way of isolating us, but humility invites
- 20:20perspective. So I think we need to give
- 20:23trusted people permission to speak into blind spots that we
- 20:27have on our. Lives maybe a spouse, a close
- 20:29friend, a mentor, A-Team member, a pastor even.
- 20:35And we need to be able to ask them simple questions like, hey,
- 20:38how do I come across to you when I'm under pressure and stress?
- 20:43How do I act in that way? Just listen for the feedback.
- 20:46Maybe you need to ask questions like where do you see ego
- 20:51motivating me and driving me right now?
- 20:55What do I not see about myself that you think I need to see?
- 21:00What am I missing here? I think that kind of feedback,
- 21:04that kind of invitation that you give other people that are
- 21:07trusted, then I think that helps give you perspective.
- 21:10We need to invite that kind of feedback into our life.
- 21:13See, honesty has a way of deepening when others expose
- 21:17what we normalize. In other words, we can get more
- 21:20honest about ourselves when others help expose what we've
- 21:25kind of grown normal to. Or we we just think it's just
- 21:27normal life, but maybe it's not. I think another thing that we
- 21:32can do to be honest and humble is to replace image management
- 21:37with vulnerability. This is a big one, especially
- 21:41for in my life, in my world, I don't want to just share
- 21:44victories, but I want to be willing to share where I
- 21:47struggle. I want to share where I feel
- 21:49limited. I want to share a need.
- 21:52I'm not good at that. But when I can share a need,
- 21:55share a limit, share a struggle, I'm practicing and engaging in
- 21:59being, being vulnerable, I think that's necessary.
- 22:02It's an act of humility and honesty.
- 22:05That doesn't mean that we over share with everyone, but it does
- 22:08mean I think that we have to refuse to build our life just on
- 22:12the appearance of perfection or success.
- 22:16I think a healthy habit is to tell the truth about your
- 22:20process, not just your outcomes. A lot of people will see the
- 22:24outcomes of your life, but they don't see the process and the
- 22:27progress that you went through to get to that outcome.
- 22:30They'd be willing to share the process.
- 22:32I love in a couple friends that I have, they always are asking
- 22:36me about my process. They're like, hey, I like I know
- 22:38that you do this and you live this way, but like, how did you
- 22:41get there? Like what was that?
- 22:43Like? How do you know that you're
- 22:45hearing God's voice, Sir? How did you know this or know
- 22:47that? And they're asking process
- 22:49questions. And I am willing to share my
- 22:52process, the failures, the struggles, the tension, the
- 22:55victories that led to certain outcomes that that I have.
- 22:59Another way that I think we can practice honesty and humility is
- 23:03that we we learn to serve in ways that get no applause.
- 23:07Humility grows when you consistently do meaningful
- 23:11things that bring you no recognition.
- 23:14I think Jesus speaks to this about serving and giving and
- 23:17doing things in secret not to be noticed by people but because
- 23:21it's the right thing to do and you're actually trying to care
- 23:23and love for people. So maybe do an unseen act of
- 23:28service for someone where nobody notices.
- 23:30Encourage someone privately instead of just publicly helping
- 23:35without announcing it, from doing tasks beneath your status,
- 23:39letting others get the credit for something that you
- 23:42contributed largely to. I think these things kind of
- 23:46retrain our soul from applause addiction because we're addicted
- 23:50to applause. We're addicted to recognition.
- 23:53We all want to win and be seen unsuccessful in other people's
- 23:57eyes. And so especially in a day of,
- 24:00of curated images and social media and highlight reels of
- 24:05celebration of the good moments, I think we need to, to, to allow
- 24:09ourselves to do things unseen and unpublicized that actually
- 24:14benefit not us, but they benefit someone else without us drawing
- 24:19attention to it. It's kind of like I washed the
- 24:22dishes at home. I, I want to make sure my wife
- 24:24notices that I did the thing or, or that I, I helped her out with
- 24:29something where I lightened her load.
- 24:31That's to me because I have an ulterior motive, but also just
- 24:34for fun. Sometimes I just do that.
- 24:36But man, what, what would it do? What would it matter if she
- 24:39doesn't see it, doesn't recognize it, doesn't even
- 24:42notice or say thank you, but I still do it anyways.
- 24:45Well, I think that's an act of real humble service.
- 24:49I I think also another way we can practice honesty and
- 24:52humility is to slow down our defensiveness.
- 24:56Like pay attention to your first reaction when you get corrected.
- 25:00Is your instinct to explain, to blame, to shift responsibility
- 25:04somewhere else, to compare your life to someone else's life and
- 25:08make them feel worse than what you've done?
- 25:10Do you try to justify your actions or wrongdoing?
- 25:14I think you just need to pause and ask instead.
- 25:17What if this criticism contains something true?
- 25:20Kind of eat the meat, spit the bones.
- 25:23I think our defensiveness kind of betrays us.
- 25:27Our defensiveness really does reveal our pride and humility.
- 25:33Gives you a moment to pause and acknowledge where a where you're
- 25:39off course where you you've done things instead of shit blaming,
- 25:43explaining away justify. We just need to sit with it.
- 25:47Be willing to hold on to it for a little bit.
- 25:49Give yourself 24 hours of reflection before you give
- 25:53excuse. Give yourself 24 hours of
- 25:55reflection before you give explanation.
- 25:58Give yourself 24 hours before you give a rebuttal or or
- 26:01explain why it happened that way.
- 26:03Just sit with it for 24 hours. Sit with the correction, take it
- 26:07in. And then I think that's what
- 26:10perhaps James is after when he says be quick to listen, slow to
- 26:16speak, and slow to get angry. So what if that applies to our
- 26:20correction? Someone corrects us, they give
- 26:22us feedback, it hurts, we don't like it.
- 26:25Instead of being defensive, instead of feeling entitled,
- 26:28instead of getting angry, what if you just sit with it for 24
- 26:30hours, Give it 24 hours before you respond, before you try to
- 26:35explain, before you anything, just sit with it and ask God to
- 26:40show you the truth in the correction or the truth and what
- 26:44they they shared. And then finally, I think one of
- 26:47the ways that we stay humble and we stay honest is we just stay
- 26:50close to grace. The safest people to be honest
- 26:55around are those rooted in God's grace, Those who know that God
- 26:59loves us, that got us for us, that he forgives us, and that
- 27:02he's with us. That that that we are all in
- 27:05process, but we're in process of growing towards him.
- 27:09Not in process of repeating unhealthy patterns, but rather
- 27:12that we're all in process trying to become more like Christ.
- 27:16See, when people know our identity is secure in God, they
- 27:20no longer need to protect themselves constantly.
- 27:22So, So when I know that my identity, my sonship, that I'm
- 27:26loved by God, I'm accepted that God has already pre decided to
- 27:29forgive my sin. I don't have to hide, I can be
- 27:33honest. I don't have to protect myself
- 27:34from punishment because God is loving and caring and there
- 27:38might be some correction, but it's going to produce something
- 27:41good inside of me. He he's not trying to punish me
- 27:44to to, to to remove me from a relationship, No head actually
- 27:47is to bring me closer into proximity to him.
- 27:51And I think the people who act that way respond that way and
- 27:54live that way. They're the people that we want
- 27:56to grow close to. I think that's why humility and
- 27:59honesty flourish. When people regularly remember
- 28:04we, we regularly remember that we're loved, that we're
- 28:06forgiven, we're still being formed, and that we do not need
- 28:10to be stronger than we really are because God's grace is made
- 28:15perfect in our weaknesses. I think the last thing on that I
- 28:21want to say is one of the reasons we want to become honest
- 28:25and not and not just humble. We want to be humble and we want
- 28:28to be honest is so that we can receive his presence, his grace.
- 28:32We already we read the Scripture that God resists the proud, but
- 28:35he'll give grace to the humble. I think honesty is a part of
- 28:39that process. In fact, Jesus says that we will
- 28:43worship him in spirit and in truth.
- 28:46We worship Him in spirit, which is His grace that we receive
- 28:49through humility and truth, which is our honesty.
- 28:54Honesty is not just truly stating what we believe, it's
- 28:58stating something that is true. Please hear me.
- 29:02Honesty is not just truly stating something that we
- 29:06believe, it's actually stating something true.
- 29:12In other words, I think many people speak what they honestly
- 29:16think or they honestly believe. The problem is what if what we
- 29:22think, what we feel, and what we believe is rooted in a
- 29:26deception? It's skewed to our own
- 29:30understanding or our protection. What what if what we think, what
- 29:34we feel, what we believe just isn't actually true?
- 29:40I'm not saying it doesn't feel true.
- 29:41I I'm not saying that it doesn't have elements of lived
- 29:44experience. I'm just saying, what if it's
- 29:46not actually true? What if it's just our
- 29:51perception? What if it's just our rehearsed
- 29:55mental skin schema? What we're where we've kind of
- 29:59built these neural patterns and pathways that are well rehearsed
- 30:03in this way? What what if it's not really
- 30:05that bad, but we are making it out to be that bad?
- 30:11I think that's why James tells us God's word is meant to be a
- 30:15mirror, because we can easily deceive ourselves.
- 30:20We can easily begin thinking about our own truth rather than
- 30:22coming to the Scripture and say this is actually what God says
- 30:26is true. I think we have a tendency to
- 30:29hear God's word taught. I don't know if you're like
- 30:31this, but like man, you hear hear a message and you're like,
- 30:34man, I really hope Blank is here to hear this or I'm really glad
- 30:38so and so is at church today because they need this word,
- 30:41right? What are we doing?
- 30:43We are holding up kind of a magnifying glass to someone
- 30:46else. Rather than letting God's word
- 30:48that we're hearing right now be a mirror to our soul.
- 30:50What if instead we're like God, What are you telling me in this
- 30:53message? Where do I need to humble
- 30:55myself? Where do I need to get more
- 30:56honest? Where do I need to receive
- 30:58feedback? Where have I been operating in
- 30:59pride? Like rather than thinking about
- 31:01other people, what if we just said, God do a work in my heart
- 31:05on this and we just worked on on, on us.
- 31:08What if we stopped deceiving ourselves thinking like, man,
- 31:10I've been walking with Jesus a long time.
- 31:12I've heard this kind of message before.
- 31:13Somebody else needs to hear this one today.
- 31:16No, what, what is it God's trying to say to say to us?
- 31:18See, before I ever preach God's word, I have to apply it to
- 31:22myself. So I saw someone use this
- 31:26illustration. It was Wayne Cordero.
- 31:28He said, you know, oftentimes ministers fall, ministers
- 31:31stumble. Ministers don't do the right
- 31:34thing. They don't live up to what what
- 31:37it is that they're supposed to do.
- 31:38Because what they do is they just kind of keep searching the
- 31:42scriptures to feed people. They just search it and give out
- 31:45the word, search it and give out scripture, search it and give
- 31:48out scripture. But what we're supposed to
- 31:50actually do is search the Scripture, put it in our heart
- 31:53and then share with others. Supposed to get the scriptures
- 31:56and preach to ourselves, integrate it ourselves and then
- 32:00share it with others. This is what I want to do in my
- 32:03life. I want to be somebody that
- 32:05preaches to myself more than I preach to others.
- 32:08I want to integrate it into my life more than I integrated into
- 32:10other people's lives. And I think honesty helps us to
- 32:14do that. To be honest, not just about
- 32:16what I think, what I believe, what I, what I, what I feel, but
- 32:20actually be honest about what God says is true and what God
- 32:23says is true about me. And let God's word be a mirror
- 32:27reflecting back at me rather than living in self deception
- 32:30all the time. And at the end of the day, when
- 32:33we practice confession, we are practicing a posture of of
- 32:38humility and we are speaking honestly of ourselves.
- 32:42And confession in that way is how we walk in the light of
- 32:47loving relationship with Jesus. All right, let's get to a few
- 32:51questions and responses today. Here's the first question.
- 32:55It says believers are to be people after God's own part.
- 32:58With deep love and commitment to him, pursuing his values, and
- 33:02confessing our sins with genuine repentance, we can be faithful
- 33:06to God despite our imperfections and failures.
- 33:08Could you please explain this disconcerting scenario though,
- 33:12between a heart that deeply loves God and occasional
- 33:16spiritual failures? Is it simply because we are
- 33:18frail human beings? I think I mean, we are frail
- 33:24human beings and we live in a fallen world that pulls us
- 33:28towards the the world and it's a strong pull.
- 33:32It's a normal pull. We all experience this pull to
- 33:35do what we want to do or what is right in our own eyes to live by
- 33:39our own way of knowledge and good of if evil not not just by
- 33:44by knowing God. We want to live by knowing
- 33:46ourselves. And, and so I think a lot of
- 33:48times we live self-centered and we live for selfish things
- 33:52because it's just the natural pull of the world.
- 33:54It's the magnetic pull of the world around us.
- 33:58And so there is a normalcy to it.
- 34:01At the end of the day, we need to remember that part of what
- 34:04God does in giving us is righteousness and adopting us
- 34:07and giving us a new heart is he's giving us a new operating
- 34:10system. He's giving us a new set of
- 34:12desires to like want to follow God.
- 34:14So I think the the danger lies when we stop wanting to follow
- 34:19God and we only want to follow our sin.
- 34:24I think there's a difference between being a slave to sin and
- 34:28struggling with sin. Struggling with sin, I think is
- 34:30part of the Christian experience that one day that struggle will
- 34:35be gone when God renews all of the world and we're we're
- 34:39together with him forever. But until that day comes, there
- 34:43is a struggle on this side of, of eternity.
- 34:46And we we need to just recognize that because we struggle, we
- 34:52also need to be honest in our repentance.
- 34:55We need to be quick in our confession that we we can
- 34:58receive forgiveness, bringing it into the light rather than
- 35:01pretending it's not there. And so when we pretend like we
- 35:05don't struggle, we pretend like we're above sin, We pretend like
- 35:08it's not an issue at all. Well, I think that's when we
- 35:11start to deceive ourselves and we can fall into, fall into the
- 35:13traps. But part of the the reason
- 35:16though that we sin is because we were, we're well practiced at
- 35:21it. One of the reasons you keep
- 35:23going back to old ways of kind of sabotaging or your own ways
- 35:28of satisfying yourself or old habits or sinful patterns or
- 35:32wrong reactions or control or, or animosity and anger in is
- 35:38because we're well practiced in that arrogance.
- 35:40We, we've got a lot of muscle memory built up in responding
- 35:44that way, in acting that way in on treating others that way.
- 35:48So we have to build muscle memory in another.
- 35:51We, we have well worn pathways in our mind to think that way.
- 35:55So we have to create new ruts in our mind, new new train tracks
- 35:59to go on, to think different, which is why the Bible tells us
- 36:03to renew our mind, to meditate on God's word, to put into
- 36:06practice the way of Jesus, to, to do what Jesus did, not just
- 36:11believe what Jesus did, but do some of the things Jesus did.
- 36:16And, and that's because there is a struggle and attention and a
- 36:19pull back towards the, the, the way of living that isn't
- 36:23healthier or holy. So yes, we will have like
- 36:26failures at times, but that doesn't mean that it's
- 36:30unforgivable or that we're wrong or that God is like so deeply
- 36:34disappointed that he's disowning us.
- 36:37God doesn't disown us. I do think we can reject him.
- 36:40I do think we can dull our hearts to the point where we
- 36:43don't even desire him anymore. That's a problem.
- 36:47But, but I, but I think most of us, we desire God.
- 36:51We just have built systems and built a strategic behaviors that
- 36:58produce unholy results. And so we need to build systems
- 37:04how structures create patterns of living that help us produce
- 37:08more holy results. And so it really comes down to a
- 37:12practiced life in the patterns of our life then just simply are
- 37:16we good and are we bad? It's not that we're bad, it's
- 37:19just that our systems are broken systems are delivering behaviors
- 37:24that are trying to get us to meet a need that we can't meet
- 37:28on our on our own. So it's OK.
- 37:31It struggling with sin as part of it.
- 37:34That's what the apostle Paul system and things I don't want
- 37:36to do like I do and the things that I want to do, I don't do
- 37:39like like man, what is going on on the inside of me.
- 37:43Oh, wretched man that I am, and he, he's recognizing, listen, I
- 37:47am a St. I'm forgiven, I'm restored.
- 37:49I am righteous in Christ. My identity is a St. in God.
- 37:52But man, oh man, do I still have a pull to the old pattern of
- 37:57living. The reason it's a pull is
- 37:59because it's a pattern. So we have to change our
- 38:01patterns to lessen the pull. Here's the next question.
- 38:07Can you explain the difference and effects of lament, venting
- 38:12and confession to another believer?
- 38:15Yeah, these these three things are, are part of our life.
- 38:18And some are healthy and some are not healthy.
- 38:21And here's kind of what what I mean.
- 38:26I talked about how venting typically leads us to a place of
- 38:28slander and inventing really isn't something that we see in
- 38:34the Bible to another person near as much as it is something that
- 38:38we do towards God. In fact, when venting edges to
- 38:42slander or complaining against God or complaining against
- 38:45something, God takes those things very serious.
- 38:48Like complaining is mentioned as one of those sins that God
- 38:52Israel not to inherit the Kingdom of God.
- 38:54And, and Paul is letting us know like, listen, if you keep
- 38:58complaining about things like you're going to erode the
- 39:01goodness in your soul. You're going to live yourself
- 39:05somewhere. Why is complaining such a big
- 39:06deal? Ultimately, complaining is is
- 39:10expression of arrogance in our hearts and arrogance is pride,
- 39:17and pride keeps us resisting God's grace and God's grace from
- 39:23getting in. And ultimately pride,
- 39:26complaining, slander, all of it comes back to almost every sin.
- 39:32I said it last week, but almost every sin we commit comes back
- 39:38to, at its root, unbelief or a disbelief in God Himself.
- 39:44So. So venting is a big deal.
- 39:45So when I say venting, I mean ranting about problems and our
- 39:50hearts are often complaining or slanderous about other people.
- 39:54In other words, it's not so much the situation, but it's the
- 39:57people behind the situation that that it's the other play actors
- 40:02in the situation that we vent about more than the actual
- 40:06situation itself. See, Ventiling normally is all
- 40:09about. The other person all about their
- 40:12faults and not normally about our own angst, our own pain, or
- 40:16our participation in it. So we try to paint the other
- 40:20person in a wrong or condemning light.
- 40:23That's venting. Lament, though, is expressing a
- 40:27pain, expressing A difficulty as it impacts us.
- 40:33It's casting our cares to God and receiving care from God and
- 40:37receiving care from from others. So to lament is to articulate a
- 40:42situation and an experience in a way that that highlights its
- 40:48impact on us rather than condemns the other person's
- 40:53faults. See, typically when we vent,
- 40:56we're condemning other people's faults.
- 40:59We are not sharing its impact on us.
- 41:02Lament is to share and express the pain, the difficulty, the
- 41:07impact that something is having on us.
- 41:11It's being honest about us. It's lamenting and casting our
- 41:16cares, the things that we're carrying, the burdens that the
- 41:19weight, the pain, the angst that we're experiencing to God and
- 41:23sharing it with other people. And they're holding space for
- 41:26that lament. They're letting us be cared for
- 41:29by God and by their response and their loving presence, they are
- 41:34caring for us. That is biblical lament that
- 41:38always helps restore hope, not helps us wallow in pity.
- 41:44Lament restores our hope. It does not keep us wallowing in
- 41:48pity, venting, complaining, slander that leads us to
- 41:53wallowing in pity and pain, not restoring our hope.
- 41:58That's the difference. And then confession, on the
- 42:00other hand, is rightly speaking about our actions and our
- 42:05motives. So lament kind of expresses the
- 42:08pain and difficulty of something that's impacting us.
- 42:11Confession is rightly speaking about our actions, our motives
- 42:15in a scenario, in a moment, it's unveiling our wrongs to God or
- 42:21to others. It's it's about confessing our
- 42:24actions, our attitudes or our desires that aren't really God
- 42:29honoring things that are amiss or awry.
- 42:32We present those as we have confession.
- 42:35That is, by the way, I believe the New Testament equivalent to
- 42:41bringing a guilt offering in the Old Testament again, Romans 12
- 42:45offer your bodies as the living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to
- 42:48the Lord. So everything in the old
- 42:52covenant that was primarily about people bringing a
- 42:55sacrifice, people doing something sacrificial, I believe
- 43:00there is a New Testament equivalent to that practice or
- 43:03to that to that sacrifice. So when we make confession, I
- 43:06believe as part of bringing a guilt offering to the Lord, we
- 43:10are offering ourselves, sacrificing our pride and
- 43:14saying, God, here is my confession.
- 43:16And that confession brings about a reception of forgiveness in
- 43:21our lives. And when we confess to other
- 43:23people, other people need to respond with the grace and
- 43:26forgiveness of God. We need to say to people, you
- 43:29are loved. You are a son, a daughter of
- 43:32God. And by your confession of your
- 43:34sins, you are forgiven. According to the cross of Jesus
- 43:39Christ, you're loved. And I think we need to do that.
- 43:42And when people bring our lament, we need to hold and say,
- 43:44man, thank you for sharing that. I'm holding that with you.
- 43:47And I want you to know God cares for you and I care about you
- 43:51too. We need to respond in a grace
- 43:53filled way. And that's how the people of God
- 43:56help bring healing to one another's souls.
- 43:59But that's pretty much the difference that I see between
- 44:01lament, venting, confession, complaining, and the and the
- 44:04like. Here's the next question.
- 44:07What is the difference between slander and bringing up a
- 44:11legitimate concern or or complaint?
- 44:13Now I just kind of described slander and complaining just a
- 44:16minute ago, but let me say it this way really clearly.
- 44:18Slander typically is about another persons character or a
- 44:23condemnation of them. It might be true, but it's still
- 44:29us condemning or slandering them.
- 44:31That's up for them to acknowledge themselves rather
- 44:35than for us to say around to other people.
- 44:39So it's it, it's different. Concerns or wrongs committed are
- 44:43about the action and their impact on us.
- 44:47It is not solely about our feelings of the matter.
- 44:50It's not about, but it's about the facts of the events that
- 44:53occurred. Confronting behavior is not the
- 44:57same as character assassination or motive assumptions.
- 45:02Say it again. Confronting behavior is not the
- 45:05same as character assassinations of mode or motive assumptions,
- 45:11which is what slander often does.
- 45:13What does the enemy do to you? He slanders you, and when you
- 45:21speak the same kinds of things that Satan would say to you and
- 45:25about you, you are participating in his language and his way of
- 45:30speaking. Death bringing a concern or
- 45:34confronting a wrong should always be done in humility and
- 45:39in honesty, meant to bring repentance and restoration, not
- 45:44from a place of a hurt reaction or of refense or of disgust.
- 45:49I'm so disgusted by them. I just need to tell them to give
- 45:51them a piece of my mind. OK, that's that's not really
- 45:53humility. It's not.
- 45:55It's not really in love. Restoring them to the right
- 45:59place. That's more about you feeling
- 46:01better than it is about them living correctly.
- 46:04And that part, posture, is often the difference between bringing
- 46:10a legitimate concern, legitimate sin done against you, and just
- 46:15being slanderous, being complaining, and being divisive.
- 46:20Our hearts matter a ton in the process.
- 46:24So does our tone, and so does the harshness of our words.
- 46:29Our words ought to be gentle. Our words ought to be loving.
- 46:33Our words ought to be meek. Our words ought to be kind.
- 46:36They can be kind and still clear around actions.
- 46:40But when we get accusatory, we're acting just like Satan.
- 46:46When we get slanderous of their character, trying to keep shame
- 46:49on them, we're acting like Satan.
- 46:51But when we're bringing real concerns, when we're confronting
- 46:54an action done to us or around us that is incorrect, that's got
- 46:58a negative impact. When we can do that in a matter
- 47:02that is loving, kind, gracious, humble, not accusatory, not from
- 47:08a hurt reaction, a reactionary or disgust or offense, but but
- 47:13rather from a right place where we're not assuming wrong
- 47:16motives, nor are we giving a character assassination of who
- 47:19they are. We're talking about the actions
- 47:22taken, not the moral character of the person.
- 47:27I think those were important distinctions.
- 47:30In Matthew 1129, Jesus tells us how we can find rest for our
- 47:33souls. Is there any other scripture
- 47:36that is similar in the way to find rest or peace for our
- 47:39souls? And could this rest also be
- 47:42considered as healing for our souls?
- 47:45I just got to say, like there are a lot of scriptures that
- 47:47talk about peace and rest for us.
- 47:50Most all of them have to do with God's loving presence and our
- 47:55inner life being renewed by the Spirit and by a relationship
- 47:58with God. So the restoration for our souls
- 48:03is definitely an element of of healing.
- 48:06It's definitely part of what God does.
- 48:07In fact, Isaiah 53 talks about how Christ about Christ's
- 48:11coming, the Messiah coming, and that he would be bruised for our
- 48:14iniquities. Bruising is inner bleeding.
- 48:18It's something that happens internally.
- 48:20Iniquity is the inner bent that we have toward doing wrong that
- 48:25causes ourselves harm. It's what brings about like
- 48:28inner bruising, inner bleeding. I think an inner formation of
- 48:32rest and wholeness in Christ needs needs to come about to
- 48:37help us be transformed because we bleed internally.
- 48:40There are things, hurts and wounds we carry on the inside
- 48:43that no one else can really see. But God sees and He wants to
- 48:47bring healing and wholeness to that.
- 48:49I think God's healing and wholeness is for our souls being
- 48:54mended and healed. Psalm 23 He leads me.
- 48:58Besides still waters. He restores my soul.
- 49:02This is what the Good Shepherd would do.
- 49:04Jesus came as a Good Shepherd pointing to Himself.
- 49:07So all of the scriptures about peace and rest for our souls
- 49:09really all point us to Jesus and point us to relationship and
- 49:13point us to experiencing His love and wholeness for us being
- 49:18renewed by the Spirit. Corinthians, I think, says
- 49:23though outwardly we are being, we are wasting away, inwardly we
- 49:28are being renewed day by day. How so?
- 49:31Because our hearts are being fixed on the return of Christ
- 49:34where He comes and brings renewal to all things.
- 49:37So hope is being renewed in us because our eyes are fixed on
- 49:42Jesus. So, So all of the scriptures
- 49:44have to do with linking and being a part of Jesus and
- 49:47walking in union with him that restores our souls and brings
- 49:52rest to our our hearts. And what does it mean to find
- 49:57rest for our souls? Well, we talked about that
- 49:59earlier in this episode. Here's the final question that
- 50:03says this. Can you share the thought
- 50:04process from brokenness to surrender to submission?
- 50:08Are the definitions of these different?
- 50:11And if so, how are they different?
- 50:13What does each one of these kind of look like?
- 50:15And what would my actions or responses look like?
- 50:19Can you give some examples of heart changes that would maybe
- 50:22show this kind of growth? I know these are these process
- 50:25can be very personal, even private and maybe even slow to
- 50:28be evident to others. The first thing that I which is
- 50:32just a great trying to get our head around like submission and
- 50:36surrender and brokenness. It can can feel kind of big.
- 50:40I will say this that I just posted on Facebook the other
- 50:44day, a really long biblical exploration of brokenness and
- 50:50how the Bible talks about it. It's kind of a long paragraph
- 50:53with a lot of Scripture references, and so I'm not going
- 50:56to read that whole thing, but you can go onto my Facebook page
- 50:59and read about kind of some of that brokenness and what the
- 51:02Bible has to say about it. I think it's important to
- 51:06remember that humility is walking with a submissive spirit
- 51:11because the opposite of humility is to walking with an arrogant
- 51:14spirit, which means that I don't need to submit to anyone.
- 51:17I, I don't need to surrender to anyone.
- 51:20I am my own self. It's, it's more about self than
- 51:24the the unity. And Proverbs 22 tells us that
- 51:29humility is fearing the Lord and that brings great blessing in
- 51:33our life, meaning that without fearing the Lord and without
- 51:37humility, we don't get much blessing.
- 51:39Again, the blessing is God grace in our lives when we're walking
- 51:43in pride, we don't experience his grace and his presence in
- 51:46our life the way that we could, the way that we should, what we
- 51:49need. And so man, we, we, we, we can
- 51:52be casting our cares on the Lord, but we're walking in pride
- 51:55in the process. And so we're actually like
- 51:58wasting our time in that in that manner.
- 52:00And so I think sincerity and our humility always looks like
- 52:06prolonged submission to God's ways and God's will.
- 52:11When I say submission, I mean a bending of your will to allow
- 52:15God's will to take over. Doesn't mean you don't have a
- 52:18will, doesn't mean you don't have opinions, you don't have
- 52:21ideas. It's that you yield your floor
- 52:24time to God, allowing Him to be central in that same thing in
- 52:30submitting one to another. Paul says that many, many times
- 52:34submit yourselves one to another in humility.
- 52:38Why? Because humility is prolonged
- 52:41submission. If you aren't submitting to
- 52:43anyone in your life, you don't have humility in your life.
- 52:48Can I say it again, if there is no relationship to which you
- 52:52ever submit to, you are not operating and practicing
- 52:57humility in your relationships and in your life.
- 53:01Well like, well, I submit to God.
- 53:02Well, do you though, like, or do you just come to God and ask Him
- 53:07to do things for you? Because then you're actually
- 53:10asking God to bend to your will, not you submitting to His will.
- 53:14If you never come repent of sin, then you're acknowledging that
- 53:18you don't have sin. And first, John one tells us
- 53:22that if you don't repent and you don't confess your sin and you
- 53:25say you have no sin, you're a liar and you're making God a
- 53:28liar because God says you got sin.
- 53:30So, so if you're not walking in humility, if there's not
- 53:34prolonged submission where you're, you're ongoingly
- 53:37surrendering, you're not going to experience humility.
- 53:41You're not living in humility. In fact, you're living in in
- 53:44pride in your in your life. Brokenness is a process though,
- 53:49that we definitely could walk through that is meant to produce
- 53:52humility, surrender, and submission to God.
- 53:57Years ago there were some things being said about me that weren't
- 54:01true character assassinations on me and doesn't matter what I
- 54:05said, what I did, I was in the wrong even though I was actually
- 54:09doing no wrong and I am an act of just complete brokenness and
- 54:14humility. Apologized for things that I
- 54:17really didn't need to apologize for, but I still kind of took
- 54:21ownership on everything I could take ownership for of them.
- 54:25And, and and as I was apologizing and making
- 54:28repentance, their response to me was this.
- 54:30And I kid you not, it says I'm really glad you finally came to
- 54:33see how wrong you were. And I really wasn't wrong at
- 54:37all, but I was repenting, trying to like make relationship work
- 54:41and they just in arrogance through it, right?
- 54:43Well, you're wrong and I'm glad you finally acknowledged that
- 54:46you're wrong. That's good to hear.
- 54:47And I was like, what in the world?
- 54:52And I felt so like everything in me wanted to rise up and throw a
- 54:56spear right back at him, but I didn't.
- 54:59I stayed quiet, I stayed submissive, I stayed surrendered
- 55:02to God and the process that obviously I was in.
- 55:07So, so humility and brokenness are about surrendering to God's
- 55:12process. Remember, we send in the
- 55:14message, trust the process. More specifically, trust the
- 55:19process of God in your life and that will require you to stay
- 55:24submitted and surrendered in your will and your heart and
- 55:28your life. It's going to make you bite your
- 55:29tongue when you want to just lash out.
- 55:32It's going to make you hold back on on on sharing details because
- 55:37you can't share a detail without maybe slandering someone else's
- 55:40opinion. There have been many times I
- 55:42have many details about things that other people don't know
- 55:45about and they are allowed to live in the wrong assumption and
- 55:50I let them live in the wrong thought of what they think they
- 55:54know happened. But they are missing
- 55:56information. And so they get mad at us.
- 55:59They get mad at me. And as a leader that happens a
- 56:02lot because as a leader you have information about things and
- 56:04people that other people don't have.
- 56:06They only see 1/2 and they they make assumptions and they accuse
- 56:10and they slander and they gossip and they draw conclusions and
- 56:14they spout on it, but they don't have all the information.
- 56:17And in that process of not having all the information, they
- 56:21say and do things that can be hurting and you have to just
- 56:23stay quiet. I've had to stay quiet over the
- 56:26years as a leader watching other leaders stay quiet with
- 56:30information they had that could justify all of their actions.
- 56:34But in telling that information, they would betraying their
- 56:37integrity. They would be acting in slander
- 56:40and they would be sharing things that other people don't need to
- 56:43know and submitting to that process.
- 56:48And that's really hard on your heart sometimes.
- 56:50It's really gut wrenching. And so sometimes you have to let
- 56:54others people think the wrong thing and you don't get to
- 56:57correct them just because you have information and your
- 57:00integrity and you have to stay quiet in the process of yielding
- 57:06to God. And that has happened again and
- 57:08again in my life. It's going to happen again and
- 57:09again in other people's lives. So brokenness, surrender and
- 57:12submission, they go hand in hand and how God does.
- 57:15And if there is no one that you submit to ever, then you aren't
- 57:20really walking in humility and surrender because we Jesus tells
- 57:25us or Scripture tells us to clothe yourself in humility,
- 57:28submitting to one another, Paul says.
- 57:32And I think that we have to be willing to do that again and
- 57:34again and again in our lives in other areas.
- 57:37And so God is after men and women who who have his heart.
- 57:42And God's heart is humble and gentle.
- 57:46It is humble and it is meek. That is God's heart and that is
- 57:50the heart we need to reflect to the world around us.
- 57:53And the best way to let the heart and the light of Christ
- 57:56shine through US is to be broken into pieces that he makes
- 58:01together in a beautiful mosaic of a stained glass piece of art.
- 58:04So his light shines through our broken lives that he's
- 58:08restoring, He's renewing, and he's making us come to real life
- 58:13in Christ. Hey, I hope today's episode has
- 58:16been helpful. Thanks for listening all the way
- 58:17through. Thank you for sending in
- 58:19questions. You can do that every week
- 58:21following a message. We love to hear your questions
- 58:24and I'd love to answer them each and every week as we go, as we
- 58:28together are learning how to have faith for today, not just
- 58:32inspired on Sunday, but integrating our life of
- 58:35faithfulness to Jesus the King, even on a Thursday.
- 58:39Hey, I love you. I will see you next week for the
- 58:42next episode. Have a great week.