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Couples Therapy: PAYTON and her MEME · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: And how long are we doing this?
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  Speaker 2: We'll aim for like between fifteen to twenty minutes.
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  Speaker 1: Perfect, No longer than not good, because I can't stand
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  Speaker 1: to talk to you that long.
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  Speaker 3: Is that right?
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  Speaker 1: All right?
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  Speaker 2: So me and my grandma, we call her Meme. We're
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  Speaker 2: sitting here, we're about to record the podcast. We both
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  Speaker 2: have our angry orchard.
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  Speaker 3: Hard apples ciders that we're slipping on.
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  Speaker 2: Cheers, cheers, all right, Mammy. I feel like you came
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  Speaker 2: on the air a couple of weeks ago and everyone
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  Speaker 2: loved like our little segment that we did where we
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  Speaker 2: were going hit for hit. Yes, So I was like, Okay, well,
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  Speaker 2: Mammy's gonna have to do the couple's podcast with me.
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  Speaker 2: Kadin's gonna have to sit this round out, And because
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  Speaker 2: I feel like everyone needs to get to know you
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  Speaker 2: a little bit better, So tell our joun Drey and
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  Speaker 2: Rich listeners a little bit about.
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  Speaker 1: You, Hello, John Jay and Rich listeners. I am Peyton's grandma.
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  Speaker 1: I am the grandma to Dominique and Jalen. I am
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  Speaker 1: the great grandma to King seven and Chosen, and they
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  Speaker 1: just left. I am torn up this house, said the house.
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  Speaker 1: I've got about two hours of clean up, but I
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  Speaker 1: really love my family. I had Miranda, that is Peyton's mom,
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  Speaker 1: when I was very young. I was eighteen years old,
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  Speaker 1: and I worked hard, and we wound up having a
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  Speaker 1: pretty good life. All in all, our poorest days were
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  Speaker 1: really our best days because we enjoyed every single thing
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  Speaker 1: that we had, no matter how small it would be.
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  Speaker 1: If someone gave us a can of soup, it'd be
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  Speaker 1: high five time. Literally. We lived a very quiet life,
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  Speaker 1: but we all worked hard. Miranda is a hard worker.
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  Speaker 1: All my grandkids are hard workers. My son in law
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  Speaker 1: is a hard worker. That's showtime for those of you
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  Speaker 1: that listened to the show and everything. It's been a
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  Speaker 1: really wonderful life. So I've been married three times. I
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  Speaker 1: get we're gonna have to get back into that later, Okay, perfect, Thanks.
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  Speaker 1: You don't want to know why we all broke up.
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  Speaker 3: No, we can. We can get into that.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no, go ahead.
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  Speaker 3: No, I got to say that. I do remember. There
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  Speaker 3: was one story.
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  Speaker 2: I think either you told it to me or Mom
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  Speaker 2: told it to me, and I always think about it
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  Speaker 2: all the time. How like when you guys like we're poor,
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  Speaker 2: and after McDonalds would close, you guys would go to
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  Speaker 2: the McDonald's and like ask for the food for the leftovers.
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  Speaker 2: And I always thought that was so crazy because we
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  Speaker 2: as kids were always so lucky that we never had
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  Speaker 2: to worry about that kind of stuff. Like we had
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  Speaker 2: a really really good childhood. We got what we wanted.
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  Speaker 2: We were able to hang out with our friends, we
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  Speaker 2: went on trips.
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  Speaker 3: We did all that.
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  Speaker 2: But I mean, of course we had our bratty moments,
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  Speaker 2: but I don't think we turned into being spoiled brats,
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  Speaker 2: at least I don't think so.
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  Speaker 1: I we'll have to have a second podcast about it,
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  Speaker 1: about the spoiled brat part. But no, And the story
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  Speaker 1: was really wonderful. I was actually pregnant with your mom,
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  Speaker 1: and I worked up until the very moment that I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't anymore. So I was like eight and a half
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  Speaker 1: months pregnant, and I didn't have any money and I
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  Speaker 1: was hungry. So I walked two miles to the McDonald's
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  Speaker 1: and it closed it like eleven thirty or twelve, I
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  Speaker 1: don't really remember, so it was really late. I'm pregnant,
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  Speaker 1: like really pregnant, almost nine months pregnant, and I went
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  Speaker 1: to the McDonald's and I went in and I said
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  Speaker 1: excuse me, Do you have any food that you're going
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  Speaker 1: to throw away? Because I'm really hungry. And the manager
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  Speaker 1: came out and he said, I'm sorry, we're forbidden to
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  Speaker 1: do that. That's against our policy. He said, I'll tell
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  Speaker 1: you what. I will be throwing some food away and
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  Speaker 1: the trash cans right over here. So if you want
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  Speaker 1: to go out to the trash can in five minutes,
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  Speaker 1: I can't give it to you. So I said, okay.
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  Speaker 1: So I waited outside and then I walked in the
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  Speaker 1: back and on top of the trash can. Sorry, it
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  Speaker 1: still makes me choked up, he had food in the
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  Speaker 1: bags and sodas and there it was just loaded with
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  Speaker 1: burgers and everything. And I was just like so touched
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  Speaker 1: by his kindness. And then he wrote on one of
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  Speaker 1: the bags, there'll be something here for you in the
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  Speaker 1: trash every night. And so from then on I'd take
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  Speaker 1: that walk and I would have food. And really it
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  Speaker 1: was the kindness of that stranger. I don't know whatever
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  Speaker 1: happened to him. We moved away shortly, and I never
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  Speaker 1: got to tell him how much that meant to me.
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  Speaker 1: That little simple act of kindness really set things for
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  Speaker 1: my whole life. I've tried to give back to people
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  Speaker 1: ever since then. I mean I was raised that way,
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  Speaker 1: but literally that person kept us kept me from being
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  Speaker 1: hungry for the last month that I carried your mom.
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  Speaker 1: So that was that's really cool.
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  Speaker 3: That was wonderful and that's awesome.
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  Speaker 2: And I mean, I know it was like you and
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  Speaker 2: my mom for the majority of you guys's life. But
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  Speaker 2: you're also one of ten, which is insane. You don't
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  Speaker 2: find very many families nowadays with ten kids.
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  Speaker 1: No, but that was kind of normal. I mean, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we had like there were ten in ours, but most
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  Speaker 1: people had someplace between like six and eight, you know.
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  Speaker 1: And then one of the families in our neighborhood had seventeen.
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  Speaker 1: And that was the Hickeys.
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  Speaker 2: Oh. I remember you telling me about the Hickeyes, because
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  Speaker 2: you told me about the Hickeys and you were like,
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  Speaker 2: each one of us kids had a Hickey, And I
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  Speaker 2: was like, you guys had your children, what do you
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  Speaker 2: mean you have hickeys, but their last hickeys in our
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  Speaker 2: hickeys in our class, everybody had the Hickey in their
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  Speaker 2: class and the parents their names were ROBERTA.
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  Speaker 1: And I think his name was Robert, but all the
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  Speaker 1: kids so as our h every kid was named with
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  Speaker 1: an R. Anyway. There was ray Len renee Ronda Rock.
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  Speaker 1: I don't remember, Randy, I don't remember, but if you
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  Speaker 1: can think of a name with an R, there was
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  Speaker 1: a Hickey attached to it.
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  Speaker 3: That is too funny.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. I feel like the burning question that I've been
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  Speaker 2: getting that the show has been getting is like, what's
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  Speaker 2: the dynamic like now having twenty seven year old Peyton
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  Speaker 2: moving back into the house with her fiance Kaden, Like
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  Speaker 2: we lived here, Well, Kadeen came home for the summer
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  Speaker 2: for about a month when I came here. When we
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  Speaker 2: first started dating, you let him stay here, and then
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  Speaker 2: after that I kind of got my own he moved
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  Speaker 2: out here, I got my own playes, that.
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  Speaker 3: Kind of stuff. But how do you feel now that
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  Speaker 3: we're back in the house.
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  Speaker 1: Well, when Kadeen first came in, there was a no
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  Speaker 1: fornication rule that right there still is. Do you know
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  Speaker 1: what fornications?
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  Speaker 3: No idea? What fortication means?
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  Speaker 1: That is sex? Having sex?
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  Speaker 4: Oh?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so there's a fortification.
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  Speaker 1: No fornication anyway, I have always and it comes back.
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  Speaker 1: I don't mean to swing back to the man at McDonald's,
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  Speaker 1: but it and your family, and that's a little different.
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  Speaker 1: But I have always opened the door for anyone that
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  Speaker 1: needed a place Randon I have had. If I had
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  Speaker 1: to guess, it's probably thirty people that have lived with
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  Speaker 1: us at different times. Now fast forward a year back,
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  Speaker 1: and I love it. I'm really happy. Jalen's been back,
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  Speaker 1: Dominique's been back, your mom and dad moved in here.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, we're all wh happy family. Anybody that needs
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  Speaker 1: a place to stay has always been welcome. But the
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  Speaker 1: dynamic is is that I know that you guys are
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  Speaker 1: paying rent, and your rent was being raised again. You're
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  Speaker 1: trying to get money together for a wedding, and so
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  Speaker 1: I just you said to me, Hey, what do you
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  Speaker 1: think about that? And I was actually delighted. I'm really
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  Speaker 1: enjoying having you guys here because Kadeem's quiet, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: the past time that he was here, I didn't know
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  Speaker 1: him very well. So I'm getting to know him really
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  Speaker 1: well and I've developed a great relationship with him, and
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  Speaker 1: I really love him, and that I loved him before,
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  Speaker 1: but on a more.
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  Speaker 3: Level, yes, I.
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  Speaker 2: Mean you've really gotten to get to know him. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: you guys have sit down. There's been times where he's
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  Speaker 2: come to you asking for advice on whatever.
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  Speaker 1: And I've asked him for, you know, his input on
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  Speaker 1: certain things. But yeah, it's pretty kickback. It's pretty nice
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  Speaker 1: and I appreciate that. So this has actually been a
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  Speaker 1: gift for me to have you guys back, because I
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  Speaker 1: enjoy having you around. I enjoy, like I said, I
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  Speaker 1: enjoy getting to know Kadem better and I really really
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  Speaker 1: love him. So that is what's going on.
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  Speaker 3: That's cool.
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  Speaker 2: Well, we appreciate you being here. I remember Kadeen he
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  Speaker 2: was like telling me. He was like, so, I asked
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  Speaker 2: your grandma how long she thinks how long she's expecting
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  Speaker 2: us to be here?
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  Speaker 1: That was so funny, he said, mamme, or could I
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  Speaker 1: ask you a question? And said, sure, what's the question?
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  Speaker 1: When do we have to go?
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  Speaker 3: When do we have to leave?
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  Speaker 1: When do you expect us to leave here? And I said, darling,
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  Speaker 1: you can stay as long as you want, but I figure,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I hope that you'll stay through you know,
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  Speaker 1: the time up until the time that you get married,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and if you stay beyond that, that's okay,
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  Speaker 1: but not too long, okay, But you're more than welcome
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  Speaker 1: to be here. I as you know, I have very
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  Speaker 1: few rules, and you know I might be a pain
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  Speaker 1: in the ass. Well, I know I am a pain
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  Speaker 1: in the ass. I like things. I'm neat, Yeah, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I like things.
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  Speaker 3: I'm necessarily the neatest person in the bunch.
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  Speaker 2: But I try.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like I feel like.
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  Speaker 2: I'll let like our room go, and then I'm like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I gotta get this together.
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  Speaker 3: And then we're back for like maybe a.
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  Speaker 2: Day and a half and then I have to go
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  Speaker 2: somewhere and then close her everywhere.
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  Speaker 3: But we're enjoying it though.
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  Speaker 2: It's been fun and it's been nice, and we're so
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  Speaker 2: thankful that we're able to be able to like save
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  Speaker 2: money on rent and then also still.
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  Speaker 3: Be here because like the kids are over here all.
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  Speaker 2: The time, so it's always fun to be able to
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  Speaker 2: see my nephews and all that kind of stuff. Like
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  Speaker 2: over Halloween, I mean, me and King whipped together his
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  Speaker 2: costume in ten fricking minutes.
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  Speaker 1: That was so that was so wonderful because you know,
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  Speaker 1: I bought I bought costumes for the two little ones,
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  Speaker 1: and I asked Miranda, what about King, and she said, no,
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  Speaker 1: he's going to be some anime character or something, so
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  Speaker 1: I said, okay, no problem. And then he comes over
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  Speaker 1: and says he's not trick or treating because he doesn't
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  Speaker 1: have a costume and within fire, and he looked so
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  Speaker 1: he was so upsessed. He looked really crapped out. But
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  Speaker 1: he's eleven and he doesn't show his feelings very well.
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  Speaker 1: And then when you said come on with me, we're
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  Speaker 1: going to come up with something he like. It was
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  Speaker 1: so nice to see him light up.
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  Speaker 2: She was loving it. We had fun putting it together.
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  Speaker 1: You know, King is such an incredible kid. And I
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  Speaker 1: have to just mention this, even though this is, you know,
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  Speaker 1: not really about the podcast, but he had asked me,
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  Speaker 1: I love the Turner Channel the classic movies. I mean
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  Speaker 1: I love those movies and almost all of them are
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  Speaker 1: in black and white. And he used to stay here
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  Speaker 1: for the first, second and third grade during the school
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  Speaker 1: time and on the weekends he'd go home because our
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  Speaker 1: school system was better and they were living in Castagram,
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  Speaker 1: so he was here summer vacations or the breaks or
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is on this year round stuff. Don't like it,
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  Speaker 1: don't agree with it, go back to three months this
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  Speaker 1: summer in freedom.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Oh my gosh, that's so funny. I loved being
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  Speaker 3: on the year round.
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  Speaker 1: Oh it's just.
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  Speaker 2: Because I feel like I got bored during summer, Like
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  Speaker 2: we'd just be sitting around looking it's too hot to
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  Speaker 2: go outside and play. Really, I would get bored. I
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  Speaker 2: genuinely enjoyed our year round school system.
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  Speaker 1: It's horrible. But let me just tell you what King
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  Speaker 1: asked me. So King said to me one day, he said, man,
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  Speaker 1: could I ask you a question? Yes, she said, what
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  Speaker 1: was it like when the world was black and white?
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  Speaker 3: I am dead.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my, honey, I just watched black and
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  Speaker 1: white movies. The world is color? She said. Oh, I
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  Speaker 1: thought because of back then, all those old movies. I
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  Speaker 1: just thought, I mean, I thought they were film in color.
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  Speaker 1: It was so wonderful. That's how his mind works. He's
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  Speaker 1: so smart. But anyway, he's he's really a good kid.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, it was really nice. One part that
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  Speaker 1: I neglected to mention in our Little the Little Bio
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  Speaker 1: was that when my divorced husband number three, I was
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  Speaker 1: out looking for a house and we found a house
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  Speaker 1: in Agritopia, which is an area in Gilbert that has
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  Speaker 1: a basement. It was like fifty seven hundred square feet
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  Speaker 1: it was a full out house. In the basement. It
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  Speaker 1: had a movie room, it had three bedrooms, it had
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  Speaker 1: an office, it had this huge den, it had a kitchen.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it was unbelievable. And then the street level
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  Speaker 1: was mine and it was my master bedroom in the
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  Speaker 1: kitchen and the dining room and all of that stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And then upstairs there was three bedrooms or four bedrooms,
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  Speaker 1: I don't remember, a loft whatever. And so everybody was
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  Speaker 1: it was like, all of a sudden, I wind up.
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  Speaker 1: Your mom's a real estate agent, she's showing me houses,
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  Speaker 1: and we wind up there. And then all of a sudden,
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't just me moving out of my house from
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  Speaker 1: my soon to be ex husband, all of you guys.
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  Speaker 1: The plot, the plan was hatched that we would all
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  Speaker 1: live together. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think a lot of people know that, Like
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  Speaker 2: when we talk about, you know, Kadeem and I moving
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  Speaker 2: back into the house, I don't think people know that
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  Speaker 2: we lived together from the time I was in the
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  Speaker 2: I think I was in the fifth grade.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, twenty ten is when.
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  Speaker 3: So, yeah, I was like in the fifth sixth grade.
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  Speaker 2: Up until my sophomore year of high school, we lived
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  Speaker 2: in the same exact house. So I'm glad that you
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  Speaker 2: brought that back up because we were going to definitely
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  Speaker 2: get into your divorce three times, because I, for one,
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  Speaker 2: wanted to ask.
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  Speaker 3: You two questions.
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  Speaker 2: One out of all of your marriages, because you married
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  Speaker 2: my grandpa, my dad's mom, right, my grandpa Quirky, and
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  Speaker 2: then you married Jean Vinson.
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  Speaker 3: We've talked about Jean Vincent on the air before. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know if I've ever told you that.
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  Speaker 1: I don't remember how he got brought up.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I remember how he got brought up. I had
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  Speaker 3: told the story about how you went to.
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  Speaker 2: France and you met Jean Vassan and you guys, you
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  Speaker 2: came home and you told my mom that she had
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  Speaker 2: a present coming for her and it wasn't that, Like
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  Speaker 2: who does that to a fifteen year old girl? And
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  Speaker 2: then and then to top it off, he made her
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  Speaker 2: rabbit for So I told that story on the air,
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  Speaker 2: and I remember John was cracking up because I kept
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  Speaker 2: saying Jean Vnsan.
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  Speaker 3: He's like, is his name Jean or is it always
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  Speaker 3: Jean Vinson?
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  Speaker 1: And I was like.
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  Speaker 3: Always?
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  Speaker 2: And then you know you married and then divorced grants.
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  Speaker 2: I guess, so my two questions, is me going into
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  Speaker 2: this new bridal era? What is one thing of advice
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  Speaker 2: that you would give me? Give me two things of
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  Speaker 2: advice that you would give me moving into this next era.
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  Speaker 1: This is very easy. Don't ask someone that's spit merror
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  Speaker 1: three times the worst three times advice? Okay, all right, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but I actually on the outside, on the on the
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  Speaker 1: flip side, it's just communicate, Just communicate, don't let ship build,
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  Speaker 1: you know, that's really the that's really the thing. Depending
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  Speaker 1: on your personality and yours isn't like mine, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I will, you know, I'll keep my mouth shut. Not
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  Speaker 1: around here. You don't see that part of me. Well, husbands,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I I wait, and I just don't like it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like altercations. So I just, you know, go
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  Speaker 1: ten years without having an argument and then I wind
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  Speaker 1: up divorce the first one. So that's not true. That's
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  Speaker 1: a fabrication. So that's the only thing that I could say.
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  Speaker 1: And then the only other thing that I would say
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  Speaker 1: is remember why when things are rough, remember why you
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  Speaker 1: married this person. Remember the joy that you had on
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  Speaker 1: the wedding day. Hopefully you will have a joyful wedding day,
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  Speaker 1: but just you know, remembered why you married him in
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  Speaker 1: the first place, because you tend people can tend to
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  Speaker 1: lose sight of the things that are the best in
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  Speaker 1: every relationship, you know, you get irritated, irritations or irritations.
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  Speaker 1: Love is a lot deeper than irritations, definitely, So there
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  Speaker 1: you go.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: I feel like with me and Kadeem like I genuinely
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: pride myself in the fact that, like we were friends first.
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: I think I I have a different idea. I thought
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: Kadem and I were better friends, and apparently he says
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: we were. He doesn't think we were as good as
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: friends as we were, And I was like, I thought
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: we were besties, Like what do you mean, Like.
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: I can't believe you didn't that way, Like I felt
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: so betrayed.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: But I do like whenever, like I want to, like,
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: if he's irritating me and I just like, oh, like
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: you're being annoying, I'll just be like, wait, like you're
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: my friend.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: I have to tell you have always though you have
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: such deep friendships, I am not surprised at all that
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: you made that connection with him and he was your
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: best friend, that he was your close friend. Because you've
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: got like thirty of them. I do. I mean, you
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: have a lot of friends. And the only other person
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: that I've ever seen like that is your cousin Sean.
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: And your cousin Sean has friends with people that he
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: went to preschool with. Yeah, every stage of his life
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: he has at least one, and he has worked very hard,
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: like you do, to stay in touch with people. You'll do.
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: You know, you treasure relationships, you value me do?
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: I really do?
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: And I really don't like when people are upset with
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: me that like will keep me up that night.
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: Like I think that a lot of times.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: I put out like this tough, hard exterior a lot
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: of times and really like I'm just a softy.
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: And I cry and everything, you know.
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: And I think, over the course of my probably since
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: Me Kadima have been together, I've like really mourned like
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: two of my friendships that I really had, and I
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: still think about them all the time, and I get
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: upset because I'm like dang. I told Kadem the other day,
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: I was like with one of my specific friends, I
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: was like, it's so wild that like we're planning this
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: wedding because I totally thought she was going to be there,
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: and there was even a part of me that was like,
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: maybe I just send the invite. Maybe I just invite.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: Her and do it. If it's bothering, you send an invite.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: But the fact is is that there are people that
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: come into your life. They come and they go yeah
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: at certain times no, And there're people that are important people.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: That's what makes life so exciting and so interesting. You know.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: There have been some casual conversations that I've had with strangers,
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: like in an airport bar waiting for a flight, that
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: impacted me that I still think about the person in
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: the and the you know what happened to that person.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: I picked up a hitchhiker named Tim Tinkerton years and
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: years ago. It was held so a horse with no
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: name by America had come out if Riches listening. Let
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: me know what year that was. It was like seventy
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: or something. And I picked him up, not just me,
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: because I didn't have a driver's license until I was nineteen.
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: I hitchhiked everywhere myself, but my friends were in the car.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: We picked him up and we drove him to wherever
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: the hell he was going. It was like a three
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: hour drive. We drove way way out of town. I
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: think we took him to close to the Las Vegas
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: border or whatever, I mean, to the border of Nevada,
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: some little town because he was on his way on
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: this trip around the nation. And anyway, this guy was
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: so amazing and he shared so many interesting, beautiful stories
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: that they actually impacted my way of thinking. So this
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: is somebody I saw for three three years, gave him
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: my address, and he and I wrote to each other
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: for probably twenty years, five years, and then all of
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: a sudden, you know, I didn't get I didn't hear
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: from him, and he still traveled his whole life long.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: Do you think, wow, I.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Don't know, or else he lost his phone book or
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: you never really know, but out of the blue, you know,
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: it was just I never got a return envelope. It
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: just stopped writing. We just stopped running. But that was like,
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: so that was just one second. So my point is,
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: I'm the my little apple cider here is I don't
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: drink much anymore. I did plenty in my youth. But
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: there are people that come and go in your life,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: and some stay longer than a three hour car drive.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Some stay three months, three years or whatever. But there
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: comes a time where it's okay to separate. People change,
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: some change for the better and they go on, but
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: mostly it's like you know that they kind of sometimes
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: they change, like addictions and stuff like that, and you
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: and not that you don't stand by the people that
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: need you the most, because you do. Oh yeah, you
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: stand by them, you back them up. But there comes
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: a point where sometimes, like especially with addictions, you have
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: to say, okay.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Well, I mean, you know, I you know, one of
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: my dearest friends stuffered with addiction and she was even
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: going to come remember my friend Maddie and she I mean,
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: I remember being so upset, and I remember her mom
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: called me and I started crying and I was like,
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: oh my.
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: Gosh, she's dead.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: I remember thinking like, my friend's dead and I'm twenty,
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: what do you mean? Why is your mom calling me
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: out of the blue. And she was just calling me
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: to get in touch because she knew that we have
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: family that is can help with drug rehabilitation stuff like
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: that with Uncle.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: T and everything is Maddie sober now back sober to go.
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: She looks good.
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: She's working at the zips over off the Central.
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: Good for her.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: Jalen saw her.
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: And said she didn't even recognize her.
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: Wow, that's wonderful. Yeah, I love Maddie, me too. I
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: love Maddie me too. That's one other beautiful thing about
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: growing up with you kids in that house in Agrotopia.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: So the eight or nine years that we were there,
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: Jalen would come down and early in the morning, he'd
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: get out of bed. He doesn't do that anymore. Well,
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: he does when he goes to work, but if he
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: doesn't have to get up, he's not gonna. But he
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: would come down and he and I would have breakfast. Well,
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: he'd have breakfast, I'd lay off the cereals or what
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: do you want to eat? And we'd have this we'd talk.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: And so one day Miranda said, hey, do you want
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: to go someplace? It was early in the morning for
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: something at school. I don't remember what it was. Do
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: you want me to take you to school for this
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: morning pep rally or whatever the hell it was. And
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: He's like, oh, no, Memy and I have our routine
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: and I'm not going to be the one to break.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: It was so wonderful, you know, that was so so wonderful.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: But that encapsulated, like I got to be a part
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: of your life. Although I can never ever ever chaperone
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: when your slumber parties. Again, we have to get into this.
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: We have to get in because that is wild.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: I need. We were I think I was in the
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: fifth grade, fifth sixth grade, like I said, and didn't
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: move out until we were We didn't sell that house
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: until I was a sophomore in college.
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: So that's a lot of life to be lived right there.
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: So I'm curious.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: To know, like what it was like kind of being
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: behind the scenes in the sense of like my mom
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: and dad being the parents and having to crack down
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: on certain things like that. Because my sister Dominique, I
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: mean dom by the time we moved into that house.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: Was basically senior.
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: I think she was there like her senior year.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: Or maybe a junior, I don't remember.
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: Something like that.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: She was going to Bash, a high school where I
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: currently coach at, and she wasn't around for long, Like
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: I just remember Don would come back very ever so
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: from college. Yeah, so it was really I mean Dominique
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: got into some trouble in high school and stuff like that.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: I mean, she would like go and stay the night
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: at Blake's house. Blake is my sister's baby daddy.
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: For those that don't know.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: But mercifully I was kept out of that loop.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: She would go and spend the night at his house,
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: say that she was at another friend's house and all
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: that kind of stuff. She would go to parties, but
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: like I never really had when Dominique had a boyfriend,
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: I was. I mean, when Blake started coming around, I
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: was probably eight or nine. I was super young, and
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: I remember always telling myself, like, I'm never having a boyfriend.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: My sister has a boyfriend and they're annoying and they're
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: always together and they always get in trouble.
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: I never have some boys.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: But I have to interject right here, because when you
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: were three or four years old, Aunt two said, Peyton,
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: do you know what you want to be when you
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: grow up? And he said, yes, I want to be
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: a mommy. And I want a whole lot of baby daddies.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: I want that, Yes you did.
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: I want a whole lot. I want a whole lot
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: of babies with the whole.
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: Well, the baby daddies. You call them baby daddies, And
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: so here you are, four years old. I want ten
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: babies with ten baby daddies or whatever wants the baby daddies.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: That's the time much adorable.
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: For one, I don't want a baby daddy, and for two,
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: I definitely don't want lots of them.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: Well, you know what it was? It was key too
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: because your mom her answer to that question when she
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: was about that same age as somebody said what do
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: you want to be? And she said, I want to
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: be a team mother. Well she said team t E
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: A M. And I thought she said T.
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: E E M, and I went she did mark off
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: the team pregnancy or teen mother?
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: She was nineteen when she was nineteen, that's okay, but no,
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: she said, mother, that's all she curs.
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: I think I'm the oldest by far to not have
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: any kids.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: But that's okay. Hey, it's good, it's it's really good.
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: I just want to be married. We'll probably wait out
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: a couple of years for sure, but we'll figure it out.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: I didn't even have my wisdom teeth yet, you know,
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: I was. I was just a baby.
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: So MEMI, so tell us, like, tell me some of
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: the things that you remember, like being in the background
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: of like did mom ever come to you and be
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: like WTF?
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: Like what do I do here?
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: You know, I tried really hard to recognize that that
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: I'm the grandparent and the parents were all in the
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: same house, and I needed to make sure that I
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: did not offer advice or anything unless I was requested.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: So I really stayed out of your of their business
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: as far as raising you can. And but there were,
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: you know, there were times where you involved me. Dominique.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: You said was had problems in troubles. You were the
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: biggest trouble.
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: I disagree.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: You know, well, I can only say that you had
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: a slumber party and you guys, that's when you guys
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: were down in the basement. Ye we were, and the
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: kids were in the basement, and and I was in
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: the middle. I always stayed in the middle. I were there.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: And then that slipped, you know, once or twice where
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: the parents were in the bo.
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: Because Jalen was scared. Once Dominique moved out, Jalen was
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: too scared to sleep in the basement alone.
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: Okay, so that's the reason you guys wanted to wound
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: up upstairs. But anyway, so you have a slubber party,
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: and and uh you said, I went downstairs and I said, okay, kids,
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: I'm going to go to bed. It was like eleven
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: or whatever. It was. Everybody good, everybody's fine, Yeah, you're
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: watching a movie in that movie room and that in
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: a room, and everybody was doing good. Everybody had food
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: and whatever. Then apparently when I went upstairs to go
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: to sleep, which I slept through you guys rating Dominique's
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: bar and stealing all the vodka and tequila, everybody got
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: stinking drunk. I did not, Well, you might not have.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know, but all the kids
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: are there, and then I guess a few of them
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: decided they would post selfies topless, ye or whatever. I
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: don't say.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: No, what happened was, oh my god, So things were
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: starting to get weird. I remember being at that sleepover,
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: and I remember it was like two of my friends,
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: and then there was another girl that went to school
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: with us, but she wasn't really like our friends were.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: I think we were freshmen in high school. We were
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: freshmen in high school. And I remember thinking like, oh,
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: things are getting weird over here, like I'm not really
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: liking the and I didn't like it because I was
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: at my house. But it's also one o'clock in the morning.
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to tell these girls they have to go.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna go wake you up. Like, I'm just
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: like okay, guys, like I'm going to bed. I wake
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: up the next morning, they're like sick. I'm like, what happened?
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: Come to find out, they raided Dominique's. They went into
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: Dominique's closet, which I'm sure I showed them, you know
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: what I mean, I'm sure I probably and there was like, well,
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: I'm sure I said something, and then yeah, I remember.
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: I actually didn't know until the following Monday. I got
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: called into the principal's office because they didn't go to
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: the same school as as I did. They went to
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: like Perry or something, but they were my friends from
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: middle school. And yeah, I got called in the principal
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: office because there was a picture of them talkless in
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: my room, and apparently that they that this picture got
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: sent to some boy that they liked, and then that
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: picture getting circulated.
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: It was this whole thing. I almost got suspended.
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: I was like, I swear, I have no idea what
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: is going on here?
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: Well, I have to tell you I found out about
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: it a little earlier than you did, because about five
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: thirty in the morning, somebody's banging on the front door
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: and it's the mother of one of the kids that
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: are in the basement, apparently hungover, saying you will never
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: watch my child. They will never come over here again.
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: Because I saw that and I said, oh my god,
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: I'm where were you?
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: I remember I wrote a letter because they lived in
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: our neighborhood. She was someone that we went to school
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: where we were going to school in Chandler, but lived
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: all the way out where we were in Gilbert.
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: It just happened by chance that we lived in the
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: same neighborhood. I remember I.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: Wrote a letter to her mom, like please, I'm so sorry.
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: I didn't know, like this is my friend. I never
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: got anything back.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: She ended up transferring schools, like I think, she ended
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: up homeschooled, and.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: Then that was it. But now she's like married and
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: has a kid and whatever she's.
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: I used to walk my dog by by their house
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: because Zagaratopea is really small, so I used to walk
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: bus to grals and uh. I can remember her being
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: up on the mom being up on the porch, the porch,
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: and she'd flipped me off.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, no way, okay, no, that's actually really honey.
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: I wish you would have told you more.
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: But that's funny that you say that, because there's something
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: a little off about that family.
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: So the fact, yeah, she was very they were very odd.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: But there was also another time. There was another time, uh,
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: where you and Jalen had a party when your mom
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: and I wered of town. I guess your dad might
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: have been with us, And when I got home, I thought,
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: I said, something's wrong.
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: So that was when I went you dad, and mom
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: took me to you taught the.
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: Oh, so it's just so that's what you were with us.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: So I was with you and Jalen was supposed to
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: be staying at Dominique.
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: Exactly and kind of how that happened and is Jalen
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: told me because Jalen was a junior in high school
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: going into his senior year. Was the summer going into
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: his senior year, and yeah, and I remember Jalen told
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: me he was going to have this party and I
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: was like, okay, well, I'm gonna send Kelsey and Haley,
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: my two of my best friends. I said to make
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: him check on the house to make sure you guys
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: don't burn the house down. So my two friends sat
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: outside of the party the entire night while all this
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: chaos was going.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: So you knew that there was a party. Well what
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: turned out? So we get home and the house is
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: is there's just something wrong? Like everything was clean. So me,
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: I went right out to the trash, can you know,
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: to see what's in the you know, what's in there? Right?
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: Where's the beer and whatever? Nothing?
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: It's clean and Catholic kids will it's.
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: Clean, you know, I said, okay, great. So when I
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: wound up going to bed that night, I pulled back
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: my blanket and I couldn't see the imprint of two
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: heads and two bodies like two on my pillow and
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: on the sheets, and they are in a clothes embrace.
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, Jayleen, they dad, get here right now.
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: And it turned out that it was that they'd had
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: a party. And then, of course, as soon as we
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: knew there really was one, then it was the barf
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: by the toilet and around his office there was a
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: sign that Jalen left on the door that said don't
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: come in hear my mother's office, that kind of stuff.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: So he really thought it well, you know, thought it
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: through pretty well. But what the best thing in the
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: whole world was when I went to go to bed
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: that night, I reached I open up the drawer in
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: my bathroom where I keep my toothbrush, and I used
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: to bust. I used to brush my dog's teeth every
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: single day, every morning, every night, my beautiful bust and
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: girls got his teeth brush by me and I look
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: and somebody's taken a buster's toothbrush and a freaking brushter
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: teeth that I'm like.
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  Speaker 3: It was so beautiful.
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: No, no, I didn't discipline him. That wasn't my job.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: That was your parents. And I don't know what they
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: did to him. Same with you with your party. I
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: don't know what they did, but I am but I
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: was able to say, hey, Jalen, tell whoever was sleeping
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: in my in my bed last night or the night
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: before and they brushed their teeth with my dog's tooth
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: thrust It was worth it. But you know, you got
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: in trouble with me, like there was missing alcohol so
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: I had when when I divorced from Grants from the
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: third one, he didn't drink, so I never drank. So
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: I didn't drink for fifteen years. So the first thing
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: I did when we got the house is your mom
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: and I I said, we're going to total wine, no more.
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: And I think I spent I think I spent like
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: fifteen hundred bucks. I bought everything booze, and some of it,
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: like I just gave away the last of it because
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: I'd never even touched it, because I don't even drink
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: that much. Was just the freedom of that. But I
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: went ahead and had all of that alcohol, and then
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: it kept like disappearing. But only the stuff like that
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: was good, you know, not the cream dement and I
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: don't know all that crea. It was because because you
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: went to a party. I was watching the alcohol. You
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: told me, I think it's Grandpa Larry. Grandpa Larry was
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: here last week. Well somebody said, blamed it on uncle
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: Larry or Grandpa Larry. And so when I You're going
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: out to the party and I was watching the booths,
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: your mom or dad were out in the car or something.
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I feel like you have a skewed
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: version of.
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: What this was. Well whatever, and they anyway, they found
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: some alcohol with you and they said, look what we
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: got from Peyton. I opened up the bar to put
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: the bottle back, and there was like another bottle or
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: two missing. So I ran outside. They were already gone,
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: and you were in the car and I said, hand
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: me your purse, and you said, why mamme, mom already
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: got the alcohol. I said, hand me your purse, and
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: I reached into your person. There was a bubble of
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: boots and I pulled no. Yes, that happened at the
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: end in the driveway at Agritopia, and I said, have
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: a good time and don't drink and drive.
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: And that was I don't remember that I remember that
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: story happening. I remember it was three of It was
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: me and two of my teammates who.
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: Also played basketball for Dad and so.
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: But we all played basketball together in high school and
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: we were going to some party. And it wasn't even
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: a party now that I think about it. We were
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: just going to go and sit at the dump right
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: off of McQueen and Jermaine.
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: Right at Tumbleweed. Right over there they have the dump.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: And I remember I remember vividly going into Dominique's room
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: and stealing her like cherry bottle of sarac It was
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: like this huge bottle of sap, and I remember I
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: put that in my backpack, and then I remember I
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: went to the garage and I grabbed all the beers
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: I could grab, and then I grabbed all of the
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: squirt like sodas in the bag, and I remember when
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: I left, Dad and Mom pulled up as we're walking
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: out of the house and they're driving up, and I
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: remember being like, oh my god, we're about to get
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: busted right now.
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: So we walk in.
• 38:17
  Speaker 4: Dad goes, hey, stop, stop where you're going and I
• 38:20
  Speaker 4: was like, oh, somebody snitched on us, because we knew
• 38:23
  Speaker 4: we hadn't invited one of our teammates to this party
• 38:26
  Speaker 4: and she was upset, so we knew that she probably
• 38:29
  Speaker 4: told her mom, and her mom probably told mom.
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: Is how we ended up piecing it all together. And
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: they pulled out the bottle of sarak and then I
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: remember Dad was like, what else is in here? He
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: could hear all the cans, and he pulled one out,
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: and by the grace of God, he pulled out the
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: squirt and.
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: Didn't pull out the beer.
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: And I remember being like, see, I told you, it's
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: just squirt.
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: And then and then Dad.
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: I remember it was us three, and he goes, what
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: do you think I should do right now?
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: Genuinely, what do you three think I should do right now?
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: Remember my two other friends, they were like, please tell
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: our parents.
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: Coach show. Please don't call our parents.
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: I would have said, give me back the vodka.
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: I told God, I said, I said take the alcohol and.
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: Let us go to the party. That's what you should do.
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: And he said okay.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: He said, but next practice, you guys are conditioning until
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: you puke.
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: And we ran.
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: We ran. That was bad.
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: I don't remember you catching me with it.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so there was there was more.
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: That's funny.
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: Anyway, it was. It was good. It was wonderful to
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: be with all of you guys as you were growing
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: up and and occasionally, you know, we only had one
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: fight the whole time too.
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: Right when we moved in. I remember you so upset.
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: I remember you threw the map quest directions away.
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: It was that was a violent reaction. I wear a
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: printed map.
• 39:53
  Speaker 4: Quest in and you were like, I can't do this.
• 39:58
  Speaker 3: I don't even remember why we were fighting.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: I don't either. I know it's I know it's something
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: we were going someplace, and I know it was something
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: very very small. But you know what, that was the
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: best thing that ever happened. It was about a year
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: in I think, and then we never had another argument
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: because we decided right then and there. If things are
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: kind of getting on your nerves. You just have to say,
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: like the first thing you asked me about advice, You
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: just have to communicate. It's really important because because that
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: keeps you know, that keeps everybody on the same the
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: same wavelength.
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: Perfect. Well, this was a good little chat, Sash.
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: Thank you on the podcast that was very longer than
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: what we had planned.
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: I know, I thought we wouldn't be able to build
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: the fifteen minutes, so you okay by listeners and John
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: Jay and Rich