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31: Monday Moment: I Didn't Even Make it 5 Minutes · Banish the Lies: Outsmart Your Inner Critic

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  Happy Monday.
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  Years ago, I did a personal development program.
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  Well, one of many programs that I've done, and the homework assignment for the first week was to not complain, to just not complain for a week.
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  It sounded simple and.
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  I was completely convinced I could do it without much effort, and I remember leaving the workshop calling a friend as I walked to the subway and suddenly it started raining, but the forecast hadn't called for rain, and there I was, no umbrella and completely unprepared for the downpour.
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  And within seconds I was lamenting to my friend about how inaccurate the weather forecasters were and how frustrated I was to be drenched.
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  In other words, I didn't even make it five minutes before I started to complain, and in that moment I realized something.
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  It's not that I want to complain, it's just that I often don't even notice that I'm doing it.
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  It just comes out.
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  And that memory reminds me of a powerful phrase that I love.
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  Your word is your wand.
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  Your word is your wand.
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  So here's my question for you today.
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  If I listen to you for a full day.
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  What would I hear you talk about?
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  Because a lot of us say we want a good life, a happy life, a fulfilling, joyful life, but if someone followed us around and just listened, what would they actually hear?
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  It can be easy to miss so much of what we say can be operating on autopilot.
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  These small comments we make throughout the day.
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  They can seem inconsequential, but they add up.
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  They shape what we pay attention to, and that shapes how we feel, which essentially shapes our experience of life itself.
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  So maybe just for today, pay attention to what you're saying.
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  You might notice more than you expect.
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  Cheers.