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Books To Read In Your 20s To Get Your Sh*t Together · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land Always was, always
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  Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land.
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  Speaker 2: Pay Checks.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sal and I'm now and this is too pro chicks,
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  Speaker 1: I really were, yeah, And.
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  Speaker 3: This is the show that shares life lessons and tips
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  Speaker 3: to me rich in life. And today we're doing a
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  Speaker 3: part four of books to.
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  Speaker 4: Read in your twenties because.
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  Speaker 3: Bye, oh gosh, you chicks have been sliding into our
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  Speaker 3: d ms left, right and center asking for the book
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  Speaker 3: Wrecks and we love it as.
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  Speaker 2: Two little bookie rookie girls, ourselves as bookie wookie girls. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: bookie wookie women, lookie wookie women.
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  Speaker 5: So you can't give me that, and then I'm trying
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  Speaker 5: to move on from it so quickly tastes booky walkie women,
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  Speaker 5: bookie wookie women.
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  Speaker 3: So Alan I will be sharing our fiction and non
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  Speaker 3: fiction book corecs that we've read recently. But before we
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  Speaker 3: get into it, should we start with what we're obsessed with?
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  Speaker 2: With recession? What are you obsessed with? Okay?
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  Speaker 1: I have so many obsessions this week it was really
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  Speaker 1: hard to pick one because I feel like.
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  Speaker 2: Do you ever feel like a plastic bag?
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  Speaker 1: Finally, somebody said that like my for you page will
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  Speaker 1: have like flop errors and then it'll have like this
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  Speaker 1: toneover and I'll start getting all good content again. But
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  Speaker 1: it's like maybe fresh content or series I haven't seen before,
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  Speaker 1: you know, just it's fresh, it's fresh.
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  Speaker 2: And I like it.
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  Speaker 1: So I just feel like there's so much stuff that
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  Speaker 1: I'm like this like that, So yeah, picking one, fuck me.
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  Speaker 1: But the one thing that I am so obsessed with
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  Speaker 1: is this thing that I saw. And you know how
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  Speaker 1: when you go to like get your hair done that
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  Speaker 1: will sometimes do a gloss.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you can just buy that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, So apparently Madison Bee's hair is really shiny because
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  Speaker 1: she just does a gloss on her hair every like
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  Speaker 1: a couple of weeks every week. Wow. And you can
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  Speaker 1: just and then I like with in the comments and
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  Speaker 1: everyone's like, yeah, that's like it was obvious.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, well, that's like that way gloss right. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But it's like you can buy like this salon like
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  Speaker 1: red can Red Can you know what I'm saying? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: hair gloss on like those like hair style.
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  Speaker 4: Web Shop.
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  Speaker 1: Hair because why does your hair feel so good after
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  Speaker 1: the hair dresses.
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  Speaker 3: It's usually a little bit more expensive, but I think
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  Speaker 3: it's definitely worth it. More.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like play the clip of sal In twenty
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  Speaker 1: twenty two is saying there is one thing I will
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  Speaker 1: not skimp on.
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  Speaker 2: It is hair care. Yeah, and I.
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  Speaker 3: Say it once a year every year, and if I don't,
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  Speaker 3: I will pass away.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, You'll just like evaporate into the air. What are
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  Speaker 2: you obsessed with?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, this is so random, but fuck Rida.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah my obsession this week.
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  Speaker 3: Ever since the Olympics, I've been watching a lot more
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  Speaker 3: free to air TV so randomly, Like I literally would
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  Speaker 3: never watch.
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  Speaker 4: Free to air TV yeah prior to this.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I would always be like fuck, like how
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  Speaker 3: do I like switch it over from you know whatever?
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  Speaker 2: Like I had no idea.
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  Speaker 3: And now Chris and I've been watching a little bit
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  Speaker 3: more free to air TV. And there's this show on
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  Speaker 3: the ABC that's on every night at six point thirty
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  Speaker 3: during the week called Hard Quiz, and it's hosted by
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  Speaker 3: Tom Gleason, the Australian comedian, And it's like a thirty
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  Speaker 3: minute quiz program where there's four contestants and each one
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  Speaker 3: has a really niche topic of interest that they're an
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  Speaker 3: expert on. So for example, last night it was like
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  Speaker 3: Degrassy the TV show, and then someone else was an
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  Speaker 3: expert in this one particular type of golf, Like it's
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  Speaker 3: so niche and random, and then they have to answer
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  Speaker 3: questions about their niche topic. Then they also do a
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  Speaker 3: round of like Tom's Topic of the week, and that
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  Speaker 3: can just be like anything.
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  Speaker 2: One time it was hats.
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  Speaker 4: Like literally the most random topics.
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  Speaker 3: And then they fight down to see who is like
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  Speaker 3: the hard quiz champion. And because Tom Gleason is a
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  Speaker 3: comedian and he's so funny, it's fucking hilarious.
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  Speaker 2: He's so like dead.
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  Speaker 3: Pan and like roasts all of the contestants about their
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  Speaker 3: niche interests and naturally, like a lot of these people
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  Speaker 3: are really cute and nerdy.
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  Speaker 4: Like it's such like a good wholesome show.
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  Speaker 2: I really recommend it.
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  Speaker 1: If you were like, what would your niche expertise be?
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  Speaker 3: Chris and I were talking about this last night and
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  Speaker 3: after watching The Degrassy One, we were like, based on
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  Speaker 3: the types of questions that they ask, we think that
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  Speaker 3: I could probably do the oc, Oh.
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  Speaker 2: What do you think mine?
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  Speaker 6: Would?
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  Speaker 4: I feel like you could probably do Akatar?
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  Speaker 2: Do you reckon probably Disney?
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  Speaker 3: I reckon, yeah, Disney, But you would have to make
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  Speaker 3: it like a niche section. I reckon if you did
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  Speaker 3: like Disney Classics from the nineties, or if you did
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  Speaker 3: Disney Princesses.
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  Speaker 1: True, true, because I don't want any of the new
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  Speaker 1: ones now, or just take me back to my childhood.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, or like if they were asking random questions about
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  Speaker 3: like a particular writer from the nineteen thirties, like do
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  Speaker 3: you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 2: Because sometimes I will. Let's make full in.
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  Speaker 3: Real nish things that so I think that would be good.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, that's what I'm obsessed with.
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  Speaker 1: You.
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  Speaker 2: You're such a nerd.
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  Speaker 3: I love.
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  Speaker 2: Speaking bing nerdy bookie wookie women. Let's gory.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to start with my first book, wreck, which
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  Speaker 1: is Finding Your People Where by Alexandre Harrigan.
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  Speaker 2: And Sally McMullen.
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  Speaker 1: So if you actually didn't know that we wrote a book,
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  Speaker 1: and I genuinely believe this.
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  Speaker 2: Is a book that everyone should read, like.
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  Speaker 1: Not to you know, toot our own horn, but I'm toutin' bitch, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but like, this is a book that everyone needs to
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  Speaker 1: read in their twenties and beyond because it really does
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  Speaker 1: encompass everything, and that's what we wanted it to be
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  Speaker 1: in terms of friendship with yourself, friendship with others, friendship
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  Speaker 1: in romantic relationships, and like cutting out toxic people in
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  Speaker 1: your life. And the messages and the reception that we've
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  Speaker 1: received from writing this book as well has just been
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  Speaker 1: so amazing and heartwarming of people that are struggling with
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  Speaker 1: making friends as an adult or you know, outgrowing their
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  Speaker 1: old friendships. I think that is something that you know,
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  Speaker 1: we don't talk about enough in hand, how there's not
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  Speaker 1: always like a big mushroom cloud. There's not always a
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  Speaker 1: big thing that's like, oh, I stopped being friends with
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  Speaker 1: these people because you know, we had this massive fight
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  Speaker 1: or she fucked my boyfriend or whatever, which fuck we've
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  Speaker 1: had some story about ye And I think that's sometimes
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  Speaker 1: the worst thing. And I think the best message we
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  Speaker 1: received from someone reading this book was that it really
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  Speaker 1: gave them closure in that situation. And you know, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: it's good. And there's parts in the book that help
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  Speaker 1: with self reflection and you know, identifying parts in friendships
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  Speaker 1: and relationships that you can enhance and work on, and
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  Speaker 1: you know, identify maybe things that.
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  Speaker 2: You don't want to continue doing.
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  Speaker 1: But it also helps you realize that like something's just
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  Speaker 1: are meant for you and that's fine. Yeah, okay, So
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to do a random page flick in the book.
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  Speaker 1: And then I thought I could read out whatever is
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  Speaker 1: on there, okay, just to show you the life lessons
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  Speaker 1: or wherever they are in the book. Okay, tell me
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  Speaker 1: when to stop. Okay stop, okay, Oh okay. This is
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  Speaker 1: from the chapter A Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.
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  Speaker 7: Oh it's my gay chapter. It's the gay, it's the
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  Speaker 7: gay in me. But it is A.
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  Speaker 2: Reason, a Season or a lifetime. And I'll read this
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  Speaker 2: page a season the TLD.
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  Speaker 1: A seasonal friendship is one that is with you during
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  Speaker 1: a certain period of your life. It might be a
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  Speaker 1: significant period of time that brings you personal evolution, but
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  Speaker 1: that eventually ends temporarily or forever. It might be a
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  Speaker 1: friendship that lasts for a specific period of time, such
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  Speaker 1: as school, a job, or time you spend playing in
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  Speaker 1: a particular sporting team. It isn't always a big, meaningful
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  Speaker 1: part of your life. It could simply be a phase
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  Speaker 1: you go through and it may or may not lead.
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  Speaker 2: To a huge epiphany. Beautiful, I know.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like I was thinking about this as well
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  Speaker 1: the other day that I was thinking about like the
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  Speaker 1: seasonal friendships that you have over life, and maybe thinking
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  Speaker 1: about some of the seasonal friendships I've had and that
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  Speaker 1: it's like I was thinking about.
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  Speaker 2: Even reaching out just being like, hey, like, I hope
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  Speaker 2: you're a vibe in.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think seasonal friendships are a lot rareer now
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  Speaker 1: as well because of you know, Instagram and stuff like that,
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  Speaker 1: and you can really just stay with people.
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  Speaker 2: It's very easy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah, that's my first one. Because as well,
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  Speaker 1: I think it's really cool that we wrote a book
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  Speaker 1: and we should talk about it more.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree. I love like with this book.
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  Speaker 3: Obviously, you know, a lot of research went into it,
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  Speaker 3: but also a lot of incredibly personal stories went into
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  Speaker 3: it as well. And I think when we were writing it,
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  Speaker 3: at some points I'd be like, oh is this too
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  Speaker 3: niche like, is this going to be too unique to
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  Speaker 3: my experience that like, you know, I may think that
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  Speaker 3: it had a really big impact on me, but other
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  Speaker 3: people might not relate to And I think the reception
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  Speaker 3: that we've received has proven.
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  Speaker 2: The exact opposite.
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  Speaker 3: And while you know, everybody has their own unique experiences
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  Speaker 3: with friendship and finding their people, so many people have
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  Speaker 3: written in being like I see myself in these pages.
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  Speaker 3: I've had these exact same interactions or dynamics or you know,
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  Speaker 3: troubles trying to be my.
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  Speaker 4: Own best friend.
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  Speaker 3: And the most common review I feel that we get
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  Speaker 3: from this book is that it feels like you're having
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  Speaker 3: a conversation with your good girlfriends and it feels like
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  Speaker 3: a warm hug. And that's like the ultimate compliment because
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  Speaker 3: that's exactly what we wanted the book to be. So
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  Speaker 3: if you haven't read it already, pick it up at
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  Speaker 3: all good bookstores. And you can also get the audiobook
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  Speaker 3: as well, if you're.
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  Speaker 2: Before you on Spotify Premium. It's you're mad. It's just
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  Speaker 2: the truth.
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  Speaker 1: It's just the fact, all right, sal What is your
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  Speaker 1: books to read in your twenties?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, my bookie Wookie Red.
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  Speaker 2: Your Bookie Wookie Red is Blue.
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  Speaker 4: Sisters by Coco Mas Gaming.
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  Speaker 3: So this is a relatively new release that came out
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  Speaker 3: earlier this year. It's fiction and it's a story about
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  Speaker 3: three estranged sisters, Lucky, Avery and Bonnie who.
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  Speaker 2: Love the name Lucky.
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  Speaker 3: It's goodt This is a story about a girl named Lucky.
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  Speaker 3: Lucky was my favorite character too. She was very like
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  Speaker 3: she is the epitome of brat in the book.
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  Speaker 2: I love that. Yeah and yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So they're three estranged sisters who return back to their
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  Speaker 3: home in New York a year following the passing of
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  Speaker 3: their other sister, NICKI, who I won't give it away actually,
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  Speaker 3: but she passes away, and each of the chapters is
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  Speaker 3: told from the perspective of a different sister. And I
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  Speaker 3: love this book because while they're all siblings, so you
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  Speaker 3: can see, you know, like the traces of similarities between
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  Speaker 3: them all and you know, their shared experiences. But I
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  Speaker 3: think it also taps into, I guess, like how family
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  Speaker 3: trauma or family experiences in general can really impact people
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  Speaker 3: so differently, even if they're siblings and they both lived
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  Speaker 3: and they all lived through the same experience, but just
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  Speaker 3: how as different people we take things on so differently.
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  Speaker 3: And I think that everybody should read this book in
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  Speaker 3: their twenties, because so many of us have these dynamics
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  Speaker 3: with our parents or with our siblings or our family
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  Speaker 3: members when we're growing up, and you know, maybe like
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  Speaker 3: a very traditional thing where like, you know, the older
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  Speaker 3: sibling is always the one who's sort of leading the pack,
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  Speaker 3: and you know, you look up to your parents as
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  Speaker 3: the people that you know, the epitome of like what's
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  Speaker 3: right and what's wrong, Like they're your moral compass, and
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  Speaker 3: you know, we often forget that this is our parents
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  Speaker 3: first try it life too, and same with our older
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  Speaker 3: siblings as well. And I think everyone should read this
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  Speaker 3: book in their twenties because so many of us come
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  Speaker 3: to the realization that, oh, we're all adults here, and
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  Speaker 3: the dynamics between us and our parents and our siblings
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  Speaker 3: shift a lot when we're in our twenties. And as
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  Speaker 3: you know, our parents get older, you know, people might
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  Speaker 3: start to get sick or you know, just like different
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  Speaker 3: milestones and things come up that really shake up the
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  Speaker 3: dynamics between family. And I think that a lot of
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  Speaker 3: people will be able to relate to this book. And
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  Speaker 3: you know, a lot of it is about grief and
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  Speaker 3: identity and feeling lost, but a lot of it is
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  Speaker 3: also about forgiveness as well, which I think was I
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  Speaker 3: won't give too much away, but that was, you know,
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  Speaker 3: a really nice moment towards the end of the book,
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  Speaker 3: I think as well, because there's points there where you're
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  Speaker 3: just like, oh, it's all fucked, Like there's just no
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  Speaker 3: way that you reconcer yeah, yeah, and that it's going
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  Speaker 3: to be like, oh, well, that's just how they are
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  Speaker 3: sort of situation, which I think is something that a
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  Speaker 3: lot of people see with our family members, you know,
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  Speaker 3: and it can be really hard to have those like
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  Speaker 3: tough conversations with them and to move on. But I
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  Speaker 3: think it's so important that if you do have a
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  Speaker 3: relationship with your siblings and your parents or whoever is
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  Speaker 3: special to you in your life, that even if you
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  Speaker 3: do have differences between you, that you can have those
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  Speaker 3: conversations so that you can move on and rely on
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  Speaker 3: each other. Because I just think there's so much strength
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  Speaker 3: when you can put your differences aside and have those
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  Speaker 3: conversations and forgive.
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  Speaker 2: One another and move on. That was such a great review.
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  Speaker 2: Ma me, like, I really want to read the book now.
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  Speaker 2: It's a really good book.
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  Speaker 3: It's also like, you know, some of it is hard
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  Speaker 3: to read because it's sad or you know, things like that.
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  Speaker 2: But it's a real page turner.
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  Speaker 3: And I think because it is told from a different
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  Speaker 3: perspective each chapter, it's fresh.
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  Speaker 2: It's fresh.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes that can be a bit jarring and you're like, wait,
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  Speaker 3: who's that, huh what? Like that's how I felt when
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  Speaker 3: I was reading Game of Thrones. But yeah, it's like
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  Speaker 3: much more digestible. And I don't know if this is
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  Speaker 3: like too far of a reach of a comparison, but
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  Speaker 3: it almost gives me like twenty twenty four Little Women vibes.
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  Speaker 3: And maybe because a lot of it is about you know,
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  Speaker 3: the importance of family and sister for yeah, so that
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  Speaker 3: maybe that might be a little bit too far to
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  Speaker 3: reach it it was giving me.
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  Speaker 6: But yeah, the twenty twenty four Little Women book, ye
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  Speaker 6: next book rerec Okay, So I've spoken about this book
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  Speaker 6: on the podcast before, but I've never really spoken about
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  Speaker 6: it in depth or in detail, which given that it
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  Speaker 6: is my favorite sound notes, what's coming favorite.
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  Speaker 1: Favorite, favorite favorite book of all time, I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't fucking talk about it. My favorite book of
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  Speaker 1: all time is definitely one people would have heard of,
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  Speaker 1: and it's Thrown of Glass by Sarah J.
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  Speaker 2: Mass So.
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  Speaker 1: Thrown of Glass is like her first book series that
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  Speaker 1: was like it's seven books and they came out over
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  Speaker 1: I would say, like seven years basically because it was
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  Speaker 1: like one book a year. Right, these books are the
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  Speaker 1: best book that you will read in your entire life,
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  Speaker 1: like Thrown of Glass is ten times better than Akatar.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care, Like, yes, Akatar is amazing, and it
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  Speaker 1: is definitely within like my.
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  Speaker 2: Top three, Like I love that series.
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  Speaker 1: But the world building of throwne of Glass and the
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  Speaker 1: relationships and all of that is just so good that
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  Speaker 1: like I want these people to be real, like they
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  Speaker 1: are real to me, Like when I'm listening to the
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  Speaker 1: audio book and like I'm like, I'm like, they're they're
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  Speaker 1: not fictional. It's actually rude. I hate that they're my
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  Speaker 1: friends not real. I hate that these people aren't real.
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  Speaker 1: And I just think the plot twists in this book
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  Speaker 1: are amazing because she is like an unreliable narrator.
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  Speaker 2: So even when you're like in the head of.
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  Speaker 1: The character, because it's similar to the book you were
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  Speaker 1: just talking about, where the perspectives changed, like you'll be
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  Speaker 1: in like the different heads.
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  Speaker 2: But that's how I look at it, like I'm inside
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  Speaker 2: your head now. Now I'm in your head. Yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 2: just a little anger emotion. It's like everywheing like bite them,
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  Speaker 2: light them off higher exactly by the read.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just the plot twists are amazing, like you
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  Speaker 1: do not see it coming, and then it's like the
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  Speaker 1: reveal and you're like, what the fuck, and my like
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  Speaker 1: humble brag. I was reading these books when I was
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  Speaker 1: like sixteen, Like I read Throne of Glass when I
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  Speaker 1: was sixteen, and I basically like grew up with this
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  Speaker 1: book series, and like the books kind of grew up
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: alongside me. That I finished Kingdom of Ash, which is
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: the seventh book in the series, when I was I
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: think twenty three. I was twenty two or twenty three,
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: and I was in my early twenties, not my early thirties.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: I'm saying she's in her thirties. Again, when I.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: Tell you, I have never had a book hangover, like
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: when I finished Throne of Glass, I genuinely felt grief.
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: I genuinely was in mourning because I realized I will
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: never read about Aileen Gallathonius for the first time in
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: my life ever again, and it makes me sick.
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: I wish that there was like a Little Men in Black. Yes,
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: you could wipe your brain and read your favorite book
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: for the first time again.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: Literally it is twenty four.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: I would pay ten thousand dollars to be able to
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: read Throne of Glass for the first time again, Like,
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: without a doubt, I don't have that, but.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: I can get it.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: I'm good for it, man, Yeah, good for it. Man.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: Like I just if there is one book that I
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: could force the entire world to read, it is Thrown
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: of Glass.
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: But I'll settle with Sow. So we we were just conquered.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: We were drunken grease.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: I literally sat Sail down and made her promise me
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: that she would read Thrown of Glass because I've read what,
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: like the first four, You've read the first two, and
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: I think you I've.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: Read the first three.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: Oh okay, oh yeah, and the first and then the
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: fourth one is when it like gets really good. So
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: like the first three, Sarah J. Mass is like a
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: style of writing. It's like it's very much okay, let's
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: build the world, and it can take a while to
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: like get into it for sure. So if you are
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: on the first like one to three books, stick with it.
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: I promise it's the best.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: But I also wanted to share some other like fantasy
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: smart recommendations. If you are smart and you have already.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: Read brodo class because you're cool.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: So yeah, we put up a question box on our
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: story when we're in Europe because I finished the series Powerless,
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: so Powerless, which has a second book called Reckless, and
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: there is another book coming out soon called Fearless.
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: And I really liked those books.
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: So Powerless it's like a fantasy world and it's like
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: an enemy's to love is the main character is like
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: a sassy.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: Thief and I'm like slayh. And it does.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: Give kind of Hunger Games vibes, which in the first book,
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know how I feel about this.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: It's like yeah, and I was never a huge fan
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: of the Hunger Games books. The second book, though, I
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: really enjoyed it. It was actually kind of like whenever
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: I finished a book, I was.
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: Going TikTok and be like, what does everyone else think?
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: That People either love the first.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: One and didn't really like the second one or they
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: really like the second one and I didn't vibe with
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: the first one. I think it depends on like what
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: you like more like if you there was more romance
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: in the second one, so I vibed with that. Yeah,
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: But all there's like it's two brothers, so it's giving
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: like Vampire Diaries, and then like there's one.
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: Good brother and there's one bead brother, and I like
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: the bed brother.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's good the sarcasm is very like witty
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: and I just.
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I love it. It's good. Okay.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: So some other recommendations The Serpent and The Wings of
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: the Night. So I read the first one. I'm on
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: the second one. Now second one I'm like pushing through.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: But I did really like the first one. Characters are vibe.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: So anything by Tessa Bailey, I don't think that's like fantasy,
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: but it's definitely romance. When the Moon Hatched I have
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: read this and I really enjoyed it too.
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: I thought it was really easy to.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: Read, and yeah, there was like a little plot twist
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: at the end that I definitely didn't see coming. The
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: Song of Achilles, which Sal has read and I had
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: to cuddle her in an airport while she cried after
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: she finished the book.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I loved it.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: The Bridge Kingdom. I've also started reading this. Not heaps
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: of smut, but it's a good read. And Chestnut Spring series,
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: which is cowboy smut.
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: Say you've a horse, ride a cable, Okay, so what
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: is wrong with you?
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: I love it. No, I keep that in. That is
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: keep them books, baby, And then the.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: Last one was Spuck of the Ever Flame. So those
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: are some that you can write down.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: But read Throne of Glass late. That's your homework. Everyone.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: Just just fucking do it. I don't want to excuse this, Okay,
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: just fucking do it. I'll buy you the book the
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: first do you know what?
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: The first twenty people that message us on Instagram if
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: you don't have Throne of Glass message and I will
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: buy it for you.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: That's how much I want people to read Throne.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: Wow, you message us on two broke chicks, I'm not
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: even I'm not joking, bitch. If you message us on
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: two broad chicks, first twenty people and say I want
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: to read Throne of Glass Alex, you're really pretty.
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: I'll buy you the book. It needs that last bit.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you've got to. It's got to be
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: that phrase, all like some kind of compliment. Get creative
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: the first. Okay, okay, all right.
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: My next recommendation for books to read in your twenty
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: years is the new release from Lucinda Price aka Frooms,
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: which is all I.
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: Ever wanted was to be hot.
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: This book is so good and what an.
• 23:14
  Speaker 8: Incredible title I know, And it wasn't going to be
• 23:17
  Speaker 8: the Tide I know, which is wild because it was
• 23:21
  Speaker 8: potentially too long or potentially like comes across the wrong way,
• 23:25
  Speaker 8: but it is literally.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: The perfect title. It's so good and it's so relatable. Yeah,
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: one thousand percent.
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: I was like, cool, same, I'll keep my little recap
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: kind of brief because we are going to have Frooms
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: on the podcast, so keep your eyes.
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: Peeled for that.
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: But this book is the debut release from Lucinda Price,
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: who yeah, you probably better know as Frooms on Instagram
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: and whatnot. It's kind of like part memoir, part investigation,
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: and it's really a reflection I guess on you know,
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: Western beauty standards and the pressure for women to be
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: well hot. You know, the book takes us back to
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: Frunz's childhood and I think where a lot of well
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: a lot of our listeners but also like our friends
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: and the people in our lives first had these experiences
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: in the early two thousands, and how the early two
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: thousands really has shaped a lot of our experiences with
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: you know, body image issues and disordered eating and things
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: like that. So while this book is of course like
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: incredibly personal to Lucinda, and she is so candid and
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: honest about a lot of her own experiences, while reading it,
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: I felt like I was like reading back a lot
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: of my own experiences and thoughts and even conversations that
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: I've had with my friends and with my family and
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: with people who I in, you know, like their twenties
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: and thirties and sort of have grown up over a
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: similar time, starting in the early two thousands and the
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: nineties and then now like growing up with social media.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: So I think that a lot of people will find
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: this book really relatable, no matter what their experience is,
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: you know, with.
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: The I think everyone could relate to it and what
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: in a lot of ways of the spectrum. But yeah,
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: I think if you you do struggle, you know, talking
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: about you know, your body and your food and stuff
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: like that, I think obviously you can assess where you're
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: at and whether or not you are in a headspace
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: to read something like this, because it does discuss those
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: themes and it can be a bit tricky navigating that.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: But I also think that.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: This book was written to help navigate that exactly. So
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: I think also keep that in mind.
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah, assessed sort of where you are in that journey
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: for yeah, and whether or not you think you would
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: be ready to read something like this, because yeah, I
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: do think it would be incredibly helpful to so many people,
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: but of course it could be potentially triggering to a
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: lot of people as well.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: I think there's a lovely line at the start of
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: the book though, and there is a trigger warning at
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: the start of the book. But in the introduction, Lucinda
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: writes that if this book helps pull one person out
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: of the darkness, that she's done what she meant and
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: set out to do.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I'm like, yeah, And.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: I think she's definitely going to be helping with this book.
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: And I think with rooms.
• 26:44
  Speaker 3: A lot of people know her as you know, her
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: front facing sort of character or persona rather that you know,
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: we all love her for on Instagram, and she is
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: incredibly funny, and the book is really funny at points
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: as well. Like I've laughed out loud many times reading
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: it because some of her one liners are just so cooked.
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: I love it, Like, yeah.
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: She really has a good way with a like a
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: turn of phrase. But I think as well, like this
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: book also really flexes her journalism chops, Like there's a
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: lot of moments in the book where she's interviewing experts
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: or has done research where the combination of that and
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: her personal experience gives this book a really strong backbone,
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: which I really loved. And I think if you subscribe
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: to her newsletter, Froome's World, you may have seen like
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: this more earnest side of her as well.
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: And if you've listened to.
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: Some of the podcasts and whatnot that she's been on, like,
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: she's definitely shown this side of herself on the Internet before.
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: But I think it gives like a really amazing full
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: picture of like what a talented, funny, intelligent person she is.
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: And I think that everybody should read this book if
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: they feel like they're ready to do so.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: And I'm really excited to see what everybody thinks. Yeah.
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: I love that.
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: Great with You, Good jab South woohoo.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, My next one is called Good with Money Reprogram
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: your spending habits and Take Control of Your Money by
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: Emma Edwards, the founder of the Broke Generation. Yeah. So
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: we've had Emma on the pod before and she's amazing.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: I really like the way that she talks about money.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: It's very candid.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: It's not about rules, it's not about shame.
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: It's not about like.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: Making you feel bad if you don't have good money
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: habits in place already, Because who fucking does.
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: Like you don't get taught.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: We say this all the time, you don't get taught
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: this stuff in school.
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: But you know Pythagoras' theorem, so that's cool. Yeah.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: But yeah, like knowing how to save and spend in
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: a way that is going to relieve stress from your
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: life is definitely a difficult thing to navigate. And I
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: think help yourself, like help yourself and teach yourself, and
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: doing that is the best thing that you can do
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: for you now and mainly future you. There's one quote
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: in it that I thought was really good, and she
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: talks about financial prioritization, and there's this one quote and
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: it says you can have anything you want, just not
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: everything you want.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, yeah, I think.
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, I think that is such a good and
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: big statement that you're like, wow, you really can have
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: anything you want, just not everything you want.
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: And I think as.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Well, when you really think about the words, you're like
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: that that doesn't make sense, but when you read it,
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: it does.
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: It does make sense in my head.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: That you can't necessarily explain it down to a t,
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: but it makes sense.
• 29:51
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And it's about like prioritizing.
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, what you want and what is worth putting your
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: money towards. And I think that gives like some of
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: the power back yourself.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: So she continues to say, when you learn to prioritize,
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: you ensure that your money is first spent on the
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: things that matter most to you.
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: And I just love that. I think it's I think
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: it's great.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: And I also just think the way that she discusses
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: money is not boring to put it bluntly, and it
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: also allows for fun Yeah, like.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: She's a funny bitch.
• 30:25
  Speaker 9: Yeah, Like it allows for you to be like, yes,
• 30:29
  Speaker 9: buy things that you do want just because you want them,
• 30:33
  Speaker 9: but like in moderation, which I know that's obvious, but
• 30:36
  Speaker 9: she actually breaks down the ways that you can do that.
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: So, if you are someone that is constantly transferring money
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: to savings and then by the end of the month
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: transferring them back, guilty, We've all been there, don't stress.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: But this book is for you.
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: If you don't know how much your bills are every month,
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: or if you feel like you're constantly spending money that
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: you know you shouldn't be, or you have shopping regret constantly,
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: then like, this is definitely a book that will help
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: you navigate finances and building a better relationship with money,
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: especially in your twenties.
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah for sure. Yeah, when you're in your.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: Twenties, that's when you maybe start getting your paycheck from
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: your first full time job. That's when you start moving
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: out and you've got to pay rent and you've got
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: to pay bills, and no one.
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: Teaches you how to do that.
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so you can read this book and it'll hopefully.
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: Teach you how to do that. Yeah.
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: My last recommendation for books to read in your twenties
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: is Plot Twist by Janna Firestone. So if you really
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: struggle with change, you should listen.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: To this book.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: So then, because well, actually this.
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: Is one that I listened to as an audiobook, so
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: I guess you can read it or you can listen.
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: But I first came across this book because it came
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: up as a recommendation in my audiobook section on Spotify.
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: And it's actually also published by Alan and Unw who
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: published Funding Your People our book and Belinda, So I
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: was like, ooh, same company, same company.
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: I'm bestie. I was like, bestie is I'll read Bestie? Yes.
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: And Yanna Firestone is a therapist and she's also the
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: host of the Curious Life podcast, so some of you
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: may be familiar with her work already, and it's basically
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: a guide to surviving life's unexpected curveballs.
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: A lot of the book is.
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: About grief and navigating loss, whether that's you know, grief
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: of losing a family member or a loved one, or
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: the end of a relationship, or massive changes in your
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: life where you know you're sort of grieving a previous chapter.
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: And I think this isn't typically the sort of book
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: that I would pick up or listen to. I think
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: a lot of people would reach for this book when
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: they're experiencing grief. But I actually think a lot of
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: people should read this book in their twenties because, like
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: the book covers, loss and change in life is inevitable,
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: and I think that reading or listening to this book
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: could really prepare a lot of people on how to
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: deal with that when it eventually happens. I do think
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: that if you are experiencing grief or loss of any kind,
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: definitely reach for this book. I think because Yanna is
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: a therapist, you know, she talks a lot about a
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: lot of practical tools and things that you can do
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: to get through it. And you know, she has and
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: she is an expert in this area, so she knows
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: what she's talking about. But she also lost her own
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: mom unexpectedly when she was twenty one, so she kind
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: of pulls in both a lot of her practical expertise
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: and knowledge and then also her lived experience.
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: And yeah, I just really loved it.
• 33:53
  Speaker 3: I think that it's like I almost was like, this
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: is like a good preventative read for me, you know,
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: like something to just prepare me for things that will
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: inevitably happen.
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: And I think one of the last chapters of the.
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: Book was about the fear of losing someone and how
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: even the fear of grief can be really paralyzing for
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: a lot of people and how to get through that,
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: because I think it's really easy to be like, oh, well,
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: you know, like these things are going to happen anyway,
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: so why worry about it now? Why stress about it now?
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: It's really easy to say that.
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: But that's not going to be like, oh okay, great,
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: well then I won't want It's like someone sad and
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: they're like, don't be sad, and you're like, oh, exactly, yeah.
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: But yeah, I just even that in itself I was like, wow,
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: like that is such like a good good reminder, and
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: I think something like, really it was sad, but it
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: was really comforting at the same time.
• 34:50
  Speaker 4: And I think that.
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: This book could be really helpful for people to get
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: through some of those really hard times and just know
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: that you will get through the other side, no matter
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: what you're grieving or no matter what change you're experiencing
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: in your life.
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: I'm crying.
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: Shit because she's a podcast host as well.
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: The audiobook is great.
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: It was a really easy and nice listen, so definitely
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: check it out.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, the fuck, I'm le oh, this sounds beautiful.
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  Speaker 2: Great book.
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: Rex, Yeah, but I us go thrown of glass everyone.
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  Speaker 2: I await your DM. Should we get into advice with
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: the chicks? Let's get into it.
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: How do I stop seeking external gratification from others? I
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: feel like most of my outfits I wear or shopping
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: I buy is dependent on if I think someone else
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: will think I'm the it girl. It is a tiring feeling.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: But in this society where your worth is based off
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  Speaker 1: what brand you're wearing or how your body looks in clothes,
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: I don't know how to overcome it. This problem has
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: now turned into a major shopping problem in which I'm
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: self aware enough to know I'm seeking that high every
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: time I buy, because I'm one step closer to being
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: that it girl. Would love if you could help me
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  Speaker 1: out love your chicks. Oh my god, I just want
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: to give you a big cuddle. That is so so
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: so relatable.
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: I've been there.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Can I just say you are not alone in that,
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: because that is exactly how like you're supposed like you're
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: told to feel by like society and by brands and
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  Speaker 1: by everyone.
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  Speaker 2: And that is why.
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  Speaker 1: We see these changing it girls. That is why, and
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: we did a whole episode on it. I really encourage
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: you to listen to it. It's called Women Aren't Fucking Trends.
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: It's basically a forty minute rant about this with a
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  Speaker 1: lot of important information, but it's that whole thing of
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: how you know, there's the that girl, Then there was
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: Tomato Girl, Then there was like Espretho Martini.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, like soft girl, even brat like Brat.
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  Speaker 1: Summer and clean girl, and while all of these things
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: you can pull inspiration from, and that's really big messaging
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  Speaker 1: that like trends are okay if you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: be the trend.
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  Speaker 2: You can pull inspiration from these things.
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  Speaker 1: But what's really difficult to do is that exactly like
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  Speaker 1: it's being told constantly that this is this is the
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: ideal woman, this is who she should be. And then
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: it's like, okay, okay, I bought that stuff. I'm good now,
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: and it's like oh jokes, no, no, it's just one sorry,
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: go over here, yehs bitch, I go over here and
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  Speaker 1: be this girl.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: Now you've got all that stuff. Now I'll cool wardrobe change.
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: And it is set up in a way that you know,
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  Speaker 1: we're always, never, ever ever going to be the girl
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  Speaker 1: and if that's all we're training our brains to be.
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  Speaker 1: And this is something that you know, we've both really
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: had to pull ourselves out of, is.
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  Speaker 2: That that is really really boring.
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: It is so boring to be that girl and that
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: chick and you know, the tomato girl and the potato
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  Speaker 1: girl and the espresso martini girl, Because who the fuck.
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  Speaker 2: Are you at the end of the day.
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  Speaker 1: If you are always being you know something else, you
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  Speaker 1: never actually get to be you.
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: And where is the fun in that?
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: And as soon as you identify, like what your style
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: is and what makes you feel hot and what makes
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: you feel good and not confident in all that stuff.
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  Speaker 2: You end up being like, oh, do you know that's
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: not really my vibe?
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And you can be like, oh, that's really cool,
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: but it's not really going to fit within my aesthetic
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: because it doesn't work with the other things I have
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  Speaker 3: in my wardrobe, doesn't fit in that character that is me.
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: Whereas when you're trying to adapt to all of these
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: different trends all of the time, that's going to keep
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: you in that constant cycle of having to buy something new.
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: So I like that like sit down and like have
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: a think about the things that you genuinely love, the
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: style icons that you always find yourself going back to,
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: and come up with your own aesthetic that is just
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  Speaker 3: you and that's it. And look at the pieces in
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  Speaker 3: your wardrobe and how you can restyle them and play
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  Speaker 3: with them and like make different outfits from what you
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: already have and know that you can still have fun
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  Speaker 3: with your clothes without having to buy something new every
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: single time a new trend comes around.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I know it's really hard and I know it's really tricky,
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: but pulling it back to being like, what is my uniform?
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  Speaker 1: What is the thing that makes me feel good? What
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  Speaker 1: is my character?
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: What is my sin?
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  Speaker 1: What is like who I am? That makes me feel good?
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: Because if you're always trying to be the next thing,
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, you can be so tired and.
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  Speaker 2: It is so tiring.
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  Speaker 1: And as soon as I started looking at it like that,
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: as in, like what's my vibe?
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like me, like genuinely what is your vibe?
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: Because I do think there is so much power to
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: be had in expressing yourself through your clothes, but doing
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: it in a way that is authentic to you rather
• 39:58
  Speaker 3: than mirroring whatever is on trend.
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  Speaker 2: Look at the things you liked growing up.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: Look at you know, when you watched movies growing up,
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  Speaker 1: Who did you really like?
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  Speaker 2: Whose style would you really love?
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: Like that kind of thing, because that will really tell
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  Speaker 1: you who and what styles and things that make you
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  Speaker 1: feel confident in what you kind of gravitate towards, because
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: when you're younger, you have a lot less of the
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: narrative pushed onto you. Yeah, so I think that all
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: that is what helped me be like what do I love?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: Have fun with that, make like a Pinterest board, make
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: this like a fun activity, and figure out who you
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: are as a character. Love it?
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Anyway, Well that is a wrap of this episode.
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: To check your job. To the boogie Woogie women, we
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: hope you loved it. A bit of a chaotic episode,
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: but aren't they all yeah? Is it life? Just chaos?
• 40:52
  Speaker 7: It is?
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: Well, love your chicks.
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: Thanks for having us in your ear holes.
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  Speaker 3: We love to be here, and thanks to m ik
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  Speaker 3: Made for making today's episode happened.
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  Speaker 2: And read through a boss. See you at the library,
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  Speaker 2: see you at the library bay.
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  Speaker 4: Sorry,