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[Part 4 of 5] The Small Holiday Tweaks That Create Big ADHD Wins (Parents Can’t Believe the Difference) · Raising ADHD: Real Talk For Parents & Educators

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  Apryl: There's this moment ADHD parents never forget it's not dramatic and it's not Instagram worthy.
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  Apryl: It's that moment you suddenly realize wait, this thing actually worked.
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  Apryl: The meltdown didn't happen, the morning didn't explode, your kid didn't spiral, dinner wasn't chaos, and for a few seconds the whole house felt calm.
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  Apryl: You almost didn't trust it.
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  Apryl: You think, is this a fluke?
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  Apryl: But it's not.
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  Apryl: It's your brain finally getting a little bit of structure, a little bit of sensory safety, and a boundary that protects everybody.
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  Apryl: Today we're talking about those wins.
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  Apryl: Welcome to Raising ADHD, the podcast for parents and teachers raising ADHD kids.
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  Apryl: If you've ever felt frustrated, overwhelmed, or just unsure what to do next, you're not alone.
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  Apryl: I'm April Bradford, a former teacher and ADHD mom, and alongside my husband, Dr.
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  Apryl: Brian Bradford, a child and adolescent psychiatrist, we're here to give you the clarity, strategies, and support you've been looking for.
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  Apryl: Every week we break down the misconceptions, answer your biggest questions, and share real tools you can use right away at home and in the classroom.
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  Apryl: So if you're ready to feel more confident and less overwhelmed, you're in the right place.
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  Apryl: Hey guys, welcome back to Raising ADHD.
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  Apryl: I'm April Bradford.
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  Apryl: If you're new here, welcome.
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  Apryl: And here alongside me is my husband, Dr.
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  Apryl: Brian Bradford.
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  Apryl: Hello, Brian.
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  Apryl: Hi, April.
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  Apryl: Today, if you've been following our holiday series, episodes one, two, and three, we are winding down the series, but you now understand the ADHD holiday paradox.
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  Apryl: You know how to run the 10-minute reset routine, and you've busted the three myths that keep your family stuck and may potentially be ruining your holidays.
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  Apryl: So today is the day where everything clicks and you're actually gonna start seeing what actually changes when your child has the tools their brain needs.
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  Apryl: So we are going to dive in with wins.
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  Apryl: We all need wins when it comes to ADHD because we know sometimes they are few and far between.
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  Apryl: So we are diving into wins, and the first one we're gonna start off with is mornings, the pressure cooker of ADHD families.
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  Apryl: One small change, a consistent first thing we do, everyday anchor, changes the entire tone of the day because we know mornings can be one of the toughest parts of the day.
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  Apryl: So doing this, these little anchors can help your entire day.
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  Brian: Yep.
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  Brian: We touched on this in the past, but those anchors are what start predictability.
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  Brian: So when you have that same just predictability every single day, then it's not an instant activation, it's not that like cortisol dopamine hit.
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  Brian: It's not the oh my gosh, novelty.
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  Brian: I need to find something.
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  Brian: This is that predictable, it it keeps your prefrontal cortex calm and everything firing.
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  Apryl: Yeah, it's the CEO of the brain.
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  Apryl: And when that CEO wakes up early, you get fewer tears, fewer where are my shoes moments, and more of those quiet little pockets of peace that make you think, okay, maybe we're gonna make it through today.
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  Apryl: Today's gonna be a good day.
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  Apryl: So that's win number one.
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  Apryl: When those structures are in place that we've talked about in the past episodes, that's what you're gonna start seeing.
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  Apryl: It's just those small little shifts, those little quiet pockets of time.
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  Brian: So win number two, we're calling the sensory safety win.
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  Brian: And so this is a big one that most families are gonna notice this sensory win.
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  Brian: So not eliminating the noise, but protecting the brain from drowning in it.
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  Apryl: Because let's be honest, when you're at holiday parties and stuff, uh you can't necessarily uh drown out all the noise, right?
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  Brian: No, and I mean it it's just an impossible task in almost any things.
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  Brian: But some things like noise canceling headphones, sunglasses, or this like five-minute break in the car, these can be that that sensory win.
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  Brian: And they're they're very simple things.
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  Brian: This is not a dramatic intervention.
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  Brian: This is just here's your noise canceling headphones, we're going to grandma's house.
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  Apryl: Yep.
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  Apryl: Super simple.
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  Apryl: And because of these super simple little things that you can implement, the meltdown doesn't happen, the shutdown doesn't hit, your kid lasts longer at your holiday events, and you stop walking on eggshells.
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  Apryl: Because we know that that can be very hard when we are wondering when our kid's gonna explode.
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  Brian: The sensory research shows that supporting the nervous system like this can reduce meltdowns.
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  Brian: So, and ADHD kids, all the neurodivergent kids, but the ADHD kids, they feel this difference immediately.
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  Apryl: Yeah, so it's just these little simple things that we've been talking about that gets you this win.
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  Apryl: You get to stay at the party a little bit longer.
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  Apryl: Your kid didn't melt down.
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  Apryl: Let's talk about win number three, and this is one that um can be a huge win if you implement it and it's boundaries.
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  Apryl: This is the quiet hero of ADHD families, especially when it comes to the holidays.
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  Apryl: Saying no to that one tradition, it's okay to say no.
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  Apryl: Or leaving an event 30 minutes early.
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  Apryl: That's also okay.
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  Apryl: Protecting bedtime, being like, no, we gotta go.
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  Apryl: Like our bedtime's at this time, and that's what we do.
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  Apryl: And for sure, letting go of that perfect holiday Pinterest version of yourself, because let's be honest, that just creates guilt, shame, all the things for all of us, whether our kids are neurodivergent or not.
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  Apryl: So let go of that perfect Pinterest holiday that you have in your mind.
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  Apryl: I actually saw a quote today, can't remember where I saw it, but it was like Um instead of trying to create the perfect holiday moment, be in the moment.
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  Apryl: Social media and Pinterest has definitely made it feel that way of like, oh, we're trying to create this perfect moment, but just be in the moment, be there with your kids, be engaged, interacting.
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  Brian: It's gonna be way better.
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  Brian: So the boundaries they give you an immediate win, and the whole family can feel this win.
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  Brian: There's less guilt, less resentment, less overstimulation, less pressure that turns these kids into fireworks.
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  Apryl: Yeah, and when families set just even one boundary, the holidays shift from that barely surviving to like, oh wow, like I actually enjoyed that.
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  Apryl: Especially like, you know, you go to the party and you're like, okay, we're gonna leave because we know our kid's gonna melt down at seven o'clock.
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  Apryl: We're gonna leave at 6:45.
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  Apryl: And that's your boundary.
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  Apryl: And then you leave and you're like, oh my gosh, I actually enjoyed the party.
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  Apryl: I got to interact and engage and chat with people and have fun.
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  Apryl: But then I also wasn't worried about my kid melting down.
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  Apryl: Like I knew we left before the meltdown and it was all good.
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  Apryl: And for our teachers, when you keep that routine steady, even while weaving in those holiday activities, you give every child a sense of safety and they're that their nervous system is desperate for.
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  Apryl: And it's super helpful because by doing this, the parents can feel it at home too, because the kids come home more regulated, less exploded, explosive, and less chaotic.
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  Apryl: So not only does it help in the classroom, it's also going to help when they get home as well.
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  Apryl: It is literally one of the greatest gifts that you can give.
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  Apryl: I found like, as you know, I taught, the longer I taught, the more I realized this.
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  Apryl: This was a gift not just to my ADHD kiddos, but it was a gift to me too when we had those structured days instead of feeling the chaos of everything out of it wasn't out of control, but it felt that way because I wasn't on my regular routine.
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  Apryl: So give yourself a gift and give your ADHD kiddos a gift too.
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  Apryl: Our final win that this one always catches parents off guard is when the structure comes back, when that sensory overload is reduced and when boundaries protect the family, your child's emotional regulation changes.
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  Brian: Right.
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  Brian: So you're gonna see less crashes, faster recovery, and they can just have more flexibility, which is ironic when we're talking build structure, and then this can create flexibility.
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  Brian: Gives more room for them to be flexible.
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  Apryl: Mm-hmm.
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  Apryl: Because they know the routine, and so it's like, okay, I can be flexible on some things instead of everything just being chaos, their brain can't like handle any more flexibility.
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  Brian: Right.
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  Brian: And they can have flexibility and still maintain composure.
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  Apryl: Yep.
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  Apryl: And the best part about this is the very biggest win is when you stop trying to survive the holidays and you start seeing these little wins, you start enjoying your kid again.
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  Apryl: And that's the key to all of this.
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  Apryl: That's the magic of being able to implement this holiday series that we've gone through.
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  Apryl: Um, is enjoying your kid again.
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  Apryl: So next week, we are giving you the ADHD holiday survival plan.
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  Apryl: We are giving you the entire step-by-step system that is going to give you these wins and that's going to help your family actually enjoy the rest of December and the holidays without burning out.
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  Apryl: So if you listen to one more episode in the series, make sure that it is that one.
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  Apryl: So make sure that you are subscribed to the podcast so you don't miss next week's episode, the ADHD holiday survival plan.
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  Apryl: And our goal is to help the most families that we can as possible.
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  Apryl: Um, we'll see you next week, same time, same place.
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  Brian: Thanks so much for joining us for today's conversation on raising ADHD.
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  Brian: Remember, raising ADHD kids doesn't have to feel overwhelming.
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  Brian: Small shifts can make a big difference.
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  Brian: And don't forget to join us next week for more real talk, practical tips, and encouragement.
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  Brian: Until then, you've got this, and we've got your back.