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The WORST Thing We Can Do ... and What Happened When I Did it Last Week! · Overwhelmed to Overcomer

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  Hello and happy Thursday.
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  Okay, hold on.
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  I can't hear my own self.
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  Let's do something about this.
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  Okay.
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  Is this on?
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  It's on.
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  All right, we're gonna start again.
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  Hello, happy Thursday.
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  She considers a field family.
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  Okay, so I'm coming in a little hot today.
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  Like I have, like we've just been through it with the Lord and I am very clear.
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  Here's the deal.
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  Here's the deal.
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  When we choose to step into a space in a more public way, in a bigger way, saying,
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  you know what, I have a thing that I feel like you called me to say, and I'm willing
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  to step out and say it, he will not leave us there.
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  He will train us and shepherd us so that we can be well seasoned.
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  Okay?
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  It is a beautiful walk.
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  It is a very humbling walk.
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  So I just got all kinds of humbled up one way and down the other over the weekend
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  this past weekend.
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  I'm recording this on a Monday.
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  And so I just am like, Lord, help me to, I'm just going to pray.
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  We're going to do that first.
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  Lord, help me to communicate the gifts that you've given me over the past
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  weekend, the things that you have shown me so clearly, reminded me of so deeply.
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  And I pray that it would minister to all of these folks, all these men and women,
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  probably mostly women who are listening here, that they would feel.
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  just fortified for the journey, Lord.
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  Fortified for this work to which you have called us.
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  In your holy name, amen.
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  Okay.
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  So.
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  Sorry, Leslie.
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  Like there is an audio book that is very loud in the background.
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  I don't know if it's coming through on this.
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  They have to turn off the audio.
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  Move it, please.
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  It's super loud.
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  So obviously we're cutting all of this stuff.
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  Like, can you hear this?
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  I can hear it through my headphones.
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  Okay, sounds like they moved it.
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  No, maybe not.
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  Alright, hopefully we're good.
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  Okay, so y 'all listen, when we step out, we will be stretched.
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  Okay, so here is what I want to tell you.
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  The very worst thing that you can do when endeavoring to be faithful in the work to
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  which the Lord has called you is start to look at the results.
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  Okay, it's the worst thing you can do.
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  And I started doing it this past weekend and it took me down hard.
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  By the end of the weekend, I was like, can I curl up in a ball and just hide under a
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  blanket until like maybe until I have grandchildren?
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  Like maybe I'll come out then, that sounds fun.
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  You know, just a decade or two, that's all I need, just a decade or two.
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  No one will miss me, no one needs me.
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  I made it all up, my kids don't even care.
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  Like it was bad, we were in some bad spaces.
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  I was like, I was ready to call the whole thing off.
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  And of course I knew at the time it was.
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  It was a head game, right?
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  I was in my head.
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  But I looked back when the dust kind of settled today and I was like, it doesn't
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  matter.
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  Like I don't, I just need to do the work the Lord has called me to do.
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  I was like, what made this weekend so hard?
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  And I realized I was looking at the results and I'd actually just had a
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  coaching call along these lines on a totally different subject matter.
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  But good night.
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  If you're a homeschool mom, if you're an entrepreneur,
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  The worst thing we can do is look at the results because we are doing work that
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  requires decades, not days and weeks and months.
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  Especially, it is especially, well, it's really dangerous to look at results in
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  both directions.
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  But if we start looking at results, here's what happens.
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  If we start looking at results as far as our children are concerned, we tend to
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  look at the moment.
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  They won't sit still for school.
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  They fight me on everything.
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  The house is a mess.
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  I'm so worn down.
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  They're still not learning this.
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  We still need therapy for that.
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  And we start to feel this anxiety of it's never, we're never going to get there.
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  And instead of seeing all the victories that have already come to pass, like they
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  wipe their own bottoms now.
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  Hello.
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  Can I get an amen?
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  Is that not a huge win as a parent?
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  Right?
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  We're past the stage where I have to buckle everybody's seatbelt.
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  we're past the stage where I'm getting woken up in the middle of the night.
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  They've actually learned how to tidy up after themselves.
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  It's not perfect, but they do it.
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  Instead of celebrating those things, we look at the things that aren't finished
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  yet.
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  And we tend to weaponize those against ourselves.
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  Well, other kids are doing this by now, or so -and -so doesn't have this problem, or
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  it's been eight years and it hasn't happened yet.
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  You know what?
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  For some developmental things, that's incredibly normal.
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  Incredibly normal.
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  that they're eight years old and they still haven't done X, Y, or Z, right?
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  So that's the danger with homeschooling is it's a long slog.
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  And really what we're trying to instill in them is the work of a lifetime in some
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  ways.
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  How to walk in your fullness before the Lord, how to be all that he has called you
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  to be and do all that he's called you to do, how to be faithful, how to work well,
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  how to have a good work ethic, how to love learning.
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  These are lifetime skills.
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  and then in our work.
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  Well, this we can almost weaponize against ourselves more easily because when we look
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  in the homeschool arena, we're all doing the same thing.
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  We're all trying to raise these people up, right?
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  But in the business world, sometimes we're running alongside of people who actually
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  have kids in school all day.
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  Our results are going to look very different during the season of our lives,
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  which is part of why I created this podcast because every training I went to,
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  Every guru I listened to, they were talking about discipline and encouraging
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  people to really be faithful and be intentional about their work time.
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  When they were talking to people who had a good six hours a day on their own, if not
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  really, empty nesters didn't have people necessarily relying on them unless they
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  were caring for an aging parent or something like that.
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  So it was a very different dynamic.
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  And even those who work outside the home and then do a business,
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  They go home and the evenings can look fairly predictable, but this homeschool
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  life, it's like a brave new world.
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  When you try to sit down an entrepreneur and you've got kiddos coming in with
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  different questions and different needs, and then there's a therapy, and then
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  there's a sporting event, and we're trying to put that as priority, we're working a
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  business in maybe a couple of hours a day, maybe even not that.
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  And so how do we do that well?
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  and how do we not get stuck in the trap of comparing ourselves with other people?
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  And I'm just going to be really real, you guys.
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  I often make notes and get really intentional about here's what I want to
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  say.
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  Today, I'm just landing in your ear, and I'm saying, don't do what I did,
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  basically.
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  So here was the conversation that I'd had last week in a coaching call with a
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  client.
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  We were talking about...
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  this parable and we were taught or not this parable this moment in Christ's life
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  with Peter and we were talking about how challenging it can be to be called out on
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  the water and not look at the waves.
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  So here's the moment.
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  The disciples have gone on ahead of Christ.
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  They're on the boat.
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  The wind and the waves are crazy.
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  Okay.
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  So after he had dismissed the crowds and this is in Matthew, I'm pretty sure.
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  Let me make sure.
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  Matthew 14.
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  Okay.
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  So,
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  After he had dismissed the crowds, he went up on the mountain by himself to pray.
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  When evening came, he was there alone, but the boat by this time was a long way from
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  the land, beaten by the waves, for the wind was against them.
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  And in the fourth watch of the night, he came to them, walking on the sea.
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  But when the disciples saw him walking on the sea, they were terrified and said,
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  it's a ghost.
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  And they cried out in fear.
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  But immediately, and I just love that, immediately, Jesus spoke to them, saying,
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  take heart, it is I.
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  Do not be afraid.
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  And Peter answered him, Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the
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  water.
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  He said, come.
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  So Peter got out of the boat and walked on the water and came to Jesus.
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  But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and beginning to sink, he cried out, Lord,
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  save me.
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  Jesus immediately, there it is again, immediately reached out his hand and took
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  hold of him, saying to him, Oh, you of little faith, why did you doubt?
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  And when they got into the boat, the wind ceased.
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  and those in the boat worshiped him saying, truly you are the son of God.
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  Okay, here's the deal.
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  We historically, at least when I was growing up in the church, we kind of liked
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  to give Peter a hard time.
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  And I always heard Jesus's voice as being like, oh, you have little faith, why did
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  you doubt?
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  But someone who literally is love embodied and who knew from the beginning of time,
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  that he was going to have to come and live a sinless life and die because we were so
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  broken.
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  That was the only way we were going to get to him.
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  He's not surprised by this moment, right?
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  He is not like, what?
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  You lost faith when things got hard?
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  That's so weird.
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  No one's ever done that before, right?
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  He knows.
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  He knows us.
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  He knows us.
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  And so I've heard it described more almost like an endearment, like how in...
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  Hind's Feet on High Places, which is a beautiful parable story, if you haven't
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  found your way to it, by Hannah Hernard.
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  So the main character in that book is called Much Afraid.
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  So it's almost like he's saying, oh, Much Afraid, why do you doubt?
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  Why'd you doubt?
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  Why did he doubt?
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  Because he looked at the wind.
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  It was a crazy night.
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  It was really wavy.
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  It was really windy.
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  And so I don't know, wavy's not really a word.
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  But anyway, it was bad out there.
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  And...
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  Yet, Peter chose to come.
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  And while he was looking at Christ, he was able to come to Jesus.
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  It was when he looked at the waves that he started to sink, because he saw his
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  circumstances and he's like, this does not look good.
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  I am not okay right now.
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  And friends, that's where I was this past weekend.
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  When we look at the results, it can get really bad.
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  It can get really bleak sometimes.
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  Things can feel hard.
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  Things can feel lonely.
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  Things can feel disappointing.
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  And in the natural, we start to see those things and the more we look at them, the
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  larger they loom.
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  Where we can reach a point where it's all we see.
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  And this is why again and again in scripture, we're called to seek first the
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  kingdom of God and his righteousness.
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  And then what does it say?
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  All these things.
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  will be added to you.
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  He is source.
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  He is the one who gets to decide what it's going to look like.
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  We all want some evidence, right?
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  Just prove to me that I'm on the right track.
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  Prove to me that I didn't make it all up.
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  But if we're really going to grow something that lasts, it's going to be a
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  kingdom thing.
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  Think about Christ in his ministry, you guys.
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  He came and literally, what did he say after performing a miracle?
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  don't tell anybody, because he knew he wouldn't be able to even hardly go
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  anywhere.
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  And he knew too that most of the people that were coming to him during that time
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  while he was on Earth were almost kind of looking for, they were looking for the
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  miracle.
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  They were not looking for the miracle maker.
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  They were looking for the healing, the deliverance, the food, right?
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  What is that line?
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  Oh, the woman at the well.
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  If you knew who you were speaking to, then you would ask and you would receive living
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  water and the well would basically never run dry.
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  And she's thinking that's pretty good because when did she have to come to draw
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  water?
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  She came in the heat of the day.
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  Usually, drawing water for the household was a, it was a social time for the women,
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  but she was an outcast with her five husbands and the sixth man that she was
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  living with wasn't her husband.
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  So she came in the heat of the day, which is why she encountered Christ, first of
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  all.
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  But she's like, yeah, give me the water.
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  Give me the water.
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  I want the water.
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  Give me the solution to my problem.
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  And so he said, don't tell anybody who I am.
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  And at the end of his ministry, he had lived in one small area of the world.
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  And he had impacted certainly hundreds, probably thousands of people.
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  But there was such an uprising against him.
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  that the religious leaders were able to crucify him without the crowd completely
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  taking them out.
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  Why?
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  Because they got their party trick, right?
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  The list of people who truly loved him, who truly knew him as Lord was very short.
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  And yet, as the centuries and generations have progressed, look at the impact he has
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  made.
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  Now he's God, but we have God in us.
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  And we are called to do likewise with him, which means that the things that we are
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  called to do may look really small sometimes.
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  It may be like, are we going anywhere?
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  Like, what are we doing trying to pay down debt, trying to grow a business, trying to
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  educate our children?
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  When we look at our results, when we look at the waves, we can feel deep
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  discouragement.
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  And I think it's important, friends, for us to just remind each other of that.
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  The waves are the wrong place to look.
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  again and again and again, let us remind ourselves and let us remind one another.
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  Our call is to look full on his wonderful face.
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  Okay, it's a beautiful, that's a beautiful hymn that I went to a church for a season
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  where we sang it at the end of every church service.
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  Turn your eyes upon Jesus, look full on his wonderful face and the things of earth
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  will grow strangely dim in the light of his glory
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  and grace.
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  It is when we look to him that we are satisfied.
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  It is when we look to him that we are at peace and at rest.
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  And it is when we look to him that we can shoulder our burden once again and
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  continue to walk forward to do the holy sanctifying work to which he has called
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  us.
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  Not perfectly, but well.
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  I know I could say a lot more about this, but I'm going to leave it there.
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  Just a really
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  quick sound bite to encourage you today.
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  I know the shorter it is, the more likely it is you're going to listen to this.
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  So be of good cheer, friend.
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  Rest easy.
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  He has got you.
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  Okay?
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  And that is why I can say that you have got this.
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  Until next time, take care.