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Stop Reasoning, Start Winning: Own Your Responsibility · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is your Winning Wednesday episode,
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  Reasoning with Responsibility.
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  Listen, it's Winning Wednesday, and I'm flipping the script on the class today.
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  Because a lot of us keep saying we want to win. We want the business.
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  We want the promotion. We want the degree.
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  We want the healthy relationship.
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  We want the healthier body. We want financial freedom.
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  We want peace. We want purpose. We want promise. We want the results.
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  But when it's time to accept the responsibility attached to the results,
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  suddenly we want to have a meeting.
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  Now we're reasoning. Well, I was going to.
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  I know I need to, but I'm just waiting until maybe when things settle down.
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  I don't really feel motivated right now.
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  Baby, stop reasoning with your responsibility because sometimes the biggest
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  thing standing between you and what you say you want isn't another person.
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  It isn't a lack of opportunity. It isn't even a lack of ability.
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  Sometimes it's the fact that you keep trying to negotiate with what winning requires.
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  And winning ain't negotiating back.
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  The win comes with work.
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  Nobody told you this was going to be easy. And if somebody did get in your ear
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  and tell you that, well, as you have evidence of now, they lied.
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  Because this life thing, it ain't easy. Building something ain't easy.
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  Changing ain't easy. Healing ain't easy.
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  Parenting ain't easy. Saving money ain't easy.
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  Going back to school ain't easy. Getting healthy ain't easy.
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  Starting over ain't easy.
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  Breaking generational patterns ain't easy.
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  Choosing discipline when comfort is calling your name ain't easy.
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  But here's what I need you to understand. Hard does not mean impossible and
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  difficult does not automatically mean you're doing something wrong.
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  Sometimes difficulty is simply evidence that what you're building requires development.
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  You're developing discipline. You're developing endurance. You're developing wisdom.
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  You're developing patience. You're developing capacity You're developing you.
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  Because some victories require you to become strong enough to carry them.
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  You cannot want the result and resent the responsibility.
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  Let me come down somebody's street today. You can't keep asking for the outcome
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  while arguing with the obligations attached to it.
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  You want the business? There's responsibility. You want the marriage?
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  There's responsibility.
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  You want the degree? There's responsibility.
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  You want the promotion? There's responsibility. You want better finances? Responsibility.
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  You want a healthier body?
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  More responsibility. You want your life to change? There is responsibility.
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  And responsibility doesn't always feel good.
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  Sometimes responsibility looks like getting up when you would rather stay in bed.
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  Sometimes it's making the call you've been avoiding. Sometimes it's having the
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  uncomfortable conversation.
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  Sometimes it's saying no.
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  Other times it's saying yes. Sometimes it's starting over.
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  Other times it's admitting when
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  you are wrong. Sometimes it's putting the phone down and doing the work.
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  And sometimes it's praying and still having to get up afterward and participated
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  in what you just prayed about.
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  Because prayer is powerful. But sometimes after you say amen,
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  God is waiting on your action.
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  Here are five Ps. If we're going to win, I need us to stop reasoning and start responding.
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  And sometimes the response requires five things. One, push. One, push.
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  Push when you'd rather procrastinate. Push when you're uncomfortable.
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  Push when the excitement wears off.
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  Push when nobody is clapping. Push when you're doing the right thing and still
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  haven't seen the reward yet.
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  Because sometimes you don't need another sign. You need to start.
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  Number two, press. There's a reason pressing feels different from pushing.
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  A push gets something moving. A press keeps pressure on it.
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  Press when resistance shows up.
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  Press when things don't happen as quickly as you expected. Press when the first attempt doesn't work.
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  Press when plan A turns into plan B, plan C, and child, maybe even plan Q.
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  Don't mistake resistance for rejection.
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  Sometimes resistance is asking, how badly do you want this?
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  Three, pray and don't get it twisted. We are absolutely going to pray.
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  Pray before you move. Pray while you're moving.
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  Pray when you don't know which way to move. Pray when the plan works.
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  Pray when the plan falls apart.
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  But don't use prayer as permission to become passive.
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  You can pray for the door to open and still need to turn on the knob.
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  You can pray for opportunity and still need to prepare for it.
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  You can pray for financial increase and still need to manage what you already have.
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  You can pray for change and still have to change.
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  Faith is not an excuse to abandon responsibility.
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  Faith to strengthen you to face your responsibility.
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  Four, persevere. This one is for when it gets hard, because anybody can be committed
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  when commitment is convenient.
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  Perseverance shows up when you're tired, when you're frustrated,
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  when you haven't gotten the answer, when you're questioning whether it's working,
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  when you're doing everything you know to do and still haven't seen the breakthrough.
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  Perseverance says, I'm tired, but I'm not through.
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  And five persist persist
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  and finally i'm gonna say it again persist keep showing up
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  keep learning keep adjusting keep trying keep believing keep becoming because
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  sometimes winning isn't one gigantic moment
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  sometimes winning is a collection of small decisions made consistently when nobody was watching.
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  Push, press, pray, persevere, persist.
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  That's how we move through the process. Stop waiting to feel like it.
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  And child, this might be the part somebody doesn't want to hear.
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  You are not always going to feel like doing what your future requires.
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  Motivation is wonderful, but motivation is moody.
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  Some morning she's ready. Some morning she has apparently taken PTO.
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  That's why you need discipline. Discipline says, I don't have to feel like it to be faithful to it.
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  That's maturity. That's responsibility. That's how you start creating results
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  that don't depend on your mood.
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  Because if your commitment only works when you're excited, you're going to keep
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  starting things you never finish. And we're not doing that.
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  Reasoning can become an excuse in a business suit.
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  Now listen carefully. There is absolutely a time to reason. There is a time to reconsider.
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  There is a time to rest. There is a time to change direction.
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  There is a time to realize something no longer serves you.
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  Wisdom matters, but some of us aren't exercising wisdom.
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  We're dressing avoidance up in intelligent language.
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  We're calling fear being realistic. We're calling procrastination waiting for the right time.
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  We're calling inconsistency giving ourselves grace. And we're calling quitting protecting our peace.
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  Sometimes those things are true.
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  And sometimes there are convenient explanations for why we aren't doing what
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  we know we're supposed to do.
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  You have to be honest enough with yourself to know the difference.
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  Grace should help you get back up.
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  It should not become the couch you live on.
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  What does winning require from you? That's the question for today.
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  Not what do I want. We talk about what we want all the time.
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  Ask yourself, what does what I want require for me?
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  Does it require consistency, sacrifice, boundaries, education,
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  patience, healing, budgeting, training, accountability.
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  Courage, a conversation, a decision, a departure, a beginning?
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  Because once you identify the responsibility, stop reasoning with it. Do it.
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  Here's your fearless homework. This week, I want you to choose one win you're currently pursuing.
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  Not 10. 1.
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  Write it down. Then underneath it write, if I want blank, I am responsible for blank.
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  And I want you to be specific.
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  Then take your responsibility through the
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  five Ps. Push. What have I been procrastinating on that I need to start?
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  Press, where do I need to keep applying effort even though I'm experiencing resistance?
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  Pray, what do I need God's wisdom, strength, or direction concerning?
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  Persevere, what difficulty have I been tempted to interpret as a reason to quit?
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  Persist, what small action can I commit to doing consistently?
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  And here's the kicker. Before this week ends, take one measurable action toward that win.
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  Make the call. Submit the application. Do the workout.
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  Open the book. Create the budget. Schedule the appointment. Have the conversation.
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  Finish the assignment. Start the plan. Whatever your responsibility is, respond to it.
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  Because we are done reasoning with responsibilities we've already identified.
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  Listen, winning isn't always glamorous.
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  Sometimes winning looks like doing what needs to be done when nobody sees it.
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  Sometimes winning looks like trying again. Sometimes winning looks like discipline.
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  Sometimes winning looks like prayer. Sometimes winning looks like getting knocked
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  down, getting back up and saying, run it again.
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  You said you wanted it. You prayed about it. You talked about it. You envisioned it.
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  You wrote it down. Now there's only one question left.
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  What are you willing to do about it?
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  Nobody promised easy, but easy was never the requirement. Responsibility was.
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  So stop reasoning. Start responding.
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  Push. Press. Pray. Preserve. Persist. And let's get to work.
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  Because if you want to win at anything, especially your life,
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  you have a responsibility to participate in the victory.
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  Now go live fearless. Keep learning. Keep living.
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