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Smart But Scattered - Is Your Child Different or Neurodiverse? · Other Peoples Parenting

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  Hey,
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  everyone.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Other
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  People's
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  Parenting,
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  where
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  we
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  read
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  parenting
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  books
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  and
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  review
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  them
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  for
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  you.
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  I'm
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  Skylar
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  Hurwitz,
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  amateur
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  parent,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  mom,
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  Karen
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  Quinn,
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  New
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  York
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  Times
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  bestselling
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  author
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  and
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  founder
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  of
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  Habit
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  Coach
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  and
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  Testing
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  Mom.
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  Hello,
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  Mom.
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  Hi,
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  Skylar.
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  That's
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  a
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  very
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  snazzy
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  shirt
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  you've
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  got
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  on.
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  Oh,
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  thank
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  you.
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  Thank
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  you
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  very
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  much.
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  The
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  reason
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  I
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  wore
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  it,
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  I
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  just
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  want
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  to
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  tell
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  you,
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  is
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  I
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  was
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  watching
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  Only
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  Murders
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  in
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  the
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  Building
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  last
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  night,
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  but
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  of
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  course.
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  And
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  I
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  noticed
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  that
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  Meryl
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  Streep
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  was
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  wearing
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  the
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  same
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  shirt.
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  No
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  way.
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  Yes.
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  And
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  I
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  said,
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  oh,
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  my
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  God,
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  Meryl's
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  wearing
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  that
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  shirt.
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  I'll
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  wear
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  it
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  tomorrow
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  on
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  the
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  podcast.
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  I
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  love
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  that
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  it's
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  a
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  very
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  busy
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  pattern.
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  And
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  you
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  love
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  a
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  busy
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  pattern.
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  I
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  do.
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  I
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  do.
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  And
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  I
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  was
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  thinking,
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  you
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  know,
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  about.
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  I
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  have
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  seen
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  some
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  major
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  celebrities
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  in
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  the
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  last
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  year
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  or
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  so
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  wearing
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  things
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  that
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  I
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  have.
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  I
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  mean,
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  they're.
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  They're
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  following
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  me,
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  I
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  guess.
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  Trendsetter.
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  I
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  know,
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  I
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  know.
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  Cynthia
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  Eribo
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  wore
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  a
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  jacket
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  that
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  I
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  have
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  on
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  an
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  interview.
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  I
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  know.
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  And
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  Reba
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  McEntire,
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  remember
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  that
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  jacket
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  we
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  got?
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  What
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  a
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  spectrum.
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  I
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  know.
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  Celebs,
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  Very
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  different.
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  Reba
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  was
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  wearing
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  a
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  jacket.
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  You
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  know,
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  the
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  one
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  with
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  all
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  the
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  studs
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  and
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  diamonds
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  and
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  things
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  on
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  the.
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  Yes,
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  I
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  know.
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  The
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  exact
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  jacket
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  that
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  you're
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  talking
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  about.
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  Yeah.
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  That
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  we
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  bought
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  together.
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  And
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  I.
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  Very
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  Las
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  Vegas.
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  Very
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  Las
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  Vegas.
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  She
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  was
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  wearing
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  it
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  on
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  the
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  Voice,
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  and
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  I
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  got
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  very
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  excited.
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  But,
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  you
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  know,
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  I
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  still
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  haven't
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  worn
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  that
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  jacket
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  because
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  it
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  is
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  so.
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  It's
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  loud.
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  Loud.
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  Yeah,
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  it's
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  loud.
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  Where
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  do
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  you
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  wear
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  a
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  jacket?
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  You
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  wear
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  it
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  to
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  Sphere?
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  Yeah,
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  something
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  like
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  that.
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  Something
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  in
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  Las
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  Vegas.
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  But
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  even
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  in
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  Las
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  Vegas,
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  it
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  feels
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  like
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  a
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  lot.
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  That's
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  all
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  I
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  can
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  say.
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  But
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  then
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  if
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  it's
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  too
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  loud
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  for
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  Las
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  Vegas,
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  where
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  do
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  you
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  wear
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  it?
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  In
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  my
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  bedroom.
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  I
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  don't
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  know.
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  I
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  have
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  no
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  idea.
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  But
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  anyway,
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  I
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  like
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  it
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  when
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  a
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  celebrity
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  wears
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  something
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  that
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  I
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  actually
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  have.
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  Teen,
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  listen,
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  you're
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  ahead
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  of
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  the
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  game.
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  You're
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  before
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  the
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  times.
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  I
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  am.
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  I
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  get
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  these
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  things
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  on
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  sale,
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  but
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  they
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  probably
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  get
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  them
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  free.
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  You
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  never
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  know.
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  Yeah,
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  you
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  just
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  never
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  know.
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  That's
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  true.
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  Maybe
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  they
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  love
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  them
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  and
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  they
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  buy
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  them.
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  Listen,
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  you
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  never
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  know.
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  But
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  we
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  should
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  talk
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  about
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  the
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  book.
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  Yeah,
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  we
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  should
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  talk
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  about
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  our
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  books.
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  So
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  today
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  doing
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  Smart
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  But
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  Scattered
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  by
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  Peg
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  Dawson
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  and
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  Richard
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  Guare
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  Guarre.
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  I
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  don't
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  know
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  how
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  to
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  say
• 2:22
  his
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  name.
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  By
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  Pegan.
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  Rich.
• 2:23
  Peg
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  and
• 2:24
  Rich.
• 2:24
  Peg
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  and
• 2:24
  Rich.
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  And
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  this
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  is
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  a
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  classic
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  book
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  specifically
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  for
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  parents
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  who
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  have
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  kids
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  with
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  ADHD
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  and
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  any
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  other
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  executive
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  function
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  challenges,
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  which
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  we
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  have
• 2:35
  learned
• 2:35
  a
• 2:35
  lot
• 2:35
  about
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  in
• 2:36
  the
• 2:36
  last
• 2:36
  year
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  and
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  a
• 2:37
  half,
• 2:37
  two
• 2:37
  years,
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  because
• 2:39
  my
• 2:39
  mom
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  started
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  Habit
• 2:40
  Coach
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  very
• 2:41
  recently,
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  which
• 2:42
  is
• 2:42
  a
• 2:42
  company
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  that
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  actually
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  specializes
• 2:45
  in
• 2:45
  executive
• 2:46
  function
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  challenges.
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  Helping
• 2:48
  kids.
• 2:48
  Helping
• 2:49
  kids.
• 2:49
  Helping
• 2:49
  kids
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  like
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  you.
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  Executive
• 2:51
  function.
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  No,
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  it
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  doesn't.
• 2:53
  No,
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  no.
• 2:54
  We
• 2:54
  help
• 2:55
  kids
• 2:55
  that
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  have
• 2:56
  them,
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  and
• 2:57
  we
• 2:57
  help
• 2:57
  parents
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  deal
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  with
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  them.
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  And
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  it
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  all
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  came
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  about
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  because
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  you
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  have
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  adhd.
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  I
• 3:04
  have
• 3:05
  adhd.
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  I
• 3:06
  never
• 3:06
  understood
• 3:07
  the
• 3:07
  connection
• 3:08
  between
• 3:09
  executive
• 3:10
  functions
• 3:11
  and
• 3:11
  adhd.
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  Nobody
• 3:12
  ever
• 3:12
  explained
• 3:13
  it
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  to
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  me,
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  which
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  is
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  why
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  I
• 3:16
  probably
• 3:17
  made
• 3:17
  a
• 3:17
  lot
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  of
• 3:18
  mistakes
• 3:18
  bringing
• 3:19
  you
• 3:19
  up,
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  because
• 3:19
  I
• 3:19
  did
• 3:20
  not
• 3:20
  understand
• 3:20
  what.
• 3:21
  Don't
• 3:21
  be
• 3:21
  so
• 3:21
  hard
• 3:21
  on
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  yourself.
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  Well,
• 3:22
  I'm
• 3:23
  just
• 3:23
  saying
• 3:23
  I
• 3:24
  did.
• 3:24
  And
• 3:25
  so
• 3:25
  we
• 3:25
  want
• 3:25
  to
• 3:25
  help
• 3:26
  parents
• 3:27
  whose
• 3:28
  kids
• 3:28
  are
• 3:28
  struggling,
• 3:29
  who
• 3:29
  are
• 3:29
  challenged,
• 3:31
  know
• 3:32
  how
• 3:32
  to
• 3:32
  help
• 3:32
  their
• 3:32
  kids.
• 3:32
  And
• 3:33
  actually,
• 3:34
  this
• 3:34
  is
• 3:34
  a
• 3:34
  book
• 3:35
  that.
• 3:37
  That
• 3:37
  I
• 3:38
  recommend
• 3:38
  to
• 3:38
  parents
• 3:39
  whose
• 3:39
  kids
• 3:39
  are
• 3:40
  struggling
• 3:41
  and
• 3:41
  whose
• 3:41
  kids
• 3:42
  might
• 3:42
  have
• 3:42
  an
• 3:42
  ADHD
• 3:43
  diagnosis.
• 3:44
  But
• 3:44
  even
• 3:44
  if
• 3:44
  they
• 3:44
  don't,
• 3:45
  if
• 3:45
  they
• 3:45
  are
• 3:46
  struggling
• 3:46
  with
• 3:46
  challenges
• 3:47
  like,
• 3:48
  you
• 3:48
  know,
• 3:48
  they
• 3:49
  lose
• 3:49
  control
• 3:50
  or
• 3:50
  they.
• 3:50
  Emotionally.
• 3:51
  Emotionally.
• 3:52
  Or
• 3:53
  impulse
• 3:53
  control.
• 3:54
  We
• 3:54
  have
• 3:54
  none
• 3:55
  of
• 3:55
  that.
• 3:56
  You
• 3:56
  and
• 3:57
  I.
• 3:58
  We
• 3:59
  have
• 3:59
  no
• 3:59
  impulse
• 3:59
  control.
• 4:00
  I
• 4:00
  have
• 4:00
  pretty
• 4:00
  bad.
• 4:01
  I
• 4:01
  have
• 4:01
  very
• 4:01
  bad
• 4:02
  impulse
• 4:03
  control.
• 4:03
  One
• 4:03
  thing
• 4:03
  people
• 4:04
  don't
• 4:04
  realize,
• 4:04
  actually,
• 4:05
  is
• 4:05
  that
• 4:06
  ADHD
• 4:07
  is
• 4:07
  often
• 4:08
  hereditary.
• 4:09
  Yes.
• 4:09
  So
• 4:09
  our
• 4:09
  theory
• 4:10
  is
• 4:10
  that
• 4:10
  my
• 4:11
  grandfather,
• 4:11
  my
• 4:11
  mom's
• 4:12
  dad
• 4:12
  had
• 4:12
  it,
• 4:13
  and
• 4:13
  then
• 4:13
  she
• 4:13
  had
• 4:14
  it,
• 4:14
  and
• 4:14
  now
• 4:14
  she
• 4:14
  gave
• 4:15
  it
• 4:15
  to
• 4:15
  me.
• 4:15
  Exactly.
• 4:16
  So,
• 4:17
  so
• 4:17
  much
• 4:17
  about
• 4:17
  adhd,
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  think
• 4:18
  a
• 4:19
  lot
• 4:19
  of
• 4:19
  parents
• 4:19
  really
• 4:20
  struggle
• 4:20
  around
• 4:20
  the
• 4:21
  stage
• 4:21
  stigma
• 4:21
  of
• 4:21
  the
• 4:22
  diagnosis,
• 4:23
  and
• 4:24
  chances
• 4:25
  are
• 4:25
  it
• 4:25
  came
• 4:26
  from
• 4:26
  them.
• 4:27
  Right,
• 4:27
  but
• 4:28
  neither
• 4:28
  here
• 4:28
  nor
• 4:28
  there.
• 4:29
  Right.
• 4:29
  Yeah.
• 4:30
  A
• 4:30
  diagnosis
• 4:31
  is
• 4:31
  not
• 4:31
  a
• 4:31
  determination.
• 4:33
  It
• 4:33
  is
• 4:33
  just
• 4:33
  information
• 4:34
  that
• 4:34
  we
• 4:35
  can
• 4:35
  use
• 4:35
  to
• 4:36
  then
• 4:36
  figure
• 4:37
  out,
• 4:37
  okay,
• 4:37
  how
• 4:37
  can
• 4:37
  I
• 4:38
  support
• 4:38
  my
• 4:38
  child
• 4:38
  in
• 4:39
  the
• 4:39
  areas
• 4:39
  that
• 4:39
  they're
• 4:40
  struggling.
• 4:40
  Right.
• 4:41
  And
• 4:41
  even
• 4:41
  if
• 4:41
  your
• 4:42
  child
• 4:42
  does
• 4:42
  not
• 4:42
  have
• 4:43
  adhd,
• 4:44
  the
• 4:44
  thing
• 4:44
  to
• 4:44
  understand
• 4:45
  is
• 4:46
  that
• 4:47
  we
• 4:47
  all
• 4:47
  have
• 4:48
  executive
• 4:48
  functions.
• 4:49
  There's
• 4:49
  about
• 4:49
  10,
• 4:50
  11
• 4:50
  of
• 4:51
  them.
• 4:52
  They
• 4:52
  start
• 4:53
  to
• 4:53
  develop
• 4:53
  from
• 4:53
  the
• 4:54
  time
• 4:54
  a
• 4:54
  child
• 4:54
  is
• 4:54
  born
• 4:55
  until
• 4:55
  they're
• 4:56
  25
• 4:56
  years
• 4:57
  old.
• 4:58
  And
• 4:59
  at
• 5:00
  any
• 5:00
  moment,
• 5:01
  a
• 5:01
  child
• 5:02
  can
• 5:02
  have
• 5:02
  four
• 5:03
  or
• 5:03
  five
• 5:04
  issues
• 5:04
  around
• 5:05
  their
• 5:05
  executive
• 5:06
  function
• 5:06
  skills
• 5:07
  that
• 5:07
  are
• 5:08
  causing
• 5:08
  them
• 5:08
  problems
• 5:09
  in
• 5:09
  their
• 5:10
  social
• 5:10
  life
• 5:11
  at
• 5:11
  school,
• 5:12
  at
• 5:12
  home.
• 5:14
  They
• 5:14
  don't
• 5:15
  have
• 5:15
  adhd,
• 5:15
  but.
• 5:16
  But
• 5:16
  they
• 5:16
  need
• 5:16
  help.
• 5:17
  And
• 5:17
  so
• 5:18
  you
• 5:18
  have
• 5:18
  to
• 5:19
  be
• 5:19
  looking
• 5:20
  for
• 5:20
  those
• 5:20
  kinds
• 5:21
  of
• 5:21
  things
• 5:21
  when
• 5:21
  your
• 5:22
  child,
• 5:23
  you
• 5:23
  know,
• 5:23
  let's
• 5:24
  say
• 5:24
  you
• 5:24
  have
• 5:24
  a
• 5:24
  child
• 5:24
  who
• 5:25
  refuses
• 5:26
  to
• 5:26
  clean
• 5:26
  their
• 5:26
  room
• 5:27
  and
• 5:27
  you
• 5:27
  want
• 5:28
  to
• 5:28
  punish
• 5:28
  them.
• 5:28
  I
• 5:29
  was
• 5:29
  that
• 5:29
  child.
• 5:30
  Well,
• 5:30
  yeah.
• 5:31
  And
• 5:31
  I
• 5:31
  mean,
• 5:31
  we've
• 5:32
  read
• 5:32
  books
• 5:32
  where
• 5:32
  they
• 5:33
  say
• 5:33
  if
• 5:33
  your
• 5:33
  child
• 5:33
  won't,
• 5:34
  you
• 5:34
  know,
• 5:34
  Clean
• 5:35
  their
• 5:35
  room,
• 5:36
  punish
• 5:36
  them.
• 5:37
  You
• 5:37
  know,
• 5:38
  one,
• 5:38
  useless,
• 5:39
  two,
• 5:39
  three,
• 5:40
  punish
• 5:40
  them.
• 5:41
  No,
• 5:41
  but
• 5:42
  if
• 5:42
  they
• 5:42
  have
• 5:43
  issues
• 5:44
  around
• 5:45
  organization,
• 5:46
  it's
• 5:47
  not
• 5:47
  that
• 5:47
  they're
• 5:47
  being
• 5:47
  defined.
• 5:48
  It's
• 5:49
  that
• 5:49
  they
• 5:49
  don't
• 5:49
  really
• 5:50
  know
• 5:50
  what
• 5:50
  to
• 5:50
  do.
• 5:50
  They
• 5:51
  don't
• 5:51
  know
• 5:51
  how.
• 5:51
  So
• 5:52
  punishment
• 5:52
  is
• 5:52
  really
• 5:53
  not
• 5:53
  the
• 5:53
  answer.
• 5:54
  And
• 5:54
  that's
• 5:55
  what
• 5:55
  this
• 5:55
  book,
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  think,
• 5:56
  is
• 5:56
  very
• 5:56
  helpful.
• 5:56
  It
• 5:57
  helps
• 5:57
  you
• 5:57
  understand,
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  know,
• 5:59
  what's
• 6:00
  behind
• 6:00
  a
• 6:00
  lot
• 6:00
  of
• 6:01
  behavioral
• 6:01
  issues
• 6:02
  and
• 6:02
  then
• 6:02
  how
• 6:03
  you
• 6:03
  can
• 6:03
  solve
• 6:03
  them.
• 6:04
  Another
• 6:04
  group
• 6:04
  of
• 6:05
  people
• 6:05
  that
• 6:05
  specifically
• 6:06
  has
• 6:06
  been
• 6:06
  impacted
• 6:07
  by
• 6:08
  developmental,
• 6:09
  not
• 6:10
  quite
• 6:10
  delays,
• 6:10
  but
• 6:11
  developmental
• 6:12
  interruptions
• 6:13
  are
• 6:13
  kids
• 6:14
  who
• 6:14
  were
• 6:14
  school
• 6:15
  age
• 6:15
  during
• 6:15
  the
• 6:15
  pandemic,
• 6:16
  particularly
• 6:17
  really
• 6:17
  young
• 6:17
  kids
• 6:18
  who
• 6:19
  I
• 6:19
  think
• 6:19
  could
• 6:19
  benefit
• 6:20
  from
• 6:20
  some
• 6:21
  sort
• 6:21
  of
• 6:22
  executive
• 6:22
  function
• 6:23
  support.
• 6:24
  Right,
• 6:24
  right.
• 6:25
  I
• 6:25
  mean,
• 6:25
  they
• 6:25
  missed
• 6:26
  years,
• 6:26
  particularly
• 6:27
  of
• 6:27
  social
• 6:28
  development.
• 6:29
  And
• 6:30
  they
• 6:31
  say
• 6:31
  that
• 6:31
  the
• 6:31
  major
• 6:32
  developmental
• 6:32
  window
• 6:33
  for
• 6:33
  kids
• 6:33
  is
• 6:34
  0
• 6:34
  to
• 6:35
  6.
• 6:35
  But
• 6:35
  I
• 6:35
  think,
• 6:36
  you
• 6:36
  know,
• 6:37
  6
• 6:37
  to
• 6:37
  13
• 6:38
  is
• 6:38
  also
• 6:39
  really
• 6:39
  important
• 6:39
  for
• 6:40
  social
• 6:40
  skills,
• 6:41
  learning
• 6:41
  nuance,
• 6:42
  reading
• 6:43
  faces,
• 6:44
  things
• 6:44
  like
• 6:44
  that.
• 6:45
  And
• 6:45
  they
• 6:45
  missed
• 6:46
  so
• 6:46
  much
• 6:46
  of
• 6:46
  that.
• 6:46
  And
• 6:47
  now
• 6:47
  that
• 6:48
  so
• 6:48
  much
• 6:48
  is
• 6:48
  digitized
• 6:49
  by
• 6:49
  vjooqic,
• 6:50
  they're
• 6:50
  losing
• 6:51
  all
• 6:51
  of
• 6:51
  this
• 6:52
  valuable
• 6:53
  social
• 6:53
  information.
• 6:55
  Right,
• 6:55
  that's
• 6:55
  true.
• 6:56
  And
• 6:56
  also
• 6:57
  just
• 6:57
  the
• 6:57
  proliferation
• 6:58
  of
• 6:58
  social
• 6:59
  media
• 7:00
  and
• 7:01
  kids
• 7:01
  using
• 7:02
  cell
• 7:02
  phones
• 7:02
  all
• 7:03
  the
• 7:03
  time.
• 7:04
  An
• 7:05
  important
• 7:05
  executive
• 7:06
  function
• 7:06
  skill
• 7:07
  is
• 7:09
  the
• 7:09
  ability
• 7:09
  to
• 7:10
  focus
• 7:11
  and
• 7:11
  not
• 7:12
  get
• 7:12
  distracted.
• 7:13
  And
• 7:13
  if
• 7:13
  your
• 7:14
  phone
• 7:14
  is
• 7:14
  sending
• 7:15
  you
• 7:15
  alerts
• 7:16
  all
• 7:16
  the
• 7:16
  time
• 7:17
  while
• 7:17
  you're
• 7:17
  trying
• 7:17
  to
• 7:17
  do
• 7:18
  your
• 7:18
  homework,
• 7:19
  it's
• 7:19
  very
• 7:19
  difficult
• 7:20
  to
• 7:20
  focus.
• 7:21
  Designed
• 7:22
  to
• 7:22
  fracture
• 7:22
  your
• 7:22
  attention,
• 7:23
  which
• 7:24
  affects
• 7:24
  not
• 7:25
  just
• 7:25
  when
• 7:25
  you're
• 7:25
  using
• 7:25
  your
• 7:26
  phone,
• 7:26
  but
• 7:27
  it
• 7:27
  permanently
• 7:28
  fractures
• 7:28
  your
• 7:29
  ability
• 7:29
  to
• 7:30
  hold
• 7:30
  an
• 7:30
  attention
• 7:30
  span.
• 7:31
  Right,
• 7:31
  right.
• 7:32
  So
• 7:32
  the
• 7:32
  things
• 7:33
  that
• 7:33
  are
• 7:33
  covered
• 7:33
  in
• 7:33
  the
• 7:33
  book,
• 7:34
  and
• 7:34
  we'll
• 7:34
  get
• 7:35
  into
• 7:35
  them,
• 7:36
  I
• 7:37
  think
• 7:37
  are
• 7:37
  really
• 7:37
  important
• 7:38
  for
• 7:38
  parents
• 7:38
  to
• 7:39
  understand.
• 7:40
  On
• 7:41
  a
• 7:41
  scale
• 7:41
  of
• 7:41
  scientist
• 7:42
  to
• 7:42
  parent,
• 7:42
  how
• 7:43
  readable
• 7:43
  was
• 7:43
  this
• 7:43
  book?
• 7:44
  Well,
• 7:44
  I
• 7:45
  wouldn't
• 7:45
  call
• 7:45
  it
• 7:45
  A5.
• 7:46
  A5,
• 7:47
  because
• 7:48
  it
• 7:48
  is
• 7:48
  a
• 7:49
  book
• 7:49
  that
• 7:49
  you
• 7:49
  have
• 7:50
  to
• 7:50
  focus
• 7:51
  when
• 7:51
  you're
• 7:52
  reading
• 7:52
  it.
• 7:52
  It's
• 7:52
  dense.
• 7:53
  Yeah.
• 7:53
  And
• 7:53
  there
• 7:53
  are
• 7:53
  a
• 7:53
  lot
• 7:54
  of
• 7:54
  surveys
• 7:54
  in
• 7:55
  the
• 7:55
  book
• 7:55
  to
• 7:56
  help
• 7:56
  you
• 7:56
  determine
• 7:57
  things
• 7:58
  about
• 7:58
  your
• 7:59
  children's
• 7:59
  executive
• 8:00
  functions.
• 8:00
  But
• 8:01
  honestly,
• 8:01
  I
• 8:01
  think
• 8:01
  the
• 8:01
  one
• 8:01
  on
• 8:02
  Habit
• 8:02
  Coach
• 8:02
  is
• 8:02
  better.
• 8:04
  I
• 8:04
  prefer
• 8:04
  the
• 8:04
  one
• 8:05
  that's
• 8:05
  on
• 8:05
  Habit
• 8:06
  Coach.
• 8:06
  Ours
• 8:06
  is
• 8:07
  very
• 8:07
  good.
• 8:07
  But
• 8:08
  I
• 8:08
  do
• 8:08
  like
• 8:08
  shorter.
• 8:09
  It's
• 8:10
  shorter,
• 8:10
  sweeter.
• 8:11
  But
• 8:11
  I
• 8:11
  do
• 8:11
  like
• 8:12
  using
• 8:12
  surveys
• 8:13
  because
• 8:13
  I
• 8:14
  think
• 8:14
  it
• 8:14
  helps
• 8:14
  you
• 8:14
  understand
• 8:15
  your
• 8:15
  child
• 8:16
  better
• 8:16
  and
• 8:17
  it
• 8:17
  helps
• 8:17
  you
• 8:17
  pinpoint,
• 8:19
  you
• 8:19
  know,
• 8:20
  okay,
• 8:20
  does
• 8:21
  my
• 8:21
  child
• 8:21
  have
• 8:22
  strengths
• 8:22
  and
• 8:22
  weaknesses?
• 8:23
  What
• 8:23
  are
• 8:23
  those
• 8:24
  strengths?
• 8:24
  What
• 8:24
  are
• 8:25
  those
• 8:25
  weaknesses?
• 8:25
  And
• 8:26
  so
• 8:26
  I
• 8:26
  think
• 8:26
  they're
• 8:26
  worth
• 8:27
  doing.
• 8:28
  They
• 8:28
  do
• 8:28
  give
• 8:28
  you
• 8:29
  a
• 8:29
  lot
• 8:29
  in
• 8:29
  this
• 8:29
  book.
• 8:30
  We
• 8:30
  do
• 8:30
  have
• 8:30
  them
• 8:31
  on
• 8:31
  Habit
• 8:31
  Coach
• 8:31
  as
• 8:32
  well,
• 8:32
  but
• 8:33
  yeah,
• 8:33
  so
• 8:33
  it's.
• 8:34
  It's
• 8:35
  and
• 8:35
  we
• 8:35
  can
• 8:35
  talk
• 8:35
  a
• 8:36
  little
• 8:36
  bit
• 8:36
  about
• 8:36
  the
• 8:36
  kind
• 8:36
  of.
• 8:37
  The
• 8:37
  differences.
• 8:37
  I
• 8:38
  mean,
• 8:38
  the
• 8:38
  book
• 8:38
  is
• 8:39
  a
• 8:39
  great
• 8:39
  resource,
• 8:40
  even
• 8:40
  if
• 8:40
  you're
• 8:41
  using
• 8:41
  habit
• 8:41
  coach
• 8:42
  just
• 8:42
  to
• 8:42
  really
• 8:43
  understand
• 8:43
  executive
• 8:44
  function.
• 8:44
  Great
• 8:45
  resource.
• 8:47
  And,
• 8:47
  you
• 8:47
  know,
• 8:48
  there
• 8:48
  may
• 8:48
  be
• 8:49
  a
• 8:49
  time
• 8:49
  when
• 8:50
  your
• 8:50
  child's
• 8:50
  issues
• 8:51
  become
• 8:51
  so
• 8:52
  acute
• 8:52
  that
• 8:52
  you
• 8:53
  want
• 8:53
  to
• 8:53
  get
• 8:53
  them
• 8:54
  some
• 8:55
  coaching.
• 8:55
  Yeah.
• 8:56
  And
• 8:56
  learn
• 8:56
  how
• 8:57
  to
• 8:57
  coach
• 8:57
  them
• 8:57
  yourself.
• 8:58
  Yes.
• 8:58
  Because
• 8:59
  that's
• 8:59
  hard.
• 9:00
  Right.
• 9:00
  And
• 9:00
  that's
• 9:01
  not
• 9:01
  natural
• 9:02
  for
• 9:02
  most
• 9:02
  people
• 9:03
  to
• 9:03
  understand
• 9:03
  how
• 9:04
  to
• 9:04
  coach
• 9:04
  your
• 9:05
  own
• 9:05
  child,
• 9:05
  especially
• 9:06
  because.
• 9:06
  Well,
• 9:07
  one
• 9:07
  thing
• 9:07
  they
• 9:07
  actually
• 9:08
  talk
• 9:08
  a
• 9:08
  lot
• 9:08
  about
• 9:09
  in
• 9:09
  this
• 9:09
  book
• 9:10
  is
• 9:10
  the
• 9:10
  fit.
• 9:11
  Right.
• 9:11
  Between
• 9:12
  parents
• 9:12
  and
• 9:12
  children.
• 9:13
  So
• 9:13
  often,
• 9:14
  if
• 9:14
  everybody
• 9:15
  has
• 9:15
  different
• 9:15
  executive
• 9:16
  skills
• 9:16
  and
• 9:16
  weaknesses.
• 9:17
  Right.
• 9:17
  And
• 9:18
  if
• 9:18
  your
• 9:18
  skills
• 9:19
  are
• 9:19
  so
• 9:20
  opposite
• 9:20
  from
• 9:21
  your
• 9:21
  child
• 9:22
  and
• 9:23
  their
• 9:23
  weaknesses
• 9:24
  are
• 9:24
  opposite
• 9:24
  from
• 9:25
  yours,
• 9:25
  you
• 9:25
  will
• 9:26
  have
• 9:26
  more
• 9:27
  conflict,
• 9:27
  typically.
• 9:28
  Because
• 9:29
  if
• 9:29
  they're
• 9:29
  comfortable
• 9:30
  living
• 9:30
  in
• 9:30
  a
• 9:30
  messy
• 9:31
  house.
• 9:31
  But
• 9:31
  you,
• 9:32
  like
• 9:32
  me
• 9:33
  now
• 9:33
  as
• 9:33
  an
• 9:33
  adult,
• 9:34
  don't
• 9:35
  like
• 9:35
  anything
• 9:35
  out
• 9:35
  of
• 9:36
  place.
• 9:36
  Right.
• 9:36
  That
• 9:37
  will
• 9:37
  be
• 9:37
  incredibly
• 9:38
  frustrating.
• 9:39
  And
• 9:39
  it
• 9:39
  was
• 9:40
  for
• 9:40
  me.
• 9:40
  I
• 9:40
  remember
• 9:41
  your
• 9:41
  room
• 9:41
  was
• 9:41
  a
• 9:42
  pigsty.
• 9:42
  I
• 9:43
  mean,
• 9:43
  it
• 9:43
  was.
• 9:44
  I
• 9:44
  have
• 9:44
  never
• 9:44
  seen
• 9:45
  a
• 9:45
  room
• 9:45
  messier
• 9:46
  than
• 9:46
  your
• 9:46
  room.
• 9:46
  My
• 9:46
  method
• 9:47
  was
• 9:47
  push
• 9:48
  everything
• 9:48
  into
• 9:49
  my
• 9:49
  closet
• 9:50
  and
• 9:50
  close
• 9:51
  the
• 9:51
  door.
• 9:51
  That
• 9:52
  was
• 9:52
  your
• 9:52
  cleanup
• 9:52
  method.
• 9:54
  And,
• 9:54
  you
• 9:54
  know,
• 9:54
  but
• 9:55
  I
• 9:55
  did
• 9:55
  not
• 9:55
  understand
• 9:57
  how
• 9:57
  to
• 9:57
  teach
• 9:57
  you
• 9:58
  how
• 9:58
  to
• 9:59
  clean
• 9:59
  a
• 9:59
  room.
• 9:59
  It
• 10:00
  never
• 10:00
  occurred
• 10:00
  to
• 10:00
  me
• 10:01
  that
• 10:01
  you
• 10:01
  did
• 10:02
  not
• 10:02
  know
• 10:02
  how
• 10:02
  to
• 10:02
  clean
• 10:03
  your
• 10:03
  room
• 10:03
  and
• 10:04
  that
• 10:04
  it
• 10:04
  was
• 10:04
  so
• 10:05
  overwhelming
• 10:05
  to
• 10:05
  you
• 10:06
  to
• 10:06
  even
• 10:06
  think
• 10:07
  about
• 10:07
  cleaning
• 10:08
  your
• 10:08
  room.
• 10:08
  Well,
• 10:09
  one
• 10:09
  thing
• 10:09
  now
• 10:09
  that
• 10:10
  I've
• 10:10
  learned
• 10:10
  is
• 10:11
  my
• 10:12
  environment,
• 10:12
  my
• 10:13
  home,
• 10:14
  my
• 10:14
  room
• 10:15
  is
• 10:15
  a
• 10:15
  direct
• 10:16
  reflection
• 10:16
  of
• 10:17
  my
• 10:17
  inner
• 10:17
  mental
• 10:18
  state.
• 10:18
  So
• 10:19
  if
• 10:19
  everything
• 10:19
  is
• 10:19
  a
• 10:19
  mess,
• 10:20
  it
• 10:20
  means
• 10:20
  I'm
• 10:21
  going
• 10:21
  through
• 10:21
  something.
• 10:22
  If
• 10:22
  everything
• 10:23
  is
• 10:23
  where
• 10:23
  it
• 10:23
  belongs,
• 10:24
  it
• 10:24
  means
• 10:24
  I
• 10:24
  am
• 10:25
  sound
• 10:25
  of
• 10:25
  mind.
• 10:26
  Well,
• 10:26
  that's
• 10:27
  interesting,
• 10:27
  because
• 10:27
  my
• 10:27
  apartment's
• 10:28
  kind
• 10:28
  of
• 10:28
  messy
• 10:29
  right
• 10:29
  now,
• 10:29
  and
• 10:29
  I'm.
• 10:29
  Are
• 10:30
  you
• 10:30
  sound
• 10:30
  of
• 10:30
  mind?
• 10:30
  I
• 10:31
  don't
• 10:31
  know.
• 10:31
  Maybe.
• 10:31
  Maybe
• 10:32
  I
• 10:32
  need
• 10:32
  to
• 10:32
  think
• 10:33
  about
• 10:33
  that.
• 10:33
  You
• 10:33
  know,
• 10:34
  maybe
• 10:34
  I
• 10:34
  need
• 10:34
  to,
• 10:34
  you.
• 10:35
  Know,
• 10:35
  dig
• 10:35
  deep,
• 10:35
  reflect,
• 10:36
  take
• 10:37
  a
• 10:37
  moment.
• 10:38
  I
• 10:38
  might.
• 10:39
  Maybe
• 10:39
  I'm
• 10:39
  going
• 10:39
  through
• 10:40
  something
• 10:40
  and
• 10:40
  I
• 10:40
  don't
• 10:40
  even
• 10:41
  realize
• 10:41
  it.
• 10:42
  Maybe
• 10:42
  if
• 10:42
  that's
• 10:43
  something
• 10:43
  that
• 10:43
  is,
• 10:43
  for
• 10:44
  you,
• 10:44
  really
• 10:45
  important.
• 10:45
  I've
• 10:45
  noticed.
• 10:46
  Notice
• 10:46
  that
• 10:46
  about
• 10:46
  myself.
• 10:47
  Right.
• 10:47
  Okay.
• 10:48
  All
• 10:48
  right.
• 10:48
  Well,
• 10:49
  unless
• 10:49
  I'm
• 10:49
  in
• 10:49
  a
• 10:49
  hotel.
• 10:50
  If
• 10:50
  I'm
• 10:50
  in
• 10:50
  a
• 10:51
  hotel,
• 10:51
  everything
• 10:52
  is
• 10:52
  everywhere
• 10:52
  and
• 10:52
  nothing
• 10:53
  is
• 10:53
  clean.
• 10:53
  It
• 10:53
  doesn't
• 10:54
  matter,
• 10:54
  because
• 10:54
  it's
• 10:54
  not
• 10:55
  my
• 10:55
  job.
• 10:56
  I'm
• 10:56
  on
• 10:56
  vacation.
• 10:57
  Yeah.
• 10:57
  All
• 10:57
  right.
• 10:58
  Well,
• 10:59
  let's.
• 10:59
  I
• 10:59
  want
• 10:59
  to
• 11:00
  talk
• 11:00
  about,
• 11:00
  like,
• 11:01
  what
• 11:01
  are
• 11:01
  these
• 11:02
  key
• 11:02
  skills?
• 11:04
  And
• 11:04
  what
• 11:05
  does
• 11:05
  it
• 11:05
  even
• 11:05
  look
• 11:05
  like
• 11:06
  when
• 11:06
  your
• 11:06
  child
• 11:07
  might
• 11:07
  be
• 11:07
  struggling?
• 11:08
  And
• 11:08
  I
• 11:08
  won't
• 11:08
  go
• 11:09
  through
• 11:09
  all.
• 11:09
  I'll
• 11:09
  go
• 11:09
  through
• 11:10
  part
• 11:10
  of
• 11:10
  them,
• 11:10
  and
• 11:10
  then
• 11:11
  we'll
• 11:11
  talk
• 11:11
  about
• 11:11
  it.
• 11:11
  We'll
• 11:12
  do
• 11:12
  one
• 11:12
  at
• 11:12
  a
• 11:12
  time.
• 11:12
  All
• 11:13
  right,
• 11:13
  well,
• 11:13
  so
• 11:13
  we'll
• 11:13
  start
• 11:14
  a.
• 11:14
  Brief
• 11:14
  chit
• 11:14
  chat
• 11:14
  on
• 11:15
  each.
• 11:15
  Right.
• 11:15
  A
• 11:16
  little
• 11:16
  chit
• 11:16
  chat,
• 11:17
  but.
• 11:18
  Okay,
• 11:19
  so
• 11:21
  these
• 11:21
  are
• 11:21
  the
• 11:22
  executive
• 11:22
  function
• 11:23
  skills,
• 11:23
  starting
• 11:24
  with
• 11:25
  getting
• 11:25
  started.
• 11:26
  Getting
• 11:26
  started.
• 11:26
  Getting
• 11:27
  started,
• 11:27
  which
• 11:27
  is
• 11:27
  the
• 11:27
  kid
• 11:28
  who
• 11:29
  does.
• 11:30
  If
• 11:31
  a
• 11:31
  child
• 11:31
  is
• 11:32
  good
• 11:32
  at
• 11:32
  this,
• 11:32
  they
• 11:33
  don't
• 11:33
  procrastinate.
• 11:34
  If
• 11:34
  they're
• 11:34
  not
• 11:34
  good
• 11:35
  at
• 11:35
  this,
• 11:35
  they
• 11:35
  do
• 11:35
  procrastinate.
• 11:36
  And
• 11:37
  you
• 11:38
  might
• 11:38
  see
• 11:38
  a
• 11:39
  child
• 11:39
  who
• 11:39
  struggles
• 11:39
  with
• 11:40
  this.
• 11:40
  They
• 11:40
  dawdle
• 11:41
  like
• 11:41
  they're
• 11:42
  in
• 11:42
  class
• 11:42
  and
• 11:43
  the
• 11:43
  teacher
• 11:43
  says,
• 11:43
  okay,
• 11:44
  get
• 11:44
  started
• 11:44
  on
• 11:44
  your
• 11:44
  work.
• 11:45
  And.
• 11:45
  And
• 11:45
  they
• 11:45
  don't.
• 11:46
  They
• 11:47
  dawdle.
• 11:47
  They
• 11:47
  just
• 11:48
  like.
• 11:49
  They
• 11:49
  wander
• 11:49
  around.
• 11:50
  One
• 11:51
  way
• 11:51
  I
• 11:51
  love
• 11:51
  to
• 11:51
  procrastinate
• 11:52
  is
• 11:52
  I
• 11:52
  have
• 11:52
  something
• 11:53
  important
• 11:53
  to
• 11:53
  do.
• 11:54
  So
• 11:54
  I
• 11:54
  see
• 11:54
  all
• 11:55
  these
• 11:55
  other
• 11:56
  unimportant,
• 11:57
  not
• 11:57
  urgent
• 11:57
  things
• 11:58
  I
• 11:58
  could
• 11:58
  do
• 11:58
  instead,
• 11:58
  and
• 11:59
  I
• 11:59
  do
• 11:59
  all
• 11:59
  of
• 11:59
  those.
• 12:00
  Well,
• 12:01
  that's
• 12:01
  procrastination.
• 12:02
  And
• 12:03
  it's
• 12:03
  also
• 12:03
  planning
• 12:04
  and
• 12:04
  prioritizing.
• 12:05
  Because
• 12:05
  you're
• 12:06
  not
• 12:06
  prioritizing
• 12:07
  the
• 12:07
  important
• 12:08
  things.
• 12:08
  I'm
• 12:08
  not.
• 12:08
  I
• 12:09
  leave
• 12:09
  the
• 12:09
  important
• 12:09
  things
• 12:09
  to
• 12:10
  the
• 12:10
  11th
• 12:10
  hour.
• 12:10
  Right,
• 12:11
  right.
• 12:11
  No,
• 12:11
  I
• 12:11
  know.
• 12:12
  And
• 12:12
  it's
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  kid
• 12:12
  who
• 12:13
  doesn't
• 12:13
  start
• 12:13
  their
• 12:13
  homework
• 12:14
  or
• 12:14
  their
• 12:14
  projects
• 12:15
  on
• 12:15
  time.
• 12:15
  I
• 12:15
  remember
• 12:16
  you
• 12:16
  coming
• 12:16
  to
• 12:16
  me
• 12:17
  the
• 12:17
  before
• 12:17
  a
• 12:17
  book
• 12:18
  report
• 12:18
  is
• 12:18
  due,
• 12:19
  saying,
• 12:19
  mom,
• 12:19
  can
• 12:19
  you
• 12:19
  help
• 12:20
  me
• 12:20
  with
• 12:20
  this
• 12:20
  book
• 12:20
  report?
• 12:20
  I'm
• 12:21
  like,
• 12:21
  sure,
• 12:21
  what's
• 12:21
  the
• 12:21
  book?
• 12:22
  You
• 12:22
  haven't
• 12:23
  even
• 12:23
  opened
• 12:23
  it.
• 12:24
  It's
• 12:24
  like,
• 12:24
  oh,
• 12:24
  God.
• 12:25
  Do
• 12:25
  you
• 12:25
  remember
• 12:26
  when
• 12:26
  I
• 12:26
  had
• 12:26
  to
• 12:26
  do
• 12:27
  that
• 12:27
  diorama
• 12:28
  on
• 12:28
  Japan
• 12:29
  and
• 12:29
  I
• 12:29
  didn't
• 12:30
  do
• 12:30
  it
• 12:30
  at
• 12:30
  all?
• 12:31
  And
• 12:31
  so
• 12:31
  that
• 12:32
  night
• 12:32
  you
• 12:33
  got.
• 12:33
  What
• 12:33
  was
• 12:33
  that
• 12:33
  clay
• 12:34
  we
• 12:34
  used
• 12:34
  to
• 12:34
  use?
• 12:35
  I
• 12:35
  forgot.
• 12:36
  Sculpty.
• 12:36
  And
• 12:36
  you
• 12:37
  made
• 12:37
  a
• 12:37
  whole
• 12:37
  diorama
• 12:38
  of
• 12:38
  a
• 12:38
  Japanese
• 12:39
  tea
• 12:39
  house.
• 12:39
  What
• 12:40
  did
• 12:40
  I
• 12:40
  get
• 12:40
  on
• 12:40
  that
• 12:40
  project?
• 12:41
  You
• 12:41
  got
• 12:41
  an
• 12:41
  A.
• 12:43
  But
• 12:43
  then
• 12:44
  after
• 12:44
  that,
• 12:45
  suddenly
• 12:45
  all
• 12:45
  of
• 12:46
  this
• 12:46
  Japanese
• 12:47
  folk
• 12:47
  art
• 12:47
  and
• 12:48
  bonsai
• 12:48
  trees
• 12:49
  and,
• 12:50
  like,
• 12:51
  tapestries.
• 12:52
  I
• 12:52
  know
• 12:52
  of
• 12:53
  Japanese
• 12:54
  things.
• 12:54
  I
• 12:54
  fell
• 12:54
  in
• 12:55
  love
• 12:55
  with
• 12:55
  it.
• 12:55
  I
• 12:55
  know.
• 12:55
  Our
• 12:56
  whole
• 12:56
  house
• 12:57
  turned
• 12:58
  Japanese.
• 12:59
  Yeah.
• 12:59
  This
• 12:59
  is
• 12:59
  a
• 12:59
  good
• 13:00
  project.
• 13:00
  It
• 13:00
  was
• 13:01
  great.
• 13:01
  You
• 13:01
  did
• 13:01
  great.
• 13:01
  Thank
• 13:02
  you.
• 13:03
  Okay.
• 13:03
  But
• 13:04
  me
• 13:04
  doing
• 13:04
  your
• 13:04
  project
• 13:05
  was
• 13:05
  really
• 13:05
  not
• 13:06
  the
• 13:06
  answer.
• 13:07
  And
• 13:07
  that
• 13:08
  is
• 13:08
  not
• 13:08
  what
• 13:08
  the
• 13:08
  book
• 13:08
  says.
• 13:09
  They
• 13:09
  talk
• 13:09
  about
• 13:09
  that
• 13:09
  too.
• 13:09
  They're
• 13:10
  like,
• 13:10
  you
• 13:10
  want
• 13:10
  to
• 13:10
  give
• 13:10
  the
• 13:10
  child
• 13:11
  as
• 13:11
  much
• 13:11
  support
• 13:12
  as
• 13:12
  it
• 13:12
  takes
• 13:12
  to
• 13:12
  do
• 13:13
  it,
• 13:13
  but
• 13:13
  no
• 13:13
  more.
• 13:13
  But
• 13:14
  no
• 13:14
  more.
• 13:14
  And
• 13:15
  I
• 13:15
  did
• 13:15
  not
• 13:15
  do
• 13:15
  that.
• 13:15
  And
• 13:16
  I
• 13:16
  should
• 13:16
  have
• 13:16
  potentially
• 13:17
  even
• 13:18
  let,
• 13:18
  you
• 13:19
  know,
• 13:19
  fail
• 13:20
  and
• 13:21
  deal
• 13:21
  with
• 13:21
  the
• 13:21
  natural
• 13:22
  consequences.
• 13:23
  I
• 13:23
  was
• 13:23
  impervious
• 13:24
  to
• 13:24
  all
• 13:25
  flattery
• 13:25
  and
• 13:25
  abuse
• 13:26
  of
• 13:26
  failure
• 13:26
  because
• 13:27
  it
• 13:27
  happens
• 13:27
  so
• 13:28
  often.
• 13:28
  I
• 13:28
  was
• 13:28
  like,
• 13:28
  well,
• 13:29
  whatever.
• 13:29
  What's
• 13:29
  one
• 13:29
  more.
• 13:30
  Toss
• 13:30
  it
• 13:30
  in
• 13:31
  the
• 13:31
  pile.
• 13:31
  Oh,
• 13:32
  God.
• 13:32
  Anyway,
• 13:33
  okay.
• 13:34
  Staying
• 13:34
  focused
• 13:35
  is
• 13:35
  Another
• 13:35
  executive
• 13:36
  function
• 13:36
  that's
• 13:37
  paying
• 13:37
  attention
• 13:39
  in
• 13:39
  situations
• 13:40
  despite
• 13:41
  being
• 13:42
  distract.
• 13:42
  The
• 13:43
  opportunity
• 13:44
  of
• 13:44
  distraction,
• 13:45
  or
• 13:46
  which.
• 13:46
  That's
• 13:46
  a
• 13:47
  really
• 13:47
  hard
• 13:47
  one
• 13:47
  for
• 13:47
  me
• 13:48
  is
• 13:48
  being
• 13:48
  focused
• 13:49
  because
• 13:49
  I'm
• 13:50
  like
• 13:50
  you.
• 13:50
  I
• 13:51
  will
• 13:51
  be
• 13:51
  working
• 13:51
  on
• 13:52
  something.
• 13:52
  And
• 13:52
  then
• 13:52
  it's
• 13:53
  like,
• 13:53
  oh,
• 13:53
  let
• 13:53
  me
• 13:53
  check
• 13:53
  my
• 13:54
  messages.
• 13:54
  You
• 13:54
  love
• 13:55
  a
• 13:55
  distraction.
• 13:55
  Oh,
• 13:56
  I
• 13:56
  do.
• 13:56
  Or
• 13:57
  yeah,
• 13:57
  I
• 13:57
  mean,
• 13:57
  you'll
• 13:57
  be
• 13:58
  in.
• 13:58
  The
• 13:58
  middle
• 13:58
  of
• 13:58
  something.
• 13:58
  Can
• 13:59
  I
• 13:59
  come
• 13:59
  over
• 13:59
  with
• 13:59
  the
• 13:59
  baby?
• 13:59
  And
• 13:59
  you're
• 14:00
  like,
• 14:00
  absolutely,
• 14:00
  of
• 14:01
  course.
• 14:01
  Of
• 14:01
  course.
• 14:02
  I'll
• 14:03
  just
• 14:03
  be
• 14:03
  distracted
• 14:04
  anytime
• 14:04
  for
• 14:04
  the
• 14:04
  baby.
• 14:05
  But
• 14:06
  kids
• 14:06
  who
• 14:07
  have
• 14:07
  issues
• 14:07
  with
• 14:07
  this,
• 14:08
  they're
• 14:09
  cleaning
• 14:09
  their
• 14:09
  room
• 14:09
  and
• 14:09
  they
• 14:10
  end
• 14:10
  up
• 14:10
  playing
• 14:10
  with
• 14:10
  their
• 14:11
  toys
• 14:11
  instead.
• 14:12
  Or
• 14:13
  the
• 14:13
  kid
• 14:14
  who
• 14:14
  can't
• 14:14
  sit
• 14:14
  still
• 14:15
  during
• 14:15
  circle
• 14:16
  time.
• 14:16
  They're
• 14:16
  running
• 14:16
  around,
• 14:17
  they
• 14:17
  can't
• 14:17
  focus.
• 14:18
  Relatable.
• 14:19
  Yeah,
• 14:19
  yeah.
• 14:20
  Kids
• 14:21
  who
• 14:22
  are
• 14:22
  constantly
• 14:23
  checking
• 14:23
  their
• 14:23
  phones
• 14:24
  during
• 14:24
  homework.
• 14:25
  These
• 14:26
  are
• 14:26
  some
• 14:26
  of
• 14:26
  the
• 14:26
  issues
• 14:27
  with
• 14:27
  those
• 14:27
  kids.
• 14:28
  Impulse
• 14:28
  control.
• 14:29
  That's
• 14:29
  a
• 14:29
  big
• 14:30
  one.
• 14:33
  That
• 14:34
  shows
• 14:34
  up
• 14:34
  in
• 14:34
  many
• 14:34
  ways.
• 14:36
  People
• 14:36
  who
• 14:37
  speak
• 14:38
  before
• 14:38
  they
• 14:39
  think.
• 14:40
  People
• 14:40
  who
• 14:40
  are
• 14:41
  incredibly
• 14:41
  impatient.
• 14:42
  Kids
• 14:43
  who
• 14:43
  lash
• 14:43
  out
• 14:44
  and
• 14:44
  hit
• 14:45
  or
• 14:45
  scream
• 14:45
  when
• 14:46
  things
• 14:46
  don't
• 14:46
  go
• 14:46
  their
• 14:47
  way.
• 14:47
  Oh.
• 14:48
  On
• 14:48
  a
• 14:48
  test,
• 14:49
  the
• 14:49
  person
• 14:49
  who
• 14:50
  chooses
• 14:51
  the
• 14:51
  first
• 14:51
  answer
• 14:52
  that
• 14:52
  seems
• 14:52
  right,
• 14:53
  and
• 14:53
  they
• 14:53
  don't
• 14:53
  even
• 14:54
  read
• 14:54
  the
• 14:54
  other
• 14:54
  answers.
• 14:55
  They're
• 14:55
  being
• 14:55
  very
• 14:56
  impulsive.
• 14:56
  When
• 14:56
  I
• 14:57
  took
• 14:57
  tests,
• 14:57
  I
• 14:58
  never
• 14:58
  knew
• 14:58
  the
• 14:58
  answers.
• 14:58
  So
• 14:59
  I
• 14:59
  was
• 14:59
  just
• 14:59
  like.
• 14:59
  I
• 14:59
  just
• 14:59
  went
• 15:00
  off
• 15:00
  a
• 15:00
  feeling.
• 15:00
  I
• 15:01
  was
• 15:01
  like,
• 15:01
  this
• 15:01
  feels
• 15:01
  like
• 15:01
  a
• 15:01
  C.
• 15:02
  This
• 15:03
  feels
• 15:03
  like
• 15:03
  an
• 15:03
  A.
• 15:04
  This
• 15:05
  feels
• 15:05
  like
• 15:05
  a
• 15:06
  B.
• 15:06
  I'm
• 15:06
  laughing.
• 15:07
  But
• 15:07
  I'm
• 15:07
  crying
• 15:08
  on
• 15:08
  the
• 15:08
  inside.
• 15:09
  This
• 15:09
  is
• 15:09
  so
• 15:09
  bad.
• 15:10
  And
• 15:10
  this
• 15:10
  is
• 15:10
  so.
• 15:11
  It
• 15:11
  was
• 15:11
  about
• 15:11
  vibes.
• 15:12
  Well,
• 15:13
  right.
• 15:13
  And
• 15:13
  your
• 15:14
  grades
• 15:14
  reflected
• 15:15
  that.
• 15:16
  Really
• 15:16
  did.
• 15:17
  Oh,
• 15:17
  my
• 15:17
  God.
• 15:18
  Okay,
• 15:19
  then.
• 15:20
  Emotional
• 15:20
  control.
• 15:21
  A
• 15:21
  lot
• 15:21
  of
• 15:21
  children
• 15:22
  struggle
• 15:22
  with
• 15:22
  that.
• 15:24
  And
• 15:24
  it's
• 15:24
  a
• 15:25
  problem
• 15:25
  when
• 15:25
  your
• 15:25
  emotions
• 15:26
  get
• 15:26
  in
• 15:26
  the
• 15:27
  way
• 15:27
  of
• 15:27
  getting
• 15:28
  things
• 15:28
  done.
• 15:29
  So
• 15:30
  you
• 15:30
  lose
• 15:30
  your
• 15:30
  temper
• 15:30
  when
• 15:31
  you
• 15:31
  don't
• 15:31
  get
• 15:31
  your
• 15:31
  way.
• 15:31
  You're
• 15:32
  a
• 15:32
  sore
• 15:32
  loser.
• 15:33
  In
• 15:33
  sports,
• 15:34
  when
• 15:35
  you're
• 15:35
  in
• 15:35
  a
• 15:35
  group,
• 15:35
  you
• 15:36
  can't
• 15:37
  abide
• 15:37
  by
• 15:38
  not
• 15:38
  getting
• 15:38
  your
• 15:38
  way
• 15:39
  in
• 15:39
  the
• 15:39
  group.
• 15:40
  A
• 15:40
  person
• 15:41
  who
• 15:41
  can't
• 15:41
  tolerate
• 15:41
  criticism,
• 15:42
  they
• 15:42
  lose
• 15:43
  it.
• 15:45
  These
• 15:45
  are
• 15:45
  poor
• 15:45
  executive
• 15:46
  function
• 15:46
  skills
• 15:47
  and
• 15:47
  cause
• 15:48
  a
• 15:48
  lot
• 15:48
  of
• 15:48
  problems
• 15:48
  with
• 15:49
  kids.
• 15:49
  I
• 15:49
  believe
• 15:49
  it.
• 15:50
  And
• 15:50
  then
• 15:50
  managing
• 15:51
  time.
• 15:52
  Your
• 15:52
  father
• 15:53
  has
• 15:53
  this
• 15:53
  one.
• 15:53
  Yeah,
• 15:54
  I
• 15:54
  had
• 15:54
  this
• 15:54
  one
• 15:55
  until
• 15:55
  a
• 15:55
  few
• 15:55
  years
• 15:56
  ago.
• 15:56
  Yeah,
• 15:56
  you've
• 15:57
  gotten
• 15:57
  a
• 15:57
  lot
• 15:57
  better.
• 15:58
  Because
• 15:58
  my
• 15:58
  husband
• 15:59
  is
• 15:59
  obsessed
• 15:59
  with
• 16:00
  being
• 16:00
  on
• 16:00
  time.
• 16:00
  And
• 16:01
  early
• 16:01
  on
• 16:01
  in
• 16:01
  our
• 16:02
  relationship,
• 16:03
  I
• 16:03
  really.
• 16:03
  I
• 16:03
  struggled
• 16:04
  with
• 16:04
  it.
• 16:04
  Cause
• 16:04
  time
• 16:05
  blindness
• 16:05
  is
• 16:05
  a
• 16:06
  real
• 16:06
  illness
• 16:07
  that
• 16:07
  I
• 16:07
  suffer
• 16:08
  from.
• 16:09
  And
• 16:09
  it
• 16:09
  takes
• 16:10
  so
• 16:10
  much
• 16:11
  effort
• 16:11
  for
• 16:11
  me
• 16:11
  to
• 16:12
  be
• 16:12
  on
• 16:12
  time
• 16:12
  for
• 16:12
  things
• 16:13
  like
• 16:13
  the
• 16:13
  amount
• 16:13
  of
• 16:13
  planning
• 16:14
  I
• 16:14
  have
• 16:14
  to
• 16:14
  do
• 16:14
  to
• 16:14
  be
• 16:14
  on
• 16:15
  time
• 16:15
  for
• 16:15
  anything
• 16:15
  is
• 16:16
  beyond.
• 16:17
  Right.
• 16:17
  But
• 16:17
  it
• 16:17
  was
• 16:18
  really
• 16:18
  important
• 16:18
  to
• 16:18
  him.
• 16:19
  It
• 16:19
  drove
• 16:19
  him
• 16:19
  insane
• 16:20
  when
• 16:20
  I
• 16:20
  was
• 16:21
  late
• 16:21
  to
• 16:21
  things.
• 16:21
  And
• 16:21
  then
• 16:22
  I
• 16:22
  just
• 16:22
  sort
• 16:22
  of
• 16:22
  adapted.
• 16:23
  But
• 16:23
  I
• 16:23
  was
• 16:24
  very
• 16:24
  much
• 16:24
  a
• 16:25
  time,
• 16:25
  you
• 16:25
  know,
• 16:26
  it
• 16:26
  was
• 16:26
  like,
• 16:26
  really
• 16:26
  important
• 16:27
  to
• 16:27
  me.
• 16:27
  But
• 16:27
  you
• 16:27
  got
• 16:27
  it
• 16:28
  from
• 16:28
  grandma.
• 16:28
  Grandma
• 16:29
  was
• 16:29
  that
• 16:29
  way.
• 16:30
  And.
• 16:31
  But
• 16:31
  you
• 16:31
  never
• 16:32
  adapted
• 16:33
  to
• 16:33
  me.
• 16:34
  Well,
• 16:34
  you
• 16:35
  never
• 16:35
  gave
• 16:35
  me
• 16:35
  an
• 16:36
  ultimatum.
• 16:37
  You
• 16:37
  were
• 16:37
  never
• 16:38
  like,
• 16:38
  I'm
• 16:38
  not
• 16:39
  gonna
• 16:39
  be
• 16:39
  your
• 16:39
  mother
• 16:39
  anymore.
• 16:40
  And
• 16:40
  he
• 16:40
  was
• 16:40
  like,
• 16:41
  I
• 16:41
  cannot
• 16:41
  be
• 16:41
  your
• 16:41
  boyfriend
• 16:42
  if
• 16:42
  you
• 16:42
  cannot
• 16:42
  be
• 16:43
  on
• 16:43
  time
• 16:43
  to
• 16:43
  things.
• 16:44
  I'm
• 16:44
  gonna
• 16:44
  throw
• 16:44
  myself
• 16:45
  off
• 16:45
  the
• 16:45
  roof.
• 16:46
  So
• 16:46
  you
• 16:46
  had
• 16:46
  to
• 16:47
  really,
• 16:47
  you
• 16:47
  know.
• 16:48
  I
• 16:48
  was
• 16:48
  like,
• 16:48
  I
• 16:48
  would
• 16:48
  really
• 16:48
  like
• 16:49
  you
• 16:49
  to
• 16:49
  continue
• 16:49
  to
• 16:49
  be
• 16:49
  my
• 16:50
  boyfriend.
• 16:50
  So
• 16:50
  I'll
• 16:51
  be
• 16:51
  right
• 16:51
  back.
• 16:51
  So
• 16:51
  you
• 16:51
  had
• 16:52
  a
• 16:52
  good
• 16:52
  reward
• 16:52
  at
• 16:52
  the
• 16:53
  end.
• 16:53
  Yes.
• 16:53
  Okay.
• 16:54
  So
• 16:54
  the
• 16:54
  people
• 16:54
  who
• 16:54
  are
• 16:55
  late
• 16:55
  all
• 16:55
  the
• 16:55
  time,
• 16:57
  people
• 16:57
  who
• 16:58
  can't
• 16:59
  estimate
• 17:00
  how
• 17:00
  long
• 17:00
  something
• 17:00
  will
• 17:01
  take,
• 17:01
  so
• 17:02
  they
• 17:02
  think
• 17:02
  a
• 17:02
  paper
• 17:03
  is
• 17:03
  going
• 17:03
  to
• 17:03
  take
• 17:03
  30
• 17:04
  minutes
• 17:04
  and
• 17:04
  instead
• 17:05
  it
• 17:05
  takes
• 17:05
  three
• 17:05
  hours.
• 17:06
  Yes.
• 17:06
  A
• 17:07
  lot
• 17:07
  of
• 17:07
  kids,
• 17:07
  a
• 17:07
  lot
• 17:07
  of
• 17:07
  students
• 17:08
  struggle
• 17:08
  with
• 17:08
  that.
• 17:09
  Kids
• 17:10
  who
• 17:10
  dawdle
• 17:10
  in
• 17:11
  the
• 17:11
  morning
• 17:11
  routine.
• 17:12
  Or
• 17:12
  not
• 17:13
  a
• 17:13
  dawdler
• 17:14
  will.
• 17:14
  A
• 17:14
  lot
• 17:14
  of
• 17:14
  toddlers.
• 17:17
  It's
• 17:17
  a
• 17:17
  funny
• 17:17
  word,
• 17:17
  isn't
• 17:18
  it?
• 17:19
  Anyway,
• 17:19
  okay,
• 17:20
  so
• 17:20
  that's
• 17:20
  another.
• 17:22
  You
• 17:22
  want
• 17:22
  to
• 17:22
  talk
• 17:22
  about
• 17:23
  some
• 17:23
  of
• 17:23
  the
• 17:23
  others
• 17:24
  that
• 17:24
  we
• 17:24
  have.
• 17:25
  So
• 17:25
  organization,
• 17:26
  having
• 17:26
  systems
• 17:27
  for
• 17:27
  keeping
• 17:28
  track
• 17:28
  of
• 17:28
  important
• 17:28
  items.
• 17:31
  That
• 17:31
  was
• 17:32
  your
• 17:32
  Achilles
• 17:32
  heel.
• 17:33
  Oh,
• 17:33
  my
• 17:33
  God.
• 17:33
  I
• 17:34
  would
• 17:34
  leave
• 17:34
  things
• 17:34
  everywhere.
• 17:36
  At
• 17:36
  people's
• 17:36
  houses,
• 17:37
  on
• 17:37
  the
• 17:38
  bus,
• 17:39
  at
• 17:39
  school,
• 17:40
  in
• 17:40
  other
• 17:40
  people's
• 17:41
  lockers,
• 17:41
  in
• 17:41
  the
• 17:41
  stairs.
• 17:42
  Couldn't
• 17:42
  do
• 17:43
  it.
• 17:43
  Messy
• 17:43
  backpacks,
• 17:45
  messy
• 17:45
  notebooks,
• 17:46
  messy
• 17:47
  bedrooms.
• 17:47
  Yes.
• 17:48
  What
• 17:49
  was
• 17:49
  amazing
• 17:49
  to
• 17:49
  me
• 17:50
  was
• 17:50
  I.
• 17:50
  When
• 17:51
  you
• 17:51
  got
• 17:51
  that
• 17:51
  ADHD
• 17:52
  diagnosis,
• 17:53
  I
• 17:54
  had
• 17:54
  no
• 17:54
  idea
• 17:55
  that
• 17:56
  your
• 17:56
  messiness
• 17:57
  and
• 17:57
  disorganization
• 17:58
  had
• 17:59
  anything
• 17:59
  to
• 17:59
  do
• 18:00
  with
• 18:00
  the
• 18:00
  adhd.
• 18:01
  Because
• 18:01
  again,
• 18:01
  in
• 18:01
  those
• 18:02
  days
• 18:02
  there
• 18:03
  wasn't
• 18:03
  this
• 18:03
  information
• 18:04
  out
• 18:04
  here.
• 18:04
  But
• 18:04
  you
• 18:05
  thought
• 18:05
  I
• 18:05
  was
• 18:05
  just
• 18:05
  being
• 18:05
  annoying.
• 18:06
  I
• 18:06
  did.
• 18:06
  I
• 18:06
  just
• 18:07
  thought
• 18:07
  you,
• 18:07
  you
• 18:07
  were
• 18:07
  being
• 18:08
  defiant.
• 18:08
  And
• 18:10
  that's
• 18:10
  what.
• 18:10
  That's
• 18:10
  the
• 18:10
  value
• 18:11
  of
• 18:11
  a
• 18:11
  book
• 18:11
  like
• 18:12
  this
• 18:12
  or
• 18:12
  a
• 18:12
  habit
• 18:13
  coach
• 18:13
  or
• 18:13
  something
• 18:13
  is
• 18:14
  that
• 18:14
  it
• 18:14
  really
• 18:14
  helps
• 18:15
  you
• 18:15
  understand
• 18:15
  your
• 18:16
  child's
• 18:16
  behaviors
• 18:17
  that
• 18:17
  make
• 18:18
  you
• 18:18
  crazy.
• 18:18
  Yeah.
• 18:19
  Yeah,
• 18:19
  that
• 18:20
  was
• 18:20
  true.
• 18:20
  And
• 18:20
  then
• 18:20
  planning
• 18:21
  and
• 18:21
  prioritizing,
• 18:22
  creating
• 18:22
  a
• 18:23
  roadmap
• 18:23
  to
• 18:24
  reach
• 18:24
  a
• 18:24
  goal
• 18:24
  or
• 18:24
  complete
• 18:25
  a
• 18:25
  task,
• 18:25
  knowing
• 18:26
  what
• 18:26
  to
• 18:26
  focus
• 18:27
  on
• 18:27
  when.
• 18:28
  Right.
• 18:28
  I've
• 18:29
  learned.
• 18:29
  But
• 18:30
  I
• 18:30
  was
• 18:30
  not
• 18:30
  good
• 18:30
  at
• 18:30
  that
• 18:31
  as
• 18:31
  a
• 18:31
  kid.
• 18:32
  But
• 18:32
  you're
• 18:32
  good
• 18:32
  at
• 18:32
  it
• 18:33
  now.
• 18:33
  You
• 18:33
  think?
• 18:33
  Yeah,
• 18:34
  you're
• 18:34
  really
• 18:34
  good
• 18:35
  at
• 18:35
  it.
• 18:35
  I've
• 18:35
  mentioned
• 18:36
  this
• 18:36
  before,
• 18:36
  but
• 18:36
  my
• 18:37
  mom
• 18:37
  wrote
• 18:38
  a
• 18:38
  New
• 18:39
  York
• 18:39
  Times
• 18:39
  best
• 18:39
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• 18:40
  book
• 18:40
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• 18:40
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• 18:40
  months.
• 18:41
  And
• 18:42
  I,
• 18:42
  wanting
• 18:42
  to
• 18:43
  be
• 18:43
  just
• 18:43
  like
• 18:43
  my
• 18:43
  mom,
• 18:44
  set
• 18:44
  out
• 18:44
  to
• 18:44
  write
• 18:44
  a
• 18:44
  book
• 18:45
  as
• 18:45
  well.
• 18:45
  My
• 18:46
  book
• 18:46
  took
• 18:46
  three
• 18:47
  years
• 18:47
  to
• 18:47
  write
• 18:48
  a
• 18:48
  manuscript.
• 18:48
  And
• 18:49
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• 18:49
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• 18:49
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• 18:49
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• 18:49
  one
• 18:49
  has
• 18:49
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• 18:50
  it
• 18:50
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• 18:52
  Well,
• 18:52
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• 18:52
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• 18:53
  it,
• 18:53
  I've
• 18:53
  seen
• 18:53
  it.
• 18:53
  It's
• 18:54
  really
• 18:54
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• 18:54
  Someday
• 18:55
  it
• 18:55
  will
• 18:55
  get
• 18:55
  published.
• 18:56
  And
• 18:56
  you
• 18:56
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• 18:56
  me
• 18:57
  I
• 18:57
  have
• 18:57
  no
• 18:57
  concept
• 18:57
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• 18:58
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• 18:58
  Well,
• 18:59
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• 19:00
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• 19:00
  you
• 19:00
  weren't
• 19:00
  paying
• 19:01
  attention.
• 19:01
  It's
• 19:02
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• 19:02
  style,
• 19:02
  mom.
• 19:03
  Skyler,
• 19:04
  you
• 19:04
  have
• 19:04
  to
• 19:04
  learn
• 19:05
  grammar.
• 19:05
  You
• 19:06
  really
• 19:06
  do.
• 19:06
  But
• 19:06
  that's
• 19:07
  ok.
• 19:08
  I
• 19:08
  love
• 19:08
  you.
• 19:08
  It's
• 19:09
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• 19:09
  It's
• 19:09
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• 19:10
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• 19:10
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• 19:10
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• 19:10
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• 19:10
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• 19:11
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• 19:11
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• 19:11
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• 19:11
  as
• 19:11
  editors.
• 19:12
  It's
• 19:12
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• 19:13
  it's
• 19:13
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• 19:14
  But
• 19:15
  yeah,
• 19:16
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• 19:16
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• 19:16
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• 19:17
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• 19:17
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• 19:17
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• 19:18
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• 19:18
  becomes
• 19:19
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• 19:20
  planning
• 19:21
  and
• 19:21
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• 19:22
  things
• 19:22
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• 19:22
  that
• 19:22
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• 19:22
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• 19:23
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• 19:25
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• 19:26
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• 19:26
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• 19:27
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• 19:27
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• 19:28
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• 19:28
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• 19:28
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• 19:28
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• 19:29
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• 19:29
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• 19:29
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• 19:29
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• 19:30
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• 19:30
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• 19:30
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• 19:31
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• 19:31
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• 19:32
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• 19:32
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• 19:32
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• 19:32
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• 19:32
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• 19:33
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• 19:33
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• 19:33
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• 19:33
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• 19:34
  that's
• 19:34
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• 19:35
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• 19:35
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• 19:35
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• 19:36
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• 19:36
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• 19:36
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• 19:37
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• 19:37
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• 19:37
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• 19:38
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• 19:38
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• 19:38
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• 19:38
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• 19:39
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• 19:39
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• 19:39
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• 19:39
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• 19:39
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• 19:40
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• 19:40
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• 19:40
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• 19:40
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• 19:41
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• 19:41
  Yeah.
• 19:41
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• 19:41
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• 19:42
  that's
• 19:42
  when
• 19:42
  you
• 19:42
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• 19:42
  getting
• 19:43
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• 19:43
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• 19:44
  I
• 19:44
  did?
• 19:44
  Yeah.
• 19:45
  That's
• 19:45
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• 19:45
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• 19:45
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• 19:45
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• 19:46
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• 19:46
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• 19:46
  your
• 19:46
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• 19:46
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• 19:47
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• 19:47
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• 19:47
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• 19:47
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• 19:48
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• 19:48
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• 19:49
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• 19:49
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• 19:49
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• 19:50
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• 19:50
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• 19:51
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• 19:51
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• 19:52
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• 19:52
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• 19:53
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• 19:53
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• 19:53
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• 19:53
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• 19:53
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• 19:54
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• 19:54
  And
• 19:54
  I'm
• 19:54
  like
• 19:54
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• 19:55
  have
• 19:55
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• 19:55
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• 19:56
  You're
• 19:56
  the
• 19:56
  teacher.
• 19:57
  Tell
• 19:57
  me
• 19:58
  what
• 19:58
  do
• 19:58
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• 19:58
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• 19:58
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• 19:59
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• 19:59
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• 19:59
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• 19:59
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• 20:00
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• 20:02
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• 20:04
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• 20:04
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• 20:04
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• 20:57
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• 21:42
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• 21:44
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• 21:48
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• 21:48
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• 21:50
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• 21:50
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• 21:51
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• 21:52
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• 21:52
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• 21:52
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  I
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  park
• 21:53
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• 21:54
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• 21:54
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• 21:54
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• 21:56
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• 21:56
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• 21:56
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• 21:56
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• 21:57
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• 21:58
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• 21:58
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• 21:58
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• 21:59
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• 21:59
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• 22:00
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• 22:00
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• 22:00
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• 22:01
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• 22:01
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• 22:01
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• 22:01
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• 22:02
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• 22:02
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• 22:03
  parking
• 22:04
  lots,
• 22:04
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• 22:04
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• 22:05
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• 22:05
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• 22:06
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• 22:06
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• 22:06
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• 22:07
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• 22:08
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• 22:08
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• 22:08
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• 22:08
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• 22:09
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• 22:09
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• 22:09
  Is
• 22:09
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• 22:10
  here?
• 22:10
  Is
• 22:10
  it
• 22:10
  here?
• 22:10
  Oh,
• 22:11
  my
• 22:11
  God.
• 22:11
  No.
• 22:13
  Yeah.
• 22:13
  I
• 22:14
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• 22:14
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• 22:14
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• 22:14
  stick
• 22:14
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• 22:15
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• 22:15
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• 22:15
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• 22:15
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• 22:15
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• 22:16
  out
• 22:16
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• 22:16
  it.
• 22:17
  No.
• 22:17
  Did
• 22:17
  you
• 22:17
  find
• 22:17
  it?
• 22:18
  I
• 22:18
  did.
• 22:18
  I
• 22:18
  did
• 22:18
  find
• 22:18
  it
• 22:19
  in
• 22:19
  a
• 22:20
  very
• 22:20
  weird
• 22:20
  blaze.
• 22:21
  Okay.
• 22:21
  Okay,
• 22:22
  good.
• 22:22
  I'm
• 22:22
  glad
• 22:22
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• 22:23
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• 22:23
  it.
• 22:23
  Okay.
• 22:24
  Okay.
• 22:24
  What
• 22:24
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• 22:25
  Keep
• 22:25
  going?
• 22:25
  We
• 22:25
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• 22:25
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• 22:26
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• 22:26
  to
• 22:26
  go.
• 22:26
  We
• 22:26
  have
• 22:26
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• 22:27
  more
• 22:28
  working
• 22:28
  towards
• 22:28
  a
• 22:29
  goal.
• 22:29
  So
• 22:29
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• 22:30
  goals
• 22:30
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• 22:30
  working
• 22:31
  towards
• 22:31
  them
• 22:31
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• 22:32
  getting
• 22:32
  sidetracked.
• 22:34
  So
• 22:34
  they
• 22:34
  give
• 22:34
  up
• 22:34
  when
• 22:35
  things
• 22:35
  get
• 22:35
  difficult.
• 22:37
  What
• 22:37
  else
• 22:37
  do
• 22:37
  they
• 22:38
  do?
• 22:38
  They're
• 22:38
  not
• 22:38
  willing
• 22:38
  to
• 22:39
  work
• 22:39
  at
• 22:39
  getting
• 22:39
  better.
• 22:39
  They
• 22:40
  don't
• 22:40
  have
• 22:40
  a
• 22:40
  growth
• 22:40
  mindset.
• 22:42
  Well,
• 22:42
  that's
• 22:42
  when
• 22:43
  I
• 22:43
  struggle
• 22:43
  with,
• 22:43
  like,
• 22:44
  I
• 22:44
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• 22:44
  start
• 22:45
  things
• 22:45
  and
• 22:46
  then
• 22:46
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• 22:46
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• 22:46
  in
• 22:47
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• 22:47
  middle.
• 22:47
  It's
• 22:48
  like,
• 22:48
  that's
• 22:48
  why
• 22:49
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• 22:49
  terrible
• 22:50
  at
• 22:50
  doing
• 22:50
  chores
• 22:50
  around
• 22:51
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• 22:51
  house.
• 22:51
  And
• 22:52
  dad
• 22:52
  does
• 22:52
  all
• 22:52
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• 22:53
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• 22:53
  He
• 22:54
  does
• 22:54
  all
• 22:54
  the
• 22:54
  dishes
• 22:55
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• 22:55
  I'll
• 22:56
  start
• 22:56
  the
• 22:56
  dishes,
• 22:57
  and
• 22:57
  then
• 22:57
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• 22:57
  get
• 22:58
  distracted.
• 22:58
  That's
• 22:59
  so
• 22:59
  nice
• 22:59
  that
• 22:59
  he
• 22:59
  does
• 22:59
  that.
• 23:00
  I
• 23:00
  have
• 23:00
  no
• 23:00
  idea
• 23:00
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• 23:01
  he
• 23:01
  did
• 23:01
  that.
• 23:01
  He
• 23:01
  does.
• 23:02
  Although
• 23:02
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• 23:02
  do
• 23:02
  remember
• 23:03
  as
• 23:03
  a
• 23:03
  kid,
• 23:04
  every
• 23:04
  Saturday,
• 23:04
  he
• 23:05
  would
• 23:05
  do
• 23:05
  a
• 23:05
  deep
• 23:05
  clean,
• 23:06
  and
• 23:06
  he
• 23:06
  would
• 23:06
  play
• 23:06
  Chaka
• 23:07
  Khan
• 23:08
  all
• 23:08
  day.
• 23:09
  So
• 23:09
  I
• 23:09
  got
• 23:09
  to
• 23:09
  listen
• 23:09
  to
• 23:09
  Chaka
• 23:10
  Khan.
• 23:10
  She's
• 23:10
  great.
• 23:11
  I
• 23:11
  love
• 23:11
  Chaka
• 23:12
  Khan.
• 23:12
  But
• 23:13
  anyway,
• 23:14
  yeah,
• 23:15
  I
• 23:15
  give
• 23:15
  up
• 23:15
  on
• 23:16
  things.
• 23:16
  That's
• 23:16
  true.
• 23:17
  But,
• 23:17
  you
• 23:17
  know,
• 23:18
  that
• 23:18
  surprises
• 23:18
  me,
• 23:18
  because
• 23:19
  I
• 23:19
  don't
• 23:19
  think
• 23:19
  you
• 23:19
  do.
• 23:20
  I
• 23:20
  think
• 23:20
  that
• 23:20
  you're
• 23:20
  pretty
• 23:21
  dogged
• 23:21
  about
• 23:21
  things.
• 23:22
  I
• 23:22
  give
• 23:22
  up
• 23:22
  on
• 23:23
  boring
• 23:23
  things.
• 23:24
  I
• 23:24
  don't
• 23:24
  give
• 23:24
  up
• 23:25
  on
• 23:25
  things
• 23:25
  that
• 23:25
  I'm
• 23:26
  really
• 23:26
  interested
• 23:26
  in,
• 23:26
  which
• 23:27
  is
• 23:27
  how
• 23:27
  I
• 23:27
  wrote
• 23:28
  that
• 23:28
  book
• 23:28
  in
• 23:28
  three
• 23:29
  months,
• 23:29
  which
• 23:29
  was
• 23:30
  when
• 23:31
  I
• 23:31
  decided
• 23:32
  to
• 23:32
  write
• 23:32
  the
• 23:32
  first
• 23:33
  book
• 23:33
  I
• 23:33
  ever
• 23:33
  wrote.
• 23:34
  Dad
• 23:35
  wanted
• 23:35
  me
• 23:35
  to
• 23:35
  get
• 23:35
  a
• 23:35
  job,
• 23:36
  and
• 23:36
  I
• 23:37
  said,
• 23:37
  no,
• 23:37
  no,
• 23:37
  no,
• 23:37
  let
• 23:37
  me
• 23:38
  write
• 23:38
  the
• 23:38
  book.
• 23:38
  And
• 23:38
  he's
• 23:39
  like,
• 23:39
  well,
• 23:39
  how
• 23:39
  long
• 23:39
  will
• 23:39
  it
• 23:40
  take?
• 23:40
  Cause
• 23:40
  he
• 23:40
  really
• 23:40
  wanted
• 23:41
  me
• 23:41
  to
• 23:41
  get
• 23:41
  a
• 23:41
  job
• 23:41
  and
• 23:42
  get
• 23:42
  money.
• 23:43
  We
• 23:43
  need
• 23:43
  money.
• 23:44
  We
• 23:44
  need
• 23:44
  money.
• 23:44
  And
• 23:45
  I
• 23:45
  said,
• 23:45
  well,
• 23:45
  I
• 23:45
  think
• 23:46
  I
• 23:46
  can
• 23:46
  do
• 23:46
  it
• 23:46
  in
• 23:46
  three
• 23:46
  months,
• 23:47
  and
• 23:48
  had
• 23:48
  no
• 23:48
  idea.
• 23:49
  And
• 23:49
  I
• 23:49
  just
• 23:49
  like.
• 23:50
  And
• 23:51
  I
• 23:51
  went
• 23:51
  into
• 23:53
  hyperfocus,
• 23:53
  Hyper
• 23:54
  focus.
• 23:54
  Which
• 23:54
  is
• 23:54
  an
• 23:55
  ADHD
• 23:56
  benefit.
• 23:57
  It's
• 23:57
  a
• 23:57
  benefit
• 23:57
  of
• 23:58
  ADHD
• 23:58
  that
• 23:58
  you
• 23:59
  can
• 23:59
  just
• 23:59
  get
• 23:59
  so
• 24:00
  focused
• 24:00
  on
• 24:00
  getting
• 24:00
  something
• 24:01
  done,
• 24:01
  you
• 24:01
  do
• 24:02
  nothing
• 24:02
  but
• 24:02
  that.
• 24:02
  And
• 24:03
  that's
• 24:03
  what
• 24:03
  I
• 24:03
  did.
• 24:03
  And
• 24:03
  I
• 24:04
  wrote
• 24:04
  a
• 24:04
  book,
• 24:04
  and
• 24:05
  that
• 24:05
  was
• 24:05
  my
• 24:05
  first
• 24:06
  book.
• 24:06
  But
• 24:07
  anyway,
• 24:07
  it
• 24:08
  was
• 24:08
  such
• 24:08
  a
• 24:08
  good
• 24:08
  book.
• 24:09
  Yeah.
• 24:09
  Someone
• 24:10
  was
• 24:10
  just
• 24:10
  reading
• 24:10
  it,
• 24:11
  one
• 24:11
  of
• 24:11
  my
• 24:11
  friends,
• 24:11
  and
• 24:12
  she
• 24:12
  loves
• 24:12
  it.
• 24:12
  I'm
• 24:13
  so
• 24:13
  excited.
• 24:13
  It's
• 24:14
  an
• 24:14
  old
• 24:14
  book.
• 24:14
  An
• 24:14
  oldie
• 24:15
  but
• 24:15
  goodie.
• 24:16
  But
• 24:16
  anyway.
• 24:17
  Yeah.
• 24:18
  So
• 24:19
  maybe
• 24:19
  we
• 24:19
  should
• 24:19
  do
• 24:20
  it
• 24:20
  sometime.
• 24:20
  It's
• 24:21
  kept
• 24:21
  its
• 24:21
  fiction.
• 24:22
  Yeah.
• 24:22
  But
• 24:22
  I
• 24:22
  mean,
• 24:22
  listen,
• 24:23
  it's
• 24:23
  our
• 24:23
  podcast.
• 24:24
  We
• 24:24
  can
• 24:24
  do
• 24:24
  whatever
• 24:24
  we
• 24:24
  want.
• 24:25
  Right.
• 24:25
  And
• 24:25
  it
• 24:25
  is
• 24:25
  about
• 24:26
  getting
• 24:26
  kids
• 24:26
  into
• 24:27
  practice,
• 24:27
  private
• 24:27
  school.
• 24:27
  It
• 24:28
  is.
• 24:28
  Yes,
• 24:28
  it
• 24:28
  is.
• 24:29
  And
• 24:29
  it's
• 24:29
  very
• 24:29
  funny.
• 24:30
  It
• 24:30
  is
• 24:30
  funny.
• 24:30
  Yeah.
• 24:31
  Anyway,
• 24:31
  but,
• 24:32
  but
• 24:32
  I,
• 24:33
  I.
• 24:34
  But
• 24:34
  I
• 24:34
  do
• 24:34
  give
• 24:34
  up
• 24:35
  on
• 24:35
  things
• 24:35
  that
• 24:35
  bore
• 24:36
  me.
• 24:36
  I
• 24:36
  do.
• 24:37
  Same.
• 24:37
  Yeah,
• 24:38
  same.
• 24:38
  I
• 24:39
  just
• 24:39
  can't.
• 24:40
  All
• 24:40
  right.
• 24:40
  And
• 24:40
  so
• 24:40
  if
• 24:41
  you
• 24:41
  have
• 24:41
  a
• 24:41
  kid
• 24:41
  like
• 24:41
  that,
• 24:41
  it
• 24:42
  might
• 24:42
  be
• 24:42
  driving
• 24:42
  you
• 24:42
  crazy.
• 24:43
  And
• 24:43
  then
• 24:43
  what's
• 24:43
  the
• 24:44
  last
• 24:44
  one?
• 24:44
  Self
• 24:44
  awareness,
• 24:45
  also
• 24:46
  known
• 24:46
  as
• 24:46
  metacognition.
• 24:47
  So
• 24:48
  understanding
• 24:49
  how
• 24:49
  you
• 24:49
  come
• 24:49
  off
• 24:49
  to
• 24:50
  other
• 24:50
  people.
• 24:51
  The
• 24:52
  ability
• 24:52
  to
• 24:52
  take
• 24:52
  a
• 24:53
  bird's
• 24:53
  eye
• 24:53
  view
• 24:53
  of
• 24:53
  a
• 24:53
  situation.
• 24:55
  And
• 24:55
  again,
• 24:56
  the
• 24:56
  ability
• 24:56
  to
• 24:56
  self
• 24:57
  monitor
• 24:57
  and
• 24:57
  self
• 24:57
  evaluate.
• 24:58
  So
• 24:58
  these
• 24:58
  kids
• 24:59
  really
• 24:59
  struggle
• 24:59
  with
• 25:00
  criticism.
• 25:01
  They
• 25:02
  take
• 25:02
  it
• 25:02
  very
• 25:02
  personally.
• 25:03
  They
• 25:03
  don't
• 25:03
  really
• 25:03
  take
• 25:03
  it
• 25:03
  as
• 25:04
  an
• 25:04
  opportunity
• 25:05
  to
• 25:05
  learn,
• 25:05
  to
• 25:06
  improve.
• 25:06
  Yeah,
• 25:07
  Right.
• 25:07
  And
• 25:08
  that's
• 25:08
  important,
• 25:08
  to
• 25:09
  be
• 25:09
  aware
• 25:09
  of
• 25:10
  what
• 25:10
  we're
• 25:10
  good
• 25:11
  at,
• 25:11
  what
• 25:11
  we're
• 25:11
  not
• 25:11
  good
• 25:11
  at,
• 25:12
  and
• 25:12
  what
• 25:12
  we
• 25:13
  need
• 25:13
  to
• 25:13
  work
• 25:13
  on,
• 25:13
  that
• 25:14
  kind
• 25:14
  of
• 25:14
  thing.
• 25:14
  Okay.
• 25:16
  And
• 25:16
  then
• 25:16
  as
• 25:17
  you
• 25:17
  discussed,
• 25:17
  there
• 25:18
  are.
• 25:18
  You
• 25:19
  can
• 25:19
  take
• 25:19
  some
• 25:21
  assessments
• 25:21
  in
• 25:21
  the
• 25:22
  book
• 25:22
  about
• 25:22
  your
• 25:22
  child,
• 25:24
  find
• 25:24
  out
• 25:24
  their
• 25:24
  strengths
• 25:25
  and
• 25:25
  weaknesses.
• 25:26
  You
• 25:26
  can
• 25:26
  find
• 25:26
  out
• 25:27
  your
• 25:27
  own
• 25:27
  strengths
• 25:27
  and
• 25:28
  weaknesses
• 25:28
  and
• 25:28
  see
• 25:28
  how
• 25:29
  they
• 25:29
  match
• 25:29
  with
• 25:29
  your
• 25:29
  child.
• 25:30
  That
• 25:30
  sort
• 25:31
  of
• 25:31
  thing.
• 25:32
  That
• 25:33
  took
• 25:33
  a
• 25:33
  lot
• 25:33
  of
• 25:33
  pages
• 25:33
  of
• 25:34
  the
• 25:34
  book.
• 25:34
  Yeah.
• 25:35
  So
• 25:35
  the
• 25:35
  book
• 25:35
  is
• 25:36
  shorter
• 25:36
  than
• 25:36
  it
• 25:36
  seems.
• 25:37
  Yeah.
• 25:37
  That
• 25:37
  goes
• 25:38
  fast.
• 25:38
  Because
• 25:38
  you
• 25:38
  don't
• 25:38
  have
• 25:39
  to
• 25:39
  do
• 25:39
  every
• 25:39
  one
• 25:39
  of
• 25:39
  those.
• 25:40
  Yeah,
• 25:40
  yeah,
• 25:40
  exactly.
• 25:42
  Okay.
• 25:42
  So
• 25:44
  one
• 25:44
  thing
• 25:44
  they
• 25:45
  talk
• 25:45
  about
• 25:47
  is
• 25:47
  that
• 25:49
  it's
• 25:49
  important
• 25:50
  to,
• 25:50
  especially
• 25:50
  with
• 25:51
  younger
• 25:51
  kids,
• 25:52
  match
• 25:53
  a
• 25:53
  child
• 25:53
  to
• 25:54
  a
• 25:54
  task
• 25:54
  when
• 25:55
  you
• 25:55
  know
• 25:55
  your
• 25:55
  child
• 25:56
  has
• 25:56
  issues
• 25:57
  with
• 25:57
  certain
• 25:57
  executive
• 25:58
  functions.
• 26:00
  Let's
• 26:00
  say
• 26:00
  you
• 26:00
  have
• 26:01
  a
• 26:01
  child.
• 26:02
  Oh,
• 26:02
  I
• 26:03
  don't
• 26:03
  know.
• 26:03
  I'm
• 26:03
  trying
• 26:03
  to
• 26:03
  think
• 26:04
  of.
• 26:05
  They
• 26:05
  get
• 26:06
  overwhelmed
• 26:07
  when
• 26:07
  they're
• 26:08
  around
• 26:08
  too
• 26:08
  many
• 26:09
  people,
• 26:10
  so
• 26:10
  don't
• 26:10
  bring
• 26:10
  them
• 26:11
  to
• 26:11
  a
• 26:11
  birthday
• 26:11
  party
• 26:12
  where
• 26:12
  there's
• 26:12
  going
• 26:12
  to
• 26:12
  be
• 26:12
  40
• 26:13
  kids.
• 26:13
  It's
• 26:14
  too
• 26:14
  much
• 26:14
  for
• 26:14
  them.
• 26:15
  And
• 26:15
  you
• 26:15
  know
• 26:15
  that
• 26:16
  so
• 26:16
  you
• 26:17
  make.
• 26:17
  You
• 26:18
  just
• 26:18
  steer
• 26:18
  them
• 26:18
  away
• 26:19
  from
• 26:19
  things
• 26:19
  that
• 26:19
  are
• 26:20
  gonna
• 26:20
  be
• 26:20
  difficult
• 26:20
  for
• 26:21
  them
• 26:21
  if
• 26:21
  you
• 26:21
  can.
• 26:21
  Yeah.
• 26:22
  So
• 26:22
  I
• 26:22
  think
• 26:23
  that's
• 26:23
  good
• 26:23
  advice.
• 26:24
  Right.
• 26:24
  Yeah,
• 26:24
  I
• 26:24
  agree.
• 26:24
  I
• 26:25
  totally
• 26:25
  agree.
• 26:26
  Know
• 26:26
  your
• 26:26
  child
• 26:26
  and
• 26:27
  understand
• 26:27
  what
• 26:28
  their
• 26:28
  limits
• 26:28
  are.
• 26:29
  Some
• 26:29
  things.
• 26:29
  Some
• 26:30
  limits
• 26:30
  can
• 26:30
  be
• 26:30
  pushed
• 26:31
  past,
• 26:32
  but
• 26:32
  some
• 26:32
  things.
• 26:33
  Is
• 26:33
  it
• 26:33
  worth
• 26:33
  it?
• 26:34
  Always
• 26:34
  ask
• 26:34
  yourself
• 26:35
  that.
• 26:35
  Especially
• 26:36
  when
• 26:36
  they're
• 26:36
  young.
• 26:36
  Yeah.
• 26:37
  Before
• 26:37
  you
• 26:37
  can
• 26:38
  really
• 26:38
  teach
• 26:38
  them.
• 26:39
  Yeah,
• 26:39
  exactly.
• 26:40
  Just
• 26:41
  control
• 26:41
  the
• 26:42
  environment
• 26:42
  and
• 26:43
  as
• 26:44
  best
• 26:44
  as
• 26:44
  you
• 26:44
  can.
• 26:44
  Right.
• 26:45
  I'm
• 26:45
  doing
• 26:45
  this
• 26:45
  right
• 26:46
  now
• 26:46
  with
• 26:46
  my
• 26:46
  puppy.
• 26:47
  I
• 26:47
  have
• 26:48
  to
• 26:48
  not
• 26:48
  give
• 26:49
  her
• 26:49
  free
• 26:49
  reign
• 26:49
  of
• 26:50
  everything
• 26:50
  because
• 26:50
  with
• 26:51
  free
• 26:51
  rein,
• 26:51
  she
• 26:52
  becomes
• 26:52
  destructive.
• 26:53
  And
• 26:54
  I
• 26:55
  cannot
• 26:55
  replace
• 26:56
  another
• 26:56
  couch
• 26:56
  cushion.
• 26:57
  No,
• 26:57
  exactly.
• 26:58
  And
• 26:58
  so.
• 26:59
  Or
• 26:59
  a
• 26:59
  boot.
• 27:00
  She
• 27:00
  loves
• 27:01
  expensive
• 27:01
  boots.
• 27:02
  Of
• 27:02
  course
• 27:03
  she
• 27:03
  does.
• 27:03
  Yeah.
• 27:04
  Well,
• 27:04
  no.
• 27:04
  And
• 27:05
  so
• 27:05
  it's
• 27:05
  like,
• 27:05
  we
• 27:06
  do
• 27:06
  this
• 27:06
  with
• 27:07
  our
• 27:07
  animals,
• 27:07
  but
• 27:08
  we
• 27:08
  have
• 27:08
  to
• 27:08
  do
• 27:09
  this
• 27:09
  with
• 27:09
  our
• 27:09
  kids
• 27:10
  as
• 27:10
  well.
• 27:10
  And
• 27:10
  not
• 27:10
  just
• 27:11
  controlling
• 27:12
  the
• 27:12
  space,
• 27:13
  but
• 27:13
  just
• 27:13
  controlling
• 27:14
  the
• 27:14
  situation
• 27:15
  that
• 27:16
  we
• 27:16
  put
• 27:16
  them
• 27:17
  into.
• 27:17
  You
• 27:17
  don't
• 27:17
  go
• 27:18
  out
• 27:18
  for
• 27:18
  a
• 27:18
  fancy
• 27:19
  dinner
• 27:20
  where
• 27:20
  the
• 27:20
  dinner,
• 27:21
  every
• 27:21
  course,
• 27:22
  is
• 27:22
  going
• 27:22
  to
• 27:22
  be
• 27:22
  served
• 27:23
  over
• 27:23
  a
• 27:23
  long
• 27:23
  period
• 27:24
  of
• 27:24
  time
• 27:24
  and
• 27:24
  expect
• 27:25
  your
• 27:25
  child
• 27:25
  to
• 27:25
  behave.
• 27:25
  Yeah.
• 27:26
  Let's
• 27:26
  set
• 27:26
  them
• 27:26
  up
• 27:26
  to
• 27:26
  win.
• 27:27
  Exactly.
• 27:28
  Exactly.
• 27:29
  And
• 27:29
  that's
• 27:30
  another.
• 27:30
  I
• 27:30
  just
• 27:31
  want
• 27:31
  to.
• 27:31
  I
• 27:31
  know
• 27:32
  I
• 27:32
  said
• 27:32
  this
• 27:32
  before,
• 27:32
  but
• 27:33
  I
• 27:33
  have
• 27:33
  to
• 27:33
  reiterate
• 27:34
  this
• 27:34
  point
• 27:34
  because
• 27:35
  we've
• 27:35
  read
• 27:35
  so
• 27:36
  many
• 27:36
  books
• 27:36
  that
• 27:36
  are
• 27:37
  about
• 27:38
  discipline
• 27:39
  and
• 27:39
  punishing
• 27:40
  kids
• 27:41
  and
• 27:41
  how
• 27:42
  to
• 27:42
  punish
• 27:42
  them
• 27:42
  or
• 27:42
  reward
• 27:43
  them,
• 27:43
  and
• 27:44
  so
• 27:44
  much
• 27:45
  of
• 27:45
  what
• 27:45
  they
• 27:45
  talk
• 27:46
  about
• 27:46
  often
• 27:47
  does
• 27:47
  not
• 27:47
  take
• 27:47
  into
• 27:48
  consideration
• 27:49
  executive
• 27:50
  function
• 27:50
  abilities,
• 27:51
  and
• 27:51
  that
• 27:52
  so
• 27:52
  often
• 27:52
  when
• 27:53
  a
• 27:53
  child
• 27:53
  isn't
• 27:53
  doing
• 27:54
  something
• 27:54
  they're
• 27:54
  supposed
• 27:55
  to,
• 27:55
  it's
• 27:56
  not
• 27:56
  because
• 27:56
  they're
• 27:57
  being
• 27:57
  defiant,
• 27:58
  it's
• 27:58
  because
• 27:59
  they
• 27:59
  really
• 27:59
  can't.
• 28:00
  And
• 28:01
  you
• 28:01
  need
• 28:01
  to
• 28:01
  understand
• 28:02
  the
• 28:02
  difference.
• 28:03
  And
• 28:03
  when
• 28:04
  they
• 28:04
  can't,
• 28:05
  you
• 28:06
  have
• 28:06
  to
• 28:06
  educate
• 28:06
  them
• 28:08
  or
• 28:08
  change
• 28:08
  their
• 28:08
  environment
• 28:09
  or
• 28:09
  whatever.
• 28:10
  Expound.
• 28:11
  Well,
• 28:12
  I
• 28:12
  feel
• 28:12
  strongly.
• 28:13
  I
• 28:13
  mean,
• 28:13
  I
• 28:13
  feel
• 28:13
  so
• 28:13
  bad.
• 28:14
  Did
• 28:14
  I
• 28:14
  ever
• 28:15
  punish
• 28:15
  you?
• 28:16
  I.
• 28:16
  I
• 28:16
  can't
• 28:16
  remember.
• 28:17
  No,
• 28:17
  you
• 28:17
  didn't
• 28:17
  punish
• 28:18
  me
• 28:18
  very
• 28:18
  much
• 28:18
  for
• 28:18
  anything
• 28:19
  because
• 28:19
  I
• 28:19
  think
• 28:19
  there
• 28:19
  was
• 28:20
  a
• 28:20
  part
• 28:20
  of
• 28:20
  you
• 28:20
  that
• 28:21
  understood
• 28:22
  that
• 28:22
  I
• 28:23
  wanted
• 28:23
  to
• 28:24
  please,
• 28:25
  but
• 28:25
  I
• 28:27
  just
• 28:27
  couldn't
• 28:28
  because
• 28:29
  I
• 28:29
  was
• 28:29
  guided
• 28:30
  by
• 28:30
  something
• 28:31
  inside
• 28:31
  me
• 28:31
  that
• 28:31
  was
• 28:32
  like,
• 28:32
  do
• 28:33
  whatever
• 28:33
  you
• 28:34
  want.
• 28:34
  Until
• 28:35
  I
• 28:35
  was
• 28:35
  like,
• 28:36
  21,
• 28:36
  I
• 28:37
  was
• 28:37
  like
• 28:37
  all
• 28:37
  ID.
• 28:38
  I
• 28:38
  had
• 28:39
  no
• 28:39
  superego.
• 28:39
  I
• 28:40
  had
• 28:40
  no
• 28:40
  ego.
• 28:41
  I
• 28:41
  was
• 28:41
  just
• 28:41
  id.
• 28:42
  It
• 28:42
  was
• 28:43
  like
• 28:43
  whatever
• 28:43
  in
• 28:43
  that
• 28:44
  moment
• 28:44
  sounded
• 28:44
  like
• 28:45
  the
• 28:45
  right
• 28:45
  thing
• 28:45
  to
• 28:45
  do.
• 28:45
  I
• 28:45
  was
• 28:46
  like,
• 28:46
  that's
• 28:47
  it.
• 28:47
  There's
• 28:47
  nothing
• 28:48
  else.
• 28:48
  Self
• 28:48
  control.
• 28:49
  Yeah.
• 28:49
  And
• 28:49
  I
• 28:49
  think
• 28:50
  to
• 28:50
  an
• 28:50
  extent,
• 28:50
  you
• 28:50
  were
• 28:51
  pretty
• 28:51
  compassionate
• 28:51
  about
• 28:52
  that
• 28:52
  because
• 28:52
  I
• 28:52
  think
• 28:53
  on
• 28:53
  a
• 28:53
  deeper
• 28:53
  level,
• 28:54
  you
• 28:54
  understood
• 28:55
  that
• 28:55
  you
• 28:55
  had
• 28:56
  some
• 28:56
  of
• 28:56
  these
• 28:56
  qualities
• 28:57
  too,
• 28:57
  and
• 28:58
  your
• 28:58
  parents
• 28:58
  were
• 28:58
  incredibly
• 28:59
  strict
• 29:00
  with
• 29:00
  you.
• 29:00
  And
• 29:01
  so
• 29:01
  disciplined,
• 29:02
  which
• 29:02
  in
• 29:02
  some
• 29:03
  ways
• 29:03
  worked
• 29:03
  out.
• 29:03
  You
• 29:03
  were
• 29:04
  a
• 29:04
  great
• 29:04
  student.
• 29:05
  You
• 29:05
  got
• 29:05
  a
• 29:05
  law
• 29:05
  degree.
• 29:06
  You've
• 29:07
  done.
• 29:07
  You've
• 29:07
  accomplished
• 29:08
  a
• 29:08
  lot.
• 29:09
  But
• 29:09
  I
• 29:09
  think
• 29:10
  it
• 29:10
  was
• 29:10
  hard
• 29:10
  for
• 29:10
  you.
• 29:11
  Very
• 29:11
  hard
• 29:11
  for
• 29:11
  me.
• 29:12
  I
• 29:12
  had
• 29:12
  to
• 29:12
  work
• 29:12
  hard
• 29:12
  on
• 29:13
  yourself.
• 29:13
  Yeah,
• 29:13
  I
• 29:14
  did.
• 29:14
  And
• 29:14
  you
• 29:14
  didn't
• 29:14
  want
• 29:15
  me
• 29:15
  to
• 29:16
  be
• 29:16
  hard
• 29:16
  on
• 29:16
  myself.
• 29:16
  You
• 29:17
  didn't
• 29:17
  want
• 29:17
  it
• 29:17
  to
• 29:17
  impact
• 29:18
  my
• 29:18
  confidence.
• 29:19
  No,
• 29:19
  I
• 29:19
  always
• 29:19
  wanted
• 29:20
  you
• 29:20
  to
• 29:20
  be
• 29:20
  confident.
• 29:21
  And
• 29:21
  I
• 29:21
  think
• 29:21
  that
• 29:22
  when
• 29:22
  you
• 29:22
  have
• 29:22
  a
• 29:23
  child
• 29:23
  like
• 29:23
  this
• 29:24
  that
• 29:24
  we're
• 29:24
  talking
• 29:24
  about
• 29:25
  in
• 29:25
  a
• 29:25
  book
• 29:26
  like
• 29:26
  this
• 29:27
  that
• 29:27
  is
• 29:28
  struggling
• 29:28
  with
• 29:29
  a
• 29:29
  lot
• 29:29
  of
• 29:29
  things,
• 29:30
  often
• 29:30
  in
• 29:31
  school,
• 29:31
  it's
• 29:32
  really
• 29:32
  important
• 29:33
  to
• 29:33
  find
• 29:33
  things
• 29:34
  outside
• 29:34
  of
• 29:34
  school
• 29:35
  where
• 29:35
  they
• 29:35
  can
• 29:35
  be
• 29:35
  really
• 29:36
  successful
• 29:39
  and
• 29:39
  feel
• 29:39
  good
• 29:39
  about
• 29:39
  themselves.
• 29:40
  Because
• 29:40
  you
• 29:40
  always
• 29:41
  had
• 29:41
  confidence,
• 29:42
  even
• 29:42
  when
• 29:43
  you
• 29:43
  weren't
• 29:43
  doing
• 29:44
  well
• 29:44
  in
• 29:44
  school.
• 29:44
  Even
• 29:45
  when
• 29:45
  I
• 29:45
  was
• 29:46
  literally
• 29:47
  being
• 29:47
  kicked
• 29:47
  out,
• 29:48
  I
• 29:48
  was
• 29:48
  like,
• 29:48
  it's
• 29:48
  about
• 29:48
  them.
• 29:49
  It's
• 29:49
  not
• 29:49
  about
• 29:49
  me.
• 29:50
  Well,
• 29:52
  it's
• 29:52
  fine.
• 29:53
  They
• 29:53
  just
• 29:54
  can't
• 29:54
  understand
• 29:55
  my
• 29:55
  greatness.
• 29:56
  Well,
• 29:56
  I
• 29:57
  always
• 29:57
  knew
• 29:57
  there
• 29:58
  was
• 29:58
  a
• 29:58
  great
• 29:58
  child
• 29:59
  inside
• 29:59
  of
• 30:00
  you
• 30:00
  and
• 30:00
  that
• 30:01
  someday
• 30:02
  you
• 30:02
  would
• 30:02
  be
• 30:02
  fantastic.
• 30:04
  But
• 30:04
  I
• 30:04
  was
• 30:04
  just
• 30:04
  like,
• 30:05
  get
• 30:05
  this
• 30:05
  kid
• 30:05
  through
• 30:06
  school.
• 30:06
  And
• 30:06
  then
• 30:07
  trying
• 30:07
  to
• 30:07
  figure
• 30:07
  out
• 30:07
  how
• 30:08
  to
• 30:08
  get
• 30:08
  you
• 30:08
  through
• 30:08
  school,
• 30:08
  which
• 30:09
  was
• 30:09
  hard.
• 30:10
  With
• 30:10
  all
• 30:11
  the
• 30:11
  issues
• 30:11
  that
• 30:11
  you
• 30:11
  had
• 30:12
  with
• 30:13
  executive
• 30:13
  function.
• 30:14
  It
• 30:14
  was
• 30:14
  really
• 30:14
  difficult.
• 30:15
  It
• 30:16
  is
• 30:16
  a
• 30:17
  book
• 30:17
  like
• 30:17
  this.
• 30:17
  I
• 30:18
  wish
• 30:18
  I
• 30:18
  had
• 30:19
  had
• 30:19
  it
• 30:19
  at
• 30:19
  the
• 30:19
  time.
• 30:20
  I
• 30:21
  would
• 30:21
  have
• 30:21
  gotten
• 30:22
  so
• 30:22
  much
• 30:22
  out
• 30:22
  of
• 30:23
  it.
• 30:23
  I
• 30:23
  think
• 30:24
  I
• 30:24
  would
• 30:24
  have
• 30:24
  been
• 30:24
  able
• 30:24
  to
• 30:24
  help
• 30:25
  you.
• 30:25
  I
• 30:25
  don't
• 30:25
  know
• 30:25
  if
• 30:26
  all
• 30:26
  the
• 30:26
  things
• 30:26
  they
• 30:27
  suggest
• 30:27
  would
• 30:27
  have
• 30:27
  helped.
• 30:28
  Well,
• 30:29
  the
• 30:29
  prevailing
• 30:30
  theory
• 30:30
  when
• 30:30
  I
• 30:30
  was
• 30:31
  a
• 30:31
  kid,
• 30:31
  when
• 30:32
  you
• 30:32
  had
• 30:33
  a
• 30:33
  child
• 30:33
  with
• 30:33
  behavioral
• 30:34
  issues,
• 30:34
  was
• 30:34
  medication.
• 30:35
  Ye.
• 30:36
  Medicate.
• 30:36
  Medicate.
• 30:36
  Medicaid.
• 30:37
  This
• 30:37
  is
• 30:37
  the
• 30:38
  answer.
• 30:38
  There
• 30:38
  wasn't
• 30:39
  a
• 30:39
  lot
• 30:39
  of
• 30:40
  curiosity
• 30:41
  or
• 30:41
  investigation
• 30:42
  about
• 30:43
  actually
• 30:44
  solving
• 30:45
  the
• 30:45
  symptoms,
• 30:46
  the
• 30:46
  behavioral
• 30:46
  issues.
• 30:47
  Yeah.
• 30:47
  And
• 30:47
  you
• 30:47
  can
• 30:48
  do
• 30:48
  that
• 30:48
  through
• 30:49
  coaching
• 30:50
  and
• 30:50
  you
• 30:50
  can
• 30:50
  do
• 30:50
  that
• 30:51
  through
• 30:51
  teaching.
• 30:52
  Yeah.
• 30:53
  Which.
• 30:53
  Which
• 30:54
  they
• 30:54
  did
• 30:54
  not.
• 30:55
  Nobody.
• 30:55
  I
• 30:56
  had
• 30:56
  no
• 30:56
  information
• 30:56
  on
• 30:57
  that.
• 30:57
  There
• 30:57
  are
• 30:58
  plenty
• 30:58
  of
• 30:58
  benefits
• 30:58
  to
• 30:59
  medication.
• 31:00
  That
• 31:01
  said,
• 31:01
  I
• 31:02
  don't
• 31:02
  know
• 31:02
  that
• 31:02
  if
• 31:03
  my
• 31:03
  child
• 31:03
  were
• 31:04
  presenting
• 31:05
  these
• 31:06
  behavioral
• 31:06
  challenges
• 31:07
  today,
• 31:08
  I
• 31:08
  might
• 31:08
  try
• 31:08
  another
• 31:09
  route.
• 31:09
  Before
• 31:10
  I
• 31:10
  went
• 31:10
  to
• 31:10
  medication,
• 31:11
  I
• 31:11
  would.
• 31:11
  Or
• 31:12
  a
• 31:12
  combo
• 31:12
  of
• 31:12
  both.
• 31:13
  Maybe
• 31:13
  a
• 31:13
  little
• 31:14
  less
• 31:14
  medication.
• 31:15
  Well,
• 31:16
  yeah,
• 31:16
  I
• 31:16
  mean,
• 31:17
  it's.
• 31:17
  It's
• 31:17
  always
• 31:18
  worth
• 31:18
  it.
• 31:18
  Potentially
• 31:19
  could
• 31:19
  be
• 31:19
  worth
• 31:20
  trying.
• 31:20
  I
• 31:20
  mean,
• 31:20
  you
• 31:20
  have
• 31:21
  to
• 31:21
  talk
• 31:21
  to
• 31:21
  your
• 31:21
  doctor
• 31:22
  and
• 31:22
  you
• 31:22
  have
• 31:22
  to
• 31:22
  really
• 31:23
  see.
• 31:23
  We
• 31:23
  are
• 31:23
  not
• 31:23
  doctors.
• 31:24
  Do
• 31:24
  not
• 31:24
  take
• 31:25
  our
• 31:25
  medical
• 31:25
  advice.
• 31:26
  However,
• 31:26
  I
• 31:26
  have
• 31:26
  been
• 31:27
  on
• 31:27
  ADHD
• 31:27
  medication
• 31:28
  for
• 31:28
  a
• 31:28
  long
• 31:28
  time.
• 31:29
  And,
• 31:30
  you
• 31:30
  know,
• 31:31
  it's
• 31:31
  strange
• 31:32
  how
• 31:32
  it
• 31:32
  sort
• 31:32
  of
• 31:33
  changes
• 31:34
  how
• 31:34
  it
• 31:34
  affects
• 31:34
  you
• 31:35
  through
• 31:35
  life.
• 31:35
  As
• 31:36
  a
• 31:36
  kid,
• 31:36
  I
• 31:37
  felt
• 31:38
  like
• 31:38
  it
• 31:38
  stifled
• 31:39
  me
• 31:40
  a
• 31:40
  lot.
• 31:40
  It
• 31:41
  definitely
• 31:41
  brought
• 31:42
  me
• 31:42
  down.
• 31:43
  But
• 31:43
  I
• 31:43
  was
• 31:43
  at
• 31:43
  an
• 31:44
  11.
• 31:45
  And
• 31:45
  I
• 31:45
  needed
• 31:45
  to
• 31:45
  be
• 31:46
  more
• 31:46
  at
• 31:46
  a
• 31:46
  6
• 31:47
  day
• 31:47
  to
• 31:47
  day.
• 31:48
  So
• 31:48
  it
• 31:48
  accomplished
• 31:49
  that.
• 31:50
  Did
• 31:50
  it
• 31:50
  help
• 31:51
  with
• 31:51
  my
• 31:51
  ability
• 31:51
  to
• 31:52
  focus?
• 31:53
  Not
• 31:54
  really.
• 31:54
  When
• 31:55
  I
• 31:55
  was
• 31:55
  like
• 31:56
  a
• 31:56
  late
• 31:56
  teenager,
• 31:56
  early
• 31:57
  20s,
• 31:57
  did
• 31:57
  it
• 31:57
  make
• 31:58
  me
• 31:58
  very
• 31:58
  thin,
• 31:58
  which
• 31:59
  I
• 31:59
  enjoy.
• 32:00
  Yes.
• 32:01
  Although
• 32:02
  not
• 32:02
  the
• 32:03
  point.
• 32:03
  Not
• 32:04
  the
• 32:04
  point.
• 32:04
  Not
• 32:05
  the
• 32:05
  reason.
• 32:05
  The
• 32:06
  medicine.
• 32:06
  Well,
• 32:06
  and
• 32:06
  they
• 32:07
  say
• 32:07
  that
• 32:07
  it.
• 32:08
  That
• 32:08
  it
• 32:08
  can.
• 32:11
  I'm
• 32:11
  not
• 32:11
  gonna
• 32:11
  say
• 32:12
  stunt
• 32:12
  your
• 32:12
  growth,
• 32:12
  but
• 32:13
  limit
• 32:13
  your
• 32:13
  growth
• 32:14
  if
• 32:14
  you're
• 32:14
  taking
• 32:14
  it
• 32:15
  while
• 32:15
  you're
• 32:15
  growing.
• 32:15
  I'm
• 32:16
  small,
• 32:17
  so
• 32:17
  it's
• 32:17
  possible.
• 32:17
  But
• 32:18
  you're
• 32:18
  a
• 32:18
  small.
• 32:18
  I'm
• 32:19
  small
• 32:19
  too,
• 32:19
  so
• 32:20
  it's.
• 32:20
  I
• 32:20
  don't
• 32:20
  think
• 32:20
  that
• 32:20
  was
• 32:21
  it,
• 32:21
  but.
• 32:21
  Yeah,
• 32:22
  yeah,
• 32:22
  but
• 32:22
  I
• 32:22
  mean,
• 32:22
  it's
• 32:23
  like,
• 32:23
  it's,
• 32:23
  It's
• 32:23
  a.
• 32:24
  It's.
• 32:24
  You
• 32:24
  have
• 32:24
  to
• 32:24
  make
• 32:25
  that
• 32:25
  decision
• 32:25
  with
• 32:25
  your
• 32:25
  doctor,
• 32:26
  whatever.
• 32:27
  But
• 32:27
  the
• 32:27
  point
• 32:27
  is
• 32:28
  that
• 32:28
  even
• 32:28
  when
• 32:28
  you
• 32:29
  do
• 32:29
  take
• 32:29
  medication,
• 32:30
  it
• 32:30
  needs
• 32:30
  to
• 32:30
  be
• 32:31
  combined
• 32:31
  with
• 32:31
  behavioral
• 32:32
  support.
• 32:32
  Yes.
• 32:33
  And
• 32:33
  that's
• 32:33
  what
• 32:33
  this
• 32:33
  book
• 32:34
  helps
• 32:34
  you
• 32:34
  do.
• 32:35
  Behavioral
• 32:35
  support.
• 32:36
  And
• 32:36
  that's
• 32:36
  really
• 32:36
  what
• 32:37
  we're
• 32:37
  looking
• 32:37
  for.
• 32:37
  Exactly.
• 32:39
  Okay,
• 32:39
  so
• 32:40
  I
• 32:40
  want
• 32:40
  to
• 32:40
  just
• 32:40
  talk
• 32:41
  about
• 32:42
  some
• 32:42
  of
• 32:42
  the
• 32:42
  things
• 32:43
  they
• 32:44
  talk
• 32:44
  about
• 32:44
  here,
• 32:45
  which
• 32:45
  is,
• 32:46
  what
• 32:46
  are
• 32:46
  some
• 32:47
  ways
• 32:47
  to
• 32:47
  improve
• 32:48
  someone's
• 32:49
  executive
• 32:49
  function
• 32:50
  skills?
• 32:50
  What
• 32:50
  can
• 32:51
  you
• 32:51
  do?
• 32:52
  And
• 32:52
  first
• 32:53
  of
• 32:53
  all,
• 32:53
  they
• 32:53
  give
• 32:53
  you
• 32:53
  the
• 32:53
  milestones
• 32:54
  of.
• 32:55
  At
• 32:55
  different
• 32:56
  ages,
• 32:57
  what
• 32:57
  should
• 32:57
  a
• 32:58
  child
• 32:58
  potentially
• 32:59
  be
• 32:59
  able
• 32:59
  to
• 32:59
  do?
• 33:00
  These
• 33:00
  are,
• 33:00
  you
• 33:01
  know,
• 33:01
  it's.
• 33:01
  Not
• 33:02
  every
• 33:02
  child
• 33:03
  can
• 33:03
  do
• 33:03
  all
• 33:03
  these
• 33:03
  things
• 33:04
  at
• 33:04
  every
• 33:04
  age,
• 33:04
  but
• 33:05
  they're
• 33:05
  milestones
• 33:06
  that
• 33:06
  if
• 33:06
  your
• 33:07
  child
• 33:07
  isn't
• 33:07
  doing
• 33:08
  things
• 33:08
  that
• 33:08
  young,
• 33:09
  Young
• 33:09
  kids
• 33:09
  should
• 33:10
  be
• 33:10
  able
• 33:10
  to
• 33:11
  do
• 33:11
  and
• 33:11
  they're
• 33:11
  older,
• 33:12
  you
• 33:12
  can
• 33:13
  ask
• 33:13
  yourself,
• 33:13
  okay,
• 33:14
  this,
• 33:14
  this
• 33:14
  is
• 33:14
  a
• 33:14
  problem,
• 33:15
  perhaps.
• 33:16
  And
• 33:16
  so
• 33:17
  some
• 33:17
  of
• 33:17
  the
• 33:17
  things
• 33:17
  they
• 33:18
  tell
• 33:18
  you,
• 33:18
  these
• 33:18
  are
• 33:19
  the.
• 33:19
  They
• 33:19
  kind
• 33:19
  of
• 33:19
  give
• 33:20
  you
• 33:20
  10
• 33:20
  things.
• 33:23
  And
• 33:23
  this
• 33:23
  is
• 33:23
  for
• 33:23
  kids
• 33:24
  in
• 33:24
  preschool
• 33:25
  to
• 33:25
  grade
• 33:25
  eight.
• 33:26
  But
• 33:26
  it,
• 33:26
  it
• 33:27
  really
• 33:27
  works
• 33:27
  for
• 33:27
  older
• 33:28
  kids
• 33:28
  as
• 33:28
  well.
• 33:29
  First
• 33:30
  of
• 33:30
  all,
• 33:30
  actively
• 33:31
  teach
• 33:31
  them
• 33:31
  deficient
• 33:32
  skills
• 33:32
  rather
• 33:33
  than
• 33:33
  just
• 33:33
  expecting
• 33:34
  them
• 33:34
  to
• 33:35
  get
• 33:35
  them.
• 33:35
  Yeah.
• 33:36
  You
• 33:36
  know,
• 33:36
  they
• 33:36
  don't
• 33:36
  absorb
• 33:37
  everything.
• 33:37
  No.
• 33:38
  Yeah.
• 33:38
  Sometimes
• 33:39
  have
• 33:39
  to
• 33:39
  be
• 33:39
  very
• 33:40
  proactive.
• 33:40
  Proactive.
• 33:41
  Right.
• 33:43
  Don't
• 33:43
  just
• 33:43
  wait
• 33:43
  and
• 33:43
  see
• 33:44
  because
• 33:45
  you
• 33:45
  might
• 33:45
  miss
• 33:45
  the
• 33:45
  window.
• 33:46
  Yeah.
• 33:46
  You
• 33:47
  know,
• 33:47
  jump
• 33:47
  in
• 33:47
  and
• 33:47
  help.
• 33:48
  And
• 33:48
  then.
• 33:48
  And
• 33:48
  ask
• 33:49
  yourself,
• 33:49
  is
• 33:49
  your
• 33:49
  child
• 33:50
  developmentally
• 33:50
  ready
• 33:51
  to
• 33:51
  do
• 33:51
  the
• 33:51
  things
• 33:52
  you're
• 33:52
  expecting
• 33:52
  of
• 33:52
  them?
• 33:53
  A
• 33:53
  lot
• 33:53
  of
• 33:53
  times
• 33:53
  parents
• 33:54
  expect
• 33:54
  kids
• 33:55
  to
• 33:55
  do
• 33:55
  things
• 33:57
  that
• 33:57
  they
• 33:57
  just
• 33:58
  are
• 33:58
  not
• 33:59
  capable
• 33:59
  of
• 33:59
  at
• 34:00
  their
• 34:00
  age.
• 34:00
  So
• 34:01
  look
• 34:01
  at
• 34:01
  those
• 34:01
  milestones.
• 34:03
  Then
• 34:03
  at
• 34:04
  first,
• 34:04
  you
• 34:05
  have
• 34:05
  to
• 34:05
  start
• 34:05
  with
• 34:05
  external
• 34:06
  cues
• 34:06
  when
• 34:06
  you're
• 34:07
  trying
• 34:07
  to
• 34:07
  help
• 34:07
  a
• 34:07
  kid
• 34:08
  like
• 34:09
  you,
• 34:10
  reminding
• 34:10
  them
• 34:11
  to
• 34:11
  do
• 34:12
  their
• 34:12
  chores
• 34:13
  or
• 34:14
  make
• 34:14
  the
• 34:14
  tasks
• 34:15
  you
• 34:15
  ask
• 34:15
  them
• 34:15
  to
• 34:15
  do
• 34:17
  smaller.
• 34:17
  Yeah.
• 34:18
  Things
• 34:18
  like
• 34:18
  that.
• 34:18
  I
• 34:19
  liked
• 34:19
  this
• 34:19
  tip
• 34:19
  because
• 34:20
  it
• 34:20
  basically
• 34:21
  was
• 34:21
  like
• 34:21
  before
• 34:22
  you
• 34:22
  try
• 34:22
  and
• 34:22
  Change
• 34:23
  the
• 34:23
  child,
• 34:23
  change
• 34:24
  the
• 34:24
  environment
• 34:24
  and
• 34:25
  see
• 34:25
  how
• 34:25
  far
• 34:26
  you
• 34:26
  get.
• 34:26
  Yeah.
• 34:26
  Because
• 34:27
  sometimes
• 34:27
  that
• 34:27
  can
• 34:27
  be
• 34:27
  enough.
• 34:28
  It
• 34:28
  can.
• 34:28
  It
• 34:29
  can
• 34:29
  really
• 34:29
  help.
• 34:31
  Right.
• 34:31
  And
• 34:32
  then.
• 34:33
  Yeah,
• 34:33
  the
• 34:33
  environment,
• 34:34
  mental
• 34:34
  changes.
• 34:34
  Like,
• 34:35
  you
• 34:35
  know,
• 34:35
  if
• 34:36
  your
• 34:36
  child
• 34:36
  can't
• 34:36
  focus
• 34:36
  on
• 34:37
  homework,
• 34:38
  put
• 34:38
  them
• 34:38
  in
• 34:38
  the
• 34:39
  kitchen
• 34:39
  while
• 34:39
  you're
• 34:39
  there
• 34:40
  working
• 34:41
  yourself.
• 34:42
  Yeah,
• 34:42
  like
• 34:42
  parallel
• 34:43
  work.
• 34:43
  That
• 34:44
  was
• 34:44
  super
• 34:44
  helpful
• 34:45
  for
• 34:45
  me
• 34:46
  at
• 34:46
  Conservatory.
• 34:47
  If
• 34:47
  I
• 34:47
  had
• 34:48
  to
• 34:48
  do
• 34:48
  like
• 34:48
  script
• 34:49
  analysis
• 34:49
  or
• 34:49
  something,
• 34:49
  which
• 34:50
  is
• 34:50
  boring,
• 34:52
  me
• 34:52
  and
• 34:52
  a
• 34:53
  couple
• 34:53
  other
• 34:54
  of
• 34:54
  the
• 34:55
  students
• 34:55
  would
• 34:55
  all
• 34:56
  sit
• 34:56
  together
• 34:57
  in
• 34:57
  this
• 34:58
  common
• 34:58
  space
• 34:58
  and
• 34:59
  do
• 34:59
  it
• 34:59
  at
• 34:59
  the
• 34:59
  same
• 34:59
  time.
• 35:00
  Because
• 35:00
  if
• 35:00
  other
• 35:00
  people.
• 35:01
  Yeah,
• 35:02
  it's
• 35:02
  super
• 35:02
  helpful.
• 35:03
  Right.
• 35:03
  It
• 35:04
  just
• 35:04
  sets
• 35:05
  the
• 35:05
  vibe
• 35:05
  well.
• 35:06
  And
• 35:06
  it's
• 35:06
  like
• 35:06
  everyone
• 35:07
  else
• 35:07
  is
• 35:07
  working,
• 35:07
  so
• 35:08
  you
• 35:08
  sort
• 35:08
  of
• 35:08
  feel
• 35:08
  like
• 35:08
  you
• 35:08
  have
• 35:09
  to
• 35:09
  work.
• 35:09
  Yeah.
• 35:10
  So
• 35:10
  it
• 35:10
  does
• 35:10
  get
• 35:10
  you
• 35:11
  going.
• 35:12
  This
• 35:12
  is
• 35:12
  something
• 35:12
  I
• 35:13
  totally
• 35:13
  believe
• 35:13
  in.
• 35:14
  Create
• 35:15
  routines
• 35:15
  and
• 35:16
  schedules
• 35:16
  for
• 35:17
  young
• 35:17
  kids.
• 35:18
  Very
• 35:18
  important,
• 35:19
  because
• 35:19
  the
• 35:20
  more
• 35:20
  you
• 35:20
  can
• 35:21
  make
• 35:22
  these
• 35:22
  behaviors
• 35:23
  into
• 35:23
  habits
• 35:24
  and
• 35:24
  things
• 35:25
  they're
• 35:25
  used
• 35:25
  to
• 35:25
  doing
• 35:26
  every
• 35:26
  day,
• 35:26
  they
• 35:27
  don't
• 35:27
  even
• 35:27
  think
• 35:27
  about
• 35:28
  it.
• 35:28
  Then
• 35:30
  the
• 35:30
  easier
• 35:30
  your
• 35:31
  life
• 35:31
  will
• 35:31
  be.
• 35:31
  So
• 35:32
  that's
• 35:32
  really
• 35:32
  important.
• 35:33
  Also,
• 35:33
  give
• 35:34
  kids
• 35:34
  choices,
• 35:35
  but
• 35:36
  choices
• 35:36
  where
• 35:36
  you're
• 35:37
  okay
• 35:37
  with
• 35:37
  whatever
• 35:37
  they
• 35:38
  choose.
• 35:38
  Yes.
• 35:39
  Key.
• 35:39
  That's
• 35:40
  very
• 35:40
  important.
• 35:40
  And
• 35:40
  then
• 35:41
  practice
• 35:42
  things
• 35:42
  that
• 35:43
  are
• 35:43
  going
• 35:43
  to
• 35:43
  be
• 35:43
  hard
• 35:43
  for
• 35:43
  them,
• 35:44
  but
• 35:44
  in
• 35:44
  small
• 35:44
  steps.
• 35:45
  Not.
• 35:45
  Don't
• 35:46
  expect
• 35:46
  them
• 35:46
  to
• 35:46
  clean
• 35:47
  the
• 35:47
  entire
• 35:47
  room
• 35:48
  themselves,
• 35:49
  but
• 35:49
  say,
• 35:50
  let's
• 35:50
  just
• 35:50
  put
• 35:51
  the
• 35:51
  right
• 35:51
  toys
• 35:52
  in,
• 35:52
  the
• 35:53
  small
• 35:53
  toys
• 35:53
  in
• 35:53
  this
• 35:54
  bin,
• 35:54
  the
• 35:54
  big
• 35:55
  toys
• 35:55
  in.
• 35:55
  This
• 35:55
  bin,
• 35:56
  and
• 35:56
  then
• 35:56
  teach
• 35:56
  them
• 35:56
  how
• 35:56
  to
• 35:57
  hang
• 35:57
  things
• 35:57
  on
• 35:57
  a
• 35:57
  hanger.
• 35:58
  Well,
• 35:58
  that.
• 35:58
  Yeah,
• 35:59
  exactly.
• 35:59
  Did
• 35:59
  you
• 35:59
  not
• 36:00
  know
• 36:00
  that?
• 36:00
  I
• 36:00
  mean,
• 36:01
  I
• 36:01
  knew,
• 36:02
  but
• 36:02
  did
• 36:02
  I
• 36:03
  want
• 36:03
  to
• 36:03
  do
• 36:04
  it?
• 36:04
  Yeah,
• 36:05
  but
• 36:06
  offer
• 36:06
  incentives.
• 36:07
  She
• 36:07
  says
• 36:08
  offer
• 36:08
  incentives.
• 36:10
  You
• 36:10
  know,
• 36:10
  you
• 36:10
  can
• 36:10
  modify
• 36:11
  tasks
• 36:11
  to
• 36:12
  your
• 36:12
  child's
• 36:12
  abilities.
• 36:14
  Come
• 36:14
  up
• 36:15
  with
• 36:15
  incentive
• 36:16
  systems
• 36:16
  to
• 36:17
  get.
• 36:17
  Kids
• 36:17
  to
• 36:17
  do
• 36:17
  what
• 36:18
  you
• 36:18
  want
• 36:18
  them
• 36:18
  to
• 36:18
  do
• 36:19
  them.
• 36:19
  Pay
• 36:19
  them.
• 36:19
  Pay
• 36:20
  them
• 36:21
  rewards.
• 36:22
  That
• 36:22
  always
• 36:22
  works.
• 36:23
  And
• 36:24
  the
• 36:24
  big
• 36:24
  one.
• 36:24
  Provide
• 36:25
  just
• 36:25
  enough
• 36:25
  support
• 36:25
  for
• 36:26
  a
• 36:26
  child
• 36:26
  to
• 36:26
  be
• 36:26
  successful.
• 36:27
  Don't
• 36:27
  do
• 36:28
  it
• 36:28
  for
• 36:28
  them.
• 36:28
  Like
• 36:29
  I
• 36:29
  did
• 36:29
  your
• 36:29
  project.
• 36:30
  Sorry
• 36:30
  about
• 36:30
  that.
• 36:31
  Thank
• 36:32
  you
• 36:32
  for
• 36:32
  that.
• 36:32
  It
• 36:32
  was.
• 36:33
  To
• 36:33
  this
• 36:33
  day,
• 36:34
  I
• 36:34
  would
• 36:34
  love.
• 36:35
  I
• 36:35
  wish
• 36:35
  we
• 36:35
  still
• 36:35
  had
• 36:36
  it.
• 36:36
  I'm
• 36:37
  sure
• 36:37
  it
• 36:37
  was
• 36:38
  fabulous.
• 36:38
  You
• 36:39
  are
• 36:39
  incredibly
• 36:39
  artistic.
• 36:40
  I
• 36:40
  know.
• 36:40
  And
• 36:40
  so
• 36:41
  I.
• 36:41
  I
• 36:41
  imagine
• 36:41
  my
• 36:42
  teacher
• 36:42
  had
• 36:43
  an
• 36:43
  inkling.
• 36:43
  How
• 36:44
  could
• 36:44
  she
• 36:44
  not
• 36:44
  do
• 36:45
  it?
• 36:45
  You
• 36:45
  were,
• 36:46
  like,
• 36:46
  so
• 36:46
  young.
• 36:47
  It
• 36:47
  was
• 36:48
  like
• 36:48
  a
• 36:48
  work
• 36:48
  of
• 36:48
  art.
• 36:48
  It
• 36:49
  belonged
• 36:49
  in
• 36:49
  a
• 36:49
  museum.
• 36:50
  It
• 36:50
  was
• 36:50
  so
• 36:50
  good.
• 36:50
  It
• 36:51
  was
• 36:51
  beautiful.
• 36:51
  It
• 36:51
  was
• 36:51
  like
• 36:52
  sculpey
• 36:52
  and
• 36:52
  origami
• 36:53
  paper.
• 36:54
  You
• 36:54
  sewed
• 36:55
  these
• 36:55
  tiny
• 36:55
  little
• 36:56
  pillows
• 36:57
  for
• 36:57
  the
• 36:57
  table.
• 36:58
  It
• 36:59
  was
• 36:59
  fabulous.
• 36:59
  And
• 37:00
  then
• 37:00
  you
• 37:00
  got
• 37:00
  really
• 37:00
  into
• 37:01
  mosaics.
• 37:01
  I
• 37:02
  did
• 37:02
  remember.
• 37:02
  Do
• 37:02
  you
• 37:02
  remember
• 37:03
  the
• 37:03
  mosaic
• 37:04
  tables?
• 37:04
  I
• 37:04
  know.
• 37:05
  I
• 37:05
  remember.
• 37:05
  We
• 37:05
  had
• 37:05
  a
• 37:05
  lot
• 37:05
  of
• 37:05
  those.
• 37:07
  Yeah.
• 37:07
  Anyway,
• 37:08
  okay.
• 37:08
  And
• 37:09
  then
• 37:09
  so
• 37:10
  the.
• 37:10
  So
• 37:10
  they
• 37:10
  give
• 37:11
  good,
• 37:11
  really
• 37:11
  good
• 37:11
  tips
• 37:12
  on
• 37:12
  how
• 37:13
  to
• 37:13
  help
• 37:13
  your
• 37:13
  child.
• 37:15
  You
• 37:15
  know,
• 37:16
  how
• 37:16
  to
• 37:17
  help
• 37:17
  your
• 37:17
  child
• 37:18
  with
• 37:19
  each
• 37:19
  of
• 37:19
  the
• 37:19
  executive
• 37:20
  functions.
• 37:21
  Then
• 37:21
  they
• 37:21
  go
• 37:21
  into
• 37:21
  great
• 37:22
  detail
• 37:23
  and
• 37:23
  then
• 37:24
  great
• 37:24
  detail,
• 37:24
  which
• 37:25
  I'm
• 37:25
  not.
• 37:25
  We're
• 37:25
  not
• 37:25
  going
• 37:25
  to
• 37:25
  go
• 37:26
  into
• 37:26
  all
• 37:26
  the.
• 37:26
  Because
• 37:27
  you
• 37:27
  really,
• 37:27
  if
• 37:28
  you
• 37:28
  have
• 37:28
  a
• 37:28
  kid
• 37:28
  like
• 37:29
  this,
• 37:29
  read
• 37:29
  the
• 37:29
  book.
• 37:30
  This
• 37:30
  is
• 37:31
  a
• 37:31
  book.
• 37:31
  You
• 37:31
  have
• 37:32
  to
• 37:32
  read
• 37:32
  the
• 37:32
  book
• 37:32
  because
• 37:32
  you
• 37:33
  will
• 37:33
  find
• 37:34
  the
• 37:34
  things
• 37:34
  that
• 37:35
  relate
• 37:35
  to
• 37:35
  your
• 37:35
  child.
• 37:36
  And
• 37:36
  there's
• 37:36
  so
• 37:37
  many
• 37:37
  tips
• 37:37
  and
• 37:37
  so
• 37:38
  many
• 37:38
  they
• 37:38
  talk
• 37:39
  about.
• 37:39
  Okay.
• 37:39
  When
• 37:39
  we
• 37:40
  talk
• 37:40
  about
• 37:40
  modifying
• 37:41
  the
• 37:41
  environment.
• 37:42
  How
• 37:42
  can
• 37:42
  you
• 37:42
  do
• 37:43
  this
• 37:43
  for
• 37:43
  young
• 37:43
  kids,
• 37:44
  for
• 37:44
  old
• 37:44
  kids
• 37:46
  and
• 37:46
  then
• 37:46
  teaching
• 37:47
  kids
• 37:48
  executive
• 37:48
  function
• 37:49
  skills
• 37:49
  directly.
• 37:50
  How
• 37:50
  do
• 37:50
  you
• 37:51
  do
• 37:51
  that?
• 37:51
  You
• 37:51
  know,
• 37:52
  and
• 37:52
  they
• 37:52
  show
• 37:52
  you
• 37:52
  how
• 37:53
  to
• 37:53
  do
• 37:53
  that.
• 37:54
  And
• 37:54
  one
• 37:54
  thing
• 37:54
  they
• 37:55
  say,
• 37:55
  which
• 37:55
  I
• 37:55
  didn't
• 37:55
  even
• 37:55
  know
• 37:56
  with
• 37:57
  board
• 37:57
  games
• 37:57
  is
• 37:58
  they're
• 37:59
  very
• 37:59
  good
• 37:59
  because
• 38:00
  kids
• 38:00
  have
• 38:00
  to
• 38:00
  be
• 38:01
  patient
• 38:01
  when
• 38:01
  they
• 38:02
  play.
• 38:02
  They
• 38:03
  have
• 38:03
  to
• 38:03
  follow
• 38:03
  rules.
• 38:05
  I
• 38:05
  hate
• 38:06
  board
• 38:06
  games.
• 38:07
  Really?
• 38:07
  Do
• 38:08
  you?
• 38:08
  I
• 38:08
  just
• 38:08
  don't
• 38:08
  have
• 38:09
  the
• 38:09
  patience
• 38:10
  for
• 38:10
  a
• 38:10
  board
• 38:11
  game
• 38:11
  or
• 38:11
  a
• 38:11
  card
• 38:12
  game
• 38:12
  or
• 38:12
  domino.
• 38:13
  I'm
• 38:13
  not
• 38:13
  big
• 38:13
  on
• 38:13
  those
• 38:14
  either.
• 38:14
  Yeah,
• 38:14
  yeah.
• 38:15
  My
• 38:15
  sister
• 38:16
  in
• 38:16
  law
• 38:17
  loves
• 38:17
  games.
• 38:18
  She's
• 38:18
  so
• 38:18
  good
• 38:18
  at
• 38:18
  games
• 38:18
  and
• 38:19
  so
• 38:19
  is
• 38:19
  my
• 38:19
  mother
• 38:19
  in
• 38:19
  law
• 38:20
  and
• 38:20
  they
• 38:20
  play
• 38:20
  a
• 38:20
  lot
• 38:20
  of
• 38:20
  games.
• 38:21
  They
• 38:21
  are
• 38:22
  tremendously
• 38:22
  more
• 38:23
  patient
• 38:23
  than
• 38:23
  I
• 38:23
  am.
• 38:23
  Well,
• 38:24
  I
• 38:24
  bet
• 38:24
  they
• 38:24
  have
• 38:25
  good
• 38:25
  executive
• 38:26
  function
• 38:26
  skills
• 38:27
  in
• 38:28
  general.
• 38:28
  Yeah.
• 38:29
  All
• 38:29
  right.
• 38:30
  So
• 38:31
  anyway,
• 38:31
  and
• 38:31
  then
• 38:31
  they,
• 38:32
  they
• 38:32
  talk
• 38:32
  about
• 38:34
  motivating
• 38:34
  your
• 38:34
  child
• 38:35
  to
• 38:35
  learn
• 38:35
  these
• 38:36
  skills
• 38:36
  with
• 38:37
  incentive
• 38:37
  systems,
• 38:38
  behavioral
• 38:38
  contracts,
• 38:40
  praise.
• 38:41
  Praise,
• 38:41
  praises,
• 38:42
  pay
• 38:42
  them
• 38:42
  with
• 38:43
  words.
• 38:43
  Well,
• 38:44
  you
• 38:44
  know
• 38:44
  what?
• 38:44
  Praise
• 38:45
  is
• 38:45
  so
• 38:46
  underrated.
• 38:47
  Kids
• 38:47
  love
• 38:48
  praise
• 38:49
  and
• 38:49
  it's
• 38:49
  free
• 38:50
  and
• 38:51
  you
• 38:51
  know,
• 38:51
  amazing.
• 38:52
  Well
• 38:52
  and
• 38:53
  it
• 38:53
  means
• 38:53
  a
• 38:53
  lot.
• 38:53
  A
• 38:54
  child
• 38:54
  wants
• 38:54
  to
• 38:55
  please
• 38:55
  parents.
• 38:55
  Specific
• 38:56
  kinds
• 38:56
  of
• 38:56
  praise.
• 38:57
  Don't
• 38:57
  overdo
• 38:57
  it
• 38:58
  because
• 38:58
  kids
• 38:59
  can,
• 38:59
  they,
• 38:59
  they
• 38:59
  can
• 39:00
  sense
• 39:00
  is
• 39:01
  insincere
• 39:01
  or
• 39:01
  overdone.
• 39:02
  Right.
• 39:03
  Specific,
• 39:03
  clear
• 39:04
  praise.
• 39:05
  When
• 39:05
  the
• 39:06
  moment
• 39:06
  they
• 39:06
  do
• 39:06
  something.
• 39:07
  Right.
• 39:07
  Don't
• 39:08
  wait
• 39:08
  a
• 39:08
  couple
• 39:09
  hours
• 39:09
  if
• 39:10
  you
• 39:10
  can
• 39:10
  help
• 39:10
  it.
• 39:10
  Like
• 39:11
  you
• 39:11
  want
• 39:11
  them
• 39:11
  to
• 39:12
  associate
• 39:12
  the
• 39:13
  good
• 39:13
  behavior
• 39:13
  with
• 39:14
  the
• 39:14
  praise
• 39:14
  right
• 39:15
  away.
• 39:15
  Okay.
• 39:16
  And
• 39:16
  be
• 39:16
  very
• 39:16
  specific
• 39:17
  about
• 39:17
  what
• 39:18
  they
• 39:18
  did.
• 39:18
  I
• 39:19
  think.
• 39:19
  Good
• 39:20
  girl.
• 39:20
  No,
• 39:21
  no,
• 39:21
  it's
• 39:21
  like,
• 39:21
  I
• 39:22
  like
• 39:22
  the
• 39:22
  way,
• 39:23
  I
• 39:23
  like
• 39:23
  the
• 39:23
  way
• 39:24
  you
• 39:24
  put
• 39:24
  everything
• 39:26
  small
• 39:27
  into
• 39:28
  the
• 39:28
  bin
• 39:28
  for
• 39:29
  small
• 39:29
  things
• 39:30
  in
• 39:30
  your
• 39:30
  bedroom.
• 39:31
  Perfect.
• 39:32
  Good.
• 39:33
  Beautiful.
• 39:33
  That
• 39:33
  was
• 39:34
  great.
• 39:35
  God,
• 39:35
  if
• 39:36
  only
• 39:36
  you
• 39:36
  could
• 39:36
  have
• 39:36
  done
• 39:37
  that.
• 39:37
  I
• 39:38
  would
• 39:38
  have
• 39:38
  been
• 39:38
  so
• 39:38
  happy.
• 39:39
  All
• 39:39
  those
• 39:40
  Legos
• 39:41
  that
• 39:41
  were
• 39:41
  everywhere.
• 39:42
  The
• 39:42
  Legos
• 39:42
  you
• 39:43
  guys
• 39:43
  were
• 39:43
  constantly
• 39:43
  stepping
• 39:44
  on.
• 39:44
  Oh,
• 39:45
  that
• 39:45
  hurts.
• 39:45
  It
• 39:46
  hurts
• 39:46
  to
• 39:46
  step
• 39:46
  on
• 39:46
  Legos.
• 39:47
  Yeah.
• 39:47
  Oh
• 39:48
  my
• 39:48
  God,
• 39:48
  I'm
• 39:48
  so
• 39:48
  sorry.
• 39:49
  I
• 39:49
  know.
• 39:49
  It's
• 39:50
  okay.
• 39:50
  And
• 39:50
  then
• 39:51
  how
• 39:51
  to
• 39:51
  design
• 39:52
  interventions
• 39:53
  at
• 39:54
  home.
• 39:55
  They
• 39:55
  give
• 39:55
  you
• 39:55
  a
• 39:55
  whole,
• 39:57
  a
• 39:57
  whole
• 39:57
  thing
• 39:57
  about
• 39:58
  that
• 40:00
  and
• 40:00
  Then
• 40:01
  the
• 40:01
  next
• 40:01
  thing
• 40:01
  they
• 40:02
  did
• 40:02
  in
• 40:02
  this
• 40:02
  one
• 40:03
  area
• 40:03
  of
• 40:03
  the
• 40:03
  book,
• 40:03
  which
• 40:04
  was
• 40:04
  fantastic,
• 40:05
  they
• 40:05
  go
• 40:05
  through
• 40:06
  20
• 40:07
  very
• 40:08
  common
• 40:09
  scenarios
• 40:10
  that
• 40:11
  kids
• 40:11
  struggle
• 40:11
  with
• 40:12
  and
• 40:12
  they
• 40:12
  literally
• 40:13
  give
• 40:13
  you
• 40:14
  a
• 40:15
  whole
• 40:15
  model
• 40:15
  on
• 40:16
  fixing
• 40:16
  it.
• 40:17
  So
• 40:17
  it's
• 40:17
  like,
• 40:17
  okay,
• 40:18
  morning
• 40:18
  routine,
• 40:19
  cleaning
• 40:20
  your
• 40:20
  room,
• 40:20
  putting
• 40:20
  your
• 40:21
  belongings
• 40:21
  away.
• 40:21
  I'm
• 40:21
  not
• 40:22
  gonna
• 40:22
  do
• 40:22
  them
• 40:22
  all,
• 40:22
  but.
• 40:24
  I
• 40:24
  was
• 40:24
  hoping
• 40:25
  you
• 40:25
  would.
• 40:25
  Do
• 40:25
  you
• 40:25
  want
• 40:26
  them
• 40:26
  all?
• 40:28
  Homework,
• 40:28
  long
• 40:29
  term
• 40:29
  projects,
• 40:29
  studying
• 40:30
  for
• 40:30
  tests,
• 40:30
  organizing
• 40:31
  a
• 40:31
  notebook.
• 40:31
  I
• 40:32
  mean,
• 40:32
  the
• 40:32
  things
• 40:33
  that
• 40:33
  we
• 40:33
  all
• 40:34
  go
• 40:34
  nuts
• 40:34
  with
• 40:35
  our
• 40:35
  kids
• 40:36
  because
• 40:36
  they
• 40:36
  can't
• 40:37
  do.
• 40:37
  Because
• 40:37
  obviously
• 40:38
  you
• 40:38
  are
• 40:38
  not
• 40:38
  born
• 40:39
  knowing
• 40:39
  how
• 40:39
  to
• 40:39
  do
• 40:39
  these
• 40:40
  things.
• 40:40
  They
• 40:41
  need
• 40:41
  to
• 40:41
  be
• 40:41
  taught.
• 40:41
  I
• 40:41
  mean,
• 40:42
  maybe
• 40:42
  some
• 40:42
  people
• 40:42
  are,
• 40:43
  maybe.
• 40:44
  But
• 40:44
  even
• 40:44
  gifted
• 40:45
  kids,
• 40:45
  I
• 40:45
  feel
• 40:46
  like,
• 40:46
  also
• 40:46
  struggle
• 40:47
  with
• 40:47
  certain
• 40:47
  executive
• 40:48
  functions.
• 40:49
  My
• 40:49
  theory
• 40:49
  too,
• 40:50
  on
• 40:50
  people
• 40:50
  who
• 40:50
  are
• 40:50
  like
• 40:51
  incredibly
• 40:52
  gifted,
• 40:53
  that
• 40:54
  skill
• 40:54
  must
• 40:54
  be
• 40:55
  compensated
• 40:55
  for
• 40:56
  from
• 40:56
  somewhere
• 40:57
  else
• 40:57
  in
• 40:58
  their
• 40:58
  psyche.
• 40:59
  Well,
• 40:59
  gifted
• 40:59
  kids
• 41:00
  are
• 41:00
  twice
• 41:00
  as
• 41:00
  likely
• 41:01
  to
• 41:01
  have
• 41:01
  ADHD
• 41:02
  as
• 41:03
  kids
• 41:03
  who
• 41:03
  are
• 41:03
  not
• 41:04
  gifted.
• 41:04
  Yes.
• 41:05
  So
• 41:05
  there
• 41:05
  you
• 41:05
  go.
• 41:06
  I
• 41:06
  don't
• 41:06
  know
• 41:06
  if
• 41:06
  we've
• 41:06
  ever
• 41:06
  talked
• 41:07
  about
• 41:07
  twice
• 41:07
  exceptional
• 41:08
  on
• 41:08
  the
• 41:08
  pod
• 41:09
  before.
• 41:10
  Talk
• 41:10
  about
• 41:10
  it.
• 41:11
  So
• 41:12
  I
• 41:12
  first
• 41:13
  learned
• 41:13
  about
• 41:13
  this
• 41:13
  because
• 41:13
  you
• 41:13
  told
• 41:14
  me
• 41:14
  is
• 41:14
  what
• 41:14
  I
• 41:15
  am.
• 41:15
  So
• 41:15
  I
• 41:15
  have
• 41:15
  very
• 41:15
  strong
• 41:16
  verbal
• 41:16
  skills,
• 41:16
  I
• 41:17
  have
• 41:17
  absolutely
• 41:17
  abysmal
• 41:18
  math
• 41:18
  skills
• 41:18
  and
• 41:19
  visual
• 41:19
  spatial.
• 41:20
  So
• 41:21
  we
• 41:21
  did
• 41:21
  talk
• 41:21
  about
• 41:21
  this
• 41:21
  once,
• 41:22
  just
• 41:22
  about
• 41:22
  IQ
• 41:23
  tests.
• 41:23
  So
• 41:24
  my
• 41:24
  IQ
• 41:24
  score
• 41:24
  came
• 41:24
  back,
• 41:25
  is
• 41:25
  average,
• 41:26
  but
• 41:26
  my
• 41:26
  mom
• 41:27
  was
• 41:27
  not
• 41:27
  convinced
• 41:28
  that
• 41:28
  I
• 41:28
  was
• 41:29
  average.
• 41:29
  And
• 41:30
  she's
• 41:30
  like,
• 41:30
  this
• 41:30
  just
• 41:30
  doesn't
• 41:31
  make
• 41:31
  sense.
• 41:31
  My
• 41:31
  child
• 41:32
  is
• 41:32
  so
• 41:33
  far
• 41:33
  and
• 41:33
  beyond
• 41:33
  verbally.
• 41:35
  And
• 41:35
  she
• 41:35
  looked
• 41:35
  at
• 41:35
  the
• 41:35
  individual
• 41:36
  scores
• 41:36
  and
• 41:36
  I
• 41:36
  was
• 41:37
  out
• 41:37
  of
• 41:37
  the
• 41:37
  park.
• 41:38
  Right.
• 41:38
  If
• 41:38
  that's
• 41:39
  the
• 41:39
  expression.
• 41:39
  Right?
• 41:39
  Well,
• 41:40
  yeah,
• 41:40
  off
• 41:41
  the
• 41:41
  charts.
• 41:41
  Off
• 41:41
  the
• 41:41
  charts,
• 41:42
  out
• 41:42
  of
• 41:42
  the
• 41:42
  ballpark,
• 41:43
  whatever
• 41:43
  you
• 41:44
  want
• 41:44
  to
• 41:44
  say,
• 41:44
  you
• 41:44
  did
• 41:44
  really
• 41:45
  well
• 41:45
  verbally.
• 41:45
  But
• 41:45
  with
• 41:46
  math,
• 41:46
  99th
• 41:47
  percentile
• 41:48
  in
• 41:48
  math.
• 41:48
  I
• 41:48
  was
• 41:48
  like.
• 41:50
  Math
• 41:51
  was
• 41:51
  low.
• 41:52
  And
• 41:52
  then
• 41:53
  visual
• 41:53
  spatial
• 41:54
  reasoning
• 41:54
  was
• 41:54
  really
• 41:55
  low.
• 41:55
  And
• 41:55
  so.
• 41:55
  And
• 41:55
  so
• 41:56
  if
• 41:56
  you
• 41:56
  have
• 41:56
  kids
• 41:57
  with
• 41:57
  scores
• 41:57
  that
• 41:57
  are
• 41:57
  what
• 41:58
  they
• 41:58
  call
• 41:58
  scattered
• 41:59
  like
• 41:59
  that,
• 42:00
  then
• 42:00
  that's
• 42:00
  a
• 42:01
  child
• 42:01
  who's
• 42:01
  twice
• 42:02
  exceptional.
• 42:02
  And
• 42:03
  what
• 42:03
  you
• 42:03
  have
• 42:03
  to
• 42:03
  do,
• 42:03
  exceptionally
• 42:04
  good
• 42:04
  and
• 42:04
  exceptionally
• 42:05
  bad,
• 42:06
  Good
• 42:06
  and
• 42:06
  bad.
• 42:07
  And
• 42:07
  what
• 42:08
  you
• 42:08
  have
• 42:08
  to
• 42:08
  do
• 42:08
  is
• 42:09
  where
• 42:09
  they
• 42:09
  are
• 42:10
  exceptional,
• 42:10
  you
• 42:11
  give
• 42:11
  them
• 42:11
  lots
• 42:12
  of
• 42:12
  opportunity
• 42:14
  for
• 42:14
  growth
• 42:15
  and
• 42:15
  extra
• 42:16
  things
• 42:16
  they
• 42:17
  can
• 42:17
  do.
• 42:17
  And
• 42:17
  where
• 42:18
  they
• 42:18
  are
• 42:19
  really
• 42:19
  low,
• 42:20
  you
• 42:20
  have
• 42:20
  to
• 42:20
  give
• 42:20
  them
• 42:21
  support.
• 42:21
  And
• 42:21
  it's.
• 42:22
  They
• 42:22
  get
• 42:23
  lost
• 42:23
  in
• 42:24
  the
• 42:24
  system,
• 42:24
  these
• 42:24
  kids
• 42:25
  very
• 42:25
  often,
• 42:25
  because
• 42:26
  what
• 42:27
  happens
• 42:27
  is
• 42:27
  teachers
• 42:28
  go,
• 42:28
  well,
• 42:28
  she's
• 42:28
  really
• 42:28
  smart,
• 42:29
  but
• 42:29
  lazy,
• 42:30
  because
• 42:31
  they
• 42:31
  see
• 42:31
  how
• 42:32
  smart
• 42:32
  you
• 42:32
  can
• 42:32
  be
• 42:33
  in
• 42:33
  one
• 42:33
  area,
• 42:33
  but
• 42:34
  then
• 42:34
  in
• 42:34
  another
• 42:35
  area
• 42:36
  you
• 42:36
  just
• 42:36
  are
• 42:36
  flailing.
• 42:37
  So
• 42:38
  I
• 42:39
  have
• 42:39
  a
• 42:39
  theory
• 42:39
  that
• 42:39
  the
• 42:39
  world
• 42:40
  is
• 42:40
  run
• 42:40
  by
• 42:40
  C
• 42:41
  students
• 42:41
  because
• 42:42
  C
• 42:42
  students
• 42:42
  are
• 42:43
  a
• 42:43
  little
• 42:43
  bit
• 42:43
  good
• 42:44
  at
• 42:44
  everything.
• 42:45
  And
• 42:45
  the
• 42:45
  truth
• 42:45
  is,
• 42:47
  if
• 42:48
  Your
• 42:48
  kid
• 42:48
  is
• 42:48
  struggling
• 42:49
  or
• 42:49
  an
• 42:49
  average
• 42:49
  student.
• 42:50
  Student,
• 42:50
  don't
• 42:51
  worry,
• 42:51
  because
• 42:52
  they
• 42:52
  probably
• 42:53
  have
• 42:53
  enough
• 42:53
  of
• 42:54
  each
• 42:54
  skill
• 42:55
  to
• 42:55
  be
• 42:56
  really
• 42:56
  good
• 42:56
  at
• 42:57
  something
• 42:57
  and
• 42:57
  to
• 42:57
  be
• 42:57
  in
• 42:57
  charge.
• 42:58
  Because
• 42:58
  you
• 42:58
  need
• 42:58
  to
• 42:59
  be
• 42:59
  strong
• 42:59
  verbally,
• 43:00
  you
• 43:00
  need
• 43:00
  to
• 43:00
  basically
• 43:01
  understand
• 43:01
  math,
• 43:02
  you
• 43:02
  need
• 43:02
  to
• 43:03
  basically
• 43:03
  understand
• 43:04
  lots
• 43:04
  of
• 43:04
  concepts.
• 43:05
  And
• 43:06
  my
• 43:06
  friends,
• 43:07
  I
• 43:07
  have
• 43:07
  some
• 43:08
  incredibly
• 43:08
  brilliant
• 43:09
  friends
• 43:09
  who
• 43:10
  struggle
• 43:11
  a
• 43:11
  lot
• 43:12
  because
• 43:12
  they
• 43:13
  are
• 43:13
  so
• 43:13
  smart.
• 43:14
  It's
• 43:14
  almost
• 43:14
  like
• 43:14
  they
• 43:15
  know
• 43:15
  too
• 43:15
  much
• 43:17
  and
• 43:18
  they
• 43:18
  often
• 43:18
  go
• 43:19
  into
• 43:19
  academics.
• 43:21
  But
• 43:22
  I
• 43:22
  feel
• 43:22
  like
• 43:23
  some
• 43:23
  of
• 43:23
  their
• 43:24
  lives
• 43:24
  are
• 43:24
  smaller
• 43:25
  than
• 43:26
  I
• 43:26
  expected
• 43:27
  them
• 43:27
  to
• 43:27
  be
• 43:27
  in
• 43:28
  the
• 43:28
  sense
• 43:28
  that
• 43:28
  it's
• 43:28
  a
• 43:29
  smaller
• 43:29
  world
• 43:30
  that
• 43:30
  they
• 43:30
  inhabit.
• 43:31
  They
• 43:31
  don't
• 43:31
  go
• 43:32
  off
• 43:32
  to,
• 43:32
  like,
• 43:33
  necessarily
• 43:34
  cure
• 43:34
  cancer
• 43:35
  or
• 43:35
  like.
• 43:35
  You
• 43:36
  mean
• 43:36
  the
• 43:36
  ones
• 43:36
  who
• 43:37
  did
• 43:37
  super
• 43:38
  well
• 43:38
  in
• 43:38
  school?
• 43:39
  Yeah,
• 43:39
  yeah,
• 43:40
  that's
• 43:40
  true.
• 43:40
  I
• 43:40
  mean,
• 43:40
  it's.
• 43:41
  I
• 43:41
  remember
• 43:42
  in
• 43:42
  my
• 43:42
  law
• 43:42
  school
• 43:43
  class,
• 43:43
  the
• 43:44
  person.
• 43:44
  The
• 43:44
  people
• 43:44
  at
• 43:45
  the
• 43:45
  very,
• 43:45
  very
• 43:45
  top
• 43:46
  did
• 43:47
  not
• 43:47
  really
• 43:47
  do
• 43:48
  as
• 43:48
  well
• 43:48
  as
• 43:48
  the
• 43:49
  people,
• 43:49
  kind
• 43:49
  of.
• 43:50
  Yeah,
• 43:51
  that's
• 43:51
  right.
• 43:51
  Yeah.
• 43:53
  And
• 43:53
  also,
• 43:53
  I
• 43:54
  think
• 43:54
  other
• 43:54
  things
• 43:54
  we've
• 43:55
  seen
• 43:55
  are
• 43:56
  actually
• 43:57
  as.
• 43:57
  Are
• 43:58
  really
• 43:58
  more
• 43:58
  important
• 43:59
  a
• 43:59
  lot
• 43:59
  of
• 43:59
  times
• 44:00
  than
• 44:00
  academics.
• 44:02
  Right.
• 44:02
  Your
• 44:02
  emotional
• 44:03
  quotient,
• 44:03
  your
• 44:03
  ability
• 44:04
  to
• 44:04
  connect
• 44:04
  with
• 44:04
  people
• 44:05
  is
• 44:05
  extremely
• 44:06
  important.
• 44:07
  And
• 44:07
  of
• 44:08
  all
• 44:08
  things,
• 44:09
  there's
• 44:09
  a
• 44:09
  lot
• 44:09
  of
• 44:09
  research
• 44:10
  that
• 44:10
  having
• 44:11
  strong
• 44:11
  executive
• 44:12
  function
• 44:12
  skills
• 44:13
  or
• 44:13
  executive
• 44:13
  skills
• 44:14
  skills
• 44:14
  is
• 44:15
  critical
• 44:15
  to
• 44:16
  success
• 44:16
  in
• 44:16
  life.
• 44:17
  Yes.
• 44:17
  Yeah.
• 44:18
  More
• 44:18
  so
• 44:18
  than
• 44:18
  things
• 44:18
  we
• 44:19
  learn
• 44:19
  in
• 44:19
  school.
• 44:19
  Absolutely.
• 44:20
  Absolutely.
• 44:21
  So
• 44:21
  why
• 44:21
  don't
• 44:21
  they
• 44:21
  teach
• 44:22
  this
• 44:22
  in
• 44:22
  school?
• 44:22
  Well,
• 44:23
  they.
• 44:24
  That's.
• 44:24
  I.
• 44:25
  I
• 44:25
  don't
• 44:25
  know.
• 44:26
  It's.
• 44:26
  I
• 44:26
  think
• 44:26
  it's
• 44:26
  a
• 44:26
  huge
• 44:27
  mistake.
• 44:28
  At
• 44:28
  Habit
• 44:29
  Coach,
• 44:29
  we
• 44:29
  actually
• 44:30
  have
• 44:30
  put
• 44:30
  together
• 44:30
  a
• 44:31
  school
• 44:31
  curriculum
• 44:32
  and
• 44:32
  we
• 44:32
  have
• 44:32
  some
• 44:32
  schools
• 44:33
  starting
• 44:34
  to
• 44:34
  use
• 44:34
  it
• 44:34
  and
• 44:35
  starting
• 44:35
  to
• 44:35
  teach
• 44:35
  kids
• 44:36
  actively.
• 44:36
  Yeah.
• 44:37
  Starting
• 44:37
  in
• 44:37
  kindergarten.
• 44:38
  Oh,
• 44:39
  wow.
• 44:39
  I
• 44:39
  mean,
• 44:40
  get
• 44:40
  them
• 44:40
  while
• 44:40
  they're
• 44:40
  young.
• 44:40
  Get
• 44:41
  them
• 44:41
  while.
• 44:41
  No,
• 44:41
  but
• 44:42
  that's
• 44:42
  when
• 44:42
  you.
• 44:42
  You
• 44:42
  have
• 44:42
  to
• 44:42
  start
• 44:43
  learning
• 44:43
  it.
• 44:43
  So
• 44:43
  we
• 44:44
  actually
• 44:44
  are
• 44:45
  trying
• 44:45
  to
• 44:45
  bring
• 44:46
  it
• 44:46
  into
• 44:46
  schools
• 44:46
  because
• 44:47
  it
• 44:47
  is
• 44:47
  so
• 44:47
  important
• 44:48
  and
• 44:48
  teachers
• 44:48
  need
• 44:48
  to
• 44:49
  understand
• 44:49
  it
• 44:49
  and
• 44:49
  parents
• 44:50
  need
• 44:50
  to
• 44:50
  understand
• 44:51
  it,
• 44:51
  and
• 44:52
  they
• 44:52
  don't
• 44:52
  teach
• 44:52
  you
• 44:52
  this.
• 44:53
  I
• 44:53
  mean,
• 44:53
  I
• 44:53
  did
• 44:53
  not
• 44:54
  understand
• 44:54
  it.
• 44:54
  And
• 44:55
  I'm
• 44:55
  so
• 44:55
  frustrated
• 44:56
  that
• 44:56
  I
• 44:56
  went
• 44:57
  so
• 44:57
  long
• 44:57
  in
• 44:57
  life
• 44:58
  without
• 44:58
  knowing
• 44:59
  and
• 44:59
  understanding
• 45:00
  this
• 45:00
  and
• 45:00
  how
• 45:00
  important
• 45:01
  it
• 45:01
  was
• 45:02
  for
• 45:02
  you
• 45:02
  and
• 45:02
  for
• 45:03
  your
• 45:03
  brother.
• 45:04
  For
• 45:04
  me,
• 45:05
  I
• 45:05
  mean,
• 45:06
  for
• 45:06
  us
• 45:06
  all.
• 45:07
  For
• 45:07
  all
• 45:07
  of
• 45:07
  us.
• 45:08
  I
• 45:08
  mean,
• 45:08
  I
• 45:08
  didn't
• 45:08
  get.
• 45:10
  I
• 45:10
  got
• 45:11
  diagnosed
• 45:11
  with
• 45:11
  ADHD
• 45:12
  at
• 45:12
  a
• 45:12
  very
• 45:12
  old
• 45:13
  age.
• 45:14
  You
• 45:14
  are
• 45:14
  not
• 45:15
  old.
• 45:15
  No,
• 45:15
  I
• 45:16
  was
• 45:16
  old.
• 45:16
  I
• 45:16
  was.
• 45:17
  You
• 45:17
  were
• 45:17
  old.
• 45:18
  You
• 45:18
  are
• 45:18
  currently
• 45:18
  not
• 45:19
  old.
• 45:19
  Well,
• 45:19
  thank
• 45:20
  old.
• 45:20
  Well,
• 45:20
  okay,
• 45:21
  whatever.
• 45:22
  My
• 45:22
  niece.
• 45:22
  My
• 45:23
  niece
• 45:23
  would
• 45:23
  argue
• 45:23
  with
• 45:23
  you,
• 45:24
  but
• 45:24
  I
• 45:25
  will
• 45:25
  say
• 45:25
  I
• 45:25
  was
• 45:26
  older.
• 45:27
  And
• 45:29
  it
• 45:30
  was
• 45:30
  like
• 45:30
  suddenly
• 45:31
  my
• 45:31
  whole
• 45:31
  life
• 45:32
  made
• 45:32
  sense.
• 45:32
  When
• 45:33
  I
• 45:33
  figured,
• 45:33
  when
• 45:33
  I
• 45:34
  got
• 45:34
  that
• 45:34
  diagnosis,
• 45:35
  I'm
• 45:35
  like,
• 45:36
  oh.
• 45:37
  Oh.
• 45:38
  That
• 45:38
  explains
• 45:39
  everything.
• 45:40
  And
• 45:40
  how
• 45:40
  could.
• 45:41
  And
• 45:41
  I
• 45:41
  know
• 45:41
  that
• 45:41
  a
• 45:42
  lot
• 45:42
  of
• 45:42
  people
• 45:42
  who
• 45:43
  get
• 45:43
  a
• 45:43
  later
• 45:43
  diagnosis
• 45:44
  of
• 45:44
  ADHD
• 45:45
  or
• 45:46
  who
• 45:46
  finally
• 45:46
  start
• 45:46
  to
• 45:47
  understand
• 45:47
  their
• 45:47
  strengths
• 45:48
  and
• 45:48
  weaknesses
• 45:49
  with
• 45:49
  executive
• 45:49
  function,
• 45:50
  they
• 45:50
  suddenly
• 45:51
  understand
• 45:51
  themselves
• 45:52
  so
• 45:52
  much
• 45:52
  better.
• 45:53
  And
• 45:53
  I
• 45:53
  wish
• 45:53
  that.
• 45:54
  I
• 45:54
  want
• 45:54
  that
• 45:54
  for
• 45:54
  everyone.
• 45:55
  I
• 45:55
  do.
• 45:55
  I
• 45:56
  do,
• 45:56
  too.
• 45:56
  I
• 45:56
  wish
• 45:56
  it
• 45:56
  wasn't
• 45:57
  called
• 45:57
  Executive
• 45:58
  Function,
• 45:58
  because
• 45:58
  that's
• 45:59
  a
• 45:59
  terrible
• 45:59
  name.
• 45:59
  Yeah.
• 46:00
  It
• 46:00
  needs
• 46:00
  to
• 46:00
  be
• 46:00
  rebranded.
• 46:01
  Let's
• 46:02
  put
• 46:02
  the
• 46:02
  fun
• 46:02
  back
• 46:02
  in
• 46:03
  Executive
• 46:03
  Function.
• 46:04
  I
• 46:04
  like
• 46:04
  that.
• 46:04
  Let's
• 46:05
  put
• 46:05
  the
• 46:05
  fun
• 46:06
  back
• 46:06
  in
• 46:06
  Executive
• 46:07
  Function.
• 46:07
  It's
• 46:08
  so
• 46:08
  good.
• 46:08
  It's
• 46:09
  good.
• 46:09
  Good
• 46:09
  branding.
• 46:09
  We'll
• 46:10
  save
• 46:10
  that.
• 46:10
  Save
• 46:10
  it.
• 46:11
  Let's
• 46:11
  use
• 46:11
  it.
• 46:11
  Okay.
• 46:13
  I
• 46:13
  love
• 46:13
  that.
• 46:14
  So
• 46:14
  then
• 46:14
  the
• 46:14
  last
• 46:15
  part
• 46:15
  of
• 46:15
  the
• 46:15
  book,
• 46:16
  which,
• 46:16
  again,
• 46:16
  I
• 46:17
  very
• 46:17
  much
• 46:17
  love,
• 46:18
  is
• 46:18
  they
• 46:19
  go
• 46:19
  into
• 46:20
  each
• 46:20
  executive
• 46:21
  function
• 46:21
  and
• 46:22
  they
• 46:22
  give
• 46:22
  you
• 46:23
  more
• 46:25
  tips
• 46:25
  on
• 46:26
  how
• 46:26
  do
• 46:26
  you
• 46:28
  actively
• 46:28
  teach,
• 46:29
  you
• 46:29
  know,
• 46:30
  task
• 46:30
  initiation.
• 46:31
  How
• 46:31
  do
• 46:31
  you
• 46:31
  actively
• 46:32
  teach
• 46:32
  response
• 46:33
  inhibition?
• 46:34
  And
• 46:34
  with
• 46:34
  each
• 46:35
  one,
• 46:35
  where
• 46:36
  they
• 46:36
  give
• 46:36
  you
• 46:38
  the
• 46:38
  tips
• 46:39
  on
• 46:39
  how
• 46:39
  to
• 46:39
  teach
• 46:39
  it,
• 46:40
  they
• 46:40
  give
• 46:40
  you
• 46:40
  an
• 46:41
  example
• 46:41
  of
• 46:41
  it
• 46:42
  in
• 46:42
  action.
• 46:42
  So,
• 46:43
  for
• 46:43
  example,
• 46:44
  how
• 46:44
  to
• 46:44
  teach
• 46:45
  response
• 46:46
  inhibition.
• 46:46
  There's
• 46:47
  a
• 46:47
  whole
• 46:47
  case
• 46:47
  study
• 46:48
  on
• 46:48
  helping
• 46:48
  a
• 46:48
  child
• 46:49
  who
• 46:49
  interrupts
• 46:49
  all
• 46:49
  the
• 46:50
  time
• 46:51
  or
• 46:52
  helping
• 46:52
  kids
• 46:53
  who
• 46:53
  are
• 46:54
  siblings
• 46:54
  not
• 46:54
  fight.
• 46:55
  Yes.
• 46:56
  Valuable.
• 46:57
  Very
• 46:57
  valuable
• 46:58
  stuff.
• 46:59
  On
• 47:00
  teaching
• 47:00
  emotional
• 47:01
  control,
• 47:01
  how
• 47:01
  do
• 47:01
  you
• 47:01
  teach
• 47:02
  a
• 47:02
  kid
• 47:03
  who
• 47:03
  is
• 47:03
  a
• 47:04
  poor
• 47:04
  sport
• 47:04
  to
• 47:05
  become
• 47:05
  a
• 47:05
  better
• 47:05
  sport?
• 47:06
  Or
• 47:07
  teach
• 47:07
  a
• 47:07
  kid
• 47:07
  who
• 47:08
  has
• 47:08
  test
• 47:08
  anxiety
• 47:09
  how
• 47:09
  to
• 47:09
  get
• 47:09
  over
• 47:09
  that.
• 47:10
  Yeah,
• 47:11
  so
• 47:11
  just
• 47:11
  guess
• 47:12
  the
• 47:12
  answers
• 47:13
  and
• 47:13
  then
• 47:13
  you
• 47:14
  won't
• 47:14
  be
• 47:14
  anxious
• 47:15
  because
• 47:15
  you
• 47:15
  won't
• 47:15
  know
• 47:16
  them
• 47:16
  anyway.
• 47:16
  That
• 47:17
  is
• 47:17
  not
• 47:17
  the
• 47:18
  way
• 47:18
  you
• 47:18
  do
• 47:18
  it.
• 47:19
  You
• 47:19
  study
• 47:20
  and
• 47:20
  you
• 47:20
  feel
• 47:20
  out
• 47:21
  the
• 47:21
  vibe.
• 47:21
  That's
• 47:22
  not
• 47:22
  good.
• 47:22
  You
• 47:22
  don't
• 47:23
  feel
• 47:23
  the
• 47:23
  vibes.
• 47:23
  You
• 47:23
  look
• 47:24
  at
• 47:24
  the
• 47:24
  test
• 47:24
  and
• 47:24
  you
• 47:24
  go
• 47:24
  like
• 47:25
  this
• 47:25
  with
• 47:25
  your
• 47:25
  hands.
• 47:26
  And
• 47:26
  then
• 47:26
  it
• 47:26
  just.
• 47:27
  The
• 47:27
  answer
• 47:27
  has
• 47:27
  just
• 47:28
  come
• 47:28
  to
• 47:28
  you.
• 47:28
  It's
• 47:29
  not
• 47:29
  a
• 47:29
  Ouija
• 47:29
  board,
• 47:30
  Skyler.
• 47:30
  It's
• 47:31
  not.
• 47:31
  That
• 47:31
  is
• 47:31
  not
• 47:32
  a
• 47:32
  good
• 47:32
  idea.
• 47:32
  Oh,
• 47:33
  my
• 47:33
  God.
• 47:33
  God.
• 47:33
  Anyway,
• 47:34
  so,
• 47:35
  yeah,
• 47:35
  so,
• 47:36
  okay,
• 47:36
  so
• 47:37
  it
• 47:37
  goes
• 47:37
  through
• 47:37
  each
• 47:38
  one
• 47:38
  of
• 47:38
  the
• 47:38
  skills
• 47:39
  and
• 47:39
  how
• 47:39
  do
• 47:39
  you
• 47:40
  teach
• 47:40
  it?
• 47:41
  Which
• 47:42
  I
• 47:42
  love.
• 47:44
  Now
• 47:44
  they
• 47:44
  say,
• 47:44
  what
• 47:45
  do
• 47:45
  you
• 47:45
  do
• 47:46
  when
• 47:46
  you
• 47:46
  cannot
• 47:47
  yourself
• 47:48
  help
• 47:48
  your
• 47:48
  child?
• 47:49
  You
• 47:49
  know,
• 47:49
  like,
• 47:49
  you've
• 47:50
  tried
• 47:50
  some
• 47:50
  of
• 47:50
  these
• 47:51
  and
• 47:51
  it's
• 47:51
  not
• 47:52
  working.
• 47:52
  Outsource,
• 47:53
  Outsource,
• 47:54
  Outsource.
• 47:55
  Hire
• 47:55
  an
• 47:56
  expert.
• 47:56
  Well,
• 47:56
  you
• 47:57
  get
• 47:57
  a
• 47:57
  coach.
• 47:57
  That's
• 47:58
  when
• 47:58
  you
• 47:58
  go
• 47:59
  to
• 47:59
  habit
• 47:59
  coach
• 47:59
  and
• 48:00
  you
• 48:00
  trust
• 48:00
  experts.
• 48:00
  Don't.
• 48:01
  Don't
• 48:01
  try
• 48:01
  to
• 48:01
  do
• 48:02
  things
• 48:02
  you
• 48:02
  don't
• 48:02
  know
• 48:02
  how
• 48:02
  to
• 48:02
  do
• 48:03
  yourself.
• 48:03
  Don't
• 48:03
  do
• 48:03
  your
• 48:03
  own
• 48:03
  plumbing.
• 48:04
  Don't
• 48:04
  do
• 48:05
  your
• 48:05
  own
• 48:05
  electricity.
• 48:08
  Don't
• 48:08
  think
• 48:08
  you
• 48:09
  can
• 48:09
  do
• 48:09
  this
• 48:09
  without
• 48:10
  help.
• 48:10
  Well,
• 48:11
  I
• 48:11
  will
• 48:11
  say
• 48:12
  I
• 48:12
  think
• 48:12
  that
• 48:13
  even
• 48:13
  if
• 48:14
  you
• 48:14
  are
• 48:15
  using
• 48:15
  a
• 48:15
  coach
• 48:16
  to
• 48:16
  help
• 48:16
  Your
• 48:16
  child,
• 48:17
  the
• 48:17
  more,
• 48:17
  you
• 48:18
  know,
• 48:18
  the
• 48:18
  more
• 48:19
  you
• 48:19
  can
• 48:19
  do
• 48:20
  between
• 48:20
  coaching
• 48:21
  sessions
• 48:22
  to
• 48:23
  support
• 48:23
  what
• 48:23
  your
• 48:24
  child
• 48:24
  is
• 48:24
  learning.
• 48:25
  You
• 48:25
  need
• 48:25
  reinforcement.
• 48:26
  You
• 48:26
  do.
• 48:26
  A
• 48:27
  child
• 48:27
  does
• 48:27
  need
• 48:28
  reinforcement.
• 48:28
  And
• 48:28
  like
• 48:29
  on
• 48:29
  Habit
• 48:29
  Coach,
• 48:30
  we
• 48:30
  not
• 48:30
  only
• 48:30
  coach
• 48:31
  kids,
• 48:31
  but
• 48:31
  we
• 48:31
  have
• 48:32
  a
• 48:32
  whole
• 48:32
  program
• 48:33
  for
• 48:33
  parents
• 48:34
  that
• 48:34
  is
• 48:34
  so
• 48:35
  not
• 48:35
  expensive.
• 48:35
  I
• 48:36
  mean,
• 48:36
  I
• 48:36
  think
• 48:36
  it's
• 48:36
  $10
• 48:37
  a
• 48:37
  month.
• 48:37
  It's
• 48:37
  nothing.
• 48:40
  But
• 48:40
  what
• 48:41
  it
• 48:41
  does
• 48:41
  is
• 48:41
  it
• 48:42
  does
• 48:42
  these
• 48:42
  before
• 48:43
  and
• 48:43
  after
• 48:43
  scenarios
• 48:44
  where
• 48:45
  we
• 48:46
  have
• 48:46
  child
• 48:46
  actors
• 48:47
  and
• 48:47
  parent
• 48:48
  actors
• 48:48
  who
• 48:49
  are
• 48:49
  actual
• 48:49
  children,
• 48:50
  some
• 48:50
  actually
• 48:51
  have
• 48:51
  adhd.
• 48:52
  These
• 48:52
  are
• 48:52
  real
• 48:53
  children.
• 48:53
  These
• 48:53
  are
• 48:54
  real
• 48:54
  children
• 48:57
  who
• 48:57
  get
• 48:57
  into
• 48:58
  conflicts
• 48:58
  because
• 48:59
  of
• 48:59
  executive
• 48:59
  function.
• 49:00
  And
• 49:00
  you
• 49:00
  see
• 49:01
  a
• 49:01
  parent
• 49:01
  handling
• 49:02
  it
• 49:02
  badly,
• 49:02
  then
• 49:03
  you
• 49:03
  see
• 49:03
  a
• 49:03
  parent
• 49:04
  handling
• 49:04
  it
• 49:04
  better.
• 49:05
  And
• 49:05
  it
• 49:06
  gives
• 49:06
  you
• 49:06
  a
• 49:07
  good
• 49:07
  role
• 49:07
  model
• 49:08
  to
• 49:08
  how
• 49:08
  you
• 49:08
  might
• 49:08
  try
• 49:09
  it
• 49:09
  yourself.
• 49:10
  And
• 49:10
  so
• 49:10
  the
• 49:11
  goal
• 49:11
  is
• 49:11
  to
• 49:11
  help
• 49:12
  you
• 49:12
  deal
• 49:12
  with
• 49:13
  your
• 49:13
  own
• 49:13
  kids
• 49:14
  who
• 49:14
  are
• 49:14
  struggling
• 49:15
  with
• 49:15
  executive
• 49:15
  function.
• 49:16
  And
• 49:16
  I
• 49:17
  think
• 49:17
  getting
• 49:17
  help
• 49:17
  like
• 49:18
  that
• 49:18
  is
• 49:18
  great.
• 49:19
  Reading
• 49:19
  a
• 49:20
  book
• 49:20
  like
• 49:20
  this
• 49:20
  is
• 49:21
  great.
• 49:21
  The
• 49:21
  more
• 49:22
  you
• 49:22
  know
• 49:22
  about
• 49:22
  this,
• 49:23
  it's,
• 49:24
  it's,
• 49:24
  it's
• 49:24
  just
• 49:25
  life
• 49:25
  changing
• 49:25
  in
• 49:25
  my
• 49:26
  opinion.
• 49:28
  And
• 49:29
  so
• 49:30
  in
• 49:30
  general.
• 49:31
  Oh,
• 49:31
  I
• 49:31
  wanted
• 49:32
  to
• 49:32
  say
• 49:32
  one
• 49:32
  thing
• 49:32
  about
• 49:33
  this
• 49:33
  book
• 49:34
  that
• 49:34
  shocked
• 49:34
  me.
• 49:35
  I'm
• 49:35
  going
• 49:35
  to
• 49:36
  show
• 49:36
  you
• 49:36
  this.
• 49:36
  Okay.
• 49:37
  So
• 49:37
  I,
• 49:37
  I
• 49:37
  read
• 49:38
  the
• 49:38
  book
• 49:38
  and
• 49:38
  then
• 49:38
  I
• 49:38
  turn
• 49:39
  it
• 49:39
  over
• 49:39
  and
• 49:40
  you
• 49:40
  can't
• 49:40
  see
• 49:40
  this
• 49:41
  very
• 49:41
  well.
• 49:41
  I'll
• 49:41
  have
• 49:42
  to
• 49:42
  get
• 49:42
  a
• 49:42
  close
• 49:42
  up.
• 49:42
  But
• 49:43
  the
• 49:43
  author
• 49:44
  of
• 49:44
  the
• 49:44
  book,
• 49:45
  the.
• 49:45
  There's
• 49:45
  two
• 49:45
  authors,
• 49:46
  the
• 49:46
  Peg
• 49:47
  and
• 49:47
  Rich.
• 49:47
  Peg
• 49:48
  and
• 49:48
  Rich.
• 49:48
  Rich
• 49:49
  looks
• 49:50
  just
• 49:50
  like
• 49:50
  your
• 49:50
  grandfather.
• 49:52
  Isn't
• 49:52
  that
• 49:53
  weird?
• 49:53
  It's
• 49:54
  so
• 49:54
  weird.
• 49:54
  It
• 49:54
  is
• 49:55
  so
• 49:55
  weird.
• 49:56
  They
• 49:56
  look
• 49:56
  exactly
• 49:57
  alike.
• 49:57
  And
• 49:57
  I'm
• 49:58
  like,
• 49:58
  oh
• 49:58
  my
• 49:58
  God.
• 49:59
  I
• 50:00
  think
• 50:00
  it's
• 50:00
  a
• 50:00
  sign.
• 50:01
  I
• 50:01
  think
• 50:01
  it's
• 50:01
  a
• 50:01
  sign.
• 50:02
  Anyway,
• 50:03
  sorry.
• 50:03
  We
• 50:04
  believe
• 50:04
  in
• 50:04
  signs.
• 50:05
  We
• 50:05
  do.
• 50:06
  I
• 50:06
  just
• 50:06
  read
• 50:07
  a
• 50:07
  book
• 50:07
  about
• 50:07
  signs.
• 50:08
  Anyway,
• 50:08
  no,
• 50:09
  there's
• 50:09
  a
• 50:09
  book,
• 50:09
  it's
• 50:09
  called
• 50:10
  Signs
• 50:11
  and
• 50:11
  it's
• 50:11
  all
• 50:11
  about
• 50:11
  signs
• 50:12
  like
• 50:12
  that.
• 50:12
  Anyway,
• 50:12
  I
• 50:13
  don't
• 50:13
  know
• 50:13
  what
• 50:13
  the
• 50:13
  sign.
• 50:13
  Is
• 50:14
  for,
• 50:14
  but
• 50:14
  yeah,
• 50:15
  we're
• 50:15
  not
• 50:15
  interpreting
• 50:16
  the
• 50:16
  sign.
• 50:16
  We
• 50:16
  just
• 50:17
  know
• 50:17
  it
• 50:17
  exists.
• 50:19
  So
• 50:19
  would
• 50:19
  you
• 50:19
  recommend
• 50:20
  that
• 50:20
  this
• 50:20
  book.
• 50:21
  Yes,
• 50:21
  it
• 50:21
  is
• 50:21
  a
• 50:21
  book.
• 50:22
  I
• 50:22
  recommend,
• 50:22
  I
• 50:22
  recommend
• 50:23
  this
• 50:23
  book
• 50:24
  all
• 50:24
  the
• 50:24
  time.
• 50:25
  And
• 50:26
  the
• 50:26
  funny
• 50:26
  thing
• 50:26
  is,
• 50:27
  I
• 50:27
  feel
• 50:27
  so
• 50:27
  vindicated
• 50:28
  too,
• 50:28
  because
• 50:29
  all
• 50:30
  my
• 50:30
  whole
• 50:30
  career,
• 50:30
  like
• 50:31
  a
• 50:31
  testing
• 50:31
  mom,
• 50:32
  when
• 50:32
  parents
• 50:32
  had
• 50:33
  kids
• 50:33
  with
• 50:33
  behavioral
• 50:34
  issues,
• 50:35
  I
• 50:35
  would
• 50:35
  always
• 50:35
  say
• 50:36
  to
• 50:36
  them,
• 50:36
  just
• 50:36
  go
• 50:36
  get
• 50:37
  a
• 50:37
  book
• 50:37
  about
• 50:37
  adhd
• 50:38
  because
• 50:38
  it
• 50:39
  will
• 50:39
  tell
• 50:39
  you
• 50:39
  ways
• 50:40
  to
• 50:40
  help
• 50:40
  your
• 50:40
  child
• 50:41
  even
• 50:41
  if
• 50:41
  they
• 50:41
  don't
• 50:42
  have
• 50:42
  adhd.
• 50:43
  Get
• 50:43
  the
• 50:43
  book.
• 50:44
  It'll
• 50:44
  help
• 50:44
  you.
• 50:45
  And
• 50:45
  this
• 50:45
  book
• 50:46
  to
• 50:46
  me
• 50:46
  is
• 50:47
  probably
• 50:47
  one
• 50:47
  of
• 50:47
  the
• 50:47
  best
• 50:48
  books
• 50:48
  on,
• 50:49
  on
• 50:50
  how
• 50:50
  to
• 50:50
  help
• 50:51
  a
• 50:51
  kid
• 50:51
  who's
• 50:52
  struggling
• 50:52
  with
• 50:52
  behavioral
• 50:53
  issues
• 50:54
  that
• 50:54
  relate
• 50:54
  to
• 50:55
  executive
• 50:55
  function.
• 50:57
  I've
• 50:57
  recommended
• 50:57
  it
• 50:58
  to
• 50:58
  so
• 50:58
  Many
• 50:58
  parents.
• 50:59
  I
• 50:59
  just
• 50:59
  recommended
• 50:59
  it
• 51:00
  two
• 51:00
  days
• 51:00
  ago
• 51:00
  to
• 51:00
  somebody.
• 51:01
  I
• 51:01
  mean,
• 51:01
  I
• 51:01
  recommend
• 51:02
  it
• 51:02
  all
• 51:02
  the
• 51:02
  time.
• 51:02
  What
• 51:03
  about
• 51:03
  you?
• 51:03
  I
• 51:04
  think
• 51:04
  I
• 51:04
  really
• 51:04
  liked
• 51:05
  it.
• 51:05
  I
• 51:05
  also
• 51:05
  felt
• 51:06
  very
• 51:06
  seen
• 51:06
  by
• 51:06
  this
• 51:07
  book.
• 51:08
  I
• 51:08
  struggled.
• 51:09
  I
• 51:09
  have
• 51:09
  struggled
• 51:10
  and
• 51:10
  continue
• 51:10
  to
• 51:10
  struggle
• 51:10
  with
• 51:11
  executive
• 51:11
  functions,
• 51:12
  even
• 51:12
  as
• 51:12
  an
• 51:12
  adult.
• 51:15
  I'm
• 51:15
  curious
• 51:15
  to
• 51:16
  see
• 51:17
  the
• 51:17
  ways
• 51:18
  in
• 51:18
  which,
• 51:19
  like,
• 51:19
  what
• 51:19
  my
• 51:19
  daughter's
• 51:20
  strengths
• 51:20
  and
• 51:20
  weaknesses
• 51:21
  are
• 51:21
  gonna
• 51:21
  be.
• 51:21
  I
• 51:22
  wonder
• 51:22
  if
• 51:22
  they'll
• 51:22
  be
• 51:22
  similar
• 51:22
  to
• 51:23
  mine
• 51:23
  or
• 51:23
  not.
• 51:24
  Yeah.
• 51:25
  But
• 51:25
  I
• 51:26
  actually,
• 51:26
  I
• 51:26
  liked
• 51:27
  this
• 51:27
  book.
• 51:27
  I
• 51:27
  like
• 51:28
  the
• 51:28
  way
• 51:28
  it
• 51:28
  was
• 51:28
  laid
• 51:28
  out.
• 51:29
  It
• 51:29
  was
• 51:29
  pretty
• 51:29
  easy
• 51:30
  to
• 51:30
  read.
• 51:31
  It
• 51:31
  is
• 51:31
  dense.
• 51:32
  There
• 51:32
  were
• 51:32
  definitely
• 51:33
  moments
• 51:33
  where
• 51:33
  I
• 51:34
  just
• 51:34
  sort
• 51:34
  of,
• 51:34
  like,
• 51:35
  lost
• 51:36
  it.
• 51:37
  But
• 51:38
  overall,
• 51:38
  I
• 51:39
  enjoyed
• 51:39
  it
• 51:39
  and
• 51:39
  I
• 51:39
  would
• 51:40
  recommend
• 51:40
  it.
• 51:41
  Well,
• 51:41
  because
• 51:41
  you
• 51:41
  would
• 51:42
  go
• 51:42
  to
• 51:42
  a
• 51:42
  book
• 51:42
  like
• 51:42
  this
• 51:43
  when
• 51:43
  you're
• 51:43
  really
• 51:43
  having
• 51:43
  a
• 51:44
  problem.
• 51:44
  Yes.
• 51:44
  And
• 51:45
  you're
• 51:45
  willing
• 51:46
  to
• 51:46
  put
• 51:46
  the
• 51:46
  work
• 51:46
  in
• 51:47
  when
• 51:47
  you
• 51:47
  are
• 51:47
  having
• 51:48
  a
• 51:48
  problem.
• 51:50
  And
• 51:50
  one
• 51:50
  of
• 51:50
  the
• 51:50
  things
• 51:51
  that's
• 51:51
  been
• 51:51
  interesting
• 51:52
  to
• 51:52
  me
• 51:53
  with
• 51:54
  parents
• 51:55
  who
• 51:55
  have
• 51:55
  used
• 51:56
  Habit
• 51:56
  Coach,
• 51:56
  but
• 51:57
  also
• 51:57
  who
• 51:58
  I've
• 51:58
  recommended
• 51:58
  this
• 51:59
  book
• 51:59
  to,
• 51:59
  is
• 51:59
  they
• 52:00
  say
• 52:00
  that
• 52:00
  even
• 52:00
  though
• 52:00
  it's
• 52:01
  for
• 52:01
  children,
• 52:01
  it
• 52:02
  helps
• 52:02
  them
• 52:02
  understand
• 52:03
  themselves
• 52:03
  a
• 52:04
  lot
• 52:04
  better.
• 52:04
  Than
• 52:05
  it's
• 52:05
  hereditary,
• 52:06
  often.
• 52:07
  So
• 52:09
  beat
• 52:09
  the
• 52:09
  stigma.
• 52:10
  If
• 52:10
  your
• 52:10
  kid
• 52:11
  has
• 52:11
  adhd,
• 52:11
  there's
• 52:12
  a
• 52:12
  pretty
• 52:12
  good
• 52:12
  chance
• 52:12
  you
• 52:12
  or
• 52:13
  your
• 52:13
  spouse
• 52:14
  do,
• 52:14
  too,
• 52:14
  or
• 52:15
  your
• 52:15
  parent,
• 52:16
  their
• 52:16
  parent,
• 52:17
  somebody's
• 52:17
  got
• 52:17
  it.
• 52:18
  It
• 52:18
  doesn't
• 52:18
  typically
• 52:19
  just
• 52:19
  come
• 52:20
  out
• 52:20
  of
• 52:20
  nowhere.
• 52:21
  Be
• 52:22
  gentle
• 52:23
  on
• 52:23
  yourself
• 52:23
  and
• 52:24
  on
• 52:24
  your
• 52:24
  child
• 52:25
  and
• 52:25
  don't
• 52:25
  punish
• 52:25
  them
• 52:26
  when
• 52:27
  they
• 52:28
  don't
• 52:29
  do
• 52:29
  something
• 52:29
  that
• 52:29
  you
• 52:30
  think
• 52:30
  they
• 52:30
  should
• 52:30
  be
• 52:30
  able
• 52:30
  to
• 52:31
  do
• 52:31
  because
• 52:31
  there's
• 52:31
  a
• 52:31
  good
• 52:32
  chance
• 52:32
  they
• 52:32
  really
• 52:33
  just
• 52:33
  can't
• 52:33
  do
• 52:33
  it.
• 52:34
  Yeah.
• 52:34
  And
• 52:34
  you're
• 52:34
  reinforcing
• 52:36
  that.
• 52:36
  They're
• 52:36
  probably
• 52:37
  harder
• 52:37
  on
• 52:37
  yourself,
• 52:38
  on
• 52:38
  themselves
• 52:38
  about
• 52:39
  it
• 52:39
  than
• 52:39
  you
• 52:39
  are
• 52:39
  on
• 52:39
  them.
• 52:40
  So
• 52:40
  don't
• 52:40
  hammer
• 52:41
  that
• 52:41
  in.
• 52:41
  Don't
• 52:41
  reinforce
• 52:42
  that.
• 52:42
  Help
• 52:42
  them
• 52:43
  find
• 52:43
  a
• 52:43
  solution.
• 52:44
  Punishment
• 52:44
  is
• 52:45
  so
• 52:45
  rarely
• 52:45
  useful.
• 52:46
  But
• 52:46
  yeah,
• 52:47
  we'll
• 52:47
  continue
• 52:47
  that
• 52:47
  discussion
• 52:48
  for
• 52:48
  another
• 52:49
  book.
• 52:49
  Right.
• 52:50
  Another
• 52:50
  punishment
• 52:50
  book.
• 52:51
  Another
• 52:51
  punishment
• 52:51
  book,
• 52:52
  of
• 52:52
  which
• 52:52
  there
• 52:52
  are
• 52:53
  so
• 52:53
  many.
• 52:53
  There
• 52:53
  are
• 52:54
  a
• 52:54
  lot
• 52:54
  anyway.
• 52:55
  But
• 52:55
  this
• 52:55
  one,
• 52:56
  that's
• 52:56
  not
• 52:56
  what
• 52:56
  this
• 52:57
  is.
• 52:57
  Great
• 52:57
  book.
• 52:58
  I
• 52:58
  do
• 52:59
  recommend
• 52:59
  it
• 53:00
  and.
• 53:01
  Yeah.
• 53:02
  Well,
• 53:02
  great.
• 53:02
  Thank
• 53:02
  you
• 53:03
  so
• 53:03
  much
• 53:03
  for
• 53:03
  joining
• 53:04
  us
• 53:04
  for
• 53:04
  another
• 53:04
  episode
• 53:05
  of
• 53:05
  Other
• 53:05
  People's
• 53:05
  Parenting.
• 53:06
  We
• 53:06
  will
• 53:06
  see
• 53:07
  you
• 53:07
  next
• 53:07
  week.