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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Staying Positive (& Choosing Calm) When Things Go Wrong · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, hurdlers, Emily ABOUDI here bringing you another episode of
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  Speaker 1: five Minute Friday, which is actually never really only five minutes,
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  Speaker 1: but you get the gist from hurdle. I'm having a
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  Speaker 1: really good day despite things not going entirely as planned.
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  Speaker 1: I would say, if you're new to this segment, let
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  Speaker 1: me just make sure you know how things go here.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you this story. I'm going to offer
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  Speaker 1: you a thought prompt to take you into the weekend,
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  Speaker 1: and then I'm going to share with you my highlights
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  Speaker 1: of the week, some content pics, some things that I
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  Speaker 1: think you should check out that I am digging at
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  Speaker 1: the moment. Okay, so the story. This morning, I had
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  Speaker 1: a obgyn appointment, my annual trying to check off all
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  Speaker 1: of my general exams at the beginning of the year
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  Speaker 1: as safe as possible. I had my appointment scheduled for
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  Speaker 1: eleven am. My ob is about like just under two
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  Speaker 1: miles north of my apartment in Central Harlem, and I
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  Speaker 1: was already kind of having a day at around ten
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  Speaker 1: am and decided that it could be a good idea
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  Speaker 1: for me to walk there. I wanted to take advantage
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  Speaker 1: of the opportunity and listen to one of Apple Fitness
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  Speaker 1: plus the new Time to Walk episodes. So that is
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  Speaker 1: exactly what I plan to do. So I laced up
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  Speaker 1: my sneakers, I got out side. It was definitely brisk
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  Speaker 1: at thirty degrees, I think, and I started walking and
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  Speaker 1: I got out there. I'm on my way. I realized
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  Speaker 1: that I'm gonna get there at like ten fifty five,
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  Speaker 1: even though they say get their fifteen minutes early. In
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  Speaker 1: my head, I'm thinking, you know what, I always get
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  Speaker 1: there fifteen minutes early. I never go in until at
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  Speaker 1: least fifteen minutes after the hour, Like I'm just going
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  Speaker 1: to get there five minutes before. It's going to be fine.
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  Speaker 1: I get to my destination, it's five minutes before eleven,
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  Speaker 1: and I try to ring the buzzer and no one answers. Luckily,
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  Speaker 1: at this point, a man and his two sons, they're
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  Speaker 1: walking out from the dentist's office that happened to be
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  Speaker 1: right there, so they push open the gate. I go in.
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  Speaker 1: I go through a couple of doors to the place
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  Speaker 1: where the office has been for years, where my appointment
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  Speaker 1: was confirmed for and see that the door is locked
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  Speaker 1: and in fact, the office is one hundred percent vacant.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm like, this is not not at all convenient.
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  Speaker 1: And I pop into the dentist's office next door and
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  Speaker 1: I ask if they know what's up. They tell me
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  Speaker 1: that she hasn't been there for at least a year.
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  Speaker 1: I log on to my Oscar Health insurance app find
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  Speaker 1: out that there's another address for her, despite the fact
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  Speaker 1: that my appointment is confirmed again at this one. I
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  Speaker 1: go there. It's about three blocks from where I am
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  Speaker 1: at that moment. Thank god. I walk in. I find
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  Speaker 1: out that yes, this is the only place she practices,
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  Speaker 1: and no, they cannot see me at the time that
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  Speaker 1: I was scheduled to be seen long ex hel so
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  Speaker 1: I'm two miles from home. It took me about forty
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  Speaker 1: minutes to walk there, and the woman at the front
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  Speaker 1: desk was so accommodating and like very apologetic, despite the
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  Speaker 1: fact that it was not their error at all. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: if it was anyone's error, I would say it would
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  Speaker 1: be Oscar Health error, kindly and with respect, because they
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  Speaker 1: probably should have taken this other office off of the
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  Speaker 1: portal for booking. But regardless, I schedule a new appointment
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  Speaker 1: for about a month from now, and I turn around
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  Speaker 1: and I walk out, I call Oscar and I'm like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: just so you know, you should probably take this option
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  Speaker 1: off of the you know app The woman was like, wow,
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  Speaker 1: you have so much patience. I would have been so mad,
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  Speaker 1: and like, yeah, I wasn't ecstatic about the fact that,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I walked all the way up there and
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  Speaker 1: couldn't be seen like I was hoping to be seen.
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  Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, it's not like
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  Speaker 1: anyone conspired to inconvenience me, but rather, this is just
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  Speaker 1: what happened. And I had a nice walk and I
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  Speaker 1: walked back home and it just that's how it was.
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  Speaker 1: You know. I think so often we get so wrapped
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  Speaker 1: up in worrying about the things that we can't control,
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  Speaker 1: in freaking out about something that we literally cannot change,
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  Speaker 1: and by just accepting what was today and trying to find,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the good parts in my morning despite the inconvenience,
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  Speaker 1: I was so much better for it. So my question
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  Speaker 1: for you this week, when was the last time that
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  Speaker 1: you may have overreacted and in retrospect, what would you
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  Speaker 1: have done differently? Again, when was the last time that
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  Speaker 1: you maybe overreacted and in retrospect, what could you have
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  Speaker 1: done differently. I feel like I'm always this prompt. This
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  Speaker 1: question is often about gratitude, so of course, in wake
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  Speaker 1: of this story, you could think about something that you
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  Speaker 1: are grateful for as well, But I'm a lean in
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  Speaker 1: that overreacting question. Highlights of the week this week, as always,
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  Speaker 1: links to all of this goodness can be found in
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  Speaker 1: the show notes. Listen to the episode from radio Headspace
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  Speaker 1: Mindfully Present. Lately I have been listening to Up first
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  Speaker 1: first thing in the morning, like as I'm making my
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  Speaker 1: bed before I go to the gym, and then following
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  Speaker 1: that with radio Headspace, and there is just Andy Puttacum's voice,
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  Speaker 1: my good friend. He's been on the show a couple
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  Speaker 1: of times. I'll throw the links to those episodes in
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  Speaker 1: the show notes as well. Andy's voice is so calming
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  Speaker 1: and delightful. I really really loved what he said in
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  Speaker 1: this episode, in particular talking about you know the idea
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  Speaker 1: that a lot of brands or companies or just people
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  Speaker 1: are often putting the word mindful in front of everyday
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  Speaker 1: activities like going for a mindful walk or sitting down
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  Speaker 1: to do some mindful coloring. And he postes this question
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  Speaker 1: like what are you doing when you're not doing those
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  Speaker 1: activities mindfully and asks really like, what is it that
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  Speaker 1: we could be doing differently so that most of our
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