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Season 3 - Episode 169 - How much do you give up your power? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Giving away your power, it's something we all do and we don't
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  even realize it. We do it quite frequently.
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  As a matter of fact, we do it nearly every day.
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  In one way or another, we give away our power.
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  Now if I ask that question to people, I say, do you think you
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  give away your power? The typical answer I get is no,
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  no, I don't. I don't do that, but when you
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  break down the minutiae of it and you realize what I mean when
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  I say that, you're going to be quite shocked about how much you
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  do give away your power. One of the biggest ways we do
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  this is by letting people push our buttons.
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  And as my favorite mentor of all time, Doctor Wayne Dyer.
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  And it's apparently Raven's favorite mentor, too.
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  He used to say it's not their fault for pushing your buttons.
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  It's your fault for having the buttons they push.
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  And it it, it couldn't be more true.
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  If you allow people to get in your head, if you allow people
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  to, you know, take up residency inside your head, you're going
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  to end up in a very difficult situation because you're you're
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  not in charge anymore. They're in charge.
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  So, you know, you all heard me say this many times, when
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  emotions go up, intelligence goes down, and that stands true
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  no matter what. When we are out of control with
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  our emotions here, we are allowing other people to come
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  into our head and have a grand situation of getting in there
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  and telling us how we're going to feel.
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  And you know, if really if being happy is the most important
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  thing and we are focused on being happy and we are focused
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  on, you know, having our own level of happiness be the way we
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  want a trend. We have to pay attention to
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  those emotions that we're having and residing in everyday.
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  So while you don't think, you give away your power, every time
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  that you allow someone to upset you and every time you allow
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  someone to tell you how you are supposed to feel, that is what
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  happens. You give up your power.
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  You give up what you were supposed to be able to control,
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  and we don't even realize we do it.
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  It just happens. So this this today is all about
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  you recognizing how many times do you give up your power?
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  How many times do you let somebody else get in your head
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  and tell you how you're supposed to feel?
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  And if you can track this, if you can keep track of of what's
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  happening, if you can look and say, this is a place where I
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  fall down. This is a place where in the
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  words of Gandhi, you know, he's to say, I refuse to allow anyone
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  to walk through my mind with their dirty feet.
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  It, it if when you figure out who those people are with dirty
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  feet, or in my analogy of the bus, you've let the nuts on the
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  bus, you've pulled the bus over, you've let people get on,
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  they're pushing your buttons and you lose your cool, your ability
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  to organize your thoughts goes out the window.
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  Your ability to control your emotions goes out the window.
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  And, and, and we're, we're screwed in that moment and then
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  all our power is gone because we don't have the power of choice.
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  We have that power of reactivity going on.
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  And nothing is more important than keeping your power of
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  choice and staying cool. Now as human beings, this is
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  probably one of the greatest challenges we have.
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  We have to constantly, constantly, constantly work on
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  this, being able to pull our emotions back.
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  We have to really sit there and say, how do I feel about this?
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  We have to really stop ourselves from going down the rabbit hole,
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  so to speak. And we're just not great at it.
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  Like let's face it, we're just not great at it.
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  This is like going into the gym. It is mental fitness.
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  It is something you have to do every day, every moment
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  throughout your day and you just have to accept it.
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  I have a lot of clients that will say to me, I'm so
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  frustrated. I've been working on this for
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  such a long time and it keeps coming back.
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  Well, I want to congratulate you.
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  That means you're alive and that means you have blood pumping
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  through your veins, your heart is beating, you're breathing,
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  you're alive because that's what being human is all about.
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  This is not about a destination of getting there and then having
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  it fixed. This is about a journey of
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  saying this is what being alive is.
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  You have to manage and pay attention to the direction that
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  you are allowing your emotions to go regularly.
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  And once you nail that, once you say I accept that that's the
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  case, then it becomes a lot easier.
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  You stop getting wasting time, getting mad at yourself for
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  losing it, and then you regain it quicker.
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  Because really the game is about saying I can regain myself
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  quickly. It's not about saying I'll never
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  lose it. It's about how quickly you
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  regain it. It's about how quickly you know
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  that the ah, that's a button pusher.
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  Ah, I know that there are certain things in my world that
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  push my buttons and I can tell you as as much as I've worked on
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  them over the years, they are still things that push my
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  buttons. Listen, I grew up.
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  I'm an only child. I don't handle teasing well.
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  And I'll be the first one to admit I don't like it because I
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  didn't grow up with it. I didn't.
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  I didn't have brothers and sisters that did it.
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  So if my husband gets teasing with me and he grew up with a
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  brother and he is that person, he thinks it's OK and it's fine.
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  And maybe it is. But it doesn't mean it doesn't
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  push my buttons. It doesn't mean it doesn't make
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  me feel bad sometimes. And as much as I work on it,
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  it's still something that I have to work on.
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  I've accepted that about myself. I've accepted it and I've
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  recognized that I don't have to have a a perfect track record
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  with it. I can just be like, OK, I lost
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  it. I can regain it.
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  I can be in control about it again.
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  I don't have to stay in a place where somebody else is pushing
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  my emotions in a direction. Does that make sense to
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  everybody? So don't be mad at yourself for
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  it. Be happy for it.
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  Because if you, if you feel that then and you recognize it, then
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  guess what? You caught it.
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  And that's what this game is all about, catching yourself as
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  quickly as you possibly can. Instead of driving the bus off
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  the road, off the ravine, down into the water and drowning.
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  You say, wait, wait, wait. I hear the clunk, clunk, clunk,
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  clunk, clunk of the driving off the road grids on the side, you
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  know. And then you go, oh, let me
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  drive back on the road. And you catch yourself quickly.
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  That's what this is about, not going into the ravine.
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  You're going to go off the road. Just don't go so far.
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  So hopefully this is helpful today.
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  Hopefully you don't give up your power too much today.
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  Hopefully you control who you let on your bus.
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  Hopefully you stop and say, you know what, I'm just going to
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  drive the bus right by this crew because I don't want anything to
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  do with this mess that's I'm being presented with.
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  And you move forward. And I hope you guys have an
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  incredibly blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.