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Why Women Feel So Off in Midlife | Anxiety, ADHD & Alcohol with Dr. Mandy Diamond · The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

• 0:00
  I
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  am
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  in
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  the
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  hardest
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  phase
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  of
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  perimenopause
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  that
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  I
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  have
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  been
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  in
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  ever
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  the
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  moments
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  where
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  my
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  husband
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  snores
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  and
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  there's
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  this
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  like,
• 0:12
  overwhelming
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  rage
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  where
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  you
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  wake
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  up
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  and
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  I'm
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  like,
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  no,
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  you
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  cannot
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  suffocate
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  him
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  because
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  you
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  would
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  not
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  survive
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  in
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  prison.
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  A
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  lot
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  of
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  midlife
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  women
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  get
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  diagnosed.
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  With
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  adhd,
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  but
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  you
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  don't
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  notice
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  it
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  as
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  much
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  in
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  until
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  you
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  hit
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  midlife.
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  How
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  do
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  we
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  know
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  if
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  it's
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  ADHD
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  or
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  like
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  just
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  pure
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  anxiety?
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  If
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  you
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  have
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  adhd,
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  you're
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  going
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  to
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  have
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  periods
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  of
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  anxiety
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  and
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  depression.
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  It
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  is
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  like
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  this
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  overwhelming
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  anxiety
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  that
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  you
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  have
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  because
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  you
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  have
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  this
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  task
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  list
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  of
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  everything
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  you
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  need
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  to
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  do
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  and
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  you're
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  like,
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  I
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  just
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  can't
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  do
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  it.
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  There's
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  a
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  certain
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  kind
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  of
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  woman
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  who
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  looks
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  like
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  she
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  has
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  it
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  all
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  together.
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  She's
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  successful,
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  capable,
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  high
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  functioning,
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  the
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  one
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  everyone
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  else
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  leans
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  on.
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  But
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  behind
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  the
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  scenes,
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  she's
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  overwhelmed,
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  scattered,
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  wired
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  and
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  exhausted
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  all
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  at
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  the
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  same
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  time.
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  She's
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  pouring
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  a
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  glass
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  of
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  wine
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  to
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  take
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  the
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  edge
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  off,
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  telling
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  herself
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  it's
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  normal,
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  it's
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  earned,
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  and
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  it's
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  fine.
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  And
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  maybe
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  it
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  is,
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  or
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  maybe
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  something
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  else
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  is
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  going
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  on.
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  Because
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  what
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  if
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  what
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  we've
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  been
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  calling
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  stress
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  or
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  burnout
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  or
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  even
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  just
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  midlife
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  is
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  actually
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  something
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  we've
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  completely
• 1:31
  misunderstood?
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  Today
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  we're
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  talking
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  about
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  the
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  patterns
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  most
• 1:36
  women
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  don't
• 1:36
  recognize
• 1:37
  in
• 1:37
  themselves.
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  Where
• 1:38
  anxiety,
• 1:39
  attention
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  and
• 1:40
  coping
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  behaviors
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  quietly
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  develop,
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  quietly
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  overlap
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  and
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  start
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  reinforcing
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  each
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  other.
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  And
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  why
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  so
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  many
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  high
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  functioning
• 1:49
  women
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  are
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  being
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  misread,
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  misdiagnosed,
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  or
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  missed
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  entirely.
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  I'm
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  joined
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  by
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  Dr.
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  Mandy
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  Niebel
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  Diamond,
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  a
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  clinical
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  forensic
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  psychologist
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  who
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  spent
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  years
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  working
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  at
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  the
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  intersection
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  of
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  anxiety,
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  adhd,
• 2:03
  addiction,
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  and
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  human
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  behavior,
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  both
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  in
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  private
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  practice
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  and
• 2:07
  in
• 2:07
  high
• 2:07
  stakes
• 2:08
  clinical
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  settings.
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  This
• 2:09
  conversation
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  isn't
• 2:10
  about
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  labels.
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  It's
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  about
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  understanding
• 2:13
  what's
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  really
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  going
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  on
• 2:14
  beneath
• 2:14
  the
• 2:14
  surface
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  and
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  what
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  it
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  actually
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  takes
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  to
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  shift
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  it.
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  Welcome
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  to
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  the
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  iconic
• 2:20
  midlife.
• 2:20
  Mandy,
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  how
• 2:21
  are
• 2:21
  you
• 2:21
  today?
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  I'm
• 2:22
  so
• 2:23
  good,
• 2:23
  thank
• 2:24
  you.
• 2:24
  How
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  are
• 2:24
  you?
• 2:25
  I
• 2:25
  am
• 2:26
  good.
• 2:26
  I
• 2:26
  am
• 2:26
  good.
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  I
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  feel
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  like
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  I
• 2:28
  want
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  to
• 2:28
  know
• 2:28
  how
• 2:28
  midlife
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  is
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  going
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  for
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  you.
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  Well,
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  to
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  be
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  brutally
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  honest,
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  I
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  am
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  in
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  the
• 2:36
  hardest
• 2:37
  phase
• 2:37
  of
• 2:38
  perimenopause
• 2:39
  that
• 2:39
  I
• 2:40
  have
• 2:40
  been
• 2:40
  in,
• 2:41
  ever.
• 2:43
  I've
• 2:43
  been
• 2:43
  in
• 2:43
  perimenopause
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  for
• 2:44
  a
• 2:45
  couple
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  years
• 2:45
  and
• 2:46
  like
• 2:47
  last
• 2:47
  six
• 2:47
  months
• 2:48
  has
• 2:48
  fully
• 2:49
  taken
• 2:49
  a
• 2:49
  toll.
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  So
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  I
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  would
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  say
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  I'm
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  in
• 2:51
  like,
• 2:52
  the
• 2:52
  most
• 2:53
  challenging
• 2:55
  physically,
• 2:55
  emotionally
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  stage
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  of
• 2:59
  life
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  that
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  I've
• 3:00
  ever
• 3:00
  been
• 3:00
  in.
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  The
• 3:01
  moments
• 3:01
  where
• 3:02
  my
• 3:02
  husband
• 3:03
  snores
• 3:04
  and
• 3:04
  there's
• 3:05
  this
• 3:05
  like,
• 3:05
  overwhelming
• 3:06
  rage
• 3:07
  where
• 3:08
  you
• 3:08
  Wake
• 3:09
  up.
• 3:09
  And
• 3:09
  I'm
• 3:10
  like,
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  already
• 3:10
  waking
• 3:11
  up
• 3:11
  at
• 3:11
  those
• 3:12
  3am
• 3:12
  periods
• 3:13
  of
• 3:13
  time
• 3:13
  where
• 3:13
  you're
• 3:14
  like,
• 3:14
  why?
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  Why?
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  And
• 3:17
  he's
• 3:17
  snoring.
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  And
• 3:18
  I'm
• 3:18
  like,
• 3:19
  no,
• 3:19
  you
• 3:19
  cannot
• 3:20
  suffocate
• 3:20
  him
• 3:21
  because
• 3:21
  you
• 3:21
  would
• 3:21
  not
• 3:21
  survive
• 3:22
  in
• 3:22
  prison.
• 3:23
  And
• 3:23
  it's
• 3:23
  these
• 3:24
  moments.
• 3:25
  Or
• 3:26
  I'm
• 3:26
  like,
• 3:26
  what
• 3:26
  is
• 3:26
  happening?
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  But
• 3:27
  thank
• 3:27
  God
• 3:28
  I
• 3:28
  started
• 3:28
  hormone
• 3:29
  replacement
• 3:30
  therapy
• 3:30
  six
• 3:30
  weeks,
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  weeks
• 3:31
  ago,
• 3:31
  and
• 3:32
  starting
• 3:32
  to,
• 3:33
  like,
• 3:33
  come
• 3:34
  back
• 3:34
  to
• 3:34
  my
• 3:34
  normal,
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  like,
• 3:36
  easygoing
• 3:37
  phase.
• 3:37
  But,
• 3:38
  like,
• 3:38
  women
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  do
• 3:39
  not
• 3:39
  prep
• 3:39
  you
• 3:40
  for
• 3:40
  this.
• 3:40
  At
• 3:40
  least
• 3:41
  I
• 3:41
  was
• 3:41
  not
• 3:41
  prepped
• 3:42
  for
• 3:44
  all
• 3:44
  of
• 3:44
  this.
• 3:45
  Well,
• 3:45
  that
• 3:45
  is
• 3:45
  exactly
• 3:46
  it.
• 3:46
  That's
• 3:46
  why
• 3:47
  I'm
• 3:47
  trying
• 3:47
  to
• 3:47
  help
• 3:47
  to
• 3:48
  create,
• 3:48
  like,
• 3:48
  kind
• 3:49
  of
• 3:49
  a
• 3:49
  roadmap
• 3:49
  for
• 3:50
  people,
• 3:50
  because
• 3:51
  it
• 3:51
  is
• 3:51
  like
• 3:51
  stepping
• 3:52
  into
• 3:52
  the
• 3:52
  big
• 3:53
  black
• 3:53
  hole,
• 3:53
  you
• 3:54
  know,
• 3:54
  you
• 3:54
  just
• 3:54
  have
• 3:55
  no
• 3:55
  idea
• 3:56
  what's
• 3:57
  coming.
• 3:57
  And
• 3:57
  I
• 3:57
  love
• 3:57
  that
• 3:58
  you
• 3:58
  started
• 3:58
  hrts,
• 3:59
  because
• 3:59
  they
• 4:00
  were
• 4:00
  really
• 4:00
  a
• 4:00
  game
• 4:01
  changer
• 4:01
  for
• 4:01
  me
• 4:02
  as
• 4:02
  well.
• 4:02
  You
• 4:03
  know,
• 4:03
  it.
• 4:03
  The
• 4:04
  irritability,
• 4:05
  the
• 4:05
  brain
• 4:05
  fog,
• 4:06
  you
• 4:06
  know,
• 4:06
  like,
• 4:07
  so
• 4:07
  many
• 4:07
  different
• 4:08
  things
• 4:08
  that
• 4:08
  were
• 4:09
  going
• 4:09
  on
• 4:09
  were
• 4:09
  really,
• 4:10
  like,
• 4:10
  those
• 4:10
  symptoms
• 4:11
  lessened
• 4:12
  quite
• 4:12
  a
• 4:12
  bit,
• 4:13
  you
• 4:13
  know,
• 4:13
  for
• 4:14
  me.
• 4:14
  So
• 4:14
  it'll
• 4:15
  be
• 4:15
  exciting
• 4:15
  to
• 4:15
  see
• 4:16
  what
• 4:16
  happens
• 4:16
  to
• 4:16
  you
• 4:16
  on
• 4:17
  your
• 4:17
  HRT
• 4:17
  journey.
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  know.
• 4:19
  I'm,
• 4:19
  like,
• 4:20
  feeling
• 4:21
  almost
• 4:21
  back
• 4:21
  to
• 4:22
  normal
• 4:22
  from
• 4:23
  where
• 4:23
  it's
• 4:23
  been
• 4:23
  the
• 4:23
  past
• 4:24
  few
• 4:24
  months.
• 4:24
  So
• 4:24
  I'm
• 4:25
  like,
• 4:25
  okay,
• 4:25
  I
• 4:25
  think
• 4:25
  we
• 4:26
  are,
• 4:26
  like,
• 4:27
  over
• 4:27
  the
• 4:27
  hut,
• 4:28
  maybe
• 4:28
  so.
• 4:30
  Totally,
• 4:31
  totally.
• 4:32
  I
• 4:32
  know.
• 4:32
  You
• 4:33
  know,
• 4:33
  it's
• 4:33
  funny.
• 4:33
  Irritability.
• 4:34
  We've
• 4:35
  got
• 4:35
  irritability.
• 4:35
  We've
• 4:36
  got
• 4:36
  anxiety,
• 4:37
  which
• 4:37
  is
• 4:37
  a
• 4:37
  big,
• 4:38
  big
• 4:38
  thing,
• 4:40
  especially
• 4:40
  for
• 4:41
  midlife
• 4:41
  women.
• 4:41
  Do
• 4:42
  you
• 4:42
  find
• 4:42
  that
• 4:43
  when
• 4:43
  you're
• 4:43
  talking
• 4:43
  to
• 4:44
  your
• 4:44
  patients
• 4:44
  that,
• 4:45
  you
• 4:46
  know,
• 4:46
  they're
• 4:46
  experiencing,
• 4:47
  especially
• 4:47
  in
• 4:48
  midlife?
• 4:48
  Like,
• 4:48
  is
• 4:48
  it.
• 4:49
  Is
• 4:49
  it
• 4:49
  the
• 4:49
  anxiety
• 4:50
  that
• 4:50
  you
• 4:50
  see
• 4:50
  the
• 4:51
  most?
• 4:51
  Or
• 4:51
  what.
• 4:51
  What
• 4:52
  is
• 4:52
  the
• 4:52
  thing?
• 4:53
  The
• 4:53
  irritability,
• 4:54
  along
• 4:55
  with
• 4:55
  the
• 4:55
  anxiety
• 4:56
  and
• 4:56
  just
• 4:57
  such
• 4:57
  high
• 4:58
  levels
• 4:58
  of
• 4:59
  stress.
• 5:00
  And
• 5:00
  those
• 5:01
  are,
• 5:01
  like,
• 5:01
  the
• 5:02
  three
• 5:02
  things
• 5:03
  that
• 5:03
  I
• 5:03
  see
• 5:03
  with.
• 5:04
  And
• 5:04
  most
• 5:04
  of
• 5:05
  my
• 5:05
  women
• 5:05
  patients
• 5:06
  are
• 5:06
  midlife.
• 5:07
  I
• 5:07
  have.
• 5:08
  That
• 5:08
  are
• 5:08
  younger
• 5:09
  and
• 5:09
  have
• 5:10
  not
• 5:10
  entered
• 5:11
  that
• 5:11
  phase,
• 5:12
  but
• 5:13
  the
• 5:13
  majority
• 5:14
  are
• 5:14
  in
• 5:14
  this
• 5:14
  transition
• 5:15
  kind
• 5:15
  of
• 5:16
  period
• 5:16
  of
• 5:16
  time.
• 5:16
  And
• 5:17
  that
• 5:17
  is,
• 5:17
  like,
• 5:18
  they're
• 5:19
  so
• 5:20
  overwhelmed
• 5:20
  at
• 5:20
  different
• 5:21
  times,
• 5:21
  kind
• 5:22
  of
• 5:22
  coming
• 5:22
  in
• 5:22
  and
• 5:22
  frustrated,
• 5:24
  not
• 5:24
  understanding
• 5:25
  exactly
• 5:26
  what's
• 5:26
  happening,
• 5:26
  you
• 5:27
  know,
• 5:27
  to
• 5:27
  their
• 5:27
  bodies
• 5:28
  or
• 5:29
  what
• 5:29
  is
• 5:29
  going
• 5:30
  on
• 5:30
  from
• 5:30
  a
• 5:30
  mental
• 5:31
  health
• 5:31
  perspective
• 5:32
  and
• 5:32
  just
• 5:32
  feeling
• 5:33
  so
• 5:33
  kind
• 5:33
  of
• 5:33
  lost
• 5:33
  and
• 5:34
  out
• 5:34
  of
• 5:34
  control.
• 5:36
  Absolutely.
• 5:37
  You
• 5:37
  know,
• 5:37
  I
• 5:37
  think
• 5:37
  it's
• 5:38
  really
• 5:38
  interesting
• 5:38
  because
• 5:39
  I
• 5:39
  didn't
• 5:39
  realize
• 5:40
  that
• 5:41
  a
• 5:41
  lot
• 5:41
  of
• 5:42
  midlife
• 5:42
  women
• 5:42
  get
• 5:43
  diagnosed
• 5:43
  with
• 5:43
  adhd,
• 5:45
  which
• 5:46
  I
• 5:46
  thought
• 5:46
  was,
• 5:46
  you
• 5:46
  know,
• 5:47
  when
• 5:47
  I
• 5:47
  think
• 5:47
  of
• 5:47
  ADHD
• 5:48
  and
• 5:48
  this
• 5:48
  is,
• 5:49
  like,
• 5:49
  how
• 5:49
  I
• 5:50
  was
• 5:50
  in
• 5:50
  the
• 5:50
  dark
• 5:50
  about
• 5:51
  it.
• 5:51
  You
• 5:51
  know,
• 5:51
  I'm
• 5:52
  thinking
• 5:52
  Maybe
• 5:52
  kids
• 5:53
  in
• 5:53
  school,
• 5:53
  you
• 5:54
  know,
• 5:54
  that
• 5:54
  get
• 5:54
  diagnosed
• 5:55
  with
• 5:55
  adhd.
• 5:56
  And
• 5:56
  it
• 5:56
  always
• 5:56
  seemed
• 5:57
  like,
• 5:57
  primarily
• 5:58
  it
• 5:58
  was
• 5:58
  like,
• 5:58
  young
• 5:58
  boys,
• 5:59
  it
• 5:59
  felt
• 6:00
  like
• 6:00
  that
• 6:00
  were
• 6:00
  getting
• 6:01
  diagnosed.
• 6:01
  But
• 6:02
  actually,
• 6:02
  a
• 6:02
  lot
• 6:02
  of
• 6:03
  midlife
• 6:03
  women
• 6:04
  are
• 6:04
  getting
• 6:04
  diagnosed
• 6:05
  with
• 6:05
  adhd.
• 6:06
  So,
• 6:06
  like,
• 6:06
  is
• 6:07
  that
• 6:07
  something
• 6:07
  that's
• 6:08
  always
• 6:08
  kind
• 6:09
  of
• 6:09
  been
• 6:09
  there
• 6:09
  and,
• 6:09
  like,
• 6:10
  maybe
• 6:10
  we
• 6:10
  just
• 6:10
  didn't
• 6:11
  know,
• 6:11
  or
• 6:11
  is
• 6:12
  it
• 6:12
  kind
• 6:12
  of
• 6:12
  a
• 6:12
  newer
• 6:13
  development?
• 6:14
  I
• 6:14
  think
• 6:14
  it's
• 6:15
  always
• 6:15
  been
• 6:16
  there.
• 6:16
  It's
• 6:17
  just
• 6:17
  women
• 6:18
  in
• 6:19
  general,
• 6:19
  a
• 6:19
  lot
• 6:19
  of
• 6:19
  times
• 6:20
  it
• 6:20
  is
• 6:20
  misunderstood,
• 6:21
  it's
• 6:22
  misdiagnosed,
• 6:23
  and
• 6:24
  women
• 6:24
  are
• 6:25
  kind
• 6:25
  of
• 6:25
  better
• 6:26
  at
• 6:26
  men
• 6:26
  at
• 6:26
  masking
• 6:27
  it,
• 6:28
  you
• 6:28
  know?
• 6:29
  And
• 6:29
  so
• 6:29
  a
• 6:29
  lot
• 6:29
  of
• 6:29
  times
• 6:30
  you
• 6:30
  just
• 6:30
  kind
• 6:30
  of
• 6:31
  are
• 6:31
  floating
• 6:31
  through
• 6:32
  thinking,
• 6:32
  oh,
• 6:33
  I
• 6:33
  have
• 6:33
  concentration
• 6:34
  issues
• 6:34
  or
• 6:34
  focus
• 6:35
  issues,
• 6:35
  or
• 6:36
  I'm
• 6:36
  kind
• 6:36
  of
• 6:36
  more
• 6:36
  hyperactive.
• 6:38
  But
• 6:38
  you
• 6:39
  don't
• 6:39
  notice
• 6:40
  it
• 6:40
  as
• 6:40
  much
• 6:41
  until
• 6:41
  you
• 6:41
  hit
• 6:42
  midlife.
• 6:43
  And
• 6:43
  then
• 6:43
  it's
• 6:44
  like
• 6:44
  I
• 6:44
  said,
• 6:44
  the
• 6:44
  brain,
• 6:45
  it
• 6:45
  feels
• 6:45
  like
• 6:45
  it's
• 6:45
  short
• 6:46
  circuiting.
• 6:47
  And
• 6:47
  a
• 6:47
  lot
• 6:47
  of
• 6:48
  the
• 6:48
  things
• 6:48
  that
• 6:48
  you've
• 6:48
  been
• 6:49
  able
• 6:49
  to
• 6:49
  utilize
• 6:50
  and
• 6:50
  kind
• 6:50
  of
• 6:50
  function,
• 6:51
  all
• 6:51
  of
• 6:51
  a
• 6:51
  sudden
• 6:52
  just
• 6:52
  kind
• 6:52
  of
• 6:52
  go
• 6:53
  haywire,
• 6:54
  and
• 6:54
  then
• 6:54
  it
• 6:54
  becomes
• 6:55
  way
• 6:55
  more
• 6:55
  present.
• 6:56
  But
• 6:56
  I
• 6:56
  think
• 6:56
  in
• 6:57
  general,
• 6:57
  it's
• 6:58
  been
• 6:58
  there.
• 6:59
  It
• 6:59
  has
• 6:59
  just
• 7:00
  not
• 7:00
  been
• 7:00
  highlighted.
• 7:02
  Okay.
• 7:03
  Because
• 7:03
  I
• 7:04
  feel
• 7:04
  like
• 7:04
  women
• 7:05
  are
• 7:05
  being
• 7:05
  missed,
• 7:06
  you
• 7:06
  know,
• 7:06
  with.
• 7:06
  With
• 7:07
  this
• 7:07
  diagnosis.
• 7:08
  So
• 7:09
  how
• 7:09
  would.
• 7:09
  How
• 7:10
  would
• 7:10
  somebody
• 7:10
  know
• 7:11
  that
• 7:11
  they
• 7:11
  had
• 7:11
  ADHD
• 7:12
  at
• 7:12
  this
• 7:13
  time?
• 7:13
  Like,
• 7:13
  would
• 7:14
  it
• 7:14
  be
• 7:14
  sort
• 7:14
  of
• 7:16
  symptoms
• 7:16
  that
• 7:16
  we've
• 7:16
  heard
• 7:17
  in
• 7:17
  the
• 7:17
  past
• 7:18
  where,
• 7:18
  you
• 7:19
  know,
• 7:19
  you
• 7:19
  kind
• 7:19
  of.
• 7:19
  You
• 7:20
  lose
• 7:20
  interest
• 7:20
  in
• 7:21
  things.
• 7:21
  You're
• 7:21
  kind
• 7:21
  of
• 7:22
  jumping
• 7:22
  around
• 7:22
  to
• 7:22
  different
• 7:23
  things,
• 7:23
  like,
• 7:23
  you
• 7:24
  lose
• 7:24
  concentration.
• 7:25
  Is
• 7:25
  it
• 7:26
  things
• 7:26
  like
• 7:26
  that,
• 7:26
  or
• 7:27
  does
• 7:27
  it
• 7:27
  show
• 7:27
  up
• 7:28
  differently
• 7:28
  in
• 7:28
  midlife?
• 7:29
  It's
• 7:30
  all
• 7:30
  of
• 7:30
  those
• 7:31
  things,
• 7:31
  but
• 7:31
  it
• 7:32
  also
• 7:32
  shows
• 7:32
  up
• 7:33
  more
• 7:33
  with,
• 7:33
  like,
• 7:34
  irritability.
• 7:35
  It
• 7:36
  shows
• 7:36
  up
• 7:36
  more
• 7:37
  with
• 7:37
  starting
• 7:38
  a
• 7:38
  ton
• 7:38
  of
• 7:39
  projects
• 7:39
  and
• 7:40
  never
• 7:40
  finishing
• 7:41
  them
• 7:41
  and
• 7:41
  feeling
• 7:42
  just
• 7:42
  extreme,
• 7:43
  extremely
• 7:43
  overwhelmed.
• 7:45
  Having
• 7:45
  more
• 7:45
  of
• 7:46
  the
• 7:46
  concentration
• 7:47
  and
• 7:47
  memory
• 7:48
  issues
• 7:48
  of,
• 7:49
  you
• 7:49
  know,
• 7:49
  why
• 7:49
  did
• 7:49
  I
• 7:50
  walk
• 7:50
  into
• 7:50
  this
• 7:50
  room?
• 7:51
  Or
• 7:52
  things
• 7:52
  that
• 7:52
  were
• 7:53
  once
• 7:54
  somewhat
• 7:54
  stressful
• 7:55
  now
• 7:55
  seem
• 7:56
  so
• 7:56
  overwhelming,
• 7:57
  like
• 7:58
  checking
• 7:58
  the
• 7:58
  mail
• 7:59
  or
• 7:59
  voicemails
• 8:00
  or
• 8:01
  emails
• 8:02
  or
• 8:03
  keeping
• 8:03
  the
• 8:03
  house
• 8:04
  kind
• 8:04
  of
• 8:04
  functioning
• 8:05
  at
• 8:05
  the
• 8:05
  level
• 8:06
  you're
• 8:06
  used
• 8:06
  to
• 8:07
  it
• 8:07
  functioning
• 8:08
  at.
• 8:09
  And
• 8:09
  so
• 8:09
  a
• 8:09
  lot
• 8:09
  of
• 8:09
  times
• 8:10
  it's
• 8:10
  more.
• 8:10
  With
• 8:11
  those
• 8:11
  pieces.
• 8:12
  And
• 8:12
  the
• 8:12
  way
• 8:13
  that
• 8:13
  you
• 8:14
  can
• 8:14
  find
• 8:14
  out
• 8:15
  if
• 8:15
  it
• 8:15
  is
• 8:15
  more
• 8:16
  hormonal
• 8:17
  or
• 8:17
  if
• 8:17
  it's,
• 8:18
  like,
• 8:18
  anxiety
• 8:19
  or
• 8:19
  something
• 8:19
  else
• 8:20
  is
• 8:20
  going
• 8:20
  through.
• 8:21
  Meeting
• 8:21
  with
• 8:21
  a
• 8:21
  psychologist,
• 8:23
  walking
• 8:23
  through,
• 8:24
  like,
• 8:24
  a
• 8:24
  full
• 8:25
  assessment,
• 8:25
  doing
• 8:26
  some
• 8:26
  of
• 8:26
  the
• 8:26
  testing
• 8:27
  pieces,
• 8:28
  really
• 8:28
  highlight,
• 8:28
  okay,
• 8:29
  here
• 8:29
  is
• 8:30
  the
• 8:30
  type
• 8:30
  of
• 8:30
  ADHD
• 8:31
  you
• 8:31
  have,
• 8:32
  if
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  have
• 8:33
  one.
• 8:33
  And
• 8:34
  there's
• 8:34
  the
• 8:34
  symptoms
• 8:35
  that
• 8:35
  a
• 8:35
  lot
• 8:35
  of
• 8:35
  times
• 8:36
  go
• 8:37
  just
• 8:38
  missed.
• 8:38
  I
• 8:39
  mean,
• 8:39
  there's.
• 8:40
  I'll
• 8:40
  have
• 8:40
  so
• 8:41
  many
• 8:41
  Patients.
• 8:41
  And
• 8:41
  I'll
• 8:42
  do
• 8:42
  testing
• 8:42
  a
• 8:43
  lot
• 8:43
  for
• 8:43
  other
• 8:44
  psychiatrists
• 8:45
  or
• 8:45
  psychologists
• 8:46
  or
• 8:46
  therapists
• 8:46
  that
• 8:46
  are
• 8:47
  like,
• 8:47
  I'm
• 8:47
  not
• 8:47
  sure
• 8:47
  if
• 8:48
  my
• 8:48
  patient
• 8:48
  has
• 8:49
  this.
• 8:49
  And
• 8:50
  they'll
• 8:50
  come
• 8:50
  in
• 8:50
  and
• 8:51
  you
• 8:51
  can
• 8:51
  look
• 8:51
  at
• 8:51
  like
• 8:52
  the
• 8:52
  DSM
• 8:53
  and
• 8:53
  it's
• 8:53
  like,
• 8:53
  you
• 8:54
  know,
• 8:54
  these
• 8:54
  nine
• 8:54
  symptoms
• 8:55
  are
• 8:55
  these.
• 8:56
  But
• 8:56
  there
• 8:56
  are
• 8:57
  like
• 8:57
  50
• 8:58
  other
• 8:59
  symptoms
• 8:59
  that
• 8:59
  are
• 9:00
  tied
• 9:00
  to
• 9:00
  ADHD
• 9:01
  that
• 9:01
  a
• 9:01
  lot
• 9:01
  of
• 9:01
  times
• 9:02
  people
• 9:02
  don't
• 9:02
  even
• 9:02
  realize,
• 9:03
  like,
• 9:03
  oh,
• 9:03
  I've
• 9:04
  been
• 9:04
  doing
• 9:04
  that
• 9:04
  my
• 9:04
  whole
• 9:05
  life.
• 9:05
  I
• 9:05
  had
• 9:05
  no
• 9:06
  clue
• 9:07
  that
• 9:07
  that
• 9:07
  is
• 9:07
  actually
• 9:08
  an
• 9:08
  ADHD
• 9:09
  symptom.
• 9:10
  And
• 9:10
  in
• 9:11
  like
• 9:11
  midlife
• 9:12
  hormones
• 9:13
  highlight
• 9:14
  kind
• 9:14
  of
• 9:15
  all
• 9:15
  those
• 9:15
  different
• 9:16
  areas
• 9:16
  and
• 9:17
  certain
• 9:17
  things
• 9:18
  just
• 9:18
  other
• 9:19
  symptoms
• 9:19
  will
• 9:20
  develop
• 9:21
  that
• 9:21
  either
• 9:21
  you
• 9:21
  haven't
• 9:22
  noticed
• 9:23
  or
• 9:23
  you
• 9:24
  haven't
• 9:24
  really
• 9:24
  had
• 9:25
  to
• 9:25
  deal
• 9:25
  with.
• 9:26
  Okay,
• 9:27
  so
• 9:28
  like
• 9:28
  as
• 9:28
  far
• 9:28
  as
• 9:29
  starting
• 9:30
  projects
• 9:30
  and
• 9:30
  not
• 9:31
  finishing
• 9:31
  them,
• 9:31
  I
• 9:32
  feel
• 9:32
  like
• 9:32
  that
• 9:33
  is
• 9:33
  me
• 9:33
  that
• 9:34
  is
• 9:34
  like
• 9:34
  basically
• 9:35
  all
• 9:35
  of
• 9:35
  my
• 9:35
  friend
• 9:36
  group,
• 9:36
  you
• 9:37
  know,
• 9:37
  I
• 9:37
  feel
• 9:37
  like
• 9:37
  that'
• 9:38
  such
• 9:38
  a
• 9:38
  common
• 9:39
  thing.
• 9:40
  So
• 9:40
  could
• 9:40
  something
• 9:41
  like
• 9:41
  that
• 9:42
  just
• 9:42
  be,
• 9:42
  you
• 9:43
  know,
• 9:43
  that
• 9:43
  we
• 9:43
  didn't
• 9:44
  have
• 9:44
  the
• 9:44
  follow
• 9:44
  through
• 9:45
  or
• 9:45
  really
• 9:46
  could
• 9:46
  be
• 9:46
  adhd.
• 9:48
  It
• 9:49
  can
• 9:49
  really
• 9:49
  be
• 9:50
  adhd.
• 9:51
  I
• 9:51
  mean
• 9:51
  that
• 9:52
  is
• 9:52
  one
• 9:52
  of
• 9:52
  the
• 9:52
  things
• 9:53
  where
• 9:53
  it's.
• 9:54
  You
• 9:54
  get
• 9:54
  these
• 9:55
  slide
• 9:55
  of
• 9:56
  kind
• 9:56
  of
• 9:56
  ideas
• 9:57
  and
• 9:57
  it's
• 9:57
  like,
• 9:58
  oh
• 9:58
  my
• 9:58
  gosh,
• 9:59
  I'm
• 9:59
  going
• 9:59
  to
• 9:59
  get
• 9:59
  hyper
• 10:00
  fixated.
• 10:00
  And
• 10:01
  you
• 10:01
  research
• 10:01
  and
• 10:01
  find
• 10:02
  every
• 10:02
  single
• 10:03
  thing
• 10:03
  about
• 10:03
  this
• 10:04
  one
• 10:04
  like
• 10:05
  idea.
• 10:06
  And
• 10:06
  then
• 10:07
  I'm
• 10:07
  gonna
• 10:07
  get
• 10:08
  organized
• 10:08
  and
• 10:08
  buy
• 10:09
  five
• 10:09
  planners
• 10:10
  and
• 10:10
  never
• 10:10
  use
• 10:11
  any
• 10:11
  of
• 10:11
  them
• 10:11
  or
• 10:12
  buy
• 10:12
  all
• 10:12
  the
• 10:13
  self
• 10:13
  help
• 10:13
  books
• 10:14
  on
• 10:14
  like
• 10:14
  how
• 10:14
  to
• 10:14
  do
• 10:15
  this,
• 10:15
  this,
• 10:15
  this,
• 10:15
  and
• 10:16
  then
• 10:16
  just
• 10:17
  no
• 10:17
  follow
• 10:18
  through
• 10:18
  and
• 10:19
  either
• 10:19
  procrastinating
• 10:20
  all
• 10:21
  the
• 10:21
  other
• 10:21
  pieces,
• 10:22
  getting
• 10:22
  so
• 10:22
  hyper
• 10:23
  fixated
• 10:24
  on
• 10:24
  something
• 10:25
  else,
• 10:26
  or
• 10:26
  feeling
• 10:26
  completely
• 10:27
  paralyzed
• 10:29
  like
• 10:29
  where
• 10:31
  you
• 10:31
  just
• 10:31
  cannot
• 10:32
  do
• 10:33
  anything.
• 10:34
  It
• 10:34
  is
• 10:34
  like
• 10:34
  this
• 10:35
  overwhelming
• 10:36
  anxiety
• 10:36
  that
• 10:37
  you
• 10:37
  have
• 10:37
  because
• 10:37
  you
• 10:38
  have
• 10:38
  this
• 10:38
  task
• 10:39
  list
• 10:39
  of
• 10:39
  everything
• 10:40
  you
• 10:40
  need
• 10:40
  to
• 10:40
  do
• 10:41
  and
• 10:41
  you're
• 10:42
  like,
• 10:42
  I
• 10:42
  just
• 10:43
  can't
• 10:43
  do
• 10:43
  it.
• 10:44
  And
• 10:44
  then
• 10:44
  you're
• 10:44
  having
• 10:45
  the
• 10:45
  guilt
• 10:45
  along
• 10:46
  with
• 10:46
  that,
• 10:46
  the
• 10:46
  shame,
• 10:47
  some
• 10:47
  of
• 10:47
  the
• 10:47
  depression
• 10:48
  that
• 10:48
  you're
• 10:48
  not
• 10:49
  functioning
• 10:50
  while
• 10:50
  the
• 10:50
  brain
• 10:51
  has
• 10:51
  a
• 10:51
  thousand
• 10:52
  open
• 10:52
  tabs
• 10:53
  and
• 10:53
  you're
• 10:54
  like,
• 10:54
  what
• 10:54
  is,
• 10:55
  like
• 10:55
  what
• 10:56
  is
• 10:56
  happening?
• 10:56
  What
• 10:57
  direction?
• 10:57
  What
• 10:57
  do
• 10:58
  I
• 10:58
  need
• 10:58
  to
• 10:58
  do?
• 10:58
  And
• 10:59
  just
• 10:59
  kind
• 10:59
  of
• 10:59
  being
• 10:59
  paralyzed
• 11:00
  in
• 11:00
  the
• 11:00
  midst
• 11:00
  of,
• 11:01
  of
• 11:01
  all
• 11:01
  of
• 11:01
  it.
• 11:02
  My
• 11:02
  gosh.
• 11:03
  Oh
• 11:03
  my
• 11:03
  gosh.
• 11:04
  So
• 11:04
  how
• 11:05
  do
• 11:05
  we
• 11:05
  know
• 11:06
  if
• 11:06
  it's
• 11:06
  ADHD
• 11:07
  or
• 11:07
  like
• 11:08
  just
• 11:08
  pure
• 11:09
  anxiety?
• 11:10
  Going
• 11:11
  to
• 11:11
  like
• 11:11
  a
• 11:12
  therapist,
• 11:13
  ologist
• 11:13
  and
• 11:13
  really
• 11:14
  walking
• 11:14
  through
• 11:15
  it
• 11:15
  because
• 11:15
  there's
• 11:16
  so
• 11:16
  many
• 11:17
  symptoms
• 11:18
  that
• 11:18
  are
• 11:19
  the
• 11:19
  same
• 11:20
  and
• 11:20
  it's
• 11:21
  able
• 11:21
  to
• 11:21
  figure
• 11:21
  that
• 11:22
  out.
• 11:22
  And
• 11:22
  one
• 11:22
  of
• 11:22
  the
• 11:22
  things
• 11:22
  that
• 11:23
  a
• 11:23
  lot
• 11:23
  of
• 11:23
  people
• 11:23
  don't
• 11:24
  know
• 11:24
  is
• 11:24
  if
• 11:25
  you
• 11:25
  have
• 11:25
  adhd,
• 11:27
  no
• 11:27
  matter
• 11:27
  what
• 11:28
  type
• 11:28
  it
• 11:28
  is
• 11:29
  you're
• 11:29
  going
• 11:29
  to
• 11:29
  have
• 11:30
  periods
• 11:30
  of
• 11:31
  anxiety
• 11:31
  and
• 11:31
  depression.
• 11:32
  Whereas
• 11:33
  you
• 11:34
  can
• 11:34
  have
• 11:34
  anxiety
• 11:35
  and
• 11:35
  depression
• 11:35
  and
• 11:36
  not
• 11:36
  have
• 11:36
  adhd.
• 11:37
  But
• 11:38
  if
• 11:38
  you
• 11:38
  have
• 11:38
  adhd,
• 11:39
  you
• 11:39
  will
• 11:39
  have
• 11:40
  periods
• 11:40
  of
• 11:41
  anxiety
• 11:41
  and
• 11:41
  depression.
• 11:42
  And
• 11:42
  so
• 11:42
  it's
• 11:43
  being
• 11:43
  able
• 11:43
  to
• 11:43
  figure
• 11:44
  out
• 11:45
  what
• 11:45
  is
• 11:45
  kind
• 11:46
  of
• 11:46
  what.
• 11:46
  And
• 11:47
  that's
• 11:47
  where
• 11:47
  a
• 11:48
  therapist,
• 11:49
  a
• 11:49
  psychologist
• 11:50
  can
• 11:50
  really
• 11:50
  walk
• 11:50
  through
• 11:51
  to
• 11:51
  see,
• 11:52
  okay,
• 11:52
  is
• 11:52
  this
• 11:52
  just
• 11:53
  anxiety
• 11:54
  or
• 11:55
  this
• 11:55
  actually
• 11:56
  an
• 11:56
  ADHD
• 11:57
  diagnosis
• 11:58
  that
• 11:58
  now
• 11:58
  is
• 11:59
  being
• 11:59
  highlighted
• 12:00
  with
• 12:00
  the
• 12:00
  phase
• 12:00
  of
• 12:01
  life
• 12:01
  you're
• 12:01
  in
• 12:02
  that
• 12:02
  you
• 12:02
  may
• 12:03
  need
• 12:03
  to,
• 12:03
  like,
• 12:04
  figure
• 12:04
  out
• 12:04
  some
• 12:05
  therapy
• 12:05
  techniques
• 12:06
  or
• 12:06
  even
• 12:06
  medication
• 12:07
  to
• 12:07
  deal
• 12:08
  with
• 12:08
  it.
• 12:09
  So
• 12:09
  what
• 12:09
  is
• 12:10
  the
• 12:10
  way
• 12:10
  to
• 12:11
  treat
• 12:11
  ADHD
• 12:12
  in
• 12:12
  midlife?
• 12:13
  Is
• 12:13
  it.
• 12:13
  Are
• 12:13
  you
• 12:13
  taking,
• 12:13
  like,
• 12:14
  medications
• 12:14
  like
• 12:14
  how,
• 12:15
  you
• 12:15
  know,
• 12:16
  somebody
• 12:16
  younger
• 12:16
  might
• 12:17
  take
• 12:17
  those
• 12:17
  same
• 12:17
  medications,
• 12:18
  or
• 12:19
  is
• 12:19
  there
• 12:19
  a
• 12:19
  different
• 12:20
  way
• 12:20
  to
• 12:20
  approach
• 12:20
  it?
• 12:21
  You
• 12:21
  can
• 12:21
  approach
• 12:22
  it
• 12:22
  in
• 12:22
  a
• 12:23
  multitude
• 12:23
  of
• 12:23
  ways.
• 12:24
  So
• 12:24
  I
• 12:24
  have
• 12:24
  some
• 12:25
  patients
• 12:25
  that
• 12:26
  will
• 12:26
  take
• 12:26
  the
• 12:27
  normal
• 12:27
  ADHD
• 12:28
  medication.
• 12:29
  I
• 12:29
  work
• 12:29
  with
• 12:30
  a
• 12:30
  couple
• 12:30
  amazing
• 12:31
  psychiatrists,
• 12:32
  and
• 12:32
  I'll
• 12:32
  do
• 12:33
  kind
• 12:33
  of
• 12:33
  all
• 12:33
  the
• 12:33
  testing
• 12:34
  and
• 12:34
  everything
• 12:35
  over.
• 12:36
  And
• 12:37
  they
• 12:37
  are
• 12:38
  wanting
• 12:39
  to
• 12:39
  take
• 12:39
  like
• 12:39
  a
• 12:39
  medication
• 12:40
  because
• 12:40
  they've
• 12:40
  tried
• 12:41
  a
• 12:41
  lot
• 12:41
  of
• 12:41
  other
• 12:41
  tools.
• 12:42
  And
• 12:43
  so
• 12:43
  then
• 12:44
  it's
• 12:44
  the
• 12:44
  normal,
• 12:45
  you
• 12:45
  know,
• 12:45
  Adderall,
• 12:46
  Vyvanse
• 12:47
  concert,
• 12:48
  like
• 12:49
  I've
• 12:50
  patient
• 12:50
  be
• 12:50
  put
• 12:51
  on
• 12:51
  Ritalin.
• 12:51
  So
• 12:52
  it's
• 12:52
  the
• 12:52
  same
• 12:53
  ADHD
• 12:53
  medication.
• 12:55
  But
• 12:55
  you
• 12:55
  can
• 12:56
  also
• 12:56
  approach
• 12:56
  it
• 12:57
  through
• 12:57
  supplements,
• 12:58
  which
• 12:58
  a
• 12:58
  lot
• 12:58
  of
• 12:59
  times
• 12:59
  people
• 13:00
  don't
• 13:00
  recognize
• 13:01
  that
• 13:01
  there
• 13:01
  are
• 13:02
  supplements.
• 13:03
  Thyroxine,
• 13:04
  L
• 13:04
  Theanine,
• 13:06
  that
• 13:07
  rhodiola,
• 13:08
  which
• 13:08
  will
• 13:08
  really,
• 13:09
  actually
• 13:09
  help.
• 13:10
  And
• 13:10
  it
• 13:10
  works
• 13:11
  the
• 13:11
  same
• 13:11
  way
• 13:11
  as
• 13:12
  stimulants,
• 13:12
  just
• 13:13
  without
• 13:13
  it
• 13:13
  actually
• 13:13
  being
• 13:14
  a
• 13:14
  stimulus.
• 13:15
  Stimulant.
• 13:16
  You
• 13:16
  can
• 13:16
  treat
• 13:17
  it
• 13:17
  from
• 13:17
  a
• 13:17
  supplement
• 13:18
  route.
• 13:18
  Also
• 13:19
  diet,
• 13:19
  exercise,
• 13:20
  sleep,
• 13:21
  you
• 13:22
  know,
• 13:22
  fish
• 13:22
  oil,
• 13:23
  all
• 13:23
  those
• 13:23
  pieces.
• 13:25
  You
• 13:25
  can
• 13:26
  manage
• 13:26
  it
• 13:26
  in
• 13:26
  that
• 13:27
  way.
• 13:27
  And
• 13:27
  also
• 13:28
  therapy,
• 13:29
  utilizing
• 13:30
  coping
• 13:31
  tools
• 13:31
  and
• 13:31
  strategies
• 13:32
  of
• 13:33
  like,
• 13:33
  okay,
• 13:33
  how
• 13:33
  am
• 13:33
  I
• 13:34
  going
• 13:34
  to
• 13:34
  plan
• 13:34
  out
• 13:35
  my
• 13:35
  day
• 13:36
  to
• 13:37
  actually,
• 13:37
  I
• 13:38
  can
• 13:38
  do
• 13:38
  it
• 13:38
  and
• 13:39
  I
• 13:39
  can
• 13:39
  be
• 13:39
  productive
• 13:40
  and
• 13:40
  I
• 13:40
  can
• 13:40
  follow
• 13:41
  through.
• 13:41
  And
• 13:42
  you
• 13:42
  know
• 13:42
  what
• 13:42
  your
• 13:43
  roadblocks
• 13:44
  are
• 13:44
  like,
• 13:45
  here's
• 13:45
  where
• 13:45
  I
• 13:46
  struggle
• 13:46
  the
• 13:46
  most.
• 13:47
  So
• 13:47
  you
• 13:47
  have
• 13:48
  someone
• 13:48
  else
• 13:48
  kind
• 13:48
  of
• 13:49
  guiding
• 13:49
  you.
• 13:49
  Well,
• 13:49
  if
• 13:49
  you
• 13:50
  approach
• 13:50
  this
• 13:50
  this
• 13:51
  way
• 13:51
  or
• 13:51
  you
• 13:51
  do
• 13:52
  this
• 13:52
  this
• 13:52
  way,
• 13:53
  you'll
• 13:54
  be
• 13:54
  able
• 13:54
  to
• 13:54
  kind
• 13:54
  of
• 13:55
  go
• 13:55
  around
• 13:55
  that
• 13:55
  roadblock.
• 13:57
  Okay.
• 13:58
  And
• 13:58
  I
• 13:58
  love
• 13:58
  your.
• 14:00
  Your
• 14:00
  thought
• 14:00
  on
• 14:00
  treating
• 14:01
  it
• 14:01
  holistically,
• 14:02
  you
• 14:02
  know,
• 14:02
  using
• 14:02
  the
• 14:03
  supplements,
• 14:03
  doing
• 14:03
  the
• 14:04
  diet
• 14:04
  and
• 14:04
  exercise
• 14:05
  and,
• 14:05
  you
• 14:05
  know,
• 14:06
  doing
• 14:06
  what
• 14:06
  you
• 14:06
  need
• 14:06
  to
• 14:07
  do.
• 14:07
  It's.
• 14:07
  It's
• 14:07
  probably
• 14:08
  pretty
• 14:08
  individual,
• 14:09
  I
• 14:09
  would
• 14:09
  imagine,
• 14:10
  for
• 14:10
  each
• 14:11
  person.
• 14:12
  Yeah,
• 14:12
  it
• 14:12
  is
• 14:13
  completely
• 14:14
  individual.
• 14:15
  And
• 14:15
  I've
• 14:15
  always
• 14:17
  approached
• 14:18
  from,
• 14:18
  let's
• 14:19
  try
• 14:19
  everything
• 14:20
  else
• 14:20
  before
• 14:21
  going
• 14:21
  down
• 14:21
  the
• 14:21
  medication
• 14:22
  route.
• 14:23
  Not
• 14:24
  that
• 14:24
  there's
• 14:24
  anything
• 14:25
  wrong
• 14:25
  with
• 14:25
  medication
• 14:26
  at
• 14:26
  all.
• 14:27
  It's
• 14:27
  just
• 14:27
  a
• 14:28
  lot
• 14:28
  of
• 14:28
  times
• 14:29
  small
• 14:29
  changes
• 14:31
  can
• 14:31
  actually
• 14:31
  give
• 14:32
  you
• 14:32
  the
• 14:32
  same,
• 14:33
  like,
• 14:33
  benefits
• 14:34
  as
• 14:34
  medication.
• 14:35
  So
• 14:35
  why
• 14:35
  not
• 14:35
  kind
• 14:36
  of
• 14:36
  try
• 14:36
  those
• 14:36
  first
• 14:37
  before
• 14:38
  going
• 14:38
  down,
• 14:39
  like
• 14:39
  the
• 14:39
  medication
• 14:40
  route?
• 14:41
  Yes,
• 14:41
  yes,
• 14:41
  for
• 14:42
  sure.
• 14:42
  Now
• 14:42
  what
• 14:42
  happens
• 14:43
  if
• 14:43
  somebody
• 14:44
  doesn't,
• 14:44
  if
• 14:45
  they
• 14:45
  do
• 14:45
  have
• 14:45
  adhd,
• 14:46
  but
• 14:46
  they
• 14:46
  don't
• 14:46
  get
• 14:47
  treated?
• 14:47
  Like,
• 14:48
  does
• 14:48
  that
• 14:48
  start
• 14:48
  spiraling?
• 14:49
  Does
• 14:50
  that
• 14:50
  cause
• 14:50
  other
• 14:50
  problems
• 14:51
  later
• 14:51
  on?
• 14:52
  Absolutely.
• 14:53
  I
• 14:54
  mean,
• 14:54
  you
• 14:54
  know,
• 14:55
  if
• 14:55
  you
• 14:55
  don't
• 14:55
  treat
• 14:56
  it,
• 14:56
  nothing's
• 14:57
  going
• 14:57
  to
• 14:57
  change
• 14:58
  it
• 14:58
  for
• 14:59
  the
• 14:59
  better,
• 14:59
  but
• 14:59
  it
• 15:00
  will
• 15:00
  get
• 15:00
  worse.
• 15:01
  And
• 15:01
  that's
• 15:02
  the
• 15:02
  part
• 15:02
  where
• 15:02
  you're
• 15:03
  looking
• 15:03
  at
• 15:03
  it's
• 15:04
  going
• 15:04
  to
• 15:04
  start
• 15:04
  impacting
• 15:05
  relationships,
• 15:06
  it
• 15:06
  will
• 15:07
  impact
• 15:07
  your
• 15:08
  productivity
• 15:09
  at
• 15:09
  work.
• 15:10
  You
• 15:10
  know,
• 15:10
  it
• 15:11
  is
• 15:11
  going
• 15:12
  to
• 15:12
  affect
• 15:12
  your
• 15:13
  mental
• 15:13
  health.
• 15:13
  It's
• 15:14
  going
• 15:14
  to
• 15:14
  cause
• 15:14
  more
• 15:15
  anxiety
• 15:15
  and
• 15:15
  more
• 15:16
  depression.
• 15:17
  So
• 15:17
  if
• 15:17
  it's
• 15:17
  something
• 15:18
  that's
• 15:18
  going
• 15:19
  untreated,
• 15:20
  that
• 15:20
  whole
• 15:21
  idea
• 15:21
  of
• 15:21
  like,
• 15:21
  I'm
• 15:22
  just
• 15:22
  going
• 15:22
  to
• 15:22
  ignore
• 15:22
  it,
• 15:23
  like,
• 15:23
  no,
• 15:24
  it's
• 15:24
  going
• 15:24
  to
• 15:25
  just
• 15:25
  keep
• 15:25
  growing
• 15:26
  and
• 15:26
  it's
• 15:26
  going
• 15:26
  to
• 15:26
  impact
• 15:27
  every
• 15:27
  area
• 15:28
  of
• 15:29
  your
• 15:29
  life
• 15:29
  if
• 15:30
  you
• 15:30
  don't
• 15:30
  treat
• 15:30
  it.
• 15:31
  Absolutely.
• 15:32
  You
• 15:32
  know,
• 15:33
  I
• 15:33
  think
• 15:33
  a
• 15:33
  lot
• 15:33
  of
• 15:33
  us,
• 15:34
  I
• 15:34
  mean,
• 15:34
  and
• 15:34
  I'm
• 15:35
  including
• 15:35
  myself
• 15:35
  in
• 15:36
  this
• 15:36
  group,
• 15:37
  you
• 15:37
  know,
• 15:37
  sometimes
• 15:38
  we
• 15:38
  self
• 15:38
  medicate
• 15:39
  with
• 15:39
  a
• 15:39
  cocktail
• 15:40
  or
• 15:40
  glass
• 15:40
  of
• 15:41
  wine
• 15:41
  at
• 15:41
  the
• 15:41
  end
• 15:41
  of
• 15:41
  the
• 15:41
  night,
• 15:42
  you
• 15:42
  know,
• 15:42
  because
• 15:42
  it
• 15:43
  feels
• 15:43
  like
• 15:44
  you're
• 15:44
  a
• 15:44
  little
• 15:44
  bit,
• 15:44
  you
• 15:45
  know,
• 15:45
  you're
• 15:45
  relaxing
• 15:46
  and
• 15:46
  kind
• 15:46
  of
• 15:46
  letting
• 15:47
  go
• 15:47
  of
• 15:47
  the
• 15:47
  day.
• 15:48
  But
• 15:49
  so
• 15:49
  how
• 15:50
  does
• 15:50
  that
• 15:50
  figure
• 15:51
  in
• 15:51
  to
• 15:52
  somebody
• 15:52
  that
• 15:52
  might
• 15:52
  be
• 15:53
  dealing
• 15:53
  with
• 15:53
  these
• 15:54
  issues
• 15:54
  of
• 15:54
  like
• 15:55
  ADHD
• 15:55
  and
• 15:56
  anxiety,
• 15:56
  you
• 15:57
  know,
• 15:57
  is
• 15:57
  it
• 15:57
  actually
• 15:58
  helping
• 15:58
  us?
• 15:59
  It
• 16:00
  is
• 16:00
  not.
• 16:01
  I
• 16:01
  mean,
• 16:01
  that's
• 16:01
  one
• 16:02
  of
• 16:02
  the
• 16:02
  things
• 16:02
  when
• 16:02
  you
• 16:03
  look
• 16:03
  at
• 16:04
  alcohol
• 16:04
  and
• 16:05
  the
• 16:05
  food
• 16:05
  effects
• 16:06
  that
• 16:06
  it
• 16:06
  has,
• 16:06
  and
• 16:06
  especially
• 16:07
  on
• 16:07
  women.
• 16:08
  And
• 16:08
  this
• 16:08
  is
• 16:09
  one
• 16:09
  of
• 16:09
  the
• 16:09
  things
• 16:09
  that
• 16:09
  a
• 16:10
  lot
• 16:10
  of
• 16:10
  people
• 16:10
  don't
• 16:11
  either
• 16:12
  know.
• 16:12
  But
• 16:13
  when
• 16:13
  you
• 16:14
  hit
• 16:14
  40,
• 16:16
  alcohol
• 16:16
  affects
• 16:17
  the
• 16:17
  body
• 16:18
  so
• 16:19
  differently
• 16:20
  than
• 16:20
  when
• 16:20
  you're
• 16:21
  in
• 16:21
  your
• 16:21
  30s
• 16:22
  or
• 16:22
  20s.
• 16:22
  And
• 16:22
  for
• 16:23
  women,
• 16:23
  especially
• 16:24
  if
• 16:24
  you're
• 16:25
  going
• 16:25
  through
• 16:25
  perimenopause,
• 16:27
  alcohol
• 16:27
  only
• 16:28
  makes
• 16:28
  it
• 16:28
  worse.
• 16:29
  So
• 16:30
  you
• 16:30
  are
• 16:31
  changing
• 16:32
  the
• 16:32
  chemicals
• 16:32
  kind
• 16:33
  of
• 16:33
  in
• 16:33
  the
• 16:33
  brain.
• 16:33
  You're
• 16:34
  putting
• 16:34
  in
• 16:35
  pretty
• 16:35
  much
• 16:35
  a
• 16:35
  poison.
• 16:36
  Whether
• 16:36
  it's
• 16:37
  one
• 16:37
  or
• 16:38
  five
• 16:38
  drinks,
• 16:39
  you
• 16:39
  know,
• 16:40
  you're
• 16:40
  putting
• 16:40
  in
• 16:41
  like
• 16:42
  poison
• 16:42
  and
• 16:43
  body
• 16:43
  and
• 16:43
  it
• 16:43
  actually
• 16:44
  causes
• 16:44
  more
• 16:45
  inflammation.
• 16:46
  It
• 16:46
  is
• 16:46
  going
• 16:46
  to
• 16:47
  highlight
• 16:48
  more
• 16:48
  symptoms
• 16:49
  of
• 16:49
  adhd.
• 16:50
  It's
• 16:51
  going
• 16:51
  to
• 16:51
  cause
• 16:52
  more
• 16:52
  stress,
• 16:53
  mental
• 16:54
  fog.
• 16:56
  The
• 16:56
  inflammation
• 16:57
  in
• 16:57
  the
• 16:57
  body
• 16:58
  gets
• 16:58
  worse
• 16:59
  with
• 16:59
  that,
• 16:59
  it
• 17:00
  does
• 17:00
  impact
• 17:01
  your
• 17:01
  sleep.
• 17:02
  A
• 17:02
  lot
• 17:02
  of
• 17:02
  times
• 17:03
  people
• 17:04
  will
• 17:04
  utilize
• 17:05
  alcohol
• 17:05
  at
• 17:05
  the
• 17:05
  end
• 17:06
  of
• 17:06
  the
• 17:06
  night
• 17:06
  as
• 17:06
  a
• 17:07
  coping
• 17:07
  strategy
• 17:08
  or
• 17:08
  to
• 17:08
  unwind
• 17:09
  or
• 17:10
  able
• 17:10
  to
• 17:11
  sleep
• 17:11
  better,
• 17:12
  but
• 17:12
  it
• 17:12
  actually
• 17:13
  impairs
• 17:14
  sleep
• 17:15
  and
• 17:15
  then
• 17:15
  it
• 17:16
  can.
• 17:16
  The
• 17:17
  next
• 17:17
  morning
• 17:18
  it's
• 17:18
  like
• 17:18
  24
• 17:19
  hours
• 17:19
  after
• 17:20
  you
• 17:20
  can
• 17:20
  have
• 17:20
  this
• 17:21
  rebound
• 17:21
  anxiety.
• 17:22
  So
• 17:22
  it
• 17:23
  heightens
• 17:23
  anxiety.
• 17:24
  And
• 17:24
  then
• 17:25
  when
• 17:25
  you're
• 17:25
  looking
• 17:25
  at
• 17:25
  it,
• 17:25
  alcohol
• 17:26
  is
• 17:26
  a
• 17:26
  depressant.
• 17:27
  And
• 17:27
  so
• 17:28
  it
• 17:28
  is
• 17:28
  going
• 17:28
  to
• 17:29
  depress
• 17:30
  certain
• 17:30
  parts
• 17:31
  of
• 17:31
  the
• 17:31
  brain.
• 17:31
  And
• 17:31
  so
• 17:32
  it
• 17:32
  highlights
• 17:32
  and
• 17:32
  makes
• 17:33
  all
• 17:33
  those
• 17:33
  symptoms
• 17:34
  actually
• 17:34
  worse
• 17:36
  when
• 17:36
  it's
• 17:36
  being
• 17:37
  utilized
• 17:37
  a
• 17:37
  lot
• 17:38
  of
• 17:38
  times
• 17:38
  to
• 17:39
  try
• 17:40
  to
• 17:40
  numb
• 17:41
  out
• 17:41
  those
• 17:41
  symptoms
• 17:42
  or
• 17:42
  to
• 17:42
  be
• 17:42
  able
• 17:43
  to
• 17:43
  relax.
• 17:44
  And
• 17:44
  so
• 17:44
  it's
• 17:45
  like
• 17:45
  this
• 17:45
  double
• 17:45
  edged
• 17:46
  sword
• 17:46
  because
• 17:46
  in
• 17:46
  the
• 17:47
  moment,
• 17:47
  yes,
• 17:48
  it
• 17:48
  works.
• 17:49
  That's
• 17:49
  the
• 17:49
  part
• 17:49
  like
• 17:50
  it
• 17:50
  is
• 17:50
  going
• 17:51
  to
• 17:51
  calm
• 17:51
  you
• 17:52
  or
• 17:52
  numb
• 17:52
  out
• 17:53
  stress
• 17:53
  or
• 17:53
  anxiety
• 17:54
  or
• 17:55
  help
• 17:55
  you
• 17:55
  unwind
• 17:57
  and
• 17:57
  there's
• 17:58
  that
• 17:58
  kind
• 17:58
  of
• 17:58
  instant
• 17:59
  gratification.
• 17:59
  But
• 18:00
  afterwards
• 18:01
  that's
• 18:02
  when
• 18:02
  you're
• 18:02
  going
• 18:02
  to
• 18:03
  kind
• 18:03
  of
• 18:03
  notice
• 18:03
  like
• 18:04
  all
• 18:04
  these
• 18:04
  other
• 18:04
  symptoms
• 18:05
  where
• 18:05
  you
• 18:05
  have
• 18:06
  to
• 18:06
  look
• 18:06
  and
• 18:06
  say,
• 18:06
  okay,
• 18:07
  is
• 18:07
  that
• 18:07
  drink
• 18:08
  that
• 18:08
  helped
• 18:08
  me
• 18:08
  unwind
• 18:09
  the
• 18:09
  night
• 18:09
  before
• 18:10
  actually
• 18:11
  worth
• 18:12
  me
• 18:12
  having
• 18:13
  more
• 18:13
  mental
• 18:14
  fog
• 18:14
  and
• 18:14
  some
• 18:14
  inflammation
• 18:15
  and
• 18:16
  sleep
• 18:16
  issues
• 18:16
  and
• 18:17
  heightened
• 18:17
  levels
• 18:18
  of
• 18:18
  anxiety
• 18:19
  and
• 18:19
  depression
• 18:19
  the
• 18:20
  next
• 18:20
  day.
• 18:21
  Used
• 18:21
  in
• 18:22
  small
• 18:23
  doses
• 18:24
  like
• 18:25
  THC
• 18:26
  gummies
• 18:26
  that
• 18:26
  have
• 18:27
  a
• 18:27
  mix
• 18:27
  of
• 18:27
  CBD
• 18:28
  with
• 18:29
  or
• 18:29
  the
• 18:30
  indica
• 18:31
  aspect,
• 18:32
  you
• 18:32
  know
• 18:32
  of
• 18:33
  th
• 18:33
  where
• 18:33
  it
• 18:34
  is
• 18:34
  kind
• 18:34
  of
• 18:34
  calming,
• 18:35
  I
• 18:35
  think
• 18:35
  those
• 18:36
  once
• 18:36
  in
• 18:36
  a
• 18:37
  while
• 18:37
  can
• 18:37
  be
• 18:38
  helpful.
• 18:39
  You
• 18:39
  know
• 18:39
  it
• 18:40
  really.
• 18:40
  And
• 18:41
  when
• 18:41
  you're
• 18:41
  weighing
• 18:41
  out
• 18:42
  the
• 18:42
  two,
• 18:42
  it's
• 18:43
  definitely
• 18:43
  like
• 18:44
  a
• 18:44
  CBD
• 18:45
  low
• 18:45
  THC
• 18:46
  gummy
• 18:46
  is
• 18:47
  going
• 18:47
  to
• 18:47
  be
• 18:47
  healthier
• 18:48
  than
• 18:49
  alcohol.
• 18:50
  But
• 18:50
  at
• 18:51
  the
• 18:51
  same
• 18:51
  time
• 18:51
  it's
• 18:52
  looking
• 18:52
  at
• 18:53
  if
• 18:53
  you
• 18:53
  use
• 18:53
  too
• 18:54
  much
• 18:54
  of
• 18:54
  that,
• 18:54
  that's
• 18:55
  going
• 18:55
  to
• 18:55
  create
• 18:55
  a
• 18:56
  negative
• 18:56
  piece
• 18:57
  too.
• 18:57
  So
• 18:58
  it's
• 18:58
  kind
• 18:58
  of
• 18:58
  like
• 18:58
  weighing
• 18:59
  out
• 19:00
  what
• 19:00
  is
• 19:00
  actually
• 19:01
  healthy
• 19:01
  for
• 19:01
  the
• 19:02
  brain
• 19:02
  and
• 19:02
  the
• 19:03
  body.
• 19:03
  What
• 19:04
  is
• 19:04
  your
• 19:05
  personal
• 19:05
  relationship
• 19:06
  with
• 19:06
  alcohol?
• 19:07
  Are
• 19:07
  you.
• 19:08
  Do
• 19:08
  you
• 19:08
  indulge,
• 19:09
  do
• 19:09
  you
• 19:09
  not?
• 19:10
  How
• 19:10
  do
• 19:10
  you
• 19:10
  feel
• 19:11
  about
• 19:11
  it?
• 19:11
  I
• 19:12
  don't.
• 19:12
  I
• 19:13
  made
• 19:13
  a
• 19:13
  decision
• 19:14
  long
• 19:14
  time
• 19:15
  ago
• 19:15
  that
• 19:16
  I
• 19:16
  didn't
• 19:16
  want
• 19:17
  alcohol
• 19:17
  to
• 19:17
  be
• 19:17
  a
• 19:18
  part
• 19:18
  of
• 19:18
  my
• 19:18
  life.
• 19:19
  For
• 19:19
  me
• 19:19
  it
• 19:20
  was
• 19:20
  the
• 19:20
  part
• 19:20
  of
• 19:20
  knowing
• 19:22
  having
• 19:22
  ADHD
• 19:23
  you
• 19:23
  can
• 19:24
  develop
• 19:24
  addictions
• 19:25
  a
• 19:25
  lot
• 19:25
  quicker.
• 19:26
  And
• 19:26
  that
• 19:27
  hyper
• 19:27
  fixation
• 19:27
  and
• 19:28
  knowing
• 19:28
  for
• 19:29
  me
• 19:29
  like
• 19:30
  alcohol
• 19:30
  probably
• 19:31
  would
• 19:31
  not
• 19:31
  be
• 19:31
  good
• 19:32
  and
• 19:32
  well,
• 19:32
  I
• 19:33
  made
• 19:33
  that
• 19:33
  decision
• 19:34
  a
• 19:34
  long
• 19:34
  time
• 19:34
  ago
• 19:35
  that
• 19:35
  it
• 19:35
  wouldn't
• 19:35
  be
• 19:36
  a
• 19:36
  part
• 19:36
  of
• 19:36
  my
• 19:36
  life.
• 19:37
  And
• 19:38
  I'm
• 19:38
  thankful
• 19:38
  I
• 19:39
  did
• 19:39
  because
• 19:39
  honestly,
• 19:40
  like
• 19:40
  I
• 19:40
  said
• 19:41
  the
• 19:41
  last
• 19:41
  six
• 19:41
  months
• 19:42
  of
• 19:42
  before
• 19:43
  the
• 19:43
  last
• 19:45
  start
• 19:46
  HRT
• 19:47
  therapy
• 19:48
  and
• 19:49
  like
• 19:49
  if
• 19:50
  I
• 19:50
  did
• 19:51
  drink,
• 19:51
  oh
• 19:52
  dear
• 19:52
  God,
• 19:53
  I
• 19:53
  probably
• 19:54
  would
• 19:54
  have
• 19:55
  seen
• 19:55
  patients
• 19:56
  and
• 19:56
  then
• 19:56
  went
• 19:56
  home
• 19:57
  and
• 19:57
  been
• 19:57
  like,
• 19:57
  okay,
• 19:58
  like
• 19:59
  how
• 20:00
  many
• 20:00
  bottles
• 20:00
  are
• 20:01
  we
• 20:01
  going
• 20:01
  through
• 20:01
  tonight?
• 20:02
  Because
• 20:03
  what
• 20:04
  for
• 20:05
  me
• 20:05
  it's
• 20:05
  just
• 20:06
  been
• 20:06
  something
• 20:06
  I
• 20:07
  chose
• 20:07
  to
• 20:07
  not
• 20:08
  have
• 20:08
  be
• 20:09
  my
• 20:10
  life.
• 20:11
  But
• 20:11
  I
• 20:12
  have
• 20:12
  a
• 20:12
  lot
• 20:12
  of
• 20:13
  friends
• 20:13
  and
• 20:14
  family
• 20:14
  who
• 20:14
  it
• 20:14
  is
• 20:15
  a
• 20:15
  part
• 20:15
  of
• 20:15
  their
• 20:15
  life
• 20:16
  and
• 20:16
  to
• 20:16
  each
• 20:17
  their.
• 20:17
  Own
• 20:18
  and
• 20:18
  I,
• 20:18
  too,
• 20:19
  have
• 20:19
  been
• 20:19
  guilty
• 20:19
  of
• 20:20
  thinking
• 20:21
  that,
• 20:21
  you
• 20:21
  know,
• 20:22
  if
• 20:22
  I
• 20:22
  do
• 20:22
  something
• 20:23
  that's
• 20:23
  different
• 20:23
  or
• 20:24
  out
• 20:24
  of
• 20:24
  turn,
• 20:26
  people
• 20:26
  are
• 20:26
  going
• 20:26
  to
• 20:26
  be
• 20:26
  like,
• 20:27
  oh,
• 20:27
  my
• 20:27
  God,
• 20:27
  what
• 20:27
  is
• 20:27
  she
• 20:28
  doing?
• 20:28
  You
• 20:28
  know,
• 20:28
  like,
• 20:29
  focused
• 20:29
  in
• 20:29
  on
• 20:30
  me.
• 20:30
  When
• 20:30
  the
• 20:30
  truth
• 20:31
  of
• 20:31
  the
• 20:31
  matter
• 20:31
  is,
• 20:32
  I
• 20:32
  feel
• 20:32
  like
• 20:32
  most
• 20:32
  of
• 20:32
  the
• 20:33
  time
• 20:33
  people
• 20:33
  are
• 20:33
  focused
• 20:34
  on
• 20:34
  themselves.
• 20:35
  Like,
• 20:35
  they're
• 20:35
  not
• 20:35
  even
• 20:36
  thinking
• 20:36
  about
• 20:36
  what
• 20:37
  you're
• 20:37
  doing
• 20:37
  or
• 20:37
  not
• 20:38
  doing.
• 20:38
  And
• 20:38
  I
• 20:39
  think
• 20:39
  that
• 20:39
  actually
• 20:40
  that
• 20:40
  thought
• 20:41
  holds
• 20:41
  a
• 20:41
  lot
• 20:41
  of
• 20:41
  women
• 20:42
  back.
• 20:43
  Absolutely.
• 20:43
  I
• 20:44
  mean,
• 20:44
  for
• 20:44
  the
• 20:44
  most
• 20:44
  part,
• 20:45
  no
• 20:45
  one
• 20:45
  cares.
• 20:47
  Like,
• 20:47
  we're
• 20:48
  in
• 20:48
  midlife.
• 20:49
  Like,
• 20:49
  any
• 20:50
  woman
• 20:50
  that
• 20:51
  is
• 20:51
  in
• 20:51
  midlife
• 20:52
  is
• 20:52
  usually
• 20:52
  going
• 20:53
  through
• 20:53
  this,
• 20:54
  like,
• 20:54
  overwhelming
• 20:55
  kind
• 20:56
  of
• 20:56
  piece
• 20:56
  of,
• 20:57
  like,
• 20:57
  what
• 20:57
  is
• 20:57
  happening
• 20:58
  in
• 20:58
  my
• 20:58
  body.
• 20:59
  Like,
• 21:00
  they're
• 21:00
  not
• 21:00
  going
• 21:00
  to
• 21:01
  care
• 21:01
  if
• 21:02
  their
• 21:02
  best
• 21:02
  friend
• 21:03
  or
• 21:03
  someone
• 21:03
  else
• 21:04
  at
• 21:04
  the
• 21:04
  table
• 21:04
  is
• 21:05
  not
• 21:05
  drinking.
• 21:06
  That's
• 21:06
  just
• 21:07
  the
• 21:07
  piece.
• 21:07
  Like,
• 21:07
  we're
• 21:07
  not
• 21:08
  in
• 21:08
  college,
• 21:09
  we're
• 21:09
  not
• 21:09
  in
• 21:09
  our
• 21:09
  20s,
• 21:10
  or
• 21:11
  whatever,
• 21:11
  where
• 21:11
  it's
• 21:12
  like,
• 21:12
  if
• 21:12
  you're
• 21:13
  not
• 21:13
  drinking,
• 21:13
  like,
• 21:14
  what's
• 21:14
  wrong
• 21:14
  with
• 21:15
  you?
• 21:15
  Like,
• 21:16
  for
• 21:16
  the
• 21:16
  most
• 21:16
  part,
• 21:17
  people
• 21:17
  just
• 21:17
  don't
• 21:18
  care.
• 21:19
  Yeah,
• 21:19
  it's
• 21:19
  true.
• 21:20
  Although
• 21:20
  in
• 21:20
  my
• 21:20
  brain,
• 21:21
  I'm
• 21:21
  still
• 21:21
  dancing
• 21:22
  on
• 21:22
  tabletops
• 21:23
  from
• 21:23
  college.
• 21:25
  Absolutely.
• 21:26
  My
• 21:26
  body
• 21:26
  still
• 21:27
  thinks.
• 21:28
  Well,
• 21:29
  part
• 21:29
  of
• 21:29
  it.
• 21:30
  My
• 21:30
  brain
• 21:31
  thinks
• 21:31
  like,
• 21:31
  oh,
• 21:32
  my
• 21:32
  God,
• 21:32
  I'm
• 21:32
  still
• 21:32
  in
• 21:33
  my
• 21:33
  twenties.
• 21:34
  I
• 21:34
  love
• 21:34
  this
• 21:34
  idea,
• 21:35
  too,
• 21:35
  of,
• 21:35
  like,
• 21:35
  neuroplasticity,
• 21:37
  because
• 21:37
  I
• 21:37
  feel
• 21:37
  like
• 21:38
  we
• 21:39
  can
• 21:39
  still
• 21:40
  change
• 21:40
  the
• 21:40
  way
• 21:41
  we
• 21:41
  think,
• 21:41
  you
• 21:41
  know,
• 21:42
  And
• 21:42
  I
• 21:42
  think
• 21:42
  that
• 21:42
  that
• 21:42
  is
• 21:42
  so
• 21:43
  powerful.
• 21:43
  That's
• 21:43
  like
• 21:44
  a
• 21:44
  tool
• 21:45
  that's
• 21:45
  control
• 21:46
  that
• 21:46
  we
• 21:46
  have
• 21:46
  and
• 21:47
  power
• 21:47
  that
• 21:47
  we
• 21:47
  have,
• 21:48
  you
• 21:48
  know,
• 21:48
  over
• 21:49
  ourselves,
• 21:49
  over
• 21:50
  our
• 21:50
  choices.
• 21:51
  And
• 21:51
  I
• 21:51
  feel
• 21:51
  like,
• 21:52
  you
• 21:52
  know,
• 21:52
  so
• 21:52
  many
• 21:52
  women
• 21:53
  at
• 21:53
  this
• 21:53
  time
• 21:53
  feel
• 21:54
  powerless.
• 21:54
  That
• 21:55
  that
• 21:55
  is
• 21:55
  actually
• 21:56
  something
• 21:57
  that
• 21:57
  is
• 21:57
  huge
• 21:58
  for
• 21:58
  us,
• 21:58
  is
• 21:58
  to
• 21:59
  be
• 21:59
  able
• 21:59
  to
• 21:59
  change
• 21:59
  the
• 21:59
  way
• 21:59
  we
• 22:00
  think.
• 22:01
  Absolutely.
• 22:02
  And
• 22:02
  it's
• 22:03
  so
• 22:04
  easy
• 22:04
  to
• 22:04
  do.
• 22:05
  I
• 22:05
  mean,
• 22:05
  that's
• 22:06
  the
• 22:06
  part
• 22:06
  of,
• 22:07
  like,
• 22:07
  kind
• 22:08
  of
• 22:08
  rewiring
• 22:09
  your
• 22:09
  brain
• 22:09
  to
• 22:10
  think
• 22:10
  in
• 22:10
  a
• 22:10
  different
• 22:11
  way.
• 22:11
  And
• 22:11
  that
• 22:11
  comes
• 22:12
  through
• 22:12
  doing
• 22:13
  things
• 22:13
  differently,
• 22:14
  making
• 22:14
  different
• 22:14
  choices
• 22:15
  and
• 22:15
  actions
• 22:16
  and
• 22:17
  really
• 22:17
  being
• 22:18
  mindful.
• 22:18
  And
• 22:19
  in
• 22:19
  ed,
• 22:20
  you
• 22:20
  can
• 22:20
  approach
• 22:21
  things
• 22:21
  from
• 22:22
  a
• 22:22
  negative
• 22:22
  viewpoint,
• 22:23
  or
• 22:23
  you
• 22:23
  can
• 22:23
  approach
• 22:24
  things
• 22:24
  from
• 22:24
  a
• 22:24
  positive.
• 22:25
  You
• 22:25
  can
• 22:25
  go
• 22:25
  from
• 22:26
  ungrateful
• 22:26
  or
• 22:27
  to
• 22:27
  full
• 22:27
  gratitude.
• 22:28
  And
• 22:29
  you
• 22:29
  have
• 22:29
  the
• 22:29
  ability
• 22:30
  to,
• 22:30
  like,
• 22:31
  rewire
• 22:32
  and
• 22:32
  change
• 22:33
  the
• 22:33
  way
• 22:33
  that
• 22:34
  you
• 22:34
  think
• 22:34
  and
• 22:34
  the
• 22:34
  way
• 22:35
  that
• 22:35
  you
• 22:35
  act.
• 22:35
  And
• 22:36
  it
• 22:36
  just
• 22:36
  comes
• 22:36
  down
• 22:37
  to,
• 22:37
  like,
• 22:37
  small,
• 22:38
  simple
• 22:38
  steps
• 22:39
  to
• 22:39
  do
• 22:39
  that.
• 22:40
  So
• 22:41
  what
• 22:41
  are
• 22:41
  those
• 22:41
  steps?
• 22:42
  Like,
• 22:42
  what
• 22:43
  do
• 22:43
  you
• 22:43
  say
• 22:43
  to
• 22:43
  the
• 22:43
  woman
• 22:44
  who's
• 22:44
  listening,
• 22:44
  who
• 22:45
  feels
• 22:45
  stuck,
• 22:46
  you
• 22:46
  know,
• 22:46
  like,
• 22:46
  feels
• 22:47
  like,
• 22:47
  oh,
• 22:47
  my
• 22:47
  gosh,
• 22:48
  I
• 22:48
  want
• 22:48
  to
• 22:48
  make
• 22:48
  a
• 22:48
  change.
• 22:48
  I
• 22:49
  want
• 22:49
  to
• 22:49
  do
• 22:49
  something
• 22:49
  different,
• 22:51
  but,
• 22:51
  you
• 22:52
  know,
• 22:52
  I
• 22:52
  feel
• 22:52
  like
• 22:52
  I'm
• 22:53
  lost
• 22:53
  a
• 22:53
  bit.
• 22:54
  What
• 22:54
  do
• 22:54
  you
• 22:54
  say?
• 22:54
  To
• 22:55
  her.
• 22:55
  Step
• 22:56
  one,
• 22:57
  Make
• 22:57
  a
• 22:57
  list.
• 22:58
  What
• 22:58
  is
• 22:59
  it
• 22:59
  that
• 22:59
  you
• 22:59
  feel
• 23:00
  that
• 23:00
  you
• 23:00
  need
• 23:00
  to
• 23:01
  change?
• 23:02
  Like
• 23:02
  if
• 23:02
  it's
• 23:03
  drinking,
• 23:03
  you
• 23:04
  know,
• 23:04
  say
• 23:04
  like
• 23:05
  and
• 23:05
  you're
• 23:05
  like
• 23:05
  should
• 23:06
  I
• 23:06
  drink?
• 23:06
  Should
• 23:07
  I
• 23:07
  not?
• 23:07
  Like
• 23:08
  you're
• 23:08
  kind
• 23:08
  of
• 23:08
  in
• 23:09
  what
• 23:09
  I
• 23:09
  call
• 23:09
  like
• 23:09
  the
• 23:09
  gray
• 23:10
  area.
• 23:11
  Like
• 23:11
  I
• 23:12
  know
• 23:12
  I'm
• 23:12
  not
• 23:13
  an
• 23:13
  alcoholic,
• 23:13
  I
• 23:14
  don't
• 23:14
  think
• 23:14
  I
• 23:15
  have
• 23:15
  a
• 23:15
  problem,
• 23:15
  but
• 23:16
  maybe
• 23:16
  I
• 23:16
  have
• 23:16
  a
• 23:17
  bit
• 23:17
  of
• 23:17
  a
• 23:17
  problem
• 23:17
  or
• 23:18
  I'm
• 23:18
  over
• 23:18
  indulging.
• 23:19
  And
• 23:20
  so
• 23:20
  you
• 23:20
  just
• 23:20
  make
• 23:21
  a
• 23:21
  list.
• 23:21
  What
• 23:22
  are
• 23:22
  the
• 23:23
  aspects
• 23:23
  that
• 23:23
  you
• 23:23
  think
• 23:24
  you
• 23:24
  probably
• 23:25
  need
• 23:25
  to
• 23:26
  work
• 23:26
  on
• 23:26
  or
• 23:26
  change?
• 23:27
  And
• 23:28
  then
• 23:28
  it
• 23:28
  is
• 23:28
  looking
• 23:29
  at
• 23:30
  what
• 23:30
  are
• 23:30
  your
• 23:31
  thoughts
• 23:31
  around
• 23:32
  that?
• 23:33
  Good,
• 23:34
  bad,
• 23:34
  indifferent.
• 23:35
  Like
• 23:35
  what
• 23:35
  is
• 23:36
  keeping
• 23:36
  you
• 23:36
  and
• 23:37
  holding
• 23:37
  you
• 23:37
  back
• 23:38
  from
• 23:39
  making
• 23:39
  those
• 23:39
  changes?
• 23:40
  Like,
• 23:41
  is
• 23:41
  it
• 23:41
  fear?
• 23:42
  Is
• 23:42
  it
• 23:42
  the
• 23:43
  part
• 23:43
  of
• 23:43
  like
• 23:44
  women
• 23:44
  in
• 23:44
  general,
• 23:45
  like
• 23:46
  kind
• 23:46
  of
• 23:47
  shoulder
• 23:47
  more
• 23:48
  of
• 23:48
  the
• 23:48
  emotional
• 23:49
  labor
• 23:50
  mental
• 23:51
  load
• 23:51
  and
• 23:52
  like
• 23:52
  the
• 23:52
  physical
• 23:53
  task
• 23:54
  of
• 23:54
  kind
• 23:54
  of
• 23:54
  the
• 23:54
  household.
• 23:55
  And
• 23:55
  then
• 23:56
  high
• 23:56
  functioning
• 23:57
  women
• 23:57
  that
• 23:58
  are
• 23:58
  maybe
• 23:59
  also
• 23:59
  working
• 24:00
  have
• 24:00
  so
• 24:00
  many
• 24:01
  external
• 24:02
  commitments
• 24:02
  that
• 24:02
  they
• 24:03
  prioritize
• 24:04
  over
• 24:04
  their
• 24:04
  own
• 24:04
  self
• 24:05
  care
• 24:05
  and
• 24:06
  emotional
• 24:06
  well
• 24:07
  being.
• 24:07
  And
• 24:08
  so
• 24:08
  you
• 24:08
  I
• 24:09
  tell
• 24:09
  everyone
• 24:09
  look
• 24:09
  at
• 24:10
  that
• 24:10
  list
• 24:10
  and
• 24:11
  be
• 24:11
  like
• 24:11
  what
• 24:11
  is
• 24:12
  keeping
• 24:12
  me
• 24:13
  from
• 24:13
  making
• 24:13
  these
• 24:14
  changes?
• 24:15
  And
• 24:15
  then
• 24:16
  like
• 24:16
  I
• 24:16
  had
• 24:17
  talked
• 24:17
  about
• 24:17
  before
• 24:17
  that
• 24:18
  journal
• 24:18
  aspect
• 24:19
  of
• 24:20
  when
• 24:20
  you
• 24:20
  start
• 24:20
  making
• 24:21
  those
• 24:21
  changes
• 24:22
  and
• 24:22
  it's
• 24:22
  small
• 24:22
  steps.
• 24:23
  Look
• 24:23
  at
• 24:24
  like
• 24:24
  if
• 24:24
  I
• 24:24
  remove
• 24:25
  alcohol
• 24:26
  from
• 24:26
  here,
• 24:27
  you
• 24:28
  know,
• 24:28
  over
• 24:29
  the
• 24:29
  weekend
• 24:30
  or
• 24:31
  nothing
• 24:31
  through
• 24:31
  the
• 24:32
  week,
• 24:32
  how
• 24:32
  do
• 24:32
  I
• 24:33
  feel?
• 24:33
  And
• 24:33
  you
• 24:34
  start
• 24:34
  just
• 24:34
  implementing
• 24:35
  kind
• 24:36
  of
• 24:36
  small
• 24:36
  changes.
• 24:37
  But
• 24:37
  when
• 24:38
  you're
• 24:38
  stuck,
• 24:38
  a
• 24:39
  lot
• 24:39
  of
• 24:39
  times
• 24:39
  it's
• 24:40
  because
• 24:40
  we
• 24:40
  get
• 24:40
  overwhelmed
• 24:42
  with
• 24:42
  knowing
• 24:43
  what
• 24:43
  is
• 24:43
  that
• 24:44
  first
• 24:44
  step,
• 24:45
  what
• 24:45
  to
• 24:45
  do
• 24:46
  when
• 24:46
  there's
• 24:47
  all
• 24:47
  these
• 24:47
  other
• 24:48
  aspects
• 24:48
  of
• 24:48
  life
• 24:49
  that
• 24:49
  maybe
• 24:49
  feel
• 24:50
  so
• 24:50
  like
• 24:50
  overwhelming
• 24:51
  or,
• 24:52
  or
• 24:52
  kind
• 24:52
  of
• 24:52
  out
• 24:53
  of
• 24:53
  control.
• 24:53
  And
• 24:53
  it's
• 24:54
  making
• 24:54
  these
• 24:54
  small
• 24:56
  steps
• 24:56
  and
• 24:56
  really
• 24:57
  looking
• 24:57
  at
• 24:58
  if
• 24:58
  I
• 24:58
  think
• 24:59
  I
• 24:59
  kind
• 24:59
  of
• 24:59
  have
• 24:59
  a
• 25:00
  problem
• 25:00
  or
• 25:00
  I'm
• 25:00
  having
• 25:01
  some
• 25:01
  type
• 25:01
  of
• 25:02
  internal
• 25:02
  doubt
• 25:04
  questioning
• 25:04
  that.
• 25:05
  And
• 25:05
  when
• 25:05
  it's
• 25:06
  like
• 25:06
  the
• 25:07
  alcohol
• 25:07
  I
• 25:07
  always
• 25:08
  look
• 25:08
  at
• 25:09
  are
• 25:09
  you
• 25:09
  breaking
• 25:10
  the
• 25:10
  one
• 25:10
  more
• 25:11
  philosophy
• 25:12
  and
• 25:13
  breaking
• 25:14
  rules
• 25:14
  that
• 25:15
  you've
• 25:15
  set
• 25:15
  for
• 25:15
  yourself?
• 25:16
  So
• 25:16
  that
• 25:16
  looks
• 25:17
  like
• 25:17
  you're
• 25:17
  going
• 25:18
  out
• 25:18
  and
• 25:18
  saying,
• 25:19
  you
• 25:19
  know,
• 25:19
  I'm
• 25:19
  not
• 25:19
  drinking
• 25:20
  this
• 25:20
  weekend
• 25:21
  and
• 25:21
  you
• 25:21
  end
• 25:21
  up
• 25:21
  drinking
• 25:22
  or
• 25:23
  I'm
• 25:23
  only
• 25:23
  going
• 25:24
  to
• 25:24
  have
• 25:24
  two.
• 25:25
  And
• 25:25
  then
• 25:25
  there's
• 25:25
  that
• 25:26
  one
• 25:26
  more
• 25:26
  philosophy
• 25:27
  of
• 25:27
  like
• 25:28
  well
• 25:28
  just
• 25:29
  one
• 25:29
  more.
• 25:29
  I'll
• 25:29
  just
• 25:30
  one
• 25:31
  more.
• 25:31
  And
• 25:32
  so
• 25:32
  you
• 25:32
  start
• 25:32
  looking
• 25:33
  at
• 25:34
  am
• 25:34
  I
• 25:34
  breaking
• 25:35
  these
• 25:35
  rules?
• 25:36
  Am
• 25:36
  I
• 25:36
  breaking
• 25:37
  the
• 25:37
  one
• 25:37
  more
• 25:37
  philosophy?
• 25:38
  And
• 25:38
  do
• 25:38
  I
• 25:38
  have
• 25:39
  some
• 25:39
  type
• 25:39
  of
• 25:40
  internal
• 25:40
  doubt
• 25:41
  where
• 25:42
  I'm
• 25:42
  questioning
• 25:43
  do
• 25:43
  I
• 25:44
  need
• 25:44
  to
• 25:44
  stop
• 25:45
  drinking
• 25:46
  or
• 25:46
  do
• 25:46
  I
• 25:46
  need
• 25:47
  to
• 25:47
  lower
• 25:48
  my
• 25:48
  drinking
• 25:49
  or
• 25:49
  do
• 25:49
  I
• 25:49
  kind
• 25:50
  of
• 25:50
  have
• 25:50
  a
• 25:50
  problem?
• 25:51
  And
• 25:51
  then
• 25:52
  you
• 25:53
  go
• 25:53
  from
• 25:54
  there.
• 25:54
  So
• 25:54
  it's
• 25:55
  these
• 25:55
  like
• 25:56
  small
• 25:56
  steps
• 25:57
  and
• 25:57
  finding
• 25:58
  ways
• 25:59
  that
• 25:59
  you
• 25:59
  can
• 25:59
  really
• 26:00
  kind
• 26:00
  of
• 26:00
  see
• 26:01
  and
• 26:01
  test
• 26:01
  it.
• 26:02
  Yeah.
• 26:02
  And
• 26:03
  you
• 26:03
  can
• 26:03
  kind
• 26:03
  of.
• 26:03
  Yeah.
• 26:03
  Try
• 26:04
  it
• 26:04
  out
• 26:04
  in
• 26:05
  real
• 26:05
  life.
• 26:05
  Right.
• 26:06
  Because,
• 26:06
  I
• 26:07
  mean,
• 26:07
  I
• 26:07
  think
• 26:07
  too,
• 26:08
  trying
• 26:08
  things
• 26:09
  doesn't
• 26:09
  necessarily
• 26:10
  mean
• 26:10
  you're
• 26:10
  committed
• 26:11
  to
• 26:11
  them.
• 26:11
  Right.
• 26:11
  Like,
• 26:11
  if
• 26:12
  you
• 26:12
  try.
• 26:13
  Right.
• 26:13
  I
• 26:13
  think
• 26:13
  that
• 26:14
  that
• 26:14
  too
• 26:14
  kind
• 26:14
  of
• 26:15
  maybe
• 26:15
  holds
• 26:15
  people
• 26:15
  back
• 26:16
  a
• 26:16
  bit.
• 26:16
  Is
• 26:16
  like,
• 26:16
  you
• 26:17
  can
• 26:17
  try
• 26:17
  something
• 26:17
  and
• 26:17
  if
• 26:18
  it
• 26:18
  doesn't
• 26:18
  work
• 26:18
  for
• 26:18
  you,
• 26:19
  you
• 26:19
  don't
• 26:19
  have
• 26:19
  to
• 26:19
  do
• 26:20
  it,
• 26:20
  you
• 26:20
  know,.
• 26:21
  But
• 26:22
  there's
• 26:22
  like
• 26:22
  no
• 26:23
  hurt,
• 26:23
  like,
• 26:24
  in
• 26:24
  trying.
• 26:25
  It's
• 26:26
  that
• 26:26
  part
• 26:26
  of
• 26:27
  seeing,
• 26:28
  you
• 26:28
  know,
• 26:28
  like,
• 26:29
  what
• 26:29
  is
• 26:29
  life
• 26:30
  like
• 26:30
  taking
• 26:30
  alcohol
• 26:31
  out
• 26:32
  and
• 26:33
  just
• 26:33
  try
• 26:34
  it.
• 26:34
  What
• 26:34
  is
• 26:35
  it
• 26:35
  like
• 26:35
  if
• 26:35
  I
• 26:36
  feel
• 26:36
  so
• 26:36
  stuck
• 26:37
  and
• 26:37
  kind
• 26:37
  of
• 26:38
  overwhelmed
• 26:38
  with
• 26:39
  a
• 26:39
  to
• 26:39
  do
• 26:39
  list?
• 26:40
  What
• 26:40
  are
• 26:41
  just,
• 26:41
  what's
• 26:42
  one
• 26:42
  thing
• 26:43
  that
• 26:43
  I
• 26:43
  can
• 26:43
  work
• 26:43
  on
• 26:44
  today
• 26:44
  for
• 26:45
  10
• 26:45
  minutes?
• 26:47
  And
• 26:47
  you
• 26:47
  just
• 26:47
  start
• 26:48
  looking
• 26:48
  at
• 26:48
  like,
• 26:49
  we
• 26:49
  can
• 26:49
  all
• 26:49
  find
• 26:50
  10
• 26:50
  minutes,
• 26:50
  you
• 26:51
  know,
• 26:51
  set
• 26:51
  a
• 26:51
  timer
• 26:52
  on
• 26:52
  the
• 26:52
  phone
• 26:52
  and
• 26:52
  be
• 26:52
  like,
• 26:53
  okay,
• 26:53
  for
• 26:53
  10
• 26:53
  minutes.
• 26:54
  I'm
• 26:54
  just
• 26:54
  gonna
• 26:54
  work
• 26:54
  on
• 26:55
  this
• 26:55
  one
• 26:55
  task
• 26:56
  that's
• 26:56
  on
• 26:56
  my
• 26:56
  to
• 26:57
  do
• 26:57
  list.
• 26:58
  I
• 26:58
  don't
• 26:58
  have
• 26:58
  to
• 26:58
  get
• 26:59
  every
• 26:59
  single
• 27:00
  thing
• 27:00
  done
• 27:00
  today.
• 27:01
  I
• 27:01
  don't
• 27:01
  have
• 27:01
  to
• 27:01
  just
• 27:02
  make
• 27:02
  a
• 27:02
  decision
• 27:03
  like,
• 27:03
  oh,
• 27:03
  I'm
• 27:04
  never
• 27:04
  ever
• 27:04
  gonna
• 27:04
  drink
• 27:05
  alcohol
• 27:05
  again.
• 27:06
  It's
• 27:06
  just
• 27:07
  like
• 27:07
  trying
• 27:08
  it
• 27:08
  for.
• 27:09
  What's
• 27:09
  it
• 27:09
  like
• 27:09
  this
• 27:10
  week,
• 27:11
  this
• 27:11
  day,
• 27:13
  your
• 27:13
  piece.
• 27:13
  And
• 27:13
  so
• 27:14
  it's
• 27:14
  not
• 27:14
  a
• 27:14
  long
• 27:14
  term
• 27:15
  commitment
• 27:15
  if
• 27:16
  you
• 27:16
  don't
• 27:16
  want
• 27:16
  it
• 27:16
  to
• 27:16
  be,
• 27:17
  but
• 27:17
  it's
• 27:17
  just
• 27:17
  trying
• 27:18
  these
• 27:18
  pieces
• 27:19
  and
• 27:19
  seeing
• 27:20
  like,
• 27:20
  what
• 27:20
  works
• 27:21
  for
• 27:21
  you
• 27:21
  and
• 27:21
  what
• 27:21
  you
• 27:22
  feel
• 27:22
  better
• 27:22
  with.
• 27:24
  That's
• 27:24
  sort
• 27:25
  of
• 27:25
  where
• 27:25
  I
• 27:25
  am
• 27:25
  right
• 27:25
  now
• 27:25
  too.
• 27:26
  It's
• 27:26
  like
• 27:26
  I
• 27:27
  pretty
• 27:27
  much
• 27:27
  pulled
• 27:28
  back
• 27:28
  during
• 27:28
  the
• 27:28
  week.
• 27:29
  Like,
• 27:29
  I
• 27:29
  don't
• 27:29
  really
• 27:30
  drink
• 27:30
  anymore
• 27:30
  during
• 27:31
  the
• 27:31
  week.
• 27:31
  I
• 27:31
  just
• 27:32
  feel
• 27:32
  a
• 27:33
  little
• 27:33
  off
• 27:33
  and
• 27:33
  foggy
• 27:34
  the
• 27:34
  next
• 27:34
  day.
• 27:35
  For
• 27:35
  me,
• 27:35
  it's
• 27:35
  more
• 27:36
  the
• 27:36
  physical
• 27:37
  aspect
• 27:38
  of
• 27:38
  it,
• 27:38
  like
• 27:39
  having
• 27:39
  a
• 27:39
  stomachache,
• 27:40
  like
• 27:40
  having
• 27:40
  a
• 27:40
  headache,
• 27:41
  you
• 27:41
  know,
• 27:41
  that
• 27:41
  kind
• 27:41
  of
• 27:41
  stuff.
• 27:42
  So
• 27:42
  I
• 27:43
  really
• 27:43
  pulled
• 27:43
  back
• 27:43
  on
• 27:44
  it
• 27:44
  during
• 27:44
  the
• 27:44
  week.
• 27:44
  Now
• 27:45
  I
• 27:45
  do.
• 27:45
  If
• 27:45
  I,
• 27:46
  you
• 27:46
  know,
• 27:46
  going
• 27:46
  out
• 27:46
  with
• 27:47
  friends
• 27:47
  for
• 27:47
  dinner
• 27:47
  on
• 27:47
  the
• 27:47
  weekend,
• 27:48
  yes,
• 27:48
  I
• 27:48
  will
• 27:48
  have
• 27:49
  some
• 27:49
  cocktails.
• 27:50
  But
• 27:50
  right
• 27:51
  now
• 27:51
  it
• 27:51
  seems
• 27:52
  to
• 27:52
  work
• 27:52
  for
• 27:53
  me.
• 27:54
  But
• 27:54
  it
• 27:55
  is
• 27:55
  less.
• 27:55
  It's
• 27:56
  definitely
• 27:56
  less
• 27:56
  than
• 27:56
  it
• 27:57
  was
• 27:57
  before.
• 27:58
  So
• 27:58
  what
• 27:59
  do
• 27:59
  you,
• 27:59
  you
• 27:59
  know,
• 28:00
  for
• 28:00
  people
• 28:00
  out
• 28:00
  there
• 28:00
  that
• 28:01
  maybe
• 28:01
  want
• 28:01
  to
• 28:01
  kind
• 28:01
  of
• 28:01
  do
• 28:02
  some
• 28:02
  sort
• 28:02
  of
• 28:02
  a
• 28:02
  balance
• 28:03
  like
• 28:03
  that?
• 28:03
  I
• 28:04
  mean,
• 28:04
  do
• 28:04
  you
• 28:05
  recommend
• 28:05
  maybe
• 28:05
  doing
• 28:06
  that
• 28:06
  as
• 28:07
  well
• 28:07
  if
• 28:07
  they're
• 28:07
  not
• 28:07
  ready
• 28:08
  to
• 28:08
  just
• 28:08
  pull
• 28:08
  back
• 28:08
  a
• 28:09
  hundred
• 28:09
  percent?
• 28:10
  Absolutely.
• 28:11
  It's
• 28:11
  looking
• 28:12
  at
• 28:12
  cutting
• 28:13
  maybe
• 28:14
  alcohol
• 28:14
  out
• 28:14
  through
• 28:15
  the
• 28:15
  week.
• 28:16
  How
• 28:16
  much
• 28:16
  better
• 28:17
  you
• 28:17
  function
• 28:18
  Monday
• 28:18
  through
• 28:19
  Friday
• 28:20
  without
• 28:20
  it
• 28:20
  and
• 28:21
  only
• 28:21
  having
• 28:21
  it
• 28:22
  on
• 28:22
  weekends,
• 28:23
  you
• 28:23
  know,
• 28:23
  and
• 28:23
  that's
• 28:24
  the
• 28:24
  part
• 28:24
  of
• 28:24
  you
• 28:25
  Just
• 28:25
  kind
• 28:25
  of
• 28:26
  try
• 28:26
  it.
• 28:27
  See,
• 28:27
  like
• 28:27
  if
• 28:28
  you're
• 28:28
  drinking
• 28:29
  five
• 28:29
  nights
• 28:29
  a
• 28:29
  week,
• 28:30
  move
• 28:30
  that
• 28:31
  to
• 28:31
  three
• 28:31
  and
• 28:32
  see
• 28:32
  how
• 28:32
  you
• 28:32
  feel.
• 28:33
  If
• 28:33
  you're
• 28:33
  drinking
• 28:34
  like
• 28:35
  only
• 28:35
  on
• 28:35
  weekends,
• 28:36
  take
• 28:37
  one
• 28:37
  day
• 28:37
  out
• 28:37
  of
• 28:38
  the
• 28:38
  weekend
• 28:38
  and
• 28:39
  see
• 28:39
  how
• 28:39
  you
• 28:39
  feel.
• 28:40
  Or
• 28:40
  try
• 28:40
  just
• 28:40
  a
• 28:41
  weekend
• 28:41
  without
• 28:41
  it.
• 28:42
  It's
• 28:42
  just
• 28:42
  kind
• 28:42
  of
• 28:43
  making
• 28:43
  small
• 28:44
  steps.
• 28:44
  You
• 28:45
  don't
• 28:45
  have
• 28:45
  to
• 28:46
  wipe
• 28:46
  it
• 28:46
  out,
• 28:48
  just
• 28:48
  like
• 28:49
  lower
• 28:49
  it
• 28:49
  and
• 28:50
  see
• 28:50
  or
• 28:50
  monitor
• 28:51
  it.
• 28:51
  I
• 28:52
  mean,
• 28:52
  there's
• 28:53
  the
• 28:53
  sober
• 28:54
  sure
• 28:54
  bracelet
• 28:55
  or
• 28:55
  device
• 28:56
  that
• 28:56
  we're
• 28:56
  really
• 28:57
  like,
• 28:57
  keep
• 28:58
  track
• 28:58
  of
• 28:58
  that
• 28:59
  for
• 28:59
  you.
• 28:59
  And
• 29:00
  it's
• 29:00
  something
• 29:00
  that
• 29:00
  anyone
• 29:01
  can
• 29:01
  like
• 29:01
  utilize.
• 29:02
  It
• 29:02
  looks
• 29:03
  like
• 29:03
  a
• 29:03
  little
• 29:03
  Fitbit,
• 29:05
  this
• 29:05
  kind
• 29:05
  of
• 29:05
  monitors
• 29:06
  and
• 29:06
  it's
• 29:06
  one
• 29:07
  of
• 29:07
  those
• 29:07
  pieces
• 29:07
  because
• 29:08
  in
• 29:08
  our
• 29:08
  brains,
• 29:08
  like
• 29:09
  a
• 29:09
  lot
• 29:09
  of
• 29:09
  times
• 29:10
  we
• 29:10
  don't
• 29:10
  even
• 29:11
  register
• 29:11
  like,
• 29:12
  oh,
• 29:12
  how
• 29:12
  much
• 29:12
  are
• 29:13
  we
• 29:13
  drinking
• 29:13
  or
• 29:14
  how
• 29:14
  often?
• 29:15
  Or
• 29:15
  hey,
• 29:16
  I
• 29:16
  wonder
• 29:16
  what
• 29:16
  this
• 29:17
  the
• 29:17
  effect
• 29:17
  is
• 29:18
  like,
• 29:19
  because
• 29:19
  like
• 29:19
  you
• 29:19
  said,
• 29:20
  when
• 29:20
  you
• 29:20
  hit
• 29:20
  40,
• 29:21
  like
• 29:21
  it
• 29:21
  plays
• 29:22
  out
• 29:22
  differently.
• 29:23
  Two
• 29:23
  drinks
• 29:24
  feels
• 29:24
  very
• 29:24
  different
• 29:25
  after
• 29:25
  40
• 29:26
  than
• 29:26
  before.
• 29:27
  And
• 29:28
  so
• 29:28
  it's
• 29:28
  like
• 29:28
  you
• 29:28
  have
• 29:29
  a
• 29:29
  device
• 29:30
  that
• 29:30
  just
• 29:30
  kind
• 29:30
  of
• 29:30
  monitors
• 29:31
  that
• 29:31
  sends
• 29:32
  you
• 29:32
  back.
• 29:32
  Like
• 29:33
  you're
• 29:34
  almost
• 29:34
  like
• 29:34
  your
• 29:34
  vitals
• 29:35
  just
• 29:35
  like
• 29:35
  if
• 29:35
  you've
• 29:36
  got
• 29:36
  the
• 29:36
  ring,
• 29:37
  you
• 29:37
  know,
• 29:37
  or
• 29:38
  an
• 29:38
  Apple
• 29:38
  watch
• 29:38
  and
• 29:39
  it's
• 29:39
  looking
• 29:39
  like,
• 29:39
  oh,
• 29:40
  I
• 29:40
  did
• 29:40
  7,500
• 29:41
  steps
• 29:42
  today,
• 29:42
  or
• 29:42
  this.
• 29:43
  It's
• 29:43
  kind
• 29:43
  of
• 29:44
  the
• 29:44
  same
• 29:44
  thing
• 29:44
  of
• 29:44
  like,
• 29:45
  oh,
• 29:45
  wow,
• 29:46
  you
• 29:46
  know,
• 29:46
  here's
• 29:47
  what
• 29:47
  my
• 29:47
  like
• 29:48
  alcohol
• 29:48
  level
• 29:48
  was
• 29:49
  here,
• 29:49
  here's
• 29:49
  how
• 29:50
  often
• 29:50
  I
• 29:50
  drank.
• 29:51
  So
• 29:51
  utilizing
• 29:52
  like
• 29:53
  some
• 29:53
  type
• 29:53
  of
• 29:53
  monitoring
• 29:54
  device
• 29:54
  or
• 29:55
  journal
• 29:56
  pieces,
• 29:57
  anything
• 29:58
  like
• 29:58
  that,
• 29:58
  just
• 29:58
  to
• 29:58
  like
• 29:59
  really
• 29:59
  see
• 30:01
  and
• 30:01
  register
• 30:02
  like
• 30:02
  what's
• 30:03
  working
• 30:03
  for
• 30:03
  you,
• 30:03
  what's
• 30:04
  not,
• 30:04
  where
• 30:04
  you
• 30:05
  can
• 30:05
  cut
• 30:05
  back
• 30:05
  how
• 30:06
  you
• 30:06
  feel
• 30:07
  cutting
• 30:07
  back
• 30:08
  or
• 30:08
  like
• 30:09
  no
• 30:09
  change
• 30:09
  at
• 30:10
  all.
• 30:10
  Like
• 30:11
  you
• 30:11
  just
• 30:11
  kind
• 30:11
  of
• 30:12
  make
• 30:12
  these
• 30:12
  small
• 30:13
  little
• 30:13
  steps
• 30:13
  and
• 30:14
  see,
• 30:14
  can
• 30:14
  we.
• 30:14
  Also
• 30:15
  get
• 30:15
  a
• 30:15
  Fitbit
• 30:15
  for
• 30:16
  protein
• 30:16
  intake?
• 30:17
  That
• 30:17
  is
• 30:17
  all.
• 30:18
  I
• 30:18
  feel
• 30:19
  like
• 30:19
  half
• 30:19
  the
• 30:19
  time
• 30:20
  I'm
• 30:20
  like,
• 30:20
  am
• 30:20
  I
• 30:20
  getting
• 30:20
  enough
• 30:21
  protein?
• 30:21
  I'm
• 30:22
  like,
• 30:22
  because
• 30:23
  it's
• 30:23
  like
• 30:23
  our
• 30:23
  job
• 30:24
  almost
• 30:24
  now,
• 30:24
  right?
• 30:25
  My
• 30:25
  gosh.
• 30:26
  I
• 30:26
  know
• 30:26
  like
• 30:26
  when
• 30:27
  I
• 30:27
  was
• 30:27
  like
• 30:27
  going
• 30:27
  through
• 30:28
  everything
• 30:28
  and
• 30:28
  I'm
• 30:28
  looking
• 30:29
  at
• 30:29
  like,
• 30:29
  okay,
• 30:30
  what
• 30:30
  are
• 30:30
  the
• 30:31
  hrt,
• 30:32
  how
• 30:32
  quickly
• 30:32
  does
• 30:33
  it
• 30:33
  work
• 30:34
  and
• 30:34
  what
• 30:34
  do
• 30:35
  I
• 30:35
  need
• 30:35
  to
• 30:35
  do?
• 30:35
  And
• 30:36
  it
• 30:36
  was
• 30:36
  like,
• 30:36
  well,
• 30:36
  you
• 30:36
  need
• 30:36
  to
• 30:37
  get
• 30:37
  this
• 30:37
  amount
• 30:37
  of
• 30:37
  protein.
• 30:38
  I'm
• 30:38
  like,
• 30:38
  oh
• 30:39
  my
• 30:39
  God.
• 30:40
  So
• 30:40
  in
• 30:40
  your
• 30:41
  experience
• 30:41
  working
• 30:42
  with
• 30:42
  these
• 30:42
  high
• 30:42
  functioning
• 30:43
  women,
• 30:44
  you
• 30:44
  know,
• 30:45
  that
• 30:45
  have
• 30:45
  a
• 30:45
  lot
• 30:46
  going
• 30:46
  on,
• 30:47
  what
• 30:47
  do
• 30:47
  you
• 30:47
  think
• 30:48
  that
• 30:48
  you
• 30:48
  see
• 30:49
  that
• 30:49
  the
• 30:49
  things
• 30:49
  are,
• 30:50
  that
• 30:50
  they
• 30:50
  are
• 30:50
  doing
• 30:50
  right,
• 30:51
  but
• 30:51
  also
• 30:52
  on
• 30:52
  the
• 30:52
  flip
• 30:52
  side,
• 30:53
  what
• 30:53
  are
• 30:53
  the
• 30:53
  mistakes
• 30:54
  that
• 30:54
  they're
• 30:54
  making?
• 30:55
  What
• 30:56
  they're
• 30:56
  doing
• 30:56
  right
• 30:57
  is
• 30:57
  how
• 30:57
  they
• 30:58
  care
• 30:58
  for
• 30:59
  others.
• 31:00
  Like
• 31:01
  they
• 31:01
  are
• 31:01
  great
• 31:02
  at
• 31:02
  all
• 31:03
  the
• 31:03
  external
• 31:04
  commitments.
• 31:05
  Whether
• 31:05
  it
• 31:05
  is
• 31:05
  taking
• 31:06
  care
• 31:07
  of
• 31:07
  their
• 31:08
  kids
• 31:08
  or
• 31:09
  going
• 31:10
  to
• 31:10
  work
• 31:10
  and
• 31:10
  hitting
• 31:11
  all
• 31:11
  their
• 31:11
  deadlines
• 31:12
  and
• 31:12
  being
• 31:13
  productive
• 31:14
  and
• 31:14
  that
• 31:14
  external
• 31:15
  commitments
• 31:15
  they're
• 31:16
  doing
• 31:16
  fantastic
• 31:17
  on.
• 31:18
  They're
• 31:18
  jugg
• 31:19
  and
• 31:19
  managing
• 31:20
  like
• 31:20
  that
• 31:20
  emotional
• 31:22
  labor
• 31:22
  and
• 31:22
  mental
• 31:23
  load
• 31:23
  and
• 31:23
  all
• 31:24
  the
• 31:24
  tasks.
• 31:25
  What
• 31:25
  they're
• 31:25
  not
• 31:26
  doing
• 31:26
  well
• 31:26
  on
• 31:26
  is
• 31:27
  prioritizing
• 31:28
  self
• 31:28
  care
• 31:29
  and
• 31:29
  their
• 31:30
  overall
• 31:30
  well
• 31:31
  being.
• 31:31
  That
• 31:32
  is
• 31:32
  where
• 31:32
  it's
• 31:32
  lacking.
• 31:33
  Like
• 31:33
  they'll
• 31:34
  like
• 31:35
  do
• 31:35
  whatever
• 31:36
  for
• 31:36
  anyone
• 31:37
  else,
• 31:37
  but
• 31:37
  when
• 31:38
  it
• 31:38
  comes
• 31:38
  to
• 31:38
  like
• 31:39
  securing
• 31:39
  their
• 31:40
  oxygen
• 31:40
  mask
• 31:41
  on
• 31:41
  the
• 31:41
  plane
• 31:42
  first,
• 31:42
  they
• 31:43
  are
• 31:43
  not
• 31:43
  doing
• 31:43
  that.
• 31:44
  What
• 31:44
  do
• 31:44
  you
• 31:45
  say
• 31:45
  to
• 31:45
  somebody
• 31:45
  like
• 31:45
  that
• 31:46
  who's
• 31:46
  maybe
• 31:46
  never
• 31:47
  always
• 31:47
  is
• 31:47
  prioritizing
• 31:48
  other
• 31:48
  people
• 31:49
  and
• 31:49
  you
• 31:50
  know,
• 31:50
  doing
• 31:50
  that?
• 31:50
  Like,
• 31:51
  how
• 31:51
  do
• 31:51
  you
• 31:51
  get
• 31:51
  them
• 31:51
  to
• 31:52
  like
• 31:52
  change
• 31:52
  their
• 31:53
  mind?
• 31:54
  I
• 31:54
  tell,
• 31:54
  I
• 31:55
  mean
• 31:55
  first
• 31:55
  I
• 31:55
  tell
• 31:55
  them
• 31:56
  I
• 31:56
  get
• 31:56
  it.
• 31:56
  Like
• 31:57
  I
• 31:58
  absolutely
• 31:58
  get
• 32:00
  managing
• 32:01
  my
• 32:01
  private
• 32:02
  practice
• 32:03
  and
• 32:04
  how
• 32:05
  husband,
• 32:06
  you
• 32:06
  know,
• 32:06
  and
• 32:06
  three
• 32:07
  dogs.
• 32:07
  Because
• 32:08
  I'm
• 32:08
  insane
• 32:09
  and
• 32:09
  just
• 32:09
  keep
• 32:10
  bringing
• 32:10
  home
• 32:11
  more
• 32:11
  and
• 32:11
  more
• 32:12
  dogs.
• 32:12
  Wait.
• 32:12
  I
• 32:13
  love
• 32:13
  that
• 32:13
  about
• 32:13
  you.
• 32:13
  By
• 32:14
  the
• 32:14
  way.
• 32:14
  I'm
• 32:14
  a
• 32:14
  huge
• 32:14
  dog
• 32:15
  person
• 32:15
  too.
• 32:15
  Do
• 32:15
  you
• 32:15
  rescue
• 32:16
  you?
• 32:17
  Yes,
• 32:18
  I
• 32:18
  will.
• 32:19
  I
• 32:19
  have
• 32:19
  officially
• 32:20
  been
• 32:20
  cut
• 32:20
  off
• 32:21
  though.
• 32:21
  Right
• 32:21
  now.
• 32:22
  My
• 32:22
  husband
• 32:22
  is
• 32:23
  like,
• 32:23
  if
• 32:23
  you
• 32:23
  bring
• 32:24
  home
• 32:25
  any
• 32:25
  other
• 32:26
  dog,
• 32:27
  like,
• 32:28
  this
• 32:28
  is
• 32:28
  not
• 32:29
  going
• 32:29
  to
• 32:29
  work.
• 32:29
  He's
• 32:30
  like.
• 32:30
  And
• 32:30
  then
• 32:30
  he
• 32:30
  went
• 32:30
  through
• 32:30
  the
• 32:31
  list
• 32:31
  of
• 32:31
  like.
• 32:31
  That
• 32:32
  also
• 32:32
  means
• 32:33
  like,
• 32:33
  you're
• 32:33
  not
• 32:34
  bringing
• 32:34
  home
• 32:35
  a
• 32:35
  baby,
• 32:35
  like
• 32:36
  mini
• 32:36
  goat,
• 32:37
  a
• 32:37
  mini
• 32:37
  cow,
• 32:37
  a
• 32:38
  mini,
• 32:38
  A
• 32:39
  mini
• 32:39
  pig.
• 32:39
  Like
• 32:40
  anything
• 32:41
  mini.
• 32:42
  We're
• 32:43
  not
• 32:43
  replacing
• 32:43
  the
• 32:44
  kids
• 32:44
  with
• 32:44
  animals
• 32:45
  because
• 32:45
  they're
• 32:45
  going
• 32:45
  to
• 32:45
  be
• 32:46
  coming
• 32:46
  back
• 32:46
  on.
• 32:47
  But
• 32:47
  you're
• 32:47
  like,
• 32:47
  you're
• 32:48
  like
• 32:48
  secretly.
• 32:48
  We
• 32:48
  are,
• 32:49
  honey.
• 32:49
  Yeah.
• 32:51
  You're
• 32:52
  not
• 32:52
  going
• 32:52
  to
• 32:52
  say
• 32:52
  no
• 32:53
  when
• 32:53
  you
• 32:53
  get
• 32:53
  home
• 32:54
  and
• 32:54
  another
• 32:54
  one's
• 32:55
  kind
• 32:55
  of
• 32:55
  there.
• 32:56
  Yes.
• 32:57
  So
• 32:58
  I
• 32:59
  like
• 32:59
  love,
• 33:00
  love,
• 33:00
  love,
• 33:01
  love
• 33:01
  dogs
• 33:03
  the
• 33:03
  best.
• 33:04
  But
• 33:04
  it
• 33:04
  is
• 33:05
  that
• 33:05
  piece.
• 33:05
  I
• 33:05
  tell
• 33:05
  them,
• 33:06
  like,
• 33:06
  I
• 33:07
  get
• 33:07
  it.
• 33:08
  I
• 33:09
  struggle
• 33:09
  with
• 33:10
  that
• 33:10
  as
• 33:10
  well.
• 33:11
  You
• 33:11
  know,
• 33:11
  it
• 33:11
  is
• 33:12
  easy
• 33:12
  to
• 33:13
  tell
• 33:14
  patience.
• 33:14
  Like
• 33:14
  you
• 33:15
  need
• 33:15
  self
• 33:15
  care
• 33:15
  and
• 33:16
  this
• 33:16
  and
• 33:16
  this.
• 33:16
  And
• 33:17
  then
• 33:17
  like
• 33:17
  implementing
• 33:18
  it
• 33:18
  after
• 33:19
  working
• 33:19
  10,
• 33:19
  11
• 33:20
  hours
• 33:20
  a
• 33:21
  day,
• 33:21
  going
• 33:22
  home
• 33:22
  and
• 33:22
  the
• 33:22
  task
• 33:23
  and
• 33:23
  it's
• 33:23
  like,
• 33:24
  you
• 33:24
  know,
• 33:24
  we're
• 33:25
  exhausted.
• 33:26
  And
• 33:26
  a
• 33:26
  lot
• 33:26
  of
• 33:26
  times
• 33:27
  that's
• 33:27
  the
• 33:27
  part
• 33:28
  where
• 33:28
  it
• 33:29
  feels
• 33:29
  like
• 33:29
  you
• 33:30
  don't
• 33:30
  have
• 33:30
  time
• 33:32
  or
• 33:32
  it
• 33:32
  feels
• 33:33
  selfish
• 33:34
  to
• 33:34
  say,
• 33:35
  like,
• 33:35
  well,
• 33:35
  you
• 33:35
  know,
• 33:36
  I've
• 33:36
  been
• 33:36
  gone
• 33:37
  or
• 33:37
  I've
• 33:37
  been
• 33:37
  doing
• 33:38
  this
• 33:38
  or
• 33:38
  I've
• 33:38
  been
• 33:38
  at
• 33:38
  work
• 33:39
  all
• 33:39
  day,
• 33:39
  but
• 33:39
  now
• 33:39
  I
• 33:40
  need
• 33:40
  to
• 33:40
  go
• 33:41
  take
• 33:41
  a
• 33:41
  Pilates
• 33:42
  class
• 33:42
  or
• 33:42
  go
• 33:43
  to
• 33:43
  the
• 33:43
  gym
• 33:43
  or
• 33:44
  go
• 33:44
  for
• 33:44
  a
• 33:44
  walk.
• 33:45
  Like
• 33:46
  can
• 33:46
  feel
• 33:46
  selfish.
• 33:47
  And
• 33:48
  it
• 33:48
  is
• 33:48
  that
• 33:48
  part
• 33:49
  of
• 33:49
  looking
• 33:49
  at
• 33:50
  exactly
• 33:51
  what
• 33:51
  they
• 33:51
  say
• 33:51
  on
• 33:52
  the
• 33:52
  airplane.
• 33:52
  You
• 33:53
  know,
• 33:53
  secure
• 33:54
  your
• 33:54
  oxygen
• 33:54
  mask
• 33:55
  first
• 33:55
  before
• 33:56
  assisting
• 33:56
  other
• 33:56
  people.
• 33:57
  And
• 33:57
  why?
• 33:57
  Because
• 33:58
  if
• 33:58
  you
• 33:58
  don't,
• 33:59
  you're
• 33:59
  going
• 33:59
  to
• 33:59
  kill
• 33:59
  over
• 34:00
  dead.
• 34:01
  But
• 34:01
  if
• 34:01
  you
• 34:01
  do
• 34:02
  put
• 34:02
  yours
• 34:02
  on
• 34:03
  first,
• 34:03
  you're
• 34:03
  going
• 34:04
  to
• 34:04
  be
• 34:04
  able
• 34:04
  to
• 34:04
  help
• 34:04
  so
• 34:05
  many
• 34:05
  more
• 34:05
  people.
• 34:06
  And
• 34:06
  that's
• 34:06
  the
• 34:07
  part
• 34:07
  that
• 34:07
  I
• 34:07
  just
• 34:07
  tell
• 34:08
  everyone
• 34:08
  of
• 34:08
  like
• 34:09
  you
• 34:09
  have
• 34:09
  to
• 34:10
  implement
• 34:11
  something
• 34:12
  each
• 34:12
  day
• 34:12
  for
• 34:13
  yourself.
• 34:13
  It
• 34:14
  doesn't
• 34:14
  have
• 34:14
  to
• 34:15
  be
• 34:15
  an
• 34:15
  hour
• 34:16
  or
• 34:16
  two
• 34:17
  hours,
• 34:17
  it
• 34:17
  can
• 34:17
  be
• 34:18
  five
• 34:18
  minutes,
• 34:18
  it
• 34:19
  can
• 34:19
  be
• 34:19
  10
• 34:19
  minutes
• 34:20
  of
• 34:20
  self
• 34:20
  care.
• 34:21
  But
• 34:21
  what
• 34:22
  you're
• 34:22
  going
• 34:22
  to
• 34:22
  notice
• 34:23
  is
• 34:23
  like
• 34:23
  when
• 34:24
  you're
• 34:24
  pouring
• 34:24
  into
• 34:25
  yourself,
• 34:25
  you
• 34:25
  have
• 34:26
  way
• 34:26
  more
• 34:26
  to
• 34:26
  then
• 34:27
  actually
• 34:27
  pour
• 34:28
  into
• 34:28
  others.
• 34:29
  But
• 34:29
  if
• 34:29
  you're
• 34:30
  depleted,
• 34:31
  you're
• 34:31
  not
• 34:31
  really
• 34:32
  able
• 34:32
  to
• 34:32
  take
• 34:33
  care
• 34:33
  of
• 34:33
  others
• 34:33
  the
• 34:34
  way
• 34:34
  you're
• 34:34
  wanting
• 34:34
  to.
• 34:35
  And
• 34:35
  you're
• 34:35
  sure
• 34:36
  not
• 34:36
  taking
• 34:36
  care
• 34:36
  of
• 34:37
  yourself.
• 34:38
  Absolutely.
• 34:40
  What
• 34:40
  are
• 34:40
  the
• 34:41
  things,
• 34:41
  what
• 34:41
  would
• 34:41
  you
• 34:42
  want
• 34:42
  women
• 34:42
  at
• 34:42
  home
• 34:42
  to
• 34:43
  know
• 34:43
  about
• 34:43
  their
• 34:43
  brains?
• 34:44
  I
• 34:45
  mean
• 34:45
  the
• 34:45
  piece
• 34:45
  with
• 34:46
  the
• 34:46
  brain
• 34:46
  is
• 34:47
  like
• 34:47
  you
• 34:47
  also
• 34:48
  have
• 34:48
  to
• 34:48
  like
• 34:49
  take
• 34:49
  care
• 34:49
  of
• 34:50
  it
• 34:50
  in
• 34:50
  order
• 34:51
  for
• 34:51
  it
• 34:51
  to
• 34:51
  fully
• 34:52
  function.
• 34:52
  And
• 34:52
  at
• 34:53
  midlife
• 34:54
  we're
• 34:54
  already
• 34:55
  having
• 34:55
  like
• 34:56
  the
• 34:56
  hormonal
• 34:57
  fluctuations,
• 34:58
  especially
• 34:58
  like
• 34:59
  when
• 34:59
  progesterone
• 35:00
  declines
• 35:01
  is
• 35:01
  when
• 35:01
  there
• 35:02
  is
• 35:02
  an
• 35:02
  increase
• 35:03
  in
• 35:03
  stress
• 35:04
  and
• 35:04
  there's
• 35:04
  an
• 35:04
  increase
• 35:05
  in
• 35:05
  anxiety
• 35:05
  and
• 35:06
  increase
• 35:07
  in
• 35:07
  sleep
• 35:07
  issues.
• 35:08
  So
• 35:08
  if
• 35:09
  you
• 35:09
  are
• 35:09
  not
• 35:09
  implementing
• 35:10
  self
• 35:11
  care
• 35:11
  and
• 35:11
  taking
• 35:12
  care
• 35:12
  of
• 35:13
  like
• 35:13
  yourself
• 35:14
  with
• 35:14
  some
• 35:15
  bit,
• 35:15
  whether
• 35:16
  it's
• 35:16
  five
• 35:16
  minutes
• 35:16
  or
• 35:17
  10
• 35:17
  minutes
• 35:17
  doing
• 35:18
  something
• 35:18
  for
• 35:18
  yourself,
• 35:19
  you
• 35:20
  already
• 35:20
  have
• 35:20
  the
• 35:20
  hormone
• 35:21
  pieces
• 35:21
  that
• 35:22
  we
• 35:22
  can't
• 35:22
  kind
• 35:23
  of
• 35:23
  control
• 35:24
  happening.
• 35:25
  And
• 35:25
  if
• 35:25
  you're
• 35:26
  not
• 35:26
  taking
• 35:26
  care
• 35:26
  of
• 35:26
  yourself,
• 35:27
  those
• 35:27
  things
• 35:28
  are
• 35:28
  actually
• 35:28
  going
• 35:29
  to
• 35:29
  get
• 35:29
  worse.
• 35:30
  So
• 35:30
  you're
• 35:31
  already
• 35:31
  not
• 35:32
  able
• 35:32
  to
• 35:32
  handle
• 35:33
  stress
• 35:33
  at
• 35:33
  the
• 35:34
  same
• 35:34
  level.
• 35:35
  So
• 35:35
  if
• 35:35
  you
• 35:35
  don't
• 35:36
  start
• 35:36
  taking
• 35:37
  care
• 35:37
  of
• 35:37
  your
• 35:37
  body
• 35:38
  and
• 35:38
  taking
• 35:38
  care
• 35:39
  of
• 35:39
  your
• 35:39
  brain,
• 35:40
  everything
• 35:41
  is
• 35:41
  going
• 35:41
  to
• 35:42
  become
• 35:42
  more
• 35:43
  unmanageable.
• 35:44
  Anxiety
• 35:44
  is
• 35:45
  going
• 35:45
  to
• 35:45
  increase,
• 35:46
  you
• 35:46
  are
• 35:46
  going
• 35:46
  to
• 35:47
  start
• 35:47
  having
• 35:47
  way
• 35:48
  more
• 35:48
  cognitive
• 35:49
  issues
• 35:49
  with
• 35:50
  memory
• 35:51
  and
• 35:51
  focus
• 35:52
  and
• 35:52
  concentration.
• 35:54
  And
• 35:54
  so
• 35:54
  the
• 35:55
  piece
• 35:55
  with
• 35:56
  the
• 35:56
  brain
• 35:56
  is
• 35:57
  knowing
• 35:57
  like
• 35:58
  it
• 35:58
  needs
• 35:58
  sleep,
• 35:59
  it
• 36:00
  needs
• 36:00
  rest,
• 36:01
  you
• 36:01
  have
• 36:02
  to
• 36:02
  eat
• 36:02
  right,
• 36:03
  you
• 36:03
  have
• 36:04
  to
• 36:04
  make
• 36:04
  sure
• 36:04
  you're
• 36:04
  hydrated
• 36:06
  because
• 36:06
  if
• 36:06
  you
• 36:07
  do
• 36:07
  those
• 36:07
  things,
• 36:07
  your
• 36:08
  brain
• 36:08
  is
• 36:08
  actually
• 36:08
  going
• 36:09
  to
• 36:09
  work
• 36:09
  so
• 36:09
  much
• 36:10
  better
• 36:11
  than
• 36:11
  it
• 36:11
  does
• 36:12
  without
• 36:12
  it.
• 36:13
  Absolutely.
• 36:14
  What
• 36:15
  are
• 36:15
  three
• 36:16
  actionable
• 36:16
  things
• 36:17
  that
• 36:17
  you
• 36:17
  would
• 36:17
  tell
• 36:17
  every
• 36:18
  woman
• 36:18
  listening
• 36:18
  today
• 36:19
  to
• 36:19
  do
• 36:20
  at
• 36:20
  home
• 36:21
  to
• 36:21
  improve,
• 36:22
  you
• 36:22
  know,
• 36:22
  her
• 36:23
  brain
• 36:23
  health,
• 36:24
  to
• 36:24
  feel
• 36:25
  it
• 36:25
  better
• 36:25
  about
• 36:26
  where
• 36:26
  she
• 36:26
  is,
• 36:27
  you
• 36:27
  know,
• 36:27
  in
• 36:28
  life
• 36:28
  and
• 36:28
  maybe
• 36:28
  even
• 36:28
  get
• 36:29
  out
• 36:29
  of
• 36:29
  a,
• 36:30
  a
• 36:30
  cycle
• 36:30
  of,
• 36:31
  you
• 36:31
  know,
• 36:31
  chaos.
• 36:32
  I
• 36:33
  think
• 36:33
  the
• 36:33
  three
• 36:34
  things
• 36:34
  like
• 36:36
  soon
• 36:36
  as
• 36:36
  you
• 36:36
  wake
• 36:36
  up
• 36:37
  in
• 36:37
  the
• 36:37
  morning,
• 36:39
  like
• 36:39
  set
• 36:40
  a
• 36:40
  positive
• 36:41
  intention
• 36:41
  for
• 36:42
  the
• 36:42
  day,
• 36:43
  like
• 36:43
  just
• 36:44
  go
• 36:44
  with
• 36:44
  one
• 36:45
  thing,
• 36:45
  this
• 36:46
  is
• 36:46
  one
• 36:46
  thing
• 36:46
  I'm
• 36:47
  going
• 36:47
  to
• 36:47
  do
• 36:47
  for
• 36:47
  myself
• 36:48
  today.
• 36:49
  Or
• 36:49
  give
• 36:50
  yourself
• 36:51
  some
• 36:51
  type
• 36:51
  of
• 36:51
  positive
• 36:52
  affirmation,
• 36:53
  like,
• 36:54
  you
• 36:54
  know
• 36:54
  what,
• 36:55
  like
• 36:55
  I
• 36:55
  can
• 36:56
  do
• 36:56
  this
• 36:56
  Today
• 36:57
  like
• 36:57
  I
• 36:58
  am
• 36:58
  going
• 36:59
  to
• 36:59
  be
• 36:59
  able
• 36:59
  to
• 37:00
  just
• 37:00
  take
• 37:00
  on
• 37:01
  whatever
• 37:01
  tasks
• 37:02
  come
• 37:02
  my
• 37:02
  way.
• 37:03
  I
• 37:03
  am
• 37:03
  capable
• 37:04
  of
• 37:04
  doing
• 37:04
  it.
• 37:04
  So
• 37:05
  wake
• 37:05
  up
• 37:05
  in
• 37:06
  the
• 37:06
  morning.
• 37:06
  First
• 37:06
  action
• 37:07
  item
• 37:08
  is
• 37:08
  setting
• 37:08
  some
• 37:09
  type
• 37:09
  of
• 37:09
  positive
• 37:10
  intention
• 37:11
  or
• 37:11
  giving
• 37:11
  yourself
• 37:12
  a
• 37:12
  positive
• 37:12
  affirmation.
• 37:14
  Then
• 37:15
  look
• 37:16
  at
• 37:16
  where
• 37:16
  can
• 37:17
  you
• 37:17
  give
• 37:17
  yourself
• 37:18
  five
• 37:18
  minutes
• 37:20
  of
• 37:20
  just
• 37:20
  you
• 37:21
  time,
• 37:22
  just
• 37:22
  five
• 37:23
  minutes
• 37:24
  and
• 37:24
  create
• 37:25
  like
• 37:26
  that
• 37:26
  into
• 37:27
  your
• 37:27
  schedule
• 37:28
  because
• 37:28
  that's
• 37:28
  the
• 37:28
  piece
• 37:29
  us
• 37:29
  women,
• 37:30
  we
• 37:30
  can
• 37:30
  follow
• 37:31
  like
• 37:31
  routines
• 37:32
  and
• 37:32
  schedules.
• 37:33
  Great.
• 37:33
  You
• 37:33
  can
• 37:33
  schedule
• 37:34
  out
• 37:34
  everything
• 37:35
  else.
• 37:35
  Pickups
• 37:35
  and
• 37:36
  drop
• 37:36
  offs
• 37:36
  and
• 37:37
  this
• 37:37
  meeting
• 37:38
  and
• 37:38
  this
• 37:39
  schedule
• 37:39
  five
• 37:40
  minutes
• 37:40
  for
• 37:40
  yourself.
• 37:41
  What
• 37:41
  are
• 37:42
  you
• 37:42
  doing
• 37:43
  that's
• 37:43
  just
• 37:43
  for
• 37:44
  yourself?
• 37:45
  Is
• 37:45
  it
• 37:45
  reading,
• 37:46
  is
• 37:46
  it
• 37:46
  journaling,
• 37:47
  is
• 37:47
  it
• 37:48
  making
• 37:48
  sure
• 37:48
  that
• 37:49
  you
• 37:49
  are
• 37:49
  getting
• 37:50
  a
• 37:51
  protein
• 37:53
  snack
• 37:53
  or.
• 37:55
  And
• 37:56
  then
• 37:56
  at
• 37:56
  the
• 37:56
  end
• 37:57
  of
• 37:57
  the
• 37:57
  night
• 37:58
  look
• 37:58
  and
• 37:58
  see
• 37:59
  how
• 38:00
  did
• 38:00
  you
• 38:00
  feel
• 38:01
  being
• 38:02
  able
• 38:02
  to
• 38:02
  do
• 38:03
  that
• 38:03
  one
• 38:03
  thing
• 38:04
  that
• 38:04
  you
• 38:04
  set
• 38:05
  for
• 38:05
  yourself
• 38:05
  to
• 38:06
  do.
• 38:07
  And
• 38:07
  it's
• 38:08
  just
• 38:08
  these
• 38:08
  scheduling
• 38:09
  out
• 38:09
  with
• 38:10
  morning.
• 38:11
  You're
• 38:11
  starting
• 38:11
  the
• 38:12
  day
• 38:12
  off
• 38:12
  with
• 38:13
  something
• 38:13
  positive.
• 38:14
  You're
• 38:15
  finding
• 38:15
  five
• 38:15
  minutes
• 38:16
  out
• 38:16
  of
• 38:17
  the
• 38:17
  day
• 38:17
  to
• 38:17
  do
• 38:17
  something
• 38:18
  for
• 38:18
  yourself.
• 38:18
  And
• 38:19
  at
• 38:19
  the
• 38:19
  end
• 38:19
  of
• 38:19
  the
• 38:19
  night
• 38:20
  you're
• 38:20
  looking
• 38:20
  at
• 38:21
  wow,
• 38:21
  I
• 38:22
  was
• 38:22
  productive
• 38:23
  doing
• 38:23
  that
• 38:23
  thing
• 38:24
  for
• 38:24
  myself
• 38:25
  and
• 38:25
  I'm
• 38:26
  ending
• 38:26
  the
• 38:26
  night
• 38:27
  on
• 38:27
  a
• 38:27
  high
• 38:27
  note.
• 38:28
  That's
• 38:29
  important
• 38:29
  to
• 38:29
  go
• 38:29
  into
• 38:29
  sleep
• 38:30
  like
• 38:30
  already
• 38:31
  just
• 38:31
  feeling
• 38:31
  positive
• 38:32
  to
• 38:33
  kind
• 38:33
  of,
• 38:33
  you
• 38:33
  know,
• 38:34
  have
• 38:34
  good
• 38:34
  sleep.
• 38:34
  Because
• 38:34
  that's
• 38:35
  so
• 38:35
  important
• 38:35
  too
• 38:36
  for
• 38:36
  your
• 38:36
  brain.
• 38:37
  I
• 38:38
  would
• 38:38
  love
• 38:38
  to
• 38:38
  know
• 38:38
  what
• 38:39
  advice
• 38:39
  you
• 38:39
  would
• 38:40
  give
• 38:40
  your
• 38:40
  25
• 38:41
  year
• 38:41
  old
• 38:41
  self.
• 38:42
  Oh
• 38:43
  my
• 38:43
  gosh.
• 38:44
  I.
• 38:45
  Oh
• 38:45
  that's
• 38:46
  a
• 38:46
  good
• 38:47
  question.
• 38:50
  I
• 38:50
  would.
• 38:51
  Let's
• 38:52
  see
• 38:52
  what
• 38:52
  what
• 38:52
  I
• 38:53
  tell
• 38:53
  my
• 38:53
  25
• 38:54
  year
• 38:54
  old.
• 38:55
  What
• 38:55
  were
• 38:55
  you
• 38:55
  doing
• 38:55
  at
• 38:56
  25?
• 38:56
  What
• 38:56
  were
• 38:56
  you
• 38:57
  like
• 38:57
  at
• 38:57
  25?
• 38:58
  I
• 38:58
  was
• 39:00
  getting
• 39:00
  my
• 39:00
  doctorate.
• 39:01
  Okay.
• 39:02
  I
• 39:02
  was
• 39:02
  in
• 39:02
  the
• 39:03
  last
• 39:03
  year
• 39:04
  of
• 39:05
  my
• 39:05
  doctoral
• 39:06
  program
• 39:06
  and
• 39:07
  I
• 39:07
  was
• 39:08
  working
• 39:08
  as
• 39:09
  an
• 39:09
  intern
• 39:09
  at
• 39:10
  Twin
• 39:11
  Towers
• 39:11
  County
• 39:11
  Jail
• 39:12
  in
• 39:12
  la.
• 39:14
  Oh
• 39:14
  my
• 39:15
  gosh.
• 39:16
  Wow.
• 39:17
  Was
• 39:17
  thought,
• 39:18
  you
• 39:18
  know,
• 39:19
  just
• 39:19
  so
• 39:19
  full
• 39:20
  of
• 39:20
  like
• 39:20
  excitement
• 39:21
  and
• 39:21
  hope
• 39:22
  and
• 39:22
  like
• 39:23
  what
• 39:23
  life
• 39:23
  was
• 39:23
  going
• 39:24
  to
• 39:24
  kind
• 39:24
  of
• 39:24
  really
• 39:25
  look
• 39:25
  like
• 39:25
  and
• 39:26
  the
• 39:26
  next
• 39:26
  challenges
• 39:27
  like
• 39:28
  kind
• 39:28
  of
• 39:28
  going
• 39:29
  into
• 39:29
  life.
• 39:30
  Let's
• 39:31
  see.
• 39:31
  I
• 39:31
  think
• 39:32
  you
• 39:32
  know,
• 39:32
  I
• 39:33
  would
• 39:33
  tell
• 39:33
  myself
• 39:34
  like
• 39:35
  you're
• 39:35
  going
• 39:36
  to
• 39:36
  be
• 39:36
  okay.
• 39:38
  Like
• 39:39
  I
• 39:39
  think
• 39:39
  that
• 39:39
  would
• 39:39
  be
• 39:40
  the
• 39:40
  piece
• 39:40
  of
• 39:40
  like
• 39:41
  don't
• 39:44
  sacrifice
• 39:44
  yourself
• 39:46
  to
• 39:47
  like
• 39:47
  meet
• 39:47
  the
• 39:47
  needs
• 39:48
  of
• 39:48
  everybody.
• 39:49
  Like
• 39:49
  else
• 39:50
  don't
• 39:50
  be
• 39:51
  like
• 39:51
  the
• 39:51
  people
• 39:52
  pleaser
• 39:52
  because
• 39:52
  you're
• 39:53
  going
• 39:53
  to
• 39:53
  be
• 39:53
  like.
• 39:54
  Okay,
• 39:55
  yeah,
• 39:55
  that's
• 39:55
  a,
• 39:56
  that's
• 39:56
  huge
• 39:56
  because
• 39:56
  I
• 39:57
  feel
• 39:57
  like
• 39:57
  people,
• 39:57
  yeah,
• 39:58
  people
• 39:58
  pleasing
• 39:59
  is
• 39:59
  big
• 39:59
  like
• 40:00
  dying
• 40:01
  on
• 40:01
  the
• 40:01
  hill
• 40:01
  for
• 40:01
  everybody
• 40:02
  else.
• 40:02
  You
• 40:02
  know,
• 40:03
  it's
• 40:03
  just,
• 40:03
  it's
• 40:04
  a
• 40:04
  lot,
• 40:04
  it's
• 40:05
  a
• 40:05
  lot.
• 40:05
  So
• 40:05
  that's,
• 40:06
  that's
• 40:06
  huge
• 40:06
  for
• 40:07
  you
• 40:07
  know
• 40:07
  telling
• 40:08
  yourself
• 40:08
  that
• 40:08
  at
• 40:09
  25.
• 40:09
  When
• 40:10
  you
• 40:10
  were
• 40:10
  working
• 40:10
  in
• 40:10
  forensics,
• 40:11
  is
• 40:11
  there
• 40:12
  one
• 40:13
  case
• 40:13
  or
• 40:14
  like,
• 40:14
  one
• 40:14
  or
• 40:14
  a
• 40:15
  few
• 40:15
  maybe
• 40:15
  that
• 40:15
  just
• 40:16
  really
• 40:16
  stuck
• 40:16
  with
• 40:16
  you
• 40:17
  to
• 40:17
  this
• 40:17
  day?
• 40:18
  One
• 40:18
  was
• 40:20
  looking.
• 40:20
  There
• 40:21
  was
• 40:21
  a
• 40:21
  gentleman
• 40:23
  at
• 40:23
  the.
• 40:24
  At
• 40:24
  Twin
• 40:24
  Towers
• 40:25
  County
• 40:25
  Jail,
• 40:26
  and
• 40:27
  he
• 40:27
  was
• 40:27
  going
• 40:28
  through
• 40:28
  kind
• 40:28
  of
• 40:29
  a
• 40:29
  psychotic
• 40:30
  break,
• 40:31
  and
• 40:31
  a
• 40:32
  lot
• 40:32
  of
• 40:32
  the
• 40:32
  guards
• 40:33
  and
• 40:33
  other
• 40:33
  people
• 40:34
  just
• 40:34
  kind
• 40:34
  of
• 40:34
  ignored
• 40:35
  him
• 40:36
  so
• 40:36
  much.
• 40:36
  I
• 40:36
  didn't
• 40:37
  really
• 40:37
  understand
• 40:38
  the
• 40:38
  mental
• 40:38
  health
• 40:39
  pieces
• 40:39
  that
• 40:39
  were
• 40:39
  going
• 40:40
  through.
• 40:40
  And
• 40:40
  he
• 40:40
  was
• 40:40
  not
• 40:40
  on
• 40:41
  my
• 40:41
  caseload,
• 40:42
  but
• 40:43
  I
• 40:43
  would
• 40:43
  always
• 40:43
  see
• 40:44
  him.
• 40:45
  And
• 40:45
  I
• 40:45
  approached
• 40:46
  it
• 40:46
  from
• 40:46
  this
• 40:46
  part
• 40:47
  of,
• 40:47
  like,
• 40:47
  to
• 40:48
  me,
• 40:48
  they
• 40:48
  were
• 40:48
  not
• 40:49
  inmates.
• 40:50
  They
• 40:50
  were
• 40:50
  individuals
• 40:51
  that
• 40:52
  needed
• 40:53
  help.
• 40:54
  And
• 40:54
  I
• 40:54
  would
• 40:54
  always
• 40:55
  stop
• 40:55
  and
• 40:55
  actually
• 40:56
  check
• 40:56
  in,
• 40:56
  like,
• 40:57
  hey,
• 40:57
  how
• 40:57
  are
• 40:57
  you
• 40:58
  doing?
• 40:58
  And
• 40:58
  get
• 40:58
  to
• 40:59
  kind
• 40:59
  of
• 40:59
  know
• 40:59
  something
• 41:00
  about
• 41:00
  them.
• 41:01
  And
• 41:02
  I
• 41:02
  was
• 41:02
  just
• 41:02
  kind
• 41:02
  of
• 41:03
  going
• 41:03
  about
• 41:03
  my
• 41:03
  day,
• 41:03
  walking
• 41:04
  up
• 41:04
  to
• 41:04
  my
• 41:04
  office,
• 41:05
  and
• 41:05
  I
• 41:06
  passed
• 41:06
  by
• 41:07
  him
• 41:07
  and
• 41:07
  I
• 41:08
  said,
• 41:08
  you
• 41:09
  know,
• 41:09
  good
• 41:09
  morning.
• 41:09
  And
• 41:10
  he,
• 41:10
  like,
• 41:10
  said,
• 41:11
  good
• 41:11
  morning.
• 41:11
  And
• 41:12
  I
• 41:12
  was
• 41:12
  like,
• 41:12
  how
• 41:12
  are
• 41:12
  you?
• 41:13
  And
• 41:14
  he
• 41:14
  had
• 41:14
  this
• 41:15
  look,
• 41:15
  and
• 41:15
  he
• 41:16
  didn't
• 41:16
  say
• 41:17
  anything.
• 41:17
  It
• 41:17
  was
• 41:17
  almost
• 41:18
  like
• 41:18
  a
• 41:18
  shocking
• 41:19
  piece.
• 41:19
  And
• 41:19
  I
• 41:19
  was
• 41:19
  like,
• 41:20
  how
• 41:20
  are
• 41:20
  you?
• 41:21
  And
• 41:21
  he's
• 41:22
  like,
• 41:22
  I've
• 41:22
  been
• 41:23
  here
• 41:23
  for
• 41:23
  so
• 41:24
  many
• 41:24
  years,
• 41:24
  and
• 41:25
  not
• 41:25
  one
• 41:25
  person
• 41:25
  has
• 41:26
  asked
• 41:26
  me,
• 41:27
  like,
• 41:27
  how
• 41:27
  are
• 41:28
  you?
• 41:28
  And
• 41:29
  he's
• 41:29
  like,
• 41:29
  I
• 41:30
  always
• 41:30
  say
• 41:31
  good
• 41:31
  morning
• 41:31
  to
• 41:31
  the
• 41:32
  staff
• 41:32
  and
• 41:32
  how
• 41:32
  are
• 41:33
  you?
• 41:33
  And
• 41:33
  he's
• 41:33
  like,
• 41:34
  you
• 41:34
  actually
• 41:34
  just
• 41:34
  stopped
• 41:35
  to
• 41:35
  ask.
• 41:35
  And
• 41:36
  I
• 41:36
  was
• 41:36
  like,
• 41:36
  well,
• 41:37
  yeah,
• 41:37
  like,
• 41:38
  how
• 41:38
  are
• 41:39
  you
• 41:39
  today?
• 41:40
  And
• 41:40
  that
• 41:41
  one
• 41:41
  interaction.
• 41:42
  A
• 41:42
  few
• 41:42
  weeks
• 41:43
  later,
• 41:44
  he
• 41:44
  had
• 41:45
  a
• 41:45
  major
• 41:45
  psychotic
• 41:46
  break.
• 41:46
  Became
• 41:47
  very,
• 41:48
  like,
• 41:48
  violent,
• 41:49
  was
• 41:49
  tearing
• 41:50
  up
• 41:50
  the
• 41:50
  rec
• 41:50
  room,
• 41:51
  throwing
• 41:51
  things
• 41:52
  everywhere.
• 41:53
  I
• 41:53
  was
• 41:54
  pregnant
• 41:54
  with
• 41:54
  the
• 41:54
  twins,
• 41:56
  and
• 41:56
  at
• 41:57
  that
• 41:57
  point,
• 41:57
  my
• 41:57
  daughter
• 41:58
  was,
• 41:58
  you
• 41:58
  know,
• 41:58
  beating
• 41:59
  my
• 41:59
  bladder,
• 42:00
  and
• 42:00
  I
• 42:00
  needed
• 42:01
  to
• 42:01
  go
• 42:01
  to
• 42:02
  the
• 42:02
  restroom,
• 42:03
  and
• 42:03
  they
• 42:03
  had
• 42:04
  locked
• 42:04
  it
• 42:04
  down.
• 42:05
  And
• 42:05
  I
• 42:06
  was
• 42:06
  like,
• 42:06
  you
• 42:06
  know,
• 42:07
  I
• 42:07
  need
• 42:07
  to
• 42:07
  go
• 42:07
  to
• 42:07
  the
• 42:07
  bathroom.
• 42:08
  The
• 42:08
  guards
• 42:08
  were
• 42:08
  like,
• 42:09
  we're
• 42:09
  on
• 42:09
  lockdown.
• 42:10
  It's
• 42:10
  not
• 42:10
  safe
• 42:11
  to
• 42:11
  go
• 42:11
  out
• 42:11
  right
• 42:12
  now.
• 42:12
  And
• 42:12
  I
• 42:12
  was
• 42:12
  like,
• 42:12
  well,
• 42:12
  do
• 42:13
  you
• 42:13
  want
• 42:13
  to
• 42:13
  tell
• 42:13
  that
• 42:13
  to
• 42:14
  the
• 42:14
  twins?
• 42:14
  Because
• 42:15
  this
• 42:15
  is
• 42:15
  not
• 42:15
  like,
• 42:16
  an
• 42:16
  optional
• 42:16
  thing.
• 42:17
  Like,
• 42:17
  I
• 42:17
  need
• 42:18
  to
• 42:18
  go
• 42:19
  to
• 42:19
  the
• 42:19
  bathroom,
• 42:20
  or
• 42:20
  I'm
• 42:20
  going
• 42:20
  to
• 42:20
  just
• 42:20
  pee
• 42:21
  right
• 42:21
  here.
• 42:22
  And
• 42:23
  I
• 42:23
  saw
• 42:24
  that
• 42:24
  it
• 42:24
  was
• 42:24
  him
• 42:25
  that
• 42:25
  was
• 42:25
  kind
• 42:26
  of
• 42:26
  blowing
• 42:26
  up.
• 42:27
  And
• 42:27
  I
• 42:27
  was
• 42:28
  like,
• 42:28
  I'll
• 42:28
  be
• 42:28
  fine.
• 42:29
  They
• 42:29
  said,
• 42:29
  well,
• 42:30
  we're
• 42:30
  not
• 42:30
  going
• 42:31
  to
• 42:31
  escort
• 42:31
  you
• 42:31
  to
• 42:31
  the
• 42:32
  restroom.
• 42:32
  You're
• 42:32
  going
• 42:32
  to
• 42:32
  have
• 42:33
  to
• 42:33
  walk
• 42:33
  on
• 42:33
  your
• 42:33
  own.
• 42:34
  And
• 42:34
  I
• 42:35
  walked
• 42:35
  down
• 42:35
  the
• 42:35
  stairs
• 42:36
  with
• 42:36
  my,
• 42:36
  like,
• 42:36
  big
• 42:37
  belly,
• 42:37
  walked
• 42:37
  right
• 42:38
  past
• 42:38
  him.
• 42:38
  He
• 42:39
  stood,
• 42:39
  stopped,
• 42:40
  and
• 42:40
  I
• 42:40
  was
• 42:40
  like,
• 42:41
  hey.
• 42:41
  I
• 42:41
  was
• 42:41
  like,
• 42:42
  I
• 42:42
  just
• 42:42
  need
• 42:42
  to
• 42:42
  go
• 42:42
  to
• 42:43
  the
• 42:43
  bathroom,
• 42:44
  and
• 42:45
  can
• 42:45
  you,
• 42:45
  you
• 42:46
  know,
• 42:46
  not
• 42:46
  hurt
• 42:47
  me
• 42:47
  or
• 42:47
  anything?
• 42:47
  And
• 42:47
  he's
• 42:48
  like,
• 42:48
  oh,
• 42:48
  yeah,
• 42:49
  no
• 42:49
  problem.
• 42:49
  And
• 42:50
  he
• 42:50
  walks
• 42:50
  me
• 42:50
  to
• 42:50
  the
• 42:50
  Bathroom,
• 42:51
  I'll
• 42:51
  wait
• 42:52
  here
• 42:52
  for
• 42:52
  you.
• 42:53
  Stops
• 42:53
  everything.
• 42:54
  And
• 42:55
  I
• 42:55
  was
• 42:55
  like,
• 42:55
  okay.
• 42:56
  Walked
• 42:57
  back
• 42:57
  and
• 42:57
  he,
• 42:58
  don't
• 42:58
  worry,
• 42:59
  I'll
• 42:59
  wait
• 42:59
  till
• 42:59
  you
• 42:59
  get
• 42:59
  in
• 43:00
  your
• 43:00
  office
• 43:00
  before
• 43:00
  I
• 43:01
  like,
• 43:01
  start
• 43:02
  again.
• 43:02
  But
• 43:03
  it
• 43:03
  was
• 43:03
  that
• 43:03
  moment
• 43:03
  of
• 43:04
  like
• 43:04
  a
• 43:04
  human
• 43:04
  connection,
• 43:07
  what
• 43:07
  he
• 43:07
  actually
• 43:07
  needed,
• 43:08
  and
• 43:08
  that
• 43:08
  stays
• 43:09
  with
• 43:09
  me,
• 43:10
  that
• 43:10
  sometimes,
• 43:11
  no
• 43:11
  matter
• 43:11
  what's
• 43:12
  going
• 43:12
  on,
• 43:13
  you
• 43:13
  just
• 43:13
  need
• 43:14
  someone
• 43:14
  that's
• 43:15
  going
• 43:15
  to
• 43:15
  check
• 43:15
  in
• 43:15
  with
• 43:16
  you
• 43:16
  and
• 43:16
  have
• 43:16
  a
• 43:16
  human
• 43:17
  connection.
• 43:18
  Oh,
• 43:18
  that's
• 43:19
  such
• 43:19
  a
• 43:19
  good
• 43:19
  point.
• 43:19
  You
• 43:20
  know,
• 43:20
  just
• 43:20
  to
• 43:20
  reach
• 43:20
  out
• 43:20
  to
• 43:21
  you
• 43:21
  don't
• 43:21
  know
• 43:21
  who's
• 43:22
  hurting,
• 43:22
  who's
• 43:23
  going
• 43:23
  through
• 43:23
  what.
• 43:24
  So
• 43:24
  just
• 43:24
  to
• 43:24
  have
• 43:24
  that
• 43:25
  extra,
• 43:26
  you
• 43:26
  know,
• 43:26
  somebody
• 43:27
  asking
• 43:27
  you
• 43:27
  how
• 43:28
  you're
• 43:28
  doing,
• 43:28
  that's
• 43:29
  fascinating.
• 43:30
  Wow.
• 43:32
  I
• 43:32
  can't
• 43:32
  even
• 43:32
  imagine,
• 43:33
  I
• 43:33
  think,
• 43:33
  like,
• 43:34
  kudos
• 43:34
  to
• 43:34
  you
• 43:34
  to,
• 43:35
  you
• 43:35
  know,
• 43:35
  be
• 43:36
  able
• 43:36
  to
• 43:36
  take
• 43:36
  care
• 43:37
  of
• 43:37
  people
• 43:37
  like
• 43:38
  that
• 43:38
  and
• 43:38
  really
• 43:38
  see
• 43:38
  the
• 43:39
  good
• 43:39
  and,
• 43:39
  you
• 43:40
  know,
• 43:40
  people
• 43:41
  who
• 43:41
  are
• 43:41
  otherwise
• 43:42
  perceived
• 43:42
  as
• 43:42
  evil.
• 43:43
  Most
• 43:43
  of
• 43:43
  the
• 43:44
  time,
• 43:44
  you
• 43:44
  know.
• 43:45
  Absolutely.
• 43:46
  Yeah,
• 43:47
  for
• 43:47
  sure.
• 43:48
  So
• 43:48
  what
• 43:48
  is
• 43:48
  the
• 43:48
  most
• 43:49
  important
• 43:49
  lesson
• 43:50
  you've
• 43:50
  learned
• 43:50
  in
• 43:50
  midlife?
• 43:51
  Oh
• 43:52
  my
• 43:52
  gosh,
• 43:52
  like,.
• 43:55
  You're
• 43:55
  like
• 43:55
  all
• 43:55
  of
• 43:56
  them.
• 43:57
  All
• 43:58
  of
• 43:58
  them.
• 43:59
  Do
• 44:00
  not
• 44:00
  be
• 44:00
  against,
• 44:01
  like
• 44:01
  hormone
• 44:01
  replacement
• 44:02
  therapy.
• 44:03
  One,
• 44:03
  like,
• 44:03
  it
• 44:04
  is
• 44:04
  a
• 44:04
  lifesaver.
• 44:05
  You
• 44:05
  do
• 44:05
  not
• 44:05
  have
• 44:05
  to
• 44:06
  like
• 44:06
  white
• 44:06
  knuckle
• 44:07
  it
• 44:07
  through
• 44:07
  this.
• 44:08
  Yes,
• 44:08
  yes.
• 44:08
  Like,
• 44:10
  God
• 44:10
  is
• 44:11
  definitely
• 44:11
  a
• 44:12
  man
• 44:12
  because
• 44:13
  a
• 44:13
  woman
• 44:14
  would
• 44:14
  not
• 44:14
  give
• 44:14
  this
• 44:15
  to
• 44:15
  another
• 44:15
  woman.
• 44:16
  Learn
• 44:17
  that
• 44:17
  lesson.
• 44:18
  But
• 44:18
  I
• 44:18
  think
• 44:18
  the
• 44:19
  biggest
• 44:19
  is
• 44:19
  like
• 44:20
  self
• 44:20
  care,
• 44:21
  like,
• 44:22
  and
• 44:22
  having
• 44:24
  someone
• 44:24
  like
• 44:25
  your
• 44:25
  tribe
• 44:26
  of
• 44:26
  other
• 44:27
  women
• 44:27
  that
• 44:28
  you
• 44:28
  can
• 44:28
  lean
• 44:28
  on
• 44:29
  and
• 44:29
  talk
• 44:30
  to
• 44:30
  because
• 44:30
  it
• 44:31
  is
• 44:31
  the
• 44:31
  piece
• 44:32
  of,
• 44:32
  like,
• 44:33
  you
• 44:33
  have
• 44:33
  to
• 44:34
  have
• 44:34
  other
• 44:35
  women
• 44:35
  in
• 44:35
  your
• 44:36
  life.
• 44:37
  You
• 44:37
  have
• 44:37
  to
• 44:38
  have
• 44:38
  someone
• 44:38
  that
• 44:39
  gets
• 44:39
  it,
• 44:39
  that
• 44:40
  you
• 44:40
  can
• 44:40
  walk
• 44:40
  through
• 44:41
  and
• 44:41
  you
• 44:41
  have
• 44:41
  to
• 44:42
  be
• 44:42
  able
• 44:42
  to
• 44:42
  make
• 44:43
  the
• 44:43
  time
• 44:43
  for
• 44:43
  self
• 44:44
  care.
• 44:44
  And
• 44:45
  I
• 44:45
  think
• 44:45
  that
• 44:45
  that
• 44:46
  has
• 44:46
  been
• 44:47
  the
• 44:47
  biggest
• 44:48
  part
• 44:48
  for
• 44:48
  me
• 44:49
  is
• 44:49
  really
• 44:49
  recognizing
• 44:50
  like,
• 44:51
  wow,
• 44:51
  this
• 44:52
  is
• 44:52
  what's
• 44:52
  happening
• 44:53
  in
• 44:53
  my
• 44:53
  body
• 44:54
  and
• 44:55
  it
• 44:56
  is
• 44:56
  insane.
• 44:57
  But
• 44:57
  I
• 44:58
  need
• 44:58
  to
• 44:58
  be
• 44:58
  able
• 44:58
  to
• 44:58
  take
• 44:59
  care
• 44:59
  of
• 44:59
  myself
• 45:00
  during
• 45:00
  this
• 45:00
  time.
• 45:02
  It's
• 45:02
  a
• 45:02
  very
• 45:02
  challenging
• 45:03
  time
• 45:04
  that
• 45:04
  you're
• 45:04
  going
• 45:04
  through
• 45:05
  so
• 45:05
  much
• 45:06
  changes
• 45:06
  in
• 45:06
  such
• 45:07
  a,
• 45:07
  like,
• 45:08
  short
• 45:08
  period
• 45:09
  of
• 45:09
  time.
• 45:10
  And
• 45:10
  at
• 45:10
  times
• 45:11
  it
• 45:11
  feels
• 45:11
  like
• 45:11
  you're
• 45:12
  losing
• 45:12
  yourself.
• 45:14
  And
• 45:14
  you
• 45:15
  know,
• 45:15
  you
• 45:15
  hear
• 45:15
  about
• 45:16
  all
• 45:16
  these
• 45:16
  women
• 45:17
  where
• 45:17
  it's
• 45:17
  like,
• 45:18
  you
• 45:18
  know,
• 45:18
  once
• 45:19
  they're
• 45:19
  through
• 45:19
  menopause
• 45:20
  or
• 45:20
  whatever,
• 45:21
  like
• 45:21
  how
• 45:21
  great
• 45:22
  life
• 45:22
  is
• 45:23
  and
• 45:23
  you're
• 45:23
  in
• 45:23
  this
• 45:24
  moment
• 45:24
  where
• 45:24
  you
• 45:24
  feel
• 45:25
  like,
• 45:25
  oh
• 45:26
  my
• 45:26
  God,
• 45:26
  the
• 45:26
  wheels
• 45:27
  have
• 45:27
  come
• 45:27
  off.
• 45:28
  What
• 45:29
  is
• 45:29
  happening?
• 45:30
  You
• 45:30
  start
• 45:31
  noticing
• 45:31
  all
• 45:32
  these
• 45:32
  changes
• 45:32
  within
• 45:33
  your
• 45:33
  body,
• 45:34
  the
• 45:34
  aging
• 45:35
  process,
• 45:35
  it's
• 45:36
  like
• 45:36
  it
• 45:36
  goes
• 45:36
  on
• 45:37
  fast
• 45:37
  forward
• 45:37
  or
• 45:38
  something.
• 45:38
  And
• 45:38
  so
• 45:39
  it
• 45:39
  really
• 45:39
  affects
• 45:40
  the
• 45:40
  way
• 45:40
  that
• 45:40
  you
• 45:40
  see
• 45:41
  yourself.
• 45:41
  And
• 45:42
  there
• 45:42
  are
• 45:42
  these
• 45:42
  moments
• 45:43
  where
• 45:43
  it
• 45:44
  is
• 45:44
  just
• 45:45
  so
• 45:45
  brutal.
• 45:46
  And
• 45:47
  so
• 45:47
  overwhelming.
• 45:48
  So
• 45:48
  to
• 45:48
  have
• 45:49
  someone
• 45:50
  just
• 45:50
  checking
• 45:50
  in
• 45:51
  to
• 45:51
  be
• 45:51
  like,
• 45:51
  hey,
• 45:51
  you're
• 45:52
  going
• 45:52
  to
• 45:52
  be
• 45:52
  okay
• 45:53
  and
• 45:53
  I'm
• 45:53
  here
• 45:53
  with
• 45:54
  you
• 45:54
  and
• 45:55
  we
• 45:55
  are
• 45:55
  going
• 45:55
  to
• 45:55
  go
• 45:55
  through
• 45:56
  this
• 45:56
  and
• 45:56
  what
• 45:56
  are
• 45:57
  you
• 45:57
  doing
• 45:57
  for
• 45:57
  yourself
• 45:58
  is
• 45:59
  huge.
• 46:00
  And
• 46:00
  we
• 46:01
  being
• 46:01
  in
• 46:01
  perimenopause,
• 46:02
  I
• 46:02
  hear
• 46:02
  we're
• 46:02
  in
• 46:02
  the
• 46:02
  thick
• 46:03
  of
• 46:03
  it.
• 46:03
  Everyone
• 46:04
  says
• 46:04
  menopause
• 46:05
  is
• 46:05
  not
• 46:06
  as
• 46:06
  bad
• 46:06
  as
• 46:06
  perimenopause.
• 46:07
  Yes,
• 46:08
  that's
• 46:08
  what
• 46:08
  I
• 46:08
  keep
• 46:09
  hearing.
• 46:09
  I'm
• 46:09
  like,
• 46:10
  well,
• 46:10
  when
• 46:11
  are
• 46:11
  we
• 46:11
  getting
• 46:11
  there?
• 46:11
  Because
• 46:12
  done
• 46:13
  with
• 46:13
  this
• 46:14
  phase.
• 46:14
  Like,
• 46:15
  how
• 46:16
  quickly
• 46:17
  can
• 46:17
  we
• 46:17
  move
• 46:18
  through
• 46:18
  this
• 46:19
  part?
• 46:20
  Like,
• 46:21
  can
• 46:21
  we
• 46:21
  jump
• 46:22
  on
• 46:22
  the,
• 46:22
  you
• 46:22
  know,
• 46:23
  high
• 46:23
  speed
• 46:23
  lane
• 46:24
  to
• 46:24
  get
• 46:24
  there?
• 46:24
  Like,
• 46:24
  what
• 46:24
  do
• 46:25
  we
• 46:25
  got
• 46:25
  to
• 46:25
  do?
• 46:27
  I
• 46:27
  know.
• 46:27
  And
• 46:27
  I'm
• 46:28
  like,
• 46:28
  chat
• 46:29
  GBT
• 46:29
  or
• 46:30
  oh,
• 46:30
  my
• 46:31
  God,
• 46:31
  my
• 46:31
  best
• 46:32
  friend
• 46:32
  right
• 46:32
  now.
• 46:33
  Because
• 46:33
  I'm
• 46:33
  like,
• 46:33
  okay,
• 46:34
  here's
• 46:34
  my
• 46:34
  symptoms.
• 46:35
  What
• 46:35
  do
• 46:35
  I
• 46:35
  need
• 46:35
  to
• 46:36
  do
• 46:36
  today?
• 46:37
  Or
• 46:37
  like,
• 46:38
  what
• 46:38
  else
• 46:38
  can
• 46:39
  I
• 46:39
  eat
• 46:39
  that's
• 46:39
  full
• 46:40
  of
• 46:40
  protein?
• 46:41
  Like,
• 46:42
  all
• 46:42
  these
• 46:42
  pieces
• 46:43
  of
• 46:43
  just
• 46:43
  like,
• 46:44
  oh,
• 46:44
  dear
• 46:45
  God,
• 46:45
  is
• 46:46
  normal.
• 46:47
  Like,
• 46:47
  where
• 46:48
  is
• 46:48
  this
• 46:49
  coming
• 46:49
  from?
• 46:50
  Absolutely.
• 46:51
  I
• 46:51
  know.
• 46:51
  Chachi
• 46:51
  BT
• 46:52
  is
• 46:52
  like,
• 46:53
  right
• 46:53
  there
• 46:53
  in
• 46:53
  the
• 46:53
  bestie
• 46:54
  friend
• 46:54
  group.
• 46:56
  So
• 46:57
  how
• 46:57
  are
• 46:57
  you
• 46:57
  living
• 46:58
  iconically
• 46:58
  right
• 46:59
  now?
• 46:59
  Oh,
• 47:00
  my
• 47:00
  God.
• 47:00
  I.
• 47:01
  You
• 47:02
  know,
• 47:02
  this
• 47:02
  being
• 47:03
  an
• 47:03
  empty
• 47:03
  nester
• 47:05
  thing
• 47:06
  has.
• 47:06
  I
• 47:07
  was
• 47:07
  the
• 47:07
  first.
• 47:08
  When
• 47:08
  they
• 47:09
  first
• 47:09
  left
• 47:09
  for
• 47:09
  school,
• 47:10
  it
• 47:10
  was
• 47:10
  like,
• 47:11
  you
• 47:11
  know,
• 47:12
  my
• 47:12
  kids
• 47:13
  were
• 47:13
  gone
• 47:13
  at
• 47:13
  the
• 47:13
  exact
• 47:14
  same
• 47:14
  time.
• 47:15
  And
• 47:16
  so
• 47:16
  it
• 47:16
  was
• 47:16
  this
• 47:16
  huge
• 47:17
  shift.
• 47:17
  And
• 47:18
  now
• 47:18
  there
• 47:18
  is
• 47:19
  this,
• 47:19
  like,
• 47:20
  freedom
• 47:21
  that
• 47:21
  has
• 47:21
  come
• 47:22
  where
• 47:22
  I
• 47:22
  am
• 47:22
  becoming
• 47:23
  so
• 47:24
  comfortable
• 47:24
  with,
• 47:25
  like,
• 47:25
  my
• 47:25
  authentic
• 47:26
  self
• 47:27
  of,
• 47:27
  like,
• 47:27
  what
• 47:28
  you
• 47:28
  see
• 47:28
  is
• 47:28
  what
• 47:29
  you
• 47:29
  get.
• 47:30
  And,
• 47:31
  like,
• 47:32
  kind
• 47:32
  of
• 47:33
  not
• 47:33
  caring,
• 47:34
  you
• 47:34
  know,
• 47:34
  it's
• 47:35
  like,
• 47:35
  okay,
• 47:36
  people
• 47:36
  are
• 47:37
  gonna
• 47:37
  love
• 47:38
  you.
• 47:38
  They're
• 47:38
  gonna
• 47:38
  hate
• 47:39
  you.
• 47:39
  Like,
• 47:40
  you're
• 47:40
  not
• 47:40
  gonna
• 47:40
  make
• 47:40
  everybody
• 47:41
  happy.
• 47:42
  Like,
• 47:43
  just
• 47:43
  kind
• 47:44
  of
• 47:44
  being
• 47:44
  iconic
• 47:45
  with
• 47:45
  being
• 47:46
  authentic
• 47:47
  and
• 47:47
  being
• 47:48
  real
• 47:48
  and
• 47:49
  being
• 47:49
  able
• 47:49
  to
• 47:50
  look
• 47:50
  and
• 47:50
  I
• 47:50
  mean,
• 47:51
  I'm
• 47:51
  living
• 47:51
  my
• 47:51
  dream
• 47:52
  daily.
• 47:52
  Like,
• 47:53
  I
• 47:53
  literally
• 47:54
  have
• 47:54
  the
• 47:55
  career
• 47:56
  that
• 47:56
  I
• 47:57
  have
• 47:57
  designed
• 47:58
  for
• 47:59
  so
• 47:59
  long.
• 48:00
  I
• 48:00
  love
• 48:00
  people,
• 48:01
  I
• 48:01
  love
• 48:02
  talking,
• 48:03
  so
• 48:03
  it
• 48:03
  kind
• 48:03
  of
• 48:03
  works.
• 48:04
  I'm
• 48:04
  very
• 48:05
  curious.
• 48:05
  I
• 48:05
  love
• 48:06
  asking
• 48:06
  questions.
• 48:08
  It's
• 48:08
  like
• 48:08
  I'm
• 48:09
  living
• 48:09
  my
• 48:10
  best
• 48:10
  life
• 48:11
  right
• 48:11
  now
• 48:12
  while
• 48:12
  also
• 48:12
  going
• 48:13
  through
• 48:13
  my
• 48:14
  hardest
• 48:14
  stage
• 48:15
  of
• 48:15
  life.
• 48:16
  And
• 48:16
  I
• 48:17
  think
• 48:17
  that
• 48:17
  that
• 48:17
  is
• 48:17
  the
• 48:18
  part
• 48:18
  where
• 48:18
  it's
• 48:18
  like
• 48:19
  the
• 48:19
  two
• 48:19
  together.
• 48:20
  It's
• 48:20
  like,
• 48:21
  okay,
• 48:22
  I'm
• 48:22
  just
• 48:22
  kind
• 48:22
  of
• 48:22
  going
• 48:22
  through
• 48:23
  this
• 48:23
  roller
• 48:23
  coaster
• 48:24
  that
• 48:24
  is
• 48:25
  fun,
• 48:26
  challenging,
• 48:27
  but
• 48:27
  I'm
• 48:28
  coming
• 48:28
  out
• 48:29
  this
• 48:29
  more
• 48:29
  just
• 48:30
  version
• 48:31
  of
• 48:31
  myself
• 48:32
  that
• 48:33
  I
• 48:33
  love.
• 48:34
  And
• 48:35
  it's
• 48:36
  different.
• 48:36
  I
• 48:36
  don't
• 48:36
  know,
• 48:37
  it's
• 48:37
  just
• 48:37
  this
• 48:37
  piece
• 48:38
  of.
• 48:38
  I
• 48:38
  think
• 48:38
  before
• 48:39
  you're
• 48:39
  always
• 48:41
  comparing
• 48:42
  yourself
• 48:42
  to
• 48:43
  others
• 48:43
  and
• 48:43
  like
• 48:44
  social
• 48:44
  media
• 48:45
  kind
• 48:46
  of
• 48:46
  all
• 48:46
  that
• 48:46
  part.
• 48:46
  Or
• 48:47
  what.
• 48:47
  What's
• 48:48
  people
• 48:48
  going
• 48:48
  to
• 48:48
  think
• 48:49
  here
• 48:49
  or,
• 48:49
  like,
• 48:50
  what
• 48:50
  are
• 48:50
  they
• 48:50
  thinking
• 48:51
  about
• 48:51
  me
• 48:51
  there?
• 48:51
  And
• 48:52
  I'm
• 48:52
  kind
• 48:52
  of
• 48:52
  at
• 48:52
  this
• 48:53
  point
• 48:53
  in
• 48:53
  life,
• 48:53
  like,
• 48:54
  I
• 48:54
  really
• 48:55
  don't
• 48:55
  care.
• 48:55
  Like,
• 48:57
  don't
• 48:58
  care.
• 48:59
  And
• 48:59
  maybe
• 49:00
  the
• 49:00
  part
• 49:00
  where
• 49:00
  my
• 49:01
  brain's
• 49:01
  so,
• 49:01
  like,
• 49:02
  overwhelmed
• 49:03
  or
• 49:04
  whatever,
• 49:05
  but
• 49:05
  it
• 49:05
  is
• 49:05
  like,
• 49:06
  I
• 49:06
  iconically
• 49:07
  just
• 49:07
  don't
• 49:08
  care.
• 49:08
  Like,
• 49:09
  I
• 49:09
  am
• 49:10
  just
• 49:10
  me,
• 49:10
  and
• 49:11
  I
• 49:11
  am
• 49:12
  having
• 49:13
  fun
• 49:14
  being,
• 49:15
  wearing
• 49:16
  whatever
• 49:16
  I
• 49:16
  want
• 49:17
  to
• 49:17
  wear
• 49:18
  and
• 49:19
  just
• 49:19
  kind
• 49:19
  of
• 49:20
  being
• 49:20
  me.
• 49:21
  Yes.
• 49:21
  There's
• 49:22
  such
• 49:22
  freedom
• 49:22
  in
• 49:22
  that.
• 49:23
  And
• 49:23
  I
• 49:23
  think,
• 49:23
  like,
• 49:23
  what
• 49:24
  you're
• 49:24
  saying
• 49:24
  with
• 49:24
  the
• 49:24
  juxtaposition,
• 49:25
  maybe
• 49:26
  that
• 49:26
  even
• 49:26
  makes
• 49:27
  it
• 49:27
  more
• 49:27
  powerful
• 49:28
  because,
• 49:29
  you
• 49:29
  know,
• 49:29
  you've
• 49:29
  got
• 49:30
  these
• 49:30
  two
• 49:30
  worlds
• 49:31
  kind
• 49:31
  of
• 49:31
  colliding
• 49:32
  at
• 49:32
  the
• 49:32
  same
• 49:32
  time,
• 49:33
  you
• 49:34
  know?
• 49:34
  Absolutely.
• 49:35
  It's
• 49:35
  kind
• 49:36
  of
• 49:36
  like
• 49:36
  a
• 49:36
  hot,
• 49:37
  disorganized,
• 49:40
  perfectly
• 49:41
  organized
• 49:42
  mess
• 49:42
  of
• 49:43
  chaos
• 49:43
  that
• 49:44
  it's,
• 49:44
  like,
• 49:46
  all
• 49:46
  blended
• 49:47
  together.
• 49:48
  If
• 49:48
  you
• 49:48
  saw
• 49:49
  yourself
• 49:49
  in
• 49:49
  any
• 49:50
  part
• 49:50
  of
• 49:50
  this
• 49:51
  conversation,
• 49:51
  you
• 49:52
  are
• 49:52
  not
• 49:52
  alone.
• 49:53
  And
• 49:53
  more
• 49:53
  importantly,
• 49:54
  you're
• 49:54
  not
• 49:55
  imagining
• 49:55
  it.
• 49:56
  So
• 49:56
  many
• 49:56
  women
• 49:57
  have
• 49:57
  spent
• 49:57
  years
• 49:58
  adapting,
• 49:58
  coping,
• 49:59
  and
• 49:59
  pushing
• 49:59
  through
• 50:00
  that.
• 50:01
  What's
• 50:01
  actually
• 50:01
  happening
• 50:02
  underneath
• 50:03
  can
• 50:03
  get
• 50:04
  hard
• 50:04
  to
• 50:04
  recognize.
• 50:05
  But
• 50:05
  awareness
• 50:06
  changes
• 50:07
  everything.
• 50:08
  Not
• 50:08
  overnight,
• 50:09
  not
• 50:09
  perfectly,
• 50:10
  but
• 50:10
  it
• 50:10
  gives
• 50:10
  you
• 50:11
  a
• 50:11
  place
• 50:11
  to
• 50:11
  start
• 50:11
  without
• 50:12
  judgment,
• 50:12
  without
• 50:13
  shame,
• 50:13
  and
• 50:13
  without
• 50:14
  pretending
• 50:14
  everything
• 50:15
  is
• 50:15
  fine
• 50:16
  when
• 50:16
  it
• 50:16
  isn't.
• 50:17
  And
• 50:17
  maybe
• 50:18
  the
• 50:18
  real
• 50:18
  shift
• 50:19
  isn't
• 50:19
  about
• 50:19
  doing
• 50:20
  more
• 50:20
  or
• 50:20
  trying
• 50:21
  harder.
• 50:21
  It's
• 50:22
  about
• 50:22
  finally
• 50:23
  understanding
• 50:23
  yourself
• 50:24
  accurately.
• 50:25
  Because
• 50:25
  when
• 50:26
  you
• 50:26
  do
• 50:26
  that,
• 50:26
  you
• 50:26
  stop
• 50:27
  fighting
• 50:27
  the
• 50:27
  wrong
• 50:28
  battles.
• 50:28
  And
• 50:29
  that's
• 50:29
  where
• 50:29
  things
• 50:30
  actually
• 50:30
  begin
• 50:31
  to
• 50:31
  change.
• 50:32
  If
• 50:32
  this
• 50:32
  episode
• 50:33
  resonated,
• 50:34
  follow
• 50:34
  the
• 50:35
  show,
• 50:35
  share
• 50:35
  it
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  with
• 50:36
  a
• 50:36
  woman
• 50:36
  who
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  needs
• 50:37
  to
• 50:37
  hear
• 50:37
  it.
• 50:37
  And
• 50:38
  if
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  you're
• 50:38
  listening
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  on
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  Apple,
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  Spotify,
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  Amazon
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  Music,
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  or
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  wherever
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  you
• 50:41
  get
• 50:42
  your
• 50:42
  podcasts,
• 50:43
  leave
• 50:43
  a
• 50:43
  review.
• 50:44
  It
• 50:44
  makes
• 50:44
  a
• 50:45
  bigger
• 50:45
  difference
• 50:45
  than
• 50:46
  you
• 50:46
  think.
• 50:46
  And
• 50:47
  if
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  you
• 50:47
  want
• 50:47
  more
• 50:48
  conversations
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  like
• 50:49
  this,
• 50:49
  smart,
• 50:50
  honest,
• 50:50
  and
• 50:51
  a
• 50:51
  little
• 50:51
  bit
• 50:51
  disruptive,
• 50:52
  you
• 50:52
  know
• 50:53
  where
• 50:53
  to
• 50:53
  find
• 50:53
  me.
• 50:54
  Whether
• 50:54
  you're
• 50:54
  breaking
• 50:55
  patterns,
• 50:56
  asking
• 50:56
  better
• 50:56
  questions,
• 50:57
  or
• 50:58
  just
• 50:58
  starting
• 50:58
  to
• 50:58
  see
• 50:59
  things
• 50:59
  more
• 50:59
  clearly,
• 51:00
  you're
• 51:00
  not
• 51:01
  crazy.
• 51:01
  You're
• 51:02
  evolving.
• 51:03
  And
• 51:03
  that's
• 51:03
  iconic.