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Finding my Ramadhan Reset ft. Nouri Sardar · After Maghrib 🌙

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  All the Balaji shut down, I know James Mullah Rahman Alohim
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  Salaam Alaikum to live local two brothers and sisters, welcome
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  back to after Maghrib and Ramadan Mubarak to you, to your
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  families and your whole community.
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  May Allah make this inshallah a month of blessings and baraka
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  and Arafia and Tofia and all sorts of glad tidings for you
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  all. Inshallah this is going to be an
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  incredible month and we pray it's going to be transformative,
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  not just for yourselves and ourselves, but Inshallah for the
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  whole. And then Charlotte.
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  So a month where we can stay united and we are closer to the
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  the whole of the Imam Ajala Sharif brothers sisters after
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  every year on Shahramadhan, we try our absolute best to have
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  conversations which are meaningful, but at the same time
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  conversations which touch on different areas.
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  So of course, spiritually healing conversations,
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  conversations which talk about the community affairs, but also
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  conversations which have a weight going forth.
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  So after the holy month, we have something to look back on,
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  something to take away with us as well.
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  The tragedy of Shahramadhan is not that it ends, but that we
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  don't change after Shahramadhan. So as always in this podcast,
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  we're going to be talking about how to make the most of this
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  blessed month. We do have a special guest, but
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  before we introduce him, my dearest brother said I need
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  otherwise. How you doing bro?
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  And Hamdulillah Ramadan Kareem, to you happy family, to your
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  loved ones, and to all our listeners, wherever you are
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  around the world. I'm good.
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  Hamdullah, how are you? I'm good.
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  I'm good. This is what, our fourth?
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  Yeah. Yeah, wow, 2022232420 Wait.
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  No, our first was 23. The first one, the.
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  First one was 23242526. Wow, we're still here.
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  We're still here. We've made it this far.
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  But guys, make sure you go back and check previous years because
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  the podcasts in in previous years were incredible.
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  And Charlotte, this year will be just as good, if not better.
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  Now for a returning time, if that makes sense.
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  Does that make sense? Yeah, maybe in America it does.
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  Hence why we brought our dear brother Norris.
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  How do I like? How you doing?
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  I'm good, Madam. Back how are you?
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  I'm good. How are you?
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  I'm good, man. I'm good at.
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  How many have you? Yeah.
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  Shot Allah and shot Allah. Three days to Ramadan.
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  As a recording, yeah. My heart's trembling like
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  Thunder. Nori Sardar on the mic under my
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  eyes. He makes the tears go under.
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  Yeah, I don't know, man. Nori.
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  I'm there bro. How are you?
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  How was your, how was your last Ramadan?
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  That's a good, interesting question because I feel like
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  over the years I look back. Why?
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  Don't you? Why don't you interview us?
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  Do you know what? You've been on the plot more
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  than most, No, honestly, generally.
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  How was last Ramadan? I feel like if I look back over
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  the years of Shahramadan, I feel like there's always like a
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  different taste that you kind of get every.
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  I've realized with spirituality amel to ours and Quran and
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  everything else, it's like everything else, you can get
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  enough of it. But what I've realized in my own
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  personal experience is that there's never an end to
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  spirituality. Always constantly almost think
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  I'm perfect. But I'm saying that when you try
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  to improve yourself spiritually, you always see growth 100%.
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  And, and, and one thing I love doing is that especially like I
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  have this like, like I have a poem that refers to is where it
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  talks about how ladle cudders almost unhinged from time.
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  So every ladle Cudder, like I, it's like I can see myself in
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  every other ladle Cudder from the years before.
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  And it's it's crazy to see how far you've come or what, where
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  life is taking you. So it's very interesting to look
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  at the. Growth zone, isn't it?
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  Yeah, that's it. It's.
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  Interesting thing about having someone like Ramadan where you
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  have to do every single year. Every year you're different and
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  you're improved. So you know what?
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  How was your last year? Ramadan?
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  If I'm going to be honest, I feel like my last year's Shahar
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  Ahmadan was not as memorable as previous years and that doesn't
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  sound good. But I feel like at the same
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  time, any Balakan blessings I've had in the last year has
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  obviously been as a result of last year's Leya le Qadar.
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  Maybe that's something which went well because you know,
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  there's been things which have gone right, haven't done that,
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  not everything, but we always look back and we're grateful for
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  what we've achieved. Right.
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  But how about you say it before? I the moment you mentioned that
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  point, it just hit me straight away.
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  That last I remember I had like some hijots.
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  I asked a loss of Hanover Taliban.
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  I really meant it and I said, you know, I didn't make a
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  transaction. I was like, I'm going to do it
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  regardless. But I am doing all of this.
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  I buy the Inshallah the work we do is accepted the headman, the
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  service look after us. Yeah, I need remember us don't,
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  don't. Not that we we doubt anything,
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  but we look up to you, we refer back to you, we return to you.
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  There's a few things and I've handled that since that later
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  better. A lot of things have changed in
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  my life. But you know what, at this time
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  of, of the year, so just in the last few days of Shaban, we
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  start preparing, right? So our homes are being prepared.
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  We're trying to prepare our schedule.
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  But ultimately, more than anything, we're trying to
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  prepare ourselves, our souls, We're trying to prepare our, our
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  mindset for Shaban. How do you guys prepare right?
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  So if I was to ask you for your checklist, right, what goes
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  through your minds in these days?
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  What do you do? What's your, what's your the
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  kind of the steps for preparation?
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  No. It's it's funny because like I
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  was thinking about each Ramadan as well.
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  And for me, like my last Ramadan was probably my favorite one.
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  I saw a nice tweet just now, like from Sheikh Mehdi Rastani,
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  who says that I was gonna. Mention that it's.
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  A really nice tweet. I've always felt guilty until I
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  read it. It's a really long story.
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  Yeah, personal story. So basically it's something on
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  the lines of like, don't feel bad if you're not super excited
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  for fasting though, because it's not about having fun.
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  Like you're, you're being obedient, right?
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  Yeah. And for me, Ramadan, I don't say
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  I was never looking forward to it, but like I've fasting is
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  really difficult for me, at least the first the first week
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  for me or 1st 10 weeks. Coffee addicts, that's why.
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  Coffee addicts. Yeah.
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  And I think just just just, I don't know what it is.
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  But like, for me, it's it's it's very like I get migraines, like
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  it's not easy at all. I find it difficult to work
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  concentrate. I'm sure everyone has that to an
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  extent too. But for me, the first week is
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  always like brutal. And then, I don't know,
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  something happens in the body where it kind of clicks in and
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  it's kind of OK. But last year was the first year
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  where I really enjoyed, not enjoy, but I really, I think I
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  appreciate Shahramadhan the way I'm meant to because I was in a
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  state of mind where I was obsessed with reciting duas and
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  doing Aman. I think I mentioned this last
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  time, like we're always told to recite certain duas, Istashir,
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  Mujir, others and and we forget like these duas have very
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  practical effects on you and on your life.
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  Like you said, little Kada, for example, you ask for things.
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  Sometimes it's Josh and Kabir, you know, I'm sure you've seen
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  that, that Josh and Kabiri or they always put on the on the on
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  the screen. Each verse has, for example,
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  this removes this or this springs this or this, whatever,
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  and you figure sometimes that might be that that verse that
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  you recite from Josh and Kabir that has changed your year
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  upcoming for the better in that regard.
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  So Alhamdulillah, last year was really for me a month of healing
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  and just kind of using the art to kind of bring myself back to
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  the right state of mind, which is a place of contentment and
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  being OK. Which I think it's very
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  important to remember that Ramadan can be used as a time we
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  all know. We all know it's already.
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  But like on a deep level, like it can really reset your soul.
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  It does. And your heart, you know, which
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  I think is very important as well.
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  It does. It humbles you as well.
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  Like I remember, like in Ramadan.
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  If I could say it, I wouldn't say every year, but I will.
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  In particular, I remember last year, some stage during the
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  months I remembered, for example, that we're not in
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  control of everything. The more you read, the, the more
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  you read applications, the more it reminds you that Allah, Malik
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  and more because not us like we live in this small space life.
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  We think we know it all. We think you know, we know
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  better than everyone when it comes to weather field of work
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  or what the weather is in life, right?
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  But then it grounds you Ramadan like, puts you back in your
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  place and says you're just a slave of Allah.
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  I mean, he's in control. Not Yeah, yeah.
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  That's beautiful. Yeah, 100%, yeah.
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  But it's also becoming OK with it.
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  Yeah, again, like we could, we can know it from a mental
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  standpoint, but being OK with it deep down, like you're Allah,
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  I'm really OK with whatever. You I think that's something
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  that's just said I need and I today we're talking about this
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  this thing like a spiritual depression.
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  You know, those are the broken hearts Ninja had on my van and
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  inside Joe. He's on title that.
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  You know, for context, guys, Nori, every time noise come on
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  the pod, we talk about so we have like a therapy session.
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  Yeah. Yeah.
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  So I'm denied. You've got like a healing aura.
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  This is freaking. Therapeutic aura, no, but I
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  think was what you both said is like kind of how we, we have to
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  control, we have to, we have to get into the mentality that
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  wherever we are, whatever station we're at right now this
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  month is, is, is there for a reason.
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  And I told I was speaking to my wife last night and, and I
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  mentioned to her the same thing you mentioned.
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  And Subhanallah, I saw the tweet from Shakmeti today as well.
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  I told her I was like, a part of me thinks that has come at a
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  time where. Don't really busy with work yeah
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  like focus yeah sounds. Bad but but then I told her I
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  was like, well, that's the beauty of it as well.
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  At the same time, like Alas tells you put down everything
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  just now, you know, your focus. Yeah.
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  And Shahramalan is meant to to re gravitate us towards what
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  should be consistently offers. Yeah.
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  You know, Alas says in the Quran when he talks about Shahramalan,
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  he says that we've made it. We've ordained it to be
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  compulsory on those before you, you know.
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  So uncle Boots, you know, he mentions, well, Levina
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  Bismillahar Rahman on him. Well, Levina Jahil Delfina Lena
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  Hadina hum Subbu Luna. And he mentions As for those
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  who've struggled in our cause, we'll surely guide them along
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  the way. Alas has given this this command
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  of fasting because it has so many abundant merits to it.
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  You know, of course we're starving the soul, but we're
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  feeding the nest. We're feeding the we're starving
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  the body, but we're feeding the soul, right.
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  So this is kind of ultimately what we're trying to work
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  towards. I think it's also very
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  interesting that it's, it's compulsory.
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  Like I think that's something we've reflect on a lot.
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  Like there's so many, like the odds we can do.
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  We have Muharram, for example, every year.
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  There's a lot of things that we do that are there to kind of
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  reset us. Shahramadhan is compulsory.
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  It's like God's saying no, like I'm, it's not like a choice.
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  Everyone has to do it. It's like this is the mandatory
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  reset that everyone has to, to do to bring them to a state of
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  mind where in which they are the way God wants, you know, from
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  the basic things like fasting, like really helps you with
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  self-control. I saw another really nice point.
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  Sheikh Ali Mehdi from Australia posted this.
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  I think last year it was like Sapala, like like God's showing
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  you that you can miss basically one meal a day.
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  You still have breakfast and you still have dinner.
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  If you're in the UK drinks someone, maybe it's like maybe
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  you're missing 10 meals, but generally speaking, you're
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  missing, you're missing basically missing lunch, right?
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  It's like you just miss one meal a day and that winds you up,
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  makes you angry, makes you tired.
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  You know, it's really a test sometimes for me to maintain my
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  patience, to be honest with you during fasting, because
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  especially the first week, because like, I'm just so hungry
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  and so thirsty, you know? And it's like it, it, God's
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  showing you like, he just takes something very little from your
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  way that we take for granted every day.
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  And you you can have the ability to lose your your composure
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  completely, which is a reminder to keep your composure.
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  The dependency as well. Yeah, 100.
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  Percent and and to have that dependency on I'll just and
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  again, like you said, it humbles you a bit, you know, like
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  nothing is guaranteed to us. You know, money isn't guaranteed
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  to us, health isn't guaranteed to us.
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  Life isn't food isn't you know, I think that's what Shahramadhan
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  kind of reminds you of, which is which is again, it's a mandatory
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  reset. God expects you to do this
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  because he has he needs you to be a certain way.
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  And I think it's a nice way to kind of.
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  Well, it's nice you say it's a reset because, you know, like
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  our technology, our devices, there's always an upgrade.
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  Every year there's like a IOSIOS update or something.
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  And the same thing with Ramadan. Like we need that reset button
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  to bring us back in line to our connection with Allah, Not just
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  by the way, not just worshipping Allah, I bought in Ramadan.
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  It resets everything. It resets your dynamics and the
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  family. It resets how you are with
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  people in the community, how that's true, how you what you do
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  in the work of business, like how you operate.
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  If you use it right, you become a better person.
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  Yeah, yeah, yeah. And the beautiful thing you
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  mentioned, Sabor patients, I'm not mistaken.
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  I believe that when you're fasting, you know who your real
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  self is. That's true.
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  Yeah. That's scary.
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  That's scary. That is right.
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  Yeah, because some people get angry, some people lose
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  patience, some some, some people, God forbid they start
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  questioning why am I fasting? Like, well, that tells you who
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  you really are and where you where you are in terms of your
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  relationship. With hadith, anger doesn't
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  change your minds or money or power Something doesn't.
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  It reveals him. I guess anger's kind of the same
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  thing and. I think at the same time, when
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  you think about that, it just goes to show that because we've
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  got all of these things at the tip of our fingers, food,
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  technology, water. We're very lucky, man.
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  We're so lucky that the slightest adjustment to our
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  day-to-day routine. Yeah, like I mentioned, we're
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  coffee addicts. Like there's such a small thing.
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  Thousands of years of people fought fasted and we're here
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  like with our frothy lattes in the morning and we have a slight
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  adjustment to our routine with that.
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  Everything coffee. By late for me is not.
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  Is coffee's a big one? That's what I'm scared of.
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  How's the other? The fire week thinking how am I
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  not going to have my latte I. I, I was just speaking to
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  someone now they were like, oh, have you done your like your
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  reset? You know how they wind up
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  coffee. I'm like, I yeah, I have a
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  schedule at night between Iftar and Sohor.
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  I make sure I get my caffeine intake I'm having before Sohor
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  like I have to. Last year I did decaf because I
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  I can't have coffee late. No, no, I, I even before I have
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  a coffee. Really, I don't care.
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  I'll have try, I'll have like. Black.
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  So I alternate coffee after start and try before sohor but
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  like it's very like I. Before support I can do, yeah,
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  yeah, yeah. Try before support.
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  It's, you know, there's I think at this time of year, there's a
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  lot of things which we think about.
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  So and Charlotte, what I want to do and I know we've prepared a
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  few things, right. So I want to start by asking you
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  about people who are in a place of reluctancy.
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  So I spoke to, so I told telling said Ali, I was speaking to
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  someone recently and he was basically saying to me that I'm
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  excited for Shahramaban, but more so because of the family
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  time, the community time and so on, he says, me myself, I feel
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  spiritually dead. Yeah, that's deep.
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  So he says, I don't feel anything spiritually right.
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  So I'm I'm not connected with the things I should be connected
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  with, but I'm excited for the social element of Shalom.
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  I was saying, well, bro, this is like This is why it's here.
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  Allah says like call on to me and I'll answer you and Subhan
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  Allah when Allah says it, he says in the verse, he says and
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  when they ask you, he doesn't say tell them to call on to me.
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  Allah says call on to me. You know, he doesn't use an
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  intermediary by saying tell them, you know, Subhan Allah or
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  Jubal. But the point being is when when
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  we think about what we need like I was speaking to so much about
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  it about this earlier. He was like, well, maybe the
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  community thing is there for bringing you back to Allah, span
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  to Allah. Like you go to Moscow, see your
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  friends and at the same time you're going to listen to da
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  after da, you're going to read the Holy Quran.
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  You're forced to be there at that time and place.
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  But what advice would you give to people at this time of year
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  who are struggling, who see their family and their friends
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  preparations, the stories on Instagram, the houses are being
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  decorated. You know, they know that they
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  have to fast or they know that they're going to be surrounded
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  by this. They're not kind of in momentum
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  with it and they feel like they're lagging behind, but
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  they're not motivated to pick up the pace and catch up.
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  Do you get me? It's interesting, you know, how
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  it's something compulsory. I think sometimes we're always
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  chasing a feeling and we forget that sometimes just something
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  needs to be done. It's like prayer, like whether
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  you're feeling or you're not feeling, you have to pray.
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  Doesn't matter. You know?
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  There's another nice one by Sheikh Maidi Rasani who's like
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  how we always say that prayer, like some people say that prayer
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  always needs to feel spiritual. Like try feeling spiritual when
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  you're praying on a plane or for example, like, let's say it's
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  almost and you have to get out of your car and pray in the
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  middle of the, the rain. You know, like, like there's
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  times where prayers and spiritual we have to do it.
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  So I think, I think the, the, the, the spiritual feeling or
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  whatever it is we're chasing, it should always be secondary.
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  You know, sometimes we can be chasing something that that that
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  comes and goes to honestly, let's be honest, like there's
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  times where you have that spiritual feeling and times
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  where you don't, but you have to dedicate your time to listening
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  to God. And I think sometimes we, we
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  forget that it's not just about the spiritual feeling, but it's
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  also about discipline. It's about discipline.
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  A lot of the stuff that we have in Islam, it's about discipline,
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  getting off the prey on time discipline, getting off a fudger
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  discipline, fasting discipline. You know, Allah is trying to
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  make you discipline as a person to obey a command even if you're
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  not feeling it, you know, even if for example, spiritual you're
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  not feeling it, you still have to do it.
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  And that requires a lot of discipline.
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  It's not easy, you know, and that rewires you as a person.
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  So if you come after Hamadan and you might say, for example,
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  yeah, you know, I didn't really feel it.
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  Whatever spiritually at the very least, at least your discipline
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  now at least you've discovered you're more, you're stronger
• 16:52
  than you think you were, right? Another great point by this was
• 16:55
  by Sheikh Bahmanpour said this, he was like, I think someone
• 17:00
  asked him what's the best amount to do only at other like what do
• 17:03
  you recommend? And he said people should do
• 17:05
  what their hearts are inclined to the most.
• 17:08
  So for example, let's say you're feeling to recite Quran, focus
• 17:12
  on Quran, you're feeling to, for example, recite this door or
• 17:15
  that door, do that and said or Salah do that instead.
• 17:18
  Or you have, for example, stories, if I'm not mistaken,
• 17:19
  of, of some people who who who do is like work on the Al Qaeda
• 17:23
  because they're more inclined to that.
• 17:25
  So I think, I think it's also about Shahramad has time to
• 17:29
  really rediscover yourself. And I was thinking about this
• 17:32
  all because you, you mentioned this briefly as well.
• 17:34
  It's about I, I've realized like the, the older I get and the
• 17:38
  more I change, the more I realize I've kind of stayed the
• 17:40
  same. It's kind of, it's kind of hard
• 17:43
  to describe, but it's like, like some of the things that I
• 17:45
  struggle with mentally now when I think back to age 17/18/19,
• 17:49
  like I was really struggling the same things then, you know, and
• 17:53
  it makes you think like, for example, let's say you have
• 17:54
  someone who's very anxious. That person is always going to
• 17:56
  be anxious. It's it's about how he deals
• 17:59
  with with anxiety. Someone who's angry, he's always
• 18:01
  going to be angry, but he deals with his anginity restrains it.
• 18:04
  I think I feel like all of us have our, have our have the way
• 18:06
  we, we, we, we are when we were born.
• 18:08
  And you'll notice when you have kids, you'll see, for example,
• 18:09
  like they have different characters and you haven't
• 18:11
  taught them things, but they're just different ways, even that
• 18:14
  if they have the same upbringing.
• 18:15
  So I think each of us has a Neffs, Each of us has a
• 18:18
  personality. Each of us has a way about us.
• 18:21
  And I think it's really not about losing ourselves, but
• 18:24
  rediscovering ourselves. That means it's like trying to
• 18:28
  find the purest version of yourself.
• 18:30
  So if your person has a lot of anxiety, you know, you just
• 18:33
  become a bit more, you still have that anxiety there.
• 18:34
  It's not going to go away, you know, but you've just more
• 18:36
  control. You've found a way to deal with
• 18:38
  it. You're angry, you've found a way
• 18:39
  to deal with that anger. You're having this issue or that
• 18:41
  issue or you're away in a certain way.
• 18:43
  You use you, you use Shahramadhaan and the AML that
• 18:46
  you that you do and, and the fasting to kind of push you in
• 18:49
  the right direction to become the best version of yourself or
• 18:51
  the best person, but the best version of yourself because of
• 18:54
  those are different. I think that's a very
• 18:55
  interesting way to think about how Shah Ramadan rewires us, and
• 18:59
  that's also going back to the point of why it's compulsory for
• 19:02
  us. You know, it's compulsory to
• 19:04
  make sure that we all do it the right way.
• 19:06
  That's that's the very, very beautiful.
• 19:08
  I think what you've said Noori is so beautiful and you've
• 19:11
  presented it so eloquently. And I think for those who are
• 19:13
  struggling at home listening to this, where you find yourself
• 19:17
  starting here now at the beginning of Shah Ramadan, I
• 19:19
  think it really defines where he will be not just during the
• 19:22
  month, but after either throughout the entire year.
• 19:25
  And I think it's very important we recalibrate ourselves and
• 19:28
  understand the whole, the whole process on the whole reasoning
• 19:30
  behind fasting. Because for many people fasting
• 19:35
  is just about abstaining and refraining from eating and
• 19:38
  drinking. They forget that when it comes
• 19:39
  to some, it's not just the food or the drink.
• 19:43
  It's not the soul fast the tongue, fast your eyes, fast
• 19:48
  every limb you have also fast along with you.
• 19:51
  And that's nothing I don't think we understand.
• 19:54
  And sadly, I would say if I look around in the world today, even
• 19:59
  online, just open up social media when we talk about soul
• 20:01
  and fasting, everything is about food.
• 20:04
  There's nothing about spirituality.
• 20:06
  There is nothing not that is wrong.
• 20:08
  Don't get me wrong, it's nice to have good of fun and whatnot,
• 20:10
  but then we forget the point. The whole essence of what storm
• 20:12
  is. And if someone asked me today,
• 20:14
  why are you fasting? Or even bro, if I go back to
• 20:17
  primary school, secondary school even what the institution
• 20:20
  religious education? You give charity, you don't eat
• 20:25
  and drink during daylight hours. That was like the explanation
• 20:27
  everyone has given. But what is it?
• 20:30
  What is this whole? What a song.
• 20:32
  I mean, even then, even the give charity element is not something
• 20:35
  that I think is as widely taught as opposed to fasting.
• 20:38
  And like we said with Shamali last week, I don't know if you
• 20:41
  had the podcast Nori, but we, we talked about how fasting or the
• 20:46
  definitions or the descriptions of Shahramaban can be seen as
• 20:49
  superficial or maybe, let's say, more apparent and less apparent
• 20:52
  or to to the non-muslim I reasons.
• 20:55
  The first being, for example, the abstination of from food and
• 20:58
  drink. And the second being, you know,
• 21:00
  the, the restraining, the self-control and the discipline.
• 21:02
  And the third then being, you know, the taqwa that you're
• 21:06
  trying to gain. Allah tells us that you're
• 21:08
  trying to gain because ultimately that's what
• 21:10
  Shahramaban is. That is the fastest, the fast of
• 21:12
  the soul and the fast of the body, you know, and all of the
• 21:15
  limbs and on all of our, all of our beings, that the, the
• 21:20
  determination that you gain from Shahar al Malvan, from the fast
• 21:24
  is meant to transform you. You know, it's meant to be
• 21:26
  something which like you guys have said, very ethical.
• 21:28
  I don't need to repeat to reset you and to set you on a
• 21:31
  trajectory for further growth. I was reading today, do I see
• 21:36
  for sajadiya #44. This is what Imam Sajad Al Islam
• 21:40
  says to recite in preparation and to welcome the month of
• 21:43
  Shahar al Malvan. Just the first excerpt, like
• 21:46
  from the first paragraph of the DA, the Imam Ali Islam says.
• 21:50
  And praise belongs to our last panel, to Allah, who appointed
• 21:52
  among those roads his month, the month of Ramadan, the month of
• 21:56
  fasting, the month of submission, the month of purity,
• 22:00
  the month, the month of putting to the test, the month of
• 22:04
  standing in prayer, in which the Quran was sent down as a
• 22:07
  guidance to the people. And there's clear signs of the
• 22:09
  guidance and the separator. He clarified its excellence over
• 22:13
  other months. This month is about complete
• 22:16
  submission, you know, and I think that's something so
• 22:19
  beautiful how it's, you know, it's, it's, it's a relationship
• 22:23
  between mankind, the word of God through the Holy Quran.
• 22:27
  The representatives of a last month are all on earth, the
• 22:30
  island Beta Liam Salam, two vehicles that take us back to
• 22:33
  Las Palota Allah and we see them both in the holy month.
• 22:36
  You know how the Quran and the Alan debate, they never separate
• 22:39
  like the Holy Prophet promised us and that in this month they
• 22:42
  we use them as vessels to find the last one to Allah.
• 22:45
  So I think it's such, so beautifully crafted when you
• 22:48
  think about the chronology of the dates, Shahram Avan, how
• 22:51
  it's so intertwined, say the Khadija and Muhammad Hassan and
• 22:54
  Miramat mini. All of these dates are so
• 22:56
  beautifully curated for us and how the Holy Quran is given that
• 23:01
  precedence and prominence and the last few days such that our
• 23:05
  primary focus is not just awareness and information of the
• 23:09
  Quran, but recognition of the Quran.
• 23:11
  I saw somewhere on social media today, I'm not going to say
• 23:14
  where, but I saw somewhere on social media which was basically
• 23:16
  like, yeah, you know what we should do with the Quran?
• 23:19
  We should open it up and just check it out for inspiration.
• 23:23
  I was like, come on, man. Like the Quran is meant to be
• 23:25
  more than that. It's not it's not meant to be
• 23:27
  like a reference book kind of, if you see what I mean.
• 23:30
  Of course it's got to be more than that.
• 23:31
  It. Is more than that even like when
• 23:32
  it comes to the Quran now it's the month of Ramadan.
• 23:34
  I think many of us, the majority of us Insha'allah will be at
• 23:37
  least reading if not one, just one page a day at least when it
• 23:40
  comes to the holy book. But understand that when we
• 23:42
  recite the Quran as Allah as they were just speaking to us
• 23:46
  and if we see it from that lens, bro, everything can change.
• 23:50
  Everything you read about on the Quran, especially if you
• 23:53
  understand the tafsir, that. But even if you have to read the
• 23:55
  translation, read the translation.
• 23:57
  You understand Arabic, read it 100%.
• 23:59
  Read the right ones, the ones that are in line with the
• 24:01
  method. But not just the translation
• 24:03
  like read read read the tafasir like the top wheel of the Quran.
• 24:06
  There's so many a hadith about specific verses of the Quran.
• 24:10
  The reflection on a couple of ayat is far more beneficial
• 24:14
  obviously speaking than just reading like parrots pages after
• 24:18
  page. I remember Shahram Mulan when I
• 24:19
  was like 1314. I was determined.
• 24:22
  I wanted to finish on that month.
• 24:24
  I was determined, bro, you know what I did the last really bad
• 24:27
  last like a day or two of the month.
• 24:30
  I don't think I've told my my my parents, but they'll probably.
• 24:33
  Find out they're. Going to find out.
• 24:34
  No, you know what I did? Nah.
• 24:35
  I I went on YouTube. I played it on like times 3
• 24:39
  speed. I was reading it a lot.
• 24:42
  I was like, I have to finish it. I went downstairs.
• 24:44
  I was like I finished. I finished the Quran.
• 24:47
  What's the point now, looking back?
• 24:48
  And obviously my intentions were pure.
• 24:50
  I wanted to finish the Quran. It was a milestone achievement
• 24:52
  for me, you know. But at the same time, you gain
• 24:55
  these things with knowledge and experience.
• 24:57
  You recognise that sometimes a verse or an ayah or even the
• 25:00
  word, a descriptive word, alas, Bundallah uses in itself is
• 25:06
  introspective for us, like we might take something from that.
• 25:08
  Do you know what I mean? Yeah.
• 25:09
  Yeah, yeah. Can I add one more thing about
• 25:11
  the Quran, by the way, is that and that this was something we
• 25:14
  were Sheikh Hayoub was mentioning the other day.
• 25:17
  There was like a panel where we had was by the organization with
• 25:23
  our own Shahzad and he was emphasizing on the Quran,
• 25:26
  especially a Shia, why we should never, never, ever separate from
• 25:30
  this. Firstly, it was about the hadith
• 25:32
  he referenced earlier about the faqalain, which are the two
• 25:34
  things, but something he added onto it was that the Quran, A
• 25:39
  Shia, if we read like we say, you know, we look up to Emir
• 25:41
  Aboumeen, Ali Salaam, what was his final words to Al Hassan and
• 25:45
  Hussein And when he was speaking to them, that means he's
• 25:47
  speaking to us, Allah, Allah, Al Quran, don't let anyone
• 25:50
  supersede you when it comes to the Quran, right?
• 25:53
  This is something we don't think about.
• 25:55
  And you spoke about reflection, everything.
• 25:57
  It was very simple. Open up one verse, Wallah, one
• 26:00
  verse, just one verse and do the double reflect.
• 26:06
  That's what it takes, an hour of reflection.
• 26:08
  Raswal Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam says it's greater than
• 26:11
  70 years of worship. Can you imagine you spend 70
• 26:14
  years worshipping, 70 years fasting, 70 years praying, and
• 26:18
  you don't know what you're doing, but you reflect for an
• 26:20
  hour. You've done Ibadi for 70 years
• 26:23
  in the eyes of Allah is that simple.
• 26:25
  Islam is not hard. We make it.
• 26:27
  We make. I think also I mentioned this
• 26:29
  last, last time I was here, but like having a routine with the
• 26:31
  Quran and reciting it is, is, is so important because I again,
• 26:35
  like, I feel like a lot of us, we have like we wound up, we're
• 26:39
  lonely, like we're longing a lot.
• 26:41
  And, and the Quran, in my experience, always kind of cures
• 26:44
  that. It's healing.
• 26:45
  It's, it's very healing. Like it's healing in ways you
• 26:48
  don't kind of expect, you know, like, like I, I, I can, I, I see
• 26:51
  a difference in myself if I sit down really slowly.
• 26:53
  I've seen, for example, it's kind of weird.
• 26:54
  Like maybe immediately you won't feel it, but like an hour to
• 26:57
  later you can just. Like a hazard effect, you know
• 26:59
  you have that effect. Where you're very calm and I
• 27:02
  think that imagine, for example, you, you tell yourself, for
• 27:05
  example, that every morning and night you're going to dedicate
• 27:08
  yourself to reciting some sort of Quran.
• 27:10
  Have that, for example, routine with you.
• 27:13
  I think it's very important because you kind of like
• 27:15
  shielding yourself against, you know, God forbid you head
• 27:18
  outside the house and you get into a car crash or something
• 27:21
  else or you do some money or something that will usually wind
• 27:23
  you up. You're ready to go.
• 27:24
  Like you're armored, you're good.
• 27:26
  You're not in a position where you're so weak, weak hearted
• 27:29
  and, and, and and and weak, weak willed where anything outside is
• 27:33
  going to affect you. I think that is is is really
• 27:36
  important. And we have, for example,
• 27:37
  narration that tells us, for example, that we should recycle
• 27:39
  on, if I'm not mistaken, staying down during the day, but
• 27:42
  standing up during the night. And I think that's important
• 27:46
  reminder that Allah wants us to recycle on not just at night.
• 27:50
  Some of the reason they're short to walk up for the sleep to
• 27:52
  Razak. There's other ammo you can do so
• 27:54
  you are seeing now and then. But imagine for example, you
• 27:57
  pick a pick a few Suras every night before you see Surat at
• 28:00
  the Cartha, for example. It's very good for moving away
• 28:03
  the the pangs of the of the grave when you die.
• 28:07
  So again, I've mentioned this before, but like, yeah, first of
• 28:11
  all, like, like, like look at the Suras that might benefit you
• 28:13
  or that might benefit, you know, help you as you, as you yourself
• 28:17
  as a person and dedicate some time to reciting those surahs,
• 28:22
  you know, everyone. Becomes so personal as well,
• 28:24
  like a relationship with. Surah Surah for example shems is
• 28:29
  I forgot what's good for but there was 1 Surah Surah.
• 28:32
  Nazi art makes you very for example or never One of the two
• 28:35
  makes you very for example happy as a person.
• 28:38
  You know there's other surahs as well.
• 28:40
  Surah fajar for example. I've read the BZ close that mind
• 28:42
  saying. What would be your favorite
• 28:44
  Surah? What would you say?
• 28:47
  I have AI have a routine of a few that I I do.
• 28:53
  I'll share it with you. Those are medefil riyama shemps.
• 28:59
  Occasionally you are seen in Jin as well.
• 29:02
  Yeah. And also Fudger.
• 29:05
  Fudger. So.
• 29:06
  So Fudger. Yeah, I've read it.
• 29:09
  Connection to what I'm saying. I'm not the no, there's this.
• 29:11
  But I can feel it personally. Like when I when I recite it, I
• 29:14
  feel that. What I mean in strength.
• 29:15
  And connection to what I'm saying.
• 29:17
  As in it mentions. You I can see the parallels
• 29:20
  poetically. I can see the parallels with
• 29:21
  everything, yeah. Well, and also.
• 29:23
  There's there's a few. And and it talks specifically
• 29:28
  about elements which you think this is directly for a moment.
• 29:33
  There's hadith about sort. Of there's a few in the 3rd and
• 29:36
  I sort of know for example is good for Hajjat, I think it's
• 29:39
  good for Isaac. Yes.
• 29:40
  There's a few. You mentioned waka as well.
• 29:42
  Obviously there's there's there's saunas which are highly
• 29:45
  recommended during Shahramahan, we know.
• 29:47
  So it's an uncle to reference that.
• 29:49
  Yeah. So it's Rome, all of the obvious
• 29:51
  ones, and obviously sort of without, you know.
• 29:54
  There's goes without saying. Yeah, it goes without saying.
• 29:57
  There's a whole thing there's I read somewhere, I don't know if
• 30:00
  this is, you know, I'll have to Fact Check this about reading
• 30:03
  sort of other 1000 times throughout the month and that
• 30:06
  there's macam that comes with it, for example.
• 30:09
  So like it should be something consistently on our tongues.
• 30:11
  I don't know if you guys do the same, but as the shout out
• 30:13
  Maman, that's the only sort of I'm doing five times a day.
• 30:15
  You know, what I'm saying is we have, we have a sea of amel that
• 30:19
  I didn't even like know about. You know, I always go on
• 30:22
  Instagram as a chef and every day you post an amel.
• 30:24
  There's so many beautiful amel that that that we have in our
• 30:27
  religion. For example, there's there's one
• 30:29
  the last few days of of Shaban. I'll send you it.
• 30:32
  It's Sura. It's just completely blank.
• 30:37
  It's Surat one of the sura. Sorry.
• 30:40
  It's like 11 times you recite the Sura and then, for example,
• 30:42
  you get your TSP and you recite one thing 100 times, another 100
• 30:45
  times. And it's meant for Hajat.
• 30:47
  So the point being, there's a lot of ammo that we can do and I
• 30:50
  think it can kind of become like a fun, no, not game, but like
• 30:53
  you can like do some research, look at some ammel that that you
• 30:56
  know might benefit you and dedicate each day in
• 30:59
  Shahramadhan to doing it. And even just having that
• 31:01
  routine. For example, waking up in the
• 31:03
  morning, reciting, for example, do Ahat in the morning, Sabah,
• 31:07
  find the time to recite Istashir, for example, Mujir.
• 31:10
  And these Doas, as you know, when you do them, they have a
• 31:13
  very positive impact to me. But when you do it every day,
• 31:16
  I've seen first hand like the rewiring it does of your of you
• 31:20
  just rewires you and dedicating an hour a day, half an hour in
• 31:24
  the morning, half an hour at night to to, you know, certain
• 31:27
  do ours. I really think it's it's very
• 31:28
  beneficial. Sabah had really recommend those
• 31:31
  wonders And yes, this year, which I recommended last time as
• 31:34
  well. And in that way, you can kind of
• 31:36
  make sure I'm a lot kind of fun. You know, you have your own kind
• 31:38
  of routine, that which you've heard for yourself, you know
• 31:41
  which you do everyday. You know, the sewers that you
• 31:43
  like, the the odds that you like.
• 31:44
  You want to get close to Momenti, for example, you can
• 31:46
  start with saying, duh, I had and forage and a few others and
• 31:50
  and and and really make your own routine.
• 31:52
  Make Shahramadhan your own kind of maybe which is there is
• 31:55
  anything you know. There's a concoction of other
• 31:57
  area which like highly like you mentioned Duhamajir.
• 32:00
  Duhamajir for me was nostalgic from my childhood.
• 32:03
  Shahram Madan Duhamajir, for example, or for example, do I
• 32:06
  used to share. I've told you about the yeah,
• 32:09
  like bro, I love the podcast by the end, like just the
• 32:17
  introduction of the Doha is beautiful and like there's some
• 32:21
  there's a lot of personal like what's the word gems that you
• 32:25
  can. Get so many gems.
• 32:26
  There's so many. What I.
• 32:28
  Mean to say is like, bro, there's things which Allah has
• 32:31
  created this religion for everyone.
• 32:33
  Yeah, but you will feel like he's created it for you.
• 32:37
  The verses you read, the relationship you build.
• 32:39
  Like for example, you might pick a a Saura and you're like this
• 32:43
  Saura, I'm going to research it. Yeah, I don't know.
• 32:48
  You look into it, you understand that there's origin to it.
• 32:50
  Is it Mecca and the medallion, for example, You understand the
• 32:53
  context is revealed. You look at a hadith from the
• 32:56
  idle debate, Alehem Saddam about the the ammal of that solar, the
• 33:00
  merits of that solar ayat in the in the solar and then
• 33:04
  specifically more so then you begin reciting it.
• 33:07
  You hear beautiful recitations of it.
• 33:09
  There are verses which stand out tune like today I called up said
• 33:12
  Ali and I'm as far as I called on on the phone.
• 33:15
  Do you remember? You know it's beautiful because
• 33:23
  you start to build a connection with the versus, But this is
• 33:25
  what the holy month is. About again, I think like each
• 33:27
  of us has our own issues. Each of us has our own.
• 33:30
  It's not issues, things we need to work on or for example, radar
• 33:32
  character that we need to work on, even though things we need
• 33:35
  to work on, just ways we can improve.
• 33:37
  You know, if you think about what kind of person you want to
• 33:39
  be after Shahramadha. So what is the ideal person you
• 33:41
  want to be after Shahramadha? How do you get there?
• 33:43
  Find the Ahmad that puts you toward that makes you more
• 33:47
  hardworking or makes you more this or makes you more patient
• 33:49
  or, you know, whatever it is, makes you less angry.
• 33:51
  It's good for whatever it is you need, whatever it is you want,
• 33:54
  whatever it is you want to become.
• 33:56
  You can really tailor your own animal kind of schedule to to
• 34:01
  help you and benefit you. And I think again, for me, maybe
• 34:04
  it's just me that's kind of like the fun part of of all this is
• 34:07
  like, like just, you know, finding all these little gems
• 34:09
  and just using it to your own benefit.
• 34:11
  No, no, that's very nice. And you say it's fun, It's fun,
• 34:13
  yeah. Yeah, because.
• 34:14
  So this is the thing like you mentioned that, that that
• 34:17
  brother who, for example, can't find the, the, the spirituality
• 34:20
  and Shahramadam, when he sees everyone around him doing the
• 34:23
  same thing, you know, not it sounds weird to say not everyone
• 34:26
  is down for those, you know, bring the IT sounds horrible.
• 34:28
  It says, but not everyone's down for those, you know, standard
• 34:29
  classical, you know, Ramadan vibes that we, you know, hang up
• 34:33
  decorations, stuff like that. We'll cut this.
• 34:34
  Oh, make sure is. This is the viral cup you're
• 34:38
  going to put. She's going to get a lot of
• 34:39
  comments again. No, you're right.
• 34:42
  Like, not everyone's up for the cliches.
• 34:44
  No point being is that everyone's different.
• 34:45
  Of course, some people are more reserved, some people are more,
• 34:48
  you know, introverted. You know, some people, for
• 34:50
  example, they they like to sit home and read out.
• 34:52
  Some people are very extroverted.
• 34:53
  They want to go out and be in the mosque every day and speak
• 34:55
  to people. And maybe that's your Ahmed.
• 34:56
  Maybe that's your Ahmed is to take the family to the mosque
• 34:58
  every day to to Sam or wherever and just have a lot of
• 35:00
  conversations and have a try outside, you know, like.
• 35:03
  Everyone's like you miss. Everyone's different.
• 35:05
  Yeah, I do. Everyone's different.
• 35:07
  And and I think, I think maybe his, his disenfranchisement is,
• 35:12
  is not so much to do with the Amin itself, but for example
• 35:15
  with following the schedule. That, you know, it's a guilt.
• 35:18
  So people who, for example, have used the 11 months outside of
• 35:21
  Shahad Al Mahvan or they've been slipping, for example, people
• 35:24
  have struggled, right. So you go through trauma like
• 35:26
  this particular individual I know struggled in their personal
• 35:29
  lives. So, and I think as you know,
• 35:31
  they have might have self esteem issues or they, they, they've
• 35:35
  something's happened to them or their family and as a result,
• 35:38
  everything slips. Their performance at work, their
• 35:40
  performance at home, their performance with their family,
• 35:42
  all of these things ultimately then they look at themselves in
• 35:45
  a negative light. They're saying, what am I worth?
• 35:47
  For example, Shadow Milan is for everyone like and like you said,
• 35:51
  like wherever you are, it's it's there for you and you can use it
• 35:55
  for you or. Sharon.
• 35:56
  Milan. Sorry.
• 35:57
  Go on. I want to give a special shout
• 35:59
  out to the rebirths in Sharon, Milan.
• 36:00
  Yeah, because I've heard stories.
• 36:02
  I've I've met. People and they motivate me.
• 36:05
  I feel sorry for for those rebirths, especially those
• 36:07
  who've been authorized from family.
• 36:08
  Yeah, Ramadan by themselves. Nori, I was going to ask you
• 36:12
  because. Some of the mosques and stuff
• 36:13
  like that, maybe not in the work me for example, when I have a
• 36:15
  community near them and they just feel very lonely,
• 36:18
  especially when they're new rebirths, I really feel for
• 36:20
  them. I out my heart breaks for them
• 36:22
  and. I was going to ask you, Nori,
• 36:24
  because we had. That's not easy for everyone.
• 36:26
  Someone said, yeah, this is what I was going to say.
• 36:29
  So in preparation to the podcast, we put out some stories
• 36:32
  and we had a bunch of responses and one of the we asked like,
• 36:36
  what do you want to hear about from Shah al Mahdan?
• 36:39
  And someone says something for Shia rivets coming from Sunni
• 36:42
  families, dealing with backlash, etcetera.
• 36:45
  As a Shia rive came from the Sunni family, how would you
• 36:48
  respond to that? The thing is, I'm not the best
• 36:50
  person to ask. Your experience is a bit.
• 36:52
  Different, I wasn't like like when I'm Hamdul, I was very
• 36:56
  lucky, but again, like I've met Rebus who are literally like
• 36:59
  ostracized from their family, for example, don't live near a
• 37:01
  community, you know, and for those people, I honestly don't
• 37:04
  know what that what the the solution is.
• 37:06
  You know, I don't. I remember one of our friends
• 37:08
  used to have AI, used to get invited to this iftar every
• 37:11
  every year. I just look around and say he's
• 37:13
  certainly like everyone hears A revert.
• 37:14
  And I realise like it's like a pity of these guys.
• 37:16
  He doesn't get my let's bring them all in.
• 37:19
  The kind of stuff is fearful though.
• 37:21
  It is beautiful coming together. Stuff is nice.
• 37:22
  I think. I think that the onus, the onus
• 37:24
  is on us, yeah. So.
• 37:26
  To look for those in our community who might be lonely,
• 37:30
  who might not have family. Maybe they're studying abroad,
• 37:33
  maybe for example, their divorce was separated or for example,
• 37:35
  their new reverts and haven't got people around them or
• 37:37
  struggling. Yeah, or, or struggling like a
• 37:39
  lot of people are struggling. Bro.
• 37:41
  This is this is the one thing I've realized about life.
• 37:42
  Everyone's struggling. Yeah, once you move to someone's
• 37:45
  house, you see their problems, and some people have some
• 37:47
  serious problems and struggles that they're going through.
• 37:50
  And God bless everyone. And I think that's also why it's
• 37:52
  important for us to always pray for others as well.
• 37:55
  I think that's very important. It's a beautiful, beautiful
• 37:57
  story I want to share with you that really changed my
• 38:00
  perspective on the power of the art.
• 38:02
  It took place during the time of Imam Hadi al Islam.
• 38:06
  There was a man I his name has completely escaped me, but he
• 38:09
  was going toward Mutuaku because he had some like he wanted to
• 38:13
  request some rights or something from the caliph.
• 38:15
  And he says, as I was going toward the the palace, I saw a
• 38:18
  man coming from the distance and he's like, I didn't know who
• 38:21
  this man was, but I instantly fell in love with him.
• 38:24
  I had no idea who he was. And I saw they'll take him to be
• 38:26
  executed. This man was Imam Hadi al Islam
• 38:30
  and he says not even with my hands, not even my speech in my
• 38:33
  heart I said Allah, Huma, it's for Anhu Qatar.
• 38:37
  Yeah, he just Allah just please stop his execution.
• 38:40
  And as I said that, Imam walked past me and Imam looked at me
• 38:44
  and he said, oh man. He said my name.
• 38:45
  He goes, Allah has answered your door and he has increased your
• 38:49
  Rizik and he has increased your children and everything else,
• 38:52
  right. And then Imam was suddenly his
• 38:55
  execution was obviously cancelled and he was, he was
• 38:58
  killed like I think, but I believed years later, but the
• 39:01
  speaker who was mentioning this was like, like, that's the power
• 39:03
  of the AH just for like especially the AH for someone
• 39:05
  else. We forget how much of the Ah's
• 39:07
  help other people. And you know, what's crazy is
• 39:11
  that he made his, he made this point, which, which like gets me
• 39:14
  every day I think about it, He's like, imagine if this one random
• 39:19
  person's dua delayed Imam Hai's execution.
• 39:24
  It could be a random person, a random woman in the shrine, a
• 39:28
  random old chef, like a like a Arab, for example, or whoever
• 39:32
  else going to the shrine, those people they see in the shrine.
• 39:35
  It could be someone's heartfelt dua that might bring forward the
• 39:37
  Imam's return by a few years or decades or even centuries.
• 39:41
  You know, point being is, and it goes.
• 39:43
  Imagine, for example, let's say you make that dua and your dua's
• 39:45
  answer, Imagine how many people you've saved in that period of
• 39:47
  time because you bought the Imam's return forward.
• 39:51
  Point being, Adua can help so many people.
• 39:53
  So I think also when it in addition to also helping people,
• 39:57
  you know, with our actions and with our, you know, inviting
• 40:00
  them over and being present for them and being very merciful.
• 40:02
  I think that's also very important.
• 40:04
  Spend some time when you're at home just praying for other
• 40:08
  people, people that you know, your friends, you know, people
• 40:10
  that you've met. I think it's, it's very
• 40:13
  important and just, and just make a generic dua for them all.
• 40:15
  Remove the tribulations. Answer the Hawaj and think of
• 40:18
  their sense very simple and and you will also be rewarded for
• 40:22
  that DAW. And I think an extended part of
• 40:25
  that, just to kind of round this point up is like, and I say this
• 40:28
  to myself first, I think it's very important that we as people
• 40:31
  are also, we can think about those actions about giving
• 40:35
  charity, for example, or inviting people to a house,
• 40:36
  whatever. But I think just be must for
• 40:38
  people that you meet, be very generous with your attention and
• 40:41
  your energy to everyone that you meet random people, Be intrigued
• 40:44
  by people. You have no idea how much it
• 40:45
  means to to to people sometimes just to be intrigued by them.
• 40:48
  Hey, so how are you doing, bro? Oh, what are you doing now?
• 40:50
  Oh, that's amazing. Like what, what are you working?
• 40:52
  Just that that kind of stuff for some people, you have no idea
• 40:55
  how much it means. You know, I remember one time I
• 40:56
  was, I was, I was, I was in New York and I was like, this is
• 40:59
  like years ago. I was wound up as usual, as you
• 41:02
  know, me, I had some work going on and I was, I wasn't wound up.
• 41:05
  I was thinking about something and just some random person came
• 41:07
  up and he goes, are you OK? I'm like, yeah, I'm fine.
• 41:09
  Like just smile, it's OK. And they walked through.
• 41:12
  I was like, that's such a nice thing to say.
• 41:13
  Like it's, it's strange. It's strange.
• 41:15
  It's a random person. That's what.
• 41:16
  I knew it's. Just it's like it just made me
• 41:19
  feel good. It's like wow.
• 41:19
  Like it's, I know it's very simple, but imagine doing that
• 41:22
  at the mosque with. People that you know,
• 41:24
  compassion, right? Compassion.
• 41:25
  But we think about compassion in terms of, you know, like acts of
• 41:29
  service sometimes, sometimes no. Your attention, considerate,
• 41:32
  just your attention and your intrigue.
• 41:33
  I think that's very important. You know, your engagement show
• 41:35
  that you, you, Yeah, you know. How we talk about how, how the
• 41:38
  prophet obviously was the pinnacle of mercy.
• 41:39
  A lot of that mercy was also in his attention to people.
• 41:42
  Yeah, he gave everyone the the Jew and he gave, he gave them
• 41:45
  the his love in his heart. So I think that's very
• 41:48
  important. I think that's something I tell
• 41:49
  myself as well, to be generous with your attention and your
• 41:51
  energy and your love to everyone you meet and just value them.
• 41:55
  Be good vibes man. No, that's be good vibes.
• 41:57
  Yeah, be good vibes. And jar from Madar and all about
• 42:01
  that. Remembering the others before we
• 42:03
  remembering. Again, ourself.
• 42:04
  So we hear this a lot. You're guilty of this, so we
• 42:06
  implement it. But do we invent it?
• 42:08
  We hear the story. Yeah.
• 42:08
  Yeah. Oh, she she prays 5 hours a day.
• 42:10
  Yeah. OK.
• 42:11
  If we hear it others, we don't actually do it ourselves.
• 42:13
  Like you like you're saying a judge from Madar, Like what?
• 42:16
  What say the Fatima Islam did she actually thought about
• 42:20
  people every night and we try and do the same thing.
• 42:23
  For example, we make a routine with like with all our wield
• 42:25
  mush Allah Hamdullah have young kids, right.
• 42:27
  I'm sure we did some something routine with our kids.
• 42:30
  We we I don't know, but I'm sure you guys do with my older
• 42:33
  brothers. But with my kids, for example,
• 42:35
  we do a nightly dog. We pray for people around us,
• 42:37
  pray for the Imam, pray for this, pray for that.
• 42:39
  Do you know what I mean? Just implementation of that as a
• 42:42
  routine. You know, we're saying that
• 42:44
  shadow Mahmans about routine. Once you make that regiment,
• 42:46
  then you know it's. Become a habit finally speaking
• 42:49
  about kids and you're speaking about praying about others.
• 42:51
  And we made in the last 24 hours, we made the intention of
• 42:54
  Charlotte to soon go to Omrah as a family.
• 42:57
  And I was talking to my daughter Hanian and the person that was
• 43:02
  another family member with us, they were like to Hanian, oh,
• 43:04
  when you go, when you're next to the Cabot, pray for me.
• 43:07
  And she was like, no, no, I'm going to, I'm going to pray 1st
• 43:09
  and I'll pray for you then I have to, I have to stop there
• 43:12
  and fine tune it. I'm like, no, no, we pray for
• 43:14
  others. Inshallah.
• 43:18
  Inshallah. I know.
• 43:18
  It's it's an amazing thing. Even like sometimes I'm randomly
• 43:22
  at work, I get a message. Someone's going like, I have no
• 43:25
  idea. He's in the shrine of Imam and
• 43:27
  Hussein. Yeah, he sends me a message.
• 43:29
  Salaam alaikum, say that I need of you.
• 43:31
  Hope you want. Inshallah.
• 43:32
  I'm thinking of you. I just prayed for you and I
• 43:33
  remembered you in the shrine. I'm like, wow.
• 43:35
  And then for the next month, I have a good life.
• 43:38
  Handle that. It has an effect.
• 43:40
  It does. It really does when you remember
• 43:42
  others, especially Mortman brothers.
• 43:44
  Don't forget us and show all our viewers, if you are all those,
• 43:47
  wherever you are around the world.
• 43:48
  All those who are oppressed, all those who are hungry and thirsty
• 43:51
  who are but long like there's a lot of people who are
• 43:53
  struggling, like you said. Yeah, everyone's going through
• 43:55
  something. Relatively speaking, we're going
• 43:57
  through nothing. Yeah, that's what those in all
• 43:59
  they're going through those and of course who are facing
• 44:02
  violence and aggression and all sorts of things.
• 44:05
  You know, their lands are being taken, their rights are being
• 44:08
  taken. And just as a.
• 44:10
  Chef once told me from his teacher and Hauser, he's like my
• 44:13
  teacher told me he goes the pinnacle of taqwa is to make a
• 44:17
  dua for someone that hurt you. Allah, and that's tough for
• 44:20
  many. People that's like I, I, I think
• 44:22
  about think about someone who's like like, like, like, like
• 44:24
  really like mess like, like how are you and like, like for for
• 44:28
  example, like a bad business deal or someone who like really
• 44:30
  stabbed you in the back. Imagine making the art for them.
• 44:33
  I think that's something we need to get to because it's, it's
• 44:37
  again, we're we're here for a short time.
• 44:39
  Our goal is hopefully like, I'm not saying I'm I'm there at all,
• 44:43
  but our goal is to get to as best we can, right?
• 44:44
  I think these are kind of cheat codes that you can do to
• 44:48
  overcome your ego and get to where you need to be, you know,
• 44:50
  paying for example, for someone who, who you know you, you.
• 44:54
  Really dislike. Yeah.
• 44:55
  And this is what this month is all about.
• 44:57
  Yeah. And he's not just building a
• 44:58
  relationship with our creator. No, it's mending those
• 45:01
  relationships that we have messed, messed about.
• 45:03
  And people may have issues, I don't know, with family, with
• 45:06
  friends, community members, distant people, I don't know
• 45:10
  business partners, whatever is come back.
• 45:11
  Brothers don't talk to each other.
• 45:13
  Siblings don't speak to family on speech with each other.
• 45:15
  Yeah. This is the month.
• 45:16
  Yeah, it's the type of and all of these.
• 45:18
  Things fixed it up honestly, honestly, God and, and for
• 45:20
  anyone I remember, like I just, there was a point in my head
• 45:22
  when you mentioned with the brother earlier that he, I don't
• 45:25
  think he was in the spirit of Ramadan, if that's how I
• 45:28
  understood it correctly. I, I don't know if I'm right
• 45:32
  about this, but I think a lot of times we face that, whether it's
• 45:36
  Ramadan or outside Ramadan, sometimes we compare ourselves
• 45:39
  to others in a way where we say, well, how come they are on that
• 45:41
  level spiritually? And I don't think we should see
• 45:43
  it that way. Whatever works for us.
• 45:45
  And Sha La La accepts it, right? As long as we're doing the
• 45:48
  mandatory things, which is the form, the fallah and everything
• 45:52
  when it comes to the fasting, right?
• 45:55
  Even if that's the bare minimum we're doing, keep as the bare
• 45:57
  minimum. Don't go less than that.
• 45:59
  And as long as you're doing that, you're maintaining, you're
• 46:02
  watching about Inshallah slowly. If not this Ramadan, Allah
• 46:05
  grounds us the opportunity next Ramadan, the future Ramadans, we
• 46:08
  build ourselves slowly. The problem is I think we're
• 46:11
  always like, OK, how do I maximize how I how do I do this?
• 46:14
  How do I achieve this? How?
• 46:15
  And we want to overwhelm ourselves with so much things.
• 46:19
  Take it easy. Someone, sorry, someone told me
• 46:22
  once that that getting to a place of like, good spirituality
• 46:26
  is basically just taking an extra step.
• 46:28
  Yeah. So for example, adding a tour of
• 46:29
  cart prayer to your, to your 5 minute phrase or, you know,
• 46:32
  throwing it in the morning or it don't have to be something
• 46:34
  crazy, you know, like it can just be something just a bit.
• 46:38
  And then once you've conquered that, then you've got a bit more
• 46:41
  after that bit more. Yeah, I think, I think that's
• 46:43
  that's a good way to look at increasing your.
• 46:45
  Well, step by step we can't jump.
• 46:47
  If I can add something as well, just the last thing because then
• 46:49
  I want to mention a few contributions we've had set in
• 46:53
  what you said about doing the bare minimum and even doing the
• 46:57
  additional musta habit or anything additional we can do.
• 47:00
  Ultimately it comes, it comes back to just knowing who you
• 47:03
  are, like just doing self assessments.
• 47:05
  When it comes to corporate world, we'll do SWOT analysis
• 47:08
  and risk assessments and all these things.
• 47:09
  We're very good at assessing everything else.
• 47:12
  But when it comes to ourselves, we're not very good.
• 47:13
  Right. For exactly like with me myself.
• 47:16
  Yeah, I'm like you, Nori. I think in some ways.
• 47:19
  So guys like you and me, we're thinkers.
• 47:21
  I said I'm like you in some ways.
• 47:23
  Oh, right. So guys like you and me are
• 47:24
  thinkers, right? Yeah.
• 47:27
  No, I mean, we're much more stable.
• 47:30
  We're other thinkers, we go for more, can reflect on life, yeah.
• 47:32
  That we we we go through from highs to lows within a matter of
• 47:36
  minutes. Oh my God.
• 47:37
  Wow, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 47:39
  Yeah, well, you have no idea. Yeah.
• 47:41
  And I know we, we we're both like this because we've known
• 47:43
  each other for so long. But I think for guys like us, we
• 47:46
  know because, for example, we're so emotionally volatile or
• 47:49
  mentally active. I feel like my minds on a
• 47:51
  treadmill 24/7. It could probably tell that
• 47:53
  through listening to the way I speak.
• 47:55
  But I know that for the WhatsApp groups.
• 47:59
  But no, I'm saying that you, you know yourself, use it to your
• 48:02
  advantage. Find out what your weakness is,
• 48:04
  use it to your advantage or know what you need to conquer.
• 48:07
  So for example, if you're emotionally unstable or you're
• 48:10
  emotionally volatile, understand, like you mentioned,
• 48:12
  anxiety, find a way to calm your anxieties.
• 48:15
  If you know that, for example, my issue is not the social
• 48:18
  element of Shahra Milan. I love the I love the knowledge,
• 48:22
  I love the community. My issue is my timeliness with
• 48:24
  solar. My issue is my laziness.
• 48:26
  My issue is I'm, I'm, I'm gluttonous with my food and all
• 48:31
  of these kind of things. Find a way to work on it.
• 48:34
  Do you know what I'm saying? I just want to share a few
• 48:35
  contributions with permission. So we asked, we had loads of
• 48:38
  responses to everyone from everyone.
• 48:40
  Thank you very much. We asked people what's your
• 48:42
  goal, your number one goal, The Shahramadhan the variety was.
• 48:46
  Was the last contribution was part of the same theme or was it
• 48:49
  a different? We asked 2 questions.
• 48:51
  We asked 2 questions. What was?
• 48:52
  What do you want to hear from after?
• 48:53
  Did you get any? More of those or what?
• 48:55
  Do you want to hear from after marketing?
• 48:56
  Yeah, yeah, I'll, I'll tell you those, but this one in terms of
• 48:59
  what's your number one goal, finishing the Quran no matter
• 49:02
  what. We had a lot about the Quran.
• 49:04
  Understanding more of the Quran to strengthen my bone.
• 49:06
  With the last point I like recite the Quran with the
• 49:08
  understanding to read and understand the eyelid TA.
• 49:11
  To praise Allah to lay every night and shut Allah to learn
• 49:14
  more about Allah. For Allah to heal me so I don't
• 49:17
  feel so broken and lost and say Bismillah before I eat and
• 49:22
  continue this habit. Reason called antifs here every
• 49:24
  night to get close to Allah by doing acts that please him.
• 49:28
  Once person said my biggest 1. The Shahram Bhavana's daily
• 49:31
  really makes a difference in my life.
• 49:34
  The one I enjoyed the most was to lose weight.
• 49:38
  So it shall, I mean, look, ultimately, like you said,
• 49:41
  you're doing your wajibads. I'll all take care of the rest
• 49:43
  and then. Can I just say people are so
• 49:45
  pure like, like, like, like think about all those responses
• 49:48
  that everyone's just trying to get back close to all.
• 49:50
  Isn't it like it's a very? Simple.
• 49:51
  So many more. Here, but it's like it's, it's,
• 49:54
  it's something you don't think about a lot.
• 49:55
  I think you know, I, I, I know it's, I don't know if it's just
• 49:58
  my experience, but I've noticed, for example, especially in in
• 50:01
  Michigan, like Friday prayer, the past few has been packed.
• 50:04
  You know, I was like, people are really trying to get.
• 50:06
  I've seen it increasing in London as well, by the way.
• 50:08
  Yeah, I think after, after Gazza, definitely.
• 50:11
  I've seen that actually. You know what is?
• 50:12
  Bro, I think people need the Imam like people need the imam.
• 50:16
  They don't know what it is, but they're they're like the people
• 50:19
  are looking for something. They're not getting that in
• 50:22
  anything. You know, they're not getting on
• 50:23
  social media. We've been on addicted to social
• 50:25
  media now for 10-15 years. It's driving me crazy, right?
• 50:28
  And people are still searching for something like now, bro,
• 50:32
  whatever it is, it could be Manjaro, it could be vapes.
• 50:35
  Like you're addicted to something.
• 50:36
  You're such a thing. You either want to look better,
• 50:38
  you want to feel better, you want to you're striving towards
• 50:40
  something still not getting anywhere.
• 50:42
  You know, Shakshmadi mentioned last week, the biggest battle of
• 50:45
  our, of our generation is determination.
• 50:48
  It's not money or weapons, It's determination.
• 50:50
  If we're determined to do something, whoever's the most
• 50:52
  determined will be the most successful.
• 50:54
  I I feel like the generation below us.
• 50:57
  You mean younger than? Us sorry is very not, I don't
• 51:00
  know maybe your experience, but they have a severe lack of
• 51:02
  determination. Yeah.
• 51:04
  And it's really, it's really. It's easy for them to give in.
• 51:08
  It's. Obvious what the culprit is
• 51:09
  social media, and I'm not saying I'm not I'm not, you know, and
• 51:12
  you want to come to social media either in terms of consuming
• 51:14
  social media, but like the way it rots your brains.
• 51:16
  I've seen that like, like drop of determination, especially
• 51:20
  with like work ethic, It really scares me.
• 51:22
  It really scares. Me Maybe one of our goals this
• 51:24
  Shahramavan should be to spend less time on social media.
• 51:28
  Like genuinely to use that time beneficially, especially in the
• 51:33
  night when we scroll and we're bored.
• 51:36
  For me, I unwind, I come home from work, I think to zone out.
• 51:39
  So I'll scroll or I'll just brain rock.
• 51:43
  You know, I think it's also, this is a kind of off topic, but
• 51:45
  it's kind of important to remember that boredom is
• 51:47
  important sometimes. You know, we're we're we're all
• 51:51
  90s kids, right? Like it's like, like remember
• 51:53
  those nine, those those days when you, you know, you couldn't
• 51:55
  scroll on your phone if you come home and you find your bored,
• 51:57
  you know, it's a Saturday on your bored.
• 51:58
  And, and, and from that border, I would say for myself, a lot of
• 52:01
  my creativity came from that bottom.
• 52:02
  You know, it's very important to get your brain thinking, like
• 52:07
  you said, reflecting. I think that's very important.
• 52:09
  So yeah, 100% don't just fast from food and and drink fast
• 52:12
  from sauce. Have you guys?
• 52:13
  Ever taken the kids TV away from your kids?
• 52:16
  Taking the TV away. Or not even a day difference.
• 52:19
  Night and day difference? You mean screen screen?
• 52:21
  Time. No, no, like.
• 52:23
  No. Move or ban it?
• 52:24
  Completely. 00 Screen time 90 Difference 90.
• 52:28
  Literally, So we do this every now and then, we detox.
• 52:31
  So in fact, we did it yesterday because my son, my son may love
• 52:37
  this. He's so cute, but he's cheeky
• 52:39
  like, you know, he'll, I'll tell him no more TV.
• 52:43
  For example, we had your whatever, 20 minutes, whatever,
• 52:46
  turn it off. Fine, turn it off.
• 52:47
  I'll walk out of the room and we'll turn it on.
• 52:49
  And he's a kid. He's 3-4 years old, so you know,
• 52:52
  he's still learning. He's trying to be cheeky and
• 52:55
  whatnot. So we said, look, that's enough.
• 52:58
  Danny, you've got to be honest with your word to keep your
• 52:59
  word. Today we took away the TV and
• 53:02
  we've done it a lot. We do it a few times a year.
• 53:04
  We take away the TV. You move out.
• 53:06
  Yeah, as in just or hide it or put it somewhere or.
• 53:08
  Yeah, we move it behind the cabinet basically.
• 53:12
  So there's not like the sideboard thing you put it
• 53:14
  behind. They can't even see it.
• 53:15
  They don't know where it is. So yeah, night and day
• 53:18
  difference. They're bored, they look for
• 53:20
  things to do. They start drawing, they start
• 53:21
  creating building. Yeah.
• 53:23
  Legos are good too. Yeah, yeah.
• 53:25
  Just creativity comes out, you know, Sorry, I don't want to
• 53:30
  talk so much more, but you asked for the other responses and.
• 53:33
  And so why don't you do this? I know the kids are, we're the
• 53:35
  same. We're the same, You know, we're
• 53:37
  not distracted by this stuff. You know, we as ourselves grow
• 53:40
  and, and think about how many hours you spend on social media.
• 53:43
  Let's say, for example, you spend 2 two hours day on social
• 53:45
  media, which is kind of like the norm, 2-3 hours.
• 53:47
  Imagine you spend 2-3 hours day writing a book.
• 53:49
  Yeah, bro, we had people saying that they want to start
• 53:51
  journalling. I saw, I saw it was a random
• 53:53
  clip of of someone. He would say hi to me, Dorsey in
• 53:56
  Kabul. He just bumped into me and asked
• 53:57
  him, asked a question. He goes sage.
• 53:59
  I write a book and he says, like, what's up?
• 54:04
  That's interesting. Yeah.
• 54:05
  And then and then he just said that maybe I don't know what the
• 54:07
  context was, but he goes, he's like, I want to you before you
• 54:11
  die, I want you to write 100 and 120 books, 120 books.
• 54:15
  And it's like we, we, we forget about this kind of lost art of
• 54:18
  all these things that we can, can, can dedicate our time to,
• 54:22
  that we can leave behind, that can be there for us after we
• 54:24
  die. How many books do you got?
• 54:28
  7. Some way to go?
• 54:31
  120 go as well. Do you know, well, like honestly
• 54:34
  if like if it's very much if it wasn't for this social media and
• 54:37
  spending time on social media, I think like.
• 54:39
  You'd be on 30 now. Not even just poetry books, but
• 54:41
  like other other books, non fiction novels.
• 54:44
  Like like I, I really think I'm a, I'm a born writer and I think
• 54:47
  a lot of people will be like this that is hijacked by social
• 54:50
  media. The need to post and the need to
• 54:52
  oh, it's Milad, for example, and it sounds horrible to say, but
• 54:55
  it's Milad got put out post today.
• 54:56
  Or for example, I've made this video.
• 54:58
  I've got a successor need to create and share, which I think
• 55:00
  a lot of creators have. I think social media is good
• 55:03
  because you can share stuff and benefit people at the same time.
• 55:05
  Like we forget that social media won't last forever, you know, So
• 55:09
  yeah, I think making it more a generic point.
• 55:13
  I'm, I'm an aside. If there's something that, you
• 55:15
  know, any of the views want to do during that generally that
• 55:19
  they're putting off writing a book or or, you know, a memoir,
• 55:21
  whatever it is during doing a painting.
• 55:25
  Like how about doing it during Shahramadhan, a time when you
• 55:27
  know your your Aman is rewarded like what, tenfold?
• 55:29
  Whatever it is, there might be a good way to spend.
• 55:32
  Your time. Question of Dean.
• 55:34
  Question of Dean. Question of Dean.
• 55:37
  Good memories. Good memories, Nordic.
• 55:39
  I'm going to come back to this point on what we asked our
• 55:44
  viewers online or what they want to see us to create in terms of
• 55:47
  content for aftermath. I'm just going to share with you
• 55:49
  some of the suggestions that they sent in, and I want your
• 55:53
  thoughts on these. Yeah.
• 55:54
  So someone said they want to know how to stay focused and
• 55:59
  patient as well as peaceful during hardship and anger.
• 56:03
  Someone wants to know as a lifetime struggle.
• 56:07
  Yeah. Yeah, someone wants to know one.
• 56:09
  Day at a time, one day at one day at a time.
• 56:12
  How to change your life within this month Setting realistic
• 56:15
  goals with realistic far. I don't know why I've become the
• 56:19
  guy for this, but figure out exactly who you want to be at
• 56:24
  the end of the month exactly with no boundaries, and then
• 56:28
  work your way backwards from day one to day three and tell
• 56:31
  yourself what you need to do together.
• 56:33
  Someone said I love the topic of death.
• 56:36
  Anything to do with that I'm interested in.
• 56:39
  Cologne, I think you guys didn't have effortful mouths.
• 56:42
  Watch a few conversations. Yeah, watch tabs I would say, I
• 56:45
  told on the tape. Yeah, that.
• 56:46
  Was good. I'll mention 2-3 more.
• 56:50
  Ramadan is more than just fasting at hamal and support
• 56:52
  festivals at home. How I like to go first of.
• 56:55
  All you like the whole festivals.
• 56:56
  Yeah, I. Like the one in Dear One.
• 56:58
  Yeah, the one in Dear One. It was really nice.
• 57:00
  Yeah, I wanted. To go.
• 57:01
  I mean. I mean I the way I used it.
• 57:03
  I had a plan to go Dearborn this Ramadan.
• 57:05
  They they stopped that. Oh, really?
• 57:07
  Yeah. I think it's because it's too
• 57:08
  cold. Snow, it's too cold.
• 57:09
  And I think it's other things. It's when I left, it was like
• 57:13
  -23 centigrade. Yeah, but is the ice still
• 57:15
  there? I think it's melting right now
• 57:16
  if I'm not mistaken. That's crazy, Brian.
• 57:18
  It's outside your door. Yeah, that's.
• 57:21
  Mad but you know, like like like like the so so the the Soho
• 57:23
  festival. The thing is it's like it's not
• 57:26
  just a deal. They won't thing generally we
• 57:27
  have these like things pop up, especially in America.
• 57:31
  You can like use your time at night wisely if you use it the
• 57:35
  right way, you know, take your family out or meet some friends
• 57:38
  and spend it in halal and you know there's nothing wrong with
• 57:40
  that. You know, depending on how you
• 57:43
  use it. Fair enough, fair enough.
• 57:44
  I'm going to give you 2 more. One being is how to connect to
• 57:48
  our Imam during this time referring to.
• 57:52
  There's a nice to recite every day.
• 57:55
  This is all stuff I've heard that I'm reading.
• 57:56
  It's not. I'm not like.
• 58:09
  A. Scholar or anything Allah
• 58:18
  Mubarak in that Mama is a minor. Basically you're praying for the
• 58:20
  Imam every day and I've with the scholar that said this the
• 58:23
  second I tried this he goes a lot of Imam told me this and he
• 58:26
  was like a very high-ranking scholar as well and he goes the
• 58:28
  second I started doing this my life changed.
• 58:30
  He's like the second you start praying for your Imam, you'll
• 58:32
  see your life changed. Allah Mubarak in that Imam is a
• 58:35
  minor. There's a few things you can do
• 58:36
  by the daughter I had in the morning.
• 58:37
  One person told me that their father every morning just speaks
• 58:42
  to the Imam and tells him what he's going to do with this day.
• 58:45
  Solid. And you know that there's
• 58:47
  actually a very point, a very interesting point that I heard,
• 58:49
  which kind of like upset me. I don't know how true it is, but
• 58:52
  he said that when the Imam comes back, it'll be more difficult to
• 58:56
  speak to than he is to speak to him right now.
• 58:57
  But because now, because, because now you can speak to
• 59:01
  him. I'll hear you right.
• 59:02
  But that as he comes back and he's a physical person, like for
• 59:05
  example, like say it's Islami for example, like how difficult
• 59:07
  it would be to get message to him or to sit with him or to
• 59:09
  see. Hadith which say Imam Salah al
• 59:11
  Islam, where it says that the, the, the beauty of the labour in
• 59:16
  itself is for those who are in the labour.
• 59:18
  It's as if the Imam is already with them.
• 59:20
  That's beautiful like that. If you actually have matter for
• 59:23
  your Imam now it's easier to connect to the Imam.
• 59:26
  And also, if anything, you'll feel the, the, the, the, you'll
• 59:29
  feel the reality of his presence while he's in the labour and
• 59:33
  without obviously the calamities of the world.
• 59:35
  At the time there, there's been many times that I've reached out
• 59:37
  to Imam and like I've, I've had a hard drive or something and
• 59:41
  I've seen like wonders like I, I, I like we, we obviously have,
• 59:43
  for example, are there Imams and, and the Masamin that we use
• 59:46
  for hard driat and stuff. But like really speak to Imam,
• 59:49
  like really connect with him and I really believe you'll see the.
• 59:52
  Benefits. Can I just say as well how?
• 59:54
  I say that to myself first, by the way.
• 59:55
  I'm not trying. To say that Shaaban 15 Shaaban
• 59:57
  was two weeks ago and it's so nice that it's just before
• 1:00:02
  Shaaban like it sets you off on a.
• 1:00:05
  You know, for me, like I really enjoyed 15 Shaaban this year.
• 1:00:08
  We had the aftermath of event behind us.
• 1:00:10
  Yeah, we had rising dawn, Rising Dawn, we had Montata dawn event
• 1:00:15
  which was amazing and loads of other communities and
• 1:00:17
  organisations that they're an amazing programmes or molids.
• 1:00:20
  And there's a lot of content online during 15 Shaaban, a lot
• 1:00:24
  of lectures and a lot of research.
• 1:00:26
  I feel like I really enjoyed this year's 15th Shaaban more
• 1:00:29
  than the previous years. So my mind is like I'm Mahathi
• 1:00:32
  focused in the last few weeks and now Shahanamalan coming.
• 1:00:36
  It's perfect timing. It feels like it's.
• 1:00:37
  There's a really nice tafsir of Surah Qadar, but it talks about
• 1:00:43
  how Tennessee little Malaika to a raw right?
• 1:00:46
  So I'm I'm hoping a butchering is tafsir so please.
• 1:00:50
  Yeah, so so. So basically like, like who who
• 1:00:53
  are they coming down to? Because they have to deliver the
• 1:00:55
  the message or whatever it is to to someone, right?
• 1:00:57
  It has to be a maximum. Yeah.
• 1:00:59
  So point being is that like if the if it's if it's not only the
• 1:01:01
  Prophet, he's the one because he passed away, it still has to
• 1:01:04
  come to someone. And because the point is that
• 1:01:06
  that is the proof that the Imam is the one that receives
• 1:01:08
  beautiful, you know, all that information.
• 1:01:10
  No, it's good that you mentioned that.
• 1:01:11
  And I'm going to advise all whoever's listening right now
• 1:01:14
  who heard this point. Go back last year, we had an
• 1:01:16
  episode with Sheikh Hayoub. I mean, we don't have Seer Abbas
• 1:01:20
  sort. Of did this royal orders for us?
• 1:01:21
  Yeah, it was it was he did reference this, but the I don't
• 1:01:27
  want to spoil it. Go back and watch it.
• 1:01:29
  There was a lot of a lot of because obviously not in the
• 1:01:32
  Wyatt. It's sort of the Qadar is also
• 1:01:35
  proving kind of the Moqam of say, the Fatima Ali Saddam.
• 1:01:39
  I think I had this actually. I remember I don't.
• 1:01:41
  Remember, yeah, it's a really, really nice concept and the
• 1:01:44
  specific translations, also the Tatwil which referenced this,
• 1:01:50
  so. Also dedicating Amar to Imam
• 1:01:52
  Mehdi, you're still out to layers and your dogs here and
• 1:01:55
  there and to records like that stuff is also very important.
• 1:01:57
  Is that Ashraf is anything you do dedicating that to the Imam?
• 1:02:00
  Point being is that I think when you start, if you want to build
• 1:02:02
  a connection with Imam, again, I'm not an expert, but if you
• 1:02:04
  build a when you start to to to dedicate things to him, give him
• 1:02:07
  throw up. Like remind him that you're
• 1:02:08
  thinking about him. I feel like that's when you
• 1:02:10
  start to feel his presence the same way.
• 1:02:11
  For example, let's say you're in love or you have an amazing
• 1:02:14
  friend and you want to gift them something or, or spend time with
• 1:02:16
  them or, or, or speak to them or, or you pray for them in
• 1:02:19
  secret, for example. Same thing with the Imam.
• 1:02:21
  That's true. You do that.
• 1:02:22
  You, you, your your connection with them create increases
• 1:02:24
  automatically just by dedicating time and efforts to him.
• 1:02:28
  I sent. I sent.
• 1:02:29
  And speaking about time, just for time purposes, I'm just
• 1:02:31
  going to go to the last one. I said, I'm going to give you 2.
• 1:02:33
  There's the final one. And I think this one, I think it
• 1:02:43
  ends the discussion nicely because it relates back to
• 1:02:46
  Ramadan and it says how to continue the good habits you've
• 1:02:50
  started doing beyond the month of Ramadan.
• 1:02:53
  Yeah, that's tough. I don't know, but I'm not the
• 1:02:55
  person. Yeah, who knows?
• 1:02:57
  Go back to previous years. We talked about it, Lori.
• 1:03:00
  Come on, Lori. Can I, can I make one point?
• 1:03:03
  It's it's a very personal point, but hopefully it kind of
• 1:03:07
  connects to that maybe on some level.
• 1:03:09
  But I remember like this was two years ago.
• 1:03:12
  I moved to the US like 3 years ago and two years ago, what
• 1:03:16
  happened? Somehow I'm speaking to Hajj has
• 1:03:18
  named Rajali because he lives in Dearborn.
• 1:03:20
  OK. He's like, oh, come recite if
• 1:03:23
  you have. I can't just say next time I
• 1:03:25
  speak to him, please tell him we run him on the podcast
• 1:03:28
  Charlotte. Does he come to love him?
• 1:03:30
  I don't think he's come in a long time, Charlotte, when he
• 1:03:33
  yeah. When he comes back, just give.
• 1:03:34
  Just love it, Charlotte. But when you come, when you guys
• 1:03:36
  come to, you know, he comes come to a lot of podcasts, by the
• 1:03:38
  way. Beautiful.
• 1:03:39
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. 20 episodes. Not joking.
• 1:03:41
  Beautiful. There's a, there's a, there's a.
• 1:03:43
  There's a you can use as well. Yeah, yeah, Walla.
• 1:03:45
  Comes Charlotte coming in May. That's yeah.
• 1:03:47
  Well, if you can come to say offline, but if you can come to
• 1:03:51
  honestly, I'll give you 20 episodes with really inspiring
• 1:03:55
  find the donor you. Come to No, no.
• 1:03:57
  Would you come on a level because I'm going to be going in
• 1:03:59
  May, So if you come, then come. That while I come, I'll get a
• 1:04:01
  podcast studio to use and I'll get you 20 guests.
• 1:04:04
  Say the much. So why you're listening much?
• 1:04:06
  Much come as well. I'm going in like a couple
• 1:04:09
  months. Roll through, huh?
• 1:04:12
  He's in New York. He's in.
• 1:04:14
  America, bro, it's not a hammoud, right?
• 1:04:17
  Abdullah Hammoud. Yeah, Michigan.
• 1:04:18
  We could try. No, no, what?
• 1:04:20
  I'm. Saying he's a mission, but
• 1:04:22
  there's there's a lot of good people anyway.
• 1:04:24
  So Hacha's name, I I forgot if I messaged him or he messaged me,
• 1:04:27
  but it was like, oh, come recite wise.
• 1:04:29
  I was like, yeah, sure, no problem.
• 1:04:30
  I really want to recite. So I went and I recited there
• 1:04:33
  and I sat down a little cutter and I was thinking to myself
• 1:04:37
  about how it's just a, a thought that I have and I've written
• 1:04:40
  poetry about it. It's like how in my brain, maybe
• 1:04:43
  in my creative mind, it's like little cutter is dislodged from
• 1:04:46
  time. It's not part of time.
• 1:04:48
  So you look for a little cutter and you see who you are 10 years
• 1:04:51
  ago, 15 years ago, last year and and future as well, right.
• 1:04:55
  And I remember like in the early days of of like me embracing
• 1:05:01
  Shia Slam 2007 first year, I think it was.
• 1:05:04
  I was sitting in my flat on Howard Rd.
• 1:05:08
  And I was watching Regib IE lectures in in is actually
• 1:05:14
  American Dear 1 And I was like wow, like imagine like like.
• 1:05:17
  Full circle. No, it's not, it's not just full
• 1:05:19
  circle. It's like if you told me then,
• 1:05:22
  you know, and, and that year I did Amel in, in Dar es Salaam
• 1:05:24
  where it was or Mohammed, the trust where it was.
• 1:05:26
  And I go home and watch my lectures in IC and then like 15
• 1:05:29
  year later, wherever it was, I'm, I'm in dear 1 and I'm doing
• 1:05:32
  later there. I'm just saying with like, who,
• 1:05:35
  who, who would ever think that life would take you in that
• 1:05:37
  direction, you know, So I really think that you can use later
• 1:05:40
  Qatar to, to connect with yourself in different periods of
• 1:05:43
  time and, and think about how far you've come and think about
• 1:05:46
  what else you need to do and how far you need to go and re
• 1:05:49
  reflect on that and reflect on, on, on Allah's, on Allah
• 1:05:53
  himself. Allah does this stuff.
• 1:05:55
  You know, that's not something I could have planned 15 years ago
• 1:05:58
  or, or predicted or written, you know, and I'm sure everyone has
• 1:06:02
  a, has a similar story. So I think kind of thinking back
• 1:06:06
  to the question of, of, of keeping it after Ramadan, I
• 1:06:08
  think that's an interesting point.
• 1:06:09
  Like every Ramadan, And again, I'm prefacing this, I'm not a
• 1:06:13
  scholar. I'm not trying to say to be a
• 1:06:14
  scholar. I'm just giving my own like
• 1:06:16
  perspective. And I've got my frozen sins too.
• 1:06:19
  Every run with Shahramadhan, just try and leave.
• 1:06:22
  And Shahramadhan being a bit better than you were last year,
• 1:06:25
  a bit better next year, a bit more.
• 1:06:27
  Yeah, after that, a bit more. I tell this to myself as well.
• 1:06:30
  And if you do fail, if you do slip up, if you do take a step
• 1:06:33
  back, you have the arm of Shahramadhan, which you can use
• 1:06:36
  to, to, to you have that new placehold.
• 1:06:39
  Let's say Ramadan ends, you slip up.
• 1:06:41
  No, but I was betting Ramadan. I can go back to that.
• 1:06:43
  And then next thing you improve and you improve.
• 1:06:44
  That's beautiful to that. After that, hopefully that's
• 1:06:46
  beneficial advice. Now that's beautiful advice
• 1:06:48
  because it's it's a beautiful reminder that we should maximize
• 1:06:52
  as much as we can during this holy month and become better
• 1:06:57
  individuals, become better humans, better Muslims, better
• 1:07:00
  movements. And it's not about just when the
• 1:07:03
  day of aid comes, everything stops.
• 1:07:04
  No, we try to continue everything we built spiritually
• 1:07:07
  during this month and it continues 365 and shall until we
• 1:07:10
  die. So we enter 6 feet down and this
• 1:07:12
  is the reality, this reality check.
• 1:07:14
  We have to remember death, man, because a lot of people, I know,
• 1:07:18
  33, actually four people from our community that we know who
• 1:07:22
  were here last Ramadan and not here for this Ramadan.
• 1:07:25
  Yeah, that means we have the opportunity and they don't.
• 1:07:29
  We have an invitation by Allah to come back to God during this
• 1:07:34
  month and they didn't have that chance.
• 1:07:36
  Maybe they, maybe we, we are in need of tober.
• 1:07:39
  Maybe we are in need of improving our lives, our
• 1:07:42
  relationship with the lost panel.
• 1:07:44
  It's an opportunity. Well, lost an opportunity.
• 1:07:46
  And there is always a theme. I think just from me as a final
• 1:07:51
  note on this is that I don't know, theme was the right word
• 1:07:54
  to use, but there is, there is always this thought process that
• 1:07:56
  when you speak to so much people, and I'll handle that.
• 1:07:59
  I have the opportunity to speak with many people, many of the
• 1:08:01
  youth out there, they always feel like I'm not worthy to come
• 1:08:05
  back to God or I'm just, I'm just going to do the basics
• 1:08:09
  because I don't think Allah is going to accept anything from me
• 1:08:12
  because they've sinned so much, because they've done so much
• 1:08:15
  Haram, they've done so much sin. But Ramadan is not just for the
• 1:08:18
  moment, it's for the sinners. And we hear the verses, Smilah
• 1:08:22
  Rahman, Rahim Olia ibad, the Ladid Astra for Allah and Allah,
• 1:08:29
  I'm not telling you, I will forgive every single sin, the
• 1:08:33
  big, the small, the one you've done in secret, the one the
• 1:08:36
  public knows. Come back to God.
• 1:08:38
  Allah will forgive you. Bro, it's a Ramadan.
• 1:08:40
  It's an opportunity. It's an opportunity especially
• 1:08:44
  especially, and I and I really mean this when I say this.
• 1:08:47
  Yeah, especially if you feel like you're not worthy of God,
• 1:08:51
  you know, worthy of his love, you know, worthy of his mercy.
• 1:08:54
  That's that's you just being silly now.
• 1:08:57
  And you have all the scripture they're telling you God will
• 1:08:59
  welcome God himself. Human beings.
• 1:09:01
  And we upset someone, we anger people, we don't forgive, we
• 1:09:05
  don't forget, we're hard to please.
• 1:09:08
  No Allah, Sorry. I rather you do the most
• 1:09:10
  simplest thing. He's pleased with you.
• 1:09:12
  You can be a criminal. Allah will welcome you back.
• 1:09:14
  Where do you find this love? Anywhere else?
• 1:09:16
  What's that story of Ibrahim when he tried to get someone to
• 1:09:19
  sit with him? Yeah, to eat food.
• 1:09:21
  And he says Bispella and the guy goes, well, I don't believe in
• 1:09:23
  God for him as I get out and all that tells him, bring that
• 1:09:26
  person back. He's like, what did I do?
• 1:09:28
  And he goes, I've been feeding this person for the past 30
• 1:09:30
  years or whatever, or just because he doesn't so and
• 1:09:34
  because he doesn't believe me, you're not going to feed him.
• 1:09:36
  I've been feeding him, you know, so if God's going to look after
• 1:09:38
  those people, you know, like there's no telling us.
• 1:09:42
  I think as a as a very final point, I just lean on from that.
• 1:09:44
  I think some people, sometimes you can overthink what we need
• 1:09:48
  to do. The more I experience life and
• 1:09:51
  the more people I meet, the more I realize how valuable it is.
• 1:09:54
  And this is something I, I really, I, I try to work
• 1:09:57
  towards. I'm not saying I'm in there, but
• 1:09:59
  just do your watch about and be a good person.
• 1:10:01
  Oh, it's that simple. Be nice to people you know.
• 1:10:04
  Don't try not to be angry. Try to wind people up.
• 1:10:07
  Like, don't be, you know, malicious to people.
• 1:10:09
  Keep your word. Keep your word.
• 1:10:12
  If you can't keep your word, just, you know, you know, like
• 1:10:15
  people being a good person is very rare.
• 1:10:18
  That's the one thing I've kind of realized.
• 1:10:20
  But there is a lot of purity in our community at the same time.
• 1:10:23
  But yeah, we can overthink it, especially I think the younger
• 1:10:27
  generation. It's like, what do I do?
• 1:10:28
  I'm here. How do I get there?
• 1:10:30
  Do you watch about? You're a good person, you're
• 1:10:32
  good to people because Allah can forgive you.
• 1:10:35
  So if you have, if someone has something against you, if you
• 1:10:37
  upset someone and and they don't forgive you, then you're kind of
• 1:10:39
  in a. It's a proper.
• 1:10:41
  I'm going to ask you a final, final couple questions.
• 1:10:43
  Final, final, final, final question.
• 1:10:45
  Final, final, final. Rapid, rapid, rapid.
• 1:10:47
  Not on topic. What's going to be your first of
• 1:10:49
  all? First of all, I, well, I land
• 1:10:55
  first of Ramadan, so I don't know whoever's in the fridge,
• 1:10:59
  you know what I'm going to try and hydrate myself with the with
• 1:11:04
  the electrolytes. I.
• 1:11:06
  Was going to say, is it? What's in that?
• 1:11:07
  Yeah, bro. Oh yeah.
• 1:11:09
  So there's a very random. I've never.
• 1:11:10
  Tried, there's a good. Listen, there's a very random
• 1:11:13
  Shahramadhan article on the Muslim vibe.
• 1:11:15
  It's like food seat in Shahramadhan.
• 1:11:16
  It goes viral every year. Just Google it and it has like a
• 1:11:19
  list of eight foods and just follow that list.
• 1:11:22
  It was good. I don't want to misspoke to you.
• 1:11:24
  Someone told me about electrolytes as well and you're
• 1:11:26
  no trust me and and certain things to.
• 1:11:28
  Eat certain foods to avoid just. Follow that list and you'll be
• 1:11:31
  good to go. Yeah, yeah, OK, fine.
• 1:11:33
  What is your? What is like a must?
• 1:11:36
  For you like lift always, you know, at least once a year, like
• 1:11:42
  since. Since moving to DIBO, you know
• 1:11:43
  what I crave? Tastes low like every every year
• 1:11:49
  there'll. Be one day where I'll go, I'll
• 1:11:50
  get a SAAG. And none.
• 1:11:51
  And that would be like, you know, I don't know what is every
• 1:11:55
  every like 14th, 15th, I'll start to crave it.
• 1:11:57
  And the pros and dear one, there's like 2 Pakistani places,
• 1:12:01
  Hamdullah only two, no, but again, like 2 good ones.
• 1:12:06
  Again. So I I.
• 1:12:07
  It's it's full of. Lebanese in.
• 1:12:08
  Pakistan, I think this is. Amazing.
• 1:12:09
  So I tried them. Hamdullah got Hamdullah, but
• 1:12:13
  like, yeah, it wasn't his little man.
• 1:12:16
  You know, I remember 10 years ago Nori would tell me, let's go
• 1:12:19
  to slow. Yeah, TV this, but I used to get
• 1:12:21
  this craving. I don't know.
• 1:12:22
  It is every day. Quick word, right?
• 1:12:23
  I think 3 * a week. Yeah, used to.
• 1:12:27
  Go a lot but but I would say nowadays.
• 1:12:30
  Like back in the day, we used to crave everything.
• 1:12:32
  For a start, we had every Yeah. But these days, like I don't, I
• 1:12:35
  don't crave as much because. I've I've I've realized.
• 1:12:37
  Over time that you can crave whatever it is, but like you
• 1:12:39
  probably won't finish the meal and and you want and you'll be
• 1:12:42
  searching any other way. So I'm I'm kind of OK with a
• 1:12:44
  simple you get. You get for that reason.
• 1:12:46
  You get full off like 4 bites exactly.
• 1:12:48
  So it's like I just, I just be strategic.
• 1:12:50
  The taste of it, yeah. What I want is my coffee, as
• 1:12:53
  long as I have my coffee. I'm happy I'm melting.
• 1:12:55
  My coffee on the bar What is what is your Can I ask him one
• 1:12:59
  question? Go on.
• 1:13:00
  Yeah, if you have the opportunity, ask you a question.
• 1:13:03
  Wait, I ask you. Then you ask Ziam if you have
• 1:13:06
  the opportunity to break your fast with either myself or
• 1:13:10
  Ahmed, who would you break the fast with?
• 1:13:16
  I don't. I don't mind if you say Ahmed.
• 1:13:17
  In fact, I will. I will love the both of you
• 1:13:19
  more. Just be honest.
• 1:13:21
  You better say me. Honestly, it depends on I'm
• 1:13:22
  feeling. You better say me.
• 1:13:23
  No, I'm feeling. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:13:25
  Why? Who would you?
• 1:13:26
  Go to for what? Like if I'm feeling nostalgic,
• 1:13:29
  I'm going to speak about his senior staff Majalis.
• 1:13:31
  Or like not me out I'll I'll chat to rather if I'm if I want
• 1:13:33
  to sit down and have a conversation about community and
• 1:13:36
  sense and future San Andreas, I'm in the past.
• 1:13:41
  Tense but like. But like.
• 1:13:42
  In a bliss like it like oh. Remember that remember this yeah
• 1:13:46
  go like oh let's think of a way to make this happen or whatever
• 1:13:49
  How to grow after Muslim. Yeah that's how more over them.
• 1:13:52
  Yeah. How do you have you thought all
• 1:13:55
  together that's the right to be my answer?
• 1:13:56
  Have you? It was true.
• 1:14:00
  No, I love it. I love it, no.
• 1:14:02
  You asked us I've. Gone blank one, one hour, 15
• 1:14:06
  minutes in. What was your most stressful?
• 1:14:09
  I can give you mine was your most stressful.
• 1:14:11
  Two days of of Ramadan, like like like like like a
• 1:14:14
  back-to-back where you didn't have a good iftar.
• 1:14:16
  No, no, or like you were too big.
• 1:14:18
  Two days. I had AI had a bad one years
• 1:14:20
  ago. Where I can't even.
• 1:14:22
  See this on on broadcast. But like I fell asleep.
• 1:14:25
  I woke up at iftar time because I was living here and I had like
• 1:14:30
  water next to me. I was really tired.
• 1:14:31
  I just had the water. I had date the I had date and
• 1:14:33
  the water and I fell asleep again.
• 1:14:34
  Oh no, after Soho. Oh no.
• 1:14:36
  I passed it for two days once I just had a pre boycott days.
• 1:14:40
  I had a Kit Kat only. For Iftar, literally, yeah.
• 1:14:43
  Kit Kat the whole night. Oh, no, I was.
• 1:14:46
  It was really. It was a really.
• 1:14:47
  Messed up situation but I think I was in uni and like you I woke
• 1:14:51
  up really late. I had a Kit Kat, I had water and
• 1:14:55
  I was I could have this is pre delivery days of no apps nothing
• 1:15:00
  like that. I could have gone and got some
• 1:15:02
  food. I was by myself in uni, couldn't
• 1:15:05
  be bothering him. Days, yeah, bone days, like.
• 1:15:07
  You're. You're in the slums.
• 1:15:09
  Yeah, if you. Gotta do.
• 1:15:09
  What you gotta do? No.
• 1:15:11
  Thanks for going back. Yeah, no, not with bone.
• 1:15:16
  Bone Room's got a good choice, but.
• 1:15:18
  Abdullah, yeah, said. I'm trying to think.
• 1:15:21
  I don't think I've had. What about those?
• 1:15:22
  What about that one? Year that one summer 2000 and
• 1:15:25
  and. 16 Oh my God, even about the bar if.
• 1:15:30
  That was like at. 99 PM Yeah. So it was like a 1, you know
• 1:15:33
  that one. I went up very difficult.
• 1:15:36
  Yeah, that Ramadan the. Last 10 nights I was in like.
• 1:15:39
  Manchester, Sorry. A lot of people, yeah.
• 1:15:41
  They were, yeah. For 10 nights, people that that
• 1:15:42
  that had that actually. They gave up.
• 1:15:44
  I did a road show for Yeah. Speak of ABTV.
• 1:15:47
  Yeah, Yeah. Mad Azam's dad I love.
• 1:15:49
  Bless him and. Every night you're talking about
• 1:15:52
  your taste in the whole bro I was drinking more oil than I was
• 1:15:55
  having food. I'm drinking myself with the.
• 1:16:00
  Game. It was a mad one.
• 1:16:01
  What was your? Best day Ramadan history.
• 1:16:04
  Wow. There was one Shah al Maban.
• 1:16:08
  I think it was 2013 Sheikh Osama came to Stamwar and I will never
• 1:16:17
  and it was Leah. I think it was 23rd Fajr time.
• 1:16:21
  I will never forget the way he recited sort of Fatah in that
• 1:16:26
  Fajr Salah at that mosque. That's crazy.
• 1:16:28
  And that just that sort of fuss, how I remembered the tune of it
• 1:16:32
  and I learned it and I practiced it just after hearing it.
• 1:16:34
  Was it tortilla? That wasn't was it What?
• 1:16:36
  How'd it go recite it? No, I'm not.
• 1:16:38
  Recite. Let's hear it.
• 1:16:39
  No, no, no. Come on.
• 1:16:39
  It was 13 years ago. I don't remember.
• 1:16:41
  No, but I'm saying what I did was I while he recited it, it
• 1:16:45
  was so beautiful. It stayed with me and I
• 1:16:47
  practiced it and practiced it and practiced it and for days I
• 1:16:50
  kept learning. He's just martial lives amazing.
• 1:16:52
  And I think he's in town this year as well.
• 1:16:54
  So if it comes on the board, sure, I've got, I've got mine.
• 1:16:56
  It's the last one. What was yours?
• 1:16:57
  Best day of Ramadan history? Best.
• 1:16:59
  Day of Ramadan in history How? How's it?
• 1:17:02
  How's it? So easy to come to your minds,
• 1:17:04
  like just have mine stand up, have mine something that's oxy
• 1:17:07
  yours. Let me.
• 1:17:08
  Think mine. Was.
• 1:17:10
  Shahramadhan in Iraq. This was two years ago.
• 1:17:14
  You know, I've done every Ziara, Muharram, Arbain, Rajab,
• 1:17:17
  Shahban. Yeah, but Shahramadhan, bro, I
• 1:17:20
  don't know what it is, but everyone's in a good mood.
• 1:17:23
  So beautiful family vibes is so pleasant.
• 1:17:26
  It's such a pleasant Ziara and late Alcado, specifically night
• 1:17:29
  of the 23rd. This is my my very, my favorite
• 1:17:32
  night. Most the most my favorite night
• 1:17:35
  of my life. Literally I went to the shrine
• 1:17:39
  after Maghrib and it was and it was well.
• 1:17:45
  It was like this, it was packed and.
• 1:17:48
  It reminded me of how they say, I think I mentioned it last
• 1:17:52
  time, the night of Aishwarya was like the buzzing of bees because
• 1:17:55
  everyone was in a bud. Yeah, literally.
• 1:17:57
  So I went inside and I was trying to find a place and
• 1:17:59
  randomly I saw a friend, Mehdi, and they were sitting down
• 1:18:03
  because no, he comes next to me. He sat down and I read Josh and
• 1:18:06
  Kabir with him, got down and I found a random place, luckily.
• 1:18:09
  And I just did like I did all my Amal.
• 1:18:13
  And I remember I came emotional podcast.
• 1:18:17
  I remember like after that Amal, I went to Jude and I just let
• 1:18:22
  everything out. Like I wept like no tomorrow,
• 1:18:25
  like like just 30 years of every, every, every.
• 1:18:29
  So whatever I had in my heart, I let it out like crazy to the
• 1:18:32
  point where I go up. There was a guy when he looked
• 1:18:33
  at me, he's like, I know you're feeling, but the best thing is
• 1:18:37
  after that I got up, turned around and went inside to do a
• 1:18:41
  ziara of Iman Singh. That was the best like my life
• 1:18:46
  I'll never ever forget. This is why, broken hearts this
• 1:18:50
  is. Why every broken heart needs a
• 1:18:52
  lot? Yeah, I don't know what's add.
• 1:18:54
  Nori now these are beautiful memories.
• 1:18:56
  Inshallah these memories continue and we can all build
• 1:18:59
  more beautiful memories together.
• 1:19:03
  I'm thinking it's hard, but give us one does.
• 1:19:05
  That have the best one I'll give you.
• 1:19:06
  One, I'll just say one sentence and that's.
• 1:19:08
  It I just got memories of. When my father was alive and we
• 1:19:12
  have the Ramadan at home, that was I think the best days.
• 1:19:16
  Well, that's the first thing that went back to my head.
• 1:19:20
  I'll be honest. Let's do a faster for your
• 1:19:22
  father says. And all them are home in.
• 1:19:32
  Say that I was going to say, by the way, I.
• 1:19:35
  Was going to take it off camera to on camera.
• 1:19:36
  When you were speaking, I was thinking it's a pound line like,
• 1:19:41
  and I can see in you, you have that same spirit, Subhanallah,
• 1:19:45
  even though you didn't, even though you didn't become a Kathy
• 1:19:48
  per SE, like Subhanallah. It's just, it's crazy how you
• 1:19:51
  know, again, like it's like we, we, we, we, we carry on.
• 1:19:55
  I, I never met his father. I didn't do it either.
• 1:19:58
  By the way, you. Didn't mean no, I said I used to
• 1:20:00
  come to RA but I never. Actually sat with him.
• 1:20:02
  We like seen his. Pictures and videos, said Ali is
• 1:20:05
  like for like carbon poppy. Poppy.
• 1:20:07
  Yeah. You're like hungry.
• 1:20:08
  Look like him. You sound like Poland.
• 1:20:11
  There, there, there. There, there, there's.
• 1:20:13
  Excuse me final. Point.
• 1:20:14
  There's something about people who dedicate their time
• 1:20:17
  specifically to Ma Hussein. It's a very strange point to
• 1:20:21
  have a beauty. There's something about.
• 1:20:23
  There's, there's like a twisted beauty about.
• 1:20:25
  Yeah. Yeah, there's like.
• 1:20:25
  Why is it twisted? Not twisted.
• 1:20:27
  It's like, it's like, it's like they're, they're tired.
• 1:20:29
  But they're happy. I can't, I can't describe it.
• 1:20:31
  You see it in their souls and, and, and that's really what I,
• 1:20:34
  what I felt that night. And on the other colors, like I
• 1:20:36
  really, I, I really told them I was saying that I really want to
• 1:20:39
  be part of your people. You know, everyone has their
• 1:20:41
  people. Everyone has their people.
• 1:20:43
  You know, every has their people.
• 1:20:44
  Everyone has their, their, their, their, their place.
• 1:20:46
  You know, I'm a reaver. You know, we spoke about reverse
• 1:20:48
  before. I don't feel like I have a
• 1:20:49
  place. You know, I can't look back to,
• 1:20:51
  you know, I'm third generation here.
• 1:20:53
  I can't go back to my home country and say I belong there.
• 1:20:55
  I can't look back here and say I belong here or even like our
• 1:20:58
  community, Like I don't really belong anywhere.
• 1:21:01
  So, like, I remember telling their mom that night, I was
• 1:21:04
  like, like, you know, I, I want to, I want, I want to be here
• 1:21:07
  with you. Let me be of your people.
• 1:21:09
  Yeah. And it it, it, it comes at a
• 1:21:13
  cost, but the reward is, is is beautiful.
• 1:21:16
  It's amountable. I think if there's one person
• 1:21:18
  who. Who I would want to believe, and
• 1:21:23
  I would believe would be amongst them would be you.
• 1:21:25
  It'd be both of you and honesty, but you've both been.
• 1:21:32
  Granted the the. Blessing of Ziana and you know,
• 1:21:35
  and you both have done extensive work for the Imam and inshallah
• 1:21:39
  you've both brought people closer to the Imam.
• 1:21:42
  I know first hand as someone who knew both of you before you knew
• 1:21:45
  me, you know what I'm saying? You brought me close to the Imam
• 1:21:48
  before and you knew I existed. You know what I'm saying to him
• 1:21:50
  like 15 years ago. But they love this.
• 1:21:54
  Take everyone to Imam. Take everyone to Imam.
• 1:21:57
  The goal is to take everyone. To the Imam, grab everyone's
• 1:21:59
  hand, whoever you can find, whoever you meet, just grab them
• 1:22:01
  and say come, we're going to go. We're going to that for
• 1:22:03
  salvation. Let's go.
• 1:22:04
  That's the goal. That's the head there.
• 1:22:05
  Fastest for me personally. That's the head there.
• 1:22:07
  Grab everyone's hand and say let's go.
• 1:22:09
  Anything else is not point or Imam.
• 1:22:11
  Hossein is different. Ali has Salaam, you know.
• 1:22:15
  Goes back to. This.
• 1:22:20
  Is. My final point takes 30.
• 1:22:22
  Seconds speaking about Imam and Hossein like you can make this
• 1:22:26
  Ramadan through him as well A lot of fun with Allah is al
• 1:22:29
  Hamar rahamin rasulallah sallallahu Alayhi is rahmat and
• 1:22:33
  al Amin imam Hussain is rahmatallah.
• 1:22:36
  Think about what that means. Go through the door of Imam
• 1:22:40
  Hussain. You know what, Alice?
• 1:22:42
  I'm going to, I'm going to dedicate where I.
• 1:22:46
  Go. Yeah, Allah, sorry, no, this is
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  your last point. Yeah, like a.
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  been one out of. 25 have mercy. It's about a Mohammed.
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  Hussain, he was going to say something, say yeah, please, I'm
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  going to dedicate this. Month to try and get close to
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  I'm saying. Beautiful.
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  That's made in here. That's my goal, yeah.
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  Just from hearing him speak and. And yeah, I think that's the.
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  That's my goal and and and and whoever's watching.
• 1:23:14
  Sorry to keep carrying on. They wish the bones to go home.
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  You know what? I want to say more stuff.
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  No, no. That enough, Enough, enough.
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  Thank you very much. One last.
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  Thing. One last thing.
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  One last thing. One last thing Barakala, become
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  happy. I wanna see you guys have built
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• 1:24:12
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  Subhan Allah has pushed you in that.
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  Direction and I hope you continue.
• 1:24:19
  We asked the people. And the other thing as well is
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  you're talking about people who. I want to feel like I feel like
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• 1:25:00
  So Mela, bless them all. Charlie, you guys have come to
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• 1:25:32
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• 1:25:33
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• 1:25:36
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