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Recognizing the Haram we face Everyday · After Maghrib 🌙

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All right, stop it there. Don't put that in the intro.
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Don't you? All right, Smila Sam Alekum
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Afterlal, welcome back to your favorite podcast after Maghreb.
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It's really good to have you back here, brother, sisters.
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And today we've got something special in store for you.
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It is what feels like a rarity. Unfortunately we haven't had a
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conversation with just the two of us in a while, so it's nice
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to be back, but I have to introduce my guests, my very
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special Co host. How's it going?
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I'm. Well, I'm just.
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Not. I'm not sure what happened to
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the tongue there. Was my name a tongue twister or?
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Do you know what it is? I've been trying to adapt my
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Ledger? Is that the right sense my my
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pronunciation? So I'm in the in the presence of
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of a descendant of the 100. Prophet all the villas.
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So I have to, I have to fix my game.
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Why are the villas? I say it now, how you doing?
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Well, I'm well Hamdullah, I can't complain.
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God is very merciful to us. God never neglects us, never
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forgets us, always blesses us and always looks out for us.
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And I think it's something we need to remember all the time,
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that Allah, it's there for us. We're the ones that walk away
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from him. And perhaps maybe we can discuss
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this. Yeah, yeah.
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Today's conversation. How are you?
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I'm OK, yeah, I'm OK at Hamdallah.
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It's been been a busy week for me personally.
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I'm I'm doing OK at Hamdallah. Many people will remember a few
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weeks ago you had a reel on Instagram and TikTok me where
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you said yeah, where you said there's people saying Habibi
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come to Dubai, come back to Allah.
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Today and Hamdulillah, we're going to discuss both because
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said Ali just came back from Dubai and today we're going to
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go back to Allah. I was, your trip to Dubai said.
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Well, I'll handle. I was refreshing much needed.
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It was it was. I think it was overdue.
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I'm I'm not saying I should have went Zihara and said which I
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should have, but believe me I needed a break.
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Yeah, we do. Sometimes I don't know how to.
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Explain that I just needed a few days off.
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Sometimes you need to recharge. When would the family had a
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great time? Did you meet any listeners after
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market of listeners? I don't know why you ask.
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Is that yes or is that no? No.
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Fair enough. OK, guys, make of that what you
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will. So listen.
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And now back to the Aftermaker podcast.
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For those who don't know, we did a discussion on being trapped in
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the dunya and we talked a lot about music in our last
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discussion and general form of addiction and spiritual disease,
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but with a specific focus on music.
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I remember in that episode today, we want to talk more
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about distractions that we face and also just more importantly,
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our connection with a lost partner.
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And I think a lot of the time we, I, I say we, I speak for
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myself, I feel a disconnect. There are days where I feel
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spiritually lower and days where I feel higher.
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There's days where I feel like I have greater amount of other
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than last month and days where I feel less.
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And you know, like spirituality is not, not linear, like it
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doesn't rise exponentially on a chart.
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Rather it's a fluctuating process.
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And over time, the goal is to still reach your peak, but there
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will be ups and downs. You know, there's that saying.
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There's different roads to the top of the mountain.
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Some are easier, some are harder.
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But as long as you reach the top, right.
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Why do you think we feel distractions when it comes to
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our relationship with Allah? Spoon to Allah?
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Why do we struggle focusing on Allah all the time?
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The problem is I I think we're distracted by many things.
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It's not one I can't nail it down to one thing and I'm not
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going to blame shaytan for everything now because I think
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we have to take some responsibility and put our hands
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up and say we're choosing to neglect a lot as they were just
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upon what to Allah, but ultimately Shaytan technically,
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but I don't want to blame a bliss for everything that we do.
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But the distractions are and if we look today, the the biggest
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thing that distracts us is social media.
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That's one thing and rather than trying to get closer to Allah,
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we choose to get closer to our mobile phones.
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And it's a huge danger because if you are, let's say, attached
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to this device and you have all these social apps and you're,
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you're exposed to a world of an alternative to Islam.
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I ultimately, if someone gets distracted on social media, what
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is it? They're seeing something fun,
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they're seeing something funny, something exciting, something
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that you know, makes them smile. Get get, I don't know, gives
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them some what's that dopamine? What's that dopamine?
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It gives them something that they don't see that they get
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when they try to connect to Allah Subhanahu Matala.
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So I, I think we're not balanced and and we're not fair.
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We don't give justice to our creator, our sustainer when it
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comes to this. Now we choose not to get close
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to the Lord, the Almighty Allah Subhanahu Matala and we choose
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to be glued and stuck to a mobile phone.
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So that's one thing and then there's other people.
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Or maybe it's it's a variety of things.
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So you've got social media, then you have other people who are
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distracted by girls, other people are distracted by
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relationships, even friendships. Yeah.
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And either rather go out and chill out with non mahrams, then
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get then go to the mosque. They'd rather go out with their
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friends and spend hours in a shisha cafe, then then be with
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the brothers in, in community and you know, in, in the spirit
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of Islamic unity, our brotherhood and Omar in the
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mosque. So we're choosing the
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alternatives because we can have fun on our mobile phone, we can
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have fun on our devices Islamically, we can have fun in
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our relationships in a halal way.
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We can have the best of fun with our friendships if done in the
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right way. So and then you have another
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group and I, and I think this is where the majority of the
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distraction is. We are just too distracted
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trying to earn money, trying to earn a living.
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And there's nothing wrong with it.
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So as long as it's done correctly.
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And what do I mean by that? You can go to work, you can go
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earn a living, you can make your millions if you want to make
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millions. But don't forget the talk of
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other people and don't forget the responsibilities and the
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duties that fall on you. They have to give in the way of
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Allah, whether it's the card, whether it's homes, whether it's
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charity, because you can go earn a living and make money and go
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home and live another day. There is nothing godly about it.
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You can go earn a living and from that money that you earn,
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you give yours a card or you give your homes and you give
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your charity. There is God in that, you
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understand So, so I'm not going to say, you know, work is a
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distraction, Work is a necessity and it's important.
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Every man works, not just the oneself, the way, but it's the
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way you see it. So I think it's a mindset.
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We choose to distract ourselves. Otherwise, we can put God in
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everything. Can I be real with you?
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I feel like that's I agree with you.
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I think everything you've said is completely factual and I
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think that there's a, a very material element to the
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discussion about distraction and about it taking us away from a
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lost one to Isla completely. When you, when you mentioned
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relationships, social media, money, friends, circles, all of
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these different things, of course, are very external
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factors and material factors. I think also there's an element
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of, of internal insecurity about being distant from a lost one to
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Isla. And when I say this, I mean in
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the sense that like you, you mentioned a good point, you said
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that you're seeking something, the dopamine.
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Yep. I feel like as human beings we
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crave validation and we will seek validation from anywhere
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which gives that to us. And that could be a paycheck,
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that could be a compliment, it could be a a like on social
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media. But the idea being is that.
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PRI is the promotion. Exactly, 100%.
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And we seek validation through all of these means, but
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ultimately the validation that we really truly should seek is
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from the last bonus to Allah. Of course, if there are times
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where internally I may feel low, OK, I don't know why I wake up
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and I maybe I have a bad start to the day or I may not have the
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energy and the motivation that I had yesterday.
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And everything is like half baked in terms of my
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interactions, my efforts and my efficiency.
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And I feel like I'm easily defeatable.
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Do you see what I mean? There's moments, for example,
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where I may be in work and I feel like I'm defeatable or I
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may be in a conversation and I feel like I don't want to engage
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in this. Or I may also cocoon myself,
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shelter myself. I want to bring 2 ayahs verses
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of the Holy Quran, which I think are very, very, very pertinent.
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Sort of Ali Iran, I've just lost it verse #160 where a last panel
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to Allah says if Allah is your helper, no one can defeat you.
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However, if he abandons you, who would help you?
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The true believers trust in Allah's panel to Allah.
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And of course there's the holy, the the rest of the holy Quran.
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Allah is sufficient for the needs of whoever trusts in him.
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So talaq and it's I think it's so important.
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We talked about the need for safety and security.
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We crave this as human beings. We crave comfort.
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We crave like just the conviction that my day will go
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OK, things will go OK, people around me won't get hurt.
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I won't be left in a broken position.
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Minamatmani Al Islam says that regarding all of your affairs,
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seek the refuge of your Lord for your seeking the refuge of a
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sheltering haven and a powerful, powerful sanctuary.
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That's so important because ultimately God's centricity is
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our goal. We want to be God centric.
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I have a question for you, is being God centric all the time
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right? Because being God centric is in
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my opinion, like we always mentioned the hadith of
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middleman and seeing our last banter.
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Allah before and during, before, during and after every action
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that you take. Yep.
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Is that the same as being holy all the time?
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Is sitting on the prayer mat all the time or there's a spear in
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your hand. That's a that's a very nice
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question because I so you're basically asking can you be God
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centric without being holy and religious?
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Yeah, or without fitting the aesthetic of it.
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Aesthetics. Interesting word.
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OK, the issue is I, I don't think you can be a practising
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Muslim if you cannot be considered religious because,
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and I say that why I say that because like the the most basic
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fundamental obligatory acts is technically what makes you
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Muslim, makes you a practising Muslim.
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And if you're practising, then Inshallah, we are religious,
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Inshallah, we are Mutomanian. We're believers, right?
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If, if, if we adhere to the laws of our lost part of it, Allah
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and, and, and all the commands that he expects of us, that I
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think that's what makes you Muslim.
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Because I can't judge who's religious and who's not just
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because, for example, his sedge there is longer and Salah or his
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Quran recitation is, I don't know, more beautiful or he goes
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on Ziara more like, does that make you more religious?
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I I don't know, you may have a different connection of how you
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establish that connection with your Lord with the loss of Hanno
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Watala, but I don't think that you have to be religious to have
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God in your life because you have to see God in everything.
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And even non-Muslims, Ahmed, we see them have a connection with
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the Lord. The Christians, they believe in
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God. Arguably, God forbid they
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believe in shirk. Ultimately the Jews, they
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believe in God. There's other religions, even
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not Al Kitab, they have some sort of connection with a
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creators or a source that's bigger than them.
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And there's someone who controls them, who has like, how can I
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say like there's differences of power of man to the power of
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Allah, Subhanahu at Allah. I don't want to call their Lord
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God Allah, but I'm going to say God in this conversation.
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So everyone tries to have some relationship in terms of faith.
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Does that mean they're not religious in their, in their
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religion? For example?
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I, I don't know, I don't know nothing.
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The same thing can apply with Muslims because religious, what
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is religious? We, we've made that word
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religious. There's only a Muslim and a
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movement. So you're either a Muslim or
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you're a believer. So religious is something where
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we judge people. And I, I, I don't think we
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should use that term at all. But I think we can be God
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centric in everything that we do, the good, the bad, the ugly,
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the high and the low. And we see God in everything.
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I mean, let's put it this way and I think it's easy and it's a
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simple task. Everyone can make a good habit
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from this. Honey, you have to start small
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and eventually you, you will get there.
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In terms of being a woman, being a believer is that you always
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have to have remembrance of Allah, Subhanahu Ta'ala, not
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just on the heart, but on the tongue.
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Like when when we speak with one another and for example, it's
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more than just Salaam or alaikum alaisadeh Allah khaliq.
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No, you see something beautiful, you say Masha Allah, that's
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beautiful. You don't just say it's
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beautiful, you say Masha Allah. You remember God in that beauty,
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that's true. But for example, you know you
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saw something magnificent, magnificent, miraculous.
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What do you say? You see the beauty of God, you
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say Subhan Allah. Again, that's the liquor of
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Allah on your tongue. You want to do something?
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What do you say? Miss Millah.
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Bismillah. Inshallah I will.
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With God's permission. No, I'm gonna do it.
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With God's permission, I'm going to do it.
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There's a difference. And I and I think that's why
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it's critical. And I think I agree.
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The last example we can use the world Al Hamdulillah, something
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that comes in our way, in our favour, gives us joy, gives us
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comfort. Don't just say OK I've had a
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good day, no say Al Hamdulillah and thank her.
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Remember and say Shukran to your Lord, to the one who created
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you, the one who sustains you, the one who gives you rest, the
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one who gave you life, the one who lets you breathe, the one
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who lets you walk, talk, smell, listen, taste.
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All of this is from God bro. We just need to remember that
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Allah is in every aspect of our life as the most basic thing.
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And I, I leave the house, but it's a miracle without God, I
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will not be leaving the house, going to work, coming to the
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podcast, going to see friends or family or going to the Hosseini
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or to the community, going to Majalis, going to Ziara, going
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on a holiday, getting on a plane, wherever.
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All of this is thanks to a lost one or Ta'ala.
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So if we can have that habit of always having vicar of a loss of
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Hana Wataala on our tongues and our minds and our hearts is the
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best thing. Why Allah says in the Quranwa
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Allah vidikar Allah Kalu Kalu, surely in the remembrance of
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Allah, the vicar of Allah, the hearts find confit, the hearts
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find peace, tranquillity and sukoon.
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You only find that with God. Because I truly believe in
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Allah. I believe this and I see from
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people around me sometimes and I don't want to be judge mental
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when I say this. Is that when I see someone who
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lacks a connection with God, lacks lacks a connection with
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Allah, zawah jaspana wata Allah, I feel they're lost in life
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because if something bad happens to them, it's the end of the
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world. If something good happens to
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them, they're on top of the world.
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There's no God in that conversation.
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There's no God in that mind and that thought process.
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But the moment you have God, but even in your lowest of your low,
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you say what I'll handle. Allah you see, as a blessing, as
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a test. Yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, I know. I agree with you, I think.
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I know it's difficult to to always do this, but it's a habit
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I think we can all work on. Yeah, but I think look, it's we
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have to be real, OK? Because you and me are, are two
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people who have grown up in, in very heavy Shia community.
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So we are surrounded by it by not even by choice.
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You see what I'm saying? Like we are born into it.
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And Hamdullah, we're, we're raised in it.
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We're surrounded by, you know, the people we, we, we meet on a
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day-to-day basis, our family and our friends circles, our, our,
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our of those what men in sha Allah and people who inspire us
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as well. So it becomes, it becomes like
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to some degree a social construct where it becomes part
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of our day-to-day interaction, where we stay at Hamdu last
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time, what I local, you know, all of these things become part
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of our our daily interactions where I'm at a point now where I
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subconsciously I'll walk into my office and I'll say to a staff,
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that's what I local when they walk in, you know, or whatever,
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and they're not Muslim because it's just it's behavioural for
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me. Do you see what I mean?
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So it yeah, there's, there's that element, but really truly
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remembering our last panel to Allah being God centric in
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everything I do, you know, is harder than it sounds.
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And I completely agree. The the 1st and not even just
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the first step, but like the, the initial steps we take is to
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remember our last panel to Allah through the tongue.
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And you know, do the vicar of our last panel to Allah.
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We have our Adea, for example, the Arkham, the Arkham Mail of
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every night, which is a Thursday night, we're recording which one
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should which which line into Arkhamil.
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The old. 1:00 to 1:00 to see Aniya Shukra Kuan Tolhemini
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Vikrak, for example, and to provide me with gratitude
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towards you and to inspire me with your remembrance.
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Like these are things that we read on a weekly basis which you
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know, give us the inspiration to get close to all that.
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And through that vicar, the verbal spoken vicar, do we find
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that inspiration? Do you see what I mean?
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The the God centricity element of it is very important that
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comes back to self critiquing the the Mahasabha that we do on
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ourselves. The self accountability we do on
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ourselves allows us to think did I do that for me or did I do it
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with God in mind? Is the centre of my mission a
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last pang to Allah or is it my name, my favour, my, my, my
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personal interests, my my pockets?
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Do you see what I mean? Like.
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And, and because of that, we, we sometimes get distracted into
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doing things for the wrong intentions, even if they are
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godly. So for example, going to
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Majalis, speaking on a podcast, these are things which some
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people may say, yeah, they're doing work for God, work for
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God's mission. Alas Ponta, Allah wants people
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to talk about him and do his zicker and whatnot, but only
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Allah knows if in my heart I have true sincerity when doing
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this podcast as an example. I know you do.
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Rather than wanting to do it for my name and fame.
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Do you see what I mean? Like these are classic examples.
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And, and the last thing you mentioned about Shocker is so
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valuable. Well, I love him.
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I really believe it because we don't thank God enough, or at
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least I don't, you know, Imam Sajali Islam says, I, I, I, I
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thank, I, I, I thank you for the opportunity for, to be able to
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thank you. Like that in itself is something
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which is a blessing. Do you see what I mean?
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We would never be able to list the bounties which Allah has
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given us on this earth in in any case, we should at least try.
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Do you see what I mean? We should at least I I have this
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like habit for me personally, usually I do it no pun after
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Mahalob Salah like like for me personally I find that the I
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know you asked me in the past which is my favorite Salah.
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I said Vohor. And recently it's been more
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Mahara Besha, maybe because it's later in the day.
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It's always been Mahara for me. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I can tell by the by the what we named the podcast.
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But do you know what that is? It's I think it's for me because
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now it's later in the day. So for me, my day's coming to an
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end. It's quiet, Kids are sleeping.
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And when I give that attention to prayer and when I do the such
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that after Salah and I do my Shoka, I challenge myself in my
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mind and I think, what can I thank God for which I haven't
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thanked from, you know, thanked him for previously or maybe
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earlier today or maybe recently. And I start thinking of random
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things. Thank you a lot for giving me a
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nice neighbour. You know, thank you a lot of my
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neighbours. My old place, my neighbour was
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like playing loud music, Hamdullah.
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Now I've got a nice neighbour. Do you know what I mean?
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Small things like that which we take for granted, we don't even
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recognise. So these are just, you know.
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I love you rang that up. Maybe I'll share me as well,
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like after my SO, for example, if I'm praying a lot and
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afterwards together. Yeah, I'll, I'll, I'll do my
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sedute of thanks and things like this after after I'll do it.
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After. After Salah ends and when I'm
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saying, for example, Shukra and Allah, on the days that I do, I
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don't do every day. When on the days that I say
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Shukra and Allah, the, the, the beauty of it is that we're not
21:35
well, I'm not I, I, I hope I'm not.
21:37
When I'm saying Shukra and Allah, I'm, I'm, I'm thanking
21:40
God at the same time I'm remembering why I'm thanking
21:42
God. Yeah.
21:43
And then I'm saying Al Hamdulillah and, and trying to
21:46
recall why I'm saying al Hamdulillah.
21:48
Then I'm doing a staff for Allah.
21:49
Yes. Now we're doing Stafar and at
21:51
the same time trying to remember why don't why am I doing this so
21:55
far and sometimes these are sins from when I was 15.
21:58
Yeah, yeah. And those ones when.
21:59
And they can live until today. Which you've said thousand times
22:03
to this stuff and you've still not been like it still weighs
22:08
on. You and this is the beauty, you
22:09
know, Subhanallah, we we know Allah as Alhamar Rahimin.
22:12
Yeah, Yeah. We know that he loves it when we
22:14
like sort of cling. You know, we keep asking for
22:18
forgiveness. We keep looking for that door of
22:19
repentance. And we keep looking for
22:21
acceptance from Allah to inshallah eliminate all our sins
22:25
and inshallah grant us the opportunity to enter his
22:27
paradise Generatallah. But I don't know.
22:31
I mean, do we really not thank God enough?
22:33
I think we don't. And I think you're right.
22:34
Take it. We do.
22:35
We do take it for granted. And it's it's a shame because we
22:39
thank people for doing the most silliest of things.
22:43
We can't thank Allah for the best of things he's given us,
22:47
honestly. Yeah, I mentioned a bit early on
22:49
I was like, no, thanks to a lot that we can walk, thanks to a
22:52
lot that we can talk. Thanks to a lot we can, I don't
22:55
know, taste, smell, feel, bro, we can even love.
22:58
And this is Rahma from God. The feeling of yeah, what the
23:02
Rahmah and Muhabba, bro, this is all coming from God and there's
23:05
so much things to be grateful for.
23:07
Yeah. But I don't know how we can
23:09
always be in that stage. Yeah, that's that's what the
23:12
difficulty is. See, one thing I think is.
23:14
And I don't want to blame shape on.
23:15
No, no, you're completely right. What lie?
23:17
You're completely right. And I think, shocker, what it
23:18
does is in many ways it humbles us because we recognize what we
23:22
didn't have and what Allah has given us.
23:24
And then ultimately we say has to be or not, has to be Allah.
23:27
And we say that everything is under the dominion of Allah and
23:30
we're pleased with his affairs, with his choices because for
23:34
everything that we have, it comes from God.
23:36
So, and many times we we seek things which are material but
23:41
also immaterial. Yes, Yeah.
23:43
Like for example, the material wealth, immaterial, maybe
23:48
dignity, reputation, honour, these are things that we seek.
23:52
Sometimes we link the two. How many times have we seen in
23:55
the community someone who gains wealth and then subsequently
24:00
people start to respect him, They want to be around him, they
24:03
think he's cool. And then maybe they lose their
24:05
position, they lose money. People talk about him, they do
24:07
Reba about him perhaps and and in the people's eyes, he loses
24:11
honour. He loses the hadith mam sadaq al
24:13
Islam where he says, if I'm not mistaken, richness and honour.
24:17
These two things are wandering like they're wayfaring.
24:21
They only settle when you have tawakul and Allah.
24:25
Allah, you have that trust in the last panel.
24:27
Until you have that trust, you will never be settled with what
24:31
Allah has given you. You will never, ever, ever find
24:35
that our fear like that Peace of Mind, that contentment.
24:39
I'm good, I'm the Allah. That's Sakun.
24:41
Sakun with Allah. Sakun with Allah, Allah has
24:44
given you. Do you see what I mean?
24:46
Like you, we will always feel a yearning, a thirst that I want
24:50
to earn more. I want more reputation.
24:53
I want more honour from the people around me.
24:55
I deserve more respect. Like these are things that we
24:57
say or feel at least inside. But until we trust alone, we say
25:01
Allah. I'm pleased with what you've
25:02
given me. You know, I was looking today
25:04
it's crazy panel. I was watching watching one of
25:09
the many thousands of videos we've seen from Palestine.
25:12
OK. And I saw a father.
25:14
Oh, bro, it really hit me hard. I saw a father who was like
25:18
literally shaking like this while he's talking for the first
25:21
like 15 seconds, he's shaking. And I'm thinking, first I'm
25:24
thinking, why is he shaking? And then I think, no, he's
25:26
probably got a condition or something.
25:28
He's in the wall. I remember that my thought
25:29
process was crazy because the camera was just on him and he's
25:33
like shaking. And I'm thinking he's probably
25:35
got a conditional. He's developed trauma.
25:38
Like he's in shock. He's in the war zone.
25:40
He must know thousands of people that have been killed.
25:43
And then like 1520 minutes into the video, 20 seconds into the
25:46
video, he says, Allah, this is all we care about, has to be
25:51
Allah. This is all I all I care about.
25:53
Then he said, this is my son Mohammed.
25:55
And the camera turns to his son who's wearing a coffin.
25:59
OK. And he says that this son of
26:02
mine, three days ago he said to his mother, mother, do you love
26:05
me? And she said, yes, of course.
26:06
He said he knew his destiny and ultimately Allah knows his
26:09
destiny. I, Allah knows my destiny.
26:11
I'm pleased with the world Allah has given me and why I'm
26:14
thinking, how can someone be so trusting in the last panel to
26:18
Allah for me? You know, what's the trust that
26:20
we display in our lives? You know, you're on emergency
26:23
fuel. Will my fuel Take Me Home or
26:25
shall I stop to fill up gas like like that?
26:27
That's kind of like the day-to-day things that we have
26:29
in our lives. Smaller level dilemmas.
26:32
But you know, we, we talk about people who are in war zones
26:35
facing genocides and the sort of trust they have is so, so
26:41
magnanimous. Do you see what I mean?
26:43
It's it's mind blowing to see what sort of trust they have.
26:46
And I think there's, like you said earlier, there are people
26:50
who who go through a lot more. But it's, it's definitely a
26:54
lesson to us. Let me ask you a question
26:58
because I know we wanted to wrap up early today.
27:00
We want to try and do smaller short podcasts But do you think
27:04
we we trust God in us in this like social media, materialism
27:11
captives world we live in? Do we trust our last Montana
27:14
enough? I would like to think I do and I
27:19
think just, I don't know collectively as we I can't speak
27:22
on behalf of everyone. And I think just before I get to
27:25
that point, I just want to mention what you just mentioned
27:27
about, you know, the father and his son.
27:29
Yeah. So I I don't want to go into too
27:33
much depth here, but I do want to say thank you for bringing
27:35
this because it makes you it makes me remember as well the I
27:38
need some some people face the most craziest things.
27:43
And we have it wallah so easy and we can't say Al Hamdulillah
27:47
what's our problem? What's our problem?
27:50
Yeah, it's seriously crazy. And I truly believe with all the
27:54
points we said previously, it is impossible.
27:57
Trust me, it's impossible to consider yourself as a Muslim if
28:01
you can't put God part and parcel of your life.
28:05
You can't if this person who lost the world, voila to them is
28:12
the world bro when you lose your son.
28:15
Bro, do you know what he said you're losing?
28:16
A part of you. He said, he said, he said I have
28:19
worked so hard to raise him. He goes, I, I, he goes, I had
28:22
hardship in raising him, but I trust in God and I think I like,
28:26
I don't want to say it, man, but it's like like I have a son.
28:29
Do you know what I'm saying? Like, and I was, I was getting
28:32
proper emotional, man. I was thinking, I have in my
28:34
head I'm like, yeah, I'm working hard to raise my son was working
28:37
hard up on YouTube. I'm doing my work on my laptop.
28:41
He's chilling. Do you know what I mean?
28:43
Am I really working hard? This man probably sold goods on
28:47
the street and worked day and night to provide for his family.
28:51
And that a lot takes his his son like.
28:53
That no, we, we, we take that. Literally, literally, he just
28:56
shook my core. I just we.
28:59
Just say, you know, surely with hardship comes ease and well, we
29:04
haven't seen hardship. Believe me, if, if, if we have
29:07
not seen hardship. I, I compared to some parts of
29:10
the world and how people live their lives and the afflictions
29:12
that come towards them, the, the problems and the obstacles and
29:15
the challenges they have. There is no comparison well
29:18
with, with what we face. If we have, if we can come here
29:22
weekly and have a conversation here on the Aftermath podcast.
29:27
We've got no challenges. We've only have blessings to
29:29
thank our I'm just so right. And, and, and and this is
29:32
something that we have to remember.
29:33
And, you know, using that Palestinian father as an
29:35
example, he he's seen the bad and the ugly and the terrible
29:39
and the awful and the miserable and it's a life of misery.
29:42
But you're telling me what he remembered a lot.
29:45
Yeah. Yeah, I'm going to send you the
29:48
video offer. If he can remember God in that
29:51
moment, at that most difficult moment.
29:54
Yeah. We have no excuse.
29:56
Yeah. Well, now we have no excuse.
29:58
I, I, I, I don't want to speak about too much.
30:00
Maybe we'll go back to, to to to what cool here.
30:03
But if we come into a similar situation as this father and a
30:07
different challenge. Yeah.
30:10
If something bad comes towards us, we see it as bad.
30:13
I just trust me, we see it as bad.
30:14
Gone. Yeah, I want to add a slight
30:16
caveat because someone or a good friend of mine, a brother of
30:19
mine mentioned to me a couple of days ago how he had a shift in
30:22
and he, I know he listens to the podcast.
30:24
So if you're listening, I love you shout out.
30:27
He said he had a shift in mentality over the last few
30:29
days. He said a few days ago, he said
30:33
he actually said to me, and I remember him, he actually said
30:35
it to me. He said this world doesn't
30:37
matter. I only care about the next life
30:40
accent. He only said that right?
30:42
Accent. OK, so then a few days after.
30:46
I love this brother already. Yeah, he's a, he's one-of-a-kind
30:48
of Subhan Allah. A few days later, he said to me,
30:51
Actually, Ahmed, I've refined my my thought.
30:54
OK. He said this world, I said
30:57
doesn't matter, the only next one does.
30:59
He goes. But Allah has put me in this
31:01
world now, so while I'm here, I need to give it my all.
31:04
Allah. I swear.
31:05
Well, I love him. He spoke facts, like, and he,
31:09
his whole demeanour changed. Yeah, he, he it was crazy, bro.
31:14
Like he, he was like a different person.
31:16
Mashallah, an Angel, you know, the way he dressed, the way he
31:19
talks, everything, his confidence.
31:22
He had a shift in mentality because he was going through a
31:24
difficult situation and we were discussing it.
31:27
And he made a very good point. He said, I have tawakul La La, I
31:31
trust in God. You know, and we say we've said
31:33
in the past how tawakul is in, in, in, in our literature as
31:39
compared to the bird that leaves its nest in the morning, leaving
31:42
behind its babies and not knowing if it will find food,
31:46
but still returning with the food every night.
31:48
It's because it has that trust in Allah you have to work on.
31:52
You know, you trust in God, but it doesn't mean you don't work
31:54
for it, right? You, you do what you need to do.
31:57
You do your daily actions, your work, you engage with your
31:59
family, you. But you don't say, yeah, yeah,
32:02
leave it to God. I'm here temporarily, Annie.
32:05
I'm going to be gone soon. I'm going to head to Jenna.
32:07
I do my DAR command. I do my this and that.
32:10
No, like you're here. Make the most of it.
32:13
Put God first. And that includes helping people
32:16
out around you, people who don't have that or don't, who need a
32:21
wasilla, basically someone to act as an an intermediary
32:24
between God's, God's will for them and you are that person who
32:28
is enacting it. Well, you have to understand
32:30
what that toaquil is that reliance on a lost planet
32:33
Wataala because and and trust in the loss of planet Wataala
32:36
because it can be simple as the American dollar bill and God we
32:39
trust. Yeah.
32:40
It's just words written on a paper bill and people, it's just
32:44
lip service. So we really have to understand
32:45
that. And I think you can even have
32:47
tawaqul in your most lowest moments of your life, like when
32:52
you hit rock, rock bottom, don't neglect a lot.
32:54
You don't have that reliance on God, that God will take you out
32:58
of that as well. Yeah.
32:59
And I always remember God because a lot of Hanuvatallah
33:04
bro Ahmed and and I think to everyone listening, he never
33:07
ever promised any of us comfort. He never promised any of us that
33:11
you know we're going to have the best life in the studio.
33:13
On the contrary. Yeah, he, he, he brought us here
33:17
so that we can safeguard and ensure and guarantee that we
33:21
enter gender in the next World, you understand, And we have to
33:24
work for it. And that goes with everything.
33:26
Making God part and part of your life, making God central in your
33:29
life, just like you mentioned earlier.
33:30
I mean, Ali, Ali Salaam, where you said, you know, he saw God
33:34
in every action before, during and after.
33:40
Can we do that? I know it's not simple, but if
33:43
we reach that stage, we will understand what Tawakkol is,
33:47
what reliance is, what you know, and because the problem is we
33:50
only use God to our benefit in a selfish way.
33:53
I was having this discussion with someone once.
33:56
There was a guest with one of the guests that we've had on the
33:59
podcast. It wasn't on the podcast in a
34:01
different setting where we were discussing how can one be
34:06
selfish with God and the idea was we only want God for
34:11
travelling, we ask for safety. We only want God.
34:14
For example, you know, to we, we only pray to our life.
34:18
We want money, we only pray to our life.
34:20
We want to marry this girl. We only pray to.
34:23
It's selfish. So we're not doing it for God,
34:25
we're doing it for us. And, and, and the moment you
34:27
understand that no, there is more, that relationship with God
34:30
is more is greater and there is something you know that that
34:34
connects this world to the next. You know, there's a akhara, you
34:37
know, there's Hassab, there's Kitab, there's consequences for
34:39
your actions. Once you understand all of this,
34:42
you have metaphor of God, bro, you can roam this earth knowing
34:46
Insha Allah, you enter gender because if you just want God in
34:50
a one way relationship, What, what, what was that?
34:53
There's this. I lost my mind now, this hadith
34:57
by Imam Ali as saying where he doesn't, he doesn't worship God
35:02
because he said this doesn't matter.
35:03
What is it? The three types.
35:05
Yeah, yeah. The three types, that's the.
35:06
Ones. There's the one who worships in
35:09
fear because he's in fear of punishment, the one who worships
35:13
transactionally. So they are they, they treat a
35:16
lot like a give and take relationship.
35:17
OK, I'll do this if you give me that.
35:19
This is what we're doing. Yeah.
35:20
What do you mean? This is what people do?
35:23
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. When you, when you say that I, I
35:25
want money. So I'll pray to God for God.
35:27
And then the third type is the one who's who worships Allah
35:30
because Allah is worthy. We always say that Jannah for
35:33
the believer could be an empty space.
35:35
This is why I always tell myself and I always tell myself, am I
35:38
worthy of Jannah? Because if, if Allah told me
35:40
that Jannah, your eternity in an empty room with nothing but a
35:44
prayer man and a Torah bar, would that be sufficient?
35:47
Do you know what I mean? And I know that's not the case
35:48
because we're told in the Quran that it's much more than that.
35:51
But for the believer, that's sufficient because you worship
35:54
Allah because he is worthy and weird and significant.
35:57
Yep. Do you know what I mean from me
35:59
at last point? And then I know we'll wrap up.
36:01
I just want to make a point to everyone at home, anyone who's
36:06
struggling and anyone who is going through these things and
36:09
they're saying, you know, I am praying.
36:12
Allah's not taken me out of it. I am struggling.
36:14
Allah's not taking me out of it, you know, or I've tried praying.
36:18
Allah's not like got to be to where I want to be.
36:21
Just keep going. Don't give up on yourself.
36:23
Don't give up on your ibadah. Don't feel alone.
36:27
Just know that there's many of us suffering in different ways.
36:30
Everyone has a different challenge.
36:32
Some have it harder than others. And if if you are one of those
36:36
people that, that have it harder and you know, you have it
36:38
harder, Allah gives his strongest warriors his toughest
36:43
battles. And that's such an important
36:44
thing for us to remember. Allah does not task so more than
36:48
it can bear to the point where we know that you know, this is
36:52
your destiny. Unfortunately, it's it's been
36:54
destined for you to, to go through it, but you can overcome
36:57
it because Allah has given it to you.
36:59
Put it on your road and he knows that you'll get past it.
37:02
So just keep going, keep keep plowing ahead in Charlotte day
37:06
by day, minute by minute, whatever it is, try your
37:09
absolute best to just smile, be positive, have strength, have
37:14
love. And we're here.
37:15
We we, we always say we're a family.
37:17
So if ever you want to shout us and DM us, whatever it is, you
37:21
know, we're, we're always listening here.
37:23
We're not like counsellors and we get like Handela a lot of
37:26
messages, but whatever we can do to respond, we will.
37:29
That's that's from me. So.
37:32
Well, that was beautiful. Yeah, it's something, it's
37:34
something I'm, I'm going to take to my life as well.
37:37
And I think maybe I can add this.
37:39
It's that struggle is worth it. 100%.
37:42
Because as I said, you know, God didn't say that we're here to be
37:45
comfortable. He didn't brought us here to be
37:48
miserable. No, no, he brought us here as a
37:49
test. You know, this whole, this whole
37:51
donea as a test for us for the next life.
37:53
But the, the, the, the point I want to say is that the more you
37:56
struggle, the more that's part of your jihad.
37:58
And that's, and yeah, you may slack sometimes, you may go low
38:02
sometimes. But when you're, when you're
38:04
reaching those highs and you're reaching those understandings,
38:08
you, I, I don't think you can do it alone.
38:10
You need, you need to understand Rasul Allah, sallallahu Alaihi,
38:13
Sunnah Alaihi Salaam, their teachings.
38:17
And these are the Quran and the Elbait, you know, hadif al
38:20
fakhalain, like all of these things that we, we, we normally
38:22
talk about are Shia Muslims. These things help you build that
38:26
relationship with a loss of panel who went out.
38:29
Without a shadow of a doubt, 100% wow deep.
38:33
Yeah. I needed that.
38:35
I needed that, I think, especially porcelana.
38:37
Yeah, bro, honestly, food for thought as well.
38:40
Actionable stuff, I hope. And Chalmah, smash that
38:45
subscribe button. Guys, if you if you enjoyed the
38:47
discussion as much as I did. And yeah, we will be back next
38:51
week as always. And you asked what I said.
38:53
No, just keep watching, supporting and inshallah
38:56
encouraging others to listen to these episodes because I know
39:00
that you know someone who wants to hear this episode.
39:02
Trust me. Yeah, I know so much people I'm
39:04
going to send this link to and inshallah they benefit from.
39:07
I don't know if I ever sent off the next to anyone.
39:10
No, you have to go to live certain conversations.
39:12
I do. I think I usually send a link to
39:14
someone who I know will enjoy it.
39:16
Like last week we discussed What did we discuss last week?
39:19
Governance. The week before we discussed the
39:22
merger here and Hausa the week before we discussed.
39:26
I normally I normally share share on the marriage
39:28
conversations because I know I know the majority of struggles
39:31
are with the people dying. All right, guys, we will be back
39:35
inshallah. We'll be back.
39:37
All right, guys, we'll see you next week.
39:39
Take care of the libel, captain. Arsenal.