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Season 3 - Episode 121 - Remember, who you are is not where you are · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop
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  podcast with Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and
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  master mindset coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives and possibilities, we help
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  you to cultivate a mindset that leads you to create
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  the best version of yourself you could ever
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  imagine. Join Kim every morning from one
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  of her favorite happy places, her Chicken Coop,
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  along with all her chickens. Hey
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  everybody, good morning from the Chicken Coop. Today,
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  I would like to speak to you about the fact that
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  where you are is not who you are. Isn't
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  that a weird phrase to start off with? Where
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  you are is not who you are. I
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  don't mean your location in the world, you know, and
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  not talking about longitude and latitude. I'm
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  talking about your conditions in which you
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  live. I'm talking about your job,
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  your relationships, your, you know, your external
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  factors outside of yourself that has nothing to do
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  with who you are. And oftentimes, we confuse this
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  and we think, well, this must be who I am. So
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  if I'm having a down time and I'm low on money or I
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  am, you know, in a relationship that sucks and
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  I'm not feeling good about it, or I just can't get
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  that job that I want or I missed the promotion, or my
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  parents are not well and I'm having to take care of
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  them, whatever it might be, our external conditions are
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  not who we are. It's important to remember this
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  because who you are is how you view the entire
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  situation. Who you are is your
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  perspective. Who you are is what you're
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  going to believe about it to transcend whatever's
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  showing up for you. Where you are, it's just a, just
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  a location, just what's happening, just a condition.
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  But it doesn't mean it's who
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  you are. And if you really want to help
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  yourself and you really want to get out of it,
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  you have to pause and ask yourself, you know, do I
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  really believe this is who I am? And
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  sometimes when you do that, it's shocking because you'll
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  find I actually have believed this who I, this
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  is who I was. And because you've believed it's
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  who you were, you haven't taken any of the right
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  action, as we could say. You've
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  just taken the strategy of beating yourself up and
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  shaming yourself, which never works because you
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  can't shame yourself into greatness. I
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  mean, I really want you guys to hear me. You
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  cannot shame yourself into greatness. It
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  doesn't work. It doesn't lift you up. It's
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  not an energy that pulls you in the right direction.
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  And attempting to do it only
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  causes more and more and more headaches for you
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  along the line because you become more and more
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  diminished and more and more problems happen. So
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  where this is so tricky and where this is something
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  that you have to work on consistently is understanding
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  that the location, the conditions are not the who.
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  Who you are is that person
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  who's curious, who's willing to go out there and do
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  the work, who's committed to the fact that they are
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  going to stay upbeat no matter what's going on. And
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  that is the essence of being a enlightened person
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  when happiness is more important than anything. The
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  Dalai Lama says the purpose of life is to be happy.
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  And it's not to go get
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  happiness from somewhere else. It's
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  to be happy, to resonate happy from yourself, to
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  just make the decision that I'm going to be happy no
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  matter what. No matter what is going on,
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  I'm going to be happy. Because
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  as we all know, as you get older, we all recognize
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  that things happen, things show up out of nowhere.
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  One day your dryer works, the
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  next day it doesn't. One day you're driving to work
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  and you're in your car and everything's fine and the
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  next day you go and someone plows into you in
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  the back end. There are lots of random things
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  that happen out there in the world. And
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  there's a question as to whether or not they're all
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  so random. We often have to explore those
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  things and what our participation was in them.
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  But this is about how you show
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  up when they happen and how you see it is because
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  of who you are, not where you are. So
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  you have to take inventory, if you will, about what's
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  my perspective of things? Do
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  I really see them through the eyes of who I truly
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  am or am I just seeing them through these
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  conditions that I'm presented with? And
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  the conditions are just fleeting. They're
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  going to come and go. One thing, one day it's
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  terrible, the next day it's great. One
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  day you lost a client, the next day you have a new
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  one. And realizing that maybe, just
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  maybe, the energy that you're in dictates the
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  outcome. And if you focus on the fact
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  that you're more inclined to deal with your who than
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  your what the conditions externally are, they turn
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  around pretty quickly. And that's been my observation
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  throughout my life is when I am doing a better job
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  focusing on my conditions and making sure they are
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  on point in my mind. In other words, I'm focusing
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  on my who, who do I want to be right now? All
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  of a sudden on those external conditions change
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  because I don't allow them to come in and take over
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  anymore. I don't allow those other
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  feelings to be recreated and recreated over and over
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  again. And before you know it, boom,
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  we're in a good place. So today really, really work
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  on making sure you are focused on your who's and
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  not the where's. The who you are is so
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  important to your overall growth, happiness, well
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  -being as opposed to where you are and make that
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  distinction. And then you can start to make
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  the shifts. Have a blessed day, my friends,
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  and I will see you tomorrow.